This analysis sharply exposes the systemic bias where competitiveness in Black women is unfairly pathologized rather than celebrated. It provides a much-needed reality check on the racialized double standards that still dominate sports commentary.
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Happy Wednesday. And happy second day of graduation practice for us over here.
Um, sorry guys.
I'm not going to keep you guys long, but I want this was on my mind today. So, I wanted to come up here and get this out.
Um, you know, and let it be known even though we we keep seeing it, you know, the double standard for um, you know, black WNBA players, how it's just so different from um, you know, other races and stuff like that. So, I just wanted to come up here and I have I have an example of Angel Reese um talking when she was at LSU and I have um a brief article with NECA, but let me tell you guys um I seen something uh you know on social I and I know the answer to the question, but what I I've noticed is we are okay some of us some of us are okay with other players doing whatever they want to do. It's funny, right? It's a joke, right? But the minute another player like a Kennedy Carter or Angel Ree or anybody, Asia, anybody does something different, say something different, it's a problem, right? Okay. So, I noticed something. Um, Mac and Cheese, you know, Mac and Cheese, they played a game um yesterday and I'm watching Mac and Cheese. Uh, and this ain't the first time Mac and Cheese been doing this, right? Nothing against Mac and Cheese or nothing like that. But if that had have been someone else on that court acting like that, it it would have been a whole different story. And I'm noticing I'm seeing a lot of uh laughing emojis is funny and, you know, and all this great stuff. But the minute a black player do something like that, it's a whole it's a it's a whole big look article, social media uproar.
But everybody thinks it's funny. I don't think it's funny about a crash out jaw.
You know why? If my girl Kennedy Carter had a crash out jaw, we have a problem.
It It's not funny then, but she can have one and it's okay. That's what I'm saying. everything in all jokes and and jokes and fun when it comes to stuff like that. I don't find it funny. I didn't find it funny when Mac and Cheese came out with Crash Out Jar. I said, "Oh, okay. Let me watch and let me watch this behavior and see." So, I'm noticing that the behavior is is a consistent thing. Um, and you know, nothing wrong with that. You know, if you choose to do that, I'm not knocking nobody for having their moments if they want to crash out.
I'm saying keep it keep it the same way when it comes to black um female WNBA players as well and black women players period. You know what I'm saying? I I just don't find it I just don't find it funny for one and then the other players um get the third degree. You know, so that's why I had to run it back a little bit. You guys may think it's funny. I don't know. You know what I'm saying?
Some stuff are jokes and some stuff when you see um repeated behavior, you're like, "Wait a minute. This ain't this ain't all that funny." You know what I'm saying? You know, the first couple of times you're like, "Okay, but I'm really seeing like a a a repeated behavior and they get the they look they get a slap on the wrist." But if it had been anybody else, anybody else, Asia, you know, Kennedy Carter, you know, Angel, Ana, I'm just throwing names out there.
Britney, any of them, they would get the third degree, right? Okay. I'm just saying keep it the same across uh you know, on both sides. But we see that's not going to happen, guys. We see it's not going to happen because it keep happening over and over again and different things, right?
Now, I get it, guys. We have all we have 15 teams this year, right? And I get it.
Um, our players are spread out and um, you know, some our players are going to be on teams that we don't want them to.
I wish no ill will or nothing on the players. I'm just using this as another example. And sometimes what bothers me is that um they will use these beautiful black queens for their own personal agenda and then when it's all said and done, they'll go to another race to get them the credit. I'm just keeping 100. They will wear and tear our black women queens bodies out because they know we work hard. They know we don't play no games. They know we mean business just for other races to get the credit.
Why can't we have all everybody get the credit? Everybody share the credit without you tearing down your players without you putting out hit pieces on your players. You know that did nothing to you that's come up with their plan.
Matter of fact, didn't even say nothing negative in the presses or anything like that. Nothing negative. Nothing towards the organization. nothing and you already had hit pieces out. That's the type of stuff I'm talking about. But then and then you forget that that main player that you had hit pieces on, I don't care who you put in that game. If they didn't have that player, you guys wouldn't have won those games. I'm just keeping it 100. You know what I'm saying? You know, anybody can come at me today. We we can have a back and forth, but it better be within the 45 minute range. That's all I'm saying. I'm just, you know, you get to the point where you get tired of seeing it sometimes. So, I'mma run these two articles back, but I'mma tell you, um, I'm going to, um, break down a little bit of stuff, right? So, um, mo many fans and players and commentators believe black women in the WNBA face a different level of scrutiny compared to other athletes. The conversation is complex, but a few themes come up repeatedly. Black women athletes are often expected to be competitive but not to be too emotional, be confident but not to be outspoken, be physical but m but not be too aggressive. Carry the lead while also dealing with criticism that goes beyond basketball. Players like Asia Wilson, Angel Reese, Britney Grryer, Kennedy Carter have all been a part of public conversations where fans debate whether they are treated differently for showing emotion, intensity, confidence, or physicality.
And let me tell you another example.
When a when Asia Wilson did that article and she kept it 100, they wanted to come to Asia Wilson. But telling the truth, you know, I know the problem is a lot of people don't want to hear the truth. You know what I'm saying? These ladies come out, they keep it real. They they tell the truth and they not fake. I rather for a person keep it real with me. I don't care if it hurt my feelings or not. At least I know they keeping it real with me. They ain't going around, you know, causing drama, talking behind my back. They standing right there and there. What you see is what you get. And that's what you get in the Asia Wilson, Angel Reese, Britain, Grind, and kindergarten. They keep it real.
Everybody can't hide their emotions. Can um you know, sometimes or whatever. Does it make it right on some things? No.
Some things don't make it right. I don't care how much of a target a player have on have on their back. We know what they up against when it come to a sport like this. It doesn't matter if they do right or they do wrong, they still got a target because of the color of their skin.
Okay. Um, sorry guys. I mean, I just had to get this out today. I'm supposed to be braiding my hair. I'm on a braid break, okay? Cuz you know, graduation is uh tomorrow, but it say 80% of rain. So, we going to have they may have to reschedu. Okay, let's keep the main thing. The main thing. A common point people raise is that behavior celebrated and men's basketball, trash talk, swagger, emotional reactions, hard fouls, rivalries can sometimes be viewed more negatively when black women do it.
Terms like anger, dramatic, or problematic may appear faster in discussions and black women athletes than around others doing similar things.
I get it, guys. History does repeat itself. But we are the ones that hear.
We can change that history. And I keep telling people, it doesn't matter what they try to erase. It doesn't matter how they come at us. The last going to be first and the first going to be last.
Repeat it. Run it back. I'm telling you, it doesn't matter how you try to do stuff, how you try to change it to your personal agenda. We coming out on top.
We just sitting back, you know, continue to fight, you know, um the best way you can and just let let them have it and cuz they going to be the ones in shock.
We not surprises us nowadays.
At the same time, you know, black women have been um central to building women's basketball, leading the WNBA on the court, driving culture and fashion, creating fan engagement, pushing controvers I mean conversations about paid visibility and respect. The lead's growth today is heavily heavily connected to the generations of black women stars from Lisa Lesley um to Nisa alongside many others. Social media has also amplified everything.
Bigger audience, more attention, more criticism, more comparison between between players, more racial and gender conversations tied into sports debates.
Some fans generally disagree on whether certain criticism is about race, personality, meter height, or basketball itself. But many black women players and supporters say the pattern becomes noticeable when similar actions are judged differently depending on who the player is. It's one reason conversations around the WNBA today are bigger than just basketball. They also touch on race, gender, media narratives, visibility and respect and sport, sports culture. Okay, so guys, you see, um, hey big girl, hey Stephen, hey Felicia, hey Robert, how you guys doing today? You know, um, big girl. See, I'm I'm so proud of you, big girl. You you ar you arrived early just right for class today. Uhhuh. Yeah.
Let me see what Felicia said. Yep.
Perfect example. When when Angel hit the coach's clipboard last year, they wrote articles for days. All media um clock going off and coaches and you only see fans mention it and saying that that's not cool.
