What's Worse: Emotional Cheating or Physical Cheating?

[00:01:12]Hi Iona. How you doing?

[00:01:15]Good evening to you too. I don't know if associate minister is still here or not.

[00:01:19]Associate minister dropped a couple of reminders for everybody in the chat. So, if y'all are if y'all are um uh have been here, y'all will see those or the people on the replay, if they get in the comments, they will see them. I want to go over to my post that I made today so I could tell y'all what we're about to talk about. If y'all on the replay, please uh go ahead, hit the like button to help the video get out and or the live. Thanks so much for coming in, Iona. Iona, you ready to talk about this conversation?

[00:01:53]Are you ready to talk about this conversation? Okay. Let's see here.

[00:02:00]Okay. So, I'm going to uh go ahead and read you received it. Okay. Okay. Okay.

[00:02:06]So, we're going to be talking about would you rather catch them in bed or in love? Meaning your spouse, your uh mate, your whatever significant other that you have. Which one would you rather do?

[00:02:20]Which one hurts more? that physical affair or that emotional affair. Okay, so we're going to talk about is emotional cheating actually worse than the physical cheating. We're we I want to see who thinks what. This is the men's rule. So, we really welcome their opinion, but we're going to be asking the ladies some questions, too, once the men give us their opinion about it. So, we're going to see where do you draw the line at that and can the relationship even survive either one? Some people may think that it can survive a a physical but not an emotional and then vice versa. But we about to talk about it either way. So we about to see what the men have to say. But the women will not be left out. They will not be left out.

[00:03:00]Hey Chris. Chris said hey. Hello.

[00:03:02]Goodbye in chat. Iota said I said uh um celebrations of your 90s.

[00:03:13]Wait a minute. I said I said celebrations of your 90s. What do you mean? Tell me what you mean by that.

[00:03:21]Iona, thanks for joining the live. Chris said, "Please hit the like button, share, subscribe, and welcome to the men's room." Yes. I hope the men come in. Oh, Ray Darius, associate minister, come back in the room. Corey, if you got time, who else? Y'all call them in now.

[00:03:40]Phillip, Terrence, Mark, where are those men? Where's Steve?

[00:03:46]Where's um Dick Slapping Hoes? Where's um Mick Swagger? All of the people, y'all. Let me see. Um, hey Vibe, how you doing? Vibe, thanks for coming in. Hey, iconic. Look at Vibe. Been here for 11 months. Silver, thank you Vibe. I appreciate you so much. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. you are so appreciated for being green in the screen. Hey kids, how you doing? Kiss. Kiss. Hello. Get my minds in check. Kiss. I caught up um on your well not was it? No, it wasn't ASI.

[00:04:19]You were getting ready this morning. You kind of like getting some document sent through your computer or whatever. You was having a little bit of issue with that getting your coffee together. So that's the one that I caught up on. Iona uh Sera celebrating monitors.

[00:04:36]Celebrating monitors. Oh, you trying to say moderators. Oh, okay. Okay. Okay.

[00:04:41]Celebrating mods. Okay. I get you. I get you now. Okay. Yes. Okay. Iona said I received the Oh, celebration of the mods. Okay. I got you now, Iona. Okay.

[00:04:55]Woo. Woo. Yes. Vibe. Chris said yes. We appreciate her for that. Everybody who's green in the screen, you are so appreciated. Uh let me see here.

[00:05:05]Um who we got? Who we got? Uh Chris said, "Welcome in the men's room, y'all." We got We got There is associate minister. Associate minister is here. So if we don't get no other men in here, he's here, but I hope that they come in.

[00:05:18]I don't know where they at. They I think they coming though. They got the boxing scholar. Yes. Look at the boxing scholar. The boxing scholar be coming here ready to box. He be coming in here ready to box. physical all day. Oh, we about to talk about it. Okay, let me see. Social media said the emotional affair hurts worse because the person made a free will decision to do something. A physical affair hurts too, but not to the extent of an emotional affair. Okay, that's look at we got two different opinions with the man. Y'all know I love when the men have different opinions because that is showing us that it's not a male female thing. You can be of either um um you could be male or female and still have different differing opinions on things and I love that. Let me see. It's got world you can hear me. Okay, good. I bet you but I'm glad to be included. Yes. Yes. Iona. Let me see. Hey scholar Chris said Vive said, "I've been in my feelings today about Will's home going." Oh, I did see something saying it was his funeral.

