Explaining Why Women Are More Powerful Than Men

Ajouté : 2026-06-02

[00:00:00]So, I want to respond to a couple of comments that I got under one of my community posts.

[00:00:07]There's a lot of MGTOW ish cope and denial and delusions going on.

[00:00:16]A lot of men think that single men are actually happier than single women, even though the evidence shows that the exact opposite is the case, right?

[00:00:28]And look, I can understand why why some men think this way or some men want to think this way, because um the reality that women have more power in the dating market is very uncomfortable for men, right? It hurts the egos.

[00:00:50]Some men want to strong men posture and make it seem like they can turn off their attraction to women and just be this this stoic independent guy or something.

[00:01:04]And this might be the case for like a handful of men or something, and they choose to be single voluntarily or something.

[00:01:16]And and that's all great. That's all fine and dandy, but I'm not going to sit here and pretend that this is the case for the vast majority of men or the vast majority of single men.

[00:01:29]Okay, there's a reason why we talk about the male loneliness epidemic and not the female loneliness epidemic, right? Or we're not talking about men who are just voluntarily don't date women anymore.

[00:01:47]But, the reality is that a huge chunk of men are basically locked out of the dating market.

[00:01:56]And one of the comments mentioned a video by I Dean Paladin.

[00:02:03]And I watched this video for like 8 minutes and then she posted a study which which supposedly showed like decline in happiness of women.

[00:02:15]And the study said that that women's happiness declined over over time.

[00:02:22]And it declined even more that than men's happiness.

[00:02:28]But this study is actually invalid in many ways.

[00:02:33]Because it's based on face-to-face interviews.

[00:02:38]And there was actually a counter study or a a critique of that study which used different methods and which used more anonymous methods.

[00:02:49]Which basically showed the exact opposite of that study, but we'll get to that.

[00:02:53]Right?

[00:02:54]So, first of all, here's global data on gender and well-being around the world from the Brookings Institute. We explore gender differences in reported self in reported well-being around the world both across and within countries comparing age, income, and education cohorts.

[00:03:15]We find that women have higher levels of well-being than men with a few exceptions in low-income countries.

[00:03:23]So, the data from around the world shows that women have higher well-being than men.

[00:03:31]Which is a direct counter to the study that I Dean Paladin showed which was only focused on the United States. And here's the direct counter to the study that I Dean Paladin showed.

[00:03:46]Paradoxical decline another look at the relative reduction in female happiness.

[00:03:53]In contrast to Stevenson and Wolfers, I find that men and women between 1985 and 2005 experienced similar decreases in life satisfaction. Furthermore, both sexes witnessed comparable slippages in self-confidence, growing regret growing regrets about the past, and declines in virtually every measure of self-reported physical and mental health.

[00:04:29]And here comes the important part.

[00:04:31]The data also show that men's well-being in recent years has begun to fall more rapidly than that of than than that for women.

[00:04:46]And again, this study is more robust because it used anonymous methods rather than face-to-face interviews.

[00:04:55]So, this is a reputation of this tradcon idea that oh, feminism is actually worse for women than for men or something.

[00:05:05]No. Now, here's the real reason why I even make this video. I don't just want to respond to comments, but I also want to show you that women have greater power in relationship, and that this power translates to more power in other areas as well. If you have more power in the dating market and in relationships, that means that you have more power in general or over other areas of society.

[00:05:42]And women have more power in relationships than men.

[00:05:46]Ergo, they have more power than men in general.

[00:05:50]So, here's a very important concept.

[00:05:54]The principle of least interest. Now, what is this principle? The principle of least interest is the idea in sociology that the person or group that has the least amount of interest in continuing a relationship has the most power over it.

[00:06:16]If a person is more emotionally invested in a relationship, they have less power than the person who is less emotionally invested in that relationship.

[00:06:37]So, in order to figure out whether or not men or women have more power in the relationship, we have to see who is more invested in the relationship. Who wants the relationship more?

[00:06:56]Right? And the overwhelming evidence shows that men want relationships with women more than vice versa. The overwhelming evidence shows this.

[00:07:09]Men love women more than women love men.

