Female Loneliness Is Catching Up Fast

[00:00:00]Want to know why there's a male loneliness epidemic and men are being blindsided by divorces that they didn't see coming? So, I made a video the other day and I got a couple of responses from the men asking whether or not there is a female loneliness epidemic, just men.

[00:00:15]And initially, I said no. But then I thought about it and I want to change my answer. It's yes, but not the yes that you gentlemen think it is. For the longest of time, women have done everything in relationships. They have been everything in relationships and marriage and they got tired of it. So yes, there was a and is a female loneliness epidemic, but it's not in the way that men think. Men think it's, oh, she's single with cats and no man wants her and because she has unrealistic standards because of [music] feminism.

[00:00:48]No, that's not why the female loneliness epidemic is women that are in marriages that do nothing for them while they do everything for everybody else. That is the female loneliness epidemic. And a lot of women are no longer desiring to stay in that female loneliness epidemic.

[00:01:08]They're no longer staying in those marriages. And if you want to classify those women as destroying the nuclear family and breaking up families because they don't want to be somebody's house cleaner, bread winner, and slave, [music] then I guess you can say that they're responsible for the divorce statistics in America. I don't know. [music] But y'all let me know in the comments what you think.

[00:01:33]>> Yo, these chicks is really wondering why men don't approach them.

[00:01:36]>> Are you guys single?

[00:01:38]>> Yes, [music] sadly. So, you are meeting guys at bars and clubs and they are coming up and talking to you.

[00:01:43]>> No, I Guys do not come up to me.

[00:01:47]>> I don't know who's teaching y'all.

[00:01:52]>> Would you prefer that guys walked up to you?

[00:01:54]>> Yes, but like it depends.

[00:01:57]>> Good line.

[00:02:00]>> Really strong.

[00:02:01]>> I think a guy walking up to you talking about, "Hi, how are you? My name is Joe.

[00:02:06]What's good?" is a good line.

[00:02:08]>> Yeah. like, "What's good?" Yeah. So, what's your name?

[00:02:11]>> If they notice that you're interested, like if we're making eye contact from across the room or something, if a random guy just comes up to you out of nowhere and you weren't like giving him the signs that like you wanted him to, like that can be awkward.

[00:02:22]>> At this point, I don't know what to say about the dating [music] market. They want guys to come up to them, but at the same time, they got videos online saying that men that they're creeps. They don't want to be approached by men. We don't need men in this world. And then on the other hand, they want to be approached and they're wondering why. You're with your friend, we keep thinking, "Yo, we're going to go up there, be called a creep, or your friend's going to speak like, nah, yo, she don't want you." Or if I buy you a drink, I got to buy her a drink. This the expectations are ridiculous at this point. The women should just come up to the men like, "Yo, if you like it, if you like me, just say what's up." You know what I'm saying? Oh, we got to give you the signs. Oh, it depends. If if my back is turned, don't come up to me. There's so much like you got to climb up so many hills to just to get a number. And I don't even know who this lady is at the bottom. Just freaking What's good?

[00:03:05]What's good? That's a good line. Like what? What are you talking about? You know what I'm saying? And the other chick, oh, they got to come with a good line. Yo, why can't I just be like, "Hey, what's up? I saw you from across the room. I'm Jay." Blah, blah, blah.

[00:03:15]It's never that simple. You know what I'm saying? Having to buy your friends drinks or hear scrutiny from them if they don't like me. They speak for the chick that you trying to talk to. It's It's a mess, man. Like, it's not even the same no more. And it's not even worth it, honestly. Like nowadays, you could better off you could buy from a chick for less than what dinner cost with no commitment if you look hard enough. So, I don't know what these chicks talking about. Things got to change if you want [ __ ] to go back to old. These women ain't even traditional women. So, there's no point about being a traditional man. [music] And that pretty much sums it up. When you out there dating, you need a of a sign for even me to think about coming up to [music] you just to make you turn around with you.

[00:03:49]>> You said something along the lines of guys areing stupid. [music] >> Yeah.

[00:03:54]>> Like if I said women are stupid, wouldn't you say like that's really misogynistic? That's really sexist.

[00:03:59]>> Can you please like cite exactly what I was saying in this video? This is a quote from you. Guys areing stupid. I think it was, "Oh, stop treating men like the prize." I think it was that video. And you said, "Guys are stupid."

[00:04:11]>> I think yes, there are many men that are stupid. Yes.

[00:04:14]>> But if I were to say women are stupid, wouldn't you have a problem with that?

[00:04:19]>> Yeah, I would.

[00:04:19]>> Would it be sexist?

[00:04:21]>> For me to say that, would it be misogynistic?

[00:04:24]>> Yes.

[00:04:24]>> Okay. So then you're sexist and misandress or at least the statement was misandress.

[00:04:31]No, I don't think that statement means that we hate men.

[00:04:36]>> Well, it would be like a prejudice towards men. You think they're stupid.

[00:04:39]>> Okay. Yeah, it's prejudice. She can dish it out, but she can't take it, right?

[00:04:44]So, she can say guys are stupid. [music] Guys are stupid. And says, "Well, no, that's not misandress. That's not misandressed at all." But Brian says, "If guys said that about women, if guys said, "Oh, all women are effing stupid."

[00:04:58]Would that be misogynistic? Yeah. Would that be hateful? Yeah. Okay, but what about if you say it about men? No, that's different. [music] Have you ever seen just a lack of ownership?

