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We'll pet her eyes UNTIL SHE EATS.
>> [laughter] >> HELLO EVERYONE. Welcome back to Fit with Florence. Today, we're going to talk about parenting and the difference between Rwandan culture and American culture in parenting.
>> [laughter] >> Hello everyone. I hope you guys are doing amazing. So guys, look at him.
>> What was wrong with my introduction?
>> It was cute.
>> [laughter] >> Look at guys, look at him. Does he look like someone who knows African parenting laws?
African parents rules?
>> Yes. Rules, then. Yes. Yes. Why would I know African >> Does he look like?
Take it quickly, he do not. But it's going to change today because we have a baby together now and I want [music] to raise our baby right.
So for everyone who's new to my YouTube channel, welcome to my YouTube channel.
It's your girl Florence again. Just just so that everyone knows, our baby is the most spoiled baby I've ever seen, ever.
Okay, so guys, >> [laughter] >> welcome for everyone who's new to my YouTube channel. Don't forget to subscribe, like this video, comment, and share and it's your girl Florence again.
And I live in Texas, Dallas, Texas, originally from Rwanda.
And I live here with my house husband from where? Oklahoma. Yes, and then what is your name again? Michael.
We have our beautiful daughter, our beautiful baby girl. She's awesome.
Bring her here.
We'll get her when she starts crying.
She's happy. We love her. No, she can be happy. Let her be. Oh, we going to show guys she's perfect. [music] So, and we want to raise her right because you know most American spoiled.
She's an American baby and she is spoiled and the hell out of her. Baby, I'm not How are they going to say she's spoiled? She's only She's a lot more spoiled than than my son was when he was little when he was her age. How can you say that baby is spoiled? Okay, so guys that's going to change because yeah, you already know of course some of you guys who from Africa how we so strict with African parents.
We going to go to rule number one.
You do not negotiate it with your child.
Pay attention to this one.
You do not negotiate with your child. In Africa for African parents, if your mom or your dad say something, you do it without even think about it.
>> know why you're calling that an African.
Because most of babies here baby are so spoiled.
>> They are not. Kids don't need to Kids don't negotiate with parents.
I mean >> Okay, so let us put this let I agree with that. Let us just put this is scenario. You going to answer me, okay? Okay.
I cook food and then I call the baby to come eat and she said, [music] "Mommy, I don't want to eat this. I want to eat Chick-fil-A or I want to eat McDonald's."
What are you going to say? What am I going to say? Yeah.
>> She's going to eat the food you cook.
What if she refused?
She can be hungry then.
That's it and you just going to let her be hungry?
Yeah.
So, you see that's a different I mean like back home when we didn't even have the option to go out because our food, our parents worked so hard to even put the food on the table. So, for you, it's for a little kid to say, "Oh, I don't want to eat this food. I want to go eat out." So, for everyone, that was not an option for us.
>> [screaming] [laughter] >> Yeah, you need to bring her.
She's She's crying. She's not crying.
She's just making noise. She hears you talking.
>> Yeah, she want to come. She's trying to talk back.
Okay. [music] Yeah, no. Once she grows up, if she don't want to eat the food you cook, she can I mean, you can beat her until she eats it, or she can just go to bed hungry. She can go to bed hungry.
So, that's the That's what I'm saying.
That also the one you option you say in Africa or bed.
Come here, baby. Come here, baby, because we're going to teach you right.
Yeah.
We're going to raise you right.
>> I don't think you have to worry about this little fatty fatty Google not eating the food. Baby, it's just about everything.
Look at her. Look how chunky she is.
She's just too perfect. Look at this.
She's too chunky.
Yeah?
Have a She's a pretty butterfly. 4 months old together, so I actually came and just I'm a kid, so it is different.
But, you know what? We're going to put it together, and then we're going to raise her right.
>> I don't understand this video cuz we agree on everything. We agree on everything, but But you >> [clears throat] >> this scenario that I just gave you, if she refuse to eat, and she just want to eat out, you say just going to let her be hungry. No, she's going to get her eyes whooped.
She's going to get her whooped until she eats. You're going to force her to eat. Oh, yeah. But, baby >> [laughter] >> I don't think you Look at her.
You're going to force her to eat. Look at this. She has more fat on her forearm. Baby, that was just a scenario.
