TRANS GIRL UPDATE 🏳️‍⚧️ (7 years on HRT)

Added: 2026-05-12

[00:00:00]Hi everyone, welcome back to my channel.

[00:00:01]It is your girl Brextina. How are y'all?

[00:00:03]Happy Friday when you're watching this.

[00:00:05]This is a Friday. I'm so excited to be here today. It is a new day here on my lovely little bed / couch. I just got this new Fashion Nova sofa, so I'm wearing it for today's video. Got my hair done by the one and only Viviana, and here we are for another video. Now everyone, today's video is entitled 7 years transition update. Now, it has been 7 years since I transitioned. Now, it's not my anniversary today. It's not like exactly 7 years today, but it's in that ballpark. And I just wanted to share, you know, what I have learned since I really become Brextina and like all the things as a transgender woman.

[00:00:39]You know, I I transitioned at like what?

[00:00:42]Medically at 14, I think socially at like 12, and I'm like well almost 20 now.

[00:00:47]Kill myself. Like it's so I'm so old, you guys. Like I feel like a relic of time, but I feel like in that time I've gained a lot of advice that I could share to young trans girls. You know, this year I really became a mother in terms of helping young trans women out in my personal life with my daughter Desire, and I feel like I want to give some tips for girls out there who need it, and I want want to share from my personal experience. You know, I think people see stuff online, and they're like, "Well, that must be the only way to do it." There is hundreds of ways to transition. There's hundreds of ways to do a transition. And I can only tell you what I know, baby, because you know, I transitioned at the age of 13, 12. You know, I was socially transitioning, so I kind of knew that experience to kind of like as a child. But you know, there's older transitions out there, and I can only give to you what I experienced. And I just want to share, you know, my experience as a transgender woman growing up and you know, what I can give some advice to the younger girls watching. You know, what happened in my 7 years. You know, you know, a little update on me now. You know, I just finished my first year of college. I was an aerospace engineering student, then civil engineering student, now air traffic controlling student, and I dropped my debut album. I am a DJ now.

[00:01:54]I'm doing so much. So there's so much to me, and I'm so multi-faceted now as a not just a trans woman, but as a female, a woman, as a person who's living in society, I know a little bit more about my life now. So, I can, you know, share some things I've learned along the way.

[00:02:09]Especially in the education world and being an adult and how you, you know, have to, you know, peruse yourself around the world. So, here is a 7-year advice update from me, the one and only Brixton. And the first thing I'm going to say to all of my girls is do not be bothered by trade. Honey, honey, let me tell you something. These men out here, they're going to come after you. They're going to say they love you. They want this, they want that. Honey, do not be bothered by these trades. Do not be bothered by the trade, honey. Trade is going to annoy you.

[00:02:36]Trade is going to want to hurt you.

[00:02:37]Trade is going to want to all these things for you, but be the one. If you have a trade who's like, "Brixton or whoever your name is, I love you. I love you this. I want to get with you." And they're not really putting the time and effort in and you know it's a scam, it's a sham. And they're like, "I want to get to know you, but come to my house and come to my bedroom." Honey, don't don't don't listen to them. Honey, those trades, all they want from you is your goody-goody gumdrops and you are too good and lovely and tantalizing for all that. You are a woman of Christ, honey.

[00:03:03]You can't be doing none of that. I also think it's very helpful like with the people you put in your life. It's important that you put people who really want to help your womanhood out. Now, I'm very hard, you know, when someone's transitioning, I really want to be the mother who's a little harder on my children because I feel like for me personally, you know, I'm a hard trans woman to, you know, please and I really want people to know that. Like, really hard and this world, though a lot of people will say they're supportive of the trans identity, they are not, you know. I am really hard on my trans family. My My daughters said with my parents were hard on me to make sure that I did not victimize myself in this world and in my trans family were hard on me, too. You know, I was a young trans girl working with some beautiful trans women. They really pushed me to be who I am and maybe at the time I didn't realize that. I think when I was younger, I was like all about me and it was me me me and my transition and I think as I grew up, I realized like no, like having trans friends is so important. I think a lot of the girls I've been with and I think a lot of like, you know, a common sensuality of trans women is that it's kind of competitive and I don't have that same ambition to be competitive with trans women anymore because I feel like we're all sisters and especially in these times right now we're living in with the, you know, the oligarchs and all that. There's a lot of hate and I don't want to be part of that and I have my trans sister Viviana who does my hair and she's my actual trans sister. We're part of the same, you know, trans family and I love her and I think we've stuck on together and become even stronger now than we were when we all were younger and I said to many trans women is really hold your friends together. I think you really need to hold your siblings together, your trans family. Make sure you have that community. It's really important that, you know, the shadiness, all that is fun, but you keep it to a minimum, right? You know, I love being shady. I love throwing shade to my friends. I most iconic thing about that is that I'm with my friends and we can, you know, we can banter like that. And it's important to have such a strong community um of, you know, trans allies.

[00:04:52]And then, you know, I think I realized throughout the years like I personally have dealt with this, probably the least now, but dysphoria.

