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So, it sounds like we're good. Um, I am sorry I'm late. Like I said, I was having some technical difficulties.
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Also, if you enjoy my content, be sure to like this video, share, and subscribe. So, um, I wanted to talk about a few things. I first want to talk about um Umar Johnson and Amanda Seals defitting Cheyenne Bryant and just the colorist undertones that I have been noticing in the recent commentary about this online. It's honestly I'm not that invested enough to like do a pre-recorded video and do a whole breakdown, but I do have some opinions on it. Um, and the fact that we're even still talking about Cheyenne Bryant is crazy.
This story was supposed to go cold a long time ago. Like, I don't even understand why we're still having this conversation, but the black side of the internet is still dragging this out. Um, and I did already give my opinion on Cheyenne being a fake doctor in my last live stream. So, if you want my full thoughts on that, be sure to watch it after this video. What I want to discuss right now is the colorism that has been very apparent in this situation coming from both Cheyenne and her defenders. So um and the first thing that um the supporters brought to my attention, this was I think when was this?
Um hold on. Why is See, my computer's still acting up y'all. But this is a screenshot of Cheyenne Bryant retweeting or reposting on Instagram a post that one of her followers made saying that all of her critics critics quote unquote have the same look. And as many of you know, it's been a lot of black women calling out Cheyenne Bryant, particularly black women who are licensed therapists. and they're rightfully pointing out the ways in which Cheyenne pretty much lying about her credentials is harmful to the black women who are actually therapists because they are getting discriminated against the most. Um, and so the most notable licensed therapist that called out Cheyenne is Dr. Raquel Martin. I do believe that's her name. uh she's uh happens to be a dark-skinned black woman who has made videos addressing Cheyenne and other dark-kinned women have been addressing her as well. So, it's very clear that the quote unquote look Cheyenne and her followers are referring to is the look of an unambiguous dark-kinned black woman, right? Like, so we're just not, you know, cuz I know some people are going to be like, "Oh, well, um you don't know what look she was talking about." Like people try to gaslight dark-kinned women and try to make it seem like, you know, we we can't pick up what's being put down, but we get it. We pick up on um what's not being said. We're reading between the lines. We know what you guys are talking about. Okay. Is my audio glitching for anybody? One person said it's glitching. Is it glitching for anybody else? Push one in the chat if you can hear me. Okay.
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Yes, lose the weight and get out. Thank you. Okay. Well, um to the person who said my audio was bad, maybe it's, you know, you need to refresh cuz I don't think that's a problem for anybody else.
But anyway, back to what I was saying.
Um yeah, so we know the look that they were talking about and it's the look of an unambiguous dark-kinned black woman, right? And so since this has happened, Cheyenne, you know, I I heard her talking about pretty privilege and pretty punishment, basically insinuating um or pretty much saying outright that she's being unfairly targeted or attacked because she's attractive.
Um and Dr. Umar Johnson also said that black women are attacking Cheyenne because they're jealous and because Cheyenne is attractive. And so I want to bring that clip up. I don't know if I'm going be able to play this clip. I'm just be honest with y'all cuz my computer is ghetto right now and I had to like share my screen. Let me know if y'all can hear this.
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I don't know why it's not playing the uh Hold on. I'll just do it this way.
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I'm trying to add the file. It's not I don't know if it's going to let me add it. But anyway, regardless, um, he's defending Cheyenne Bryant and he's making the typical argument that all black men make and just black people in general. Yes. Saying that the file is too large. So, I don't know why it's not like playing the audio.
Go to audio.
Yeah, I don't know why it's not playing, but anyway, we don't have to hear the clip. You can find it on uh on YouTube.
You can find it on Instagram, wherever.
Um, but he's pretty much saying the same thing that black men always say and black people always say when a light-skinned woman, especially a light-skinned mixed race woman or a light-skinned ambigu ambiguous woman, is being criticized. It's, "Oh, you guys are just jealous because she's attractive." And see, this is why I personally don't like celebrate or jump up and down when black men like Umar, you know, defend black women or defend dark-kinned women because he's still very much a colorist. He's still very much uh a covert colorist. You know, it's like he hides under the guise of pro blackness, but he's still very much a covert colorist.
Not to mention, you know, he's also considered to be a scammer in his own right because how long has it taken him to to start this school? So, it's just it just seems like to me that it's a scammer defending another scammer and then, you know, you're trying to hide that under the guise of pro blackness.
Oh, I'm defending her because she's a black woman and you know, but no, what he said has very colorist undertones.
you know, he's talking about, oh, black women are jealous. Y'all are trying to destroy her. You want what she has?
Meanwhile, it's actually licensed therapists who are criticizing her. It's not just, you know, everyday black women. It is everyday black women, too.
But a lot of them are actually educated therapists who have their degree. Like, they're not online trying to scam and pretend that they're something that they're not. And I don't see, you know, how that's not harmful. Because in the clip, Umar said, "Oh, well, she's not harming anybody." Yes, she is. You know, yes, she is. If she is representing herself as a black woman, um, now she's saying that she's never represented herself as a therapist, but there are older clips where she did say she was a therapist. And so, you know, she's been misrepresenting herself, trying to like present herself as somebody who's qualified to say to say the things that she's saying when she's really not. And that is harmful to the actual therapist community. the black therapist community because they're already stigmatized and discriminated against. So, she is harming people by misleading people and, you know, kind of tarnishing the name of um other therapists who are actually, you know, legit. And so, yeah, she is being harmful. Um but of course, because she's light-skinned, because she's mixed race, she is getting a pass by a lot of black people.
and see men like Umar, the pro black men like Umar, they're covert colorists that pander to dark-kinned black women and black women as a whole to get paid. And so that's why you hear him one minute he'll be like, "Oh, you know, I love the dark-kinned sisters and and colorism is a problem and you know, we need to stop being colorist towards our beautiful dark-kinned sisters." cuz I think I heard him recently defend uh Cheryl Underwood with that whole Kevin uh Hart roast thing. And so, you know, he it's it's like it sounds good. He says just enough where it sounds like, oh, he's pro black. He's pro black woman. He's for black women. He's pro dark-kinned woman.
And he supports us. But then on the other hand, he'll say some [ __ ] like this that has very very colorist undertones.
Yeah, it's very very performative. It is very much so.
And so, and and black women, and I'm specifically talking to dark-kinned women here, okay? There are a lot of people, a lot of black men especially in this community who are like this. They present themselves as being pro black, pro black woman, pro darkkinned woman, when really they're not. They're just trying to get your money.
And so I think that, you know, it's very important that we have these conversations and talk about it when it comes up so we can clock it when we see it. Like y'all need to stop falling for these men. You know, the minute they say, "Oh, my beautiful darkkinned queen." Like, y'all need to stop falling for the word salad. You get what I'm saying?
Hold on, y'all. Let me uh Am I echoing?
I know I probably am. Let me turn this down.
Let me know if I'm still echoing y'all.
But yeah, um yeah, we need to see it for what it is.
And I feel like, you know, with a lot of these uh pro black grifters, you know, it's they they should be you should look at them as being colorist until proven otherwise.
I feel like you should just go in assuming at this point that they're colorist. It just is what it is.
Yeah. And what what he did was what all of them do. They immediately cuddle light-skinned women when they're being criticized. They accuse black women, and it's specifically dark-kinned women of hating, of being jealous, even if the light-skinned woman is actually wrong in this situation. And listen, by no means am I saying that colorism doesn't cause some dark-kinned women to be jealous of light-kinned women, or by no means am I saying that, um, you know, a woman or women can be hostile towards other women who are, you know, considered to be more attractive than them. Like, I'm not going to pretend that that doesn't go on. Like, of course that happens, right? But in this particular situation, I don't feel like that applies because part of the reason Cheyenne even became successful is because the black women with a quote unquote certain look supported her after she was platformed on these [ __ ] podcasts.
And I said this for, you know, my members and patrons when they brought this to my attention. And for those of you who are just getting here, this is a post that Cheyenne Bryant reposted on her Instagram from one of her followers that said, "The ones hating on Dr. Bryant all have a look." Meaning, you know, unambiguous dark-kinned black women. That's the look.
You know, that's the look they're referring to.
But yeah, so but the women with this look have also supported you, Cheyenne.
And like I said to my members and patrons, like it's so funny how when dark-kinned women in particular are supporting women like Cheyenne, it's never, oh, most of my supporters look like this. But as soon as you're being held accountable for something that you do wrong by those women, then all of a sudden y'all you start attacking the looks of those women. And so when I see things like this, I'm like, "Oh, well, you always felt that way. You always felt that way about your supporters that had a certain look.
Despite them putting money in your pocket, despite them supporting you, you always felt that way.
And so this is why I say the things that I say on my channel, y'all. Y'all got to be careful with supporting people, you know, like this of a certain phenotype who take advantage of colorism and go on, you know, these [ __ ] podcasts who in most cases are colorist.
Cuz if those men don't like you, chances are the women who are going on their platforms, pandering to them, speaking their language, chances are they don't like you either.
So, like I said, my first live stream when I talked about Cheyenne, I don't even understand how Cheyenne got it to got to Well, I do understand, but my thing is like, y'all, black women, you need to see the writing on the wall. You know, y'all be cancelling people too late.
You see these men bring on these women and you automatically support them because, oh, you know, the black men support her, so I should too. And then you end up getting burnt in the end. And then now you're trying to cancel somebody at the 11th hour. No, it's too late.
It's too late.
But yeah, you know, it was okay when those black women with a quote unquote certain look were singing your praises and supporting you and booking sessions with you, but now that they're calling you out for being a fraud, and rightfully so, now they're hating on you. Now all of you, these people have a certain look. This is the same look your supporters got. So then how do you feel about your supporters then?
And I felt like I wanted to speak on this again because I don't really hear people like clocking it that way.
Like that this means she always felt this way about y'all and you've been supporting her this whole time. You should feel stupid.
And it's like, "No, Cheyenne, nobody's hating on you because, you know, you're light-skinned and you're pretty. No, it's just your turn.
It's just your turn." And that's another thing that's kind of irritating me in this conversation. And this is something I heard Umar say a lot. He was like, "Oh, you know, why aren't black women going after white men like this or uh Trump, the racists? Why aren't white uh black women going after the racist white people the way they're going after Cheyenne?
What do you mean? Black women get on this app and talk about Trump every day.
They get on TikTok and talk about Trump every day. They talk about racist white people every single day.
And they also drag other black women every single day. Like, why are we acting like black women don't drag other people?
Black women drag other black women and especially dark-kinned black women all the time. Black women been dragging Clarissa Shields for months, calling her a home wrecker, saying she looks like a man, calling her Clarence.
What about all those black women on Tik Tok who they feel the need to get on Tik Tok every other month and talk about how dark-kinned women are ugly? I've done several videos addressing the black women like that.
or who do that?
Didn't black women just drag the hell out of uh on Yeka, the Danish deception girl? She's a black woman. Black women been dragging Candace Owens for years.
That's another thing that Umar said. Oh, y'all not dragging Candace Owens like this. What are you talking about, Omar?
Black women have have and see black women dragged Candace Moore when she was like first coming out, you know, when she was really hardcore Trump, hardcore conservative. Black women were dragging Candace for filth and they still drag her every now and then if she says some [ __ ] up [ __ ] So I was like, what are you talking about? Like black women drag. I feel like a black women ex except for when it comes to black men, I think black women are equal opportunity draggers.
Yeah. Yeah. I don't get that either because like black women call out Trump every day on the internet. Stop playing.
Black women will not hesitate to call out racism, specifically coming from white people all the time. Black women just called out Joe McCann and that Ashley Jana situation. So why are we acting like black women don't hold white men and accountable and specifically racist white people accountable in general? Black men online specifically be dragging everybody.
So, nobody's picking on Cheyenne because she's light-skinned and mixed. It's just her turn right now.
And some of y'all just need to admit that you just don't like when light-skinned mixed race women are criticized. Like, that's just what this is about. You don't like them to be held accountable because they're light-skinned.