[00:06:19]Y'all know I be staying away from stuff like stuff like that. I can't really watch stuff like that. I was scrolling and I seen a thumbnail and I saw that word and I kind of like kept scrolling.

[00:06:28]Y'all, I can't internalize I have a hard time internalizing stuff like that. So, I don't um follow stories like that.

[00:06:34]Like I'll hear about it like if Justice is talking about it in her chat. I'll get a chance to hear it that way. But other than that, like or if another content creator decides to pick up on a story, that's going to be about the extent that I'm probably going to hear about it. If it get too deep, I just leave y'all. That kind of stuff be messing with my spirit a lot. Hey, vibe.

[00:06:53]Iona said, "Kiss said right vibe." Yes.

[00:06:56]That just I don't know. I be like, "I just can't do it. I cannot do it." Yes, y'all. So, associate minister is here, y'all. So, we going to We got associate minister. We have uh the boxing scholar.

[00:07:09]So, the boxing scholar and associate minister has already let us uh know uh what they think, right? So, I just was I was just thinking I don't know even why I was thinking about it, but I was just thinking like what let me see what the men when I was trying to think of something we could talk about for the bedroom. Let's be Let me just ask them what they think is the worst. So, that's what we're going to talk about tonight, y'all. This should be fun. This should be fun. Let me see. Hey, Blue Baited.

[00:07:37]Let me see. Chris said, "Be a super sender today." She says, "Super chats, super stickers, and super gifts are a great way to support this channel."

[00:07:44]Thank you, Chris.

[00:07:46]Let me see. Associate minister said, um, associate minister reserve deacon, Mr. Terry Jones. Yes.

[00:07:53]Let me see. Blue said, "Hey, GMA boo in chat. I have to, uh, be in and out running errands." Okay. Okay. To answer the question, the emotional relationship is worse than a physical. What's a person's connected is um is connected deeply. Yes. Okay. So, that's what Blue says. She putting her little opinion up in here. That's what she's thinking.

[00:08:14]That's what she's thinking. So, we're going to I'm going to do the first I don't I'm not going to actually put the poll on the screen, but we're going to ask a couple questions like, you know, flat out. So, okay. What? Okay. So, we we've already dropped down what we thought so far. And well, Chris didn't drop hers. We got We got a couple people here. Iona didn't drop hers. We got a couple of people who are in here didn't actually drop theirs.

[00:08:41]what they think is worse, emotional cheating, physical cheating, or equally do you think they're equally as bad?

[00:08:48]Y'all, if I tell my if if it's my opinion, my opinion, I just think that's equally as bad. I really do. I really do.

[00:08:56]I think it's equally as bad. Let me see.

[00:08:58]Um, I get it, GMA. I've also lost a son.

[00:09:02]Oh, and it breaks me down over again.

[00:09:03]Yeah. Yeah. That kind of stuff. I can't be dealing with that. I hate to hear about it. I pray for their families and then after that, I can't even listen.

[00:09:11]Let me see. Hey, my boo boo kiss said.

[00:09:14]Let me see. Chris said so far. Uh, what's the count? How many said physical? One. Wait. Dang. How many? I didn't write it down. Chris, I know. Um, the boxing scholar said physical and blue said emotional and social minister said emotional.

[00:09:32]So far, let me see. Uh social minister said uh please read the holy bible book of John uh chapter 15 having proper relationship with the great lord Jesus Christ the holy spirit also having proper relationships with your fellow man con uh blue said connected oh hold on hold on blue said connected on emotional level is over with in their is is over with in their present relationship connected on an emotional level it's over with in a uh present relationship he or she will ever equate to that person their partner is connected to. Okay. Iona said I can't handle um any kind of betrayal. Right.