[00:05:09]>> Man never comes out on top in a public relationship, bro. So, if you're a man listening to this, just don't do it. I don't need to give you no reason. I don't need to give you no facts. I have no statistics behind this. But my my theory is because black women run the internet.

[00:05:26]>> Like, black women run the internet, right? All the trending topics and all of the stuff, the culture that be going on is ran by black women. Black women are loyal to women.

[00:05:35]>> So this woman can literally be cheating on her man or cheating on her husband and they going to find their way to gas like you into thinking you were the issue. So all these men online that's doing this relationship couple stuff and doing this, it's just not going to end well. Bro, here's the problem. If you build an audience, if you're a man out here and you build an audience of women by catering to a woman and being this husband, boyfriend figure, if y'all break up, they going to go to her. Like, they going to root for her to get a new boyfriend. Like, and if you get a new woman, they not going to be happy for you, bro.

[00:06:11]>> Hell no. And that No, you you bro, you ain't. And then also another aspect of it though, I feel like when you start doing that, you got to start faking your relationship to a degree. You can't even just be y'all mad at each other. You got to fake do a skit.

[00:06:24]>> You got to fake do a skit.

[00:06:25]>> Not a relationship a job.

[00:06:27]>> Do you know who that YouTuber is on CJ so cool? Bro, CJ So cool was a YouTuber who went viral for taking being a stepdad. Like he's just glorified stepdad. His whole thing was he's taking care of her kids, being a stepdad, like love, you know, just stepping up.

[00:06:44]>> That's interesting.

[00:06:44]>> Relationship, couples, relationship goals, whatever. The minute he broke up with her, bro, his life went to, bro.

[00:06:51]Like, people just started canceling him and every like he was the stepdad of the of the internet, bro. Everybody loved him. The minute he broke up with his girlfriend, bro, it was over. So, like just men just don't do it, bro. Bro, it don't really benefit nobody. Um, it benefits the woman at the end of the day because most relationships just statistically going to fail. Um, and when they do fail, you're going to be the one um you're going to [music] be the one cook.

[00:07:17]>> No, bro. You you you tell them the truth. And I think a lot of dudes don't realize that when you when you But when that's your brand, you going to have mostly women following you. It's probably going to be 80 90% of women.

[00:07:26]Yes. And they ain't following you because of you. If you try to do your own thing, they ain't coming along.

[00:07:31]>> They not they not coming alone.

[00:07:33]>> Every woman here would agree that we don't want men bringing their [music] experience and sluttiness to the table.

[00:07:38]We want men bringing their kindness, their godliness. their honesty, their communication skills, their education.

[00:07:46]>> I'm going to translate that woman for you guys. This is women speaking from a perspective that the guy's already attractive. There's a reason why nice guys finish last of women say these things, but you're not actually aroused by it. You want the bad boy. You want the guys that are attractive, the guys that can tell you to shut up, make a sandwich, right?

[00:08:00]>> I think you're stuck in 1950 and you need to wake up and realize you're in 2025.

[00:08:04]>> No, that's precisely my point is we're 2025 and women have changed >> for the better. for the worse actually.

[00:08:11]But that's fine.

[00:08:12]>> Okay. Well, did you know that a woman invented Wi-Fi? You couldn't even upload your rage bait videos without her.

[00:08:17]>> This is incredible. If we had to rely on your guys' ingenuity, okay, we'd be rubbing sticks on Wi-Fi. Fantastic. But yeah, men can't be [ __ ] because it is difficult for a man to be a [ __ ] And [ __ ] is a pjorative term that is only attributed to women because it's easy for you guys to get. It's not easy for us. Men have to bring something to the table to get access. Women don't >> because women are picky and women aren't easy and we don't go for anything with a hole. Thank you. Here's my point. Just because you are paying child support don't mean you are supporting your CHILD. MATTER OF FACT, CHILD SUPPORT SHOULD BE CALLED I'm going just give my my baby mama a few couple dollars that the court made me do. But that don't mean that you are supporting that child mentally, emotionally. Are you there for your children on a daily basis? That is support. Child support is taking that child to the first day of school. Child support is PTA meetings.

[00:09:05]Child support is being there to cheer from the stands. Child support is being there to help that kid learn how to read. Child support is going to the school when he gets his first bully.

[00:09:14]Child support is taking him to get his first haircut. That's child support.

[00:09:18]Paying money ain't supporting the child.

[00:09:20]Now you pay that money, but you got to do other things if you want to say I'm supporting my child.

[00:09:24]>> Don't switch up now, [ __ ] Just cuz I said I wouldn't let you crack don't mean that we still can't cuddle. We still can't, you know, hold hands. We still can't do the loveydovey that you insisted that we do. Yeah. Don't switch up now cuz I hate when y'all do that.

[00:09:39]Like y'all don't get your way now all of a sudden it's a whole adult temper tantrum and it's like what the is a turn off. You ugly as doing that. Oh, we grown and all that [ __ ] I will slap you into the new universe. I will slap you into the next gen. Hopefully by then Trump will be out of date. And I mean never date an educated woman, a successful woman, a wealthy woman, a rich girl, a dominant woman, a competitive woman, a woman that is fixed on becoming a successful entrepreneur, someone going up the career ladder, any kind of woman like that, you never ever go near. Not because she's evil, not because she's a bad person, but because >> she can't be manipulated.

[00:10:28]>> You know, I and I do understand women saying, "Well, I I don't want to be a slave or an uh sex slave or a maid and all of these things."

[00:10:41]I get that.

[00:10:43]But [music] we you we use these words, man. We keep on using these words and it's nothing like what you're saying. Well, I don't want to be a slave. You're not a slave.