[00:07:13]The evidence is very clear on this.

[00:07:15]Okay.

[00:07:16]Here is a recent Cambridge article, "Romantic relationships matter more to men than to women. We propose that relative to women, men expect to obtain greater benefits from relationship formation and thus strive more strongly for a romantic partner.

[00:07:37]Men benefit more from romantic relationship involvement in terms of their mental and physical health.

[00:07:45]Men are less likely to initiate breakups, and men suffer more from relationship dissolution.

[00:07:53]Men crave relationships with women.

[00:07:58]Okay. Now, now the part about the mental and physical health benefits that men might get that might be more subjective.

[00:08:08]But, anyway, the the evidence is very clear that men are the romantic gender, actually.

[00:08:17]They fall in love more readily, faster, and they are more devastated when the relationship ends.

[00:08:26]And as it turns out, men actually are physically and biochemically wired to be loyal to their female partner.

[00:08:38]Oxytocin enhances brain reward system responses in men viewing the in men viewing the face of their female partner.

[00:08:50]Oxytocin has been implicated in mediating pair bonds in various species, but as yet but as yet we know little about neurobiological factors that might act to promote fidel- fidelity, especially in men.

[00:09:08]Here we provide evidence for a mechanism by which oxytocin may contribute to romantic bonds in men by enhancing their partner's attractiveness and reward value compared with other women.

[00:09:22]So, men are basically biochemically even craving women and have an inbuilt neurological reward system that enhances their partner's attractiveness, which facilitates them being loyal to their female partner. There's also massive amounts of evidence that men have a stronger sex drive than women.

[00:09:57]And then women basically monopolize sex like a like a resource in a market.

[00:10:08]And we know from economics what happens if there is a monopoly in a market.

[00:10:16]The ones who control the monopoly have the consumer of that resource at their mercy.

[00:10:26]Quote, "A somewhat different explanation for why sex is a female resource can be deduced from motivational differences.

[00:10:35]Social exchange theory has featured the principle of least interest. According to that principle, a part a party gains power by virtue of wanting a connection less than the other wants it.

[00:10:50]For example, Waller and Waller and Hill proposed that the person who is less in love has more power to shape and influence the relationship because the one who is more in love will be more willing to make compromises and offer other inducements to keep the relationship going.

[00:11:12]If men want sex more than women, therefore, men would have to offer other benefits to persuade women to have sex, even if women desire and enjoy sex, too.

[00:11:25]Is it plausible that men desire sex more than women?

[00:11:30]And again, just to just to say this, like the fact that I even have to cite research is actually laughable because this is so obvious, right? This is all that I've shown here is very obvious.

[00:11:46]Okay, and then that men desire sex more than women is way it's extremely obvious, actually.

[00:11:57]Okay? But anyway, a literature reviewed recently examined the question of gender differences in sex drive by comparing men and women on behavioral indexes of sex drive.

[00:12:10]On every measure, men were found to display greater sexual motivation than women.

[00:12:17]Specifically, men think about sex more often, have more frequent fantasies, are more frequently aroused, desire sex more often both early and late in relationships and outside of relationships, desire a higher amount of sex partners, masturbate more frequently, are less willing to forego sex, and are less successful at celibacy, even when celibacy is supported by personal religious commitments. They mean voluntary celibacy here.

[00:12:49]Enjoy a greater variety of sexual practices, take more risks, and expend more resources to obtain sex, initiate more goal-directed behaviors to get sex, refuse sex less often, commence sexual activity sooner after puberty, have more permissive and positive attitudes towards most sexual behaviors, are less prone to are less prone to report lack of sexual desire, and rate their sex drives as stronger than women.

[00:13:21]No findings indicated that women had a stronger sex drive than men on any measure.

[00:13:29]Okay, so men want both romantic relationships with women more as well as physical and sexual intimacy with women more than the other way around, hence giving women advantages according to the principle of least interest.

[00:13:49]Okay, power advantages.

[00:13:54]It's like the worker who is at the mercy of the boss, right?

[00:14:01]The worker is desperate for the wage, right?

[00:14:07]Hence the boss has more bargaining power than the worker.