[00:05:01]So, when I first, you know, transitioned, I was dysphoric all the time, right? Well, actually, when I first transitioned, I did not feel dysphoric. I was like, "Baby, I'm that girl. I am that girl. I'm that girl. You cannot tell me I was not girl." I felt like I was that girl, but then I quickly realized, "Oh [ __ ] no, I'm not that girl." And it was one of those moments where I'm like, "Wow, dysphoria really hit me in a way that I was not prepared for." I think one of the hardest things for me is I'm a taller girl. I'm 5'9.

[00:05:25]Like I feel like I'm just tall and I look like Shrek and it was one of those moments I had in my life where I'm like, you know, I can't change it. You know, a lot of women maybe around me who are a little shorter and smaller and, you know, a little tinier framed, but but but honey, I'm big-boned, honey. I'm big-boned. I'm a strong model-esque woman, you know? I have to be confident in that. So, I think for me it's just being confident in my body has really helped me and I think if you're struggling with dysphoria, the best thing you can do is yourself is look in the mirror and I would honestly be like, "Baby, you look the rotted. You look disgusting." Say all the negative things you feel in your body because guess what? A lot of people are looking at you and you may feel like, "Oh, that girl's looking at me. Like, she knows I'm a man." Or "That girl's clocking me right now." Honey, they're not even clocking you. It's all in your head. It's all the mental games you're playing in your head. Don't listen to your head. It's a really bad place to be in. If you're stuck in your head all the time, you'll never know the world around you. So, if you are thinking bad things about yourselves, go to the mirror and be like, "Baby, you look like shrek. Honey, you look like a big manatee. You look like the ogre. You look like you're about to fall down the sky and land on a [ __ ] princess." Like, tell yourself that and then be like, "Baby, I love you though." Cuz I love you for all those things. You are big. You are manly. You are disgusting. But you are amazing at the same time, right? And even if you're a trans guy or a trans girl or you're just a person out there who's left confidence, tell yourself all the things you hate about yourself, roll it up and burn it. Burn it. Roll it up. Write it all down. Get it out of your body and burn it. It's not worth it. It's not worth the time. Advice that here at now 7 years in the game still complaining about me being a so manly. You know what? Some people might think I look like a man. Honey, I look like a creature of the Lord. A creature.

[00:06:51]You know I would have been running Bethlehem. You know I would have been running all these places they want us to go. You know, I always say this, right? I think a lot of the right is always like, you know, that the [ __ ] are demons. They're demonic. There's this. There's that. And I always tell people like, "The only demonic thing about me is how fire my [ __ ] is, okay?"

[00:07:09]No, I'll grade it. Oh, the one thing about me.

[00:07:11]Um, but I think in terms of like the reality we live in. Like, I just don't think don't listen to the world and if people are judging you and calling you a man and all that, don't listen to those [ __ ] They're always going to say something about you. There's always going to be someone with the nastiest mouth and that may be me myself too. You know, I'm always going to say something, you know. You know, I'm always going to call out Patriot and all that. And you know, people say don't fight hatred with hatred. Honey, when they go low, you always go lower. I am not a girl who goes high because when you go high, honey, that's that's just weakness and I don't be doing none of that, okay?

[00:07:37]Staying classy, yes, I understand that.

[00:07:39]But when you have to let a [ __ ] have it, you let them have it and you let nothing at it. And there's many times people have come for me, you know, I've bit my bullet, but then I've let them have it because all these people are going to say and come behind your back and say, "Oh, baby, you're my best friend. You're my best friend." But then they're calling all their boyfriends who want to taste of you, um you know, my friends are really a man, you know, that's a [ __ ] That's a [ __ ] You know what, girl? [ __ ] you.

[00:08:01][ __ ] you, honey, cuz your man still wanted to taste this. You know what I mean? So, don't be bothered by any of these [ __ ] But if anyone says something behind your back and if you don't feel confident and you're feeling dysphoric, just know you are a creature.

[00:08:11]You are an ogre. But honestly, girl, just love yourself because there's nothing more important than loving yourself and being true to who you are.

[00:08:18]7 years in the game, no matter how many hormones I took, no matter how many times a person has called me pretty or this, I will still feel dysphoric. I will still feel like a man. It's all in the mind here. It's all in the mind. You know, I'm 7 years in the game, I've taken the hormones, all this and that, and I still have that. I still get dysphoric, but I wake myself up and I go, "Bitch, you are that girl. Look at you. You look the fool." But you're going to go out and serve because guess what? People sacrificed so much for you to be here today. People sacrificed so much for you to even exist that you're going to do it for them because there's so many trans women tonight and in this world who died fighting for what we are living now. I always say this, like I'm not meant to I'm meant to be a woman, but I'm meant to be a trans woman who was fighting out there because there's so many trans women who died fighting for their rights. Me being on social media, just sharing my trans story, running for prom queen, so many women wanted to do that, but they couldn't because they didn't live in the right time. But I'm doing that right now, you know? I think like a lot of people are going to come for the trans women and they're going to say all these things about us and they're going to want to you know, they're going to try to do this and that. Don't be bothered by these [ __ ] because there's always going to be someone who's going to say, "Oh, you're not this, you're not that."

