“They Call Her Easy For Saying YES & Want Difficult Women..This Is Assault Culture?

Added: 2026-05-26

[00:00:00]Calling a woman easy as a pjorative means that you view a woman that wants to have sex and then follows through with it as a bad thing. So, are you only attracted to people that don't want to have sex? There's a word for that, predator.

[00:00:11]>> Men say, "This girl is too easy for me.

[00:00:14]Like, she's too easy. I'm telling her that I want to sleep with her." And she's like, "Yeah, let's do it. She's not even letting me fight or letting me struggle or letting me beg so much.

[00:00:25]She's them too easy." When they say this, are they actually promoting rape culture? Because if you're saying the girl is too easy, what exactly do you want? Do you want somebody that is going to tell you no and you're going to force them to do whatever you want to do? Or you want someone that will just want to do exactly the same you want to do with them?

[00:00:45]Which one are you?

[00:00:46]>> We live in a rape culture for real. Cuz every time a man calls a woman easy, I'm just kind of like, okay, what should she be? Should you have to convince her multiple times? Should she be hard? Like why is it not attracted to you that you want to have sex with a woman and she wants to have sex with you? That's weird. That's weird.

[00:00:59]>> So let me explain what's just gone on here. There's a lot of mind games. So what this creator has done, she's taken something that has nothing to do with applied it to a grape context to the point where it makes sense to people.

[00:01:09]People are now saying in the comments, "Oh, this makes sense. You woke me up."

[00:01:13]But when you accommodate for context, you can make it make sense. She's attached being. But is that what being easy comes from? Let's break it down.

[00:01:22]Before I get into explaining what it means to be easy, I just want to point out it's not just men that call women easy. It's very common for women to call men easy. So a question for the creator now. When women are calling men easy, isure then or is it just rape culture when men are calling women easy? Now what does it mean to be easy? When people refer to other people as easy, they are simply shedding light on two things. How that easy person responds to attention and options. The common theme with easy people is that they're not dating with intention. There's not really much substance going on. It's quick stuff. It's quick food, fast food, a quick fix, flirting, one night stands, you name it. So, the stuff that easy people look for is very surface level.

[00:02:04]It stops at attraction. Whereas, if you were to compare an easy person to a normal dating scenario, in a normal dating scenario, an individual has preferences, standards, boxes that need ticking. It doesn't just stop at attraction. There could be an option that comes to a normal individual that's dating that they are attracted to, but if that option does not fit their standards, they might pass that option.

[00:02:26]With easy people, that stuff doesn't matter. As long as the person is attractive to that person, they can go as far as they want to go. The creator was talking in terms of sex. So, let's talk about sex. Offering up your body will always carry value. Whatever generation you're in, it doesn't matter.

[00:02:42]It will always be a valuable act. So when you are doing it frivolously, when you are doing it with no substance behind it, you are automatically decreasing the value of your body, the value of the act. Hence why people might call this person easy. If there's a guy in your area that just has sex with women because he's attracted to them, you could call him easy. Why? Because it's not really much substance. Are you getting the drift? Are you understanding where I'm going? Very simple thing to grasp. The reason this creator has come to this conclusion is because her thinking is conditioned. What the creator said would only make sense to people with conditioned thinking like hers. They're not looking at every angle. They're not applying sense in every spot. They're just looking at it from a very specific experienced line of thinking.

[00:03:26]And it's very dangerous to hot take like this on Tik Tok because you're influencing people to not think critically. You're influencing people to think from your conditioned mindset. And I don't think that's fair. in easy comes from.

[00:03:41]>> This is a classic example of when two people are talking about something and using the same word but not having a shared understanding as to what that word means. In this case, the original creator is using a definition of rape culture that is more in line with reality. While the second one has a aired or flawed idea about what rape culture is, which is what led him to say that that original point has nothing to do with rape. So, for the purposes of this video, let's all have a shared definition. Rape culture is essentially when the behaviors and attitudes society has normalizes sexual violence or in this case rape. And so the first creator argues that we live in a rape culture because there is a stigma surrounding women who are quote unquote easy.

