Why Would a Beautiful Woman Date a Broke Man?

Added: 2026-05-27

[00:00:00]If he were broke, I wouldn't choose him.

[00:00:03]>> And not because I'm shallow, because it's my standard. Let's be honest. If I didn't match his taste, his lifestyle, I wouldn't even be considered. So why should I ignore what matters to me? I've built a beautiful life. I've created financial abundance on my own. So yes, a man's financial stability matters to me, not because I need his money, but because I need his mindset. I need his drive, his ability to build, lead, and match what I've created for myself. And yes, I believe in love, but I also believe in alignment. And choosing wisely is part of loving wisely.

[00:00:45]>> I don't know about that. A black woman that looks like how she looks like the equal look. Saying that, she just said that she has income and beauty. So, she went and date a broke man.

[00:00:57]>> She has both. When women who don't have the beauty saying they won't date a broke man, why is a man who has income dating you? That's just not realistic.

[00:01:06]You think you going, if you look at all of the celebrities, if we look at just life in general, you don't see multi-millionaires walking around with a woman that's 300 lb. That's just not that's just not the standard. But I would say we can't do what other races can do because we're trying to overcome oppression. So, if a woman is just saying like, um, I would, a black woman saying, I wouldn't date a man, a broke guy, what what what number is broke? 50,000 is his net worth. If if you make >> net worth or income?

[00:01:41]>> Yeah. Net income? Net income. If you if he brings home $50,000 annually and you bring home $50,000 annually, that's 8,300 a month.

[00:01:52]You two working together, especially if you have good credit already, you two working together can establish something and you can live fairly comfortable.

[00:02:00]>> Mhm.

[00:02:00]>> Uh so why wouldn't that happen if he has morals, principles and provision is more than just income? You provide security, you provide leadership, you provide guidance in uh religious aspects and different things is is provision. Are you are you safe with that man? Um, can that man lead your children and guide you guys somewhere? Um, well, what do you guys align with outside of, you know, finances?

[00:02:28]Black people, we need to get on together on that. And then think of how you can work together with someone who makes $70,000. I saw a clip. It was a dude who said he was a special education teacher and he said he made $75,000 annually. And the woman said like, "Yo, I wouldn't I couldn't be with you." Now, this is a dude who chose a path that is servicing the youth. He's working with special needs kids and he makes $75,000.

[00:02:57]Now, let's say his morals and principles is all together. Why wouldn't you choose him if he is going to serve you? He's not going to cheat. He's not uh by serve you, I mean I mean serve you as the masculine energy that you need in your life. He's not going to cheat on you, not going to put his hands on you. He's going to be, you know, the husband that you need. He's going to raise your kids properly. He's always going to protect and do the things that the man is supposed to do in the household. What's wrong with the $75,000?

[00:03:26]>> That's a good question and I want to ask you that. What What are they missing?

[00:03:32]whatever woman that is in agreeance with that um ideology, what are they missing um in terms of finding the value in a man who is doing all of those things or is um you know of all of those things and making 75,000 a year.

[00:03:48]>> I think they get caught too caught up too much in the materialism of things and keeping up with the Joneses. They know that that man can't take them on the fancy trips. He's not buying them the fancy bags. They're not eating at the five-star restaurants. They're not doing all of those things that, you know, many of these women are valuing today. Um, instead of having a household and having a family and moving the needle, like I said, you'll be surprised if two people make their net income is 60,000, $120,000 um, annually combined, y'all bring a home $10,000 a month. Now, $60,000 separately isn't a lot, but if you combine it, $10,000 a month, you guys can live comfortably. I live in New York and you can live comfortably with $10,000 in New York. How much are you spending a month? If your if your mortgage, let's say you you you have a um a house and your mortgage is 3,000 and you factor in, you know, uh homeowners insurance, um property tax, all that stuff. Let's just say you're spending4500 to $5,000 a month on that. You each got um a car note car insurance. You throw in another,000.

[00:05:05]That's around >> 6,000. How much are y'all spending together on food and care products and stuff? If you throw in another 2,000, that's 8,000. That leaves y'all with $2,000 a month that y'all save if you work together. Why can't that work?

[00:05:25]>> Well, well, I think first I want to touch on this, >> right? The video that we just watched, >> right?

[00:05:31]>> Here's my issue when it comes to our specific community, right? Um, kind of gearing back to towards black women being judged about wanting financial stability.

[00:05:41]>> I think there's a difference and I think we need to understand what we are actually where we're at in our lives, right? There's a lot of self-reflection reflecting that needs to be happening right now in terms of >> and I don't know this woman know nothing about her. Yeah. Know any I don't know any but I do know how she's carrying herself.

[00:05:59]>> Mhm.

[00:06:00]>> Right. Which if she is making X amount of dollars which she claims and if she wants somebody to be an equal or more which she's also stated at least she's carrying herself of some type of value.

[00:06:13]My issue with our community, especially the women in our community, it's not just about the beauty. It's about how are you displaying yourself and also how are you getting this money, right? There are some of our women who are getting the money in a in a positive way.

