Realizing nobody cares about me changed my life…

[00:00:00]Realizing nobody cares about me saved my life. So I grew up without a father. My mom remarried, moved to the US. And [music] for a long part of my life, I had the mindset of like I wouldn't say the world owed me something, but I was looking for direction. Not having a father, a true father, cuz my mom remarried. He was my stepfather. [music] He doesn't give a [ __ ] You know how that goes. But looking for true direction in my life was very, very yearned. I was yearning for true direction. running for a father figure to tell me how to, you know, go about living my life. And that's why I think I credit my whole upbringing to sports cuz sports was the only time that I was able to get structure and that helped me become, you know, who I am now. But realizing one of these realizations, the biggest realization was that nobody cared about me and it actually saved me.

[00:00:43]It saved me from falling into victimhood. It saved me from falling into the trap, you know, in New Orleans, Louisiana of doing what everybody else was doing. Okay? And here's why. Number one, no one cares about your life because they're too focused on theirs.

[00:00:56]It's incredibly selfish to think that the world owes you something when everybody has their problems. I've heard this saying that goes, "If the whole world put their problems in a bucket, are you willing to take somebody else's problems that are not yours?" And that always just snaps me back to reality.

[00:01:12]Whenever I'm feeling upset or like angry at life, I'm like 29 years old, business does over a million dollars a year, handsome, jacked, like, man, I take my problems any day. He'll take my problems any day. Like, my life is not bad at all. And if you if you start to accept that, like, damn, everybody has their own [ __ ] Now, my problems might be big problems for other people because I deal with high stakes problems, right? I have a team. I have people who work with me.

[00:01:39]Like I have clients that I like we need to fulfill on results for a lot of people's livelihoods and income based on what my business does. We do social media content for business owners. My company's production has a lot to do with people's livelihood. So that's very high stakes. So everybody has their own issues. Everybody has their own problems. Everybody has their things that they're dealing with. I'm like, nobody cares about your life like that.

[00:02:00]They got their own problems. So it's very foolish for men, men specifically, to think that somebody's coming to save you. Somebody's going to give you a hand when they got to go through their own life. And the thing is, people can only possibly give you a hand when they've already mastered their own life. And most people have not done that. Stop looking for [ __ ] handouts. One of the things that I've never been in my life is a poorminded person. Poorminded people [ __ ] disgust me. Always looking for a cheap way out. Always looking for somebody to do them something, give them something. Victim mindset. It's unbelievably selfish. Like you're the only person that exists in this world. Other people don't have their own problems. So because other people have their own problems, for you to think that other people are going to go out of their way to come and save your life when they have to worry about theirs is crazy to me. Even on a damn airplane, they tell you put on your own oxygen mask before you put on somebody else because you can't save other people if you don't save yourself. You got to save yourself first. And everybody's so busy worrying about saving themselves.

[00:02:55]They don't got enough time in the day to worry about their problems and yours.

[00:02:59]You selfish piece of [ __ ] Nobody gives a [ __ ] about you cuz they got their own [ __ ] going on. You want the government to do something for you. You want a girl to do something for you. You want your mama to do something for you. You want this this. Everybody owes you something.

[00:03:11]Who the [ __ ] told you that? Who in the world made you think that? Anyway, everybody has their own problems. They can't physically, it's physically impossible for people to care about you enough to try to worry about your own.

[00:03:21]It's not going to happen. Yep. Number two, your excuses don't move the world.

[00:03:25]Here's the reality, right? Whatever excuses you come up with, they may be true. They may be valid. But guess what?

[00:03:31]There's somebody in the same position as you who had the same exact problems, who faced those same exact excuses and overcame them. Someone else had a hard upbringing. Someone else may have been treated unfairly. Someone else may have had family problems. Mom and dad divorced. Like, there's somebody who is a living split image of your life that had a better outcome. So, the world doesn't care. No matter where you are in your life right now, there's somebody who's been through the exact same things that you've been through and came out on top. So, you just giving excuse and the world doesn't care. The world only cares about winners. And I tell you guys this about women as well. Like as a man, your life is very, very black and white. Bro, either you a winner or you're not.

[00:04:08]There's no going around it. You can cope all you want to lie to yourself as much as you want to, but you're going to be the only person facing your own conscience in that debt bed. And you realize you didn't do everything it took to live a wonderful life. You put in halfass effort and you got a halfass life. And no matter how many excuses you tell yourself, you got to live with your own conscience in your dying hours that you didn't do enough, that you didn't take care of your family, that you didn't leave generational wealth, that you didn't do all these things to be solidified and create a legacy as a man.