And then they had Look at that. She's just so perfect.
>> [laughter] >> What's the next rule? No, we not finish this one because we as African mom, she's not going to I'm not if she says she don't want to eat and want to I'm not going to let her just be hungry. I'm going to whoop her ass UNTIL SHE EATS.
>> [laughter] >> OH, SHE She thinks that's funny.
She's already messing with you. Yeah, I'm going to whoop your ass. Yeah.
Yeah, right.
You won't even let her sleep in her crib.
She's spoiled. She's not spoiled.
But because like in Africa some like when I grow up when I refuse to eat sometimes I would just get in trouble and my they would just whoop my ass and I would just cry and I refuse to eat because I'm angry and then they would beat me up again because I refuse to eat. Just because I refuse to eat I would just get my ass whooped.
>> [laughter] >> Even though I refuse to eat because they whooped my ass. I don't have time for You can do that if you want. I'd just assume send her to bed. If she don't want to eat, okay. No TV, no Go to bed, go to sleep hungry. No TV, no phone?
She's not going to have a phone. Okay, whatever.
Go to bed hungry. I'm not I'm not going to whoop her over that. But there's also the thing right here. I don't think I mean you should Anyway. In America like kids be fighting having a phone. Literally 1 years old already have a phone. As as soon as they knew how to use it they had they have it. So you want to give her a phone?
No. Good. We agree on that. We on the same page.
So, rule number two. Rule number two.
This one is just normal so like punishment or anything. It's just because like me and my husband, we have been discussing about how we going to raise our baby together cuz we have different culture, like literally mostly like different things. So, this one is just like cuz in African way, we show love. We don't say it.
We just more put into action.
Does that make sense? Mhm.
So, the way we going to show her love just like example >> [laughter] >> She thinks that's funny.
I like how my parents showed love to me just like woke up every day, every morning to cook breakfast for like to cook breakfast 5:00 a.m. in the morning and like do everything as a parent to just do the sacrifice things to show their kids. Like they not doing to show you, they just doing because it's the right things to do. Like most of like we already know most of you guys who from Africa how sacrifice our parents did for us.
So, it is just like showing her love and then I want her to participate.
[laughter] What's up, baby girl? You doing there?
All the There There are good kids.
And those the ones who are successful, who are doing well, Mhm.
they're not spoiled.
What you're talking about is not just an African thing.
But baby, because most of kids here cuz I I will give you an example. It's It's definitely different how we was raised.
I mean like I I and I know it's going to happen.
Everything's not going to be the same because we're not in Africa.
Everything's going to be different. I'm not expecting to be the same because we raised in different backgrounds.
We have a different background. We have a different culture. And then for her, we going to mix together, you know? Oh, you need to start putting some of that tough love in and cut the nipple time down. This is too much.
>> No, that's what that's other things.
>> too much.
>> That's other things for like >> No. These are cankles. For other African parents, my cuz like it just here like my doctors were just like I need to put my baby on diet. She's too fat. No, babe. I agree. I agree before we took her to the doctor.
>> are.
No, American people are fat, too.
>> American things are. Most American people are fat, but when when they old.
She's a baby. I'm only breastfeeding.
So, she's healthy.
So, for African, if your baby's this big, she's just healthy. She's not fat.
This is she's a fat baby. Every single person who sees her, you're the only person who says she doesn't say who says she's not a fat baby. I am her dad and I'm saying, "You're a little fat girl."
And when some of this needs to come off, just a little bit.
>> And I'm her mom and she's just healthy baby.
If she was an If she was an If she was an adult, she'd be like borderline cardiac arrest mode.
Like look at these. Look at this. This is too much. Yeah, that's the thing we have That's the thing we are not getting on the same page as a parent like me and him. And then it's not even like that I'm African, he's American, but we are not getting on the same page about her.
Saying that she's about him saying our baby is fat. That she needs to lose some weight. I show her loving. I love that she's fat. She's just happy, baby.
I don't think it's healthy. But we need to change him. He We need to put him on diet. No, you need to stop letting her eat while she's asleep.
But that's that's diet, baby.
Who eats while they're sleeping?
Babies.
She's asleep and eating in her sleep is too much.
It's too much. I don't know about that rules in Africa because when I was a baby I didn't know what was going on. I cannot tell you about that, but this is just not about African way or American way.