[00:10:14]That's what I'm looking like. I for me it's going to be about the same. You might as well do it. You might as well do it. It's going to be the same thing for me. Let me see. We must remember some relationships have to die in order for the person to live. Associate minister said. Okay. Chris says she's voting emotional. So the emotional at this point is winning. Oh my goodness.

[00:10:30]Iona. My condolences. Vibe said yes.

[00:10:34]My condolences.

[00:10:36]My condolences. Let me see. Oh, why is this thing not going up? Okay. Iiona Chris is sending prayer hands for you.

[00:10:44]Blue said, uh, Chris Blue associate minister kissy poo and boxing. She said, "Hey to everybody." I say equally as bad, but it's probably harder to break an emotional connection. I think it would be too. I think it would be harder, but for me and how I'mma think about it, like you might as well like if you did anything like if you were like uh making phone calls for a month, you might as well have did it. If you think that stopped me from thinking any different for me, it wouldn't. Let me see. When you make an emotional connection with another person, you don't uh want to become emotionally polluted. Unwanted emotions from another person that causes a change in a uh person's physical health, mental health, emotional health, psychological health, spiritual health, relationship health, and financial health. Okay. I added my last uh I added to my last me. Oh, wait.

[00:11:37]You added to the last message connected to I want to see it after blue. I got it.

[00:11:48]Wait, hold on.

[00:11:56]Oh, wait, wait, wait, wait. Once a person is deeply I'm sorry. Once a person is connected is deeply connected on an emotional level, it's over within. Okay. In their personal relationship, he or she will never equate to that person their partner is connected to. Okay, that went together.

[00:12:14]I'm sorry, Blue. Okay, I got you. I got you. Got you. Let me scroll back down.

[00:12:20]Um, I know a lot of men that think emotional is worse, too. Yes, GMA, your heart is so big and beautiful. I just love you. Thank you, Vibe. I appreciate you for that. Thank you. Thank you. Blue said they both hurt. But once you get in a person's head and emotionally connected, it's a wrap. Trust me, I I believe so, too. I do think you can disconnect from a physical fast faster.

[00:12:43]I do think like if you're willing to work it out and if that's the thing, you probably could overcome that faster for a lot of people. I could I if you're willing to work it out, I just probably personally would be willing to work it out. But if you are willing to work it out, that probably is easier to get over, I would think. I don't know though. I was saying it's there's a continuation of the first. Didn't I get it though? Blue. Hey S, don't forget to hit the like button y'all. Y'all appreciate it. Chris said Iconic said there's no going back and or fixing things once you have passed the physical life. Okay, so Iconic is saying it's the physical for her. She said it's the physical for her.

[00:13:23]Okay, so let's Okay, let's define physical cheating. Okay. Well, let's define what physical cheating is. Y'all tell me what y'all feel physical cheating is. Drop in the chat before I tell y'all what I have. Y'all tell me what y'all have about physical cheating.

[00:13:39]Let me see. Uh Chris said, "Yes, especially men can disconnect physically faster than emotionally." I've heard.

[00:13:46]Yeah, I've heard that too. I've heard that a lot, Chris. Hey, SK said, "Hey, I kind of can vibe." Oh, Chris Bigfax.

[00:13:54]Yes, I understand hunching. Hunching.

[00:13:57]That's what she thinking cuz this is what I have for physical cheating. This is what this would be my examples. So like I it would be like I only said the hunching, kissing, any kind of like you know like making out situation or any kind of sexual touching period. Any kind of touching period for me. It's it's going to be the same thing. That's what I feel. I'm I'm trying to see what y'all feel. Some people might be thinking, "No, well, that ain't really physical." Y'all might be thinking something different. Y'all may think of something different, but that's what I think is the physical.

[00:14:37]Let me see. Uh, an intimate touch or kiss going all the way. Yes. Yes. Kiss.

[00:14:42]That's what I think. So, hey, kiss boo.

