How to have a MAGNETIC AURA | The psychology of doing it

Added: 2026-05-24

[00:00:00]I have a quality of life that is better than people who are richer than me, have more followers than me, are more connected than me. I live a very fun and happy life. And in this video, I'm going to teach you how you can begin to do the same. The first thing that you're going to do is you are going to begin to speak to people like they are your best friends. In my community, I am friends with everyone. I'm friends with store owners, I'm friends with people that work behind the register. I tell them, "You know, I love the cookies, but what's going on? The cookies were looking a little thin today." They give me free things. "What do you think I should get today? I can't decide. I either want the wrap or I want the sandwich. Which one should I get?"

[00:00:32]People have been commenting on my posts like, "I don't like to small talk. I hate people. I don't want to get to know people." Well, then you obviously don't want more out of your life because there's no way for you to get success, more money, more connections, or more happiness without people. Give people eye contact. Give people the time of day. Or I say, "What's your name, by the way?" so that next time I see them, I can refer to them by name. You can talk to anyone. You are qualified to. They're human and you're human. Act like you've been here before. Do not do too much. My first year when I got my bonus as an analyst, that was the most money that I'd ever received at one time. And I was very grateful and I said, "Thank you very much." However, when I was asked if I was happy with the amount of it, I said, "Mhm, yeah."

[00:01:17]>> [laughter] >> The next year, my bonus quadrupled. The next time someone offers you something really nice, "Oh wow, I appreciate you so much. Thank you so much for thinking of me." And move on. Because if you don't act like you've been here before, you place a limit on what you can receive. You've officially told yourself, the person you're talking to, and the universe, and God, that's the maximum that you need. Be grateful, but don't be too impressed because remember, we're already aligned with abundance.

[00:01:43]So, this is just the beginning. Be clean, look clean, and smell good. tell you how it has pained me because someone is so kind, but I cannot continue talking to them or being around them because of how they smell. You guys, if you are not bathing every day, if you are not brushing your teeth every day, if you are not washing your face every day, I promise you everyone knows. The goal is to make people want to be around you. You have to smell good. I have a signature scent that involves a lot of other fragrances including my natural scent and Glossier You. When I went to the car dealership, the guy with that was working, he was like, "You just smell so fresh and pleasant. I'm so happy you walked into my office."

[00:02:19]Make people want to be around you. If you're dealing with insecurity with your skin or hair, partner with a doctor.

[00:02:26]Don't just try to look for easy fixes on TikTok. Partner with a doctor, figure out the root cause. I have had issues with both my skin and hair and both of those issues have been solved by visiting a dermatologist. You need to create a routine, a skin care routine with products that you use every single day and night. I literally use three products. It does not matter what products you use. I keep telling you guys that because I cannot stress that enough. Keep your products plain and simple and be very consistent. And for my final point, do not be a leech and do not beg people for things. If you want to be a wife, if you want to attract wealth, if you want to attract success, if you want your social circle to be filled with people who are educated and enrich you in more ways than one, you have to become that person. I'm a very interesting person. The things that I do for fun are not typical to what people my age do for fun. And for that reason, I try very interesting people. Wealth and success love me because I carry myself like someone who belongs. People with wealth and success want to be around me because I carry myself like someone who belongs. Then I use Bio-Oil for a lived-in look. What nobody talks about is that sometimes becoming magnetic can quietly turn into performing likeability for survival. A lot of people are exhausted not because life is hard, but because every interaction feels like networking disguised as authenticity. Yes, confidence, hygiene, social skills, and self-improvement matter.

[00:03:51]But some of the happiest people are not the most charismatic people in the room.

[00:03:55]They're the people who stopped obsessing over being valuable or interesting every second.

[00:04:00]Not every conversation needs to impress someone.

[00:04:03]Not every room needs your energy maximized.

[00:04:07]Real belonging is not constantly proving you deserve to be there. It's being comfortable enough to exist without trying to win approval from everyone around you.

[00:04:16]Ironically, the people who attract the deepest respect are usually the ones who no longer treat human connection like a strategy for success, but like something sacred, simple, and respectful. I have a few tips >> [music] >> on how to become magnetic. See, you are powerful. We are all powerful.

