Women See How DESPERATE Dating Has Become When Men Choose Peace

Added: 2026-05-25

[00:00:00]People today are so antisocial that even a random stranger making eye contact in public feels like a surprise boss battle.

[00:00:07]>> I'm feeling like I am just in a world of loneliness because it's very rare that anyone is social when you're out in any type of setting. Everyone keeps to themselves, whether you're looking to like say hi to a pretty girl or not, or you're just trying to make friends. Like it's so hard unless I'm literally sitting at a bar where the bartender is forced to talk to me. No one is ever social whenever I'm out.

[00:00:31]>> Especially like me that I moved to Germany and I live now here, I notice how different the people are here. I like it. I don't like people just randomly approaching me. I'm just a bit anxious when it comes to that. I'm more of an introvert. But when I was living in Bosnia and Herzegovina, people were so social. They would constantly be talking to you and I'm used to that as well. Although it does drain my battery, but if you want social people and you want people to like constantly comment and talk to you no matter where you are or with whom you are, um, visit Bosnia. Women are no longer scared of being single. They're now scared of being in a soul-sucking, detrimental relationship that's only going to waste their time, waste their energy, waste their effort, and waste their money.

[00:01:10]They would rather be single than be in a bad relationship. They've just seen everything as such a waste of time for them lately. And the saddest part of it is that sometimes they don't even go based on their own experiences. They see it on social media, see it from their friends, other people, and they're like, "Nah, I decided I don't even have to bother. I'm not going to even bother."

[00:01:29]And thankfully the world has given them all the opportunities not to even bother anymore. Life has become so easy for us to be antisocial.

[00:01:37]>> Women are desperate.

[00:01:38]Do you think? Hell yeah. Women are desperate, especially when you off the age of 30. Mhm. Yeah, that is true.

[00:01:46]Desperate. That's the reason. Listen, I I know women, yeah, that are putting up with [ __ ] all in the name of to say I have a man. Mhm.

[00:01:56]Oh, no, I don't like that at all. I don't like that at all. I think people, no matter woman, man, like no matter who you are, I think you have to have self-esteem and self-confidence and love towards yourself that you should not keep up with something just so you can show to the world that you have a man or a woman or you're in a relationship even though it's not healthy at all. Did I just see a girl standing with her boyfriend outside of the car to put gas.

[00:02:22]Like they were together putting gas.

[00:02:23]First of all, the guy's putting the gas.

[00:02:25]>> So, like why the is the girl outside?

[00:02:27]What exactly are they complaining about now? I bet that guy guilt-trips his girlfriend and is like, "I always have to get Not only that, we are talking about a random situation where she saw far away a woman and a man standing in front of the gas. Maybe he was showing her how to do it.

[00:02:46]Maybe they were talking about something and she didn't want to stop talking.

[00:02:49]Maybe like they Why Why does it have to be really terrible? How about this?

[00:02:55]Minding your own business. Have you thought about that?

[00:02:59]That sounds interesting. Also, like can you imagine that she went online, recorded this, filtered it on just to trash talk about random people she doesn't even know.

[00:03:11]Holy, like get a hobby. Get out and put the gas so she can like got out with him. Cuz why the are you standing outside in the cold with him to put gas?

[00:03:18]Just stay in the car. I don't think I've ever gotten out of the car to put gas with someone, like alongside someone.

[00:03:22]Like if you're putting the gas, there's no need for me to get out. What the was that? I don't get how some individuals get so offended over what other people are doing, minding their own business.

[00:03:31]But at the end of the day, my theory is is that the couple just looked too happy and that just upset someone.

[00:03:37]>> There is no way they could have been happy in her story. Like there is no way there could be a positive outcome out of that, you know? Because everything is negative around her. Everything is negative within her. So, of Of course.

