Society exhibits a significant double standard in marriage practices: polygamy (one man with multiple wives) is often celebrated as a sign of success and masculinity, while polyandry (one woman with multiple husbands) is typically shamed and condemned. This inequality stems from male-centered societal structures that historically view men as 'keys' (master keys that can open many padlocks) and women as 'padlocks' (dynamic but less valuable). Both practices carry similar risks of paternity fraud and relationship complications, yet society accepts one while rejecting the other, reflecting broader gender biases in relationship expectations.
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If Men Can Have Multiple Wives, Why Can’t Women Have Multiple Husbands? | WHOT Podcast S4 Ep 23
Added:If a man marries two wives or more, the society calls him successful.
>> Yeah.
>> A big man.
>> He's a big man.
>> But if a woman marries more than one, she's seen as >> a >> pro a [clears throat] >> in a society where they tell you a man is a key. A key that can open many padlocks is called what?
>> A master key.
>> But a padlock that can be opened by many keys is what? [laughter] By the way, I'm not endorsing that analysis. I find it utterly stupid, right? I think that analysis is is complete bow dash. You can look at it from the perspective of a padlock that can be opened with many kids being a dynamic padlock.
Dynamism.
I mean, but again, like I said, I'm not running with that analogy. So, whatever is making cracking you guys up is really your business, right? Let's get into the conversation. David, >> welcome guys to another episode of the world podcast. We are glad that you are here. We are happy that you are part of the family. For the new members, new subscribers, welcome. We love you. We appreciate you being here. Thank you very much. My name is David the Lime Maker and with me is Spike the Man. Sorry, I was like showing them love. So, I didn't want you to interrupt. Yeah. See, I'm still showing them love. Love to you guys. And you know there's someone that has much more love in her heart than these two Atlas guys.
>> She tells us to be a good guy. She tells us to be um to showcase to the world that we can be better persons, right?
And we have >> When have I ever said that I don't hold you to high expectations?
>> Are you serious?
>> I don't hold you to high.
>> You've made everybody know that we are not to be trusted. Don't follow these guys. They are bad guys. Even from the last episode when we're talking about what being a good guy is all about, I said I know you guys are not one. Bam.
>> I don't >> Okay, so someone that crucifies us, >> I don't recall. I don't recall, but I'm happy to be here.
>> There's an that says that who shits no remember now who pack sheets remember.
>> The one that is always packing people [ __ ] But okay.
>> But yeah, that's also one thing that she does for us. Like that's why she's our mama.
>> Yeah. Big N. That's why I call her of life. Senior man of what podcast?
>> Senior man. Anyways guys, make sure you get your PVC. Election is around the corner and one of the huge things that is happening right now in the world is that the World Cup is happening. Make sure you try and keep yourself up to date. Just be watching. Just if your husband is watching, just try and release.
>> I know. Why? I say Nigeria no good, but >> I'll never support any country Nigeria.
>> You supported Mexico though. But >> nice. That's good. I mean their jersey looks like this too.
>> Yeah, >> we are one.
>> We support Mexico over over South Africa for sure.
>> Over those people everybody. Do you know my name? My name was Yuan Spike.
[laughter] Rodrigo Spike.
I saw a particular tweet where somebody was telling her husband how the insecurity of Nigeria is really crazy and how things are not going well in Nigeria. And the man said that that one is actually a big issue to solve but let us solve the one we can solve now.
Please climb bed.
>> Oh, >> so make sure as you are thinking about the big issues of Nigeria and the world at large, make sure you are solving immediate issues, close and nuclear issues. Make sure you are solving them.
And with that, we welcome you to the podcast. Make sure you like, share, and subscribe. And please, please follow us on all social media platform at what podcast? Facebook, Twitter, Tik Tok and Instagram. Thank you very much guys. Love you. These are the highlights of the week. Firstly, Papay Jesa and his wife welcome new baby 7 months after prison sentence. What a story. You see when the story broke out here, I've seen reactions online. I've seen reactions and um number one debates from >> was he sleeping with I in the cell while he was in prison.
>> I mean >> cuz he was just released 7 months ago >> on that point. Someone said he released before he was released >> Nigerians.
>> That's the comment of the week from the highlight of the week. But yeah, someone also said something and um I think he he it brought up a question inside of me.
Someone said, "I can't be the only one disappointed in Lumini." And Lumini is like um >> his his wife, >> his fiance, yeah, his wife that gave birth to him. She's a fashion designer.
And I felt okay, come >> this guy was tried for um >> being a pedophile.
>> Yeah. Child abuse um which he spent time for in the prison and he came out. So I was I was like does this man not deserve a life after he has served punishment for what he was guilty of? M >> because even the oldest when I discovered it prawned out from someone who was talking about I'm disappointed in this woman. So I was like which woman? Then I like now got to know that okay it was someone that gave birth to.
So my question is after serving your punishment for being guilty of child abuse do you not deserve a life? Do you not deserve a woman to be in your life?
>> We're not going to tell you what you do or do not deserve because I actually did a mini deep dive into the whole thing.
And first of all, this person was supposed to be jailed for 20 years, but then they were sh to >> beat it down to this. They changed some things. They they cleared him of his charges from 2013, 2014. He already had an assault charge from that time. They cleared him of one other charge where they said he used a key to assault a child because of all of that. So they were able to waterize down to three years and five years and whatnot. I don't know the legal jargon for that.
But my point is how exactly is society supposed to look at you the same way if you have been convicted of assaulting a child constantly like more than once. So it's normal that society is not going to want to forgive you for it. Right? Of course you can you can have a life if the people around you choose to forgive you. No problem. But this is my take. If he did it before, he will do it again.
Or let's say could do it again.
[laughter] >> I mean that song is took me no.
>> Oh god. But my point is this, right?
>> I I would personally not trust this person to have kids with this kind of person because I feel like if you can do it for anybody, you can do it with my kids. I mean, we've seen a lot of people have assaulted their children. So I just think it's wise not to take chances and so it's normal for people to have that expectation of a successful fashion designer like that and say huh how far now [snorts] >> how could you do this?
>> So what then is the point of correctional center if you're saying when a man goes to prison says the term for the offense he committed and comes back into the society and the society is not accepting him back.
>> It's normal. Society will definitely push back. Like even we on average they beat a child for being stubborn. The child still remains stubborn. When somebody does something that hurts you, you move with caution. It's normal. And then when it's now something that affects a baby, you now hear that somebody had a baby with the person.
Now, forget correctional center. It's not correcting n.
>> We all believe that this is the man's wife, right?
>> Number one. And if she has stayed with him throughout the period that he was being charged for whatever he was guilty of and then he went to prison and >> she still chose to stay.
>> We should allow her freedom, her life, her choice. And if she has made that choice to give birth, maybe she has seen something that's seen this person and she decides to have a child.
>> Everybody online, you are online. You don't know what is going on at the back.
You don't know what has changed. You don't know what has affected him in the correctional center. It is a correctional center for a reason and it has changed who he is. It has changed his perception about things and his wife made me see that.
>> You're not you are not very sure. You're not sure.
I want to I want to believe in the judgment of the wife that has chosen to give birth for him.
>> So I believe she has a thinking capon and she has chosen to do life with him.
Sorry. So from your own point of view now you think society should actually cut him a slack because >> the wife that has chosen to stay with him remain with him as in something the whole society do not see now.
>> Yeah. But then there's also the fact that it's some of these same kind of wives that have seen something in the men and so they cover up for their husbands and they believe that their husbands cannot actually do something like that. Even if in fact their husband is actually doing something like that chosen one there's no there's no absolute truth. Now we've seen absolute truth. We've seen there's no absolute truth. You are not you telling us that we should not have an absolute truth but you have them. There is no absolute truth. That's my point. There can be an absolute truth that we don't know.
That's my point.
There's an absolute truth and that truth is that that woman knows something. That is an absolute truth. I don't know it.
You don't know it. The society doesn't society doesn't know it. But there is an absolute >> They're literally saying the same thing.
