When Terrible Parents Expose Themselves on Social Media

Added: 2026-05-12

[00:00:00]There is something weirdly fascinating to me about parents who choose to share the terrible things that they do to their kids in private in public. In today's video, these are the kinds of things that you would take to your grave at the very least with the first Tik Tok being that it's disguised as unhinged parenting hacks except it's quite literally abuse. Yeah. So, I take it upon myself to force my child into a really cold shower when they accidentally potty. And now they are tooing scared to go potty. Win-win.

[00:00:39]Works like a charm. But for some reason, every single person that I've told this to with a straight face seems to think that it's abuse. Well, yeah. Yes, Becky, it is abuse when you're punishing a child for something in which they cannot control cuz they are a child. I was just accused of abusing my child. Let's talk about it. I was on threads and I had replied to a question that said like, "Give me your most unhinged potty training hack." And I responded with a cold shower every time they have an accident works like a charm because it does.

[00:01:15]>> Yeah. No, you're a weirdo for that. Like using a punishment during potty training is going to lead to so many other problems that you don't even realize.

[00:01:24]Like that is such a weirdo way of approaching things. Cold showers aren't abusive on the face of it. Cold therapy refers to improving anxiety, improved circulation, and building mental resilience. going to therapy, at least in my experience, you're told to put ice cubes in the palm of your hands and squeeze them. This is a commonly used tactic for those who suffer with frequent panic attacks. My brain was trying to figure out another issue instead of what was going on up in here.

[00:01:59]But not for one second. Nowhere in this clip did it mention anything about anxiety. She is strictly using this as a scare tactic so that her child doesn't have any more accidents, which is almost impossible and very unlikely that he's not going to continue having accidents cuz he's a [ __ ] child. Using this as a way to punish a person who is trying to learn how to go to the toilet properly is abusive. That's not a pleasant experience whatsoever, standing under really cold water for universe knows how long, which makes me so sad for this child. But this Tik Tocker then proceeds to say that this mother also did this to her nephew. Dude, you absolutely cannot leave your children with just anybody. I don't care if they're family. They could be doing like this behind your back. The cold showers.

[00:02:58]Ice baths, splashing your face with cold water. All of those things are used as a form of therapy for people who struggle with their mental health and other medical issues, not as a [ __ ] punishment. Now, because I want to practice cringing at myself and my past experiences less, I'm just going to put it out there. When I was a kid, a small child, so about, you know, 18, 19 years ago at this point, I had wet the bed a couple of times. And accidents like that was something that I was never punished for, as it is quite literally such a normal [ __ ] experience to have as a child. Accidents do happen, as embarrassing as they are. Like I remember going to wake up my parents during the witching hour, you know, 3:00 in the morning or something like that and I'm embarrassed as [ __ ] I'm just like, you know what? I don't even know why I peed the bed. I already felt embarrassed and like I was a piece of [ __ ] for waking my parents up to something that I couldn't control. But when you're a kid, these things aren't your fault. Accidents do happen for kids and it's very likely that being punished for that is going to cause the child major issues in the future. Her response was so much worse as she said warm water is a privilege. Well, yeah. I mean that's a pretty general statement to make when it pertains to people who do not have access to warm water. For example, I am really grateful that I get the privilege to have access to warm water whenever the [ __ ] I could go hop in the shower for like 10 minutes right now and it would be warm the entire way.

[00:04:49]My warm water won't run out. And I acknowledge that there are so many people who don't get that same privilege in life. So in that context, yeah, sure, warm water is a privilege, but because this woman already has access to free flowing warm water whenever the [ __ ] that doesn't ring true in her situation, and saying that to a child is so [ __ ] up. You're making him feel guilty over something that he can't [ __ ] control.

[00:05:19]What is wrong with you? It's like when people are brainwashed into believing them being hit frequently as a kid has had no effect on them in their older years. Yet they cannot regulate their emotions. They go completely off the chain at the smallest, slightest issue, but okay, you turned out just fine.

[00:05:42]Author and parenting expert Dr. Laura Markhamm says that adults are often forgetting that it isn't easy to adjust ever so suddenly to having used a toilet when all toddlers know is spending their life thus far in diapers. Consistently controlling that urge until they get to the potty is a major achievement. I think so too. Some children are motivated to master this because they don't like the feeling of being wet or messy. A sizable percentage of parents these days when it comes to having kids, they really want to have it the easy way. They throw these kind of life teachings in the too hard basket because it takes too much patience. It takes too much time. So abuse it is. I guess I may not have kids myself, but you know, being a former child, my personal unhinged tack in potty training, if I was to ever be bestowed with a child, is to treat that child with dignity and respect, work together to clean up, and keep going about teaching them how to use the toilet properly and respond to their urges accordingly. cuz around here, we're not making anybody feel bad ABOUT THEIR MISTAKES AND [ __ ] that they cannot control.