[00:03:51]And by the way, the more negativity she's going to bring on those social medias and TikToks and whatnot and the more blah blah blah blah blah, the more views she's going to get because drama sip and tea be like. So, yeah, I completely understand. Like, she has no content anymore, so she's making up content. I'm 38 years old. I've never been married. I've never had children.

[00:04:11]I have three cats in my house. Um only two of them are mine.

[00:04:15]>> [music and singing] >> What do you mean? Did you steal the third one? Um but it's just that people come and go and my relationship with cats is the same.

[00:04:23]And it's crazy because if you had asked me 10 years ago [singing and music] if I would be single at 38, I would have been like, "Absolutely not." I have such a complicated relationship with this time of year. I really do. Because [clears throat] I have a complicated relationship with being single. There's a part of me that really values my life and my my time to myself and my independence. And there's a part of me that feels really embarrassed about admitting that I want to be in a relationship.

[00:04:51]And I think a big part of that is it makes me feel like maybe I'm being needy or I'm being clingy and all these like I don't know what it is, but it's it's almost embarrassing. It is I feel embarrassed to be 38 and single and [music] never married. I think the embarrassment also comes from society and the people around you who put that pressure on you because especially family Christmas time, you're going to meet your family.

[00:05:20]They're going to be asking questions.

[00:05:22]And at that point, like it's same old, same old. They're not going to even ask and you feel like damn, you know, like there is nothing else and there there is this pressure where this conversation might pop up, you know, and they might pressure you into finding someone or they give you like advice that you didn't even ask for. So, I completely do understand. Of course, nobody wishes to be 38 and single, especially if you are in your 20s.

[00:05:48]Asking those people like they will think nah, no way I'm going to be all alone at that age, but life happens, [ __ ] happens. Sometimes relationships that are 10 like 10 years you could be in a relationship with a person and it doesn't work out and you just spent a whole decade of your life with that person and it can happen. It doesn't mean that every time these were arrogant women who didn't want to be with a man who thought they're better or that they are the one who are bringing the table or whatever. Like sometimes it just life happens, but one advice that I could give people like this is that it doesn't have to be your soulmate, it doesn't have to be your partner. There are other people around you who could kind of fill the space and the shadow within. Just turn towards people, open up, find hobbies, engage, and just go out and figure it out. Like if you are fulfilled without a partner, without a person, I don't think you would be that embarrassed anymore and I don't think you would care that much. 46 years old and while I'm getting ready for surgery and everything, it dawned on me that I'm 46 years old and I don't have a husband to take care of me. Being single at 46 sucks. It just sucks and I make jokes about buffoons that I have been encountering in in dating, but in reality this is this is my reality.

[00:07:10]>> [laughter] >> Guys, if you are PMSing, don't put TikTok on. Don't press record. This is like your most vulnerable self. I don't think you're always feeling like that.

[00:07:23]All right, but yes, it is easy to trash talk and [ __ ] on people when you are at your best, when you have everything fine going on, but in these moments when you are down low and you have no one around you, that's when you are figuring out like hey, maybe I did eff up. Maybe I do need someone. Maybe I do want someone. You know, so it is easy for people to like think they don't want or need anyone when everything is so perfect. But when they do need a person and there's no one there, they feel the consequences. All these women I hear who adapt this idea, this feminist ideology and think that men ain't [ __ ] and that they're strong and independent, that they can pay their own bills and carry their own weight, have their own careers, they will all face this exact same reality right over here, man. Oh man, don't nobody want to be alone when you got health issues. Believe when I tell you, man, your friends ain't really going to be around there. You know, but a man, a man is going to be there for you 24/7 looking out for you and taking care of you, man. Do you think a man is less of a man if he can't change a flat tire? Um, I do think so. Me and my roommates talk about it all the time and that's one of the qualities we look for in a man, just to know that we can be safe and protected with them. Is a woman less of a woman if she can't cook a meal from scratch?

[00:08:37]No.

[00:08:38]Oh, the double standard. How quickly she said no.