[00:04:34]The thing is we just forget that most of the time. So, let me remind you, [ __ ] >> [music] >> Tip number one is if you need nothing, you will attract everything.

[00:04:42]>> [music] >> Build yourself up so high, break down all your subconscious limiting beliefs, and every [music] day remind yourself that you are worth it, you are whole, and you are divine. And this will make you feel so complete to the [music] point where external validation does not matter anymore because you got it all from within you. You need to learn how to self-soothe, >> [music] >> how to comfort yourself, how to validate yourself so you don't get it from academic validation, male validation, whatever. This [ __ ] all starts with you, and that's why everyone [ __ ] says self-love is so important. Self-concept is so important. So, how do you need nothing? By knowing you have everything.

[00:05:21]Have everything where? Within you. Tip number two, and I know you hear this everywhere on TikTok. I don't chase, I attract. For example, you like someone, girl or guy, it doesn't matter. You like someone and you keep chasing them. What happens when you chase someone? They run. What happens when you chase something? It runs. It repels. Let's use physics as an analogy. Look, this is your desire, all right? What happens when you pull it towards you, you chase it? It goes away. Look, goes away. See?

[00:05:48]It goes away. But what happens when you're detached and you're just like pulling away?

[00:05:53]Oh, it's coming here.

[00:05:54]It's coming toward you. You see what I [ __ ] mean?

[00:05:57]Do not be desperate. Do not put [ __ ] on a pedestal. Do not put no one up there but yourself. You create resistance for your desires when you put them on a pedestal. Because if you put your desires on a pedestal, that means you're not there yet. You're not at that frequency. You must know that your desires are yours. Therefore, act like you have it. Act like it's normal on your vibration. Never embarrass yourself by being desperate, by begging for anything or anyone. Do not fold. Do not [ __ ] fold. All right, last tip.

[00:06:28]If you want something, you got it. I don't care. If you want something, you can have it. You already got it. I am the humblest but cockiest [ __ ] on this planet. There's this quote I absolutely love that says, "I'm humble enough to know that I can lose everything overnight, but confident enough to realize that I can gain it all back." What does it mean, I want it, I got it? How does that work? If you want something, know that you can have it.

[00:06:53]Know that it is possible. I never make self-deprecating jokes about myself anymore. If I want to make jokes about myself, instead of saying something degrading, I say something empowering.

[00:07:03]Like, "I'm too hot to be this sad."

[00:07:04]Something like that. Just know you're powerful and use it to your advantage.

[00:07:09]The part people don't say enough is that sometimes being magnetic is not about becoming untouchable, hyper-confident, or acting like you never care. Sometimes the real power is being deeply secure without performing superiority. Because a lot of people confuse detachment with emotional unavailability and self-love with ego. You can know your worth and still be soft, still desire connection, still admit you want love without making someone else responsible for completing you. The truth is, desperation is not just chasing people. It's abandoning yourself to keep them. And ironically, the people who attract the most are usually the ones who stopped trying to prove they're worthy every second.

[00:07:50]They're not magnetic because they think they're better than everyone else.

[00:07:53]They're magnetic because they're finally at peace with not shrinking, begging, over-explaining, or auditioning for basic respect. That kind of energy changes your whole life because people can feel when your confidence is no longer a performance, but a decision.

[00:08:08]Here's exactly how you're going to become a much more magnetic and alluring woman because if I have to listen to any more people on the internet [ __ ] about, "Oh, I wish I could be more magnetic."

[00:08:18]Or you need this, this, and this to be a magnetic woman, I'm going to go nuts.

[00:08:22]It's a skill. It's a skill. You learn how to be more magnetic and charismatic.

[00:08:28]It's a craft, not some natural talent.

[00:08:32]Maybe you didn't know that before or you just don't know how to become magnetic, and that's precisely what we're getting into so you can learn. Something that you really need to learn and understand in order to become a very magnetic person is that so much of your magnetism is actually in your nonverbal communication. And something really important for nonverbal communication are your eyes. If you learn how to speak with your eyes and not actually say anything, you will have people wrapped around your finger. I am not exaggerating. One of my favorite tricks to play with the eyes, too, is to give someone elevator eyes where you kind of look them up and down, but be sure to watch your face when you do this because if you have an RBF like me and you do this with a stank face, you are not going to attract and magnetize anyone.