[00:10:59]The problem is for a lot of modern women, they think for whatever reason, maybe they've been watching too much TV, that you're not going to have to do any work around the house. And I guess television has done this thing to where it shows that a man is not doing anything when in fact he really is.

[00:11:20]But it it well it's not important. It's not as important as the stuff that I'm doing. Of course not. It never is. And [music] let women tell it it never will be. Modern women will take a task like cleaning the kitchen and and to get more specific, they'll take a a task like washing the dishes and break that down into 50 different things and say, "I did 100 things today.

[00:11:47]What did you do?" And when you boil all of that down, she really [music] just clean the wash the dishes and put them in the dishwasher. That's it. I guarantee you you're overdoing it.

[00:12:01]>> Men are nine times more likely to commit after a divorce. This literally kills men.

[00:12:06]>> Yeah, exactly. Because men actually benefit from marriage more than women do. And when you look at the statistics of like post divorce um mental health outcomes, men have worse mental health outcomes than women. Women are typically happier after divorce. And so if you want to argue that that marriage disproportionately benefits women, like that's not true. I'd be pretty unhappy too if I was on child support or alimony and I had a hard time seeing my kids >> and you had to support your children.

[00:12:30]What a hard life.

[00:12:31]>> Well, you understand that it's not taxed. So, the the problem is they take over 50% of the man's income. So, they have to pay taxes on the stuff they're giving her and take half of his paycheck [music] >> to support his children that he wants to be involved in their lives.

[00:12:46]>> Right. But it wasn't his choice because women leave the majority. It >> is his choice to relinquish his parental rights if he wants to. I'm what I'm saying is many men [music] want to be married and they want to be an involved father and they want to stay with the mother of their children.

[00:13:01]>> My point is if she makes the decision to leave, she should pay for it. If you want to leave, that's totally fine, but you should pay to raise your kid. And when you keep on hearing those same messages that beating you up, that beat [music] you up, sometimes you can feel discouraged. And so when I come home to my woman, I want to be encouraged.

[00:13:17][music] I want to feel like the strongest man in this world. But a lot of women have adopted this mind of as he [music] should, he should do that because I'm a woman. Say thank you. As you should say [music] thank you to this man because a lot of men really are putting their lives on the line. A lot of men are still trying to navigate this world just like we trying to navigate this world too. But the last thing I need because I know that I'm supposed to be provisional. I'm supposed to protect you, our children. I'm supposed to provide in this house. I'm supposed to lead. I'm supposed to be able to listen to you when I make mistakes. Sometimes to my woman, I ain't gonna get a I'm sorry if you made the mistake and then I end up having to apologize for the mistake that you made. Like sometimes we don't give the men the thank yous that they need. And we have to understand that it is our position as women as well as men, but for sure as women to give you the [music] safety spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. I think the problem is women say that they want a masculine man until they get one and then they realize that a lot of their is not going to fly. [music] >> A lot of that attitude they're men are not going to put up with. A lot of the the talkback or the constant checks there's only but so long that man is going to let you keep [music] continue to correct him before he's over it. And it's even like little things, right? So it could be, oh, I was supposed to turn right back there. Actually, you're supposed to turn left. [music] Or, oh, if they're reading and they read a word wrong. Oh, actually it's this word. Like there's only but so many corrections that a man wants. And why do you feel like you need to correct him?

[00:14:42]You're not his teacher.

[00:14:43]>> But what if he's wrong?

[00:14:45]>> Then he'll figure it out.

[00:14:46]>> So you just going to let a man figure it out. You ain't going to be there to assist.

[00:14:50]>> Assist is different from letting him figure it out. I'm I'mma assist. If it's time for me to come in, sure. Put me in, coach. I'm ready. And also, most times it's not time for me to come in.

[00:15:00]>> Mhm.

[00:15:01]>> Does that make sense?

[00:15:02]>> It does. Sometimes I hear after I see these videos and I be like, even before I was married, who are y'all dating?

[00:15:08][music] I would never fix my mouth to say some of these things that I see online. Now, I might think it in my head. Well, a fraction of it cuz I honestly these these girls be going off, but I could ne it couldn't because I'm I'm ruled and governed by respect [music] and standard. I can't say certain things to you. I can't. This woman says, "It must be absolutely terrifying to be a man and have to ask a woman for her number."

[00:15:33]>> I had a guy come up to me the other night at a party and be like, "Hey, I think you're really pretty. I just wanted to introduce myself. What's your name?" And he was like, "Can I please have your phone number?" And he was really nice and approached me in a very calm, gentle, sweet way. It got me thinking of how scary it must be to be a guy and to have to go up to girls. Like, if I was a guy, you would never catch me doing that. Like, probably ever. I I don't think I would ever do it. I think if I were a guy, I would have to approach with like a funny joke or like a funny comment about something because there is no way you would see me going up to a girl and being like, "Hi, I think you're really pretty. What's your phone number?" Like, that is so nerve-wracking. So, if you're a guy listening to this out there that approaches women, not in a creepy way, but like, you know, nicely says like, "Hey, what's your name? I just wanted to say you're really pretty." Kudos to you because that must be terrifying.

[00:16:19]>> Well, she kind of makes a point. I know for most men, they don't really have the courage to go up to a girl randomly wherever and ask for a number.