[00:08:42]Wow, how dare a man not know how to change a tire? Like, wow. You know, like it is so mean that they think they deserve a man who knows everything so perfectly and if he if there is something he doesn't know, but he's ready to learn, by the way. I'm sure a man would be ready to learn and he will try to fulfill that role whenever necessary. At least there is YouTube and TikTok and tutorials and whatever. Like, you could figure it out, okay? But they don't let the man have a chance at all.

[00:09:12]They would like immediately hop on him, why does he not know that? Why is he not enough of a man? Da da da da da da da.

[00:09:17]Why is there a difference?

[00:09:19]Why there is a difference?

[00:09:20]>> Because I don't know how to cook a meal from scratch.

[00:09:23]And lose sexual leverage, guess what?

[00:09:25]They have no power cuz that's their only [ __ ] power. That's the only thing that they use to manipulate men. And when you take that away from them, they're powerless against you. That's why society does everything in its power, guys, to not let you know your worth. They do everything in their power to put women on pedestals. They do everything in their power to make men come off as second-class citizens, and she's entitled to your time and attention, and you need to be a gentleman, all that [ __ ] [ __ ] THAT. WE LIVE IN 2021.

[00:09:50]CHIVALRY is dead, and women >> I say it, and I will say it many times.

[00:09:54]I don't even know his name. I don't like this guy. I don't like his attitude.

[00:09:58]He's selling all these men courses for men to just hate on women. Like, he doesn't even take individual cases. He just generalize all the time, which is so bad. It is so so so detrimental, and it is so bad, and that's why I don't like this attitude.

[00:10:17]>> No woman in my life ever lost sleep about putting me in a nicer, safer home, a nicer neighborhood. No woman ever thought about taking me away on a nice sunny vacation to recharge or relax. No woman thought about making more money so I don't have to call someone else boss.

[00:10:34]No woman ever took out a million-dollar life insurance policy on herself so I wouldn't struggle if she dies. Women, not all, but most have no clue or give a [ __ ] about the sacrifices men make and what comes natural to us to create a nice life for them.

[00:10:52]Going back to the beginning, men are freaking amazing. We are builders, and cheers to all my fellow builders. He got burned hard by maybe multiple divorces and alimonies. I can sense it from here, especially with the experience that comes in life.

[00:11:09]Yeah, it could be hard, but as I said, it comes from an individual case. The fact that he went through these difficulties, and he at least this guy said not all, but at also he said most.

[00:11:22]Most. Now, I don't agree with most, either. All right, I just say it's individual. You have your own brain, you have your own heart, you have your own self-esteem to think about and think with, so use it. All right, like use it. And as I said, there are so many women out there who are not like that.

[00:11:43]You just have to find the right woman.

[00:11:45]It's not easy, but it's not also that difficult. Where are the [ __ ] at who paying bills? Cuz I'm not doing this [ __ ] >> Wait, there is a lot of text in here.

[00:11:52]Okay, winter is coming. Holy moly, Game of Thrones all over again. The bad economy has modern women running scared to find a man. Response incoming. Men who pay bills aren't looking for you.

[00:12:02]Like I'm I'm done. I'm so [ __ ] done.

[00:12:05]Now I see why these women out here like living good.

[00:12:10]Where are the Where are the [ __ ] paying their bills? Like where are they?

[00:12:14]Because I'm not doing this no more. Like the car insurance going up, I'm paying rent. I got to buy food. I got to take care of everything. I'm not doing this anymore. Now I see why people stay in relationships and they're miserable. At least the bills paid. I'm not doing this no more.

[00:12:30]Where are the Where are the [ __ ] who spend money, who pay all the bills?

[00:12:33]Where they at? The funny thing is that her immediately thinking that people or women in relationships are miserable, but at least they're in relationships because the bills are being paid. I don't think that's the situation. First of all, I genuinely do not think they are miserable. This is the conclusion you came up with so you can feel better about you being single. First of all.