And what I'm saying is you cannot say, "Oh, the woman may see that the man has changed." That is a possibility. That is possibility number one and possibility number two. Possibility number three is also Oh, normal. Possibility number three is also the same case with women who have husbands that have assaulted people and they know we saw the case with toa but she the woman first lied >> she knew but she lied that the man did not do it that's also a possibility you cannot exempt it just because oh she say the woman did not give birth to children for the man but there are different possibilities we just don't know the truth and we don't know we we really don't know it's normal see the internet to talk it's normal people give feedback especially when you put your your business out there people will give feedback people would ask questions is normal. So we cannot say oh people should not say this. It's a possibility and the possibility is right. If 10 years from now we hear that or we find out that the woman left the man because if she found out that the man was assaulting the child, what are we going to say? We say oh and we gave them benefit of doubt, people will give possibilities. No, >> it's normal. Well, well, I actually agree with the fact that um when you go to a correctional center or when you're guilty of an offense and you come out, you are not really the same person because a crime is not a crime against another person. It's a crime against the public.
>> It's a crime against everybody. It's a crime against the society. So, if society has found you guilty of an offense which in the case of Jesus and being a pedophile, >> he has gone to a correctional center and he has come out again. I think the society have the responsibility to hold him at some certain standard and everybody relating with him to also expect that hey hello you are a fashion designer who has made it out yourself you are good in the society you are a well done you are a well-known um fashion designer figure in the fashion space >> we don't expect you to be with this kind of person because the society has seen this person to be >> wrong or to be to be a criminal society this as old society. So I don't think >> the um conversation is wrong.
>> Do you understand what I'm saying? I don't think the comments are wrong. But I just also feel that >> the society should actually cut people who come back from prison some slack because you never can tell.
>> You never can tell. And this time he's not against Babai Ja. He's against the woman that decided to cut him some slack.
>> So sometimes the society should just smear that because the conversation against that woman is just too much.
>> Yeah.
>> It's just too much. And the people that are coming for the woman majorly are women and that is my major issue.
>> What do you mean is your major issue when the same women that when is this same women that under the category of people that were assaulted by this man that was proven by court like it's normal now if you're the you you men also talk when you find out that oh one woman somebody of rape or blah blah blah. You see a lot of men coming out to speak. So why is it an issue? It shouldn't be an issue. One of my major issues concerning this is that the major people that have come out against that woman are women. And this also beats the fact where we say that women should be allowed the ability to choose the ability to make decisions for themselves. Now a fellow woman makes a decision for ourselves to do life with a particular man and everyone is coming out to >> dangerously banter and dangerously come out and call out that particular woman.
She has made a decision. Let us respect that decision. That is what happens.
Yes. We don't want to respect the decision that she has made.
>> I agree with you. I agree with you. But I also feel that it is also women looking out for someone else because now now WHEN YOU LOOK AT when you look at another woman in a good way, but the way the social media has been looking out for you, there are people abuses abuses.
It's not let me be an advocate on this. It's not.
>> They say prevention is better than cure.
So they the society in this case believe that you can prevent whatever that we think might happen to you by not actually choosing to be with that man >> because you've seen a pattern before.
>> Not you. We >> we exactly we pattern. So we are like uh are you sure about that choice that choice you're making? Are you sure about it? So I get that point of it. But I'm also saying that I actually think society should cut him and the woman some slack. He has gone to time. He has done his time. He's back outside. Just allow them. Oh, congratulations. I hope you don't experience low. I hope because I've agreed with you. I've agreed with the women.
>> Spike, thank you for advocating for me.
But I'd like to address this specifically.
>> What do you people want? You say, "Oh, it's women that are calling this person out." But it's the same people that say, "Now woman, they do women." When you see women that are actually looking out for somebody and saying, "Oh, hey, are you sure that you should like one of the main trends that I saw from celebrities was how would you do this knowing what this person has done?" It is looking out. Don't come and say it's women that are nobody cares about your happiness.
If if it was a normal celebrity who did not have a trend of a bad trend, everybody will say congratulations. Is she the first person to get pregnant and announce it? Everybody will say congratulations. So don't don't make it about a women thing because women have to speak up especially when this same person has a proven legal case and jail time of assaulting girls >> that he has served the time for >> but and then you are not bringing you're not making it the women thing please.
>> If the government can rehabilitate bandits I believe anybody can change.
>> So >> no you leave your daughter beside a convicted pedophile let me hear what you have to say. Try it first. leave your child or your sister beside a convicted pedophile.
>> Guys, let us know in the comment section if you would actually leave your child with a convicted pedophile and if you can actually live with a pedophile or marry a pedophile. Who has saved this time? Yeah, remember save this time.
Another beautiful highlight that happened during the week. This one took me out when I saw it. I'm like, nah, you must listen to this. Anra state government arrested alleged fake pastors, remember pastors, and charged them to court. An amra state governor Soludo set a bill condition of what?
Heal one blind person and go home. Shut down. The day of Pentecost is upon us.
>> Ah, this is for >> wisdom. I love it.
>> No, I I really hope they can create a Netflix series out of this [laughter] >> because imagine somebody that their ministry is not healing ministry. like they are actual legit pastors but they don't have healing ministry but they've been using healing ministry as side gig you understand >> that kind of person now this is the time that your is going to be out in the open >> I know you soon leave an [laughter] I guess are you serious >> business is going to spoil what >> say it's time for you to >> I'm not a war >> but it is actually a very big deal because I want every single state to actually implement this kind of stuff >> it is actually necessary I'm not saying the concept of heal blind person and go home >> there can be other things that just really verify because the amount of fake pastors you have seen nowadays it's alarming you are walking in the market and then somebody is actually just screaming and praying for people and shouting on the road this not even preaching the gospel praying.
>> Hey, you have a sister.
>> She's African.
>> M.
>> She just broke her leg. [laughter] >> She has twice.
>> She like she has twice. They'll just tell you like the most obvious things and they tell you >> she just graduated recently.
>> She's going to have an accident next week. Give me 5Ks to find out when and why.
>> Bro, I've met people like that. I'm I'm really looking at I'm really looking at how the government can actually cail fake pastors because I'm looking at what you said now.
>> Now imagine someone is not a fake pastor >> and he doesn't have the in ministry and they just ptor maybe he didn't lie.
Maybe some people just think because he prayed that the blind should get sight they did not get their sight and you know people can easily tag someone a fake pastor once once what they expecting you are not giving them.
>> Mhm.
>> And they don't have faith. So I think this is as much as we say okay it's going to help the society at the same time I don't think it's very good for the Christian community. No no no there are different type of ministries which is where I think you might actually have it mixed up.
>> He's arresting fake pastors that say they can do miracles. There are teachers they evangelists.
>> There are people that prophesy and they are healers also. Yeah. So if your ministry is healing like it is actually what you are called to do, >> you will never be making about it.
>> The ones that do the miracle steady, they are not arresting those ones. The ones that they know are actually real pastors. The fake ones that they have seen signs that you you tell somebody go and find out about somebody or you tell them to come and act in your church and you are looking suspicious we are calling you we arrested >> but at the same time even real pastor if you tell make ill person that God still get the answer to that. So I I really just feel he's going to make a mockery at some point of of real pastors. I I get what you're saying because then there is the place where if this person is even a legit pastor in terms of healing ministry >> they it can look like they are trying to tempt God by asking God prove yourself so that these people would release you get like Elijah story imagine say God come say I actually do not want to >> and fire come down >> Elijah is not a fake prophet >> now imagine say God no Ed tell you say at that point I want to showcase myself arresting real pastors he's arresting fake pastors like that is the whole point arresting fake pastor >> what spike is saying is what if someone actually gets mixed up in this thing like the person is painted as an alleged fake >> fake pastor that means you have a track record of being A FAKE PASTOR >> NO THAT IS IT >> THERE ARE pastors that they actually heal people right some >> not even or they actually do mira miracles.
>> Some some some miracles God has answered their prayers. Yeah. And some one grandma will just come bring someone on wheel which raise him up and that man will in honesty pray for that person to stand up do everything possible fast and pray and nothing will happen and that woman will go that one a fake pastor this that. So there's also a possibility of yes as much as much as it is very easy for you to know that okay I mean if you are logical this person is a is a fake pastor is the same way that is very easy for you to mix up who is a real pastor and a fake pastor. So when you not tell them you give them test write this test and the person fail. So what do you expect? So I think is is dicey.
>> It's tricky but they should figure it out. Me I like it. Sh.
>> I mean if they make a series out of it I will watch. It will do more good than harm though.