[00:04:23]Meaning that there is a negative connotation with a woman being enthusiastically willing to have sex with her partner. Even though in a non- rape culture setting, we want women to be enthusiastically consenting to any sexual encounter they find themselves in. But when we make being easy a bad thing, we're basically saying that there should be a level of resistance, maybe even convincing or coercion or a bit of work one has to do before sleeping with someone. When in reality, having to coersse somebody into having sex with you is rape. Any attitude or social connotation that makes enthusiastic consent less desirable is hence rape culture. Now, I will tag the second creator below and you can listen to his entire argument. But for me, it ends up becoming a straw man because he is essentially reformulating her argument and attacking that because he doesn't have a shared understanding about what she means when she says rape culture. I also think it's important to point out that rape culture does not always have to do with actual rape. When we dismiss the negative actions of men as boys will be boys, or when we give a pass to men in power who make sexually charged remarks at their female colleagues, even in the ways that we in Gen Z talk about sex in a very violent, almost non-consensual way, that all contributes to a society in which we have attitudes that make sexual violence more normalized. Because any discussions of sex that are not 100% enthusiastic and safe for both people involved contribute to rape culture. She's so easy. She's so easy. It sounds like she consented.

[00:05:57]Consent should always be easy. Okay. Is she easy or did y'all just align on exactly what you wanted and carry through with it? Is she easy or was she just honest and truthful and you did the exact same? Tell me what why do you believe that doing it with a woman should be hard? It's probably because that hard part that you're talking about very often comes from deception. Okay?

[00:06:26]And deception is something that is always going to be much harder to do than truth and honesty. Okay?

[00:06:32]Fortunately, we live in a world in which people are implored to not be themselves, to not be truthful, to not be honest, to not be direct about what they want. So, you believe that you must not be and then therefore inherently add in deception to your quote unquote game to get with a woman. You don't have to do all that. You can just be truthful and honest. I promise you, statistically speaking, you're going to find one woman who automatically is going to align you with no matter what you look like, no matter how much you make, no matter what your personality type is, some woman you will not have to do any games with or tricks with to be with. won't be a hard part. Okay, that is the truth and that is why it should be easy always. Consent is easy.

[00:07:20]Okay, [clears throat] I actually cannot stop thinking about this, but I've definitely noticed a pattern especially in like modern dating um where men will be like, "Oh yeah, you know, she's like really easy, bro." Like, you know, like I she really likes me.

[00:07:38]She really likes me. like kind of in like um oh no like she's feeling me too much.

[00:07:45]I logically like shouldn't that be the end goal? Like don't you want to have relations with someone who's genuinely attracted to you and likes talking to you and is like receptive and communicative?

[00:08:01]Like why is it always the I guess other side of like you know the thrill of the chase? It's like that it is I guess connection connected to grape culture like if you kind of like really and I didn't really um put the two and two together but I've been listening to a lot of like manosphere stuff and also um like they talk a lot about vasopressin as like a bonding chemical in men where they feel like like they only attach to women who put them through like roadblocks or challenges.

[00:08:40]And it's like I don't know like the thrill of the chase is just kind of an odd concept because these things should kind of come seamlessly and that's how these men fumble like a good girl. It's like all connected back to um grape culture where it's like you have to like convince someone uh to be into you. And I don't know, now that I've kind of put the two and two together after that video, like I'm it is genuinely disturbing and it now makes like a lot of sense. Um like I just like it to me it's just very illogical. So, it makes sense that it's rooted in something um like programmed that's a little uh not right.

[00:09:32]I'm glad that lady made that video because I made a similar video about just because she's easy for you doesn't mean she's easy for everyone. Basically, this lady said we live in a great culture for real because um what do you mean she's easy. She's she wants you and now she's easy. Yeah. Which is basically another way of saying just because she accepts your offer doesn't mean she's accepting every offer. And this is why I genuinely believe it is a sign of you like wanting someone that doesn't accept your offer so you can force yourself onto them, which is grapey, right? Or it's a sign of you having low self-esteem because you're like, I'm going to throw everything at this wall, right? And see what sticks, but oh my goodness, you actually want me back. Me?

[00:10:09]Why me? I'm no one. Why do you want me?

[00:10:12]That's a sign of low self-esteem.

[00:10:14]Believe in your source a little bit more, young blood man. Believe in you more. You understand what I'm saying? So for me, it's grapiness. um low self-esteem and or attachment wounds.

[00:10:22]You might have an avoidant attachment and you like the runner chaser dynamic.

[00:10:25]Once they stop and they're like, "Actually, yeah, I do want this thing."

[00:10:28]You're like, "Oh, I'm not I don't know how to deal with the mutuality of this thing because I have a insecure attachment style, which again, insecurity, right? An insecure attachment style. I'm either a fearful avoidant or a an avoidant. And it makes me uncomfortable that you like me back.

[00:10:46]This mutual consensual act. But if me me somebody comes up to me and says, "Yo, do you want some cookie dough ice cream?" And I'm like, "I would love I love cookie ice cream." Yes. And then they hit me with, "Gh, why do you want cookie dough ice cream?" That means you want every flavor of ice cream. How did you make that correlation in your brain?

