Jealous Family Members Are In Secret Competition With You ️

[00:00:00]First thing about some families is that some people are literally mad that you didn't turn out to be the flunky that they always thought you were going to be. That's the sad thing, like this secret competition going on in families where they didn't already put people in categories of who was supposed to make it, who was supposed to flunk out, who was supposed to have children, and whose kids wasn't going to be nothing. They didn't already make these categories, and God forbid you you broke that mold.

[00:00:25]You would think that they'd be celebrating, but some families really be feeling some kind of way. Why? Cuz they've been competing with your mama from 25 years ago, cuz your mom was a cute girl, or they're competing with your daddy, cuz he was a high school basketball star, and now they, you know, it's always something that you are not even really aware of, but there's a secret competition. And God forbid you doing better than somebody else's children that was supposed to do better than you. You know, it's like that's why people be feeling some kind of way about their families, cuz you generally don't feel like people are happy for you. It's like, "Damn, I didn't expect you to to make it." You know, what kind of [ __ ] is that What kind of [ __ ] is that? So, you know, it's sad, but yeah, a lot of us have dealt with um, you know, some shiesty ass family members that on the low be competing with you. And >> So, apparently I'm strict. Stay away from anybody that does not like you.

[00:01:20]Stay away from anybody that is in a secret competition with you. And yes, this does include family. Once upon a time, I bought a car. I was 19 years old. I'd started working, I think, the year and a half before. So, I was really excited that I got to save up for this car, and I bought myself a car. Now, I'm not the kind of person to be like, "Oh, let me post this to social media." Like a car, houses, but I will post it like a family group, cuz you know, family.

[00:01:42]Like, "Guys, I got a car. Oh my gosh."

[00:01:44]Sent this picture to the group, family group, and silence.

[00:01:50]I got silence. And you know, WhatsApp has that feature where you can see who's read the message, who's seen the picture, and said nothing.

[00:01:57]>> [clears throat] >> Now, I was a little bit of a naive cookie back then and according to some comments on the whole letting my friends have my boyfriend's number, I still am naive. But yeah, I at the time didn't really like connect the dots. Like, you know, maybe these people might not ever with me like that. Cuz eventually people did say, "Oh my gosh, like congrats.

[00:02:16]Yay!" Eventually they said something, you know, after I'd seen that yeah, you know, they viewed it and said nothing for like a good hour or two. So yeah, back then I didn't really connect it to like, maybe there's secret competition here or anything. It's only as I've gotten older and the signs have just sort of increased, especially with a wedding. Guys, a wedding reveals so many things. Oh my gosh, especially with a wedding happening and then you hear that other cousins are saying things about you. Like, they don't think you're going to make it down the aisle.

[00:02:46]And yes, I do come from that culture that is like, no matter how, you know, a little messed up somebody is, they're your family. Like, come on. And now I'm just like, no. Absolutely not. Like, I draw the line. I draw a boundary. I do not engage. You will not hear from me.

[00:02:57]You will not hear of me. You will know nothing about my life. The only thing you will know is my work, my social media. You will know nothing about me. I will not engage. I will not look for what you're doing. I will not like try and view your stuff. Like, WhatsApp, I'm like a dead person to you. I'm not engaging with family members that I'm just like, yeah, this is little secret animosity here.

[00:03:19]>> You are your jealous sister's blueprint.

[00:03:21]It's something you do naturally, it's something you do effortlessly. Your jealous sister will always feel the need to compete with you. You could be naturally good at doing hair, art. It don't matter, just anything. And here she comes trying to prove she can do it better. Even though she never had the passion, calling, or authenticity to do it in the first place. Cuz jealous people don't create, they compete. They don't take action unless you do first.

[00:03:44]They don't try something until they see you succeed in that it. They don't even know who they are until they try to mirror you. You are their measuring stick. You are the standard that they secretly compare themselves to. They hate how they have to study you while you're just simply being yourself.

[00:03:57]Nothing frustrates a jealous person more than someone who shines without trying.

[00:04:01]>> If you were raised in a narcissistic home environment, especially with narcissistic parents, it is more than likely one of those siblings will pick up those narcissistic characteristics.

[00:04:11]They're going to have the same characteristics as those toxic narcissistic parents because we learn off of modeling behavior and you learn off of the home environment.

[00:04:22]It's nothing more worse than to have a family member, yet a sibling, in constant competition with you. The most disheartening thing about that, the family sees the signs and nobody addresses it.

