NO FATS NO FEMS | POPULAR GAY SOCIALITE SAYS HE FELT "Uncomfortable" AT PRIDE THIS YEAR BECAUSE..

Hinzugefügt: 2026-06-07

[00:00:00]I've always been surprised, but um I think this year was different. I'm 34 years old now, and um this year I felt like instead of feeling accepted, I felt like I was looking for acceptance amongst my community, if that makes sense. You know, I think pride is supposed to be a celebratory event where you kind of celebrate your pride. But this time, I felt as though I was looking for acceptance from my community. And I don't know, I think the fat and fim thing is freaking my brain out. It's it's like penetrated my head like you fat and you f and you 34.

[00:00:44]And I felt as though not saying that in like a sexual way, fat f, but saying it is in a way that I just feel like I didn't fit in.

[00:00:56]I mean it. I'll be back. When I say fit in, oh my god, I'm messing up. When I'm saying fit in, I mean fitting in like figuratively. Please don't think literally.

[00:01:10]Oh my god, I just screwed the video. But it felt like I just didn't fit in with social setting. Y'all, am I dripping? Like I am a little insecure, you know? And I was just looking at everybody like that person was really nice. I wonder if we could be friends and I could hang out with them. But then they was having all types of parties that I was like second guessing going to parties. It felt like I was just in a weird setting. You get what I'm saying?

[00:01:39]Like friends are going to deviant parties, some friends are going to sex parties, some friends are going to private parties, but I'm like what party do I fit in at? Like I just I don't even know like where I fit in socially in the community. Like is it me overreacting or is it me um just insecure? Is it a a combination of things? Cuz I really think it's a combination of things. I think it's partly I am insecure. I think and also like I just wouldn't fit in. So tell me all what should y'all do, chat.

[00:02:17]Like just lose weight and get real skinny and what? Like I don't know what to do. And it's really been on my brain since Wednesday that I went to DC. Like I don't know, chat. Just what should I do? And this really did make me sad a little bit. Like I got to be real. Like not too sad, but it just made me feel like am I tripping? because I want to be accepted, too.

[00:02:47]>> Okay. So, first I want to say that that's a real dude right there. You know what I'm saying? Like he kept it 100. He said he was transparent. Like I'm always going to acknowledge real and transparency. All right. So, this is a good example to show y'all like you could be feminine and real a real man, too. You know what I'm saying? Cuz this is definitely it. You know, like being a man, being real is like being real with your emotions, being able to be vulnerable, not having pride and ego and just being able to be honest about your experience and what you're genuinely feeling and not deflecting and trying to act tough and all this other [ __ ] You know what I'm saying? And not bothered like he was being 100% real. So, I'mma address that just like how he gave it.

[00:03:34]So, at first when he got to talking, I was thinking that he was it was the insecurity thing because I'm like, why come they equate acceptance with sexual attraction? Like just because a dude says no fast, no fims, he's not saying, you know, like you're not good enough.

[00:03:52]But then I had to check myself because just because I may not be saying that, that don't mean that some [ __ ] ain't.

[00:03:58]Because I have seen dudes that are the no fat, no fims dudes. They won't even hang out with them, kick it with them.

[00:04:07]They look at them as they shouldn't exist, like they just less than, you know. So, I'm going say this. I agree. I think that it is a combination. A little bit of his insecurities because of how he presents and how he's getting treated.

[00:04:22]But there's a two parts to it. one, acceptance is not based on sexual attraction. So, I just want to say that real quick. However, he is stating the unrealistic and the mean girl energy that a lot of gay men adopted by saying basically you can't sit with us. You know, like in that case, I agree that's wrong. That's lame. You are missing out on some good friends by judging them based on how they look. If all your friends got to have a certain aesthetic, you already done got some horrible friends.