[00:11:02]I like this ice cream. It doesn't mean I'm going for the brownie, chunk, chunky chip, whatever the hell else they've got out here. I like cookie dough. I want a cookie dough. I said yes to cookie dough. I want cookie dough. And this is why I say men, you guys have really terrible vetting systems. For real. It's okay if you see someone and you know that they are in a relationship and they're constantly cheating in their relationship or they're flirting with everyone and they're doing things that makes you, you know, look at their character a bit sideways. That's different. That is a good correlation to make and have apprehensions around.

[00:11:27]Someone liking you and wanting you back and accepting your offer because they want that thing doesn't mean they're accepting every offer. And also, you have to also recognize, yeah, that just because a woman in her singlehood might flirt with different people and not even take it far, right? Because even another thing that women people used to weaponize against women is you know their they'll be like oh everyone even sometimes that's gossip right one one thing you have to be able to recognize is in their singlehood that's not may not be how they operate in a relational dynamic with someone that they are genuinely taking seriously so you have to ask the questions you have to that's why I say man have terrible vetting systems and that's one of the reasons I created the card game are you really compatible because you need to be intentional about asking the thorough questions be intentional in your relational dynamics get to know a person's morals values and character in what they say and then assess them in a variety of settings beyond what they say. That's why the cards are step one.

[00:12:18]They're getting to know them in a variety of settings and seeing how they operate with them with you in different settings with different people is step two. Always stay vigilant and then trust your ability to leave a dynamic that you're saying the values, [clears throat] the character, the morals. Mm- I don't like it. That's how you're supposed to maneuver and operate instead of being like, "Yo, you're easy off of a very poorly. There's not enough data here for you to even make that conclusive like, yeah, to make that conclusive like assumption." Do you get what I'm trying to say? You'll say you want vapos and then they'll say, "Oh, they want Burger King, KFC, and everything else." How did you jump there, man? That and it's like they accepted your offer. Don't be like, "No, I want you to decline my offer so I can force myself onto the offer so you can want me by like sometimes it is God giving you a just that easy type of scenario for you. It doesn't mean that they're easy for everybody. It's the next someone else could come out and say, "Yeah, can I have you like I don't want that. I don't want you watch."

[00:13:11]You know what I'm saying? Vet them.

[00:13:14]Assess their character as time goes.

[00:13:16]Just let time tell. If you need help with that, there's a card game of 140 questions that ask you deeper questions to get to know your partner in the basket. See you in the next video as well.

[00:13:23]>> I feel like it's conditioning and they've conditioned men to always chase women. You know, they tell them you're the one that will chase her. Make sure you chase her. And if a man is not struggling and chasing you so much, he might not value. That is how they've conditioned them. So, if a man likes you and he comes to meet you and you're like, "Okay, I like you too." Yeah, he's seeing you as you're very easy and he can easily get to you and he feels like because he he can easily get to you. It feels like every other man can actually have access to you just like that. So they've been conditioned to always want to force themsel into those type of relationship forcing themsel to for a girl to like them. So imagine you you go you're a guy you went to talk to a girl and she's like she doesn't like you.

[00:14:11]These men do not back up. They will keep disturbing disturbing disturbing until you be like okay okay what do you want to you be like okay just like a man want your number and you're like I don't want to give you my number they keep disturbing keep pestering you be like okay okay I have my number that is what if they don't take no for an answer so when a woman say tell them no they feel more interested in that person than when the person tell them yes okay let's do this since this is what you want let's do this they don't see they see it like oh you're so easy but we women sometimes have also been conditioned to be doing playing hard to get. Yes. You see people advising don't act like you like him.

[00:14:47]Act like you don't like him. So that but it is if you're matured and you like somebody and the person come and tell you oh I want to sleep with you and you want to sleep with the person. Maturity will let you say okay let's do this.

[00:15:02]Right. But you playing hard to get you playing hard to get. And when you actually really want it, what if the person doesn't pursue you? What if it doesn't chase? Men are supposed to do the chasing. Yes. But then if you agree to something like that on the first time, doesn't mean that you are easy.

[00:15:18]Doesn't mean that you agree to anybody, any other person that comes to you.

[00:15:24]Maybe you just like that person genuinely and you just wanted to, you know, that doesn't make you easy girl.

[00:15:30]Like you're so easy that any man can just come and meet you and that's it. Do you think when these men say this girl is too easy, they're trying to promote rape culture in the sense that they want somebody that will tell them no no no no and don't even consent and then forcing her or making her just okay okay do what you have to do right do you think that is what they are trying to promote let me know what you think about this conversation down in the comment section respectfully as always your go and thank you so much for tuning in this video I hope you enjoyed this one forget to like and share and subscribe and I'll see you in my next one, guys.