[00:09:19]You are actually going to make people want to stay far away from you. So, just be careful. Something else that you could do without speaking that will project magnetism and also help you look more confident is sitting up straight, perfecting your posture. Don't sit hunched over and with your shoulders scrunched in. You're caving in on yourself, and look small, and you also look kind of lazy. I always fix my posture by imagining that there is a pole that is directly behind me, that my neck is kind of like strapped to, and then goes all the way down to my heels, and I align my body as if I want it completely against that pole. Weird sort of visualization, I know, but it works.

[00:09:57]Okay, last tip for this video because it's already getting too long. Something that will make you incredibly magnetic is perfecting a method of flirting that is very free-spirited and witty and humorous, but also detached. It's like giving off this image that you just don't take life very seriously. You're very free-flowing and carefree. You're witty, you're funny, and you're kind of bold in your flirting, but it's in a humorous way. I kind of like to call this the coquette model or the fox, which is essentially this sort of character that you can kind of play into that is a very like magnetic and draws you in kind of woman. I know like the whole playing into characters thing, like I'm getting kind of into psychology, but picturing yourself as this kind of woman and then behaving like it in a social setting, it works to make you very magnetic and make people want to get close to you. But the trick is that you have to kind of keep them at an arm's length and make it more just like carefree, but kind of like superficial. It's just a very detached way of like having fun, and this gets people very addicted to you very fast.

[00:11:07]Real magnetism is usually less about making people obsessed with you and more about being deeply okay with yourself even when nobody is watching. A lot of ladies master the eye contact, the posture, the witty flirting, the mysterious girl energy, but underneath it, they're still performing for approval, and people can feel that, too.

[00:11:28]The most magnetic women I've ever met are are comfortable with themselves, even at the risk of being misunderstood.

[00:11:34]They were comfortable being human, awkward, excited, opinionated, even misunderstood sometimes.

[00:11:42]Detachment can look attractive, yes, but your genuine presence is what actually stays with people.

[00:11:48]Because eventually, the performance exhausts you if there's no real personality underneath the performance.

[00:11:55]And ironically, the moment you stop obsessing over being magnetic is usually when people start feeling pulled towards you naturally. What's wild is that the woman who ends up leaving these men hooked for years is sometimes not even the most beautiful one. She's the one that left that man wondering what she was thinking about even when she was right next to him. Because real seduction, true seduction is not just about looks. It's about the control of perception. The women who really master that, they play a completely different game. So, here are three ways that you can become the kind of woman that he just can't stop replaying in his head.

[00:12:29]Use this on one of your next dates or use it on your man tonight. Let me know how it goes cuz it could work wonders.

[00:12:34]Number one is the pause. Simple. A lot of women rush to fill silence. But, the one who can pause mid-sentence, the one who can let that sentence breathe, she owns the room without even saying a word. Because silence builds tension and tension builds desire. You make him work for your words and the brain craves what feels earned. Number two, emotional misdirection. You want to be warm, but also unpredictable. Smile when he expects you to have a little attitude.

[00:12:59]Stay calm when he expects you to be super dramatic. That contrast keeps his nervous system addicted to decoding you.

[00:13:06]When he can't predict what's coming next, he just can't stop paying attention. Number three is mirror his desire back to him. The most magnetic woman doesn't try to impress, she reflects. The word narcissist comes from the Greek god Narcissus who fell in love with his own reflection. And Greek mythology is rooted in human behavior.

[00:13:24]So, when he talks, she listens like she's discovering treasure. And that's what ties his ego to you. Make him feel seen. Seduction isn't about domination, it's about reflection. Showing him the best version of himself through your eyes. Because seduction truly isn't about being the hottest woman, the most beautiful woman in the room, it's about being the one that he cannot stop thinking about.