Let me tell you something. I keep going back to and I be all in the chat. Hold on, guys. Let me get my charger. See, they got me running out. I ain't even got charged up this morning. Had to get this out. And you guys remember and I keep saying this in the chat um about the boy that cried. Y'all remember that story, right? If y'all don't remember that story. I I know I'm taking y'all back to my prek teach days, right?
Listen, if y'all don't know that story, go back and run it back. How many times that boy cried wolf and them people had enough? My thing is you keep on crying wolf. What are you going to do? Because them same people that's rooting for you and on your side and all that kind of Okay. Oh, sorry guys. Sorry for that. Um um yeah, I'mma have to take my sign um stuff. Okay, let me pull my article back up.
Okay.
All right, we got it up. Let make sure we charging, guys. Okay, we charging.
Sorry, guys, about that. Um, let me add this article back up here, guys. Put a one in the chat if you can hear me.
If you can hear me, put a one in the chat. I just want to make sure cuz I know we went in and out. Um, big girl.
Hey Belinda. Hey girl. How are you? But um yeah. So I'm just saying um yeah, run that story back um about the boy cried wolf cuz they going to get you know sooner or later they get tired and we may not see it right now but everything is going to happen. Thank you Stephen. Everything is going to happen at the right time guys.
Keep watching. Um, you know, if you got your social medias, you got your podcast, keep speaking on it. But you ain't got to say too much because I'm telling you, I'm telling you guys, it's it's going to happen. And that's the sad part. Everybody rooting in behind and excuse it are not going to be there. They going to move on to the next best things. That's how that's how that's how America work. That's that's what they do. They use something up. Not everybody, not you guys, not everybody.
they use something up and when they get tired of it, it's a new it's a new person. You can always uh get replaced.
You can never get the big head in any position that you're in because you can already be replaced. And when you have to push and cheat and do certain things to get to try to get something, there's no win out of that. You might think it is, but there's no win out of that.
So yeah, I saw that and I said, "Okay, I uh mac and cheese is is on one. It it's repeated behavior. I'm not I don't find it funny in it anymore. You guys can find it funny, but I don't find it funny. I find it very like the walking right back into that double standard that we continue to see and face each and every day. Enough is enough. the rest I they were they were gonna um they were aiming for cloud and and definitely Angel can't get not one not one to save her little little life poor little Nie Poo I mean you know every now and then she'll get one but I'm just saying like and you give this other player 10,000 I'm like come on now you 10,000 fouls and you only gave her about one or two the whole game I'm just saying I have a headache from responding to the angel haters it's a double standard but Linda you know what you do you know how we do killing with kindness. All you got to do, look, put something nice about Angel and they going to let them have and you'll see how crazy people are, how they go off. I'm draw I'm an artist. I'm drawing pictures, guys, posting them. Do you know they was coming at me? I had to. And what I do, I erase uh the comments and stuff because you never know when the players are watching and I don't want them to think that's okay.
They be all in my my my artwork like these people are crazy. But you know what? I'm the type of person I say what I say and I mean what I say. I don't have to prove a point to nobody. It's either you believe me or you don't. And the thing is, like I said, they don't like the truth. They don't want the truth. They see the truth, but they don't want to talk about it. It's definitely a double standard in that WNBA. And we continue to see it more and more since the ch the uh you know, since the CBA and since they see it, we are the X factors. always have been the top X factors when it comes to this particular sport. Say what you want to say. It is I'm telling you if any blocks have happened along the way, it's because of jealousy of the black queens of the WNBA, not because the players couldn't play the game. So, let's not get that look, let's not get that twisted either, you know. Um, and I'm just seeing like, okay, so now I'mma give an example and I'm not just saying saying this particular team all the time. I'm gonna give example of the cloud team. They got they have they had um Taylor and um is that Kabali? They could have been using those girls even though I know Kabali she's on that developmental right even that. So now they know they gonna need these use these players to uh kind of like win some games. But what was all that in the beginning? You had Taylor sitting like I mean like she was on a retirement or something coming up in there.
you know, so we g we gonna see how it goes now because you can say what you want to say. It doesn't matter how many people you put out there. And this for any teams that are dealing with this type of thing. You when you missing a player like Rakia Jackson, you're going to see it. You're going to see it on that court. They would not have won that game. I don't care if if the other players have put up 2020. If they did, they probably did. It doesn't matter the X factor that that defense that Rakia had that she been working on. That's what helped them win that game.
And my girl Tyler, she can only do so much. But we gonna see what happens. We going we're going to see what happen moving forward because these women are very powerful. If they weren't, they wouldn't want them to be on that floor.
The fact that they every time they get on the floor, they are powerful. And you can't fight that sloop. You can't fight a powerful black woman. I don't care who running the ship. She might be running the ship, but you can't fight it. Cuz sometimes, you know, when when the women get on the court, it's natural to them.
It's natural when you got that dog in you. Sometimes you just be out there trying to play Bball. You ain't trying to get no accolade award. You really like the game of basketball. You know what I mean? So, it's no way of hiding the black queen's talent. It's no way of hiding it.
I'm not um ZM I'm not gonna um I'm not going to go back and forth um about that today cuz over here, you know, I keep it like nurturing type of thing. And that young lady is going through more than you could ever know behind closed doors after everything that she went through this year and not being able to play the rest of this season. I'm not even going to touch that because that mama got on the in there. She said, "Pray for her baby." And I knew right then when a mama say pray, pray for that baby. It's serious. So, I'm just going to um She was working on it. I I could see it in Unrival and I saw it in Chicago. I I'm not saying, look, people learn things.
You got to give them time. They're not going to learn it on everybody else's time. That's all I'm saying. So, it may not be perfect. It may not be uh 100% but it was something to give to the team.
Uh Felicia said, "I just don't respond anymore. I just block them. The best thing we can do is uh counter it with positive pics and videos. They do it because they know you will react." Block them. It it it's um it's how they're um paid engagement. Did you have the um Did you hear the latest BS Asia?
Um, someone said Asia is jealous of Kenny. Asia is the reason Kennedy didn't get back in the game. I don't uh um I heard them talking and stuff like that.
I don't uh entertain that stuff, big girl, because that's not what's going on. And um if if it was anything like that, God want to let Kennedy go over there. God put Kennedy um on that team for a reason and a season. So, we just got to wait and and look back. What I'm saying is don't excuse one player for going through something and not the other player. If she, you know, because the reporter even came out that was in the room. He was in that room and he was saying that she said that she didn't want to go. And when you got stuff on your mind and it's hitting home, whatever it is, whatever it is, you going to go out there and you going to say some crazy stuff or you going to say whatever. Really, you it ain't even crazy. It's just stuff stuff is just flowing because you upset. And when you hit sometimes when you hit a 10, you don't even know what you be saying. It just be coming out, coming out, coming out, coming out. You know what I'm saying? So people can kill that. They can go ahead and kill that narrative. Um it's not about that. Um if she say she going through some stuff where whatever she got going on, I'mma stand by that until I, you know, until she say something different or whatever. That's the only thing we can do. Um is go by that. what you know and just continue like like you guys do the truth. You got to give it to her. You got to give it to her with the truth. Like you guys keep doing um Ka Nem doing a good job. Devon them, you guys doing in the chat. You still have to keep it 100 on, you know, what's going on too at the same time. Um or whatever. But yeah, we ain't going for that cuz they ain't even thinking about nothing like that. You know, big girl. It's just sad they bringing that out. What I do notice is it's lightweight on threads. It's not a whole bunch giving all into the attention. I see more support on threads. threads will give you more support than your I don't mess with Twitter. So, um they will give you u more support for the players, especially um especially the black players. Even though you have some up there or whatever, you get more positive on threads.
All of the narratives that these people try to create are designed to divide us as people who support the women of the WNBA. So, don't fall victim to their lies. Yeah, June, that's exactly what they're doing. They know. They know that if they do this, they will, you know, trigger some people and not everybody is there yet. Some people are going to continue to react for me. And we can and and this is the thing, too. We're not going to um we're not going to accept it as normal. We got to stop accepting, oh, this is always going to happen. Um this is always going to happen. This is what we need to expect. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. We got to change our mindset. We got to walk by faith and not by sight. We see it. We see it. But we got to watch what comes out our mouth.