[00:14:44]Associate minister said, uh, some people don't wait. Some people don't you have to have or maybe some people don't have to have emotional a funeral. An emotional funeral is the process of letting go of a situation physically, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically. Okay. Exactly. I I believe that too, associate minister.

[00:15:03]Anything involving your mouth. Okay.

[00:15:05]Chris said you can do anything with your hands. Just don't let that mouth get involved. She said Chris, you know people don't be doing nothing with their mouth sometimes. And then what?

[00:15:15]Let me see. Mouth and hands. Okay. Okay.

[00:15:17]Blue said mouth or hands. Okay. Let me see. Lingering hands. Okay. Like if that said lingering too much. Okay. And privates. Blue said and privates. Same thing with P. Okay. Okay. So, let's go.

[00:15:28]Let me see. Chris said uh blew all our off hand limits. All of that. All of that. Hunting is all physical. Yes, that is all physical right there. Chris said no. Hey, Rachel. Rach. Hey, Ra. Yes.

[00:15:42]Okay. So, let's talk about what emotional cheating is. Let me see.

[00:15:45]social medicine said uh spiritually, relationally, and financially. I learned about emotional funerals from the YouTuber Life of Tashana and uh One Busy Mama on the podcast uh converse with the Mama's episode. Okay, you didn't say that. No hands. Oh, okay.

[00:16:05]You said no hands, no fingers, no palms, no toes, [laughter] no nothing, right?

[00:16:11]Living learned to deal with disappointment. It was one of the best lessons I ever learned in my life. Okay, so I should administer kids said don't even uh get too close, right? If you ask me. Exactly, kids. Definitely don't touch it. Right. Exactly. Like we talk about eye contact basically. Let me see.

[00:16:28]Both hands or body. I kind of said okay.

[00:16:31]Toes and elbows. [laughter] Okay. Okay. So like the emotional cheat.

[00:16:35]Let's talk about that. So the emotional cheating would be basically developing an intimate emotional bond with someone outside your relationship.

[00:16:45]Okay, that's developing an emo a intimate emotional like intimate emotional bond with someone outside your relationship. And examples I have for that is sharing secrets that you don't tell your partner. Like this ain't stuff you would discuss with your partner but you'll discuss with that person.

[00:17:05]constant texting the person like constant texting somebody else. Come on now. Looking forward to talking to them more than your spouse. Like, yeah, you do, you know, you come home, you do all the things you're supposed to do, but you can't wait until you talk to that person or text that person again. Mhm.

[00:17:23]Right.

[00:17:24]Turning to them for comfort. like you got demoted from your job and the first place you go was over there to talk to him about it instead of your partner, right? Flirting, any kind of flirting. All of those are examples of emotional cheating, y'all.

[00:17:44]All of those. Let me see what y'all saying. Let me see.

[00:17:48]Oh, we got also we got becoming emotionally dependent on that person and hiding the friendship.

[00:17:55]frightened but hiding the friendship.

[00:17:56]Now, why would you need to hide anything if it's nothing going on? If it's no feelings, if it's no intimate uh feelings at all or no emotional um um no not emotional connection you're making, why would you have to hide it? That means that your heart is leaving before your body did. That's what I think. All of these things are happening. Let me see. I didn't deal with this. Okay, I got that. Uh [laughter] y'all left. Let me see. Chris said, "Hell no." None of that. I'm getting mad. [laughter] Blue fast facts. Chris said no to no right. Exactly. Chris, come back to the room. Exactly. Where the man at? Why the man ain't saying nothing? This is your room. Y'all know this is your room.

[00:18:38]Don't y'all lose control of your room about this topic now.

[00:18:42]Don't y'all lose your room based on this topic.

[00:18:47]Let me see. Okay. So, let me ask y'all something. Let me see. intimacy is uh real real and gets deep even if it's not physical yet. Yes.

[00:18:56]Absolutely.

[00:18:58]Absolutely. That's why I think it's just about the same thing. All right then.

[00:19:00]All right then. Chill. [laughter] Oh my god. Okay. So, y'all tell me in the chat, can someone emotionally cheat without realizing that they're doing it?