[00:16:26]Especially now day and age where social media exists, bad information exists, and you know, a lot of women tell other women, "Yeah, make sure you can pay your bills. Curve that guy. If he don't look this good, have this or that. Don't even entertain the fact. You always got to worry if she's with her friend." There's too many variables when it comes to asking girls for their number in public now. And for the ones like this that wish we would just do it. Yeah. I mean, it sucks for them because society's changing to where it's almost not even safe to go up to a girl without her thinking some. But yeah, once upon a time it was good to go up Walmart, Target, wherever you at, a supermarket, a clothing store, see a girl that was attractive and just ask for her number.

[00:17:01]But that's the thing, that isn't most guys. Most guys don't get played, get laid, are confident. That's just the reality. That's why the top guys that have those things I just mentioned, they're the ones getting all the girls cuz they're not afraid. For me personally, it's always a no. You don't ask if a, you know, if you ask a shorty for her number, she tells you no, that's it. It's on to the next one. You know what I'm saying? Or if she's taken, that's it. Easy to play the game if you just be respectable. Don't be a creep like she said. And that's it. Just have confidence in yourself. After so many asking of pretty girls for their number, someone's going to tell you yes, and that's a fact. So, it is terrifying.

[00:17:31]She's not lying here. But yo, you see her, grab your [music] balls. Not literally. Go over there, see what's good with her. Be calm, cool, collected.

[00:17:37]If it's a no, cool. If yeah, you got a number. Do your thing.

[00:17:39]>> As women, can't we just be honest about the fact that a lot of girls aren't lonely? because they can't find a decent man who's respectable [clears throat] or men aren't men anymore. They're lonely because the expectations of what they want out of a relationship do not equate with who they are in relationships. You say you want a man who's emotionally mature. But whenever you're losing an argument, you start crying. That's emotional manipulation. Some of y'all want a man who's consistent, but you don't even post content consistently, let alone go to the gym consistently.

[00:18:05]And don't get me started on the meal plan you said you were going to start 3 weeks ago for your winter arc. You want a man with great communication skills, but you crashed out on the last one because you thought he was gaslighting you or manipulating you or he was a narcissist. Stop letting people get you out of character. That means you don't have good communication skills. All I'm saying is you can't expect a high-value partner when you are not a high-V value partner. This fantasy idea that all the men are the bad ones and all the girls are just 10 out of 10 waiting for someone perfect. You're not perfect. 10 out of 10 is perfect. You're not perfect and neither is the man that is also on your level. but you won't even give him a chance because in your mind you're a 10 and he's a five, but in reality you're both sixes. Sit with that. The uncomfortable truth here, ladies, is that the dating market and the men are not the only problem. For a lot of the girls, self-awareness is the problem because you can't want better when you're not better. I gave up on dating because somewhere along the way, it stopped feeling exciting and started feeling like a place where I kept showing up whole while everyone else showed up halfway. I'd walk in steady and honest [music] and end up face to face with someone who couldn't even offer the simplest consistency.

[00:19:08]I kept uncovering truths I never should have had to look for. People with someone else in the background. People still tangled in their past. People who loved the idea of me but couldn't follow through with the reality of effort. And maybe it hits harder now because I've actually done the work. I've sat with myself and I know what I bring. I've rebuilt pieces of me I used to think were gone for good. [music] But my life finally feels grounded and I'm protective of that in a way I never used to be. So when someone comes in and offers me almost love or half effort or attention disguised as intention, I feel the shift immediately. [music] It's knowing I didn't spend years becoming this version of myself just to hand to someone who can't meet me where I am. And truly, if the choice is between settling and solitude, I'll choose myself every time. Because I'd rather be alone than let someone small and do the woman I felt like to become.

[00:19:57]Should a guy cash app his crush money to get their attention?

[00:20:01]>> Absolutely.

[00:20:02]>> Why?

[00:20:03]>> It shows me that you're serious. Like even if it's just like $60 for breakfast, you're definitely going to get my attention way faster and get me more interest. You know what I mean?

[00:20:11]>> No [ __ ] should ever cash app a female anything. It's a disgrace. A dude that is going to cash app a female money that didn't earn it, one, she wouldn't respect him because she didn't earn it.

[00:20:22]Two, he enters the customer frame. when he enters that customer frame, she could never look at you anything different but a customer. Maybe you could possibly get some puss. And what type of puss would it be? It wouldn't be genuine desire.

[00:20:35]It'll be some type puss cuz you pretty much paid for.

[00:20:39]>> And you know, I prayed. I said, "God, if I'm meant to be alone, at least take away my desire to be loved." And I think that's the hardest part about loneliness. You can still have great experiences alone, but every time you have a great experience, you're stuck wondering, "Wow, wouldn't this be so much better if I could share this moment with someone else?" You know, where's the Pam to my gym? Where's the Patrick to my Spongebob?

[00:21:06]I feel like I'm cursed because at every moment, I always want there to be another person. So, I ask, "Take away my desires and set me free."

[00:21:15]>> So, how would you care to me >> if you were my husband?

[00:21:18]>> When I'm your husband? every way possible. There wouldn't be a second I wouldn't cater to you.

[00:21:22]>> I'd be fat as >> you would be. You could wake up at 3:00 in the morning and ask me to make you a food and I will get out of bed and I will make you food. There is nothing I wouldn't do [music] because you are my partner and I am the woman. I wouldn't ask you to clean. I wouldn't ask you to cook. I wouldn't [music] ask you for anything domesticated because that is my part as a woman. Me personally, how I believe before anyone starts sending it.

[00:21:43]>> Does it mean my part would be for you >> to provide and protect? [music] You provide. You look after the household. You make sure I'm safe always. You make sure the children are safe always.

