🔥Spot This and Know EXACTLY What’s Happening

Added: 2026-05-23

[00:00:00]If it's identity threat, sudden defensiveness, justifications, correcting how they're being perceived, they're rewriting something that just happened. They need to be right or innocent or smart or the cute one or the victim. If it's control, it's talking over other people, demanding their turn to speak. So, listen up for you're not hearing me, let me finish, you don't get to decide that. They're trying to restore agency. And if we get to the safety piece, this is when somebody's getting sarcastic, they're getting socially weird. There's some subtle distancing going on. They're posturing, passive aggression. They shift to defensiveness or attachment. That's when you hear them must be nice, whatever, you just don't get it.