We have what we say. If we say this is going to continue to happen over and over again, it's going to continue to happen over and over again. We have to change our mindset. Even though we see it, right? Even though we see it and we know what's going on. Let me tell you something. Every fight that we have done in history has had has made a change.
Every fight that we have fought for equal rights, the right to vote, the right to be on the same court as men, we have won and we won those battles. What makes you think we can't win the rest? Sometime we got to sit back and not and just watch and drop them like Felicia say drop them positive videos. Drop them drop um you know positive videos you know screenshot the game. Look everybody posting the game you know how much it made and all that kind of stuff. That's the type of stuff you eat them up with. You know what I'm saying? Um but we change is coming. Change is coming. I'm telling you, change is coming for for uh minority period. Um in and outside of sports is coming, guys. We just got to hold on. I'm telling you. Um first they didn't want Kenny in the league. Now they want Kenny to take over the aces.
Kennedy gonna be Kenny. Kenny not going in there trying to take over the aces.
She have to be there. She already told you guys with growth. And that's what I'm saying. We don't know what happens behind closed doors with these players.
We don't know what's going on with these players. Kennedy is is built different.
She's misunderstood a lot of times, but she's built different. And when I say say built different, she just, let me tell you, it's something great and special about that young lady. I can't put my hand on it, guys, but it's something uh special about Kennedy Carter, and that's why she's back. It's not it's not up to the word to decide where Kennedy goes. She when she recognize and and thank God for where she's at, he got him. Whether we look whether we be right or wrong, he got us right. And the one thing I love about God that's different from man is man will attack you for the rest of your life on the same stuff over and over again. But with God, he like, "Okay, I got you. I see where you at. You ask for my help, I got you. But it's all in his time." You know what I'm saying? I ain't touched no h dog in about five.
When the last time I had some hand dog I'm just saying just different stuff.
You know what I'm saying? Just different stuff. I might try some um crown ro. I'm just saying just different stuff guys that he will, you know what I'm saying?
Work with you on and stuff like that. So let's just give them time. Give these women time and give them grace. Yes, we see it. And we got Yes, we have to call a spade a spade now. We got to keep it real because when they're listening, the best thing you can do for these players is give them their the truth. Not your truth, not how you feel, but the truth.
Even if they don't want to hear it, like Kesha and Deval be breaking it down.
Even though they don't want to hear it, guys, it's the truth. And let me tell you, you do your best when somebody's honest and truthful with you, whether you want to hear it or not. Now, you debate them now because sometimes I'm good for that. I'll be debating like, "No, that ain't me. I ain't stubbing her." You know what I'm saying? That is not me. Then I'm like, "Oh my gosh, girl, you is really that girl. YOU IS REALLY STOPPING a little bit." So, I'm just saying like, "Let's see what happens." But if she had if she if she had uh talked to a coach like that, if she had have been on the floor crashing out like that, they would have gave her the third degree and say, "Okay, deuces.
Bye-bye." But we excusing and find it funny when mac and cheese get on that court and do it. No, I don't find that funny. Yeah, you get a tech, but you keep doing it and you keep getting away with it. A tech ain't nothing when it could cost another black player her whole career.
You hear me? Miss me with that.
So, so miss me with all that.
Yeah, it it is, Miss D. It is. So, I'mma get into some flashback articles um with Angel um and Neca. Um I seen when I pulled this topic up, they wanted me to talk about the other person, and I said, "No. Uh-uh." Because that ain't the truth. And I'm not going to be reading no article that's not the truth. That player definitely don't get the same standard as an Angel Reese Aussie Carter.
We definitely have to pray over these ladies. Pray for peace and divine protection. I'm telling you because after what happened to Rakia man listen they were going to they were they were going to play Rakia like they did Angel and Rakia would have fought she look she would have fought through and played through injuries too. I I could see it.
I can see it.
And you know, um, she's a good player regardless of what what she got going on, what skills, whatever, and all that kind of stuff. At the end of the day, Rakia Jackson is an awesome player regardless. You you can't you can't you can't come off of that. You can't say nothing negative. I mean, you can critique, that's fine. You can do that all day. But when you your critiquing is about disrespecting and and and degrading a black woman, that's when the problem come in. That's that's all I'm saying. It's a difference. Not what you want, but serious the critiquing of of the basketball the the you can't critique mental health. Some people tend to miss that with our players. They tend to miss that mental health like they just robots, but they're not.
Okay, so let's get into this article. Uh guys, like I said, I won't keep you long. I'm going to go across these two articles. Can you not pop up here and just give you an example? Um guys, and this is this article that I'm reading with Angel is from 2023. Um like they have uh articles on everything else. Um Google, I need y'all to get it together.
Y'all got articles on everything else with other players. But when I say double standard for black women, y'all got a problem. Going to give me about three paragraphs. No, I need more than that. I need some markers because I know they out there.
Oh, wait. What happened?
Oh my gosh. Are they really?
Yeah. I don't I don't I don't I don't um I don't mess with uh uh Twitter. But yeah, it it's it's crazy work. It's crazy. And and this another thing we already know the WNBA marketing skills got to come up. But where are the marketing skills for the mental health?
I keep saying that. I'm not going to get into mental health today because that's another topic for another day. But when I get to it, I'm eating that WNBA up for lunch. The organization, not our players. I'mma eat them up for lunch because I'm tired of seeing it. And someone like um someone like um Rakia feed and all them. You think they want to have a different opinion, a different thought process. Um yes, they have a village, but sometimes it's good to hear from other people. Where is all of that?
Where's all of that? when it it doesn't matter how many injuries a player has, it hit it could hit different. You know what I'm saying? It's almost as if it's like a post a postpartum uh mental health type of thing. You know what I'm saying? Not not saying you know it's like uh you know um they're all having babies or nothing like that. You know what I mean? Um, and you know what's so funny, um, Kish is that you could report it. Even even with, um, even over here, they they will grab and let them say whatever and all the negative ADP play a song in the background on a video trying to get y'all some black history. And it only started when I did that and they want to come at me and now I got to redo my stuff. June 15th. It be little stuff like that. Like I look, it's all it's all across everywhere with all this type of stuff they playing. But I cannot mess with Twitter. I cannot mess with Twitter like that. And cuz they let them do whatever they want to do over there. At least at least with guys, at least with threads and IG, you know what I'm saying? Even though they all connected back there, um, at least we can get some air, a little bit of air and stuff out.
You know what I'm saying? It's not as bad. That's why I had to, you know, I like Tiki and everything. You know that TikTok, I like it every now and then. I just be dropping my videos and that's how my videos, my artwork come to life.
So, I go over there and drop videos and stuff like that. But even with that, I can't mess with that. I had to come to Threads. I need a peace land. I need somewhere where it's not always negative, negative, negative, negative, where there's negative stuff going on in the world or negative all around. I need I need some positive, little bit of positive. We facing on threads, but not like that, you know.
But yeah, kids, you might have to Yeah, you might had to leave that tweet alone cuz it don't sound like they they g they gonna get crossed it. Okay, so this article was April 7, 2023. How Angel Reese and other black female athletes are pushing back against the criticism.
The LSU basketball star standing up to the double standards and scrutiny she and others have had to face. This article um is by Marggo Snip. Okay, Margo, I see you, girl. This is 2023.
Sorry, Margot. I'm a little late, girl, but I I got to use your article. Okay, so it says the the NCAA most outstanding player, Angel Reese, is unapologetically who she is, and she's among the next generation of black female athletes, refusing to let double standards command the narrative and how they compete. The uh LSU uh basketball player, I could say that, but I'm gonna say LSU. Okay.