>> Yeah. Yeah it will do. It will >> because Nigerians are also some of the most religious persons like they once they see a pastor that has prophesied one nonsense prophecy that after the person has done their research but they don't know that the person has done their research. they can start worshiping the person as a god, right?
They make everything about oh the the pastor, the god of this person, the god of that person. Meanwhile, this person is actually a fraud, right? So, I believe that this particular policy or whatever is going to help is going to do more more good than bad actually.
>> As a fake pastor prophesied to you before >> pastor no but ala yes twice. See those are the two experiences that we you know they used to say talk about fake prophets like I mean from Christian and Muslim >> this day. Okay. I went to visit one of my girlfriend. Not one of my Jesus. Yes.
I went to visit >> my d girlfriend.
>> Gh.
[laughter] >> My d girlfriend.
>> I went to visit my den girlfriend. Thank you for that word. So I went to buy bag of water for her. Like there was no water inside. So I just stepped out of our house. So when I wanted to buy the water, they were doing faji like maybe like a party I know there was 10 those two alpha like proper alpha just walked up to me. I was like ah >> I would like to say this in your but let me just say it in English that we were seated there and we saw you and we felt >> that we need to speak to you. I was like and I'm very respectful to elderly people. It's like okay sir like he said ah so I'm seeing you you are supposed to have traveled out to >> I like get your dark passes in so that then I was still in university so he was like you actually you are very very smart you understand you know book you this you that that I am the one in my family that supposed to travel out and bring everybody >> low key yeah like he enter me I swear to Like it was already like in said that >> I needed to do something to make sure that my to activate it that I needed a dream to come true like I needed to do something >> they call it s I need to do s I was like >> I used to hear about this but immedately he brought that um angle I was like so like h okay let me give you my number he gave me his number I collected his number you know normally if you give person your number you supposed to flash the person ah okay so say WhatsApp number is that your WhatsApp number said yes I okay don't worry that I will text you >> on WhatsApp >> on WhatsApp I will text you on WhatsApp so that was like the end of the conversation and I made sure that I didn't go out of that house till they were done with that party because I did not text them the second one that happened was on a night I was just trekking on it road if you know you know it so they now parked beside me maybe they parked beside me I don't know but I saw that two people you know that front seat two two people were seated in that front seat. So number one he showed me that you guys were not comfortable. You guys are [laughter] >> doing you for two people to say that in front of a Camry in the front. That's when our father said ah brotherh glory is bright. Your glory the future is bright.
>> [clears throat] >> the friends you are following will not allow you to reach that your glory >> as you pass me that's >> I swear to God I saw this guy talk I will never forget this experience in front of state in if you know you know this place I I remember this very well but M I don't know.
>> Sorry, I cannot interpret it. It's too plenty.
>> Okay. So, he's saying that I would do >> Don't worry. There's work that needs to be done.
>> Yeah, there's work that needs to be done. We do you know celebration inviting you know some you know it needs to be for message the message they receive nothing >> how you want to get your glory >> guy bro I just like and I like me and I'm always very receptive ah yes sir I will call you sir give me your number I collected his number that one even I even gave that one my number that one texted me one day he called me the second day I not pick that Because me, my daddy is a reverend and what I believe that whatever prayer that >> you the the on my mother when she they pray at the moment no worry he rich.
>> Mine was even very rich.
>> Mine was really true. I was with one of our directors inside the quarters. Then a bike just passed.
>> The bike passed and went to the front.
Then he stopped. I was just talking with him and next thing the bike turned and the person screamed from afar. Brother >> brother come >> brother.
>> No that brother always very respectful.
>> Yeah you on bike. I am standing in front of your house.
>> Yeah.
>> You did not bring the bike to come and meet me. I should trek. I thought I looked at it. Maybe it is not me. But the only reason I figured it was going to be me was because my hair was made. I looked at your target audience target I know I'm used to you guys. So I looked at him I said >> you are the brother you cannot be me that is the brother. So >> you look at your like the person you were with.
>> Yeah. So she called and said you >> come.
>> And I said you two. He said come let's meet and do. So I started walking slowly. She now tapped the bike man to move forward. So you moved and then we met and she said okay >> okay >> so this is a little bit heavy for you get a girl [laughter] >> okay come again you help me with the favor God wants to use you >> I [clears throat] said God wants to use my not me >> like God did not tell me like that's that's sketchy for you. God, right? But no problem. So what is it? She now said >> I am a twin >> of a set of twins. I said oh okay. And I said so which one are you?
>> Ti ki. She said I am tyu. And I'm like all right money. [laughter] Said tony. She said we have a prayer that I want to do and I want to do it for you but you are going to buy sutana.
Yeah.
>> For me, I'm my >> twin.
>> Twin.
>> What do you mean?
>> What do you mean?
>> I understand.
>> Yeah.
>> She was like, so she >> can you do it?
>> What was what was your answer?
>> I said, "How much is your own?"
[laughter] make,000 let know your own because me too I'm selling and I know where you're coming from. So how much is your sutam? me expecting that maybe she just say oh this one cute amount that I can okay I was in a good mood I can actually just give you if you celestia I can give you I know your origin then let me just help your ministry >> and he said pay me 55K you don't have the fear of God [laughter] AH SO 110,000 >> AT the time judge you 55k your own two of you one you ask God do not tell you [laughter] God not tell you my op for her I said should I open my op for you >> the money that is there is money I want to spike man now >> those people have audacity >> 710 >> those people have audacity guys audacity >> it's very dangerous >> audacity And you wonder how they do it fearlessly.
>> Yeah, >> it's natural.
I would share my own story, but it's [snorts] heavy. Mom is attempted kidnap. That's what they did. Won't pay me. They carried me.
>> But I'm going to share it on that side.
Maybe we should pay money because that story I cannot share it for free. For free. No way.
>> See what me I'm interested is I want to read comments. I want see if you have that story that false prophet story please share it in the comment section bro >> those people have audacity you question their audacity like >> in all of these things that you have said >> I want to create a controversy >> okay bring it on >> say preach preacher preach preacher >> preach fake pastor >> well [laughter] >> no but a preacher can be doesn't have to be real or fake preacher is a preacher No a preacher is a preacher like in the sense of preaching.
>> Okay. So even if you are preaching fake some preaches preaching you can preach heresy.
>> There is no fake preacher. Shake me. Yes that's Rama. Preaching is preaching.
>> Even this way said do now preaching.
>> Yes. Preaching is preaching. I know fake preacher.
I'm ashamed of everybody on this podcast. [laughter] If you have watched to this point, if they're going to cause you not to like and subscribe, please, for my sake, like and subscribe. Do it for me.
>> Do it for me.
>> Ah, I said do it for me. Said do it for me.
>> WHY WOMAN GET POWER? WOMEN GET POWER. Do it for me. They don't even hear us.
>> I go subscribe. [laughter] >> All right. All right. All right. All right. Let [snorts] me just create a little controversy out here. Would you rather sell tickets to your wedding or sell a >> I rather sell a because of the landscape of Nigeria.
>> I would rather sell.
>> They're very funny people. Let me give you your collect a carry your property.
Go and saw it and come for my wedding because people are very funny and I remember last December during the whole December thing and there were concerts everywhere. I remember there was so much rave about fake tickets, people selling fake tickets, people saying oh sending fake transfer 2025 December but yes 2026 Nigerians are very funny transfer fake ticket it was all over the place >> people still send tickets through WhatsApp and >> that's most that people were paying for somebody that lost WhatsApp on fake transfer are you serious >> 10 million yeah they were sending him receipts on WhatsApp so it was recording on Google form And by the time you now they discover that Google form to do the registration.
>> Yes. They were sending him receipts on WhatsApp.
>> So you're saying that in Nigeria in 2025 2026 people do not use the confetti app to sell tickets.
>> Confett confetti app.
>> Wait most organiz most organizers don't use confetti app. No not shy now. I said confetti app. You said shai confetti app.
>> I've never heard of it.
>> Okay. So I will not go into the app here but let me just talk about what they do.
>> You want to give promotion with this one?
>> I go do promotion.
>> I go wait I slap you like this.
>> See I'm doing this promotion with the with my full chest and that's why I said I would rather sell tickets to my wedding than sell to my wedding. The previous event I hosted before this recent event that I used Confessi for was um >> a Jesse party.
>> Wait, I think I should clarify you guys.