[00:12:54]Second of all, these are exactly the type of women if I go out there and I say I don't need a man to buy me flowers, I'm fine. They would say, "Oh, all right.

[00:13:04]Settle for less.

[00:13:07]Know your worth." Like So, I don't even try. I don't even try to brag about it. I don't even try to say I'm in a happy relationship or anything because there is no winning.

[00:13:19]With these type of women, there is no winning. So, it's better not to even try.

[00:13:23]The economy sucks and bills won't stop coming in. Winter is here. Oh my god, it's not coming, it's already here. Man aren't waiting around to play Captain Save Modern Woman.

[00:13:34]>> [laughter] [gasps] >> Desperate for a man because they need economic help.

[00:13:38]>> Winter has arrived for so many women and this is why you see an uptick in dating content and women talking about how the dating pool has pissed in it because it they're they're in an economic bind. The economy is getting worse for so many women and the bills still keep coming in and they're just like, man we need I need a man, I need some help. But you notice they're not saying I need a man for anything that a man would want like in a woman for or in other words for anything that a man would provide that he would enjoy. No, they only mention what they need. It's only about them and what they want and what they need.

[00:14:24]>> They are desperate for men because they need economic help. But what's so funny is that what makes women think like this? What makes them think that all a man is doing is waiting to be the helpter the helper, waiting to be Captain Save-a you know, what I mean, Captain Save-a-304 or Captain Save-a-Woman. It doesn't have to be a 304. Why do you think men are just waiting around to come save a woman?

[00:14:54]And how are you going to get in relationship with a man? That's going to determine if a man is going to be helping you or not, isn't it? So it seems to me that instead of women coming on here panhandling and complaining, why don't you make yourself a more desirable woman so that a man picks you and then he will help you.

[00:15:18]>> Become a more desirable woman and the way you do that is by becoming a better person. Not saying that you're already perfect, but actually seeking some type of perfection.

[00:15:31]Y'all women speak for yourselves. We are saying [laughter] y'all don't need Yep.

[00:15:36]Because, baby, I need a man. Yeah. I don't want to be independent. I don't want to do everything on my own.

[00:15:42]>> You are reminded that when a boy gets heartbroken, >> Preach it. he finds another girl. But when a man gets heartbroken, he finds himself. Bobby. Bobby, when the relationship is over, it's called a battleship.

[00:15:54]>> Bobby, a battleship means seeking revenge, or just simply trying to make each other jealous, Bobby. But the best way to seek revenge, or win the battleship, is by you getting better, man. When that person finds out that you are doing way better without them, man.

[00:16:09]>> That [ __ ] hurt, bro.

[00:16:11]That [ __ ] hurt like A [ __ ] MAN. [ __ ] WITH IT. FOLLOW ME FOR DAILY MOTIVATION, BOBBY. There is [gasps] a truth in this, by the way. Like for some reason, even if you end up on good terms, there is this revenge feeling, or the jealousy, like I want to do better. And it motivates you. Now, whether you're a man or a woman, sometimes, somehow, you get into the best shape of your life.

[00:16:35]Something with your career becomes more successful. It's like you cannot have both good, a relationship and a career, or a whole life, health, like something needs like be at fault. And somehow, when you lose a relationship, then other things are working for you.

[00:16:51]And you all get the motivation. You get it. It's It's there. A lot of men aren't leaving because they cannot handle a good woman.

[00:16:59]They are leaving because they are tired of paying for damage they did not cause.

[00:17:03]So, you think you're Mr. Right, right?

[00:17:06]You check all the boxes. You're calm, you're consistent, you provide, and you are still getting attitude, you're still getting distance, you're still getting tested, you're still getting manipulated, you're still getting disrespected. Now, you're confused because you don't get it.

[00:17:26]You don't see what it is you're doing wrong. And to be honest, it's nothing.