Basketball player and others are not only playing in a fresh manicure and lashes while embra while embracing sports competitive spirit. That's another thing. Just because a player wants to wear lashes or makeup or have their hair a certain way they get hit, that has nothing to do with when they get on that floor and they playing that game. Matter of fact, um if they didn't know, they should have did their research. They got a spray that you can put on your makeup that will last over 24 hours because when my daughter do my makeup, that's what she spray on my face. I'm tell them them young them young and turn, they be knowing what's up. You know what I'm saying?
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>> Okay, sorry guys. I am back. Okay, so um yeah, did I um blah blah blah blah blah blah. Okay. Reed, a uh Louisiana State University basketball player made headlines nearly every day this week.
Her you can't see me hand gesture toward an opponent in some ways overshadowed the team's first women's basketball championship. Critics called her classless and ghetto in response to her confidence, competitiveness, and um outspokenenness. public defense for her was swift, including from the University of Iowa's Caitlyn Clark, who the gesture was directed toward, but others um backpedal when she dismissed First Lady Gia Biden after she suggested runner up Iowa also get an invitation to the White House. A gesture that is typically reserved for the national champions.
Now, that right there, that was that was something right there.
And we didn't look and we didn't let that pass. Joe said, "Look, look, Jill.
Jill, we can't do that, Jill. We can't do that. You done messed up, Jill.
Jill, you going to have to you you going to have to get that together, Jill.
When has that ever happened? We invite a team that didn't win the national championship to the White House." I'm just saying.
Oh, man. That was something else that year. Oh boy. They they they got jail messed around and found out she couldn't she you can't be doing stuff like that, right? Still, the debates over how Reese should compete and celebrate reflect the harsh scrutiny against black women in sports that goes back decades. so harsh that those who study and have lived through the inner in intersections of race, gender, and athletes say white athletes rarely receive the same criticism. Yet, black female athletes like Serena Williams, who often pushed back against the status quo, were usually ahead of their time and inspired male and female athletes. Browning said, "Black female athletes are all always criticized." She said they they are described as too aggressive when they play. She said, "And too passionate when they celebrate their victories, right?
Too negative when they lose, right?" But the criticism didn't phase Ree. All year I was critiqued about who I was, she said after the victory. I'm too hood.
I'm too ghetto. Y'all told me that all year when other people do it, y'all don't say nothing. This was the girls that look like me. And in some cases, black women are calling out the media be uh before the public criticism strikes.
Don Staley, the University of South Carolina women's head coach, could tell the backlash was coming against the black athletes who have been fighting for the championship bid. When her team lost, she sent a message to the media during the postgame press conference.
We're not barf fighters. We're not thugs. We're not monkeys. We're not street fighters. She said, "Watch what you say about our team." And let me tell you something, guys. If you don't, if you have daughters, nieces, granddaughters, even for you, go read that Asia Wilson book, um, Dear Black Girls. That's a good one for the summer.
That's a good one for the um, for the young ones and for you, too. Okay.
Um, that came less than two days before Ree was ridiculed. St. Staley uh asked folks to put aside the racism and bias that plays how black women are portrayed in athletes. If you really knew them, she said of her players, you would think differently. So don't judge us by the color of our skin. Judge us by how we approach the game. Period. This year was a uh um this uh women's collegiate basketball. Sunday's championship game was the most most watched women's college basketball match in history. It was the very first time women's basketball was getting that much love and attention, said Sabrina Razak, who studies media, race, sport, gender, and social movements. They were really uh contemplating these athletes onto the stage like they do the men. Media outlets brought out multiple camera angles, sports fans, and all that great stuff. Teams that had previously flown under the radar were were now met with microphones and cameras in their face and the athletes have been unapologetic.
Yet oh man, don't put your eye on 65, guys. Yet after LSU secured the national championship, the spotlight showed how black women, including Ree, are often treated ruthlessly in the media. It happened repeatedly with Venus and Serena Williams who were often discussed as being too aggressive, too powerful.
They were criticized for how they dress and how they wore bees in their hair.
Yes. Oh my gosh. You guys know everybody I don't care what you say. You might have watched them with the side eye, but everybody watching Venus and Serena. I love the bees. I just like girl they doing the thing with playing them playing with bees in their hair cuz them bees ain't no joke guys. The beasts are like heavy on your hair. You know what I'm saying? You be looking good, but your hair be heavy. I mean, that's that's another sacrifice we be putting, you know, when it come to our hair. You know what I'm saying? To look good. We got to go through all that. But yeah, um it was a great thing. They had the bees.
You know what I'm saying? They have people had something to say. Venus did this interview. Her dad was sitting up there with us. And the way that Venus spoke was a mic mic drop because the person that was interviewing them wanted her to wanted her to not be confident in herself. Wanted her to just say all different kinds of stuff. I'm just saying he didn't force her. But I'm just saying. But he messed around and found out that was an intelligent young woman at a young age. Right.
He um Okay. So yeah. So, in 2018, a sports reporter asked if Serena was intimidated by her opponent's supermodel good looks. He later apologized. William has also spoken out about how she was drug tested. How she was drug tested more than any other top tennis player.
This what they do when Bam Bam went out there and did all them shots. There you go. You know what I'm saying? Crazy.
Like it's not any coincidence. If they follow the road and they follow the the path of black kings and queens, they will see that we have always well they cuz you know ap um I can do some free throws but they can see that it's natural to the to these um black players. It's natural for them to get out there and do that. But that's what they do. And for her to be te tested the most out of the top tennis players, that says a lot, guys. That says a whole lot.
Women are taught women are taught and socialized to be well behaved, to be respectable, to be polite. So, anything outside of that will be questioned. Then when you layer race on top of that, that's when it get even further discrimination. Razi said, "What's changed in recent years?" here, she said, is how the curtain has been lifted on this type of discrimination and unequal treatment. A lot of sports media most um re recognizable faces spoke up in defense of Ree after the championship game, including Shaquille O'Neal, Jamil Hill, um Shannon Sharp at the time, NBA player Jaylen Rose. Other black female athletes have similarity fire back and critics in the media. When seventime Olympic medalist Simone Bios pull out of the 2021 Tokyo game, she spoke out against those who judge her as a quitter for looking out for her health. Yeah, they went ham on Simone. I could guys, I be I be watching them Olympics. I always have watched it because I said, "How in the world?" Now, I used to do that reggae, butterfly, all that kind of stuff and everything back in, you know what I'm saying? That time and stuff like that, right? So, I'M LOOKING AT THIS, HOW the girls be doing that? That little easy, but it ain't easy. It ain't no joke. So, I would watch and I just continue to watch over the years and stuff like that. I've been watching it because it's amazing to see them do that. And when she pulled out, oh my gosh, everybody was coming at her because she pulled out for her mental health. That's why I keep telling people, I get it, guys. You want your players to do this, you want your players to do that, you want this their job, they got to do this. I get all that. But mental health is first before that player hits the court. Because if the mental health has a lot of stuff going on on that court, you're going to see a difference in that player's play.
We see a difference when we going through some changes. And yes, we say going through some changes trying to sugar coat it. It's the mental it's the mental health cuz your your mind is like on 100. You know what I'm saying?
Sometimes everybody has experienced it.
Everybody go through some type of mental health in their life. Something. It doesn't matter. It could be a slight little bit, you know, 10%, 15%.
Everybody, nobody's exempt and nobody should be ashamed. Um, period. Um, so this Olympus doesn't erase the past accomplishments I've achieved, nor does it define who I am as an athlete, she wrote on Instagram. Tennis star Naomi Osaka, let me tell you something. They went ham on Naomi, too. has been scrutinized for her racial identity.
Yep. And chastised for decision to prioritize her mental health instead of competing in the French Open. What I love about Naomi, and she do it, she'll do it with a quickness, guys. If her mental health is not up to par and she don't want to throw that ragging and hit them tennis balls, she not going to do it. I'm so proud of that young lady because that's what you have to do. That tennis will always be there. But if you're not together with that tennis or with whatever you play in sports, there's a always going to be a problem and a distraction. So, is it going to ever go away? No. Mental don't ever go away. It's how different ways you deal with it, you know, coming along. Um or whatever. Yeah. So, that was what Na uh Naomi was saying. Um and I think this pretty much sums it up. And they set a new they set a new standard set. If you wanted to be able to beat him, you have to step up. You do. If these women were to keep taking guys what they going through, keep accepting it like it's okay. Um then we wouldn't even we wouldn't get no no ground work would get done. The groundwork is moving. It's just going to take a little more time.