[00:07:04]>> So, I walked into my 16-year-old daughter's room and I see her sitting on the floor and I said, "What are you doing?" And she said, "I'm raw dogging life." I said, "I'm sorry, what?" She said, "I'm raw dogging life for 15 minutes." I said, "What does that mean?"

[00:07:16]She says, "Well, I'm going to sit here with no electronics, no computer, no phone, no music, no nothing. I'm just raw dogging life." And I was like, I don't think you know what that means cuz that is not you sitting on the floor of the home that I pay for in quiet. That's a vacation. Okay? That is not raw dogging life. Being in perry menopause while your kids go through puberty, that's raw dogging life. Laying in bed and thinking about how much money I'm going to spend throughout the day before my feet hit the floor, that's raw dogging life. dealing with teenagers who are absolutely insane and say the dumbest [ __ ] that is raw dogging. You are not raw dogging life.

[00:08:03]You're taking a mini vacation on the floor of this paid for home that you live in that you don't pay no rent in.

[00:08:11]You don't know what raw dogging is. Ask a middle-aged woman. Okay, I just had to stop that there because that was really [ __ ] mean for absolutely no reason whatsoever. Notice how you and your daughter are at two completely different stages in life. And it's rather sad to assume that because you are going through your own personal set of struggles, she doesn't understand what struggle is too. And part of what she's saying is valid in dealing with being premenopausal. I mean, it's already tough enough to not understand what's going on and what's happening inside of your body when women still don't have the [ __ ] answers in modern day with what's going on in their body. What's happening with their body? I also think that she's missing a key point in what her daughter is trying to do. That's her way of raw dogging life. Being 16 in the big 26 is hard enough as it is. 8 years ago when I was 16 things were so much different than they are now. And you know at 16 I was going through my own fair share of issues. But I will say that things were so much different back then in contrast to what they are now.

[00:09:33]Having to deal with everybody saying your generation is doomed. AI slowly taking everybody's jobs away. the cost of living including but not limited to rent, food, gas, electricity, living in general. There are so many fears that she is contending with seeing every day on the other side of the screen, feeling absolutely helpless, feeling like the world is ending before her life is even begun. I don't know about any of you yappers watching, but this Tik Tok was one of my biggest [ __ ] fears when I was a kid and a teenager, you know, working out in my room and having to explain what I was doing and and why I was doing that. I just know that her daughter regretted opening up to her mom as it's like being a parent, you should never take that honesty for granted. She is also 16 and cannot relate to what you're going through yet. What she is going through is constantly being on her devices and it causing self-esteem issues, mental health issues. Not saying that any of that is worse than dealing with perry menopause, but trying to be in competition with your own daughter on who has it worse in life is really [ __ ] weird.

[00:10:56]>> STOP.

[00:11:04]THIS IS THE TYPE of [ __ ] that would have me no never speaking to my parents ever again.

[00:11:13]Especially with this kind of careless stupidity. This could have been avoided if the dad had have actually tried for once to not be the funny guy and actually be [ __ ] serious. Does this look like a trim? This isn't funny. I don't know why everyone is kacking it up in the background. I also want to understand why her dad kept cutting her hair even after she was begging and pleading with him to stop. As soon as I hear stop, as soon as I hear someone take their consent away, that is where that interaction ends as he's quite literally taking off inches. And it was quite bothersome reading through the comments, seeing just how many people were recounting their experiences with having their hair cut off without their permission. One person says her mom would do this routinely to her in her sleep, which I am so sorry, sweetheart.

[00:12:08]Not only did you not deserve that kind of jealousy to be present in yours and your mom's relationship, but that is not okay. I have never understood that aspect of parenting where parents feel as though they have the authority to take away inches of your hair. It's even worse when you realize that a lot of parents think that it's funny doing stupid [ __ ] like this to their kids when you have to do first grade and raise your baby brother.

[00:12:42]What is this? What is this? Don't even joke, lad. I am not in the MOOD FOR A JOKE. I hope that as women, we can one day move away from being the default caretaker of children that are not our own. It's interesting because you can see a boy of the same age as the girl sitting beside her. He gets to focus. He gets to concentrate on his schoolwork.

[00:13:07]Meanwhile, she doesn't. She has to take up her mom's responsibility because her mom is too lazy to parent the child that she chose to bring into this world.

[00:13:17]Sister has to do her schoolwork or sister gets to sit on the couch with little brother. What I think is [ __ ] up is she has to worry about raising her baby brother. Meanwhile, the brother next to her doesn't have to worry about being interrupted whatsoever. cuz once again, we're seeing a family dynamic where it's always the eldest girl who has to take on these parental issues.

[00:13:41]Might I just add too, the girl is multitasking as a mother at far too young of an age. It builds resentment.