[00:04:38]No one says anything about it.

[00:04:40]But yet, it's a struggle. Y'all are in a power struggle in terms of sibling dynamics because your intention is to never compete with your sibling, but that's their full intention.

[00:04:53]>> You know something I've noticed in life, some [music] stuff that's happened to me is when you have older siblings, a older brother, older sister, and you start to level up in life, you start to do better and better with your life, they take it as competition. [music] Like because they're the oldest that they're supposed to be doing the best.

[00:05:07]They're supposed to be in the best place in life. So a little brother or little sister starts doing a little bit better than them or just catches [music] up to them, boy, it sure does hurt their feelings. They hate to see that. But what I'm saying, my point about this is why? Like I don't understand that. We supposed to be happy for each other.

[00:05:23][music] We family, right? But hey, when that truth comes out, you know what to do next. No one is allowed to treat you like that, family or not. It's not a competition. We're both in life trying [music] to do our best. Let's encourage each other or cut them the hell off.

[00:05:36]Bless up.

[00:05:42]>> [snorts] >> One person that we don't usually talk a whole lot about, but I think deserves a lot more attention in narcissistic family can be is the narcissistic sister. Hi, my name is Dr. Natalie Jones, and I think we need to give the narcissistic sister some attention.

[00:05:59]Um and it your results may vary between all of you depending on if you're a brother or sister to the narcissistic sister. Um but for many women who have narcissistic mothers, they often have and usually do have narcissistic sisters, and it could look like um I think a story or a fairy tale that portrays this very well is Cinderella and her three step sisters where they sort of locked her in. They didn't want her having any sort of attention to the out outward world. They didn't want her to um have love or, you know, date other men. They just wanted to keep her as a slave and call her ugly and keep her in the worst clothes and things like that while they all went out and live this lavish life. Um and although they were her step sisters, I think the story the way that the story portrays, there's this competition um a lot of the times when you have a narcissistic sister, whether you realize it or not, there's competition in every capacity. Um and you know, she may call herself more attractive than you, but yet she's sort of checking for you at every which way.

[00:07:15]She's comparing um you know, her lifestyle to yours.

[00:07:19]She's comparing her looks to yours. A lot of times, especially when it comes to looks, women can be very vain. And a lot of times, even when it when it comes to looks, they women will break it all the way down. You know, they will look at your hair and compare your hair to theirs. They'll look at your nose, your lips, your feet. Um they they definitely look at your boob size, your butt size, or things like that because again women look at things that are that they think will woo or attract other men. Um and you know, if you're in a black family or if you're in person of color that grows up in a family, a lot of times what women will do and they will get down on you about again is very hair texture, colorism.

[00:08:06]So your you know, the you know, again that paper bag test. So how light are you? How dark are you? And if you're darker than me, you're you're considered uglier than me. And I'm not saying that that's the way I feel, but you know, some of the stuff can get very very ridiculous in terms of how women sort of break break things down. And I mean again over your clothes, you know, what type of men you attract. You know, so they're looking at like, oh, well, that man's attracted to you. He's attractive.

[00:08:36]Why is he attracted to you? And you know, women again will will try to cut you down in terms of, you know, attractiveness. So your sister may take every opportunity to sort of backbite and remind you of how unattractive or ugly you are in comparison to them.

[00:08:53]Whether it's true or not, they will continue to play that psychological mind game and will in a lot of cases be your very first bully in terms of attractiveness and try to create the thing where you are insecure where you don't get any opportunities with everybody else in the opportunities you do have, they are constantly comparing your man or your romantic interest to theirs of what do they have?

[00:09:19]What are they giving you? Why are they giving you that?

[00:09:23]That so on and so forth. And while your sister may be breaking you down outwardly or anything that you have going for yourself, they often want you to align and side with them when it benefits them. So, they expect to sort of again tear you down, but the minute they need you, they expect you to jump and ask how high you want want me to jump so that I could be at your beck and call for everything. And when you're not there, if you're not their lap dog for any small inconvenience, they use that opportunity to keep the score and tear you down and maybe even retaliate towards you um at any given moment.