[00:14:11]I mean, think about it.

[00:14:13]If men had more power than women in relationships, why would men do more work than women in society and in relationships?

[00:14:27]Why?

[00:14:29]Why wouldn't they make women do all the work?

[00:14:33]Here's also this important part. Quote, "If sex is a female resource, then it will ultimately be up to the women to decide when and whether sexual relations commence."

[00:14:45]This view of women as sexual gatekeepers was supported by Cohen and Shotland, who computed correlations between when people thought sex would start in a given relationship and when they actually began began having sex.

[00:15:04]For the hapless men, the correlation was not even significant, indicating that their wishes and preferences were essentially irrelevant, whereas for women, the correlation was very high, indicating that sex occurred when they preferred.

[00:15:23]This study also found that men wanted sex to commence earlier than the women.

[00:15:28]Thus, women decide when sex commences.

[00:15:32]And the man's role is to invest time, money, attention, commitment, and other resources until the woman is sufficiently satisfied.

[00:15:45]I rest my case, basically. I rest my case.

[00:15:51]Men are the proletariat.

[00:15:53]Okay? That That's undeniable. That's undeniable.

[00:15:59]Undeniable. And to show even more evidence that single men are more desperately craving relationships, and men in general are more desperately cravings relationships with women than the other way around.

[00:16:15]Men's experience Men experience more emotional pain during breakups.

[00:16:22]Okay?

[00:16:23]Like, if women If If men were happier being single, why is this the case?

[00:16:32]Right?

[00:16:33]A new study of online relationships supports that men tend to experience emotional pain more than women when their relationship takes a turn for the worse.

[00:16:45]Okay?

[00:16:48]Then there's also this study "Loneliness Around the World: Age, Gender, and Cultural Differences in Loneliness."

[00:16:55]And it's based on a huge sample on multiple countries.

[00:17:00]And the finding is men report more loneliness than women. Now, men reporting more loneliness than women is actually very significant. A lot of people and a lot of feminists make fun of the male loneliness epidemic as if loneliness isn't a big deal or anything like that.

[00:17:19]Meanwhile, more and more studies come out that show that loneliness is actually a systematic stressor that is actually detrimental to one's health.

[00:17:31]Loneliness as a driver of allostatic load.

[00:17:36]Mechanisms linking social disconnection to physic to physiological dysregulation and health disparities.

[00:17:43]Loneliness is increasingly recognized as a multi-system stressor that continues to that that contributes that contributes to morbidity and premature mortality. Loneliness is associated with dysregulated hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity, elevated inflamma- elevated inflammatory biomarkers, altered amygdala reactivity, and cardiometabolic risk factors.

[00:18:20]These patterns highlight loneliness as both a psychological and biological risk factor.

[00:18:28]So, it's not just like uh loneliness is correlated with drinking or whatever that makes it a risk factor, but it could actually be a physiological risk factor that contributes to elevated inflammation.

[00:18:47]Here is also another study, loneliness, the immune system, and cardiovascular health, a systematic literature review.

[00:18:56]Loneliness appears to have both direct and indirect negative effects on cardiovascular health. It is associated with inflammation, which in turn affects the cardiovascular system.

[00:19:10]In addition, the associated negative feelings can have a negative impact on health as they can lead to increased inflammation and negative lifestyle habits such as alcohol consumption and nicotine use, which in turn increase inflammation. So, it's not actually an exaggeration to say that loneliness is literally killing men.

[00:19:35]Okay?

[00:19:38]So, men's life to some extent actually depends on having social connections and meaningful relationships in their lives.

[00:19:50]And a lot of men see, especially romantic relationships to women, as meaning meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

[00:20:01]Again, there are multiple indicators that especially single men have worse health outcomes.

[00:20:11]Right? So, men have in general higher alcohol consumption levels, but especially single men. Research confirms men drink more alcohol and engage in binge in binge drinking at higher levels at higher rates than women. Studies consistently show that single, divorced, or never married men have the highest consumption levels and face the greatest risk for long-term alcohol misuse compared to their married peers.