And um you know, that's what we got to remember. I got another article uh with NECA. I'm gonna pull up um I'm getting ready to pull that article up too. Um um Oh yeah, he 45 minutes late. ADP, I wish they would stop u pinning these beautiful black queens against each other. Some of the ladies act like they they some type about angel.
I think because and this is this is one of the holdups and I have to keep it 100 when it comes to something like this. It is so sad that we can't wait for our own blessings that we want somebody else's or we become jealous of somebody else's when they have done nothing to us. Jealousy and strife will will be a division if we don't put a stop to it. what this person have doesn't mean you can't have it. It might be a different way of you getting it, but it doesn't mean you can't have it. But you know, we a lot of times we've been taught different, we've been in different villages of how we've been raised. And until they understand the formula of how it works, they will continue to act like this. And this is where um you know fans and podcast and social media we have to get let them know it's okay cuz you don't and this is another thing just because people are adults um doesn't mean they understand.
I'm telling you different stuff that doesn't don't assume everybody understand what you're saying because they don't because they've been taught different. They've been in a village that's been different. So that's, you know, it happens, Kish. And I I you know what I'm saying? I I know.
Um, you know, and some some some, you know, learn later like Kehani Brown did with Angel Reese. At least you went and apologized. You know, stuff like that they learn, but their villages be so different. And I know it it's sad that they pin each other uh against each other. But sometimes the players bringing on themselves by the things they be saying about other players like you know why would you if you know somebody getting all this aim and you know it you know what they going through and then you add to the fire. Why would you do that? Would you want that for yourself?
So you know they this is Kish. This is why I'm saying they need to have I know um they feel like they graduating and everybody don't need to go back to school. They need to have classes in place so people can understand things like this, you know, because because of the villages because they've been brought up different, right?
Oh, right, big girl. Some people don't understand to much is given, too much is required. They have no idea what people go through. No idea what these players are going through to get where they're at. We know half of what Angel going through because we see it. We don't know the full thing. We know some of what Kennedy Carter is going through, but we don't know the full thing. I just feel it. It is serious though with me. I feel it from discernment. Um that is serious and because they have um more and more people well Angel got her certain village um Kennedy got her village and stuff like that and being on these teams that they have these young ladies are on the best teams and that's why I say I want Miller Miller going to shine wherever she go and that's why I feel like uh on another team we will see um Miller Miller um but whatever Miller wants. It's whatever Miller wants.
Whatever she praying God for, I pray that she gets it. I don't want to ever try to overstep my boundaries as a social media auntie or whatever and say what, you know what I'm saying? Um, how I feel and not how the players feel.
That's why when I love when they speak for themselves um and stuff like that, but we can't even know the half of what goes on behind closed doors. Even with even with uh content creators, even with us, even with the KAP community, guys, if you guys knew the half of what we go through behind closed doors because of certain things we cover because of certain I mean, it's crazy. Some of the stuff I was like mouthdropping kind of stuff. You know what I'm saying? You you never know how how much hard work and what we go through behind closed doors to bring you guys content.
Um, I believe in my heart that certain people were chosen to go through certain struggles because because they can't because they can handle it.
Big girl, you know how many conversations me and the Lord had? I told him about I was look sometime I was tell I was telling the Lord look I don't think I'm no giddy and I don't think I'm this and you know and this and that and he said no no no baby girl you a fireball. And then when I started seeing I said, "Dang, girl, you done you you done went through I'm I'mma just run this right quick and we're gonna get to NECA's article, guys. I was born um um I have a mom and I have a dad. I talked to my dad. My birth mother, I do not. Um I was born um my mother was on drugs and stuff. I was 10 years old. I I knew what a pipe was at 10 years old. Didn't touch it, but that's what she was doing, right? Went through all of that. went through um being abused as a child at the hands of my um birth mother, right?
Went through all of that. Went through uh upstate, you know what I'm saying?
Back then, they didn't care nothing about that. They didn't come get you.
You had to have somebody to go to. They rearranged us, went to her mom's, did the same type of thing, just less of it, right? Go down the line, you know, ran away a couple of times. Finally at 15 went go stay with one of my home girls and her two sisters or whatever. Um, and you know, I stayed with them, worked, graduated, live, you know, did my thing or whatever, worked and stuff like that.
I was all I was all up into the bike and stuff until I was like up in 28 till I came here. Um, stuff like that. Uh, went through um went through a lot of stuff with not having food on the table, making it work, all this kind of stuff.
I'm just giving you a brief summary the fastest I can go.
messed around um had twins um and one went and one went to heaven. OMG, when I say I'm only here cuz God brought me still here, I'm only here cuz he had me here because I was a fighter. I didn't think I could get through that, guys. Mind you, um two months later, a couple of months later, have emergency surgery. Not a surgery that you can't have kids and nothing like that. Just uh you know, a little surgery or whatever.
Wasn't expecting it. never had surgery like that in my life. Um or whatever. Um wound up having that after that. You know what I'm saying? Took a break from teaching pre-K. I taught there 12 and a half years, guys. I went back five months later. I think um my little K was um Kase was about uh four or five months at the time. And you know, you're allowed to bring them at four months.
Had a great had a great uh there's a great family where I worked, right? So Case was on a amnity monitor. He was uh four months. He had to have that on because um they was nervous about what happened to Katie. Had to go through all that. Had to go right back and teach all those babies in prek for three more years. Then on top of that, I'm seeing twins left and right. Seeing people coming down and you know what? I didn't treat those kids different. I didn't treat those uh teachers different. I'm up there ting up for the teachers left and right. I didn't do none of that stuff, guys. I didn't, you know, because sometimes it has an effect on people where they will do all that stuff. They will do the drugs. They will do all this kind of stuff. But I I never did those things, right? I went in there, I taught, and I and this is why I treat people how they should be treated. You talk about somebody surviving and and being strong and didn't know they was that strong. That's what big girl mean when she put that statement in there.
And now I'm here with you guys today, okay? after going through all of that.
And that's just a that's just a little bit of it. Okay? But I'm saying you never know what people are going through and what they face in life to bring you sports, to bring you to acting, to bring you to podcast, all that kind of stuff.
That's why people have to be careful how they put their mouth on people. And and I'm just saying um you know, I'm just keeping it real. Thank you, big girl, for bringing that um to everybody's attention because I'm still here today, guys. You know how much fight you got to fight. You got to put I mean, you have to tell yourself to push a little mental to the side to fight. That's what I'm saying, guys. If you out there, you feeling overwhelmed the YOU WANT TO HEAR A STORY, GRAB YOUR TISSUE. I WILL GIVE you one. I promise when you come out COME OUT OF THAT, YOU have a different perspective. You go look, you'll go fighting, throwing darts everywhere.
God bless me with an autistic child and and um and is more better than for that.
Oh yeah, cuz Kay Kase has um Kase has um autism. You know what I'm saying? He could have he could have the deep deepest version of it, but he doesn't he understands. He get you know what I'm saying? Um he doesn't fight uh fight me or anything like that. There's different episodes of that and I'm just blessed to just have where Casey might see him every now and then, but don't get it twisted now. Case Case going to talk some stuff. He only ain't right. But I'm blessed because it could have been both of my twins, guys. I listen. This is why I'm so passionate when it comes to people and I'm so passionate when it comes to children because we are the voice of the children. Oh, really, Brooke? Okay. Yeah. I'm telling you, it it's no um it's no joke. And the technology that they have now, they didn't have before. If your baby don't speak, they got tablets. They could uh push the little words. It's so beautiful. And the beautiful thing about having Kase and OT in speech is they teach them sign language. If they can't say their words, in the beginning, Kase was three years old. He was pointing. He was saying little words. He is eight years old today, guys. He is talking and everything else. Oh, she's 30. Okay. Oh, 33. Okay. Yeah. You just It's the blessing of seeing them grow and to see how smart they are. But we constantly fighting because they try to treat them a type of way, too. You know what I'm saying? And we have to be their voices.