It's just mostly about me and uh do what is the best for my baby.
What's the best for her will be space these feedings out to 3 hours. No more in between 3 hours.
Not 3 minutes. [music] Okay. Yeah.
So rule number two was showing love by just action without saying it. And then of course we going to say cuz I like I never me and going up I never hear my parents told me that they love me. They just showed me, but for her we going to show her and we going to say that to her cuz I don't know how many times she be getting a love you from me. Like I love you. I love you. I love you. I hear that a lot. That's going to be a song to her ears. [music] But but that's just that's just like the thing that we going to do just for her. Showing her love as a parent we going to shop her buys for her, do what's the best for her and also just also say >> doing what's the best for her? You need to cut her back. The doctor said she's too fat.
And she needs to cut back. I I'm baby I I'm not going to listen to these doctors that tell me that I need to go to >> do we go to the doctor? I just go because there's something that I agree with them, but also there's something I don't agree with them.
>> you will do the things they you agree with, so are you the doctor? I'm not a doctor.
>> You're No, you're the doctor and you're going for a second opinion from the doctors. Yeah, it's comment below. Would you let your kids cry because she's fat? A baby? A 4-month-old? Would you let her cry?
>> telling them the whole story.
You're not telling them the whole story.
That's That is how That is your You're controlling the narrative.
>> No, no, baby. The whole story is she's overweight.
And now she need to be on diet. And when she cry, I don't have to breastfeed her when she cry. I just have to let her cry. I'm not doing that, babe.
Do you know how it is as a parent? You You You pick her up and you put her on your titty.
Um automatically, all day long. All day long. Straight Whether she's crying or not. Here's the titty. And at night, she sleeps and eats while she's asleep.
She's in her sleep eating.
Look at her. Ask Ask these people.
Is this baby fat? I know she's cute. I love her. She's great. She's >> She's a little bit too fat, babe.
And you can just cut off >> know why you had to when you call her fat.
>> You You can just cut back a little bit of titty time and it'll come right off.
She doesn't need to sleep She doesn't need to eat while she's asleep. She's going to lose all the weight when she start crawling, babe. You going to see.
I I know. When she starts crawling around, it'll come off.
>> She's going to lose it all.
You just That's just your motherly instinct trying to But that that that's a mother love.
Well, There's also something called I ain't going to say that cuz you're not going to do that. Call what? You're It's You don't have got You're not going to do that. What is it?
What is it, babe?
A devouring mother. What's that mean?
>> We'll talk about it, babe. What's that mean?
It's It's negative. You don't have it.
You You're not You're not going to do that. Okay. What What does that mean?
It's a very self-centered, narcissistic mom mom who feeds her ego through her children. Yeah, that's the thing I was saying about American. Like African parents, we sacrifice for our baby and that's how we show love through the action, through the sacrificing that we doing. No matter what, like I would do anything for my baby cuz that's love we have for our >> doctor say to cut her off the titty but you're not You're not doing that.
>> do anything, babe. And that's what she going to get. We'll cut back the titty time. You'll do anything.
We'll cut back titty time next month.
No.
Okay, rule number three.
Never talk back to people who's older than you.
Is that a rule that apply here? Yes, you don't talk back to your parents.
No, just your parents like anyone. Not just your parents like anyone.
See, she nonstop eat She's trying to eat right now.
>> Anyone >> to eat right now. Anyone who's older than you, you have to respect anyone who's older than you, not just your parents. I'm respecting your elders.
Yes.
Cuz most of kids here don't have that.
They're not disciplined like that. So she have to be disciplined.
Because like African parents, if you know your kids is not disciplined like You You know what's like me growing up back then, if I did something and our neighbors saw me do something wrong, they'll just go to my parents be like, "Oh, you know your child what did your child did? I saw your child do this and this and this." And I would just get home something is already for me. Back in the day, back here, the neighbors would whoop the kids. Really? Yeah. Yeah. The community was so close.
You you you trust the entire community raised all the kids together.
Back in the day, back in like the Yeah.
50s, 60s.
>> That's how it is. That's how it used to be. Back home in Africa, that's how it used to be.
>> like that here now.
So, wait. That's why I want her to not lose that. I want to apply that to now.
>> right.
Yeah. Get rid of TVs and cell phones.
