Explaining Male Social Structures with a Graph because I am socially inept

[00:00:00]What's up gamers? Welcome back to the Taco Balls channel where creativity and innovation make out sloppy style with rain rotten slop content. In today's social climate, there have been a lot of changes in how we as a society view masculinity as a whole. A branch of masculinity that has also unfortunately come under scrutiny are masculine bond structures. And no, not those kinds, but masculine bond structures are important for society. Men can't have real man friendships anymore. I can't slap my home boy's oil up ass anymore because of Woah, maybe I can because it's June.

[00:00:32]Anyways, for the sake of covering all our bases in this little mini series, we are going to dissect male bonds to the best of our ability. And for any Taco Balls connoisseurs watching, there is a graph involved. So, get your dick hard.

[00:00:47]Quick recap. Previously, we have discussed at moderate length a new way of looking at masculinity by dividing it into three pillars on the Rotary Men Engine spectrum. Get it? Get the pun?

[00:00:57]It's okay, it didn't make me laugh either. The Rotary Men Engine is made up of the Chad pillar, the Prince pillar, and the Batman pillar. They represent masculinity in the context of masculine to masculine dynamics, masculine to feminine dynamics, and masculine to self dynamics. Today, we are going to be continuing to talk about the Chad pillar. This time, we will be focusing on the masculine bonds themselves. Let's jump into it. Oh, but before that, if you're a regular viewer, you know what this means. But if you don't, well, a big part of masculinity and being a man, whether or not you like it, depends on how you present yourself as a man.

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[00:03:57]First thing, what factors make up male bonds? Sure, let's break it down. First off, male bonds are more direct with how they interact. Almost [music] everything is done openly. No fluff, no smoke screens.

[00:04:08]>> [music] >> What the So, that being established, most male bonds are built on varying balances of these two factors. Number one, competition, direct competition, which we talked about last time, and collaboration. Competition is sometimes replaced with competence, and collaboration is sometimes replaced with coaching. I'll I'll explain that in a second. Lots of C's, which brings us to the Chad hierarchy or packed placement [music] evaluation diagram graph, or the chopped graph. The chopped graph has two axes.

[00:04:40]The hierarchy [music] is based on your competence of certain skills that the bond structure values. This can range anything from how good at games you are to how funny you are, how good at giving advice you are, how chopped you are, or even how good at combat you are.

[00:04:54]However, hierarchy, as with most hierarchies ever, also based on seniority. So, maybe you're better at Fortnite than your brother, but this doesn't automatically put you higher on the pecking order than him, or maybe it does, I don't [ __ ] know. Here's what Atreus to Kratos would look like. Here's where Denji [music] would put his friend, and here's where the cancer-ridden twink from Fury Road would put his car mates. That enough examples? If you don't get it at this point, then rewind and rewatch the video to give me more watch time. All of these hierarchies, again, value different things. My friend group does not value dying in a magnificent ball of fire the way the Fury Road twink does, but that's what his male bond structure values. Now, while the vertical axis measures level in a hierarchy, the horizontal measures how much of an emphasis is placed on competence and competition. In short, bonds on the left care less about competition and hierarchy in their dynamics, and bonds on the right care more. On the left of the chopped graph, if you're not good at games or pulling or lifting weights or shooting groupings, it doesn't matter because that's not what those dynamics value.

[00:05:51]Stuff on the left is also less competitive. [music] In my opinion, I've been in competitive friendships before and it can feel kind of exhausting no matter where the horizontal axis you are. Competitive skill-based friendships are not as deep in my experience. My closest friendships are these ones and they're definitely more what you would consider a traditional friendship and less of a masculine brotherhood bond if that makes any sense. This isn't to say that competition hierarchy don't play a part in those [music] kinds of groups.

[00:06:15]Like me and my friends would gladly partake in some shitty Roblox PvP [music] game just so that we can talk [ __ ] to each other and scream words that would get me canceled. But if one of my friends wasn't good at the game, doesn't mean I would get the ick and just drop it even if he is a washed goat.

[00:06:27]Rightmost bonds on the other hand are more dependent on competition, hierarchy, and competence with certain skills. Often times it's a requirement like in army squads or sports teams.