We have to be their voices. You're not coming for mine.
Yes, it is. It is. It is a very serious thing. Um, and kudos to the parents and the family that um are there and um you know what I'm saying? Um helping out to the mothers to the kings. I mean, you got some beautiful kings. I'm not beautiful. Sorry, guys. Handsome kings.
Let me let me get that straight right.
Handsome kings out there. There are like Kes was saying last night, there are great fathers out there. There are great fathers out there. Oh, she nonverbal, too. Oh, Broo, do she got the tablet?
cuz they got the um and I know she's 33, but they still they got so much different type of technology um that uh that you can use now for that too as well. Um I put my baby in um ABA.
She was nonverbal until she was 5 years old. Yeah, BD that's sometimes that's how it's work that uh they until that f it's like this guys. I when I I taught prek, right? And I'm g say this, people try to uh put them put them separate.
You you can do that if you want to. But what I noticed is the same type of characteristics that our kids uh face that have autism are the same type that normal kids can face too. It's just about our kids being comfortable. When they get comfortable, they gonna say a whole bunch of stuff you think they didn't know. You know what I'm saying?
is when they get comfortable and um be able to release stuff. Um my nephew has autism and he graduated in June 2026 and he GOING TO COLLEGE. WOOHOO. GO KISS. Go kiss. It's your birthday. It's your birthday. That's what I'm talking about.
Um no, I I have I have looked into Do you have a link?
Oh, okay. Hold on, bro.
Um, let me see.
Um, oh, why am I share screen? Sorry, guys.
Let me uh copy command uh command V. Okay.
Hey, William. Um.
Oh. Uh oh.
>> Mumu. You got to go in there with your uh >> what you got? Yes, you can open it.
>> Oh, no, no, no. That's uh Kylin's That's Kylin's mumu.
Go ahead. You can have that one. I'll get another one.
Hold on, guys. I'll get another one, babe.
Scratch that. IT'S A BEACH BALL. OKAY.
TRYING TO GET a beach ball up.
Oh, no. I meant the link for the tablet.
Oh, okay. Brooke, this is what she uh this is what you got to do. Uh, does she go to uh speech? Does she still go to speech? Because they have they still have speech and OT no matter how old they get. Does she go to speech and OT or check in your state? Checking your state on how to get that uh speech tablet because Kay got it through his speech therapist. But um that doesn't mean she can't get it um either way. And guess what? Um the insurance will cover it because that THOSE TABLETS ARE ABOUT OH NO, BABY. THIS AIN'T going to work.
>> Oh no, that ain't going to work.
>> You don't want to got that air pump.
Okay, you got to turn that down, baby.
>> You got to turn it down, baby. No, this is not Uhuh. This air pump is not gonna work for your beach ball. You gonna have to wait.
>> Yeah.
>> Wait for the airport. Great, great idea though, but it's not going to work. Okay.
Sorry about that.
Yeah, I'll get I'll give it up for you.
Yeah, I'll blow it some kind of way. But yeah, that air pump ain't going to do it. It might bust it, but yeah. Okay. Yeah, Brooke, I'll I'll get with you on it. Um, I'll send you some messages and um and IG about everything that you can get because the tablet is about $1,000. Either you can get the Android or you can get the uh the iPad. Kase got the iPad and um it has everything set up. Everything set up. Uh every every uh word you can put the um you can put the stuff in sentences, the words and sentences and stuff. Plug it up.
>> No, don't plug it up.
No, I'mma blow it for you.
>> I will blow.
>> Okay. So, you gotta wait for me. Okay.
Put that Give that back to Kyla. Okay.
>> No, no, don't give this to Kyla. Mom gonna do this one. Um, but yeah, I got you, Brooke. I got you on that. Keep in mind, autistic kids learn through sensory, not through written. It depends. It it um it depends um BD um what uh what case of uh autism they have. Like with Kase, uh Kase learns through all of it. He's very visual. Um and he does learn through sensory too, but he's very visual. So like when I was teaching um preK, I would do this curriculum called Abeca with Kase. If okay, if it's math, it depends too. It depends on like if it's horizontal, if their stuff is vertical, it's really cute and and and different on the way they learn. So when K has a vertical list of words to learn, I kid you not. I don't know if he already knew them, but he learns it within a day or two just like that. And it might be because he, you know what I'm saying? He already know. And I did not teach him though.
You know what I'm saying? And but if you have them side by side, he like, "Okay, girl, what is that? You got to show me.
So he can be taught with uh sensory and visual and they feel things and that we don't.
Like my daughter can feel colors. It's fascinating. Yeah. They're ve Oh my gosh. Don't And don't compare uh um your your daughter or your sisters or anybody to anybody else because they all do stuff different and in different um in different times. So, um, hey BD, they all do stuff at different times. So, um, you you'll see you'll see like, uh, like Case, like I said, he's very visual. I can get visual aid out. He's good. And some sensory stuff he gets off the bat.
So, not necessarily you think you're not doing enough. You're doing more than enough. You just uh Oh, yeah, baby. I forgot I had that for you. You just got to be patient. That's all. That's all you got to do. Just don't compare.
I'm glad you're talking about this because this is a subject near and dear to my heart because I live with it every day and and it's a struggle especially when you're dealing with a toddler that can't speak to you and you trying to figure out what they want and what they need and they trying to communicate with you but they can't and then they get frustrated and it it's it's rough.
>> It was rough. The first five years of my daughter life, her name Brooklyn, by the way, and first five years of her life was rough for me. I'm not gonna even hold you. Just trying to figure out what she wanted, what she needed, and she couldn't talk to me. And I couldn't really talk to her. And it was rough.
And as a parent, it's really it make you feel away when you can't um what's the word I'm looking for? When you don't know what your kid want.
>> Of course.
>> And you got to guess.
>> Of course. And and this >> that make you feel away.
>> And and look, BD, I came up here. See, that's this this is this is what you guys got to get. We're in this community, but we all have different aspects and different things. I came up here to talk about uh the double strength of black women in sports, right? But sometimes when you go live, sometimes it's not for you. And it's not just about the topic you t you're talking about. You never know what people are going through. I didn't know we was going to get into a discussion about autism, but it's a good discussion. And BD, you should be proud of yourself because nobody nobody if you're not going through it of you or you don't have somebody in your family going through it. You cannot relate. And please guys, stop assuming that parents and family members are not doing what's best for their children when they have autism or they have special needs. You have to fight these people to prove that your child has autism first before you can get any type of help. They don't just give it to you. You a lot. Go ahead.
>> I live in I live in Georgia, right? And trying to get a IEP for my daughter >> for kindergarten, man. They sent me through the ringer for that [ __ ] Like I I I had to go to the doctor maybe four or five times and and get like three, four different opinions to prove to these people that my daughter was autistic.
>> He's correct, guys. He's correct.
>> And on top of that, there are levels to the autism.
>> You have severe, you have moderate, you have slight. You understand what I'm saying? And and depending on on what level your child is depends on what kind of classroom situation they try to put your child in. Like for me personally, I wanted my kid to be around kids because she learned better around kids from learning from adults. You understand what I'm saying? Like I wanted her to be as normal as possible and you know having having you know they try to put the autistic kids all in one class when it's just all autistic kids. I wasn't trying to hear that.
>> Good job, BD. And >> they were trying to fight me with that.
They were trying to fight me.
>> Let me tell you, upstate my my cousin um my cousin in DC, right? They um they tried to wear uh with her niece, one of one of her nieces she adopted. They tried this guys. They would put her, they were trying to put her in class with other special need children, right?
And it put her behind. It set her back.
So she got her out of there. she got her out of there. So guys, don't assume that um parents when they do that that they don't want the best for their kids or they don't want to put them in school or nothing like that. It's not it's not like that. I had a couple of friends that are uh special need teachers. They told me they said even with six kids in a classroom, it is hard to deal with those six kids. They can only probably get to about two of them because they have them all everyone got a different type of need. For me, I do homeschool with Kay one on one, but that is my choice of that. That's what I do. But everybody, you know what I'm saying?
