My journey going no contact with my parents

Added: 2026-06-02

[00:00:00]Hi, I'm Summer and I'm the daughter of hoarders and today I'm just answering some questions from my comments and this one is asking if I still have a relationship with my parents.

[00:00:10]Um and this is just my experience. I know everyone's is different, especially when it comes to this. Um I was removed at the home around the age of 17 and around that time I would say it like kind of was when the fracturing started in terms of my relationship with them.

[00:00:29]Um and I pretty much went off to college and without really kind of knowing that's what I was doing. I went very low contact only really um touching base when it was like absolutely necessary because there was a lot of trauma that they refused to talk about after I was removed and I couldn't really handle the like the putting up the front like the fake-ness um and pretending that things were okay anymore. I couldn't keep it up any longer.

[00:00:55]And then towards the end of college and me like moving out on my own and really getting independent, I rarely if ever spoke to them um and I've been with my partner now for like 7 plus years and and all of that time like I've never spent a holiday at my parents or anything like that because unfortunately when you're a child of hoarders it's something to avoid because your parents invite you over and act like it's normal but once you leave there like the sensory overwhelm being in the home um you struggle to eat because the bugs and all that stuff becomes not as normal for you um and not as necessary to survive. So it's really hard returning to the home. So I didn't much and I started getting kind of like blamed and guilted for that um by my parents in more recent years and that's kind of when the fracturing got worse and my parents are animal hoarders so that also lends itself to I was having a lot of guilt eating away at me um by like not speaking up because I felt like what happened to me was just happening to the animals over and over again in a cycle and no one was doing anything. So, I made the choice to speak up. Um I did try to have the conversation with my parents first to be like these are the things I'm not okay with.

[00:02:13]Like can we I will help with resources. Like can we work this out? Like trying to see what was like what options were available when it came to them because it's not on me to fix they'd have to make the choice. Um they refused any help, um refused to see anything that was wrong. So, I unfortunately like had to go public. And when I went public about um their animal abuse um that and like severed my relationship with them. So, now I am no contact. I don't speak to them. I don't have any contact with them.

[00:02:46]And yeah, and that pretty much sums it up. Um if anyone has other questions, just let me know down below. I'm very open book. Have a good day and have a good night.