Can we just be honest here? Like, that's really what it's about.
Now, I do agree that black women give too many passes to black men. I do agree that black women give black men more grace than they would ever give their fellow black woman. I do agree with that part.
And just like y'all are, you know, pulling out all this, you know, doing all this research on Cheyenne, like why wasn't y'all doing this with Kevin Samuels? Like, I mean, it was some here and there kind of like investigating him, but you know, it's a lot of these podcast [ __ ] that y'all could be investigating is all I'm saying. Like why y'all not investigating the [ __ ] I mean, you know, and see, of course, Umar's not going to say that because this [ __ ] just got millions of dollars. He's been getting millions of dollars over the years for a school that's never going to exist for real.
And so, yeah, the Umar, Dr. Umar, black women definitely need to start investigating other problematic groups more. But that includes black men. That includes [ __ ] like you. They need to start investigating you.
Cuz girl, what did you do with all that money?
Like that's crazy.
You couldn't have at least like got a a online school program like going with the money. Even if you don't don't have a physical school yet, you couldn't at least get like a online school program going on to at least look like you're doing the right thing with the money cuz the renovations for the school don't take that long. It don't take a decade to do renovations on a school. That's crazy.
So, you know, something's not adding up here, but it makes sense as to why he's defending women like Cheyenne. And thank you, Nende, for the super chat. She says, "Dr. Raquel is married with kids unlike Bryant." See, Golden says, "Hi, Chrissy. I'm an 18-year-old dark-kinned black man from the UK. I know I'm not the target audience, lol, but I discovered your channel recently and learned a lot. Big fan." Okay. Thank you, Golden Red. I appreciate you. Thank you.
Um, Liquid Sunshine says, "Richily melanated forever. Life skin never." I said what I said.
That's crazy. Let's not conflate the issue. We get dog walk all the time.
Exactly. And that's my point here.
Liquid Sunshine says, "Cancel Chile, but is going to see Chris and Usher girl."
And this this that's what really needs to be talked about here. Not, oh, why black women ain't going after Trump? Why black women ain't going after these racists? No, black women are going after the racist is about as much as they need to go after them. Why aren't black women going after these problematic [ __ ] Like, that's the better question. That's the bigger question here. Why aren't black women going harder against these misogynistic, misogynoristic men who are dog walking them on the internet every day and scamming them out of their money on the internet every day.
None of it's adding up.
And I I wish that more of us would start calling out these podcast [ __ ] who also are not qualified to give advice that they give they give to black women.
We give to way too many passes to black men and give black men grace that they would never give black women. And I I do also believe like the criticism that people are saying that black women are unfairly targeted consistently and you know reprimanded more harshly when we make mistakes. But to say that Cheyenne is being picked on because she's light-skinned and attractive, it's a little bit of a reach to me because again that's how she reached the level that she's at despite lying about her credentials for this long. Do y'all really think an unambiguous dark-kinned black woman would have gotten as far as Cheyenne has gotten without being questioned and without being researched?
Come on, y'all. Put your thinking caps on.
We We just have to keep it real about that. Like, she if she was darkkinned, she would never be she would never have gotten as far as she did.
She was platformed by black men because she's light-skinned and mixed race.
They co-signed her cuz she's light-skinned and mixed race and then black women followed behind because she's light-skinned and mixed race. And black women were living vicariously through her like they do a lot of um light-skinned mixed race women who black men put on a pedestal and it's because of their own internalized colorism.
So yeah, Cheyenne, like girl, those women with the certain look that you was talking about, honey, they're the reason they're part of the reason why you got where you at.
And now that they're finally taking you off of your undeserved pedestal that they helped put you on, suddenly they're jealous, bitter, and insecure.
So all I'm saying is dark-kinned women take notes cuz she always felt this way about you. And most of them do.
And this is why I say the things that I do on my channel. And this is why I encourage dark-kinned black women specifically to burn the cake. Stop supporting these colorist black men and their preferences like Cheyenne because you have literally made them spoiled at this point, y'all. These these people are spoiled. They're so spoiled that you can't even hold them accountable when they do something that harms you as a black woman. You can't even call them out without being harassed and disrespected and labeled as jealous, bitter, and insecure.
And this is after you put money in their pockets and help them and help put them on the map. That's a slap in the face.
I'm sorry. That's a [ __ ] slap in the face. It's crazy. And you should feel stupid. You should feel stupid for allowing yourself to keep being used that way by these colorist men and women over and over again because it's a pattern at this point. It's a pattern.
It keeps happening over and over and over again.
And so this is yet another situation that reveals the fact that you're being used by people who don't like or respect you deep down, but they need your money.
They need your coin.
And this is what I've been trying to tell y'all for years. Women like Cheyenne, black men like Umar, they are covert colorists who hide their colorism under the guise of being pro black to get your money. Deep down they think you're inferior to light-skinned women. And it's not until they get mad at you that their true feelings come out. But they felt this way all along.
So, I'm sorry. Going forward, y'all need to be guilt uh guilty until proven innocent. color until colorist until proven otherwise.
And they're all the same. And that includes Amanda Seals. I got her in the thumbnail. So, you know, we'll talk about her, too.
Um, the reason why Amanda sided with Cheyenne is because she sees herself in Cheyenne.
And, you know, I've already talked about how Amanda I feel like she's colorist, too. And I don't feel like I'm reaching here because I remember when Amanda, she basically tried to encourage dark-kinned women to be with color as black men.
And she tried to get us to only focus on the racism coming from white men cuz she was bothered by dark-kinned women dating white men.
And so she did the the thing that colorists typically do and she tried to gaslight us when we corrected her and we told her, "No, we're going to go where the [ __ ] we want to go because we're not waiting around for colorist men."
And at the very least, we're going to expand our options so we can have a better chance at not meeting a colorist man. Not to say that other races of men aren't colorist. Like that's that's common sense. We know that already. But the point is, we're not going to limit ourselves only to black men. Why would we intentionally make our our pool smaller with all these colorist men?
That's that's dumb. And when black women came back and told her that, she doubled down. And so, like, she's just another another covert colorist who hides under being pro black. She's another one.
And I know she, you know, she does be drag. She do be dragging like Kamla Harris, but that's because she wants her position. That's because she wants Kamla's position as the adored, beloved, light-skinned woman that that black women put on a pedestal. See, Amanda is low-key bitter that colorism didn't get her further in the black community.
That's what Amanda is mad at. Okay, be clear about that. She's mad because black women and specifically hold her accountable, call her out on her [ __ ] And she's mad that her light skin did not get her the pedestal in the black community that she feel it should have.
She's mad that she does not get the light-skinned pedestal that she feels she deserves. She's no different from Cheyenne.
and she's in competition with Kamla for the light-skinned pedestal in the black community, specifically the light-skinned woman pedestal in the black community. And she's bitter because she doesn't have that like Kamla does. And that's the main reason she goes so hard at her.
But, you know, she's very similar to Cheyenne, which is why she's defending her.
And so like I don't want like I don't want you guys to be fooled by because I feel like even Amanda kind of fooled y'all for too long, you know, cuz again she she got as far as she did too cuz black women put her on a pedestal. They lifted her up. They they championed her. They spread all of her videos and all that stuff. They they put her in their their shows, you know.
And then when she did something wrong, same thing happened with Cheyenne. When she did something wrong, black women were like, "Hold on, wait a minute. Now you're doing too much." And then she's also upset about, you know, Hollywood blacklisting her.
And so like, she's still mad at her friends in Hollywood that don't [ __ ] with her like that. So that's another reason why Amanda's on the internet just always crashing out, you know.
JR says definitely similar. Amanda diagnosed herself with autism. Yeah.
And she self she self diagnosed herself with autism. So, you know, she's she's the same again same like Cheyenne like claiming things, you know, that's not really true about herself.
And then she compared Cheyenne to to Dr. Maya Angelou. And it's like to my understanding Dr. My Angelou, she let it be known that she had an honorary degree, an honorary doctorate, and she also wasn't, you know, presenting herself to be something that she's not.
So, I I just think that's apples to oranges. You know, it just none of what Amanda said makes sense.
Yeah, Amanda, she's just always and I and you know what's so funny about Amanda? Like she'll come out and she'll talk all this big [ __ ] and then when black women jump in and be like, "You're wrong." and they respond. Then she comes back and she's like, "I'm I'm leaving and I'm never coming back and I'm done." Girl, how many times you going to be done? Like, girl, let's stop.
It's just ridiculous.
But yeah, she's just similar to Cheyenne. Another, you know, fake hotel, fake pro black that's colorist, but also claim to be pro black. Like, I just I don't trust these people. And this is why I I I don't I'm not pro black. This is why I don't classify myself as pro black because most of the pro black community is made up of people like Amanda and like Umar. Like it's made up of a bunch of anti-lack woman, especially anti- darkkinned black woman people.
And I'm sorry if you're anti- darkkinned black woman, you're not pro black.
That's not possible.
And everything I'm saying tonight, it it goes outside of the realm of pro blackness, too. This goes for many of these lesser known pro black influencers who were defending Cheyenne as well, because I saw quite a bit of influencers trying to defend her as well. But any other time, they're calling out quote unquote grifters.
any other time. And I saw this from one of my uh so-called feminist ops.
Any other time you calling out BWE for being grifters and for being, you know, um in in what what I forget what the [ __ ] said. basically insinuating that we're working with the manosphere, but you're defending Cheyenne Bryant who literally went on these [ __ ] podcasts who are in the manosphere who tout a bunch of these red pill talking points.
She's repeating a lot of the red pill talking points.
And any other time you claim to be against women who are working with the manosphere and pandering to black men, yet you're supporting Cheyenne who does exactly that or who has done exactly that. The manosphere is how she got put on.
And Cheyenne, she's not a radical feminist in the least bit. She actually has a lot of, you know, manosphere red pill talking points. So, you know, the only reason these people would be making excuses for her, but then crashing out on black women who who are just like her or who who are similar to her is because you're a colorist. Like, that's the only explanation.
So, you know, most of these so-called pro blacks or even the pro black woman feminists who who claim to be pro black women and feminists, they're colorists, too. Both men and women. And all I'm saying, ladies, is that y'all need to recognize them when you see them because I feel like a lot of black women, y'all fall for that pro black stuff like really hard. Like a lot of y'all really fall for that unfortunately.
And it's a scam. It's a trick bag, especially for dark-kinned black women.
Mhm.
Yes. Joanna says, "The Black Panthers were anti-d darkkinned black women.
Treated them horribly. And if you notice, most of these pro black men, most of the pro black leaders, they're either with light-skinned women. Are any of them were dark? Most of them are not even don't even they don't even have dark-kinned women. Does Umar have a dark-kinned woman?
A lot of the Black Panthers was [ __ ] white women. They was with light-skinned black women. Like, so y'all letting these [ __ ] play in the in your face and you have been for decades.
They are not pro black. They're not.
Never have been, never will be.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who who's seeing this.
Yeah. And also, I want to say this. Even some of the people who are calling out Cheyenne for lying about her background, they've lied about their backgrounds, too. Let's be clear about that, too. Cheyenne isn't the only one on online lying. Okay?
Again, you got black men on here pandering, pretending to care about black women to get a check. We got women lying about being married. That's something I'm starting to see a lot of.
You got women and especially black women lying about being married to appear to be more qualified to speak on dating and relationships.
So, that's a new thing that's starting to happen. It's probably always been a thing.
But yeah, you got single women lying about being married and you could just tell they're lying.
but they want to appear to be more qualified to to speak on dating and relationships. Um, we got women claiming to hate men or claiming to desenter men in their Tik Tok videos. As soon as they stop recording, what are they doing?
Centering men, centering their husbands or their boyfriends.
We got black women lying about being mixed race and exaggerating about how much they benefit from mixed race privilege.
And these are a lot of the women who be, you know, calling other people liars.