[00:04:39]You didn't do it. You just took the easy way route. Like most human beings, you do the same thing everybody else did.

[00:04:43]Cuz no matter what excuse you come with, somebody else has one. Somebody else can give you exact a better excuse than you.

[00:04:49]And how they overcame it. What are you going [music] to do about it? The world doesn't care. You might get sympathy, fake sympathy from like, you know, your parent. Oh, my sweet baby. You know, that's another thing. That's another reason that's I don't want to get too far in this video. That's another I think I [ __ ] you [ __ ] men up. Women are so comforting. They are unintentionally hindering men success.

[00:05:10]Some of you guys that live with your girlfriends, all this nonsense, all you guys who are like so attached to [music] a woman and not realizing that her nurturing behavior is why you're complacent in life, is why you don't go after your dreams. I wholeheartedly believe, and this is going to be a hot take, I don't think a man should live with a woman until he's financially free. Women are too comforting. Way too comforting. Even Jeff Bezos that married a woman, look what she's doing. She took all the billions and she's donating his money through all these organizations cuz he thought he found the one when he was starting. Bro, listen. You got to go build your life and then a woman builds her life alongside you so you guys can have a great life together. My strategy now with relationships is and I've seen this happen and I'm doing it right now is any girl I'm dealing with has to be building her own life to meet me at the middle. We build something significant together or kick rocks. I am not going to fall for that trap. And actually, I see a lot of guys talking about this.

[00:06:01]There's this one dude that's going to end. I don't know who he is personally, but he's like, "I need me a trust fund batty. I need a guy that's going to put in." That's my mindset now. I'm not going to do all this damn suffering for no damn girl who going to sit on her ass and cooking clean. [ __ ] out of here. I can hire a mate. Go build some [ __ ] And the problem is a lot of you guys go be with these girls who are extremely nurturing and that keeps your cortisol down. You need stress, bro. You need to have that edge so you can go dominate.

[00:06:25]If you let your woman in her nurturing state, she's not doing this on purpose.

[00:06:29]She will nurture the [ __ ] out of you and you will be poor. And then once there's nothing left, she will go find a dude who didn't do that and go be with him.

[00:06:36]It's not ill-mannered. It's not evil.

[00:06:38]It's their nature. Women go to the winners. And she's caring and nurturing.

[00:06:41]So, she'll be like, "Baby, don't worry.

[00:06:43]You don't have to work that hard. You got this." And then you fall for that [ __ ] I don't want to get too much on this topic, but there's this business guy that I kind of watch his stuff. I'm never going to say his name, but he had a video. He posted a video like last week. His fiance of 6 years was cheating on him the whole time. And like he should I don't know why he made this [ __ ] video. Like, don't do this. If a girl do this to you, don't do this.

[00:07:01]Never post about it on the internet, guys. But anyway, he's a big successful guy. You could tell he was shattered, right? His girl was a relationship coach teaching women how to get men and she was like using his lifestyle to promote to women while cheating on him. I'm like, bro, she was over here. This is how you get a high value man. Here's him [ __ ] other dudes, using his ass to build a lifestyle. I said, you know what? It's too much of a reoccurring thing. I need a girl to go do her thing and I'm going to help her. I'm not going to say, you know what, you don't I'm no, I'm going to help her build her own thing. I'm going to be there for her advising everything. If she got to go build some [ __ ] I'm not getting finesse because as we know, I'm getting too much on the right on this video. As we know, women have an internal out. They have an automatic out. Their automatic out is divorce. Their automatic out is the court of law in America. No matter how long she's been with you, buddy, she can say, "I don't want this anymore." The court will give her half your damn money and give her custody of your kids because she can make up whatever the hell she want to make up. I don't want to get into that, but I need a girl to bring her part of the table. I need you to do something dealing with this chick right now. And I'm seeing that the capabilities of this. I coach women and I see there are women who got what it takes. So I don't want to hear no excuses. I don't want to hear no. One of my clients, she's in real estate. All right. She's a real estate educator.