It's okay. If that per parent wants to put that child in a school with other kids, you do. BD is not telling no story. You have to fight for it. And BD, don't you ever beat yourself up, King, about doing what's best for your child.
>> Listen, I'm not Yo, AD, I'm not going to lie to you. I I beat myself up plenty of nights. I cried myself to sleep >> plenty of nights >> fighting with the border fighting with these border education dummies trying to, you know, do my daughter all crazy.
You know, like listen, like I understand she autistic, but that don't mean she can't live a normal life. You understand what I'm saying? Like I I want her to be able, you know, the social stuff is what they really struggle with, right? you know, interpersonal conversations trying to like um learn the difference between when somebody's being real with you and when somebody's joking. You know, autistic kids have a hard time trying to distinguish that.
>> You understand what I'm saying? So, I wanted my kid to be around other kids. I wanted kids to tease her. I wanted kids to get at her so she could know the difference because it would once you get in the real world, a [ __ ] ain't going to give a [ __ ] about your autism when they get grown. Ain't nobody going to care about you being autistic or not in the real world.
And I needed my daughter to understand that. And that's why I wanted her to be around regular kids and to get teased and to go through stuff that regular kids go through to understand that life ain't sweet out here. Don't nobody care about your condition in the real world.
>> No, you you now you don't want her to go through that. Uh uh BD, let me tell you guys, if you have not seen it, guys, check on your social medias. It is going around. a mother of a autism son. She uh sent her son to school. She put a camera in his hair because she felt like something wasn't right with that school.
She put it pinned it in his hair. A a camera. Oh, baby. She on them social medias. Check it out, guys. When you get a chance, check it out. She didn't >> Where do I find that?
>> Um it's on Tik Tok. It's on threads. I don't know her name, but it's it's recent where she put the camera um she put the camera in her I think he's about four years old or five, maybe five or six, I don't know, but she put the camera in his hair and sent him to school because she felt like something was right. You got to check it out, D.
You don't want you >> I didn't want to interrupt your monologue. I just wanted to share my story because, you know, I don't get to I don't know too many people with autistic kids like me. You understand what I'm saying? So, I don't have much of a outlet as an adult to talk about it.
>> You understand what I'm saying? So, when I heard you talking about it, that's why I came up because it gave me an outlet to like get some of the [ __ ] that I need to get off my chest because I don't get to get it off my chest as a parent because, you know, my mother can't relate, my grandma can't relate because me and my brother weren't autistic. So, they don't understand, you know, the plight that I go through on a daily basis.
>> You know what I'm saying? So >> yeah, >> I ain't mean to interrupt your monologue. I'll go back in the chat, but thank you.
>> Okay. Thank you. No, thank you for coming up. And you didn't interrupt nothing. This is what I'm talking about when I say um we come up here and and sometimes we do that. You know what I'm saying? This is what the YouTube family is all about. This is what uh KAP help.
Let me tell you something. And and nobody didn't know it. KAP knew. He know when you when ADP talk, she coming from the heart. She nurturing. She doing all that kind of stuff. Right now, guys, I have been going back. Um, Brooke, you'll probably be proud, too. I've been going back. I know how the placement of the one through five work on the corn.
Hey, I know the history, but even if I know the history, I have to go back and I have to learn all that stuff. I'm just keeping it 100. But this is what I'm talking about. You got to hear Be's testimony from a father to his child.
And that says a lot, guys. We never know what else we're going to get up here and talk about, right? This is for the right of all people. And I have a passionate for God's people and his kids. If you don't know that about me, and if you don't like it, this ain't the place for you. Cuz you're gonna that's what you're going to get. You're going to hear testimonies. You're going to hear sports. You're going to hear it all. and and everything ain't for everybody, but let's keep it real. We go through so much in life and right some people don't have journals or scapegoats to go to to get it out. It is no joke raising children. Period.
Period.
It don't care. I don't care if your your child is all good and make make straight A's and do this and do that. It's still at the end of the day, it's no joke.
Because guess what? You don't stop being a parent when they get 18 and 20 and 25.
You are a parent for life. You are fighting for your children for life.
I um you can't trust no one. People are so cruel. I'm really learning something from y'all. A Belinda, I I hope so. U Belinda, good. Yeah, you can. And it's okay because let me tell you something too. And sometimes the people closer to you be something else. I had to cut some people off, a lot of people off. And I was like, "God, you sure?" He took me through a wilderness season where I was just cutting people. And I I'm not I give you 20,000 chances. So, I know it was real, you know. So, I'm glad you here, Belinda. You know what I'm saying?
Sometimes, you know, you have to be able to speak your truth. Um, what Felicia say? Oh, Brook said, "I'm proud of you going live. I remember when you were shy to get in the camera doing the live. Now look at you right Brook. Brooke I'm telling you boy look and I started to still be nervous uh like sometimes before but El was like I was like well maybe I'll go um do a live next month. L was like no um ADP you you you got to do it now. And I started doing it and the more I do it Brooke the more I get comfortable. The thing about it is is finding your way.
And I already had my way. I just needed something to call it. But I love doing the research of the vets and the history of the players because that runs it back for me too as well. And then it goes deeper. You know what I'm saying? It goes deeper than that. Um, my grandson still can't figure out how to still can't figure out how to put his shoes on the correct feet. Did anyone else have the issue or what trick did you use to uh help him? Um, Felicia um, yeah, but it comes with just keep keep working on that. That's okay. Keep working on it.
um he'll get it. You can also put down colors colors of his shoes. Um put the shoes on top like make the footprints and put the shoes on top of the footprints. They love colors. They love colors. Um um I don't know if you do the uh special treat thing. They don't care if it's Play-Doh um squishy slime or whatever.
You could do the special treat thing, too. Um yeah, I was just saying because look, sometimes I'll be like uh well Kase know how to get me sometimes, but sometime you know I got to put my little foot down. IT BE TAKING 20 TIME TO PUT THAT LITTLE FOOT DOWN. He'd be like, "Mommy, can I get uh he love McDonald fries?" He love McDonald fries, guys. But we cannot go to McDonald's every day. Okay? We go about three or four times a week. That's another uh casing. And so he be like, "I want fries." He now he got it down pack.
I want I want French fries and I want snacks. I want He said I want Reese's.
The white kind. Yeah, he done switched the color, guys. I'm just Yeah, he used to be all on the regular Reese's. Now he on the white Reese cups. He said he want He want some white Reesi cups and he want his McDonald fries and some um and some chips. And so I'm like, we can't get that every day. We not getting that every day, Case. Cuz that's when you didn't come look now. But I get it for him. The days he don't get his French fries and stuff, he'll get his special treats. I rotate it or whatever and stuff like that. When my daughter get frustrated when trying to learn to tie her shoes, I would bribe her with a Kit Kat. Hey, I'm telling you, you got you got to do what you got to do. Uh Felicia, I'm telling you. Uh whatever his favorite thing is, do do that. Use that. Um you know, and colors.
Colors. If you love numbers, put numbers. Shoe number one, shoe number two. Um, like that.
Visual aid is good. Visual aid is one of the best things um that you can have um and that you can use um or whatever.
Yeah. Motivation, whatever motivation and stuff that you have to use, use that, guys. Use it. There's nothing wrong with it. You know what I'm saying?
When I was teaching on Fridays, we have a ch treasure box. You know what I'm saying? You bring your homework packet back. You have it for the whole week.
This is how I got the parents involved.
Uh, and my kids didn't play. My students did not play about their their treasure box. You hear me? On Friday, you go to the treasure bars. Mom, dad, where's their packet? Well, and they'll come tell on the parents. Them kids kids, let me tell you something. These kids four and five years old, they to talk like wrong people. They gonna tell it. They gonna tell on you. Okay. And so what I used to do, I'll be like, "Okay, mom and dad." And then they used to come with me. Look, the parents used to come to me and be like, "Miss um Miss Alicia," they used to say, "Look, I'm sorry. I forgot it at home, but I'll make sure I bring it tomorrow. Look, it's okay. You make SURE YOU BRING THAT BABY WORK." And I would email them stuff so they wouldn't have any type of uh you know what I'm saying? That uh they won't have any type of issues. I emailed them flashc cards and stuff like that too. Um I use screen time as a reward and he learned very fast after that. Yeah, they like that little screen time. They like it. Yes, that's what we did with potty training.