Yeah. Everybody would go outside.
They would meet and talk to each other.
Yes.
>> People don't talk to each other now.
Yeah, I want her to have a day discipline and a respect for older people.
But, it's going to be hard for me cuz even because our part, which is what I'm saying, my background and her background are different cuz even now, even myself, it's hard for me to be disciplined on my phone cuz I'm always using my phone. Sometimes I just want to someone to steal my phone take away from me, which is something that I also need to correct myself as well as a parent.
Sometimes I would just be breastfeeding and I just breastfeeding and I would just be on my phone breastfeeding on my phone and I hate it. I hate it, but I it just ended up happening. Not because I want to happen, but it just happened.
So, that's something also I need to correct myself because if I want to raise her right, I have to start with it with me.
And mimic us. They don't do what we say, they do what we do. Yeah, that's what action.
Yeah. They don't do what we say, they do what we do. Yeah.
So, we're we're good on that one.
We're good on that one? We agree on all of this. Yeah. The only thing you're not agreeing with me, y'all is You would have done it. You wouldn't have money.
Rule number four, greeting Armanda children in our home.
Greetings are mandatory?
>> Yes, I know this is crazy and this is going to surprise you guys. And this is something I have been noticed even not just with American kids, even at my at my own house or like at my parents house.
Like my brother, especially my brother and then like sometimes we just come home. People in the house and we just try to look if they look her and we just run upstairs so no one can see them. So like greetings going to be mandatory for our baby.
Because you have to greet everyone who is in the house.
>> [music] >> If you get in the house there's people there you Sit up.
We're working on that earlier today, doing sit-ups.
Wow.
>> [laughter] >> My poor baby. You okay, baby? Face planting. You okay?
You know why that happened?
Yeah. Cuz she's too fat.
That >> That baby is so fat. That baby is fat.
>> was That happened to me one time when I went home and I gained a bunch of weight and I was walking around with my backpack on and I didn't realize I didn't realize it was the first time in my life Yeah. I had gotten my things fat and my backpack was full and I was just doing what I always do and I tripped and I couldn't stop myself.
I couldn't stop myself and I landed right on my face just like that. Wow, right in the sand and I'm like what the hell? Why could I not stop myself? I didn't have the core strength and I'm like, oh my god, I'm so fat that I can't Just let her be fat now because once old, getting fat is an option for her.
Her mommy is a personal trainer. So, her mommy is going to get her right. Is that right, baby?
Your mommy is going to get you right.
Uh? That is right.
Number four because that's very important. Yeah, I agree. Because most of kids here, people just coming to their home, their home, >> [laughter] >> and they would just getting the house, not saying a single thing, not greeting people, not doing nothing.
So, you going to have to greeting everyone.
Okay, baby?
Is that right?
Are we agreeing on that one? Yes.
So, what do you think about all these words that I said? Do you think it doesn't >> on all those things. And then is something that doesn't happen here. Um I agree with you.
It probably I don't know. I'm not in other people's houses. I don't know why you're assuming that you know No, start with your house. Start with your house.
Growing up with your siblings, >> [music] >> with your friends. All these are words that I say that they apply to it. Yes.
When I was young, that wasn't the case.
It was It was chaos.
There was no parents around. I didn't have I wasn't I didn't have a two parent >> But what about Let us say their friends that had a that had a perfect parent.
How were they? That this parent >> I didn't have any.
Not even your friends? No.
But that's something I noticed literally everyone and our baby I want her to apply to both culture because like I'm very family oriented and I'm very traditional. So, and I'm very traditional like I know my culture and I like to apply my culture.
So, that's I want her to have that as well.
So, I'm just going to do the you going to help me to make it happen. Okay.
She's going to lots of weapons. I already can tell. Yeah. I can already tell you are so spoiled and picky and you're [music] going to talk so much and you're going to get lots of trouble.
You're going to get lots of little whoopings.
Diesel's got two whoopings in his whole life.
He's a good kid. That's all he needed.
But also like even for Diesel he's he's he's 12. He's just turned 12 teen now.
But uh I told him that he should know better too. Know better what? Greeting people.
He does not do that. Really you have to remind him to greet other people.
Really most of the rules that I said because like he grew up here in America.
Like in African you have to. Literally it used to like you have to. Cuz if you don't do all of that we say it's just disrespectful.