[00:06:36]These bonds may end up being less shallow than ones that you end up talking until 6:00 a.m. with, but uh they're no less important especially on a societal level.

[00:06:44]Um Now, here's the thing about masculine bond structures and hierarchy. So, hierarchies come with certain strings attached. It's largely due to these strings that modern society scowls at male bond structures sometimes [music] and in a sense I get it. Historically, masculine hierarchies have come with some pretty shitty tags included. Namely, misogyny. Women have been a casualty in a heavily male-dominated societies, [music] that's no secret at this point. Abuse towards members perceived as lower on the hierarchy is also problems such as bullying or severe cases of hazing. But in my humble non-MLA approved opinion, understanding the rules of social hierarchy and as a guy especially participating is incredibly important for both development and upholding social balance. Here's the rule of societal hierarchy that makes people pissed off at masculine bond structures.

[00:07:35]If you do not keep up with the stands of the hierarchy, you don't get to participate and [music] you don't get to reap the benefits. Not keeping up can vary from willingly not participating in hierarchies or from being incompetent or not being able to. If you are someone who wants to be included but can't or won't participate, you essentially need to attach yourself to at least one participating member who is willing to share the benefits with you. Not all settings are forgiving like this. Not all friend groups are forgiving like this. I was fortunate enough to have friends who let me stick around until I grew enough social skills to actually be a coherent member of the group because god damn, I was weird in middle and early high school. The situation [music] is also in the best interest of whoever is attached to the to the participating member to try and learn from them.

[00:08:18]Because at the end of the day, somebody who's competent and able to participate in a hierarchy is better than someone who is not. Again, depending on the the bond structure. Now, this rule can seem pretty shitty. After explaining it to you guys, I am sure a lot of you are thinking about how that is not really conducive of friendship, but it's not without purpose. Again, aside from hierarchies contributing to the betterment of society, things in life, even in friendship, do not come for free. If you want to be in a given hierarchy, you have to have what that hierarchy values and you have to be able to spar, so to speak, with whoever else is in that hierarchy. Friendship and rainbows does not mean that you can just act however you want. I can say with 100% certainty that even though I like how kind and compassionate my friend group is, if we didn't have that competitive element in our group, I would probably not get along with them very well. We enjoy beating the [ __ ] out of each other, figuratively and sometimes literally, for fun. Where it becomes toxic, hierarchical competitive bond structures, especially in friendship, >> do garner some valid criticism.

[00:09:11]>> Here's what I got to say about it.

[00:09:12]Especially things like hazing or maybe like joking about your friends' flaws or something like that. If the purpose of it is for the whole and it's for the betterment of everybody in the group or maybe the betterment of society, I think it's fine. When [music] the goal of the competition or the goal of hierarchy shifts away from that, that's when you get some nasty results.

[00:09:30]For example, hazing not as a ritual to strengthen bonds, but just as an excuse to abuse or gaining power in a social hierarchy just for the sake of gaining power and not for leadership. Unfortunately, abuse of masculine hierarchies is very rampant currently, especially in our government.

[00:09:51]But that is a whole can of worms that I'm not going to open in a video about male bond psychology since I'm not an idiot. And because a video I made about a certain orange company completely [ __ ] my ROI. But here's a word puzzle anyways. I think if you want to better yourself in [music] the context of this video, you should number one, participate in hierarchies, friendship, corporate, or otherwise, that serve the betterment of everyone involved and not just whoever [music] is on top of the hierarchy. Number two, make sure you're either competent enough to keep up or willing to learn or kind enough to offer guidance to people who aren't. And three, finally, don't overthink it. At the end of the day, unless you used to be borderline socially inept like me and you have to break things down like this in order to understand them, it ain't that deep. Really, not none of this [ __ ] that I said matters. What really matters that you're with friends who value you, who you also value. And you treat each other in the ways that you want to be treated. I've been in friendships all across the spectrum where it didn't feel right to me and that's fine. That's okay. That doesn't mean I have to change myself in order to fit inside a given hierarchy, especially if I don't agree with their rules. I'm out of words on my script, so I'm just going to end the video like that. Have a marvelous Saturday.