[00:10:06]Um and it's almost like they expect you to be um a second boyfriend or anything like that because they want you to be their emotional care bear, um but they also want you to be their punching bag at any opportunity. Um and women can be very mean and I've had a post before on relational aggression in terms of how women can be. Narcissistic sisters will may also cut you down um and and be very manipulative as far as parents go. So, they may want to appear to be the most appeasing one, the one who's most aligned with the parents. And so, they may throw you under the bus if it means that they're going if that means that you're going to get abused more or more severely.

[00:10:52]Um and they may laugh uh laugh at you getting your punishment or secretly gloat over you getting more punishment um while they get um uplifted on a pedestal. So, there's always a competition for them to appear to be better in their parents' eyes and appear to be the favorite, the most beautiful, the most accomplished um meanwhile while they put you down.

[00:11:16]And one of the things that narcissistic sisters will also do is take any opportunity they can to cut you down.

[00:11:24]So, be prepared for those sly comments um in front of family members. Be prepared to be belittled. Be prepared for your sister to maybe even compete with you as far as your man goes or to idolize your man while putting you down, right? Because a lot of these narcissistic women are chasing male validation. They're chasing the male gaze and if they can punch down on you while getting ahead, trust and believe they will do that. Um you [snorts] know, and a lot of times what narcissistic sisters will do was they will idolize their lives and continue to paint themselves to be on a pedestal, right? Like you always hear about the good things going on in their life. Um but very seldom will they publicly come out and tell you what's really going on behind closed doors, right? Um so they will always try to appear to have the best boyfriend, the best husband, the best life, but if in reality they're getting cheated on or if they're getting, you know, if there's domestic violence or things like that, they're never going to tell you that because they always want to appear to be better than you. Um so they will never keep it real, they will never be honest, they will lie to you, and they will lie on you, but they expect you to keep coming back for more. And again, um the relational aggression is typically very high with narcissistic sisters. And again, that smear campaign where they sort of smut your name up with everybody that they can um behind your back, everybody in the family. Um they try to deter people from liking you or being attracted to you. And then again, they become um enraged if people do like you, um if people do want to connect with you and and their their whole reason is like, why? What does she have? Um and then if you're if you're our brother, you may also deal with this where you have a sister that feels like they can control you and infantilize or emasculate you as a man.

[00:13:35]And so, again, they may want to appear to be the omnipresent woman in your life where you need to check with me first before you you know, before you're doing anything um independent or autonomous.

[00:13:49]You need to check with me before you decide to go out with somebody. You need to check with me before you um you know, before you do anything really. And so, it's almost like they want to be a mother and a girlfriend to a brother as well. And a lot of times narcissistic sisters do tend to have inappropriate relationships. Um you know, and again, it it is possible and in in there are some cases in where these women do sex also sexually abuse um their siblings as well. Um so, the trigger warning there, I meant to mention that. Um so, you know, if you have a sister that is um the and you know, even if they don't sexually abuse, they can also appear to be sexually inappropriate by that comparison, um that body comparison, sort of squeezing on you in public and drawing attention to how you look and uh you know, your body features and things like that. Also making a mockery of those things and how you appear uh physically as well.

[00:14:57]>> Hello everyone and welcome back to Life Beyond Aesthetics.

[00:15:01]Today, we're going to be talking about how the family members are going to be in a secret competition with you.

[00:15:11]A one-sided secret competition with you.

[00:15:14]Okay?

[00:15:15]Now, if you grew up in a toxic household, you're probably surrounded by people who are jealous, envious, and you know, they literally want to be you.

[00:15:27]>> [snorts] >> Now, the thing about you is that you're living your life normally. Like when you do your thing, you're not looking at oh, what the next person is doing.

[00:15:38]You're not trying to be better than your siblings.

[00:15:43]Even if they're doing something you like, it will just inspire you.

[00:15:48]You can copy it, but you're not copying it intentionally to be better or so. You can just, you know, copy that like something that you like, you know.

[00:15:59]But when you're doing your thing, you're not even thinking about anybody. That's just the funny thing about people like you and I.

[00:16:04]You're not thinking about anybody or what anybody is doing or how you can be better than that person or worrying about how that person is going to surpass you. Da da da da da. Like, you're not even thinking about that.

[00:16:19]You're just focused on your work.

[00:16:21]Like you're literally just focused on your work. You're not even You don't even know they exist in that kind of sense.

[00:16:27]But you, doing your stuff, you're unaware that these people are watching you.

[00:16:34]And they are literally plotting against you. Like literally.

[00:16:38]Like you are the center of their life.