[00:08:14]Teaches people how to get into buy, renovate, repair, like br RR, bro. We helped her cash collect over $30,000 in a week and she's a lawyer and she's successful. So you may tell me there these kind of women that exist. No thank you. I'm not going to be with a bum. And the more I see it, the more I'm like, this is not for me. the other way. I'm going to sit up here and do all this damn work and she just get to ride my coattail cook and clean and that's all I get and then whenever she's tired she can dip out. No thank you. I need me a Leila Hozi. I need me somebody who's going to build the thing with me or else we're not [ __ ] with each other. You can go be yourself. In my opinion, guys, this is my suggestion of what I think if you're going to be extremely ambitious man, this is the safer way to go about relationships because it's going to be very very hard for this woman to up and leave when she's put all this work and suffering in this thing as well. And that's what I think is [ __ ] up relationships with men. This video is taking a different turn, but I'm just letting this out cuz I I'm blew up my mind. I think what's really messing up the relationships with men is that when you don't make a human being go through the same journey in terms of suffering and building, they don't value what you have to give them. So, you put all this work into provide, but [music] you know, they don't have the same stakes in it when they have the same stakes in it, the same effort in it. And look this up if you don't believe me. Look it up.

[00:09:27]Couples who build businesses together, who like put incomes together, last longer. Look that [ __ ] up. Look it up.

[00:09:34]Couples who build things together last longer and it makes perfect [ __ ] sense because each of them are so very invested. It's not a lopsided relationship where you doing all this [ __ ] suffering. Yeah, she loves you, but there's no like there's no sweat equity into this. So match you got to have sweat equity. No way. I see women that we help do it. Somebody I'm dealing with is doing it. That's the only type of women I'm going to ever deal with in the future. You can't have ambition to build something. I don't want to deal with it. No thank you. And this is just they going into excuses. I don't want to hear it. set a firm life and your excuses don't [ __ ] matter either because they're going to be dudes who work harder than you and more successful than you. They're going to be men who are willing to go above and beyond. If you don't make the right decisions, you're going to get screwed. So, I don't want to get into the whole spill of relationships, but you know, I started this channel and talking about relationships, so it's always a good reminder to bring you guys some latest feedback on what I'm seeing. Don't be the guy that goes above and beyond to build a life for a woman and she doesn't have any sweat. She has to be doing something alongside you. No way. Has to be building something. no chance. Cuz if you're not, you're [ __ ] Like nothing invested, nothing. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Number three, your pain isn't special. Whatever you're going through, whatever you're experiencing, the thing that you're suffering from isn't unique. The pain of growth, right?

[00:10:44]That's why it's called growing pains is not unique. So, a lot of you guys, the problem that I see with most men is you try something new, you give up. You try a new hobby, you give up. You try a new idea, you give up. Nothing is going to happen as quickly as you think it is.

[00:10:57]Those are called growing pains. If you're not willing to sacrifice for your goals, your goals become the sacrifice.

[00:11:01]No, no, no, no, no, no. Cares about nothing you're experiencing is that special in terms of growing pains.

[00:11:06]Everybody else experiences it. So don't look at your situation as unique like, oh, I have this unique problem that nobody listen buddy, everybody like nothing you're going through is is something that people have never gone through. If you break it down the first principles, you break it down to what your actual problems are. I guarantee you this something I've started doing in my life. If you break down your problems, all your problems, they either come down to growing pains of you trying to improve your life or stupid decisions you've made. That's it. If you break down your problems right now, and you break them down to friends first principles, barring any like crazy problems that you might face that are like out of your control, most of your problems, if you break them down to first principles thinking like what is true and not true about this, I guarantee you your problems fall into two buckets. Growing pains, your dumbass decisions. And you're like, "Wait a second, he's right." go and break down everything that you that's on your mind has been bothering you right now. Go back to the stem of it. It's either because you're trying to improve your life, that's why you're going through this, or you've been making some stupid ass decisions and that's why you're in this position. Make better decisions in life. I think life is all about decision-m, man. You can't make good decisions for your life. You're going to struggle. Okay. And lastly, nobody caring is your unfair advantage. When you stop living a performative life, here's what a lot of men do. Live a performative life. You're putting on a persona because you think that this is the persona you're supposed to have.

[00:12:17]When you stop performing for other people, when you start performing for yourself, when you start living true to who you are, dialing in on what you care about, dialing on what your goals are, you realize that that's an unfair advantage. The fact that nobody cares is your power. The fact that if I go and choose to live a life based on what other people have told me, you know, what my family and friends want me to do, all this [ __ ] you're living the life that you're going to hate. So, you need to be building your own goddamn thing. And the fact that they don't care is power for you to live your true self because that's where you find fulfillment. Okay? Every single one of you guys who are watching this video, if you are not striving to be financially free, take care of your parents, you're not living a true fulfilled life as a man, and you know it, you know deep down that you're supposed to be doing more if you're not already doing more, but at least to be striving to do more. Okay, so listen, without further ado, if you're a guy that wants to improve your life, I have a business channel where I help people with skills and their brands blow up with social media. I walk you through all the individual steps. I make videos over there every single week.

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