We got divesters lying about how long they've been divested, but always calling other black women online and women in BW liars.
We got content creators lying about being hyp in hypergamous marriages, but they're calling other women grifters.
So, you know, you just have to remember that the internet is not a real place.
Are real people on the internet? Yes.
But the online environment is heavily fabricated. Most people are on here lying, even those who who are claiming to tell the truth.
And I said this a long time ago before, like most of the people who are always like making a mission to be calling out other people and talk about how other people are lying, trying to expose other people all the time. For the most part, it's usually those people who are lying the most.
And most of the time, y'all y'all be thinking it's us who people who are anonymous. Most of the time, it's people who got their cameras on and show you who they are. A lot of them are lying to your face, and they're lying the most.
So, like I always say, you know, take everything you hear with a grain of salt. Chew the meat, spit out the bone.
Stop believing that people are automatically pro black or pro darkkinned women just because they say something nice about black women or just because they say something about, you know, nice or supportive about dark-kinned black women in general.
And ladies, you also have to decondition your minds and work on shedding the internalized misogynor and colorism that you have within yourself because that's influencing a lot of y'all to platform and pay people either directly or indirectly who deep down don't like you like that and never have.
But you giving him your money.
It is a scam. Pink Pearl says, "Pro Black is such a scam." It is.
Mhm.
Auction auction guy says, "Don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see." Exactly.
So yeah, I just want y'all to burn the cape. That's that's it. And that's my whole point of, you know, I I tired of hearing about Cheyenne. Really didn't want to talk about her again. But like I didn't hear a lot of people like really clocking this, you know, this conversation as far as the colorism is concerned and these colorist undertones coming from supposed pro black people.
Like y'all got to start clocking that [ __ ] I don't see enough people clocking it.
So, yeah, that's all I have on that. Um, let me read some of these comments and then we'll move on to the next topic.
Mhm.
It is. It is.
Yeah, I agree. Nia says, "The entertainment industry is filled with liars and scammers as well."
That's so true. Worshiping folks who switch up as soon as the camera's off.
Yep.
Okay. So, um, now I want to talk about this Lotto sister wife situation.
Um, and I don't know if they're sister wives. That's just the rumor. Okay. But Lotto, the rapper, she recently posted these pictures and videos of herself with 21 Savages alleged wife, which I think that's her on the right. Is her name Kiana? Tiana? I forget her name. And then the baby mama is on the left. I think that's what the girls are saying.
I don't know if this is true or not.
Um, and so Lotto, she basically did this to send the message that, you know, everybody's cool. We all cool with each other. We're all getting along. We're all co-parenting. I saw where she released a video um reciting the the lyrics to her her song and she was like, "Big mama, five kids." So basically saying that she's claiming all of her her children, all of the children that 21 Savage has from from these women. And so, you know, she's just trying to send a message to y'all. Everybody's getting along. Stay out of our business. And to me, this was I don't know. To me, it just kind of looks like um an admission to being like in a polyamorous relationship or maybe a polyish relationship. I don't know.
Um but it's giving sister wives to me.
And I said this before in a video I did about Lotto. It's definitely giving Polly relationship. And I want to say this, it's good that they're getting along. I won't knock that. I won't knock, you know, you doing what you got to do for the children, whatever.
Um, Dagger Ro says the the stank of it all.
That's so funny. Yeah, cuz you just never know like who else is this [ __ ] [ __ ] for real. Cuz if it's if it's three of them, it's another three somewhere. Let's just be honest. But um and look, I I want to say this, y'all are crazy. But as someone who is not completely sold on the idea of monogamy, um, as someone who's not totally against Polly, I still feel like it should be on the woman's terms, if that makes sense.
Like, and I feel like that orientation has to be in you already as a woman.
like this particular situation. It just looks like three women who were convinced to accept this arrangement because they had no choice and you know because 21 Savage was just going to do what he wanted to do anyway. That's what it looks like. It's it doesn't look like something that they chose.
I mean, they're ultimately they're choosing it, but it's I don't think this is the ideal situation for any of them.
And in order, you know, for them to be all taken care of financially, they just have to accept it and fall in line. And I think that Lotto in particular is trying to convince the public that she's okay with the arrangement when deep down she's probably not. You know, she's just trying to silence the noise, right? But I I say that I don't think that she's really into this because didn't Lotto rap about how she would never share a [ __ ] or be a baby mama? Meanwhile, she's doing both. Not only is she a baby mama now, but she's sharing a [ __ ] And it's like, girl.
And you know, sometimes the rappers rap about things that really aren't true.
But I just feel like she always had that vibe about herself where was like, you know, I'm not going to get caught up by by a [ __ ] [ __ ] You know, I'm not going to do this. I'm not going to do that.
I'm not dumb. I'm not a dumb [ __ ] Meanwhile, you're doing dumb [ __ ] [ __ ] you know?
So it to me it just looks like something that she's tolerating and the other women look like it looks like that too.
And it's like how low does your self-esteem have to be to pretty much and I don't know maybe I'm wrong about this but did the baby mama and the wife come before the fame and then lotto came after? Because if that's the case, then I just feel like the dark-kinned women especially just look so stupid in this situation.
They all look stupid, but the dark-kinned women like you sitting up here, this man basically is showing you with his actions that you were never the preference.
You were never the preference. And then now you're accepting the preference coming in after he gets the money and y'all just one big happy family.
This is some ghetto blackistan [ __ ] Like what the hell is going on?
And then lotto.
It's like, you know, I want to stop the narrative that because, you know, I think a lot of people would see this and be like, "Oh, well, Lotto's the preference and she could have had, you know, any man that she wanted and, you know, she didn't have children and why would she do this?" And I get what you guys are saying, but maybe this is really the best she could do.
I don't know.
You know, I said the same thing about the games baby mama. Like a lot of black women will look at her and be like, "Oh, she's so beautiful and she could have had this and she could have had that."
Maybe she really can't, though. Maybe she really can. Yeah. I don't know.
I mean, I do think I do think all of these women could have done better, right? I I do. I'm not saying that they couldn't, right?
But at the same time, like water seeks its own level. So, it's something in these women, whether it be low self-esteem, a low sense of self-worth, that's making them settle for this kind of dynamic that they really deep down don't want.
I don't know as someone who's a, you know, a Venus and Gemini and who dates multiple people and has been known to be unfaithful when I was a baby Venus and Gemini and I was trying to regulate my desire for having more than one partner, okay? And was being dishonest about it.
Um, I can relate to having more than one partner, but what I look at when it comes to Polly, like I relate more to the women who like are making the choices, you know, the women who have two partners and it's really something that they chose on their own and they're allowed to explore and have multiple partners. the poly is just not one-sided because I guarantee that in this situation they probably can't be with other people.
I don't know.
And then I also heard that 21 Savage I think I saw on Impressive's video where 21 Savage Savage was raised in a cult.
One of those pro black cults. And weren't we just talking about that pro black [ __ ] earlier? You see why it's just all [ __ ] up? But the the pro black cults I know are really into polyamory. It's really like polygamy where it's one-sided, you know, it's one-sided. It's like only the man can have multiple partners, but the man can have multiple wives.
And so, if he was raised in that kind of dynamic, in that cult, then yeah, they're probably sister wives like in real life.
Um, Sydney says, "Hi, Chrissy. So, happy you're live. My birthday was Monday."
Oh, happy belated birthday. Your life was like a belated gift and I'm surprised 21 can afford.
I mean, I don't think he's broke. I think he, you know, he got a little bit of coin.
He do. I mean, at least he's not broke, but still, it's it's just it's still just looks and it's making him look like he's more than what he is. You know what I mean? It's like 21. I should have put a picture of him up here cuz like ew, it got to be the money. It can't be nothing else cuz he's not attractive at all.
What is going on? It I mean it has to be the money. It can't be nothing else with him. It it I mean I I don't know. Uh if and then also it's like when I see stuff like this, when I see the women like feel the need to want to post it like this, it's kind of giving that you're trying to convince yourself more than anybody. You're trying to convince yourself that you're okay with the situation more than everybody else. When you know deep down you're not.
And Sierra tried to do the same thing.
Y'all remember when Sierra was posted up with Futures Baby Mas? You see what happened? She ended up with Russell. She really wasn't down for that [ __ ] for real. So, it's like, girl, leave the poly to the the people who are actually that way and who actually do it the right way where every, you know, different every every person in the relationship can have a partner, more than one partner.
Like, that's the only way it makes sense.
And then also I have to say this personally like I don't know this this is coming from somebody who doesn't want kids right but knowing that I'm inclined to date multiple people at the same time knowing that I'm not a person who loves the idea of monogamy and loves the idea of marriage. I personally wouldn't bring kids kids into that dynamic just because of the way the rest of society is set up.
I wouldn't want to like traumatize my kids with that.
So, you know, as somebody who is, you know, I I can't call myself Polly, but I I don't like monogamy. I'll just say that. Being that I know I'm like that, I don't I wouldn't feel right bringing kids into it.
Oh, let me take this comment down. Oh, yeah. So, thank you for the super chat, Sydney, and happy belated birthday. So, what you that would make you a Taurus.
Is it Gemini season yet? I can't remember.
Yeah, I I I mean, I get it. I'm just saying I'm I know probably people gonna have children, but I just I don't think y'all should be having children. I'm sorry. I don't know. Maybe that's just not the right thing to say, but I just think it's selfish. I don't know.
[ __ ] them kids up and and you know, confusing the children when everybody else, you know, all the kids that they're going to school with and stuff, they got two parents for the most part.
They don't have a bunch of sister wives, a bunch of they parents not [ __ ] all these different people. Like I just think why are y'all bringing kids into it?
And then it what's also very interesting to me is seeing how many black women co-signing this in the comment section.
Oh, we don't see anything wrong with it.
And y'all y'all want the baby mamas to fight. Y'all don't want them to get along.
And who am I to judge this situation? I saw a lot of that from black women.
And I'm like, I gotta call cap on that because imagine if this were a white man and he had three black baby mamas in a poly relationship.
Do y'all think black women would have as much understanding in that situation?
Think about it.
And this is why I say that y'all be lowering lower lowering y'all standards for black men because that that's the only way I feel like black women be accepting [ __ ] like this. And I'm seeing y'all like increasingly accepting things that y'all wouldn't accept with anybody else. I don't know if y'all saw that story of then and this this is like young people stuff, but I did run across a story on Tik Tok where some some influencer black woman, young black girl exposed a a black rapper because he liked to get pegged. He like to get [ __ ] in the ass and she exposed him and she also thinks he's bisexual or gay or whatever. Y'all can put the names in the comments. I don't remember who it was, but it's like black women I I feel like black women for a long time weren't known for accepting stuff like this.
Like I I ain't going to lie, but I've seen like um y'all are crazy. Oh my god. Y'all y'all y'all throwing me off track. Um, oh yeah, Neo, I forgot about that situation. Yep, Neo does have three uh three girlfriends. He sure does. Yes, Steven says, "Oh, no, that white man is racist to put black women in the situation like that." Exactly. That's exactly what would be said. If 21 Savage was a white man and this was going on with a white man, it would be so many think pieces from black women and y'all would be crying about fetishization and this is why you don't date white men. But with black men, it's like it's more understandable.
Oh, okay. Okay, that's the situation.
Tatiana Chanel, she's only like 18. He groomed her. Okay. Okay. So that Okay.
That So that situation is a little different, I would say.
Okay.
Uh oh. Now my computer's Wait, can y'all hear me? Why can't I highlight the comments anymore?
Yeah, but here's the thing.
Like even if it's not like a grooming situation, I noticed like in the last few years, black women have seemed to be a little bit more accepting. And maybe I don't know, maybe it's just like it's just more fluid now. Like the newer generations, the younger generations are a bit more fluid than they used to be.
And so maybe that's part of it, too. But I just know that I' I've never heard so many black women like agreeing to like pegging and licking ass and playing with [ __ ] booties. Like I I hear that more from white women if that makes sense.