[00:16:42]But you are so focused on your life.

[00:16:44]Like that's just the difference between both of you. And so, when you encounter a jealous family member, they're going to always like want to do better than you.

[00:16:54]There are different types of people who will be jealous and envious of you. Some people will be obsessed.

[00:16:59]Some people will be jealous. Some people will simply compete. Like you'll just be experiencing a lot of different negative energies towards you. Now, when you're dealing with the GM, a family member who is in serious competition with you, >> [snorts] >> they want to do everything you do, but they want to do it better than you. That is one sign, okay? Let's say that you're into online business. They want to copy that business, but they will not want like their mission for that business will be to surpass you.

[00:17:31]Let's say you're doing your business and maybe your first sale or your opening sale was you were able to sell to 10 people or 100 people. Let's say 10 people.

[00:17:45]Or let's say 50 people. Now, this person opened that similar line of business and they the person's main goal will be to sell to 100 people.

[00:17:53]And they will not just do this for themselves. When they do it, they will make sure that you know.

[00:17:58]They will come and personally tell you, you know. Maybe you shared to them like your own success or how you are happy that you made like 50 sales on the first day.

[00:18:08]When they do their own, they will come and meet you specifically and, you know, like, "Oh my god, I just sold 100." Like they will specify it so that you know like that they did better than you. They're trying to rub it in your face. And that is what secret competition look like, okay? They want to do everything that you do, but they want it to be better than what you did.

[00:18:33]And now we someone that is in secret competition with you with you is going to react is when you pop out. Let's say you pop out and you dress good, you're looking good and all.

[00:18:44]They will never compliment you, okay?

[00:18:46]They will never It's not possible. Uh There There are two different types of people that will see you, you know. One person will see you and they will start looking for flaws. They will start criticizing like looking for anything they can use on like, you know, undermine your glow.

[00:19:02]The second type of person who is in secret competition with you is a person that will go completely silent.

[00:19:09]Like, they will not say anything. Let's say everybody around you is admiring you and telling you how beautiful you are.

[00:19:15]These people, they will not say anything at all.

[00:19:18]Like they They will not say period. They will not say, "Oh, you're good." Nothing. They will just be silent and just be looking.

[00:19:29]>> [snorts] >> Because those type of people are the people that are actually the most envious.

[00:19:35]And those are the people that will watch you the most. Those are the people that are the most obsessed. And the thing is uh the thing is they're trying to mask their insecurity, okay? These people are so insecure and they have the most fragile egos. And that is why when they want to now behave as if they're unbothered, that is when they go to the extreme and become completely silent. But that their silence ends up exposing their insecurity the most. Because someone that is secure in themselves would at least say something like, "You look good." or, "Wow." You know, just be free. Even if you don't compliment, like be free.

[00:20:16]But someone who is trying to mask it and be They will now like start performing unbotheredness. And that's when they end up exposing themselves through extreme silence.

[00:20:26]Okay?

[00:20:27]Extreme silence.

[00:20:30]>> [snorts] >> So these are the things that people do when they're in secret competition with you. A lot of your family members that you think love you or you love blah blah blah, a lot of them are like plotting how they will surpass you in life.

[00:20:45]>> [snorts] >> Some of them want to get married before you. Like if you marry before them, they will not even be happy. Some of them want to have a richer husband than you.

[00:20:54]Some of them want to have a bigger family house than you. Some of them Like everything to them is competition.

[00:21:01]Everything. They want their skin to glow more than yours. They want to make more money than you. They want to have a more successful career than you. They want to be recognized by your parents as more successful than you.

[00:21:16]You know, they want their parents' validation, and they don't want you to have it.

[00:21:21]Okay?

[00:21:23]They want to have the boyfriend, and they want you to be single.

[00:21:28]They want to have the happy marriage first before you.

[00:21:32]You know, they want to buy a car before you. They want to learn how to drive before you. Okay? They want to blow up in life before you. Everything they are doing, they are secretly competing with you.

[00:21:46]And people who are like this are people who already like deemed you as better than them.

[00:21:51]That is just the fact without sugarcoating it.

[00:21:55]People who are in secret competition with you, whether overtly or indirectly, they have deemed themselves as inferior to you.

[00:22:06]>> [snorts] >> And that's why they compete with you.

[00:22:08]Nobody is going to compete with someone that they feel is less than them.

[00:22:11]Just know that.