He didn't get fully trained on his own until he was five years old. Um that's for a lot of cases of Felicia, too, believe it or not. So, I'm glad you guys kept pressing it and wasn't worried about it because I think mumu was four, but the the average I've been hearing different parents say is five years old.
Um, and let me tell you something about that too, Felicia. 12 and a half years of teaching preK, some of those kids were four and five years old and were not potty trained, fully poly trained.
And they could talk, they could do do whatever and they were not fully poly trained. So, it's just not on special needs. You just don't hear about it. But it goes both ways.
So that's good. Yeah. If you if you need um different types of um different types of um solutions to uh Felicia uh um message me um because also Kase speech and OT, they're like my family. So, um, they like when Kase had to do the, uh, thing to see if he had autism at 3 years old, they were right, they were writing stuff and sent it to the send it to the the doctor that did his autism evaluation and told her like, "This child, he doesn't have to do ABA. This is what he this is where he this is where his strengths are and this is what he needs to work on." But I ask them any questions, whatever. They give me suggestions. They'll tell me where to get it, where to find it. Guys, I got Look, I got the juice. Kase is eight uh he's eight years old, but he's not he's doing first grade. He's not doing second, but he's doing second here. Um you know, when I do certain stuff. So, it just depends. But don't compare your kids. Um because Kase was a preeie, too.
So, he could still considered um at the one two level. So, but still don't compare that either. Don't get overwhelmed if your child don't know something. They'll get it.
Oh, good, good, BD. Yes. Yes. We use uh screen time for potty training with him.
Yeah. So, any like any questions and stuff like that, uh any type of help, um I can get all the information from Kase uh speech and OT. Um they also have uh they also have books too.
I got Okay, I'mma um I'mma get with you guys and um send you messages and stuff like that. They got books for uh autism kids too for them to start uh learning how to read different different stuff.
The book's about $20, but it's a good book. Um different stuff like that. And then you can do your own stuff too. But this is like the type of stuff that they use in speech. And it's also uh a certain um certain um website uh app that you could use too that they use in speech too if you want to put that on their tablets and stuff like that. So that's what I'm saying. You ask not, you have not. You don't make it known. You never know what kind of help that you can get cuz anything y'all can um um give to me, I'm going to receive it. Um and anything I can help you guys with um I will give it to you. Okay?
And and um just know that. Just know that I'm here. Um for real. If if I tell you I'm here, I'm keeping my word. Yeah.
Legos. Oh, yeah. They love They love building stuff. Legos. They love that Play-Doh. Play-Doh.
And slime. They like slime. Um they have Okay, guys. They got two different type of slimes. The slime that you don't have to worry about getting everywhere. They got that kind, too. um they love the squishies, but sometime the squishies can bust. So you got to be careful with those type too. Um or whatever. Uh for the most part, but you know, ADP know, look, ADP know a little something. I I don't know it all, but I learn. I'm teachable. And when they have my child in them, I be on it. You know what I'm saying? U with learning stuff. And when I feel when I felt comfortable, that's when I didn't have to sit in the sessions with these two beautiful women um that God allowed uh Kase to be a part of. Guys, it's good when you have good uh speech therapists and OT um specialists. It's good when you have those that you can say like family cuz I don't play. I I don't play. I'm telling you.
Yeah. It's a different type. I'mma um I'mma send that to you too, BD. It's a different type when you ain't got to worry about it getting everywhere. And it smell good. They got, you know, different kinds that smell good. Um but yeah, no, Felicia, you're fine. Don't ever apologize. You're not changing the subject of the show. IT'S GREAT. YOU NEVER know who's listening. Let me tell you guys something. When I get off sometimes when I get off the lives, I I only see a certain amount of people in in the uh in the chat. Right? When you get off the line, it be 100, 200 people just listening and not coming in. You will be surprised who needed to hear this today. You know how many fathers um are able to hear what BD said today that could change their life, that could change their way of thinking, that can make them not give up. We have to put that out there. Even though the people in the chat don't tell you what's going on in their life every time, you never know who needs to hear it. It's okay.
You're not Don't ever apologize. You're not changing the direction of my show.
What I'm saying is when I said I came up here to talk about the double standards of black women is that I always tell my daughter this. She's she's in her uh 20s now, but we always talk about this and she'll be like her she has to go talk to one of her friends or whatever. they're going through something or whatever or uh or one of her friends invited her somewhere and she was like, "Do I go or do I not want to go?" You debate that.
And what I tell her sometimes is sometimes she learned it though.
Sometimes it's not for you and it's not for what you think it's going to be about. Yeah, y'all going to lunch, but it's probably not about lunch. It's probably about something bigger than that. You never know what what could happen u when somebody invite you somewhere. you assume it's a lunch, but when you get to the lunch, they might need to give you a testimony or they might need you to just listen. So, you never know. That's the same way with my podcast. We can talk about sports. We can talk about the fight for women. We can call the games and all that kind of stuff, but I am here for you guys as well. You know what I'm saying? The same way that let me say this. The same way that God has poured into me guys, I have to do the same thing. This is what is part of my assignment. I have to be obedient. But guess what? It comes natural to me because I love people.
Um, okay. Uh, okay. Okay. Uh, okay. I got to get some work done. Thank you again, ADP. Yes, BD. Be safe. Great. Uh, have a good day at work. Thank you, June. I really appreciate it. Um, a a great paint set to get get is the crayon u crayon finger paint. It's include a clipboard. You pour the paint inside your paper in it and it closes the drawing. Oh, yeah. Felicia, I need that girl cuz got that uh I still got to get that acrylic out that carpet. Um, but I know what I got to get to get it uh get it out. But yeah, um cuz putting the um towels down, putting the plastic down, it doesn't matter. He still gets it off of that. So, I'mma look into that one to get for him. Um and get an easel, too. Yeah, we had that. And it's funny how we get stuff for our kids and they don't play with it right then and there and then later on you find yourself getting the same thing that you got rid of.
So yeah, I'm g have to get that because he watches me and he loves to paint, but he be into all his stuff. His Minecraft, you know, Kase likes to play with everything.
It's not one thing that he doesn't like to play with. And he love playing in water. That's why I be saying Noah's art. So his uh his godmom is bringing him a sensory table um that she had in her classroom. She's going to take it out of her classroom and uh bring it to uh uh bring it to mumu um for the she going to uh it's too heavy. So his jeep got to get it out the classroom. She thought she could pick it up herself.
She in her 60s and stuff um 65. So she said she ain't got that time to be doing all that and but she was trying for her baby but it didn't work out. So Gpop got a deal.
Moo Moo, what you doing? Oh he in there having a good time. But okay guys, um if you like to uh like I said, if you like to donate to my channel, um you can um uh cash app me um my cash app is at the bottom. But uh June 15th, I will reapply. And then two weeks after that, June 15th, we should be back on track with super chats and membership. I will keep you guys posted on everything cuz that's why I've been using less videos.
But I have not when I've been starting to use the videos again and I stop and go with the videos, they haven't been sending me no um changing or flag or nothing like that. So, um that's a good thing. Um so yeah, guys, I want you guys to have a great day. Happy Wednesday. We got graduation practice at 5:30. Um I don't know, they probably gonna wind up uh switching graduation date because it's 80% chance of rain tomorrow. So, we gonna see um here. So, we're going to see. But yeah, we got graduation practice. 80 people be braiding her hair. Thank you, Jesus. My daughter coming. She going to do the back and I'm doing the front. Okay, we got the Look, we got to communicate and make it great.
So, um guys, have a good uh Wednesday.
Okay, and I will catch you guys on the next one. Peace out.
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