Spike is a party person. Like Spike hosts parties. If you want a popping party, spike is if you want to know.
Wait, wait. If you want to know the actual meaning behind that spike was from the fact that I'm the life of the party. So when you spike drinks, >> I spike up parties.
>> Oh, come on. [laughter] >> Oh Jesus, they just got that for free.
What the [ __ ] I think I'm just saying it online for the first time. So like I spike up parties. That's where I got the name from. So yes, the previous party I hosted before the latest one was between me and someone >> and we were selling tickets by number you know we would do fly number there to reserve by >> so it was a lot that we couldn't people were just showing us transfer they will say 3k that time the regular was 3k they will show you the name of the account at the entrance >> so it was a lot we couldn't >> handle >> we couldn't handle the number of people that came for the event and we lost made a lot of money. I hosted the event with a friend. We lost a lot of money. We we couldn't organize the event very well.
We didn't make enough profit.
>> Then I I found Confetti app.
>> Yeah.
>> So what I did was I just organized the event, planned the event. So I now made sure that everybody that wanted to come for the event went to buy tickets on the Confetti app. So what they have just did for me was if you're coming for the event whether you are from Nasarawa US wherever in the world wherever in Nigeria they will just help me sell the ticket to you they will give you a QR code that what I just had to do at the entrance was just and enter and that is what I want to do for my wedding.
>> So you were able to manage like everything on the app. It not concern me. It not concern me the app. It's not me. It is the app. Sorry, bro. It is It is 2026. The app was just doing they will just sell the ticket to you. They will give you the date. They will give you the email everything. Nobody was selling another ticket, fake ticket elsewhere because anybody that was going to sell to you outside of the norm outside of the app, they were going to sell more to you. So, and I had enough tickets.
>> So, they have told me that ticket has finished me. I just increase the limit sell to 50 more people. And I was selling my ticket. All they were just doing is just come to my event and I had someone to look sorry was at the entrance. Wait was at the entrance and all she was doing was just scr NOW FOR MY WEDDING. You see all you people guy this is personal. You see all you people that used to do branch is coming for my wedding. You will now come because there is ashure aloku there's one yard of ash >> you now to add it to your >> you now add you now use it to do coret [laughter] or what do you call you now be come to my wedding without buying a you now come and eat I actually do not want that for my wedding so I believe as an planning my event planning my wedding the best thing I would do >> is to sell tickets now my ticket will come with a >> that is the brain behind it and I'm selling my ticket on confetti Now, wow, these people is as if you've sold your soul TO THEM. PEOPLE SHOULD COME AND PAY MONEY. Come and pay money.
Okay, let me let me just add one thing.
Shall I tell you the beauty of the event? Should I tell you the beauty of Don't tell me I don't even this one? Hear this one out. This one out. Get this one out.
>> For introverts that don't know where to go, just enter confetti app. Any event that is close to you, you can buy their ticket. So branch you want to do brush for my wedding [laughter] and you're around but you go buy tickets that is why I make my money from my wedding.
>> I don't really I don't really like the idea of this >> free advert.
>> Yes.
>> No no no message you I don't like this DM. For real for real I just need to give them props. I just need to >> No, no, no. My face my face cannot be here talking about except now you go shoot this video. [laughter] Do it for me now. Do it for you as well. They will message us now.
>> Who are you to me?
>> I dare you to I dare you to message me.
>> So, okay. You know what we'll do in this video? Everybody just tag that confetti handle. Tag them. Tag them to this video. I do it for us. Tag them to this video. They can do it now.
>> Let them come and pour money because this can't be for free.
>> Comment comment confetti in the comment section. Comment their confetti event.
Confetti app I use. I don't know if they have a website. I don't know.
>> But just Confetti app, whatever their handle is, just mention it in the comment section. Thank you very much. I love you people.
>> I don't trust >> But yeah, I would rather sell a ticket than sell for my >> I don't trust this. I don't I don't buy it. I don't I don't like it.
>> But if they if the message, I'll give Spike 50k.
>> But still, I'm on the train of ash. I love the Ashbi culture because I believe that the Ashbi culture is what makes our weddings beautiful. And I know you said you still sell ash on the side, but I don't know. I don't really see the the need for a ticket. I'm just going to give you like plus I also feel like Nigerians will respond better to sales of ash. Like once they hear that there's ash and the ash is even like a scar one guy. They are willing to pay for it 150k 200k.
They'll pay for it and they will come and you will get your profit as the person hosting that event. You get your profit. You get it very very well. So I'm I'm on the Ashby back.
>> How much profit do you think people make on Ashbi? Let me check your mindset.
>> I know they make how many% >> 100% profit.
>> 100%.
>> Yes. I'm I'm saying they make 100% profit on a for for a fact.
>> Yeah.
>> I mean if you're selling a making less than 100% it means you're not doing the right thing.
>> It means you're a Christian.
>> But where my point of view is coming is that I'm selling a ticket now. Even let me even remove a now >> I'm selling a ticket. Whatever you'd like, you wear just come to my party.
All you just need to do is just pay 30 40,000 and my my witness spike and his babe, >> bro. Oh, so you >> I mean Spike is a people's person. So I think it's worth >> No, no, no, no. For me here, I believe that what celebrities should do is actually sell tickets. Now sell table, you can sell table, you can sell all these things. So if if my table is 1 million you are investing you are investing bro they get what's it called now after party >> as per movie >> after party and you drink you do all these things bro I want to make my wedding party an event >> like a concert >> an event bro if you're coming you so anybody can come and I like the fact that even if you don't know me >> you can come for the party just make sure that you buy tickets >> the spike wedding party this pela wedding party. Come on for the rich alone. You're just gassing him up wrongly. You're just gassing up. Anybody can buy a quick one. No, not a is a Anyways, let's [laughter] >> let me ask you how much would you sell a ticket?
>> It depends on when I'm getting married.
>> When it is now, if this year, how much are you selling a ticket?
>> I'm selling my ticket 35,000.
>> 35,000. But if it's like 2030 >> 2030 our economy I'll sell in dollars by then >> don't worry you sell for you you're going to sell your ticket for 35,000 I'm going to sell ashi for 80,000 NRA and I'm going to buy in bulk at 30,000 per year >> and you invite 3,000 okay so are you doing no a no entry >> yes I would rather sell you a make 100% profit and then know that whatever you do >> how much going to be >> you said 80k You said for 80k like I'm not giving you anything because I'm definitely selling for 35,000. You are selling for 35,000 and I'm selling a that I bought in bulk for 30k.
>> Yes.
>> I'm gaining 50k extra.
>> Yes. How many people will buy that 80k?
>> Uh yes. How many people even has value? He has value. How many people will buy it? 80k.
You can still me. I'M TELLING YOU. I'm telling you, wear any [ __ ] thing you have in your house. I'm not even picking color for my wedding.
>> Just make sure that you're coming with my to my wedding.
>> If I'm giving tickets and dress code, if I'm giving you 35,000 NRA and there's nothing that used to remember your wedding again after that day, >> you remember the vibes and the fun now.
People go for concert and they remember.
>> But guess what? You remember it check your cupboard. So, so if you imagine the food is not enough and ah now this clothes I wear go >> guys this conversation >> I would rather sell a ticket and I'll sell it is about sentiment and different sentiments you people have different perspectives to life >> so let's just leave it at that David I will sell a for my wedding I also sell tickets so I I [laughter] will meet in the middle >> I will sell tickets I the people that get that pay for and still buy tickets they will have a different you know category there.
>> I love that. I love that.
What's that thing >> will be more there'll be you know there'll be just something to just >> think about it if you want to buy a we also give you a ticket >> so it means that you don't come without ticket you cannot enter for those people that used to safy >> no if I s if I give you a >> I will put the access card inside the >> so one card per one >> one card per cannot buy for you and your child and your child not so out of your yard >> no your% enter the wedding come. No, no, no. There's age limit. If you are less than 18, you can come with your parents.
>> But wait, what's under 18 doing at my wedding? No, don't come. Spike, [laughter] don't come. I don't want under age at my wedding.
>> Oh, you can have a different hall for small >> spike. You know the one that even pays >> like children church. Spike. [laughter] >> Spike, do you know what pains me for you?
>> Yeah.
>> That your wedding.
>> Do you know you can actually lose a lot if your baby's not fine?
>> Who?