[00:20:45]You have to understand that a lot of MGTOW copers say that oh, but uh women have higher depression rates than men or something.

[00:20:55]Well, here's the thing about this.

[00:20:58]Depression is underdiagnosed and underreported. Men's depression rates are underdiagnosed and underreported, which means that this idea that women have higher depression rates than men is a lot of horse okay?

[00:21:18]And we see by actual indicators, by actual outcomes, that men have worse mental health outcomes.

[00:21:27]Like I said, higher substance use, higher substance use and alcohol consumption, and higher suicide rates.

[00:21:41]Especially after separation, after relationship breakdown, right? Those are actual indicators, which indicate that men have higher rates of uh of mental issues. Separation leads to suicide among men.

[00:22:00]The first systematic review of the international evidence on this issue, reviewing reviewing 75 peer-reviewed research articles from 30 countries with data on over 106 million men.

[00:22:17]Our review finds that relationship breakdown is a universal risk factor for suicidal thoughts, attempts, and deaths in men.

[00:22:28]So, this is an obvious indicator that relationships are very important for men. Very important.

[00:22:36]Men crave relationships with women, okay? Crave.

[00:22:42]It's it's it's similar to an addiction, okay?

[00:22:49]It is an addiction.

[00:22:50]Compared to married men, divorced men had an almost three times greater odds of death from suicide.

[00:22:59]Separated men had an almost five times higher risk.

[00:23:04]Now, this also doesn't just indicate how much men crave relationships, but also the divorce outcomes, right?

[00:23:14]Separation from children, etc., right?

[00:23:19]But nonetheless, men obviously also wanted the marriage to continue.

[00:23:25]And don't get me wrong here. Don't twist my words.

[00:23:29]Uh I'm not making a pro-marriage argument here, by the way. Right? I'm against marriage. I just report on the subjective desires of men and the demand and and the demand imbalance between men and women, that men love and want women more than the other way around.

[00:23:56]I know that marriage is objectively bad for men.

[00:24:00]Right? But subjectively, but subjectively, a lot of men might feel happier for a while in marriage than single men, because men love and crave women so much, even though they get exploited objectively in marriage.

[00:24:23]Basically, married men are like a worker who is very happy uh and who who love their job, even though objectively they get exploited at that job.

[00:24:37]Right? Men are married men are kind of like that.

[00:24:41]Again, here's more data that single women are happier than single men.

[00:24:48]So, this is the study "Sisters Aren't Doing It for Themselves: Gender Differences in Singles' Well-Being." Our results suggest that single women on average report higher levels of satisfaction with relationship status, life satisfaction, sexual satisfaction, and lower desire for a partner.

[00:25:08]A similar finding is echoed in the study about Chinese singles.

[00:25:16]On the so-called leftover women, leftover or flourishing gender differences in well-being amongst among Chinese singles.

[00:25:25]The present study recruited 1,629 Chinese speaking never married singles via Credamo, a nationally represented data p- data platform, and assessed multiple dimensions of well-being. Results indicated that single women reported higher well-being than single men, showing greater life showing greater life satisfaction, relationship status satisfaction, lower desire for a partner, and fear of being single, but no differences in family satisfaction. So, women outright admit that they are happy being single.

[00:26:07]Okay? And men also admit, despite despite there being a stigma against it, against them opening up about their issues, that they actually are unhappy being single.

[00:26:25]Right? So, this evidence here is in line but all the other evidence that I have shown.

[00:26:32]And it's totally logical.

[00:26:34]Right?

[00:26:36]If men desire romantic relationships more, men desire sex more, than women, then obviously men would be more unhappy being single.

[00:26:49]Right? And you You have to understand that women because of this demand imbalance have all kinds of options in the dating market. They don't have any trouble finding a man.

[00:27:01]Okay, then they can get pretty much any man.

[00:27:05]All right?

[00:27:07]The same is not true for men. Men have Men are struggling to get women.

[00:27:16]Okay?

[00:27:17]This is why they cannot afford to have very high standards.

[00:27:23]Right? This is why they would This is why they would accept a relationship with almost any woman.