[00:09:23]Well, honey, they wish they were us, you know what I mean? I think a lot of people who talk [ __ ] about us on the right or even the left or you know, they will just say what they want to say, right? I think it's funny to say, "Hey, I'm going to support LGBTQ rights and all this Gavin Newsom" and then go on the right on a podcast and go, "I don't really [ __ ] with the trans children. I don't really [ __ ] with that." But then they go on the left this podcast and they're like, "Oh, I love the trannies."

[00:09:44]So, what is it going to be? Don't let people like that in your life.

[00:09:47]That's my little PSA for you.

[00:09:49]Besides that, another advice I would say is your hormones are not everything and surgeries aren't everything. Now, I know a lot of people see Gia Gunn and Viiondre getting their, you know, their their bones done and I would love to get my bones done. I would love to get my my ribs broken in. I just think that we need to make sure people know that like transition takes time. This does not happen overnight for some people and I think a lot of people like especially like I've like talked to some trans women who are like, "Oh, I want to be like you and I want to get my boobs and I want to do this." I'm like, "Well, I was 6 5 years in the game when I finally got my boobs done, right?" Like I waited a long time because I had to make sure this was right for me, right? My body had transitioned fully transition. I stopped my puberty. My body was ready for this. I was mentally ready for this.

[00:10:27]I think rushing a transition though could be important if you don't do the mental work and the mindset work and if you're not having your hormonal balance right, a rushed transition could be the worst thing in the world cuz I know what it's like to question your transition and question what you're doing for your womanhood and how you're presenting your womanhood. And though it's the worst feeling in the world and if you look and if you have boobs and this and that and you're uncomfortable and you feel like what the [ __ ] is happening to me, it's all normal. It is very much normal to say that. It's very much normal to think that because the world and yourself and society doesn't understand what it feels like to be a trans woman in a world that just hates you.

[00:11:03]And cuz you start hating yourself.

[00:11:05]And to every of the trans girls out there, enjoy your womanhood. Enjoy your transition. Don't take it too seriously.

[00:11:10]Don't rush it. Time will take its course and your face and your body and your mindset will slowly transform into the most iconic thing it needs to be, the female that you want to present. And it's important to always, you know, take that with a grain of salt because, you know, some transitions will take 10 years, right? Some will take 1 year. But I I every transition is unique on their own and it's just because some person took 1 year and they look so fish, it might take you three. It might take you five, but you will get there. Don't rush it because sometimes when you're rushing and you do too much work, honey, you're very clocky. You're very clockable.

[00:11:44]And we don't want to be clocking out of the house. You know, we can't. We have to be feminine little fishes that they can sell at the market.

[00:11:51]Anyway, so that's some advice. I think majority of my advice, I guess for the education world, is people are going to say [ __ ] Everyone's going to judge you. I mean, I just came back from Florida and it was hard down there. It was annoying. People are hating me where I went to school because I was just me and I was confident and I was a beautiful trans gender woman with big tits and they cannot stand that and I think um you're going to I've learned especially this year for me that I think I take a lot of things really seriously. I took a lot of stuff really seriously because it all felt so serious to me cuz I think that's the way I like, you know, you know, everything that's in front of me is so serious, right? But I think looking like stepping back and looking at the full picture that if I let people who, you know, don't like me or um seek to destroy my happiness into my life and let them ruin my mindset, I'm going to give them the power to do whatever they want, right?

[00:12:38]If I ignored them, if I ignore people who do that into my life, it everything will be better. So, my advice is ignore [ __ ] who are nagging at you. Even if you feel like, you know, I can get them in trouble. I can do this. I can do this for them. It's not worth it because they will still try to destroy you at every step they get. If it looks like it doesn't hurt you, they will go away. I'm telling you. I wish I did that. I made a mistake by going after people and it bit me in the butt cuz they did go after me and even if I wasn't maybe I wasn't in even though I was in the right, these people still wanted to get their fangs at me. So, you know, it wasn't even even split there.

[00:13:12]Um I think for me, I think we just need to allow people in our life who are going to be worth it and I think we need to allow people to know who we are and what we are and I think you have to use your communication skills and if a [ __ ] don't like you, just ignore them. Don't bother by them and don't Don't try to address them. If they are still talking [ __ ] you about you in front of your face and you feel like you need that, I'm going to ask you be like, how how deep do you need it? How what are the repercussions of you after them?

[00:13:34]Seriously I'm saying. I feel like I've done so much. But yeah, I'm working right now on my DJ career and I've had and this is some advice I wanted to give. Thank you so much for watching today's video. It's I have a lot more advice I can give. Please leave in the comments if you want some advice. I absolutely love all of y'all. Thank you so much for watching my YouTube channel.

[00:13:50]I cannot wait to make more videos and you know, keep expanding my content and I love you all so much. Bye.