[00:13:46]>> Let's talk about how exhausting it becomes when attraction turns into performance. A woman becomes unforgettable not because she mastered psychological tricks, but because she stopped needing constant validation from being desired. The women who truly linger in someone's mind are usually the ones who are deeply connected to themselves, their own joy, their own standards, their own inner world, not the ones strategically trying to stay hard to figure out.

[00:14:13]Ironically, the less obsessed you are with being unforgettable, the more unforgettable you become because people can feel when your energy is rooted in authenticity instead of control. Three steps to become the most magnetic person and achieve that captivating aura. Your energy introduces you before you even speak. And you can either repel people and opportunities or you can attract them. People can feel [clears throat] your energy. People can feel your vibration and like vibrational frequency will only match like vibrational frequency. Your magnetic aura, your aura, what is an aura? An aura is a projection of your inner state. Your energy and your aura is simply just an extension of exactly what is going on in your inner world. So, step number one to becoming magnetic is raising the vibration of your own inner world. When your inner world is vibrating at a higher frequency, you only become a magnet to other high vibrational energies. And this can be achieved through shadow work and inner child healing and healing work. Listen, if you try to manipulate people or utilize manipulation tactics to attract, you are going to attract people, but you are going to attract the wrong kind of people. You are going to attract low vibrational frequencies, low vibrational opportunities, and low vibrational people. Why do you think you keep continually dating the same toxic men?

[00:15:24]Why do you think you continuously keep putting yourself in the same situation?

[00:15:28]Why do you think every one of your boyfriends are toxic? It starts with you. You need to heal your inner world.

[00:15:34]You do not need to attract all the attention, you need to attract the right attention. And that starts from within.

[00:15:39]Step number two, this will flat out make you the most attractive and magnetic person, is focusing on your own purpose.

[00:15:46]If you continuously focus on building yourself up, if you continuously focus on your knowledge and educating yourself and your business and your career and your money and your body, you continuously begin to focus on yourself, there is no way anybody could not be attracted to that. Think about it like this, when you are texting someone that you like and they text you and you make the conscious choice to text them in 30 minutes and not answer them back right away because you don't want to seem needy, you don't want to seem too available, it is the complete opposite of this. It's when you are genuinely too busy building yourself up, you are too busy focusing on yourself, too busy becoming the best version of yourself, that you just actually do not have time to get back to them right away. That is the secret. That will make you more attractive. That will make them want to text you. That will make you more magnetic. You do the work, you focus on yourself, opportunities and people will just come flocking to you. And number three is simply just embracing authenticity. Being authentic isn't just about being honest with others, it's about aligning with your true self. It's about aligning with your highest self.

[00:16:43]This is about peeling back layers of societal expectations and peeling off layers of personal insecurities to get to the core of who you are. Being authentic means that your thoughts, your action and your words and your perceptions come from your highest self.

[00:16:56]From a place of wanting to impress, not from a place of wanting to attract, not from a place of wanting to conform.

[00:17:02]Being authentically is living in your truth and that will directly attract and magnetize that same vibrational authentic energy of opportunities and people your way. How do you practice all of this? How do you practice authenticity? How do you practice raising your vibrational frequency of your inner world? How do you practice working directly on your purpose? Shadow work, meditation, and journaling, deep reflection. Not only doing these things once, but doing them consistently, adding them to your routine. Shadow work and inner child healing is going to get you there. So, throwing this in there, just be kind. Be a kind person. Don't talk badly about others. If I see like the hottest girl ever, the most beautiful girl ever, and she is talking badly about someone, she's like gossiping really badly about someone, that instantly makes this girl like not attractive whatsoever. She just became like the ugliest person to me. Cuz that is a deep reflection of her own insecurities and her own unclean, unhealed inner world. It's not a reflection of the person she's talking about. I love you guys. Sometimes the people with the best energy are just the best performers.

[00:18:03]They know the language of healing, authenticity, and self-love, but they still leave chaos everywhere they go.

[00:18:10]Real magnetism is less about having some mystical high vibration and more about emotional honesty.

[00:18:16]A lot of people are trying so hard to become magnetic that they're still centering their entire life around being desired, admired, chosen, or validated by others.

[00:18:27]But the most captivating people usually aren't obsessed with attracting attention at all.