>> That's a conditional statement. But yeah, I agree with you. If the baby is not fine, >> you not go sell.
>> You not go sell because me I not really [laughter] >> like a business >> business idea.
>> We talk about we take off set. We talk [laughter] >> this is how cabals are made. This is how they are planned down from Nigeria. They just sit down like this. That's why they doing it. Shameless people. You can't blame us guys. Whatever you think in the comment section whether you are doing a or you are doing tickets let us know if you are ticket team spike. Yeah. Abby team me >> available.
Naomi can ruin a man. Every woman can do that.
>> Thank you. Is that what Eve did? Hey, >> see guys, something that took me down the generational journey of my life was when I saw this particular tweet and that's why I brought it to you guys. I just remembered how excited I was to stop using pencils and start writing with a pen in primary 3. Funny how the smallest things felt like major milestones back then.
>> I know, right?
>> I remember vividly where I was seated when I was told >> adulthood n scam. That was that's a very cool memory for me because I had already started using pen at home. So I was just waiting for them to give me the permission to use pen to write on my actual school books >> and when they gave me that permission guy >> the crazy thing is that there was classism at that point that was introduction of classism in Nigeria >> bro if they have not promoted you if they've not promoted you and you're in the same class and you like you are still using pencil I am using pen you follow me talk you write noise maker if you write pencil me I clean use pen write your own >> you know clean the pen grow there were a lot of small wins that we really really >> so there was a point there was a point whereby if you started using our education >> huh education for ladies so high education >> to write damn I really I really really really did enjoy childhood and that's why I'm saying that the next generation >> that everything would feel so computerized everything will feel so their own my generation to go from Windows laptop to MacBook.
>> I mean MacBook might have something that is bigger than be like >> when we used to use MacBook and >> or there will be classes that you can start using like you you'll be using notebooks they want you to learn how to write and then when you practiced how to write and perfected it now say okay now you can use um laptops >> maybe when you get to Premier 3 it's it's normal each generation is going to have their own thing. I think one of the wins that we had like one of those things that made you like a big girl or a big boy that time was if you had those fountain pens that had different colors blue, green, red, like those colors.
>> Teachers can borrow your pen.
>> Yeah. Yeah.
>> Exactly. [laughter] >> So you feel like that special kid to be using those pens.
>> So that was that was like really tough.
>> But even as adult or let me say growing up, there were still those like little little things that we celebrated like personally in my house here whenever we on the Jenna there's lights. You see that switch for you to switch from generator to even not go off till now brokenness.
Happiness is real.
>> My only big win is custard. I never miss making custard. If I make custard, >> that's such a flex for me. And there are people that don't know how to make custard.
>> Wait, wait, wait. Flex your win.
>> But I don't I strongly believe that nobody is perfect at making custard.
>> I am >> I always believe that if you make custard perfectly well is a fluke.
>> Is a fluke.
>> Okay. So each time that we a fluke each time that you successfully made that custard is a fluke. My broing custard or pop very well. Bro, if you live with my mom, my mom will beat you >> to the point that you pray to the custard. Bro, it means nobody IS GOOD AT MAKING.
>> I SPIRITUALLY learned how to make custard. I told Jesus, I said, "Jesus, if I make this custard and the thickness, I will serve you for the rest of my days." Bro, now lock everybody.
>> It's not luck. It's actually pretty simple.
>> You will do well. I promise you.
>> It's pretty simple.
>> Okay. Sincere question.
Patience. Be sincere. Be sincere. Have you ever missed making custard or pop >> in primary school >> when you were young?
>> Yes.
>> Have you ever missed >> making custard or pop?
Once when you started learning the first time I learned. Yes. The first time I made no reason why I said this is because I mean you can the water can be boiling. It can be at that boiling point and you will make the custard. And the custard will tell you no I am not making you put too much water or your mix your custard mix itself was too watery.
>> There has to be a problem.
>> You can either miss it at the beginning >> or miss it at the end at the end.
>> It's simple.
>> Making custard is a fluke.
>> No, >> I stand by it. No, >> I stand by making custard.
>> You're just projecting my God bless you my mother. It's a simple way. See, if you if you if you are bad at making custard or pop, reach out to me. I I'm willing to teach you. I'm willing to push you through. I taught my friends in uni. I can teach you. There's nothing to be ashamed of. Okay, this is a safe space.
Reach out to me.
>> But let us know in the comment section if you if you've ever failed at making custard because I think a lot of people do. Like, see, bro, you the reason why I'm saying this is because I'm very good at it. I'm very good at making custard.
But there was a day >> that he betrayed you.
>> There was a day my friends and I were hungry. We didn't have anything to eat. So there was custard like m just do this custard and I entered the kitchen. Come out with custard. Don't boil >> because of the large quantity.
>> THAT WOULD HAVE you just felt nobody's has nobody's because I was I was always boast of it. Always bo.
>> Let me give you one last hack. Right.
We've talked about the boiling water.
I've talked about the mix. The last hack is if you're not confident in in the custard cooking, you can put the bowl inside another bowl of hot water. So after you pour the water inside, you pour it outside. So you let it heat from both under and >> when you I have I have I have another solution. When you mix when you miss just put on fire just go [laughter] >> that works for no. No, it was for >> just a roll.
>> They call it merchant.
>> Just a roll. No way. Just a roll.
>> I was tense.
>> My mom was coming, bro. I poured it on the fire. I started mixing. Holy Spirit turn.
The make it sweet.
>> That's when I don't know because I took it to my mom. It was thick and my mom said, "You missed.
It's not well. Why did you put it on the fire? Did you know I put it on the fire?
>> The taste is different.
>> Your taste is going to be different.
>> Wow.
>> I really have firsthand of experiences of that. So >> anyways guys, let us know in the comment section your little wins as an adult. If it is buying data for yourself, I know some of you want to buy a data get because my own data can finish at any time. But once I do it back, I remember I'm an adult and I'm glad you are making it as an adult. I'm making it. So let us know in the comment section guys. Yeah.
for clarity sake.
>> Yeah.
>> People don't want to talk about some things on the internet and I am like h >> we'll talk about them and one of it is marriage.
>> Okay.
>> I saw this particular tweets during the week and it says I need you all to know there are people who are genuinely not interested in marriage not children and it doesn't make them a bad person. It's a personal decision.
>> Fact.
>> A bad person.
>> No. Fact.
>> No.
>> It took me a minute to actually come to terms with the fact that there are people that do not want children because I I love people around me and I have always wanted girls like daughters, right? So, it was something I used to look forward to. I used to talk to about talk to my friends about like growing up. So, when I met someone for the first time in my adult life and she said she does not want kids, I struggled to understand. I was like, what did children do to you? Like I I tried to understand her brain and she was like she just doesn't want kids. She thinks they are stressful and she loves having other people's kids with her temporarily. But the idea of having one that she has to nurture like a whole life that she has to take care of.
>> Wow. It took me a couple of months to think about it over and over and like okay this is this is actually a human being's decision based on her own her own likes and dislikes and choices. Bro, >> the same way we can have abnormal situations where somebody >> feels like they gay >> or they feel like they they like I feel >> I feel like a woman.
>> I feel like a woman inside.
I'm sorry. It's the same way I feel when somebody feels like they don't need a companion >> like you don't want to get married.
>> No, they do companionship but they just want it differently. At least that's what they say. They say that they want companionship.
>> Exactly. Different. The same way somebody wants to fall in love and you decide to fall in love with a man, >> you do want to fall in love but then you just want it differently.
>> So if you want marriage, >> you either want it the way it is meant to be wanted.
>> Nah, these people don't want marriage.
Like people that say this thing, a lot of them don't want marriage. Because here's the thing, if we're to be honest with ourselves, maintaining the average human relationship is very stressful.
being a good friend especially when like so many things are happening. The average human being can flare up. You can transfer aggression or somebody can misunderstand you like even your parents can misunderstand you sometimes and you guys have to have those difficult conversations. For some for some of these people they actually believe that maintaining relationships in terms of marriage like romantic relationships that are more long-term is so much more stressful than that. So they don't want to put themselves in that position. They rather have a good life where they managing relationships with their friends, their parents. They are the rich auntie, the rich uncle that is not that does not have to do doesn't have to commit as much to managing relationships. That's what I've heard from my conversations with these people.