Like not to say that they say it out loud, but you know if you have white friends then you know like Becky is a little bit more understanding with that.
like like you know I have a white friend who her her husband is bisexual or I think he's queer is how he says it or whatever. And you know, I' I've just seen like more situations where white women are a little bit more open to like engaging in um what would be usually be considered uh gay sexual activities. You get what I'm saying?
And look, you do what you do. If that's what you're into, that's fine. But I just know that black women, Here's the thing. It's if you want that, it's one thing, but a lot of y'all are are tolerating it just because you want to be with a black man. And that's where it's a problem. Like, it's different if you're just into that. You know, if you like pegging your man, you like licking booty, you like doing, hey, do your thing. Okay? Do your thing?
But a lot of y'all, it seems like you're you're trying to act like you're cool with it just so you can say you have a man and specifically a black man.
Mhm. Yeah. And the thing I'm not trying to be funny. I'm so not trying to be funny. Like I'm serious. I'm I'm not trying to turn this into a Chrissy after dark cuz y'all know how my mouth can get real nasty. I'm trying to like, you know, keep it under control.
But I'm just saying like, and listen, I'm open-minded sexually, too. But I'm not going to be doing some [ __ ] I don't want to do just because I I want a black man. Like, I'm not about to do that.
It's going to be because I actually want to do it. And so, that's my only point here.
And you know, I feel like with that whole Diddy thing, like it we're starting to see and I even before Diddy, honestly, like I feel like we're starting to to realize that it's not just white men who are into like the cuck thing, right? It's some black men who are cucks, too. And be clear, that's what Diddy was, or Diddy is. He's a cuck.
And that's typically that's like a a stereotype of white men because white men, you know, that's what it's well known like that's a whole category in the sex industry. Cuck holding where they like to see their wives [ __ ] other men. Okay. Yeah. This is a Chrissy after dark at this point.
But they like to see that. You know what I mean?
And so like and we're finding out that it's not just white men, it's black men, too.
Clearly Diddy been doing this [ __ ] all these years.
And I think who was that other I forget who who else it was who it came out and said that he like he like doing that [ __ ] too.
And my my whole point in saying that is that, you know, a lot of these women are agreeing to things just so they can say they have a black man or, you know, agreeing for agreeing to those kind of things just for the money. And, you know, I like money as much as the next girl, but I don't like it that much. I'm not going to do something I sexually don't want to do for the money. Like, I have my boundaries. I have my limits.
Maybe you're right.
Nola says, "Been there. We just hid it better." Maybe you're right.
You could be right about that. Maybe we were just a little quieter about it. Cuz you got to think about it. Diddy been doing this [ __ ] He been a cuck for years.
So maybe you're right. Maybe it's just it was just like one of those secrets in the black community whereas it was just more well known for white people to do it and black people were doing it too.
It just kind of slid under the radar.
And you got to think too, black men also had this super hyper masculine promotion that kind of dominates their image and it has for decades. It has for a very long time. And so just a lot of people really didn't stereotype them to be cucks or to be like into pegging or you know this, you know, and and I feel like that's more common than women would like to think with black men specifically.
Like I feel like a lot of them do like getting their booty played with, y'all.
Like I think that I don't know how many men like that for real. Like you know, as far as like all races of men, we know that white men are into it. We know that some white men are into it. We know that it's enough white men to where it's an actual thing, right? It's a category.
You can literally go on porn sites and look up categories for this [ __ ] But we never really talk about in the black community how many black men are into that.
And I feel like a lot of y'all don't believe that black women, black men specifically, can be into that.
White men are more known for being cucks and being, you know, into being submissive or subs who like to get pegged, but black men are more known for being DL. Think about it. Black men are more known for being DL. So, I think Nola's on to something when she says that it's been there. It's just that black people hit it better.
But you know, black men that's and the dark-kinned black men especially has the stereotype of being DL.
And a lot of them are starting to come out. It seems like in the last few years, they're starting to come out and admit that they like getting their asses at admitting that they like getting pegged. What is that guy who's a submissive? He's like a big buff dark-kinned black man. I think his name is P H O R. I think that's how you pronounce it. and he's like out. He's a out submissive. Like he's very open about liking. He's he's a submissive and he likes dominant women, specifically black women. He likes to be dominated by women.
And so I just feel like in the last few years like we've been a as the black in the black community, we've been a lot more open about the stuff that other communities are usually known for.
That's all I'm saying.
And didn't trick daddy come out and said that he liked his ass ate too.
I'm pretty sure he came out and said that.
And so I'm just saying y'all listen, even though it's not something that black men are known for, they do similar [ __ ] but like Nola said, they just hide it. White men just tend to be more honest about what they like. And see, this is why I say that it's very important to vet men, okay? It's very important to find out early on what they're into so you can determine whether or not it's a deal breaker for you. You have to vet them sexually just like you vet them financially and emotionally and everything else. You have to vet men in every capacity and really find out what they're into.
But like I said, it just seems like to me like they just it's just like they're more out with it now. Just like this whole Polly stuff. It's just more I mean, we know this goes on behind the scenes and we just don't see it. But I'm just saying like now it seems like it's more out in the open.
And so I think that that's what this these pictures I think this was just an admission of okay, we're in a poly relationship. These are my sister wives.
We're all together and we sharing 21 Savage. That's just what it looks like to me.
And so, listen, I'm actually all for the honesty. I think more men need to be honest about what they like, whether it be sexually, I think men need to be more honest about their preference for polyamory or polygamy. Like, if you know you're not going to be monogamous or you know you're not you're not monogamous, then just say that.
And I think they know they can't say that to a lot of women because they wouldn't, you know, they would get less women. But I just think it's easier that way. Just be honest.
Exactly. Look what Sunshine says. And why do we get so much flack for dating out, girl? Cuz they they want to keep us to themselves.
Just because they have all this other [ __ ] doesn't mean they they want us to go anywhere.
They want us to stay and tolerate all the [ __ ] That's what they want.
Yeah, these apparently um who just asked the question. Was it Courtney? Yeah, I think the woman on the right I think her name is Kiana. That's that's supposedly the wife. Woman on the top left is the baby mama. And of course, Lotto's in the middle.
And my thing is, girl, I just I just feel like y'all not embarrassed enough because if I was L, I wouldn't have showed this. Like, I mean, I guess this if this what you doing, okay, but girl, I would have just not said nothing. I'm sorry.
I would have just kept this to myself.
But yeah, um, you know, I just found it interesting how many black women were like pretty much co-signing it. So, it just makes me think like, okay, so are more black women going to lead in that direction because they know that a lot of black men especially really don't want to be monogamous. Like, so I I don't know. I feel like maybe we're going to start seeing more of this, y'all. I don't know. like people being outwardly polyamorous, specifically in the black community, because they know that a lot of black men, they're not marriage-minded. They don't want to, you know, commit.
I don't know.
Y'all saying it's been happening, Chrissy.
Clearly, that's crazy.
Yep.
As Laame May, I think that's how you say that. It says, "It seems like black women don't have a problem being the side chick while the main chick is biracial is the biracial and racially ambiguous woman, too." Yeah.
I don't know. I would just have too much dignity for that.
I get like wanting access to the money.
I get that part. But girl, I I still think I would have too much dignity for it because girl, what do you mean?
Liquid Sunshine says, "Slow, slow down.
They've come to a full stop." What is that? Like a lyric to something?
Uh yeah. And that that is what it's giving. It's just giving like, oh, the pretty preference and we're going to accept her. And I guarantee they probably be like, oh, you're so pretty.
It's just so cringy. Like the whole picture is just cringe. It's cringe. And again, yeah, and I've said that before. That's another reason why, you know, even though in my mind sometimes I like the idea of poly, I'm too scared to catch a disease. Like it's just too much of a health risk. And again, as usually with uh polygamy, like when the men are the only people in the relationship who are allowed to have multiple partners, usually they end up getting bored. You know, these are three women. He's going to get bored at some point. He's going to either want to bring in a fourth and he's probably already [ __ ] other women on the side, too. So, I Oh my god.
You just don't know what's going on healthwise, you know?
Mhm. Yep. Living vicariously through the preference. So, it it almost gives the situation. This almost gives, you know, even though I can't have him, even though I'm not the preference, I can play this position as sister wives and I can have him through you kind of thing. And so it's like getting to experience him through you is better than not having to experience him at all. That's some desperate low self-esteem [ __ ] right there.
And I don't know, maybe the wife has always, maybe this is just like normal for her because again, if if 21 Savage was raised in a polygamous relation or in a polygamous family, you know, and he was taught those practices, then maybe, you know, they've always been poly. You just never know.
Chrissy, why do you think you like Polly in your mind? That's desperation disguis disguised as modernization.
It's not desperate when you're doing the choosing.
My version of Polly is not this like the PY that I have in my mind. I'm dating two men right now and I want to do that. Like I want to date two men. They know that I'm single until married and I'm not committing to anyone until I'm married, if I even get married. And it's my choice. It's like it's from a position of agency.
This what you're looking at is desperation. They didn't choose this.
Yeah. I'm making the rules. This is the rules I'm making. So that's the difference.
So, and that's why I keep saying that I like the idea of Polly. I didn't say I was Polly. I like the idea of it.
I'm not gaslighting court. You're just not listening.
So, if you listen to understand and listen to comprehend instead of, you know, just hearing what you want to hear, then maybe you'll understand the difference.
I didn't say I was Polly. I said I like the idea of it. And when I say Polly, I mean my idea of it.
My idea.
Okay.
Yeah. I don't I don't I don't like the idea of being with the same person for the rest of my life. I don't like that idea. Sorry. I just don't I don't like the idea of living with one person forever. I never like that idea. Which is why I live alone and why probably I will always live alone.
So, uh-uh. Our truth says, "Yeah, I fell I fell in love with two men at a time.
They were competing with each other, so I got everything I wanted, but it was draining in the end." Yeah. And see, what helps my situation is that one of the guys I'm dating is literally out of the country right now for work. So it kind of works because he's barely here, you know.
So Maka, it's chaotic.
That's all I'm going to say. It's chaotic. At some point, I'm going to have to choose. I'm just not going to choose right now, though.
Yeah, that's why I said I don't define it as poly. I didn't say it was poly.
Yeah. Jay Adams says, "Is it really a polymerous agreement if it's not a relationship?" Yeah. And that's why I don't define it as that. I like I said, I like the idea of it, but I would never be in a situation like that if I didn't want to be in one, you know? I think that's the difference that really makes all the difference in the world.
Yeah. Um, Pony and Fishes, how do you manage two people at the same time?
Yeah, it's not easy. That's why I don't see how people have like three partners and four partners cuz I'm part of this polyamorous group on Facebook, you know, just for research purposes.
For research purposes. Okay. I just I'm nosy, so I like to see what they be doing and, you know, the dynamics they have or whatever.
Um, and I don't see how they manage multiple people. I don't think I could ever do that.
Two is enough.
Two is more than enough for me.
No, I don't know. Swinger is is a strong term.
Swinger is like when you [ __ ] like couples and No, I don't do that.
That's That's a little different.
Mhm. Liquid sunshine. I agree. Single women should have a roster. If not being poly per se, it's being strategic.
Yeah. Cuz I feel like if you're not married, you're single.
Sure, that's an unpopular take, but that's how that's how I operate.
Yeah. So, you know, it is what it is.
