Don’t Talk About Your Disability

[00:00:00]Hi guys, welcome to the channel. Thank you for joining me and thank you for your continued support. So, someone has written very interesting article in the spectator and I'm going to try and leave you a link that doesn't sit behind a pay wall so you can read it yourself. But in a sense the the article talks about how um how this particular person deals with their disability and how they feel about being disabled and also kind of spreads the message of you shouldn't keep talking about your disability.

[00:00:34]So basically what this person is saying is that they have they have uh you know multiple health conditions themselves.

[00:00:40]Um and they basically don't want any support. So they've been asked if they want support in the past. They've said no. Um they've always wanted to try and do things on their own. Uh they don't like the label being called disabled. Um and they basically want to try and live uh as full a life as possible.

[00:01:01]Now I I think most disabled people would agree with that in in some essence, not all of it. You of course you want to live the best life you possibly can within the limits of your disability.

[00:01:13]And unfortunately disabilities do have limits. There are certain things which people can't do.

[00:01:19]Now of course if someone had access to unlimited funding and maybe unlimited technology, perhaps there are some things that they could do that they wouldn't normally be able to do. But in the general scheme of things, most people um live as full a life as they possibly can within their means.

[00:01:38]And this this person in this article is, you know, I completely understand their point. They don't want to be labeled disabled. They want to try and do things on their own. They don't want to accept help. I completely understand that.

[00:01:50]There of course there are pe many people out there who are in the same situation.

[00:01:54]You know, they don't see themselves as being defined by their disability. They want to try and build their own life and their own place in society even though they have a disability. I completely understand that. And I think that a lot of disabled people want the same thing.

[00:02:07]You know, they want to be able to live their lives in the best way they possibly can. And that while they do have disabilities, I think a lot of people don't want to be ruled by them.

[00:02:17]Although, you know, to some extent sometimes disabilities do uh dictate what happens in your life and what things you can and can't do. And I think it's I mean in essence they're saying that they think people should stop talking about their disabilities and stop raising things about their disabilities because it doesn't do any good. I would argue that disabled people have had to talk about their disabilities because there's a constant rhetoric online and from the government and other MPs talking about how um you know how people with disabilities um should be doing this and should be doing that and you know they don't deserve to have uh the things that they currently have and they you know they should be out there doing other things and so they have to talk about their disabilities. I think a lot of people feel as though they need to get this message out there that yes, okay, disabilities uh can be um worked around in some capacity at some point for some people, but it does involve in many cases limitations. And I think to ignore those limitations is almost as bad as to um lean into them necessarily. You know, you don't want to be the sort you don't want to to I don't think anyone really wants to be just their disability. I think they are also want to be an individual person themselves as well. But a lot of things that goes on in society puts people in that box and so you know people see someone who's disabled and automatically now able-bodied people get defensive when they see disabled people. So in many cases it's not the fault of the disabled person. It's actually the fault of the able-bodied people who are constantly attacking the disabled. And so they have to defend themselves. I mean you're not just going to sit there and take it. you got to defend yourself.

[00:04:01]You got to uh push your corner and you know tell people why you you you know you need this support. And there's nothing wrong with asking for support. I don't think if you don't want that support then of course that's your that's your option. That's your choice.

[00:04:14]But I don't think you should have a go at people who want support cuz some people do need it and some people rely on it and that's absolutely fine. I don't see any reason why you can't do that. It's a very complicated issue, but I think in general terms, I think it it should be it shouldn't matter. It shouldn't matter whether you want support or not. It shouldn't matter about whether you um want to, you know, want to carry on as if you don't have a disability. Of course, most people do. I think it should be down to individual choice. If you want to have support, if you need to have support, then you should be able to do so without feeling ashamed, without feeling as though you're a burden on society.

[00:04:56]So, while I understand this person's position in terms of wanting to get there on their own, having a go at disabled people by telling them to shut up is not, I don't think, the way to do it. I think the way to do it is to make people understand that disabilities can be for a lot of people very very difficult to deal with. But let me hear your thoughts down in the comments section. Do you agree with the person in the spectator? Do you agree with the fact that um if you have a disability you should just carry on regardless and not have anybody uh you know telling you what to do or not not you know not having any help or do you think it's very much an individual uh situation?

[00:05:37]You know it has to go on an individual basis. Some people can do it, some people can't, some people um you know for various different reasons are able to do uh more than others. But so let me know what you think down in the comments section. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Please do like, share, and subscribe to pass this out to more people.