They want relationships that are relationship is not marriage. Marriage is not the only definition of a relationship or dating. No, relationship. You can have a relationship with your siblings. In fact, you have relationship with your siblings, with your friends, right? So, they want those kind of relationships.
But the one where they have to commit to taking care of a child or commit to to growing up with an adult literally and and talking to them about those very difficult situations, that's what they don't want.
>> But do you think the end of that journey will be beautiful? The end of >> Well, there are people that have lived single lives and have lived it in a fulfilling way.
>> Fulfillment.
>> Yes. You said fulfillment is a personal thing. Yes. So like that's different.
>> It's not different.
>> It is. No, I'm saying it's different.
Like I'm saying the end of that journey, that lonely journey.
>> You can't call it loneliness.
>> You cannot call it lonely. If they want to help somebody find [clears throat] loneliness exactly like once you are not with somebody, you are alone.
>> No, they have people around them, friends. For them, that's okay.
>> They're talking about marriage. They don't want loneliness. If you don't believe in companionship, you cannot be lonely.
>> Thank you. Exactly. If you don't believe that marriage is a is the kind you are not married that means you are single a single person is he a pair or alone a one person even >> you are alone by the literal definition of alone but you are not lonely loneliness being lonely and being alone are two different things I like to be alone from time to time it doesn't mean I'm a generally lonely person you cannot define me as a lonely person because I like to be alone from time to time I like companionship sometimes but there are a lot of times where I just want to be alone you can't call me a lonely person because of that. [clears throat] When you even ask me when I'm alone, Naomi, how are you? What do I say? I say I'm good. I'm chilling. I get my day. So there are people that want to leave that as a lifestyle.
>> My own question is [snorts] what about the Christians that say they don't want to marry, they don't want to give and the Bible says multiply.
>> The Bible say is it everybody in the Bible that got married? Jesus himself, did he get married? No. But was Jesus married?
>> Did he not want to get married? Did he did he not want to get married? Yes, that's the question.
>> Did we even see anything like that in the Bible? because he didn't get to a point of not just was a 3 years. Please be real.
>> It was not a decision. I I didn't read anywhere in the Bible. I said that he just said I don't want to marry.
>> Exactly. My point my point is >> so but these ones are saying they don't want to marry. I I just feel that if you're going to come up with I don't want to give birth.
>> Don't marry.
>> Do you know that there are people that they want that companionship of marriage but they've decided between themselves as a couple that they that they don't want to give birth and they don't give birth and they marry for a long time and they stay married.
Like you can't you can't define what people's joy or life should be as in in completeness. There are people in the Bible that did not get married. And it's not because the Bible explicitly told us, "Oh, they do not want to get married." But it's because they found purpose outside of marriage.
>> All right?
>> Right? So anybody that says, "Oh, I don't want to get married because of a personal choice." They can find purpose and fulfillment and joy and happiness outside of marriage or outside of having children.
>> That's it. I truly respect people that have come to this kind of conclusion in their lives. It is very great. But this advice and this kind of stance is not for poor people.
>> It's not if you are poor a poor man, a poor woman, >> find companion.
>> As a matter of fact, >> well, >> that's for the emotional part. But the truth is, if you're a poor person, you don't need companion. You use your money and you spend it on yourself. Now, you don't need to be taking care of somebody. You don't need to be looking out for somebody. So, even as a poor person, you are the one that does not need to get married or have children.
Two poor people are better than one poor person.
>> Okay.
>> Ah, no, bro.
>> Until until one of the poor people is poorer.
>> No, no, no. Let us know your thoughts in the comment section, guys. I'm going to open up a big caner when it comes to marriage.
>> I will spill out a lot of tea on this round table and I'm going to cause a lot of confusion. But guys, stay tuned and stick with us. Make sure you like, share, and subscribe. If you have followed us to this point, you know, you know, you know that you should share this to your babe and your baby's babe because why?
>> You are not the main babe.
>> When we look at the life of men, >> Mhm.
>> men marrying many women is called what?
>> Polygamy.
>> A woman marrying >> multiple is what? Polyandry. Now when we speak of marriage, let us move from people getting married to people that choose to marry >> multiple.
>> Multiple.
>> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> Would you like to marry multiple?
>> No. No. No. No.
>> So you don't believe that it's in a man's nature to have multiple wives?
>> Different question.
[laughter] >> Okay. So you believe but you just don't want to marry multiple.
>> I've not answered your question.
[laughter] >> That's the truth.
If a man marries two wives or more, the society calls him successful.
>> Yeah.
>> A big man.
>> He's a big man.
>> But if a woman marries more than one, she's seen as >> oppress a [ __ ] >> A wh.
>> Why are you a who? [laughter] >> Why am I speaking this way? Oh my goodness. Anyways, if a woman marries more than one man, she's definitely seen as something that is not to be appreciated and something that is not to be celebrated.
>> Yeah.
>> In a society where they tell you a man is a key. A key that can open many padlocks is called what?
>> A master key.
>> But a padlock that can be opened by many keys is what [laughter] is whatever.
>> First of all, that's where we have the problem in society. the double standard and the culture of making one more valuable or less valuable than normal.
So the master key is like sacred. It's protected. It's not something that anybody can have, you know, but the padlock, you know, is just a padlock.
>> That's how that's basically what that analogy says, right? Well, actually a padlock that can be opened by many keys has actually missed what is in the name bad lock.
>> No. Or you could look at it like by the way I'm not endorsing that analysis. I find it utterly stupid, right? I think that analysis is is complete bow dash.
Human beings are human beings and they should not be compared to things like that. A woman is not a padlock to be opened in the first place. She's not a room to be entered in my opinion. But I'm just going to run with that analysis and say you can look at it from the perspective of a padlock that can be opened with many keys being a dynamic padlock dynamism.
I mean look at it like the padlock is dynamic like it's multifaceted. It can go different ways. It's flexible. It's not stuck in one direction. As a matter of fact, I think that's one of the beauties of life. when something an object um a person an individual can actually be multifaceted you can be multi-expressive you can be eclectic like it's it's a very beautiful thing to see right so I I really do not appreciate the double standard when a man is seen as the key as a matter of fact in that analogy the woman is the key right if a padlock doesn't have its key the padlock more often than not has become useless, right? But you men go up and down chasing women specifically which means you're looking for the key to your heart. So if I to go with that that particular analogy which is very flawed by the way there are so many ways to look at it and if I to look at ah different things are just coming to my mind but David I'm not going to preempt you. I'm not just going to preempt you more than I already have because you're so quiet. [laughter] You and Spike are so quiet. So let me just let me just hold my beat for now.
More to come. More to come. I don't like double standards. I don't like it.
>> So you think polandry and >> are the same den [clears throat] anybody can do what they want?
>> Double standard like the standard no the standard at which the society holds different concepts.
>> You're saying it is double standard.
>> It's double standard. I'm a man. You're a woman. If you as a man decide to marry multiple women, be good. Everybody respects you. If a woman decides to marry multiple husbands, it's also okay.
If you want different men and all the men, all the parties are okay with it, be fine. Because for for for polygamy, we say, "Oh, as long as all the women are happy." In fact, we know that the women are not happy, but they suck up to it and they are okay and they manage themselves and all of that. Everybody is okay with it. So, why can't we be okay with it for the woman? The woman is happy, the men are happy, everybody should shut up. Instead, the society that will now be trying to define the woman as, oh, a [ __ ] type of person.
Meanwhile, she's not [ __ ] She's just doing what she wants. She's just enjoying life. Instead, we want to put women in a box and say, "Oh, hey, no, you cannot do this." No, it means you're [ __ ] Meanwhile, a man that is doing the same thing, an indisiplined man, by the way, who cannot actually hold this person. No. Hello. Hello. Calm down.
Calm down. Cuz I know that you feel like I just give you ammunition. No, I did not. As a matter of fact, I'm not a supporter of polygamy or polyandry. So, don't say, "Oh, like no." I'm just saying, in my opinion, both things are in discipline. But we should not call one indicipline without calling the other indiscipline. We cannot celebrate polygamy and chastise polandry. Both of them are terrible. If we're going to celebrate polygamy, then we're going to celebrate polyandry.
Well, um, let it be of note that I do not support any of this and I'm not a bandwagon chief weep for any of polyandri or poly gam. But one thing I would say is that do you think polygamy and polyandry as a result of male centeredness?