Um, but the last thing I want to talk about, um, and then if you, you know, we'll do probably Q&A after that, but I just wanted to talk a little bit more about the Kevin Hart thing because I saw where he came out and he defended Tony um, Hinchcliffe or whatever. And I think what what's what's bothering me about this situation, not that Kevin Hart, like that's between that's like black men's fight, like if he want to defend this this man, I really don't give a [ __ ] Really, I don't don't give a [ __ ] about the George Floyd joke. I don't care. Um, but what irritates me is how black women are like outraged by this. And it feels like to me, I don't know, to me, it feels like black women are a little bit more outraged about this than they they are about or than they that they were about Kevin Hart being colorist. And I didn't bring this up in my last video cuz I forgot to be honest with you. Somebody had to remind me in the comments, but I forgot about this joke that Kevin told about dark-kinned women. And I don't know, maybe dark-kinned women forgot what he said, but he literally said here, "Light-skinned women usually have better credit than the dark-kinned woman. Broke ass dark hoes, lol. Darkkinned women take a punch at the face better than light-kinned women. Soft ass yellow bees, lol." And so I'm like, did the girls forget that? I don't know. It it just it really kind of feels like to me that y'all are more outraged about the George Floyd joke, of course, because he's a black man, than y'all are outraged about the fact that Kevin Hart never [ __ ] with you like that anyway. Because like I actually had to block this girl who was commenting under my last video because she was mad about what I said about Kevin Hart. Like she's like, "Oh, it's just jokes." and why are you bringing down the black man? And you know, he's making money. He's employing black people. I'm like, "Oh my god, it does not matter if he's disrespectful to dark-kinned women."
Yeah. It's this this quote unquote joke is also very violent. Yeah.
Yeah. I talked about Amanda Seals earlier and Umar Johnson, so you can rewind and go back to that part or when you watch watch the replay, you can watch the beginning.
But yeah, it's just it's a little um disturbing to me how, you know, I see all these think pieces and I'm like I I don't really hear black women bringing up the fact and maybe y'all forgot because I did forget to put this in my last video, too. I wish I would have remembered. Um, but I just want to refresh your memory or just like bring it to the attention of some of the girls who may not have known like Kevin is colorist. And I kind of thought that was obvious because, you know, he's one of those those men, black men, who used a darker skinned woman as the come-up woman, you know, when he was on his come-up and when he was a broke comedian. And then as soon as he got on, he started, you know, he went to the racially ambiguous woman.
Yeah. Let me uh take the chat off for a second so you guys can read it. Yeah.
So, some of y'all didn't know about this. Yeah. He This is what he said. He said this on Twitter at the time and he was quote unquote joking and then there was some backlash and then he came out and said, "Oh, I was just being silly.
It was just a joke.
And so, you know, I I just don't I don't think this is the heel y'all want to die on. I I get that black women, you know, y'all want to do it for the race, you know, your race of people. You feel like you're defending yourself by going against these racist white men who joked about George Floyd or whatever. But in the end, this is really the black man's fight. you know, you don't really have anything to do with this. Like, let them fight their own battles.
Like, it's not really going to benefit you to defend George Floyd. It's really not.
I know you think it does. You I know you think it's going to help you, but in the long run, I mean, what what has really that done for y'all? Because think about how much y'all marched, you know, after that George Floyd situation. Think about how much effort black women put in fighting on the front lines, fighting for the black community, fighting on behalf of George Floyd and his family.
And fast forward to now, black women are still being disrespected. Like overall, what did black women as a whole get out of that situation?
What did you get out of the whole Black Lives Matter era? like as a whole, what a job. And we know black women collectively didn't benefit from that because now we're talking about resting and we're talking about doing nothing because we know that it doesn't matter.
Doesn't matter.
Exactly.
Pink red wrist has nothing but a target on our backs. Exactly.
And that's why we sitting it out resting now cuz you don't get anything from this.
Yeah. Stephen says, "Black women got some more media visibility." Yeah. For the wrong reasons. for being a [ __ ] mammy and being the face of going against white supremacy.
So, y'all just need to stop. Um, and there was also another woman who brought this up uh when Cheryl Underwood said something negative about nappy hair.
And so, she was like, "Oh, well, well, first let's let's let's read what she said.
So, she says um and she was talking to one of the co-panelists and she was like, "I'm sorry, but uh why would you save nappy hair?
You can't weave afro hair." And you know, she's basically just was being very very texturous. Okay.
Um and she, this is something again that she came out and she apologized for.
Um yeah, she said which is probably some beautiful long silky stuff. And she was talking about like long silky hair and she had this whole intervention with herself and she came out and she took off her wig and she had exposed her hair and she was saying how she was learning to love her hair. It was a whole big thing. But the woman in the comment section was uh mad at me because I was she felt like I was defending Cheryl too much because of what she said about nappy hair. Um but it wasn't I and I felt like I was a little harsh on Cheryl to be honest.
Like cuz it was it was also people who were mad at me criticizing Cheryl. So I mean I guess it just depends on how you took the video. But she kind of felt like that I was take I was being I was defending Cheryl too much. Right. And that's not what it was. It was just that I'm not going to cosign anybody making colorist jokes.
It's not really it it wasn't really about Cheryl. I'm not going to cosign anybody making colorist jokes and anybody making dark-kinned black women specifically the butt of the joke.
Like, I'm not gonna cosign that ever under any circumstance. I don't care how problematic the dark-kinned woman is.
I'm not gonna cosign that.
And so, that was the point. And you know, I heard another one of my haters say, "Oh, well, Cheryl Underwood is ugly, and white people like to ignore the pretty black women and harp on these unattractive dark-kinned women and make it seem like all black women look like Cheryl." And she was trying to imply that I was doing that, and I wasn't doing that either.
And look, it's not that I disagree with white people, you know, using the the unattractive dark-kinned women as the butt of the joke, right?
That does happen. But the interesting part about this whole discourse is that the woman who said that about me, she would also be considered a fat ugly black woman.
Now, she's not dark skinned, but she's fat and she's not conventionally attractive and and she wouldn't be considered above average like the pretty black women that she's throwing Cheryl under the bus for. And this also applies to that woman in the comments who was telling me, you know, that I shouldn't defend Cheryl. I looked on her profile and she was darker than Cheryl.
She looked, you know, to be maybe of West African descent. And so I'm like, girl, so this is really just not just about Cheryl. This is about you, too.
like, you know, and so like I'm kind I it kind of feels weird to me when black women specifically object to content creators such as myself who are um standing up or standing against taking a stance against colorism. That's crazy to me.
It's like, no, I wasn't calling Cheryl ugly, but I feel like that's what they wanted me to do. Like, it's some black women out here who feel like you should just every time a dark-skinned woman is considered to be conventionally unattractive, like we should say that. Like, we should voice that. Like, we it's like we have to announce that like that's how they feel.
But the minute you announce that a light-skinned woman is unattractive, all hell breaks loose.
It's like just because Cheryl has been problematic, you know, with her comments about nappy hair, that doesn't mean I'm gonna agree to somebody dragging her, you know, her skin tone or saying that she looks like a donkey or, you know, making fun of her late husband. Like, I'm not going to like cosign that just because you don't find her to be attractive. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't know. is the way black people specifically expect um dark-kinned women to just discard other dark-kinned women because they don't find them attractive is crazy because y'all don't discard unattractive light-kinned women. You might you might discard them, but you don't do it loudly.
You know, you pretty much do it quietly.
You don't, you know, if it's a if it's a ugly light-skinned girl, you don't feel the need to come on the internet and be like, "Oh, not all light-skinned women are pretty. Like, you don't feel the need to do that."
And so, I don't know. I just find the conversation weird again, especially coming from women who are not even considered to be exceptionally attractive. Like the woman who is like mad about my Cheryl Underwood video, her level of attractiveness is not far from Cheryl's. And I'm not saying that to be mean. I'm just saying it's not. But she thinks that her being a little bit lighter skinned automatically makes her more attractive.
And I'm like, "Honey."
And I mean, she was saying it with her chest, too. She was like, "Yeah, and because Cheryl's ugly and dark skin and not all darkkinned women are pretty."
I'm like, "Girl, have you seen you? Did Did you see like your profile picture's up there, man? and we can see what you look like. You're not far off from Cheryl, babe.
So, it's like, why are you even like, and I just feel like we need to normalize knowing when to keep your mouth shut and not say anything cuz now you making yourself look dumb.
Like, I don't understand that. Like I This reminds me of like the conversation that we had years ago about OG from Basketball Wives and it was literally dark-kinned women who look like OG calling her ugly. I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone. I was like, "Oh my god." Literally. And I I had to post it on my community tab. Like it was actually an African dark-kinned woman who looked like she could be OG's sister, looked like they could be Ken.
And and she was like, "Well, Chrissy, but she is ugly." And I'm like, "Oh my god." It was so disturbing.
It was so disturbing.
J Ray says, "The same Kevin that left his friends for a for dead in that drinking and driving accident he caused to avoid a DUI. Nothing he does say uh or says surprises me. I forgot about that, too.
He sure did do that.
So yeah, I mean even if y'all here's my thing.
Even if you think something like that, even if you say, "Hey, you know, Cheryl, you don't find Cheryl to be attractive.
You don't find certain dark-kinned women to be attractive." I feel like if you know how Cheryl is perceived in society, you should also know how your own looks are perceived in society. And if you are anywhere if you are below average or you are fat and obese, you shouldn't say anything like it like you should you should skip you should you should sit this one out. Okay? Skip this conversation. Sit it out or at least hide your your profile picture.
Godamn. Nobody needs to know.
And so it kind of just looks like to me that y'all be in denial about your own looks, especially if you're like a brownkinned or a light-skinned woman who's not that attractive and you think because Cheryl is dark skinned, you you know, you have free range to call her ugly. But no, somebody's going to turn around and do the same thing to you. Or at least they're going to be like me and they're going to point out that, okay, but you're not far off from her. You might not be dark skinned, but you're not far off and you're fat. And so it's like, what are we doing here?
You should be the last person calling somebody ugly. You're like, not to say that, you know, attractive small people should have the right to do that.
You know, I don't think anybody should do that. I I think it's mean. But if you're going to do it and then you're going to come at me and then be like, "Oh, well, Chrissy, the only reason why you're saying this is because you're ugly like Cheryl." Okay, I'm going to look on your profile. Mom would be like, "But wait, but wait, but wait. I look better than you and so does Cheryl. So, how does this work?
How does this work?"
And so, I just feel like certain people should know when to sit it out.
You should know when to sit it out.
And then also even your sound. Even even the way you sound when you're coming at me in your videos, you you don't even sound attractive. Your voice is ugly, too.
And so then it's like that's even more of a problem. Like you sound like you don't take care of your sinuses. You sound like you struggling to breathe.
All the above. But you're calling me ugly. You're calling Cheryl ugly. Like something's not adding up. like you you're not in the position to say the things that you say.
That's all I'm saying.
You're not in the position, Bookie. And some of y'all know who I'm talking about.
But you're not in the position. You're not.
We know what you look like. We know what your family looks like. We know how you sound.
We know you're a struggling baby mama, too. And so it's like, pipe down. Like my video should not trigger you this much, boo. They shouldn't.
And this is somebody who stays triggered. Like every time I do a video, here she come. Like she's obsessed with my content.
obsessed.
It's weird.
And so I'm going to need you to learn how to look in the mirror.
And if you're a kettle, it's best not to be calling other people black. That's all I'm saying.
It's just best not to do that.
Mhm. I agree. Supergirl says, "We should never be caught as dark-kinned women putting another dark-kinned woman down for her appearance. Who does it actually serve?"
Yeah. And see this particular woman, she's not dark. And I think that she thinks that gives her a pass. And it's like, no, that doesn't give you a pass if you're still not conventionally attractive or you're not, you know, you're bad built. Like, you don't get a pass just because you're you're not dark.
And I mean, even if she wasn't bad built, like if you're skinny and you're not that attractive, you don't have you like you shouldn't be saying anything either.
So, it really doesn't matter. Like, I've been looking at some of these people who be coming at me and I'm like, "What's going on here?"
Like, no, really, what's going on?
Lexiana. Yeah, you know I'm And I'm mad you took that video down cuz I was try I was gonna download it so I could maybe react to it one day. If you still have it, let me know because I might do that one day.
I might have to make an example out of this girl because she's she's teetering on the line of obsession and y'all know how I am with people who are obsessed.
Sometimes I got to blast them one time and so I might have to.
So let me know if you still got that video cuz you know I'm with the [ __ ] sometimes.