[00:21:53]>> And I will make sure you you don't have to worry about anything else.

[00:21:55]>> If she says the past is the past, you're cooked. If she sings along to rap songs in your car, you're cooked. If she's on anxiety medication, you're cooked. If she's [music] a bartender, you're cooked. If she says the dating market in her city sucks, that means she's the problem and you're cooked. [music] If she asks you about your political views, you're cooked. If she's still on hinge, you're cooked. If she talks bad about her ex, you're cooked.

[00:22:16]>> [music] >> If she wears scrubs to work, you're cooked. She smokes weed, you're cooked.

[00:22:21]If she's ever been in a fight with another girl, you're cooked. If she [music] talks down on her dad, your is grass, gang. Let me know what I miss.

[00:22:30]>> And what Pearl is saying is what a lot of men are asking.

[00:22:33]Modern women, and I understand men, once again, they have some blame in this. A man has to be accountable for his actions. Modern women, it seems like they're going scot-free.

[00:22:49]They're going out here deciding, well, I don't want to be this anymore. I don't want to do this. And they're going scot-free. And a man has to pay for whatever they decide.

[00:23:00]That's not right. And men are getting tired of that. That's what men keep on saying. Why is it always on me?

[00:23:08]She goes out here. If she goes out here and does the wrong thing, I still have to do something. I still have to This might a lot of these ladies, they could go out here and do something wrong and a man still got to pay for it. A man still got to be held accountable for it. A man you go, "Well, I decide to leave after so many years cuz this ain't working out for me. How is it not working out for you? Am I not protecting and providing?"

[00:23:33]No, you are. I just want something different. So, you just want to take all of the money that I made. That's That's [music] it.

[00:23:41]You just want to take all the stuff that I've worked for. That's it. Cuz even though we keep on saying that men aren't protecting and providing, I've seen some of these houses. I've seen some of these cars. I've seen some of the vacations that you guys go in.

[00:23:58]And what y'all are doing just fine. So to sit up here and say that a man hasn't taken care of you, he hasn't protected and provided. No. You just want to take somebody else's money and leave. That's what Pearl is saying. At some point in time, you guys, we need to start pushing accountability your way.

[00:24:17]You want you want the word, you pay for it. You want to go out on your own and strike out on your own, you pay for it.

[00:24:24]>> Women who don't want to submit to a man because they're afraid of being controlled are the women who are controlling their man. And what they're really afraid of is losing that control.

[00:24:34]That's what submission is. It's surrendering control. Yielding to the leadership of your man does not mean blindly following orders and letting them boss you around. But the reason that women think that's what submission means is because that's how men have treated women in the past. But now women are the ones dominating their men and then complaining that they're not masculine enough. The minutiae of it can be as mundane as my partner telling me, "Hey babe, can you pick up some eggs on your way from work?" [music] And submission would look like, "Yeah, babe.

[00:25:04]What else would you like?" What masculine women do is they challenge the leadership of their partner. Why do I have to do it? Why can't you do it? Or they criticize and challenge every decision they make. Masculine men will not put up with that type of behavior.

[00:25:16]Whether it's healthy masculinity or wounded masculinity, there's too much of the same energy going on. So, if you want your man to be masculine, you have to be willing to drop that defensive masculine shield that pushes people away.

[00:25:30]>> There is a rise of single, lonely men.

[00:25:33]This is intentional. I want you to understand this is intentional. There's a rise of single only men. And then you have a push for over sexualization for women who don't understand male nature cuz they don't know nothing about male nature. They don't. But they're using sexuality to manipulate and anger men. This is done from the top. This is not done from the bottom. Right? Okay.

[00:26:02]And what's going to happen is they're trying to rile up these men because this is a part of their depopulation plan.

[00:26:09]>> It's a part of the depopulation plan.

[00:26:12]Rle up these men, make them angry, right? And we already know if you study boxing, how does a boxer get ready, refrain from sex, and make yourself angry when you get in the ring? That's what testosterone does to the male brain. and they attack.

[00:26:32]>> So, this is a game that's being played from a much higher level and everybody in it, everybody else is a pawn in it.

[00:26:40]Mindless robots that have no earthly idea about what's being done.

[00:26:43]>> Some women don't like you until they see you with another woman.

[00:26:46]>> Yeah.

[00:26:46]>> Oh, I didn't know you was messing like, "Okay, I like that."

[00:26:50]>> They shot.

[00:26:51]>> And that's why you got to have an attractive woman. I love when what I be talking about gets backed up accurately because this is what a lot of men actually do to women without intentionally doing it to women. It just depends on the caliber of woman. Don't let her be an insecure woman because what he just said is the exact same reason why when a lot of women leave these dudes, the minute that dude gets with another woman and that woman deemed that that other woman looks better than her, that's usually what ends up happening. Those women end up trying to chase back after that dude because they didn't think that dude would go and get another woman. And now they're competing because their insecurities is showing face because they feel as if that woman look better than them. And they want to see if that man is going to choose them back over whoever that woman is. Say what y'all want to say, but some of us going to tell it like a TI is until that other woman came into the picture. She wasn't worried about nothing until she seen the caliber of woman that that man end up upgrading semi-wit. [music] Am I lying? Tell me in the comments. Let's have a conversation. Let's see how many y'all going to be honest and tell the truth.

[00:27:49]>> I've given up on women. I saw a content creators uh post yesterday went, you know, he goes viral quite a bit. He's kind of, [music] you know, big following on here.

[00:27:58]Um and he was just saying there's no men out. You know, only women are going out.