>> H yes >> yes >> yes. But I want to say that male centeredness in this respect if I'm to speak for them oh mhm >> it's not always a bad thing.
Oh, male centerness.
>> I said I'm speaking from their perspective. Relax. Calm down. Male centerness is a term for a reason and it's usually perceived as a negative thing, right? Somebody is male centered is like, "Girl, get a life."
>> Right? So, I I get it. So, I'm speaking from the perspective of somebody that wants to marry multiple men.
>> Okay.
>> Right. That kind of thing. You just be like, "No, >> that does not mean the person is male- centered."
>> No, I said male. is as a result of male centeredness but male centeredness is not always a bad thing.
>> Let me take you on a quick journey. A tweet by says make president for one day. I will make sure they legalize polyandry so you all can know what and how it feels to be shared. Sometimes people only understand how something truly feels when the same rules apply to them too.
>> I like >> I don't want to sound condescending.
>> You will but sound but go ahead. Looking from what she said, I actually support women doing a lot of things that they claim guys are doing like polygamy.
>> Yeah, >> I want a rise in polyandry too. I actually really want it and I really think that it will get to a point whereby the promotion of that concept of polyandry will make everybody realize that the genders are different.
>> Sorry, the societal expectation of those genders are also different.
>> Yeah.
>> Exactly.
>> Society define concepts. Yeah, society definitely define concept. So if society is saying that one man to one woman or one man to more women or they allow one man to whatever ratio of women, it is maybe legal or illegal >> and they find it fine. They find it okay.
>> That is what the society want. If the society is saying no, we do not want it anymore. We want more women to get or women to get married to more men. If the society feels is okay, yes it is. But at the moment the society obviously doesn't find it okay and they will give reasons why it is not okay. I'm not here to tell you that it is not supposed to be. I'm not here to tell you that it is supposed to be. But I'm just saying you that the current the current society does not support polyandry. That's not >> the current society doesn't even support polygamy right like society is changing.
So if you even look at it, those successful men according to this particular stereotype, a lot of them don't even have multiple wives. They have one wife. If they even married somebody else, they most likely have ended the marriage with the first person. That is how a lot of and I'm not saying I'm not saying all of them.
That's how a lot of all these successful men do their marriages. If you check him now, the people that are having multiple wives are a lot of all these broke indisciplined men that are marrying up and down and having multiple wives and suffering all of them.
>> A lot of the people that I know that that they ended up having co-wives, they they are not doing financially well. So, let's not even do that, right? Because society is changing and like you said, society defines the rules. Society defines what is acceptable and what isn't, right? M >> but I'm not going to sit down and say that oh women want to do what men always do or what men do and what men is say is normal. No because as a matter of fact the average woman is not wanting to do polyandry.
>> There are just exceptions of women that want to do polyandry. As a matter of fact the average individual wants their person to be their person except you're a greedy and indisciplined person who is not satisfied. Right? So one man that sits down and says I want to marry multiple wives or I want to take on more wives. Oh all my wives are happy. We know he's lying and we know that he is just greedy and he cannot keep his his dingling between his pants. That's the truth of it. So he will make an excuse and go on to marry somebody >> companionship >> right a woman that says oh I want multiple we know that also comes from an insatiable place. She's not satisfied.
She wants to have her cake and eat it.
That's the truth of the concept of polyandry and polygamy. So, I'm not coming out here to support it, right?
And I'm not even ever going to agree with the fact that one is more medically safer than the other. Research has shown that both are both are extremely unsafe practices, [snorts] especially because you have multiple sexual partners. So, one is not better than the other.
>> One gender is not benefiting medically more than the other. That's a fact.
That's a very big fact. So, here it is about indisipline. And people that now say, "Oh, be okay with polyandry."
They're telling you that don't now look down on a woman because she decided to marry multiple husbands when as a matter of fact you would not look down on a man. A woman is not a prostitute because she chose to have multiple husbands.
>> All right.
>> She's just a it's in the nature of that particular woman. The same way we say it's in the nature of a man to want to have multiple partners. That particular woman is in her nature. Don't she's not a prostitute. Let's let us divide this particular tweet by someone that says Nigeria has one of the highest level of paternity frauds, but Nigerian males believe men are polygamous in nature.
You see, you see why I say that group aren't very smart.
>> Easy to deceive as long as you stroke their fragile ego.
>> Now, this is a tweet saying that you know what it says.
>> You know what it says. But really, >> but it's it's real. Imagine imagine polyandry was not frowned upon and some of these women that have defrauded their husbands by lying that the kid is the husband's kid. Like imagine we had a society where polandry wasn't frowned upon. These women will openly let the man know oh this is not your child for this my other husband and everybody's going to be cool with it because if a man has multiple kids with different wives all the wives know that okay this is my child this is my child okay and they accept it like that. Many times it's not as if these women are very cool with it but they just feel like oh yeah well that's the normal culture no problem I'll take I would take it the way it is >> nobody's going to have a child outside wedlock and be proud of it >> outside I'm saying if polyandry is not as frowned upon as it is >> they would actually it would be normal like a man would would know that oh okay she's doing she's doing u whatever she wants to do or she has another husband oh she's spending the night in this her husband's room today the way these polygamas people do it oh she's spending night in our second husband's flat, our third husband's flat and that's what it is going to be. But the truth is that when it comes down to it, human beings love ownership, right? I like the average person is possessive of their siblings. I of their siblings, of their friends and everything, as much as you want them to do stuff, you want to know that your own is your own. As a matter of fact, I used to be that person that with my friends, I'm like, uh, sharp, you're friends with everybody, you why you like this? Do you get that kind of thing? So as a matter of fact in relationships the average human being wants that for themselves but the truth is that I feel more men are more would I say possessive in nature. So it's normal that a man would not even be psychologically comfortable with the idea of his woman sharing like being shared like amongst different men based on say she's a polyandrist right but what I'm trying to paint here is this if the society like if this was a society for example where polyandry was not frowned upon like where it was not a big deal for anybody to have as many partners as they want like let's say a woman can have many partners a man can have many partners if it was normal and it was not found upon by for women >> you'll see that it's not going to be a big deal as big of a as like a big deal the way we think that it is like it should just be the normal thing it is what is normal to us is what we have seen what we have perceived over time so if there was a society like that or if society shifted to that dynamic >> you just see it as part that's how it is so the people that now want to stay married decide on their own that it's just me and you and anybody that wants to do poly whatever they do it that's it >> to add to what you said. I I reason with you and I I really do.
>> I really do.
>> I understand where you're coming from, but I just think >> that's my argument. I'm just arguing for them. So, you reason with them. The people that want polyandry.
>> Okay.
>> Okay. We reason with you.
>> I reason with the people that Yeah. that are promoting or they are looking for um a society where polyandria is now a thing because I believe um you should actually fight for what you want >> and I also want them to fight for polyandria but I also believe that in a society where the women are fighting for polyandry they are telling us that um court marriage should not be a thing anymore >> yes because court marriage is also against polygamy >> okay >> so yeah you're saying polyandry should be a thing now um so cut marriage back Or it would first in the law. Yeah.
Yeah. A man can marry two wives, a woman two husband >> and I do not see any legally but polygamy. Polygamy is permitted legally.
>> Polygamy is not >> like according to the Nigerian law.
>> Yes. It is not permitted.
>> Yes. You cannot marry someone and marry another person.
>> Legally. Yes.
>> Interesting.
>> You get to point out something that she said that me I I really do not. You see when you were saying that bringing Oh, you did not say it. It's outside.
>> One thing I do not agree with is when she talked about uh paternity fraud.
>> There can be polyandria and still be paternity fraud.
>> So, but I don't see where that is normal.
>> I don't see where that one is coming out in the whole argument and conversation.
>> Coming she's talking about the perspective of polyamos in nature. So she's trying to say if it's based on the people that want to be moving up and down and be lying to their partner, it is actually women that have had a track record of that >> more based on paternity.
>> So we should just allow them like we should legalize it and that you can have >> that way. It might actually reduce. It will still happen but it might reduce because at least they don't feel like they have to hide and cheat on their husbands. But the reason why you cannot even have a maternity fraud and you would only have a paternity fraud is because a mother is the one giving birth. So she's not going to be >> defrauded of our child. Like >> we're not talking about maternity fraud here. We're talking about >> I'm flying a plane. I'm flying a plane.