Oh, y'all messy.
Concrete roses. I think you should.
Yeah, cuz she went on this whole colorist rant and then she took the video down and I didn't get to hear all of it. But uh Oh, she reported it by this backup.
Okay, good. I'mma download it just in case I need it for the future.
But yeah, the the Hayden is getting out of hand on this app and you know, I think that it needs to be talked about more.
Yeah. And my thing is like if you if you were that bold to say it and you were that bo bold to be so colorist and loud and mean, why not have the balls to just leave the video up?
Most of my my beef videos are up. You they're still up. But me talking [ __ ] going off on people, dragging people.
So, it's like again another one of those fake pro black woman grifters pretending that she's for black women, but I made her so angry. I triggered her so bad that she ended up, you know, going off on one of her little colorist rants and she was like, "Oh, wait. I went too far because I'm probably alienating some of my audience. So, I'm gonna go ahead and take it down."
and Lexiana tried to put it back up and she she stried it down.
So, um that means she didn't want to lose some of her dark-kinned woman following.
That's what it was. She didn't want people to know. But Lexiana has them receipts. And so, I'mma download them, too, so I can have the receipts.
I'm telling you now, she keep [ __ ] with me. I'm just going to have to put her on blast and play it back. And, you know, we're going to have to react to it.
Yeah, it is 90 90% of her audience, I'm pretty sure, are unambiguous dark-kinned black women. I'm pretty sure. And that's why she didn't want the video to stay up.
John says, "Chrissy, did you see what Gunna's current girlfriend said about Corsair?" Isn't that old?
Cuz when I saw that, I did see that at some point. I think it was like a couple days ago.
Um, what's her name? Briana something cuz I feel like I did a video on that years years ago.
Lex. Lexi. Messy. Messy.
Yeah, I I did a video about Briana in 20121. I talked about that years ago.
I'm old, y'all. I feel old as [ __ ] because the way that's resurfacing, everybody's like, "Oh my god, I didn't know that she said that." I'm like, "Oh my god."
Yeah. Super. Oh, I didn't know she was with Gunonna. I had no idea that they were together.
And who the hell is Ghana? I know he's a rapper, right? Is he a rapper? That sounds like a rapper name.
Miss Concrete Rose says, "The people are enraged in the video. Mad old." Yeah, cuz I was looking at I was like, "Dang, not this resurface." But you know, just how I earlier I said I kind of forgot about the whole Kevin Hart thing when he made the jokes about dark-kinned women.
It's like I remember but I also forgot cuz I forgot to put it in the video.
Like but I it's easy to forget when you consume, you know, social media every day.
But I also never forgot that he was colorist, you know.
Oh yeah. I I wasn't saying it was old to excuse her. Like I She probably still feels that way for sure.
Well, I'm glad that people are realizing that she said those things.
Like I am glad that it's coming to light.
But once again, what does she do? Is she still an influencer? Is that Briana girl? Did y'all answer my question about Gunonna?
Is he a rapper? I don't even know who this I don't know who this [ __ ] is.
But it's like I'm trying to figure out why black women are supporting supporting her and supporting them.
Yeah, I have heard about what's going on with Jackie. Um, some somebody had emailed me and asked me to do commentary on it. I don't feel compelled to do commentary on it.
Um, but you know, I see both sides of the argument. I think if I were Jackie, I wouldn't have promoted what's his name?
Um, Patrick Patrick Ta. I wouldn't have promoted his products for the sake of my brand and for the sake of me being a black woman. You know, if if if it's true that Pat cuz I don't know too much about Patrick. I will say I don't have any of his products or anything. Um, but apparently Patrick, you know, is stealing from he stole from um Painted by Esther. He stole her concept, her blush concept or whatever.
Um, and he's selling like a blush kit or something. I don't know too much about it because I'm not into that blush look, y'all. I think some of that those blush looks are horrible. And not just on black women, but women in general. I think it's that blush blindness thing is real. I don't like that overly blushed makeup look at all. Um, so you won't catch me buying any of the [ __ ] but you know, if he was stealing from Jackie or from um Painted by Esther, that's [ __ ] up. And I I know if I was Jackie, I probably wouldn't have done that. But I also get what she's saying like she doesn't have to speak up about, you know, everything either. You know what I mean? Like but it's like girl, you could have just ignored it all. You know, like if I were in Jackie's shoes, you know, I probably just wouldn't have promoted Patrick. I wouldn't have said anything about the painted Esther V situation and I would have just been silent on it. You know, that's how I would have handled it strategically, you know, but you know, I'm not Jackie girl. So, um, Ailia says, "Thoughts on the is God is film discourse? Black men on Twitter were furious about black men being the villain in it compared to The Color Purple's Mister." Oh, girl, get over it.
I I may do a a deep dive about that, like a pre-recorded video about that. I have really haven't gathered all my thoughts about it because I haven't seen all of the discourse.
Um, but girl, I don't give a [ __ ] about Black Men's Outrage.
It sounds like a movie um that's based on true events. So, it is what it is.
And I don't I don't think it's actually based on a true story, but you know, or is it is it based on a true story? I don't know.
Yeah. And thank you for the um super chat, Oilia.
Okay. So, um, Boho says, "Patrick Ta is known for not paying black makeup content creators."
Yeah. See, I I didn't know anything about him. Really? Really? I didn't.
But yeah, I'm going to watch I'm probably gonna because I still have to watch the God. What is it? Is God Is trailer. I'm gonna watch the trailer and then I'm gonna um look at the the tweets that I was sent in my email or that was sent to me in my email. Um and then I may talk about it either in a pre-recorded video or a live stream, another live stream and kind of give my full thoughts on it. Um, but one thing I will say because I saw somebody say that, and I think this was in the screenshot of one of the comments that was sent to me, but I saw somebody say that the is God is movie is no different from Sinners where the twins cuz remember the twins and sinners unalived their father because their father was abusive to the mother and so they were comparing it to the storyline of is God is and they were like black men didn't care about sinners so why do they care about this which I 100% agree but what I will say yeah I I'm going to I'll probably talk about it again I'm going to watch the movie but these are just my preliminary thoughts okay what I want black women to to to understand is that y'all need to be a little bit more strategic with your movies and your promotion. Okay.
What black men got right with centers, they still made the black men in the movie very desirable. Okay. And this is important. I know y'all don't think it is. Okay. But it is. It's important.
Okay. They also didn't center the movie around and and don't get me wrong, I think it's okay for for black women to center a movie around femicide. That's perfectly fine. It doesn't have to be, you know, a beauty a beauty contest or a beauty pageant in a movie. That's not what I'm suggesting, right? But if it's going to be something surrounded around trauma and you want to grab people's attention and get them to watch the movie, you got to play the game that black men are playing. You got to be a little bit more strategic about it. And you have to put in elements of the movie that make you more desirable. And maybe I'll feel different when I watch the movie, but it doesn't seem like that is what is happening in the is God is movie. It just seems like it's about these two women who were victims of a man who um tried to blow up their mom or try to set them on fire or something like that.
One of the women in the in the movie is a burn victim. So, she has burns on her body throughout the movie, and the whole plot of the movie is them trying to hunt this man down to unal alive him, hunt the father down and unal alive him, which it actually sounds like a a cool little concept. Um, but and I I think that what black women are missing is that that's all it was. You get what I'm saying? And y'all are wondering why it's being perceived differently. Well, that's why because that's like the main plot.
You get what I'm saying? And so I want black women to learn how to um kind of do what black men are doing.
Black men really got the the their image and the way they promote themselves on lock. They know how to like mix in the trauma, the pro black stuff, and still make themselves look like the hottest men on the planet. Black women haven't learned how to do that yet. And I want us to learn how to do that.
And I'll explain later in another video when I have all my thoughts together why that's important. But it is. I know y'all think it's some superficial [ __ ] or whatever, but if you want people to look, you're going to have to have that element in your your work, in your art.
If you want to be noticed for a lot of the [ __ ] that y'all are putting out, whether it's promotion, movies, any sort of media, or whatever, you're going to have to grab people's attention in that way.
Okay. So, I I was right about my assumption. Miss Concrete Rose says, "Yeah, it's a dope movie, but the desiraability piece was lacking." That's important. Y'all got to add that in there whenever you're creating your work for black women. And it's not, you know, I know it sounds like, oh, this is for the male gays. This cuz I can hear y'all now. I can hear the black feminist. We shouldn't have to do work for the male gays.
Listen, men, everything in their work is for the female gays.
All of it.
They do [ __ ] so they can get women in the theater watching that [ __ ] They put Michael B. Jordan, the movie, who's considered a heartthrob, so black women would go watch.
So y'all need to learn how to play the game like everybody else and do the same thing with your own promotion.
Not saying you got to over objectify yourself cuz I know that's coming to oh well we already have enough hypersexual promotion. You want us to you want us to be in there with our asses out. That's not what I'm saying. Please don't take it to the extreme. That's not what I'm saying.
But yes, the the desiraability piece needs to be in there.
Okay, I agree. Yes, that's more that we can you I can work with that. We can use that as an example. We need Pam Greer type of dark black women. Yeah, minus the black exploitation. Okay. M minus the black exploitation films. Yeah, but the point I get the point that you're making. Absolutely.
Pretty baby doll says MBJ a heart throat.
Girl, you know that's how the girls feel. That's how they feel. Do you realize how many black women's [ __ ] got wet when they saw that scene between Michael B. Jordan and Wound Me?
Girl, they [ __ ] was throbbing when they saw that scene. Oh my god, the way he hit it from the back. I'm like, "Girl, that's all it took for y'all." So that's They knew to put that in there for y'all.
You see what I'm saying? You see what I'm saying?
Cuz they know most black women aren't going to analyze it and dissect it like we do over here.
We're not going to be like, they're not going to be like, "Oh, it wasn't intimate enough. Oh, it wasn't it wasn't romantic enough." You know, they're not going to break it down like we do. So, they knew that that would be enough for most black women watching.
And so, I'm not saying you got to follow the black male blueprint exactly, but what I'm saying is in your work, you need that element of of black female desiraability. That's all I'm saying.
And it needs to be in the trailer. It needs to be evident when you look at the trailer, you know? So, it needs to be like boom, pal, it's out there like, "Oh, look at that that beautiful black woman." You know what I mean? It has to be like that.
That's the strategy black women need to use because our promotion is already in a deficit. And especially with dark-kinned black women, like it needs to be like that.
And I know a lot of people don't agree with me when I say that, but it that's what y'all need. Like, in order to get the the kind of attention and the recognition that you want for your work, as well as your beauty, as well as your promotion, you're going to have to to play the game. how how everybody else is playing it.
So, I'm telling you, girl, they need to hire me. They need to stop playing and hire me.
I'll help you with the story line, okay?
I'll help you with the optics.
I'll tell you what works.
Yeah. Um, who was that? Who said wait I missed a comment?
Ci Brown says, "I'm a screenwriter. I would love to know more ideas of desiraability, especially for dark-kinned ladies like us." Um, you know what?
I actually a long time ago I put together like a um it was kind of set up like a quiz where it would be like how to know if something was corrective promotion and it had like all the the elements you would need for dark-kinned black women specifically to be correctively promoted and it gave a score at the end. But girl, I knew I would be cancelled for that.
Maybe I should actually do that. Like again, I don't know, girl. It's that's a little controversial cuz the stuff on there I know black women would be like, "Are you saying that we can't have this in our promotion?" Like, I don't feel like hearing it. But listen, if you want the truth, I can give it to you. And I like I always do. I mean, you can see it through my throughout my my videos. But if I were to actually make a list of everything that would qualify for perfect corrective promotion of darkkinned women, y'all would be mad.
Everybody would be mad.
But you know, if you have an idea, see me run and you want to run it past me. I can give you some tips. If you want that as a screenwriter, I can give you that.
Just email me [email protected].
Um Shana says, "I saw Nemesis and some and some many black pe black women were rooting for the villain to win was crazy. All cuz he fine and chocolate girl.