[00:18:32]They're grounded. They know who they are, even on the days they feel insecure, unmotivated, awkward, or emotionally messy.

[00:18:40]And that kind of self-acceptance is what makes people feel safe around you.

[00:18:45]Not perfection. Not always being high vibrational. Just someone who is deeply real. Deeply present. And no longer abandoning themselves to be liked. These are three signs that you're a lot more magnetic than you realize, and your energy is so contagious that people just naturally gravitate towards you. But these are some interesting signs to know that you're just that magnetic person.

[00:19:07]Number one, believe it or not, when you have a magnetic energy, people want to have a conversation with you. They want to talk to you. They want to strike up a convo with you, ask you questions. When you notice that you're just regularly like in a line, you know, just chilling, hanging out, you notice that like people are constantly trying to talk to you or make conversation or just talking about their lives randomly to you, it's because you do radiate this warm magnetic aura and they feel that from you and it makes them feel comfortable with you to want to do that with you.

[00:19:35]So, if you notice people are constantly going up to you, always striking up a conversation, it's because you have very good warm magnetic energy. Number two, people always want to compliment you, okay? It doesn't matter how attractive you are or like if they think that you get compliments or not, it doesn't matter. They will want to go out of their way to give you a compliment because of your warm magnetic energy, okay? They don't feel intimidated by you, they just feel like they just want to give that compliment to you because they cannot help it. They just see something in you that is so appealing, so interesting and they just cannot help a compliment you. If you notice people are complimenting you on your outfit, on your looks, you being just simply a nice person, they will want to go out of their way to compliment you because it makes them feel good and it's because you're radiating that positive warm energy. So, they can't help themselves.

[00:20:22]So, if you notice you get complimented a lot, very good sign you have magnetic energy. And number three, if you notice that you get random favors from people, like they naturally just want to do things for you, go out of their way to make your life a little bit easier, especially like letting you go in front of them in a line or giving you a discount, giving you things for free, you know what I mean? Like hooking you up, it's because you radiate such a good energy that they want to give you things. They want to just make your life easier. They want to do favors for you.

[00:20:47]They don't do that for just anybody.

[00:20:48]Most people don't go out of their way for people that are not warm and inviting. So, you don't have that energy, they're not going to want to do that for you. But, I'm telling you, when you have a magnetic presence, people want to do favors for you. They want to make it easier for you to live your life, okay? You may not even realize that this is happening, but I'm telling you right now, they're only doing it for you because they see how you radiate such positivity and it just makes them feel good to want to do things for you as well. A lot of people think being magnetic means life gets easier socially, but sometimes it actually gets heavier emotionally. When you naturally make people feel seen, understood, or comfortable, they can start attaching their unmet needs onto you without even realizing it.

[00:21:29]Some people will admire your confidence while secretly resenting the fact that they don't feel that way about themselves. Others will constantly vent to you, seek your validation, or want access to your energy because your presence feels calming compared to the chaos in their own mind. And if you're not careful, you can mistake being emotionally available for being emotionally responsible for everyone.

[00:21:52]That's why some magnetic people feel drained after social interactions even when everyone likes them.

[00:21:59]Real magnetism isn't people pleasing or trying to win everyone over. It's the rare ability to exist as yourself without constantly shrinking, performing, or chasing approval. And in a world where most people are hiding parts of themselves, that kind of authenticity feels almost addictive to be around. And that's really what all of this comes down to.

[00:22:19]Becoming magnetic is not about trying to force or manipulate people to like you.

[00:22:24]It's about becoming someone whose presence feels so good, so calm, and so real that people naturally gravitate towards you.

[00:22:32]If you actually take these habits seriously and apply them consistently, you won't have to chase attention, approval, or connection anymore. It will start coming to you.

[00:22:43]So now I want to hear from you.

[00:22:45]Which of these points stood out to you the most?

[00:22:48]What's one thing you're going to start doing differently after this video? Go ahead and drop it in the comments. And if this video helped you in any way, make sure you like it. It really helps more people see this kind of content.

[00:23:01]And if you want more videos like this that actually help you level up your mindset, your energy, and your life, then subscribe and stay connected. I'll see you in the next one.