[00:22:13]>> [snorts] >> Nobody is going to compete with someone that they think is less than them.

[00:22:19]Especially when you are dealing with older siblings. Now, the thing with older siblings is that a lot of older siblings, they feel like they should have surpassed you. They don't see how their junior sibling should reach them or surpass them in life.

[00:22:36]So, most of them is like insulting. They will feel like they have failed.

[00:22:40]Most especially when this older sibling is a narcissist. That will be the worst.

[00:22:44]Like, that's one of the worst case scenarios.

[00:22:47]Because they Those are the worst. They will like try to bring you down from a very, very young age. Like, from the day you are born, they'll be plotting on your downfall. Because, why? They see your potential.

[00:23:00]Nobody is going to try and humble the the person that they don't feel threatened by.

[00:23:05]>> [snorts] >> Nobody is going to try and bring down the person that they don't notice, that they don't feel is going to make it in life.

[00:23:12]But because they see your potential, they see how far you're going to go, they see what you can do, they they try to start chipping at your confidence.

[00:23:22]That's why they have tried to make you feel like you're you're lonely, you're antisocial, you're this, [clears throat] you're that. Well, all a lot of those labels are false. In fact, all of those labels are false.

[00:23:35]I'm someone who is just recently discovering that I'm actually not like timid and antisocial >> [snorts] >> like they have tried to make me seem all my life. You know, growing up people used to call me weird, antisocial, da da da da da, you know. And you meet like I think I grew up believing it. So, when I enter >> [snorts] >> a social setting, I already have this mind that everybody is against me, you know, I'm not good enough, blah blah blah blah blah, stuff like that.

[00:24:09]But now I'm learning that I'm actually not antisocial. Because nowadays, when I walk out or I go out, like I can shift a room.

[00:24:18]Like my presence can transform a room, like literally.

[00:24:24]That's how confident I am.

[00:24:27]My presence transforms room. But it's not about me. I don't yearn for the spotlight. I can transform a room and blend into the room.

[00:24:36]So, when you come in, you won't know like what exactly transformed this room.

[00:24:43]It will be me, but I'm not going to like sit on the pedestal or sit on the high table so that it's obvious that it's me.

[00:24:49]I transform the room and I blend into the room. So, I'm just realizing I'm actually confident. And also the way I approach people, the way I talk to people. I can talk to anybody.

[00:24:59]I actually talk to everybody. I can make friends easily.

[00:25:02]Like easily. But the thing is I've been programmed to see myself as weird and antisocial.

[00:25:09]And and so that made me to start feeling like I have to source out confidence.

[00:25:14]Like I have to learn how to be confident, learn how to be, you know, learn all those things. But I realized that the moment I stopped trying to be confident is when I'm actually confident. And that's when I realized that my natural state of being is already confident.

[00:25:31]Do you understand? So those labels that are thrown on you, you have to start learning how to release them.

[00:25:38]That's what life is about. It's not really necessarily about like compiling and learning new things. What it's about unlearning who society has made you to believe before you you even knew your name.

[00:25:50]Before you even knew you are, society has already put the labels on you, which are not true.

[00:25:55]And you internalize that, and then you start shrinking yourself in life.

[00:26:01]Why? Because you don't want to see your potential.

[00:26:04]My family have always told me I'm antisocial, I don't have friends, da da da da da da, and that has made me to believe that. When I go to life, I start feeling antisocial and I don't have friends.

[00:26:13]But when you let go of all those labels on and I just be myself, I'm free. I can easily make friends if I want. You know, and I realize I'm not really antisocial, I'm not really weird.

[00:26:24]Do you understand? So a lot of those labels are just put on you from people's insecurities. And if you internalize it, it ends up, you know, dimming your light so that you don't discover your star quality and fulfill your purpose on earth so that you don't, like, possess the courage to go out there.

[00:26:44]So that you continue feeling like that you're less than, you're not worthy, da da da da da da, and you never really go out there and shine. That's basically what's happening. When you let go of those labels, when you know when your family members who have told you, "Oh, you will never be you will never be this, you will never be that. Oh, you're so this, you're so that. You're weird, you're this." When they now see you going out into the world, connecting with people, communicating, spreading love, being confident, it's very very shocking to them because this is not the person who they have created in their mind. This is not the person that they have spent years programming to feel less than. So, when you break that cycle and you become a new person and understand that your own people are out there and they are not weird and you are destined for greatness, they won't treat you like that because it's obvious to them now that you have broken free from all those, you know, chains that they have put on you while growing up.