That's what I'm saying.
One thing black women or black men in particular have mastered is how to promote themselves properly. Like and I think you know obviously they got a head start from from white men to be honest with you.
like white men, you know, constantly promoting them as these hypersexual big black scary brutes that were just super masculine. I don't think they intended for women to be, you know, attracted to that um or to become attracted to that. But I think that helped them a lot with their image and so they kind of got a head start with that and they kind of just been running with it ever since. And it's not to say that it's not harmful as well. you know, the hyper masculine thing that it goes both ways. But I think for the most part, black men have definitely benefited off of that promotion and that stereotype of being hyper masculine.
And again, this is not to say that we should promote being hypersexual as black women because that hasn't worked for us. I mean, it has in a way. You know, I think people find us to be very sexually attractive, which, you know, I guess, you know, whatever. But I think it's gone too far. You know, it's too far to the extreme into hypersexuality.
And so, we need to like bring that back a little bit. Still can be sexy in our promotion, but tastefully sexy. You get what I'm saying?
Mhm. That is so true. Miss New Senior says they can start. Oh, no, wait, that wasn't you. Sorry, that wasn't the comment I meant I meant to read.
Um, Lace Front says they have benefited and the crazy part is most of them ain't even masculine no more. The irony. Yes.
And a lot of them were ne they never were as hyper masculine as they seem.
So this it's very interesting.
Yeah, I am going to watch Odyssey. I'm I'm I just want to know how they going to do. Lupita. I I want to see it just to see how they're going to promote her.
I I I'm scared that they're not going to get it right, but I could be wrong.
And then I saw that um who is that that's going to be playing Betty Boop.
What What's that black woman's name?
I forget her name. Y'all can put it in the chat. But apparently a Betty Boop movie is coming out and a black woman is going to play Betty Boop, which I am excited about that. I hope they get it right though. I hope they get it right.
Quinta. Yes, thank you. Quinta Brunson, that's her name.
And she has the perfect eyes to play Betty Boob. Like, she has those perfect big dough eyes. Like, oh my god. If they [ __ ] this up, I'm going to be so mad cuz there's so much they can do with that.
They can do they can dress her up so well and it can just it can go over really well if they do it right. So, I hope they do it right. I am looking forward to it because I want to see how well they they promote her and they make her look in the movie.
Yeah, she does already give Betty Boop.
She does. When I saw that, I was like, "Oh, okay. Okay."
Yeah, that's what I was going to say.
Hey. I thought Betty Boop was originally based on a black woman. Yeah. Mhm.
Yeah. Because you know that the Odyssey is a period piece. So, girl, I just I fear that they gonna have her in there looking dusty, and I'mma hate to see it if that's the case. I get it though. I get it. Like I get it. Okay. I know she's not going to be in full on glam, but I you know if she's Helen of Troy, right? And she's supposed to be the most beautiful woman in the world. Okay.
I don't want her in there looking dusty.
I I'm sorry. I don't. And listen, if all you can do is like put black women and specifically dark-kinned women in these dusty looking roles. We don't want them. I don't care if it's a period piece or not. We don't want it.
I'm sorry. We don't. We could be wrong. So, I'm going to watch it. I'm going to approach it with the open mind. It might surprise me.
And then also, you know, I don't know.
They might have everybody else in there looking dusty, too. Zenaia. Uh, who else?
Who else is in? I forget who else. I don't know. I might be pleasantly surprised. Y'all know I'm a little hard to please in this area, you know, when it comes to black female representation.
So, um, I don't know.
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like Miss Concrete Rose, if everybody looking dusty, I'll feel a little bit better.
But as long as it ain't as it ain't just Lupita, you know what I mean?
Yeah. I don't know when it's coming out.
I have no idea.
Somebody said something about Oshune.
Like I I wish somebody would like bring that character to life. like have dark-kinned black women in some black African goddess roles. Like, but I've said before, it's going to take black people to create that. It's going to take black people to create a story that centers around our mythical characters.
You get what I'm saying? You can't expect white people to do that.
And then honestly, I don't even know if black people would do it right. You know what I mean? like girl. Oh, it's just like they always drop the ball when it comes to promoting dark-kinned black women specifically.
They never get it all the way right, unfortunately.
And I hate that for us.
What? Immortal says they did Oshune in American Gods. The actress was light a light-skinned woman. Really? I didn't know that.
That is interesting.
Not surprising though.
Yeah, Nikki brings up the American. I I I do feel like I would like to see some dark-kinned American black women in feminine roles.
I would like to see more of that.
Yeah. Liquid Sunshine says it definitely needs to be written by a woman to start with. Yeah. And a woman who is familiar with these conversations. a woman who is specifically familiar with these discussions.
A woman who's a black woman who's woke.
Like really the real definition of woke.
Not the fake definition. Not pro black woke. Okay.
But WWE woke, you know what I mean?
Oh man, I don't know who would be a good Cleopatra. H girl, that's crazy.
You know, I think somebody told me to watch Sandman.
And see, that's another thing, too.
Like, I don't watch a lot of these shows cuz I'm usually always disappointed. But maybe I should check out the Sandman.
Maybe I'll do that.
Oh, I meant to um somebody earlier asked me about immigration at the time because it was just I first of all I didn't feel that invested and and let me go let me back up. If you aren't aware of what happened, Emma Greed, who is a very successful businesswoman, she's the co-founder of SKIMS, which is Kim Kardashian's brand. She was criticized for saying on Kiki Palmer's show that remote jobs were a career killer for women. And of course, black women responded saying that there are real systemic barriers for women in the workplace and specifically black women.
Um, and basically the argument was like, you know, well, even if we show up, that doesn't necessarily mean that we're going to move up the ranks. Um, and they pointed out the fact that Emma was speaking from a place of enormous privilege because first of all, she got much of her success from her white husband, which whom I think she married at the age of 23 or something like that, and he invested millions of dollars in her business. And um, she's also mixed race, so that also gave her a leg up.
And you know, I do agree with black the black women who are calling that out.
Like, you know, if you're going to go on a black woman show who has a predominantly black woman audience and um talk about what it takes to move up the corporate ladder, you can't skip over the isms, you know, especially considering that what was it is it 600,000 black women who lost their jobs now since 2025.
Yeah. It's tonedeaf, you know. It's tonedeaf. and you look out of touch, right? And so, you can't skip over all the reasons why you got to where you're at. It's just not because you showed up at the office in person. It's because you married a a rich white man and you're racially ambiguous. Like, those two things played a factor. Um, and of course, most women in her position aren't going to say that because it isn't politically correct to say. So, instead, they're going to, you know, tiptoe around it and kind of send dog whistles.
um and kind of you know go around it, right? But in this current climate, if you can't say it outright, then it's best just not to speak on the topic at all. And my opinion is this, like if we're going to have the conversation, I would rather hear a mixed woman, black women, mixed um women of color, I would rather them explicitly speak on using white men. This is going to sound really bad, but this is just what I think, right? I would re if you're going to have the conversation, I would rather you speak on using white men or getting their assistance to level up whenever you're in the position to do so because that's the world that we live in.
And see, that's the part of the conversation where I part ways with most black women who were having this discussion because even though I understand the point that black women were making about, you know, how all oppressive systems need to be destroyed and that's the only solution, I understand that the system also will not be destroyed anytime soon. Right? So, in the meantime, while black women have to navigate these systems and especially patriarchy and capitalism, I absolutely think that we should be as strategic as possible, and that means networking with white people, befriending white people, or even marrying a white man to get ahead.
It is what it is, okay? Period. And I, you know, I realize that mixed race women like Emma, they'll have more opportunity to do that than unambiguous dark-kinned black women. I'm not delusional. I'm not saying that every black woman, every dark-kinned woman can go out here and do what she did, but not every mixed woman can do what she did either. Her situation is incredibly rare, right? But I do know that mixed race women because of their proximity to whiteness, they can do that easier than we can. But that doesn't automatically mean that it's impossible for us to do either.
You know, and I'm just gonna say I see black women, especially today, I see black women more than ever dating white men. I mean, I be out and about just doing random stuff. And I'll see a black woman with a white man.
And you know, because of where I'm at, because of the areas that I frequent, these don't be like no broke white men.
Like, they be looking like they got a little coin, right? So, and I'm talking about dark-kinned black women who look like me.
So, it's like it may not be at the level that Emma is at, but they're doing it, girl.
So, while I completely understand where black women are coming from or were coming from in that discussion, I also completely understand what Emma was trying to say as well, you know, and even though she's mixed, black women can be successful using a similar strategy that she did, and they have been successful. So, you know, it's it's 2026, y'all. You got to jump in the game to win.
You get what I mean?
And so I kind of wish that women like Emma, if you gonna tell it, tell it all.
Like be like, "Yeah, girl, and my white man helped me, too." So if you going to get a white man, get a white man that can help you.
But I don't know. That's not politically correct to say. So she couldn't say that. But you know, that's that was my whole view of the situation. and it's an extremely unpopular opinion. So, I didn't feel like being dragged, which is why I didn't make a video on. I was like, you know, I feel like I, you know, I pick and choose my battle. So, I kind of set that one out cuz my opinion was not popular at all. Not even a little bit.
And I think I I did see one black woman on TikTok who kind of had my same view of of the situation and she was like girl and so black women need to do what Emma did like marry well so you can level up you know per that's the message and I was like okay like that's what I got from this situation but um you know a lot of black women are focused on you know destroying all oppressive systems which I get it I totally understand like I understand.
But in the meantime, what are you going to do? And what's so interesting about that is, you know, even as black women are saying that, even as a lot of black women are saying that we need to destroy all oppressive systems, as soon as they log off of Tik Tok or wherever it is they're making that announcement at, they're going back to their corporate jobs to make that money on. They're going back to working for the white men.
They're going back to whatever job they got to do to get them Louis bags to get all the makeup they wearing in their content to get all the luxury designer things.
You feel me? So they're playing the game, too.
And so I just feel like, you know, when certain things like that go viral, I be like, "Black women don't be having the right conversations for me." Like, "Y'all don't be focused enough on strategy for me."
I'm sorry.
Oh, no. I didn't see that. Did you see times Brandon Blackwood bags? It came out today and it already sold out. No.
Shout out to Alandria. That's what's up.
Good for her.
Yeah, I just talked about is God is. I'm going to watch the trailer and I might watch the movie and do a review. I don't know. But I just kind of talked about my I gave my uh preliminary thoughts on it and I may come back and talk about it in further detail. I don't know. I don't have too much on it right now because I haven't watched the movie. So divested from planet Earth says Emma's best adi best advice to black women is to be like Emma's mother. Period.
Exactly. Period. period.
Y'all be looking at the wrong things.
But I also understand that Emma, you know, girl, Emma should have just not said nothing. You know what I mean?
You're trying to sell this. You're you you're you clearly went on Kiki Palmer's podcast to send a certain message specifically to black women women because you know that black women watch Kiki, right? So that's why you're on there. And so girl, give us a message we can use at least.
Not uh if you want to move up the corporate ladder, then work from home.
Like girl or stop working from home.
Like that's not advice, girl. You could have kept that to yourself. So I get why the black women were upset. I get it. I get it. But I just feel like y'all extracted the wrong part of the conversation. I feel like y'all, you know, there wasn't enough focus on the fact that, you know, she used white men to level up and like somebody else brought up her mama.
Like that's the strategy, not what Emma was saying.
Because I just feel like if y'all gonna be dating out here anyway, you gonna be busting it wide open anyway, you might as well do it strategically with a a man who can take you places and that can level you up.
I'm not saying sleep around with the man at your job. That's not what I'm saying cuz I know y'all like to take it to the extreme, but you get my point.
Mhm. 2011 Star says, "Too many black women want to overthrow the system but have no plan for what happens next."
Exactly.
Exactly. And I've talked about that before, like, okay, so what are you going to replace the system with? What are you going to replace patriarchy with? And if it's matriarchy, right?