[00:27:30]Which again brings us back to the topic of this video, the principle of least interest. We have shown the evidence now that men are more invested and interested in continuing a relationship or entering into a relationship with women.

[00:27:51]Which according to the principle of least interest means that women have more power in the relationship.

[00:27:59]Okay?

[00:28:01]They are effectively a monopoly. It's like a monopoly in the market. So, is there actually evidence behind this theory?

[00:28:13]And the answer to that question is yes, there is. Sex differences in the use of demand and withdrawal behavior in marriage, examining the social structure hypothesis.

[00:28:27]When examining the observed domineering and dominance data, we found that wives during discussion of either husband topics or wife or wife's topics behaviorally exhibited more domineering attempts than husbands and were more likely to be dominant than were husbands during either husband's topics or wife's topics.

[00:28:59]These results did not support the social structure hypothesis as as the expected sex differences in power favoring men were not found.

[00:29:14]Okay, so they expected men to have more power, but this was not found.

[00:29:20]Women were actually more dominant in marriage, which is exactly according to the principle of least interest.

[00:29:32]Because women could get any man because men desire women more, right? Just like the capitalist can just hire and fire workers willy-nilly because workers are more desperate.

[00:29:50]You see what's going on here, right?

[00:29:54]Here's more evidence. This is experimental data on men paying for dates and things like this, paying for for dinner.

[00:30:06]And it basically showed that men had a higher willingness to pay for dates than women. Furthermore, in the opposite sex partner condition relative to the same sex partner condition willingness to pay increased among men, but decreased among women.

[00:30:25]And it's not just paying for dates, but men are also more willing to do more riskier jobs, especially when women are around.

[00:30:38]Let me take the risk so you won't have to an evolutionary psychological analysis of spontaneous occurrence of division of labor labor across 14 countries.

[00:30:51]A sample of 5,279 people from 14 countries participated in an online scenario experiment to determine how willing they would be to perform riskier and more physically demanding tasks instead of their partner if they had to work with their partner to compete to complete a variety a variety of tasks.

[00:31:16]The result showed that men The result showed that men were more likely than women and participants paired with the same-sex partner were less likely than participants paired with the opposite-sex partner to undertake tasks that were risky and more physically demanding. In addition, when paired with the opposite-sex partner, the division of the division of labor between men and women occurred to an extreme degree.

[00:31:50]That means that when women were paired with men men were more willing to do extreme kinds of labor while women were decreasingly willing to do those kinds of things. This is a very important study. Sexual selection creates status-seeking males and unsustainable economic growth.

[00:32:18]Female preferences for status created a selective pressure on males favoring greater territoriality, competitiveness, and resource resource extraction.

[00:32:30]And that this selective and that this selective pressure acted on heritable variation in the testosterone's testosterone's testosterone system as well as cultural norms.

[00:32:45]The selection for male status created males that are adapted for competitive and unsustainable resource use.

[00:32:54]And I And I argue that the result is unsustainable economic growth. In other words, I propose that sexual selection created directional selection for male wealth-seeking behavior and that this is a cause of our unsustainability.

[00:33:12]Also, quote, "I find that models in which females can choose mates based on resources evolved towards unsustainable economic growth, while those in which mate choice is random evolved towards sustainability." End quote.

[00:33:29]So, in other words, this unsustainable capitalist system that we see today is based on female hypergamous mate selection. Look at this graph here, right?

[00:33:43]It shows the global trends in paid work by sex, and it shows that men do the vast majority of work in the economy.

[00:33:53]Okay?

[00:33:54]They do this in order to get with women.

[00:33:58]Okay?

[00:34:00]If men had the power in the relationship, and if we really suppose and if we really lived in a patriarchy, then why isn't it the reverse, right?

[00:34:14]Why is it that men have to work in order to maintain relationships with women?

[00:34:21]Again, it's very important to debunk these MGTOW copes about single men about single men being more happy than single woman because it mischaracterizes the general condition that men are in.

[00:34:41]Okay? Men have less power in society because they have less power in a relationship with women because there's a demand imbalance.

[00:34:53]Okay?

[00:34:56]That That's the main point, okay? The principle of least interest proves that women have more power than men.