This is what’s stopping your Avoidant #avoidant #avoidantattachment #attachmenttheory

Added: 2026-06-10

[00:00:00]You know the thing that will delay an avoidant reconciling with you even more than a rebound? It's provision.

[00:00:07]Simply provision.

[00:00:09]As long as an avoidant has a new job or a new car or a new home they are not going to reconcile anything with you. And don't let And don't let their birthday be around the corner.

[00:00:31]Don't let the new year be around the corner. Don't let New Year's Eve be around the corner.

[00:00:37]Because once they start feeling good again about themselves and they feel like, "Well, my life's going great. My luck My luck My luck is is is is is is is back. The the the curse is reversed."

[00:00:50]You know, like they say when the baseball teams win the championship.

[00:00:53]Once they feel like they're back up again, they feel like They don't feel like they owe anybody no apologies.

[00:01:00]Straight up.

[00:01:03]The time that you're going to get an apology from an avoidant or uh them sitting in their thoughts and their feelings will be a moment when they need you again.

[00:01:13]A a moment when their life when their life goes goes sour.

[00:01:18]And not even in those moments are you guaranteed an apology because by then they they will have found somebody else that that that is is is is convenient because they like convenience. They will find somebody that is at the job. They'll find somebody that is uh that works next door to their job. They'll find the person who um goes to their school. They'll find somebody who is in their neighborhood. They'll find somebody at the gym. They'll find a ex that they've already kind of made a relationship with or bond with. They are not going The only thing outside of a distraction, a rebound, another source of validation that is going to delay them reconciling things with you is going to be their provision. As long as they get a big check from a pending lawsuit that they were waiting on. As long as they get a new job. As long as they get a new car. As long as their money is is is is up and tight, they don't feel like they need it they they need to go back and apologize and nothing. Cuz to them their luck is back. They're they're they're good. They're good. And what's going to slow them back down even more from reconciling with you is when they start checking your social media and monitoring your social media and you look like your life is starting to get put together. When it looks like you're starting to live your life. When it start when it when it when when they're down and it looks like you're up, now they want to try harder. Cuz now it's a competition. How come you get to live your life? How come you're you're having a good time? How come you're you're doing all this stuff? Okay, now they're going to get jealous of that and then they're going to try even harder to get their provision together. And when they get their provision together, you know, now it's like, "Okay, well, now we're even. We're good. We're both living we've both a