[00:28:02]Da da. It's true, but men have given up on women and the mystique is gone and the era is over. Men have figured out and listened to women on TikTok run their mouth for 5 years. So now men are not really that interested in women, have given up on them. And that's okay.

[00:28:16]Men can do whatever they want to do. But what where men are at right now, they're kind of like, you know, they're just either staying home playing at video games or [music] they're they're going to maybe, you know, local events, nothing to where the women are going to go. Uh they might go to the range. They might go to, you know, you could just think of different places, but men are not out and about, you know, doing the whole luxury lifestyle. You know, some men are, but it's very rare. So, what you're seeing now is the women, you know, independent, blowing all their money out on the nightife and the men aren't there. Well, the men have given up on women. I've talked to a lot of them. I've seen tens and thousands of comments [music] in these posts. Men don't care no more. We'd rather have a good time. If the only man you date are the men who approach you at a bar, um, I just want to give you a heads up, that's a pretty low bar because when you allow the men who only approach you to be your dating pool, you literally allow men to literally define your preferences.

[00:29:19]Like, I'm not sure if a lot of women actually know their type.

[00:29:24]Do you know your type? Or are you only going by other men's type, but you think you fit in? Like your only dating pool are filled with the men who approach you. And I'm not trying to hear, oh, like, I would never chase a man. That's not what this means. [music] But women who are confident know what they like and they go get it. So, if I walk into a bar and I see a man who I think is fine, I'm going to walk up and introduce myself. He's going to buy me a drink and we going to have a conversation. I'm going to I'm going go and get what I want. So, I need more women to do that, too, because I'm super excited cuz I'm going out today in LA [music] and I'm going to do the same thing.

[00:30:05]Uh, Kim, Tim, leave him alone. You guys are actually crying because men don't approach you anymore. Do you want to know why they don't approach you anymore, Karen? Because if they approach you, he's a and if he hits on you, oh my god, I say hey. Not to mention the fact that you guys catfish yourselves with 20 lbs of makeup and your personality. So when he actually feels something, you show your things in your psycho side.

[00:30:30][music] The amount of false accusations where pro basketball players and just random men in general have actually had their lives ruined because of like this with the false claims. That is why men are not approaching you. That is why men are not talking to you. It has nothing to do with your looks per se. You can be the most beautiful girl in the room and they would probably be to talk to you and then they're going through a list in their head of everything you could do to ruin their lives.

[00:30:56]And the last thing they need over their head is to be accused of that they [music] didn't do.

[00:31:02]That is why they are not approaching you.

[00:31:06]Do better. Gender inequality in the pay gap between men and women positively predicts both male and female satisfaction in relationships. Yeah.

[00:31:14]That the more unequal the earning opportunities are for men and women, skewed in the direction of men, not women, the happier both men and women are in their outcomes in relationships.

[00:31:23]>> And stay at home dads is a really strong predictor of divorce.

[00:31:26]>> Yeah. If the woman is the primary bread winner, men are 50% more likely to use erectile dysfunction medication. Women are more likely to be on the receiving end of if they're the primary bread winner because the male partner switches from a benefit affording to a cost-inflicting mate retention strategy.

[00:31:42]If you begin to feel a disparity in mate value, you have two choices. Start to raise yourself up or try to drag the other person down. Making them fearful of you is a pretty good way to drag them down. That's kind of dark. That being said, the patriarchy is so powerful that we've somehow convinced women that they both need to earn the money and that we can stay at home while they bear the burden of children. So maybe this is just a scot from all of us to not have to do anything except for Xbox. Now >> if women were naturally submissive, they would haveing submitted by now. God knows we have taken every measure to make women just obey and they [music] just keep like the Terminator getting back up and fighting again and again and again. If anything, patriarchy has conditioned men to be more submissive because men will fall in line. Men will fall in line. Men do exhibit discipline much more so than women. Like, you know, I've seen countless manosphere podcasts talking about how we just cannot train these hoes.

[00:32:36]>> Uh [laughter] men will men will sign up into armies more willingly than women when they're not conscripted. They will sign up to be part of ICE. Whereas it takes so much, both emotional, physical, and psychological upon women to even try to get them to submit. And these [music] keep getting back up.

[00:32:56]>> At the end of the day, all men want is to watch football, drink light beers in a dark circle with each other and just like be each other. That's what they really want.

[00:33:03]>> Fascinating. Not the least bit true, but still fascinating.

[00:33:08]>> They don't want to be in a relationship.

[00:33:09]They don't want to get married.

[00:33:10]>> A person could actually say that about both men and women. A lot of individuals are actually choosing to remain single and are very happy for being so.

[00:33:19]>> If women can provide for themselves now, I feel like men have lost their purpose.

[00:33:23]>> Their purpose, what exactly was a man's purpose prior to women being able to support themselves? I mean, >> like they don't feel the need to seek out a woman and start a family. [music] They don't feel the need to like work really hard to make a bunch of money to like make a family and provide for a woman. Like, they don't want to do that.

[00:33:41]They just want to be with each other in a jerk circle watching football and drinking light beers.

[00:33:46]>> I'm just going to say it. There's nothing wrong with a person choosing to remain single. It doesn't make a person a better person than someone else if they're in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with being single. And it's about time that some individuals out there accepted that. And we keep on saying once again that, you know, I guess when talking about women don't want to submit. Well, you know, the reason they don't want to do it because men made them. No, men didn't. They just No, they did. Maybe you had some men that did that. But by and large, these modern women didn't want to. They don't want to do anything that no, they don't want to do what anybody tells them to do.