But for Diesel he doesn't even know because nobody teach him that.
Cuz you you did not have that. So like in African way now if you do that they're going to be like that child is very disrespectful.
You know? But for him he thinks it's normal.
How many He don't have that many people to greet.
He don't have a big family.
People coming in and out people knowing.
Whatever He's a good kid, right?
>> He is a good kid. But that's what I'm saying because he didn't have that.
>> better at greeting.
Yes. Yeah, very good.
Cuz literally every time we go to someone like he don't go greeting them. He just go and just sit down.
Or just use your phone. Especially nowadays everything's so literally you're going to go somewhere just on your phone.
Even me too including me.
Turn on the I want to just on my phone.
But the just the culture is not there.
So that's what I want her to Your phone is a problem for us.
I have to take your phone in your hand, throw it across the room. Um, every couple of days I have to do that.
Cuz you're disrespectful as hell.
Yeah, but when it comes to >> This is what it would look like.
Oh, yeah? You want to do a video? Okay, sure.
Now what? Okay, yeah.
Yeah, I need to get a bit of that, too.
>> [laughter] >> Oh, we're doing a video? Okay, sure.
Yeah, what do you want to know?
Oh my goodness.
Are you okay, baby?
Everyone acts like whatever's on here is more important than whatever's in reality. You do it, too. I do, too. I need to get better at that. Yeah. But but this is what I was saying because this he's not >> [laughter] >> He doesn't do that because he's a bad kid, just because nobody touch him how to do that, you know.
That yeah.
Okay, now we going to put this into a test. Oh, a test? Yes.
Come sit back. Hey.
So, this how it gets fun. We're going to get talk.
To put this into a test. So, I'm going to give a scenario.
So, I cooked food and then we going to eat and we eating on the table.
And then she take her plate just start away. Be like, "Oh, I don't like this food."
What are you going to do? How old is she?
Let us say 12 years old. 12? Yeah. Oh, jeez. Okay.
Good.
Okay, good.
Yeah.
Now he sounds like African.
>> [laughter] >> So, what about one of What if we going to visit uh to to visit like a family friends or and then she don't greet anyone.
Or people come to our house and she don't greet anyone. What are you going to do?
I'm not going to whoop her in front of everybody.
Huh?
I'm not going to whoop her in front of everybody. And what are you going to do in that that moment?
I don't know. This is a big priority for you. You want to go around and greet everybody. I'm going to If she don't do that, she's going to stand up and then start over. Go greet everyone at that moment and then apologize to them.
Apologize to them and then go greet them. Okay, baby?
Do you hear that? You're going to be very discreet. Very discreet.
Here.
What?
Tell her she's getting grumpy.
She's getting fuzzy. What is going on?
You need daddy?
I really enjoy this. So like I enjoy like I enjoy moments like this and I hope you guys are enjoying this video.
And as a like a parent, cuz I have been thought about this a lot, how we going to raise like our baby.
Cuz like um we from different country, we have different culture, like [music] everything's different. So something that I had been wonder how our baby girl is going to be. So I'm just going to try like I'm just going to bring my uh parenting hood style and you're going to bring your parenthood style and we're going to play together.
And we're going to raise this beautiful baby.
>> entire video is called I wonder how she's going to be. I wonder how she's going to be a growing up. You know what you should title this entire video?
Uh-huh.
Female overthinking.
I'm not overthinking.
>> Yeah. But but as a parent as a parent you [laughter] always thinking about your children future. Isn't that right?
Cuz right now she's 4 months she's 4 months old. So I have to think about ahead of her future, you know.
And then raising her because like the way you raise your children it define their future.
Huh? I thought you just said Thomas and Yeah.
So What?
Sit up. Sit up.
You got it.
Your legs are strong.
Healthy, remember?
According to your mom she's all healthy.
She's healthy, perfectly >> [laughter] >> Yeah, so guys we are done. I really enjoy filming video like this and I know I'm not alone for someone from Africa who had it to go through this road. So if African comments below which one did you go through as a growing up?
Which roads [music] have you been going through that was no negotiation?
So comment below and let me know. And thank you so much for watching our video. We going to see you in the next video. Say bye baby.
Bye baby. Say goodbye.
You need a snack babe? Yeah.
We need a snack, don't we?
>> [laughter]
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