[00:06:26]There's, you know, maybe they're business owners, which you already know we were running the the entrepreneur, our black women are running the entrepreneurship world. Um, but there are also a lot that are getting the money from just men, right? like asking for men, it's whether it be on Only Fans, whether it just be through the dating world, they're getting their money from just being panhandlers in my opinion. And I don't like that. So like when I hear of black women are being judged for wanting financial stability, it's like no, not all black women are being judged. Just a spec a specific type, right? And and I think that they are to be judged as well as all races with that specific type, you know, whatever it may be. um >> it depends on how they're earning their income and the type of uh man they're looking for with that income. So if you'll take a man who's making, you know, $200, $300,000 annually, but he's making it selling drugs or scamming, then that's the issue. And then just like you said, if a woman is like, "Oh, I need a man who's making at least $150,000 a year because I make $150,000 a year, but she makes her $150,000 a year on OAF."

[00:07:39]That's makes no sense because he can't go on OF and make it that way. So, I think that's the real problem. And I think many women know cuz most women are hypergamous and they want a man who makes as much as them or more. They know that they won't respect a man who makes less. They don't. Which is silly to me because he's still a man.

[00:08:00]>> And so, like, let's look back maybe 15, let's date back 15, 20 years ago.

[00:08:05]>> Mhm.

[00:08:06]>> Um, there were more women that were probably, you know, stay-at-home moms, I would assume, at that time. I don't know the numbers.

[00:08:12]>> In the 50s.

[00:08:13]>> Yeah.

[00:08:14]>> In the 50s. And that's another thing that people don't understand. In the 50s, 65% of households had two people working. In the 50s, 65% had two people working.

[00:08:24]>> Yeah.

[00:08:25]>> Majority.

[00:08:26]>> Yeah.

[00:08:27]>> Here.

[00:08:27]>> In America, men shouldn't be getting money all types of ways either. I don't support That's what we talking about. I don't support the man who's getting money as a drug dealer. So, just like I would judge a dude who wants to be with a woman who's making money on OAF, I would I would judge him.

[00:08:44]>> I'd be like, "You crazy. You want a woman who's on OAF?" I judge a female the same way who wants a drug dealer or a scammer. Like we need morals. Morals and principles should be the foundation of the black community. How we earn money, how we protect our family, how we encourage each other, how we support one another, all of that should be the foundation of our community, not how much money you got. Because a lot of people are making money, but they're selling their soul to get it. And that's what we just see being, you know, exposed every day. A lot of these female artists, they promoting to the youth, oh, just twerk, just do this, just get a bag. And then you got some of these drill rappers like, oh, you could shoot up your community, you could do this.

[00:09:25]But they're making a whole bunch of money. But I would never do that. If you could tell me right now, I'll give you 200 billion. Just make one drill song saying shoot them up, bang bang. I said, keep your money.

[00:09:37]>> That's the point that I've been pushing for the last I think maybe the start of 2025. I've been heavily pushing that let's stop glorifying what's destroying us just because it's profitable, >> right? And and I and I'm tired of it.

[00:09:52]And >> you know, from the man's perspective and the woman's perspective, from both perspectives, >> you know, cuz there's a different >> there's there's a domino effect that happens, especially when you have glorifying, you're validating the behavior, you know, we're validating whether you make money on only fans.

[00:10:08]It's like, oh, I don't care. At least she got money out of it. You know, uh, same thing when it goes to the the situations where a woman is dating a man and, you know, nothing was nothing came of it. But the fact that she was able to get money out of him as like, well, at least you get your at least you got these trips, at least you got these bags, you know, just let's stop validating just terrible behavior and leech behavior. Both of them I I just cannot align with anymore. So when I hear accountability Allan, >> it triggers me because I I don't believe that most men subscribe to rap music, especially in our community. I would say a good portion.

[00:10:48]>> Well, not the shoot them up, kill each other type of stuff now. They don't know.

[00:10:53]>> So like if I if I say, well, I don't know, hypothetically, 30% of black men love rap music that are involved with uh that that speak on, you know, crime, organized crime to some capacity.

[00:11:05]>> Mhm. That's still 70% of black men who don't subscribe to it, >> right?

[00:11:09]>> So, there's no accountability to be had there for me, right? Um, was I one of the ones that did subscribe to it and maybe sometimes do. Yes. Right. But, but where am I at right now? What I what I do on my daily basis is is actually a reflection of who I am more so than what I listen to. Although, you should be careful with that, too. Mhm.

[00:11:27]>> Um, but I think that that's very important when we talk about this is because we get to this point where all we want to do is find the blame, right?

[00:11:37]Or or pick which one is the greater poison, not realizing that they're both poison. So now I want to transition to solutions.

[00:11:44]>> Mhm.

[00:11:45]>> Where do you think the solution starts for our community for black women and also black men?

[00:11:50]>> Well, I always say this. Um, a lot of these podcasts are popular um, with the dating scene and a lot of people think that the dating is is just dating. And I've seen people in the comments like, "Oh, I'm tired of these dating topics and stuff like that." But they don't realize that the dating is the setup for the Black Nuclear Family. We can't get to the black nuclear family without dating.