[00:34:33]They don't want to do it. And that's why if a if a man So here's what's happening. If a man is going to shop, they say a man's on his way home. That man might not feel like doing that, but it's expected of him to not [music] only go and do whatever you need him to do, but I want you to get it to the exact tea. And if you don't, they're going to hear about it online. Oh, I don't want no man shopping for me. That this and that. You're going to [music] hear that.

[00:35:03]You're going to continue to hear that.

[00:35:05]But if a man should say, "Hey, you know, can you [music] stop and do this for me, please?" You're riding that man's back the entire time. Oh, make sure you get this and do this. Do And he's supposed to do it with a smile on his face. He's supposed to serve you with a smile on his face.

[00:35:24]Y'all don't remember once again the honeydew's honey do this, honey do that.

[00:35:30]So, no, it's a stupid statement to sit up here and say that men have uh men have been mistreating women and making women uh basically oppressing women for eons of time when that has not been true.

[00:35:45][music] Y'all make it seem like men have just been trashing women when women have been uh requesting rather forcefully that men do a lot of things.

[00:35:55]>> Accountability [music] is kryptonite for women. Harsh, maybe, but look around.

[00:36:00]The excuses are endless. [music] I was drunk. He lied to me. It's not my fault.

[00:36:05]I'm just the victim. Sound familiar?

[00:36:07]Here's the problem. When things go wrong, instead [music] of owning the choice, there's always a story that shifts the blame on somebody else. She cheats and says, "Well, he wasn't giving me the attention." She [music] lies and says, "I didn't want to hurt anybody's feelings." She blows up a relationship and says, "He made me do it." But here's the [music] truth. Those aren't reasons.

[00:36:26]They are excuses. When men mess up, society rarely lets them off the hook.

[00:36:30]But women, shoot, too often, they play the victim card. And here's the danger about that. If you never own your actions, you never evolve.

[00:36:39]Accountability isn't punishment. It is your power. Without it, your growth dies. Excuses feel safe. Sure, they protect your ego in the moment, but tomorrow, they destroy trust, respect, and even your self-worth. It's not the mistake that ruins the lives. It's the refusal to admit, "Yep, I chose that.

[00:36:57]I'm in the wrong. I'm sorry. Without that honesty, the same mistakes keep repeating. So, here's the challenge. The next time you screw up, don't [music] play the victim. Don't reach for the excuse. Try hard not to. Try and say the two hardest words on earth. I'm sorry and I'm wrong. Because until accountability becomes your superpower, it will always remain your kryptonite.

[00:37:19]You agree or am I completely wrong? Let me know in the comments. Let's talk [music] about it. To what point does this Shira 7 boss girl mentality maneater type of thing just become begging? Because I feel like we're at a tipping point here where it is becoming extremely obvious that a lot of girls in the dating pool, you guys just don't got your bag up. Like expecting a man to fund everything in your life in order to have a shot with you. and you're asking a man for money for like everything.

[00:37:54]Maybe you just don't got it for yourself. Like it's like a different thing if he offers like wow. So, you know, I'm sure anyone would appreciate it. But to have it as a set condition like I don't understand. Is this like rent a girlfriend? Like he got to buy you. Your wallet just must be full of lies. Like I just I'm not saying we should be ashamed to be broke, but like let's call it as it is. It seems like begging, you know, call me crazy, but I just don't think money should be at the center of a romantic relationship.

[00:38:27]Obviously, this is like a different story that's like, oh, you know, like if I ask and he doesn't for like something like small emergency or I don't know.

[00:38:35]Obviously, there's obviously there's context. Obviously, there's problems if he blah blah blah. But this new generation of thinking where like a man got to do this financially for me to have a shot. Is it really like girl power or is it like you're lowkey just beggar?

[00:38:57][music] >> Women are queens of self- sabotage. You even see in the comments here, there was this guy I liked on the first date, so I ghosted him. [music] You can never really overthink anything that a woman does. They don't know what they do.

[00:39:13]There is never any reason why you should ever be emotional about a woman. These are literally self-destructing creatures. If she likes you, she's going to throw the whole relationship away.

[00:39:25]That's how it works. And the same concept where if a girl likes you, she's going to make you wait to give you the box. But if she doesn't like you and doesn't see you as boyfriend material, she giving you the box in the first date, the first month of you know her.

[00:39:38][music] It's just this un related dynamic that women just have.

[00:39:45]Like it's complex and it's just irregular and it's just not meant to be understood. There is nothing really [music] you should worry about when it comes to a woman because literally the better of a guy you are, the better quality guy you are, the higher chance that you're struggling in dating.

[00:40:04]Because women are literally self-sabotaging every single time a woman gets with a man that makes her feel any form of inferior because, oh, you're taking care of yourself better.

[00:40:16]you know, you hold yourself to a certain standard. You're so reliable. Anything that can make a woman feel like, "Ah, I know there's something wrong with me and this guy is too good. And if he's with me and I know something's wrong with me, it must mean something's wrong with him." It's just how their mind works, bro. It's so backwards. [music] It's literally, you would think it would be, "Wow, he treats me right. This is great chemistry. Let me invest in it and see where it goes." No, it's literally everything is going well. Let me throw it all away. That's just how women [music] can be. And a lot of times women like this, they're just not really well mentally. A lot of women are psychologically ill. They're mentally ill. So keep that in mind as well, too.

[00:40:54]You're in a dating market with women, they're probably taking medication, not even telling you because women like this, they're not emotionally healthy.