[00:27:46]And that's the biggest slap in her face.

[00:27:50]So, people who used to pre-condition you, they will usually try and tear you down because they don't want you to see your greatness.

[00:27:57]They can do this through isolation. They will start isolating you.

[00:28:01]And all these things will start from a very young age. They'll be isolating you, excluding you, making you feel less than, you know, it's just a lot of manipulation tactics and the reason why it works is because you still view these people as family members and you still love them, you still care for them. That's why when they manipulate with you, you fall for it because you have not learned detachment, which I said I'm going to teach.

[00:28:26]Okay? So, I said they exclude. When some of them when they see you, they will criticize your look.

[00:28:33]Anytime you pop out looking fine, they will find a flaw in your outfit. "Oh, this does not fit you. Oh, you look fat.

[00:28:40]Oh, you look too thin. Your hair color is this."

[00:28:44]But one thing they will never say is you look fine.

[00:28:46]Okay? When you achieve something great, they will never congratulates you.

[00:28:50]Nobody tell you congratulations. Just like one of our speakers said that she posted her car on the group chat and everybody was quiet.

[00:29:00]Everybody went quiet. Nobody said anything.

[00:29:03]It's family are the people who are meant to be cheered the loudest for you when you win. But at times they will be the most silent people on earth.

[00:29:10]>> [snorts] >> If your family is like this, just know that you are destined for more. Your greatness does not end with your family.

[00:29:17]It just begin It just begins there. You understand? That's how I see it. Okay?

[00:29:22]I've I've stopped seeking my family's approval.

[00:29:26]I have achieved things that my my family have achieved things that nobody has ever achieved and most people would never will.

[00:29:35]I've I've broken records. I've made breakthroughs that nobody have achieved. I have done that.

[00:29:42]But someone will achieve that breakthrough tomorrow and they'll come out and they'll make it seem like that person was the first to do it.

[00:29:50]>> [snorts] >> But mind you, I have done it and I am still doing it but I'm not saying anything.

[00:29:56]Why? Because I think at a point you just have to tend to stop looking for the approval and validation and understand that because people are related to you by blood doesn't mean that they will be happy for you when you win. That is just the truth of the matter.

[00:30:12]So I've learned to validate myself.

[00:30:15]I've learned to stop seeking external validation even from my loved ones, even from the people that are meant to like cheer for me the most. They see me winning but they act like they don't see it.

[00:30:26]They see me doing things that they have never dreamt of but they act like they don't see it. And I don't force anybody to acknowledge my win.

[00:30:35]I know that I've won and that is enough whether they acknowledge it or not.

[00:30:39]I I did it.

[00:30:41]Okay?

[00:30:42]Whether I acknowledge it or not, or not, the moon is still going to shine.

[00:30:46]Okay? So, get ready to cry.

[00:30:50]Sometimes you think a lot of them will not acknowledge your win.

[00:30:53]When you do something great, something ground break- breaking, they'll do like they did not see it or hear anything when it's right in front of them.

[00:31:03]That is the biggest sign of jealousy.

[00:31:04]The people who do the most extreme are the people who are the most jealous.

[00:31:10]Not only the loud ones, but those silent ones. Those are the silent killers.

[00:31:14]Those are the people who envy you the most. Those are the people who watch you the most. Those are people who are threatened by you the most.

[00:31:22]Okay? So, don't even pay them any mind.

[00:31:26]Anybody that they want to have a competition with you, let them compete with themselves. Do not engage. Detach from them.

[00:31:33]Let them compete with themselves. Let them continue watching you win from afar.

[00:31:37]Okay? Because that's all they can do.

[00:31:39]Let them continue watching you win. Do not engage with them. Do not start competing with them. Do not start Like, do not start doing things to show them that you are doing really now, da da da da. No.

[00:31:50]Like, ignore their existence, literally.

[00:31:54]Ignore their existence.

[00:31:56]Your greatest win is not against them, but is like moving through your life thinking about yourself. It's not about thinking of having revenge or oh, they'll see me do this. No, no. Or building your life quietly for yourself.

[00:32:13]Do you understand?

[00:32:15]So, guys, that'll be all for today's video. So, I hope you guys are able to learn one or two, and I'll see you in my next video. Stay blessed.