[00:17:31]You are simply dealing with somebody who's in defense and reactive mode. A lot of women don't hate men. They just don't know how to act when they are not being hurt. So, they self-sabotage. They create problems where there are none.

[00:17:47]They ask questions that are unclear, and they pull away when things start to feel steady.

[00:17:54]Because these women are used to chaos, and peace feels unfamiliar. And unfamiliar feels unsafe.

[00:18:04]And a lot of men, they're going to deal with that for a while, but at some point they're going to check out.

[00:18:11]Because no man wants to keep proving himself to somebody who is committed to misunderstanding him.

[00:18:18]>> True.

[00:18:19]I completely agree.

[00:18:21]I mean, I hope she's not explaining this to men so they can feel better about dating a woman like that and make more sacrifices for her and understand her more instead of actually advising her to work on herself. All right? Are we just making excuses for these women because what we should be approaching and talking about is how women can fix themselves when it comes to this and work on themselves first and then be ready for any kind of relationship instead of bringing another guy into it and making him suffer not knowing where and what. They're not psychologist. All right? They cannot deal with that. They don't know how to deal with that. So, maybe you who knows yourself the best should first fix the issues, then come all clean and ready for a new relationship.

[00:19:11]Don't bring your baggages into another relationship and into someone's life.

[00:19:15]They don't deserve that. It says a lot when a man is at peace and that said woman is no longer a part of his life.

[00:19:22]When a man reaches a point where he is calm and unbothered and distant from that woman because that kind of peace does not happen overnight. Believe me, that's the man that went through frustrations, conversations, and effort.

[00:19:34]And then something in him shifted and this is what women miss. When a man gets to that place, it is no longer anger, it's detachment. So now the things that used to matter to him does not hit the same. The arguing, the emotions, >> That's game over, by the way. the effort, it does not move him like it used to. Because mentally he has already created distance. And once a man finds peace without you, he never will feel the need to go back to what disrupted it. And this is what women got to understand. When a man feels better without you, it is over. He will never come back, no matter what you do. If you are a man that's currently in this state, bravo, my brother. I am so happy that you chose YOU. I WOULD NOT say bravo, my brother, because even if they chose themselves, they are now stuck in a relationship that they don't care about, but they are not ready to leave because, you know, majority of the time men are not the levers. It's the woman. And now the woman will feel completely trapped, disoriented, not knowing what to do, and things are going to get even worse cuz they're going to get even more heated because the person is not caring anymore. When they will almost never admit that it is their fault from the beginning. Men are no longer desperate for women. They're focusing on their peace, their purpose, You know, I am sad that there was ever a time where we are saying with a normal face on that men are desperate for women.

[00:20:58]Why was that ever a thing?

[00:21:02]their money for women.

[00:21:04]They're focusing on their peace, their purpose, their money, and some women are losing their mind because the attention is disappearing. The game has changed.

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[00:21:25]>> It's like when Claudia slept. Yeah, I agree. The game has changed and everybody's feeling it, especially 30-plus year-old women.

[00:21:36]Solution for most men is this. Get jacked, make money, develop or find purpose.

[00:21:43]Because any dude who is investing time, energy, and effort in getting lean and jacked, I've never seen them get more depressed, get more anxious, get more stressed.

[00:21:54]You show me anyone who starts investing in their health and fitness, >> and I will show you degrees and margins of improvement in their life. 100% true. The moment you start physically taking care of yourself, your mind cleanses. Somehow it affects both. It's both ways. But physically improving yourself cost even less money than starting with the mental. So I would say if you do have some issues here, I mean I'm not saying crazy or whatnot, but something, all right? Something that bothers you here, go hit the gym. Just hit the gym and let's talk after. Let's talk about it after. One session enough just to make you feel better. Let alone imagine like actually sticking with a routine in fitness and improving yourself physically. It really does and somehow improving yourself physically and getting that energy, the physical energy, gets to the mind, but also gets throughout all your spheres in life.