[00:41:01]But there's a lot of women in this space. I'm telling you, in the market, there's a lot of women like this. And they come from two parent homes. It's not just the women from single parent homes. No, there's literally women even from two parent homes that still have this type of self-destructive nature.

[00:41:16]So, when you deal with a woman, that's why you can never be so overly emotionally emotionally invested cuz you just never know when she's going to pull away and it can happen in the blink of an eye. So, trust somebody's only don't rely on a woman emotionally. Never. Even I don't care if she's your wife. You just never put everything emotionally into a woman. You have to keep a certain part of yourself tucked away in a reservoir because you just never know when a woman's going to pull away just for you being a great guy. It's trust my values only.

[00:41:46]>> So, I was talking to a male friend of mine the other day and he told me that women don't apologize and women can't be held accountable.

[00:41:58]And I began to really think deeply about this idea. And one of the things that came across my mind is in the last nine months or so of me being in my private practice, I have myself experienced many women whether they came as in as a couple or they came by themselves, they uh very abruptly discontinued their therapy. And I started to reflect and really think, you know, what was going on here?

[00:42:25]>> [music] >> And I noticed that after I had to confront them about something, I had to bring to their attention something they were doing that wasn't contributing to the health of the relationship. They became very defensive and very, you know, just very harsh and they stopped coming. And even though the husband would continue to come, he made it very clear that, yeah, she won't apologize.

[00:42:54]She thinks you're wrong. She thinks you're taking my side. And I began to really reflect like, oh my gosh, is it true that women don't apologize? Is it that women struggle with being held accountable? I'd love your thoughts on this. Me personally, I think it has to do with a person's level of emotional maturity. What do you think?

[00:43:15]>> You've talked to Gen Z men and women.

[00:43:17][music] What are the things you hear most from them about why they don't want to date [music] anymore?

[00:43:23]>> I hear a couple of things. First, I think is a a general sense of anxiety around interacting with other people.

[00:43:32]One of the things that I cited in my New York Times piece was this major survey that came out. It was done by the Institute for Family Studies at UVA and the Wheatley Institute at BYU. Their like topline conclusion is that we are in a depressed dating economy. And then the reasons that people cited for not dating were [music] really just like anxiety based. First there was the idea of like money [music] which speaks to the precariousness like dating is expensive. I'm not sure if I have enough money etc to [music] take people out on dates. But then also like 50% of people talked about [music] having issues with what the survey described as dating efficacy, which really when they broke it down meant that they didn't think that they knew how to or were confident enough to approach someone of the opposite.

[00:44:21][music] They weren't confident that they could like read social cues. They weren't confident that they could accept rejection and like bounce back if [music] you know they dated someone and it didn't work out. So because of their anxiety, it's exactly the cycle that you've that you stated, they were just like [music] opting out of doing it.

[00:44:40]There's just this worry about getting it wrong.

[00:44:46]Isn't it so crazy that feminism does the exact opposite of empowering women? It is not giving you freedom. It is actually silencing you. It has convinced women that sexualization is freedom, that selling their bodies online is freedom, that having multiple partners is freedom. But what this actually does is exploit you and enslave you. It's funny how feminism actually just gave the worst type of men exactly what they wanted. I mean, having as much emotionless as possible, only fans, running around half naked, their babies, men and women's sports. How does that equal female empowerment? Not to mention, you're warding off all of the good men. I mean, you guys say over and over how much you hate men when you are literally doing the things that please the worst type of men. If you were focused more on traditional femininity, on having one partner, on getting married, on having kids, on building a family unit, I promise you would attract really good men into your life and therefore you wouldn't hate all men. And every time I say things like this, I get told that I'm tearing down other women.

[00:45:43]No. The reason that I post what I post is because I actually care about other women and their well-being. [music] You can take it or leave it. But if I were to just let you exploit yourself and enslave yourself to what I would consider a cult, I mean, take Bonnie Blue for example, that would be me not caring about you. [music] >> And you know, modern women once again, they only see from a a certain side.

[00:46:05]And so woman was saying, you know, women aren't naturally submissive. You know, men are because they sign up for the military and they do this and they do that.

[00:46:15]You don't understand that a lot of men are signing up and doing these things because they understand the other side of what's going to happen. They understand the other side of how the world works. If I don't do this, then this is going to be the consequence. And a lot of times in a man's world, the consequence isn't good.

[00:46:40]I don't want to go through that. You as a woman are shielded from a lot of those consequences. I know you probably don't believe it and you don't think it, but you're shielded from a lot of stuff. So you're saying, "Oh, men are naturally submissive because they do this." Yeah, they're submissive because they know if somebody has a a like say for instance, if somebody has a trap like a bear trap or or something like that and says, "Man, I'm about to put this bear trap around your neck if you don't quit playing around with me." This is and it's not I'm not making an exact sort of example, but I'm just saying these are the types of things like the the the types of decisions that men have to make.

[00:47:24]Okay? If I don't do this, then we're not going to be able to eat. If I don't do that, then these are long-term effects that men run into.

[00:47:35]Whereas with a lot of these women, you you might not have even you do you do the same thing that a man does and you might not ever even see that the trap.

[00:47:46]They might even let you go and say, "Oh, go, well, how is that my fault?" I'm not saying it's anybody's fault. I'm just saying [music] you live in a different world. You're thinking that men just submit more easily than uh than women do. And it's not really the case. If you see the life that men see, you'll understand, okay, this guy is going places. We're going to follow him.

[00:48:12]Because if we don't follow him, we look on the other side, the consequences in some instances can be tragic.