Vanya Withholds To Control - 90 Day Single Life, S5, E13, The Act of Orbiting

Añadido: 2026-05-10

[00:00:05]And we are back.

[00:00:10]90-Day Single Life Season 5, episode 13 The Act of Orbiting.

[00:00:19]Y'all, I thought that Vanya was celibate or abstinence.

[00:00:27]She was abstaining from any type of physical activity.

[00:00:33]Actual activity.

[00:00:36]But now we see that she is back from her trip.

[00:00:40]She has been keeping in contact with Tony.

[00:00:45]Letting him know everywhere she's been and everywhere she's going.

[00:00:51]And so now she is back. She has Tony on a string and now she decides I'm going to give him some.

[00:01:06]>> [snorts] >> I think she uses it as control.

[00:01:12]And it's so absolutely disgusting because this is not what you do.

[00:01:23]We watched Vanya her very first season saying that she was celibate.

[00:01:38]But then we saw her get rejected by the man that she went out there for and give it to another man she just met.

[00:01:51]Now she's back home and dating Tony.

[00:01:56]And she's withholding it.

[00:01:59]And if you going to do it, then just say I want to wait a while.

[00:02:07]To use celebrate Celebrate is something that priests are. Nuns, they're celebrate.

[00:02:14]If she's abstaining, that's a whole different thing.

[00:02:20]But we have been hearing her say, "I am celebrate." No, she's not.

[00:02:27]She wants She wants to use it as a power.

[00:02:35]Okay, let me break this down and like a grown woman.

[00:02:40]Y'all go ahead and hit that thumbs up button.

[00:02:43]And hype if you can.

[00:02:46]Let's just talk about this as grown women and grown men.

[00:02:52]Shall we?

[00:02:54]If I'm in a relationship with someone and I want to wait a while, then I have the ability of communicating that I want to wait a while.

[00:03:05]I don't have to give you an excuse. I don't have to give you a reason nor an explanation. I don't have to define it.

[00:03:14]I am not interested in being physically physical with you.

[00:03:23]And or making love. I just I don't have that to do right now.

[00:03:28]I want to get to know you. I want to make sure that we're compatible compatible.

[00:03:33]And I want to make sure that this is the right thing before I give myself to someone.

[00:03:38]But to make this a he doesn't understand that I'm celebrate. He doesn't Nobody understands it if you're willing to be intimate with someone. No going to understand that.

[00:03:56]And it's unfair to him for him to have an expectation you to say no and then say, "Okay, well, now I'm going to put it on the table."

[00:04:09]Of course, he was happy about it, but let me just say this, withholding without having a mature conversation about it is very immature.

[00:04:21]It's misleading, and in my opinion, it is manipulative and controlling. And frankly, in my opinion, just straight-up dishonest, a liar.

[00:04:37]When all the things are set up for you, now you want to say, "Okay, now I'm going to give you someone as a reward or treat." But how many of you all know that sex is the last thing, right, that holds a relationship together?

[00:04:58]It is about mutual respect.

[00:05:01]It is about getting to know someone. It is about doing the hard work and the easy work all at the same time. It is about being open about your negotiables and your non-negotiables.

[00:05:14]It is about connecting your life to someone else physically, emotionally, financially. Can you do those things? If you can do the intellectually and every way If you can do those things, right?

[00:05:30]Then you need to walk away from a relationship. Now, we know that a lot of them want to be on this on this 90-day fiance franchise. They can skip from this to that. They can do um After Hours. They can do Pillow Talk.

[00:05:45]They can do, you know, all of the different spin-offs they can do until they just tire and retire out of the system.

[00:05:56]For me, Vanya is very boring. She doesn't really have a true storyline.

[00:06:01]What is What is the goal for her and Tony? Is the goal marriage or it was the goal sex? Because now he's gotten that.

[00:06:10]So, in this particular episode, we watch, you know, the two of them reconnect with each other. She said that she had begin to text him and not party as much while she was out there, you know, with her cousin friend. And now, you know, Tony is feeling better about the situation.

[00:06:29]So, she is back now. She is at Tony's house or Tony at her house I don't even remember whose house they were at, okay?

[00:06:39]But she is back in the swing of things and she is very happy. And so, now she's willing to give him what it is that she she wants because she feel like she is broken the horse. You know, like when, you know, when you some people when they first start riding a horse or trying to get their horse to, you know, um um accept a rider, right?

[00:07:11]You have to break some horses.

[00:07:14]You have to break them all the way down.

[00:07:15]It's okay, Twila.

[00:07:22]She going to make her mommy a pill.

[00:07:25]You have to break the horses.

[00:07:29]And I think that this is what Vanya think that she has done with Tony.

[00:07:34]So, in this episode, we see the two of them, you know, going to the bedroom.

[00:07:38]She mentions that that night that they didn't do anything cuz, you know that was just for the camera, but later on they did.

[00:07:46]And so now she is meeting Tony's mother.

[00:07:49]She has made some cupcakes, did not store them correctly, and they're all topsy-turvy.

[00:07:55]Her and Tony are not even um really serious about this relationship, and here's why I say that.

[00:08:04]She does not realize that this man is a religious man and that he wants her to be a religious woman.

[00:08:13]She's sitting with the mother. They have something in common. They both are dancers.

[00:08:18]And you know, she's very nervous about everything. She talks about where she works at and all of that. And you know, they are I believe he's Indian of Indian descent, and so they're you know, really open about it. And then they start the mother talks about religion and whether or not she's, you know, religious or you know, follows anything. And she says no, and the mother said, "Well, do you do you go to church?" And she's like, "No, I don't go to church."

[00:08:48]>> [snorts] >> And the mother's like, "What do you Are you interested?"

[00:08:53]And she tells her no.

[00:08:56]But then next week we're going to be seeing them looking for a a house.

[00:09:09]What?

[00:09:11]Hey, Lindah.

[00:09:12]Hey, Nathan.

[00:09:14]Why they looking for a house?

[00:09:18]They're They're not compatible.

[00:09:21]They never have been and they never will be.

[00:09:26]Ranya, as I said, withheld in order to get control.

[00:09:32]But as we all know, sex ain't never been in We are going to be looking at heartbreak from her point blank and to the period because neither her and or Tony are on the same path.

[00:09:53]She doesn't even want to go to church to even see what it's about. She's not even open to that.

[00:10:04]But yet and still, she wants to meet his parents.

[00:10:11]These I believe a lot of these couples are together to stay relevant and on the show.

[00:10:21]And I think that Rania is one of those people.

[00:10:25]She has just this She's delusional in my opinion in so many ways.

[00:10:35]And it just don't It just ain't cute.

[00:10:38]Anyway, I don't have too much more to say about them.

[00:10:42]Y'all let me know what y'all think in the comment section.

[00:10:46]Is she celibate, abstinence, or using it, withholding it to gain control?