[00:22:54]Like you feel it everywhere. Everything starts becoming better and everything becomes everything improves. Longest man you'll ever meet isn't the one who never breaks. He's the one who rebuilds himself in silence, without a parade, without permission, and without you.

[00:23:10]When a man heals alone, >> [music] >> something shifts deep inside. He doesn't need you to believe in him anymore.

[00:23:16]>> Yeah. He doesn't need you to validate his pain or celebrate his progress. That self-trust can't be taught. That's forged [music] in isolation. And here's what nobody tells you about that. When he's done >> [music] >> rebuilding, he stops chasing.

[00:23:33]>> Yeah. He stops explaining himself. He stops tolerating disrespect disguised as personality or boundaries that conveniently change when they don't serve you anymore. That's not cold.

[00:23:43]That's not That's not him being damaged. That's clarity. [music] That's what happens when a man stops looking for completion outside [music] himself and finds it within. You can call him emotionally unavailable all you want, honey, but what you're really seeing is a man who outgrew the need for your approval because he learned to give it to himself first. [music] If you are truly that woman who can meet a man like that with softness instead of competition, with respect instead of tests, I salute [music] you. He's watching for you.

[00:24:14]>> Yeah.

[00:24:14]>> And when he finds you, you're going to understand exactly why [music] he protected his peace so fiercely.

[00:24:20]>> That's actually is said so amazingly. I I loved listening to this.

[00:24:27]That's like such a motivational thing.

[00:24:29]Like you start your day with this speech.

[00:24:32]really waking up. They are starting to see that being loyal, giving, and doing everything right does not mean that you will be appreciated. Too many good men have been bruised by women that only saw them as a wallet, a handyman, or an emotional punching bag. Oh, I see. are now choosing themselves. They are choosing peace as well over pressure of the world that they have to be a husband and a father. They're literally protecting their hearts and that's not because they don't love women. They are tired of being drained by the wrong women. If women do not see that y'all are paying attention to exactly who some of us are and some of us are just not for the right thing. They are falling to societal pressures, their little circle that's around them, their mothers, their aunties, their sisters, their friends.

[00:25:21]They want them to be the leaders in the relationship and that's just not how it works in this world. What we say doesn't go all the time. When you're in a relationship, you have to work together as two, not as one. Men are being put on this pedestal that they have to get everything done for them and men have to do what women are saying. It just not work like that. Pretty doesn't work anymore. It's not about what we look like. It's about how we treat men and how they feel and when a man knows his worth, he not going to stay for no drama. The new standards are for women is that you have to bring peace, you have to pour back into him. It's about a woman that understand that love isn't about taking, it's about building with that man and not trying to build on him.

[00:26:06]I truly believe that the era of good men is not ended, but good men have woken up and they understand their worth.

[00:26:13]>> Yeah, I don't think good men are good men. They're not going to just suddenly become heels and be like, "Yeah, now I'm going to be a bad man." They're there and they do want true love. That's true.

[00:26:22]Like you cannot deny it. You can say, "Hey, I I I would rather peace. I don't want a woman out there." But at the end of the day, I feel like there are men out there, maybe not every single one of you, but there are some of you out there who truly do want a woman in their life.

[00:26:35]They do want a wife up and want a family and have children with that woman. So, I think for men like that, it's not over and for women, it's also not over. The thing is that they really need to understand men.

[00:26:50]We have been living in a society where we're constantly trying like to teach men how to understand women, what men need to do for women. But I think that time has come where women need to learn how to treat men. Where women need to learn what they need to do because they do need to do some things, too. You know, like that's the thing. They just have to work harder and change things.

[00:27:12]Things are definitely changing. And them pretending that they don't need a man and they don't want a man.

[00:27:19]It's all BS. After 30, 30 plus or what not, they started admitting that they actually do need or want a man and now it's time for change. So, hopefully it's not too late for both, but especially women.

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[00:28:05]You warm.

[00:28:06]I'll simmer in afterglow.

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