Why patriarchy needs women to see heterosexuality as inescapable #radicalfeminism #womensrights

Added: 2026-06-02

[00:00:00]So, in my 2025 essay, Choose Lesbian, I wrote, "Apparently, and maybe in reality, for patriarchy to endure, it must not be seen as possible for women to escape heterosexuality."

[00:00:15]Meanwhile, heterosexuality is unavoidably unequal because it is structurally impossible to equalize the role of heterosexual wife-mother within a patriarchal system.

[00:00:28]Increasingly, I see women understanding this. I see women regretting their straightness on social media all the time.

[00:00:36]It goes something like this. A woman will tell a horrendous [clears throat] personal story about how she had a terrifying date with a man or a disgusting date with a man. She says she feels lucky to have escaped safely, and then she'll follow up her story with a familiar script of utter helplessness.

[00:00:55]"If only I weren't heterosexual. If only I could have been born a lesbian."

[00:01:03]Then I described in the article two types of current obstacles for women who might otherwise choose to be lesbians.