[00:05:00]Some of your best friends, some of the best people that be for you will not look nothing like somebody you should be hanging out with a lot of the time. Like a lot of people didn't got on my head about my best friend because we are like night and day, you know, in a lot of ways, but we got a lot in common too that they don't know about. But if I had judged him preconceived notion of his kind, I would have missed out on this friendship. My friend is masculine like me, but he's not like me in like a lot of the ways. Like I could have been a stuck up [ __ ] that cuz I come from money and [ __ ] I could have been looking at [ __ ] like, "Oh yeah, y'all [ __ ] can't [ __ ] with me if you ain't on this. If you ain't got this, if you ain't got your own car crib, you can't mess with me. You can't sit with me. I ain't never had that mindset.

[00:05:50]Now, did I wish I did sometime? Yeah.

[00:05:52]Cuz some some friends was not on my level and they should not have been around me. But you got to be able to look at people for individuals and know that friendships shouldn't have a standard of attraction or aesthetics. Friendships and family is about how your energy is with them and alignment and how well y'all get along.

[00:06:13]It's not about attraction. And that's where gay dudes got [ __ ] [ __ ] up. They think everything is about attraction.

[00:06:20]And in order for you to be their friend, they got to be attracted to you. That means that they're not a friend then.

[00:06:25]That means that you have [ __ ] in your friend circle that you want to either smash or you have smashed them and now you made them friends. That's not a friend. Real friends have never been with each other like that. That's my honest opinion. And I'm pretty sure there's some there there's some friends who have, but I don't see that and I don't recommend trying that. It's going to cause complicated issues for no reason. Friends should be friends and it should be a platonic relationship. So, it shouldn't have that. You shouldn't have no standards on looks and stuff when it comes to friendship. So, I do agree with that.

[00:07:01]That's shallow. Quit being like that.

[00:07:03]You gonna miss out on some good people.

[00:07:06]All right? Cuz he's a real one. Like, he was cool. So, I didn't see nothing wrong what he said. So, to answer his question, I will say yes. I think it's a combination of insecurities. No, you should not um lose no weight. But yeah, it's a combination of insecurities and just what is and you're noticing the shallowess of this community. These [ __ ] is shallow. That's not no secret.

[00:07:31]You know what I'm saying? So, yeah, it's a combination. Now, what can you do about it?

[00:07:38]For one, know that your worth is not attached to the way that you look.

[00:07:41]Especially when we talking about friend groups. If [ __ ] is looking at you and judging you based on the way you look, that's not a friend. You'll find some attractive [ __ ] that'll want to be friends with you and they'll try to be friends with you because you don't look as good. So, they feel like all the attention will be on them or you're supposed to be their little sidekick or whatever. So, look out for that, too.

[00:08:01]Um, so I would focus on like trying to find genuine real friendships and people who are genuine. Don't judge them based on how they look and what they got going on. It needs to be about like basically can y'all be two big ass kids together without any [ __ ] That's a friend at the end of the day, you know? Like, so as far as him not feeling like he could go to places and be a part, [ __ ] that [ __ ] [ __ ] they standards, [ __ ] Go out, have fun, enjoy yourself, be around people who is like-minded. If you don't got people who is like-minded, then sit the [ __ ] out. Cuz all it's going to do, like, this is not an environment that you go to solo dooo on some optimistic [ __ ] Like this is very clickish, very mean girl high school energy. like have you some friends or just sit it out cuz you're not missing out on [ __ ] at that point besides getting your feelings hurt like you said. You know what I'm saying?

[00:09:02]So definitely pick your battles as well.

[00:09:05]You can't change these shallow ass [ __ ] They going to be stuck up. They going to be weird and a lot of it's going to come back on them at the end of the day when they getting backed and [ __ ] over by that attractive homeboy that they thought fat fit an aesthetic.

[00:09:20]You know what I'm saying? and the no fats, no fibs [ __ ] going to do him dirty as a [ __ ] So sit back and watch the show pretty much. You know what I'm saying? Cuz it's that's not a real dude right there. Now, as far as his sexual attraction, if he doesn't want someone who's overweight and feminine, then then so be it. But like I said, attraction and acceptance is two totally different things. So that's what I got to say on that. Let me know what y'all think. Hit them comments up, like this video. Hey, y'all know exactly what it is. I'm going to see y'all on the next one. Peace.