I'm flying a plane. We cannot have maternity fraud because maternity fraud as it stands >> is a fraud against the man of course. So if you come in and say that you are worried about paternity fraud and men cannot be worried about maternity fraud because you definitely gave birth to that child by yourself. So that makes the table unstable >> as it stands.
>> Paternity fraud is what is going to happen. You cannot say there's higher rate of paternity fud over maternity fraud. No >> no that was never what she said.
>> No I'm coming >> I haven't answered Spike's question. It is about the it is in man's nature to cheat. What she's talking about is the cheating. Paternity fraud is not what is in question here. It is the desire to cheat. And she's saying that oh women desire to cheat.
>> No, she's saying if is based on the trend of paternity fraud.
>> Women have been cheating a lot more than we think that they have.
>> That's what she's saying. She's not actually this thing is not in is not in support for as much as we think it is.
Do you know that at tweet >> it is actually but do you know that you cheating does not mean that you are polygamous or polyandas in nature.
>> That's what what that statements men are polygamous in nature or men are are wired to cheat. It usually comes after a man has cheated.
>> Yes. It usually comes after a man has cheated. They say ah it's normal or after a man that chases women up and down like multiple women and everybody knows they say men are polygamous in nature. That's the reason why that statement actually comes out. And so she's saying that her if it's based on this statement that you people are making, look at these women, they are the ones that are always doing paternity fraud. It means that these women are actually more polygamous in nature than you think and they are just lying to you.
>> But she made a statement. You see why I say that group aren't very smart.
>> No, but I'm not trying to justify or fight for the girl or saying that insult is not an insult. People insult people on the internet. I'm not justifying that. I'm talking about what the problem is here. The problem is she's trying to let us understand that when it comes to polyandry, >> do you know that there's a possibility that these statements you people make that men are polygamous in nature, it might actually be women that are more polygamous because I mean look at it.
The data is so obvious. Women are doing paternity fraud more than normal especially in this country >> because men can't do maternity fraud.
Have you tried yours?
>> No, it's not about fraud anymore.
>> It's about def. She's just trying to show that >> because there is no other side to it.
>> I get what you're saying, David. Like you only find paternity fraud everywhere. Why? Because you cannot find maternity fraud.
So your own argument now is from the argument of fraud or paternity fraud. It doesn't count.
>> It doesn't tell us who it doesn't tell us who cheat it as a database.
>> But she's saying it in respect to that statement that men are argument from perspective. But when you look at her statement of men are polygamous in nature, she's still trying to show that at the end of the day there's no gender that is more polygamous in nature than the other.
>> That's what she's also saying that women are also very polygamous in nature.
>> So it's two things. There can be two truths and those two truths can they can coexist and coexist very well. In terms of polygamy versus polyandry which is the bone of contention here. Yeah.
What we are saying is one particular gender >> does not have the tendency or should not be more entitled to having multiple options more than the other like we should not say oh women should be exclusive men can be polygamous that's basically what this argument is about the bone of contention here why is it that we say one gender like why is it that culture says one gender has the license for for cheating Because yeah they polygamy in nature as opposed to the other that's what people say now >> can I say when you see when you say somebody has license to cheat then you would not use the word cheating cheating is wrong so when you say oh this man cheated it is wrong >> refers to polygamy because polygamy is not cheating but they give men so you say oh men are cheats or men don't piggy back on that don't piggy back on that piggy back on poland versus poly >> yes I am going there I am going there I am going there you say men are cheats Somebody that is a cheat is not a good person. So when you say men are naturally cheaters, it is fine or men are naturally cheats, it is fine. Like we already know that cheating is a negative thing. So when you now say that men are polygamous why because they would naturally cheat or men cheat and that has made them polygam. Everybody knows that cheating is bad.
>> I beg to differ like mad David.
>> Why is it now called cheating? It is not bad. Don't they don't they don't even call it cheating. It's weird that call it cheating.
They say men are polygamous in nature.
Men like to look outside. Men like to explore. A man cannot be satisfied with one woman. They say it they say it like they don't say it like it's a bad thing.
They say every day you be tired. You'll be tired. They see this thing. So they not they don't paint it as cheating as a bad thing. Is in this day and age that we call it cheating to prove that this thing is actually a bad thing. Like there's no way you want to tell me that you are sleeping with multiple people and you are you are you are still with me.
>> That's that's is this day and age that we term it as that. But I tell you that people that justify polygamy and justify the exclusivity that a woman should have to her man but the man will not have to his woman. They they say it as it's a normal thing. Oh a woman you guys you guys even said it yourselves at the beginning when you did the whole padlock and key an analogy. You said it yourselves. So you're basically implying that a woman should be exclusive. Oh, a woman is more special when she's exclusive. Oh, a woman is sane. She stays, you know, biology.
>> Everybody is special when they're exclusive.
>> No, that I'm telling you that that's not how they portray it. A man is still a man. He's still anacha even when he's sleeping up and down.
>> Well, what's he be spreading HIV up and down?
>> In his prime. He's in his prime.
>> You see? You see? So, basically, the argument still stands that one is not supposed to be exclusive to the other.
If one is going to be exclusive to that other then we must have women also seen as okay when they don't want to be exclusive.
>> All right I >> that's basically what the argument is.
>> So can everyone just be monogamous in nature?
>> No it's normal.
>> Sorry.
>> It's normal for everybody to not be monogamous in nature like life is different. That's the beauty of life.
Life is beautiful because there are colors. What we are saying is that now chooses when a woman now chooses >> body her choice. You never if she wants to marry three husbands or five husbands. If all the husbands are okay with it, leave her be. She's not a bad person. Society will see you as a slaughter as or something when you are like that. And that's what this argument is for.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You did a really good job. Wonderful.
I am really impressed. This argument should have gotten this deep, guys.
>> It got this deep. It got this deep because I mean human rights activist Naomi and the the Guardian of the Galaxy [snorts] in herself. I just believe and I stand on the fact that society is built on concepts >> and everybody has their own concept. The way dogs are pets at home and you not carry a lion to be a pet at home. So >> each animal each animal to each >> to its own treatment >> societal wild animal >> purpose and functions >> domestic and exactly >> okay so ties back I'm very curious >> I believe that everybody singular individual now >> every man every woman >> to their own way and I also believe that every gender to the concept and to the things that protect their image and protect their concept and their individuality. So if I say that oh as a lady you should keep yourself I'm not wrong. If I say as a lady you should explore I am still not wrong. If I say as a man, >> if I say as a man stay with one woman, it's also protect you.
>> If I say as a man, be with multiple people. I am not wrong. But the society that you are in >> would weigh it and see that okay this is acceptable, this is not acceptable. And then your personal conviction will also convict you as to which is acceptable and to which is not. to rebel, rebel and rebel with your full chest.
>> Okay? Rebel and rebel with your full chest. You miss the consequences in the front.
>> Polygamy, polyandry barely ever works for a lot of people, especially in this day and age. Oh, you marry five wives, you marry five problems. You marry five husbands, you marry five problems because at the end of the day, there is nobody that is a perfect human being.
There's no perfect pairing. Except somehow, somehow I don't know how you even want to make it work, right? So, I'm not an advocate for polyandria. As a matter of fact, I'm just an advocate for letting people do what they want to do and not slot shaming or or shaming somebody because they wanted to marry.
>> No, don't shame anybody. Oh, but you can tell what they should do, but don't shame.
>> You can't tell them mind your business.
This is the day and age.
>> But babe, women already advising the woman.
>> Mind your business.
>> So all women is mind your business or babe.
>> Even women, even men were commenting. Go and check the comment section. Which kind of bias view is this?
>> I saw more women.
>> There were men in the comments. Which kind of majority rule is that? There were a lot of men even celebrities posting congratulations men and some some celebrity men when you call what's the name of that one that wears a heart bi something when you call that one will also give his opinion and that's normal.
So don't make it a gender thing. Bikonu >> you guys let us do better let us be better citizens of Nigeria.
>> For those of you that your parents voted tunu last 2023 election I just want to come and tell you that I am voting in 2027 because your parents have done their own. Now it's my turn. All of us go face.
>> All of us will face together, >> right?
>> There's good year.
>> Thank you for >> Thank you very much for tuning in, guys.
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