[00:13:50]They should have just focused on being a kid and nothing other than that. What this exposes is the fact this child has taken it upon herself to feel responsible for a child who isn't currently being attended to. I think what this also highlights is this lack of understanding when it comes to parentification. Parentification is defined as a dysfunctional family dynamic where one or more child is forced to take an adult's responsibilities and roles to meet the standards of their parents. Taking care of kids that are not your own. They are your siblings. They deserve the sibling experience. Not having to raise their siblings because it was too hard for you to do. and then further building resentment for having to become a third parent without any say and then eventually becoming exhausted by the time that it's time for you to have your own kids. I think it's fine for a kid to want to help with their siblings as being an older or eldest child makes you feel as though you have a responsibility to help with your siblings. But this just wasn't the cute Tik Tok this mom thought it was to post. I think that this kid should have just been focusing on her schoolwork, concentrate solely on that without having to raise her sibling as well. What's even worse is when you have parents who cannot stop having children for whatever reason. Like I said before, I am one of three and I think that three is enough. I love my siblings and I think that three is honestly the perfect number when it comes to having kids. And I think it also heavily depends on your situation and how much time you are willing to put into each kid and also how far apart you're having these kids as well. If you're popping them out every single [ __ ] year, I'm sorry, but I I hate you, man.

[00:15:44]>> A read it.

[00:15:52]Santa is >> promoting >> promoting YouTube to big sister.

[00:15:59]>> I don't get it. Are you pretty >> again?

[00:16:04]>> YES.

[00:16:05]>> OH MY GOD. OH MY GOD. I need to text Dad. I need to having a baby.

[00:16:10]>> I am.

[00:16:12]>> I'm having another baby.

[00:16:15]>> Why are you crying >> again? We don't need it anymore.

[00:16:20]>> I need to say that.

[00:16:22]You're going to be a big day.

[00:16:23]>> You don't want any more babies.

[00:16:24]>> I need to thank Dad.

[00:16:26]>> Why are you freaking out?

[00:16:29]>> You're already getting pregnant again.

[00:16:31]He's only 10 months old.

[00:16:34]>> So, I thought you'd be happy. She's going to be one and a half when the baby's born.

[00:16:41]>> That's sad.

[00:16:43]>> I'm calling it right now.

[00:16:44]>> Calling.

[00:16:47]>> How are you already pregnant?

[00:16:50]I guess God decided we need more babies.

[00:16:56]>> This kid is 100% in the right. I don't care what anyone says. This is so unfair to put on to children who clearly don't seem to be getting enough of your attention as it stands. Otherwise, why would it evoke this kind of reaction?

[00:17:12]He's probably also fearing the fact that he's going to have to take care of more children that he didn't have a say in.

[00:17:20]Him saying that the family doesn't need another child tells me that the parents are constantly palming off the newborns to the older siblings, and that is just not [ __ ] okay. You want to have 10 billion kids and spread your seed everywhere, fine, go ahead. But don't make that your kids' responsibility whatsoever. that is not their kid. They deserve to have a childhood without having to worry about taking care of all the kids that you want to have but you don't want to take care of. And what's [ __ ] up is that she keeps having children and she's not even done raising these other ones yet. And sadly, it sounds like she's not present due to being constantly pregnant. It's a very valid concern for these kids to be having. And her saying that God decided is so [ __ ] manipulative as you clearly shouldn't be having any more children if this is how your kids really feel. And you know what's really [ __ ] up as well? The big brother when his mom asked him to come up to the baby, he thought that meant grab the baby from her, which means that these kids have far too many parental duties already.

[00:18:33]And you want to bring another one into the mix. It doesn't make it any better that she's trying to say, "Oh, well, baby will be 1 and a half by the time the other baby COMES OUT AND THEN WHAT?

[00:18:44]You're just going to have another one after that." I am not the one to be telling people when they should and shouldn't be having mattress action. All right? But at least be protected for a [ __ ] while if this is how your kids are acting. Poor kid is just saying what all the other babies are thinking. They don't want to have to constantly be raising each other. That is no kind of childhood that any child should be living. And maybe I'm wrong to assume all of this, but what this kid's reaction certainly implies is that you are not dealing enough attention to them. These poor children need to have a break from all of the pregnancies. It is always so shocking to me when you see kids that are far more emotionally intelligent than the adults around them.

[00:19:32]So, that is where I'm going to leave it everybody. So, with all of that being said, do you have any stories relating to today's topic? I would love to hear your story down in the comments section below. Or if it is something that you don't really want out there in public, let me know at drama queens [email protected].

[00:19:51]I want to start reading some of the submissions in the outro. So, thank you for joining me in Yappersville today, everybody. I cannot wait to see you all again soon. Take care of yourselves and most of all, love your [ __ ] selves.