Because that's the argument now. Like, oh, it's a return of the matriarchy and we want a matriarchy. And I don't think y'all know what y'all in for when it comes to that cuz you do know that in matriarchies there are hierarchies. You do know that every woman ain't on the same level in in the matriarchy.
So you're going to have [ __ ] who you don't like in the matriarchy. There's going to be competition. There's going to be hierarchy.
There's going to be rank.
Are y'all ready for that?
And then also what the men going to be doing?
They just going to be your little worker bees. And then how you going to control them? These big strong men. How are you going to control that? And then if your if your uh idea is to replace the labor that they they put into society and the women are going to build instead. How many of y'all signing up for that? CUZ I'M NOT.
I'M NOT. OKAY.
I'm not doing the jobs that most men do in this society. I ain't do. You can count Chrissy out.
So, how many of y'all signing up for that?
I just want to know how it's going to work. You know, as somebody who's an INTJ, I need to know the steps. I need to know, you know, how this is going to realistically work. Not in theory, but in reality.
not some little, you know, feminist Never Neverland, you know, that y'all created from the [ __ ] Bell Hooks book. No, I need to know like how it's going to work on the ground in real life.
And no shade to Bell Hooks. Like, but I'm just saying.
My world says, I literally just said that, Chrissy, matriarchy women can't even agree on what a woman is. Preach.
Preach.
Do you have a channel? I think you have a channel. I might have to watch some of your content.
I think I think it's you who has a channel. I could be wrong. Girl, y'all go follow my world if if she has a channel. But yeah, that's true.
Y'all can't even agree on what a woman is.
Y'all Y'all still tiptoeing around trans women.
Y'all still can't even be honest about how they are getting out of hand and how they've been out of hand and how they disrespect women. Y'all are too scared to even say that. How you going to run a matriarchy?
The [ __ ] Shannon says the black women that ran away from the system to go to Nature Boy ended up going back to system aka court and regret. girl preach.
And see, that's the part of the conversation I don't I don't think we talk about enough when it comes to talking about matriarchy. Like, what does that actually look like? And what system is going to replace it? Who's going to run it? What's the hierarchy going to be? Cuz it can't be no. Oh, we're all the same and we're all equal.
No, it's going to have to be a rank.
It's going to have to be hierarchy. All women can't do the same exact thing in matriarchy. So, I I'm not totally against the idea. I just want to know how it's going to work.
Y'all need to let me know how it's going to work.
And I think you're going to find that a lot of this is going to have the same elements of patriarchy. Now, is it going to be safer for women? I think so. like that's really undebat undeniable or undebatable or whatever. That's not debatable. Um but well, I don't know. I I wouldn't think it would be as violent because I don't think women are violent inherently as violent as men. Um so I think definitely think it would be safer.
Um but a lot of y'all stuff that y'all be I'm like, "Okay, y'all going to find out real quick."
Like it don't matter if it's a patriarchy or not, y'all. Women are still going to compete with each other.
With no men in the room, women are gonna compete. You can't like that's not a patriarchal thing. That's a human thing.
So, I'm just interested to see like, you know, what y'all going to come up with with that.
My world says, "Feminist theorists live in theory. Nothing applicable to the real world." And thank you. Yes, I do.
Yeah. Shout out to My World. I feel like you get it.
And then that's another thing, right?
Because D. Gerald Hera says, "Do you want to establish a black woman's supremacy?"
Um, because I think that a lot of feminists, that's what they try to get away from. They don't like the idea of hierarchy. They don't like the idea of supremacy.
But if in a matriarchy, doesn't that mean that women run things?
So, it's like that that automatically creates an a hierarchy, right?
that's going to automatically ma mean that you men are going to be beneath you, right?
And I'm just saying if you don't want to sign up for that, what makes you think men are going to sign up for it?
I I want to know how y'all going to control the men in the matriarchy.
I need to know the details, girl. How y'all going to control these grown ass men?
How y'all how exactly do you propose that women overthrow the current system?
I just and I don't want a theoretical answer. I want a real answer.
Like what's going to replace the labor that they put in?
And again, if women are going to do it, who going to sign up? I mean, I don't know. I know there are women who are in like laborious fields and stuff.
So, I'm not saying there will be zero women that are willing to do it, but it's just the little things. Like, for example, y'all know I live in a high-rise. And you know, at any random moment, you can look out there and just see the window washers. I never see a woman. I always see a man with his big ass face in my window washing my window.
And I'm like, "Oh [ __ ] I didn't know they were coming today." I'm walking out the room half naked. I got to close the door real quick because there's this strange man hanging outside of my window washing my window. I'm telling you now, I'm not doing that [ __ ] As a woman, I'm not doing that. I I would like to know how many women are doing that. And that's just one job.
So, it's little [ __ ] I be thinking of like that. I be like, you know, I don't know.
I mean, is that what's going to be happening in the matriarchy, girl? I don't know, girl. That don't sound appealing to me.
I'm just sad.
Okay, that's the thing, Haley. You're saying that who said women have to do Oh, wait. Oops.
I'm going to open my thing. Um, you're saying that who said women would have to do the labor?
I think that that would be expected, right? Because men aren't going to do that kind of thing without incentives.
And the the incentive that a lot of men have in the patriarchy is that they get control.
And so without that control, how many of you how what do you think how many men do you think are going to sign up for that? And see, this is what I mean by thinking outside of theory. You got to think about it realistically.
I am so done with y'all.
Emily said, "Leave it to the studs."
Girl, I don't even think the studs would want to do it. They still women.
Girl, I am weak. That [ __ ] is hilarious.
And I don't know, maybe women need to be conditioned. May is that the idea of the girls who want patriarchy? Women need to be reconditioned into doing the jobs that quote unquote men do.
Girl, I'm not conditioned enough. I don't think I can I don't think I can be reconditioned.
Oh my god.
And you know, and that's another thing, right? Even the men don't want to do it, y'all. So, what makes you think that cuz cuz somebody said somebody mentioned earlier about the lack of testosterone in the men today. The men don't even want to do it now. So, what makes you think the women gonna want to do it?
Nobody wants to do their jobs.
Haley says, "My hands ain't for that kind of work."
No, I mean seriously though y'all, I would like to know like what the girls, you know, who really like the staunch feminists who are for, you know, matriarchy and replacing m patriarchy with patriarchy. I would like to know the plan.
The realistic plan, not the theoretical plan, the realistic plan. All ser in all seriousness, I would like to know what they what the plan is because I'm sure they got a plan, right? Or or do they not?
Okay.
D says, "There's many women that aren't conditioned to think those are men's jobs. There's plenty of women that do that labor." Okay, girl. Okay, cuz that's the other argument I've seen. You know, a lot of the feminists say that the reason the only reason women aren't doing the work that that quote unquote men do is cuz they're shunned from those jobs and you know, men don't make them feel comfortable doing those jobs and all this stuff. And so, okay, D, if you say so, girl.
If you say so. I just I I would like to know the percentage.
Okay.
I would like to know the percentage of women who want to do that work. That's all. Cuz again, if men don't even want to do it, I don't know.
I don't know if I'm convinced that um there are a critical mass of women who want those jobs. A critical mass. I know there are some, but cuz I've definitely seen like female truck drivers. That's one like I think male dominated field that I've seen women in more than other ones. Um trying to think of something else.
Definitely uh a lot of female engineers which I mean there are different kind of engineers that you know but yeah I've heard that too. I've heard that too. 2011 Star says, "Women join but get harassed until they're forced to quit." I've heard about that, too.
Yeah, I've seen women in construction.
I've seen that, too. Yep.
Yeah, I've seen women welders. I've seen that. Yep.
Okay. Um, Bo says, "I've seen a few female mechanics." Do I know any female mechanics? No, I don't.
Oh, you know what? I did see a woman and I do think she was a stud that she worked down at the Jiffy Lube. I have seen women at Jiffy Lube. I have seen that before.
Or she's white, so she wouldn't be a stud. She was a mask. Let me correct my language for the lesbians. She was a mask and she was she worked at Jiffy Lube.
Lexiana, I'm trying to be serious.
Okay, y'all got faith. Y'all got faith in the women doing the laborious jobs.
Okay.
Shane Shane says, "So it's settled. The studs and masks will do that kind of labor." I don't know why that's so funny to me. I can't. The way you're assigning it to all the studs and the masks as if they all want to do that is just that's just wrong.
Cuz I have friends that are studs. They don't want to do that [ __ ] either.
That is so funny to me. Oh my god.
I have a really good stud friend that I do music with and she is like losing her mind because all the women that she meets want her to be like the man, the quote unquote man in the relationship.
And so that's why I said I mean obviously this is just one stud. But I don't have a bunch of stud friends, so I'm just basing it off her, but like she's very feminine in the inside. Like, she looks masked on the outside, but she's still very much a woman. And I feel like, you know, a lot of them are like that. I don't know, maybe not all, but she does have masculine tendencies, but girl, she ain't trying to do what men do either.
Y'all are Y'all are unhinged.
Oh my god. Girl says they said this is who the [ __ ] the real [ __ ] And I know that song too. I can't remember who it is, but that's funny as hell.
Girl, I thought that too before my friend explained it. No, they don't. A lot of the studs and the masculine lesbians, they don't be wanting to be the men in the relationship for real.
They just dress like that. They don't necessarily want to be treated like men.
My ro says not Jiffy Lube. Well, she definitely ain't finding no lifestyle down.
Oh, y'all are cracking me up.
Yeah, they only want the aesthetic of a man. I can't speak too much on them, but I can speak on my friend. like ain't nothing masculine about her personality.
And I mean, she be getting mad cuz like the girls expect her to pay for everything and she's like, "I'm not a man." And I'm like, "Oh lord, that's crazy."
What? I didn't hear about that. Angie said there was a female welder that got killed cuz she was better than her coworker. That's crazy.
Yeah. You know, I have heard of men being like intimidated by women, you know, in male dominated industries. So, I know that's a thing, too. And that's sad. So, I can see why some women would not want to do certain, you know, maledominated jobs. I'm not saying that some women aren't like um conditioned or encouraged not to do that, but let's just say that all like let's just say that none of that existed, right? Do you how many women do you think would sign up for that?
I don't know. Again, maybe it it would have to go back to being conditioned that way since birth without all of the the stigmas, without, you know, the patriarchy, without that, then see what happens, you know?
So maybe maybe that can't be answered.
But I'm just saying to women right now, girl, it ain't happening. Not for most of us.
Not for most of us.
not Gloria's sister.
She is a trip, ain't she?
She going off on everybody. And even her, like, she's a stud, but she's still feminine, too.
I don't know if y'all saw that picture where she was like showing off her coochie print. I'm like, and who are you doing that for, [ __ ] Like, girl, that's crazy.
I can't.
Kay says, "Please don't underestimate the studs. They be having kids and raising them." Well, I am done.
That's crazy. See?
So, do you have a Are you like what?
With a stud. Is that why you say that?
Yeah, I did see her in that bust down wig. I was like, okay. She looked just like uh Gorilla, too.
I mean I mean she is masculine but I just don't see her as like a hardcore stud. I don't see her that way.
I can imagine that the studs, you know, know how to raise kids good cuz a lot of y'all do be like dating single mothers.
My friend, that's how she is. Like she's always with a single mother and then be complaining. I'm like, "Girl, why don't you just get a lesbian? Why do you keep dating these single mothers who've never been with a woman before? You're their first woman and they think you're going to act like a man. It's just crazy.
I don't understand it. But it's not for me to understand, girl. I ain't going to try.
Mhm.
Okay, y'all. It's midnight. I have to go. I have to make a phone call.
But this was fun. Um, I'm actually working on some other content, too. And I just wanted to go live. Um, because I have been so busy this week, and I don't know when I'm going to have a chance to like edit and post like pre-recorded content. So, I was like, let me go live for the people and, you know, so I can talk to them real quick.
But um yeah, more content coming soon.
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