[00:19:13]Do y'all think like literally this could be happening like in a when it's when it's like okay physical you know it's happening. Period. But with the examples that I gave y'all for the emotional cheating, do you think that you can be doing things like that? Can you just find yourself texting that person or asking advice from that person before your Can you just be doing that and not even realizing that you you've been doing that? What if they're strictly friends before they met their spouse or partner?

[00:19:45]That's a good question. Okay, so y'all help Kiss with that. She said, "What if they were strictly friends before they met?" I think that's different because I have a male best friend. I always tell y'all about Michael. I love Michael.

[00:20:00]Michael has been we grew up together on the same block and um I I always tell y'all I don't talk to him as much because I don't know where you know women think differently and once he got married I just didn't call them like that or like he didn't call me as much no more either because we we both knew that when we get married we don't know where the husbands or the uh wives what they be thinking about it so we always just kind of like respected the spouse about it but if I called Michael if I did choose to keep you know call Michael and say oh guess what or something like that. It would definitely not be on a um intimate level. So, kids, are you saying that they're if they're strictly friends, that should be something different? Because we ain't talking about strictly friends. We talking about emotional cheating.

[00:20:47]Emotional cheating. Let me see. Hold on.

[00:20:51]Go back up to kiss. Hey, Kaitlyn.

[00:20:55]One all. Okay. So, Blue said one always knows. It's not going to be a thing where you doing it and you don't know you're doing it. She said that you know what you're doing. She said you know what you're doing. Okay. Hey Kayla Buis said everybody speaking to Kaitlyn they could think it's just a friend. I think that as it could be a Hey Tanya. I think it could be a point where people could maybe they got to catch it but for it to develop it's probably going to develop over time and before you know it. So I think that's why you got to be careful with stuff like that if you have a significant other because I do think initially it could be if you are in a situation where um in your um relationship it's not you know you're not real strict with each other with saying that it's okay for you to have other friends and stuff like that. When you leave that door open I think it's more probable for things like that to happen. I have several male friends and we have never gone there. Yeah. So, it's possible to have those relationships and I'm cool with their spouses. But we ain't talking about blue. We not talking about friends outside of relationship.

[00:22:01]We talking about intimate intimate emotional bonds.

[00:22:07]Intimate, not just like regular stuff. Let me see.

[00:22:11]Um, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Dang, this thing keep jumping.

[00:22:19]Okay, let me see. Chris said, "Uh, they can turn into emotional cheating though." Yeah. Got to be careful, right?

[00:22:26]It can sneak up on you. I think so. I believe so. Hey, bro. I haven't seen you in so long. How you doing? Thank you.

[00:22:34]Oh, I haven't seen you in a long time.

[00:22:35]Hey, Lucinda. Thank you for that floating heart, Lucinda. Thank you, Ben.

[00:22:39]Y'all in the bed and it's her rap. Chris said, "Now look, now look. Let me see.

[00:22:43]One of my male uh best friends wives caused me uh to calm him down and talk to his emotions." Nice. Yes. Yes. I'm thinking that my um best friend Michael I think that his wife just don't play that because I have never really had a conversation with her. Like whenever I want to check in on them, I do go to her Facebook page and let her know that I'm um checking on both of them through her and I don't even like try to call. He do call me periodically. He might call me like once or twice a year. We uh we'll talk for a while and then we'll just be done for some months or whatever. But I just let I just feel comfortable letting him call. Maybe I should just go and call him. I don't know. I don't know how to do that thing, y'all. I never really tried. I just be want people to not have no problems. Let me see. I just wanted to see if people would see the difference. Okay, Kiss.

[00:23:27]Kiss says she wanted to see if y'all saw the difference. Dang, this thing.

[00:23:31]Lucinda, thanks so much for another floating heart. Thank you for those gifts. Associate Bison said, "Blue 100% facts." I agree. Thank you so much for your support, Lucinda. Chris said, "Let me see. Iconic said, "I um I think your gut would tell you something. It's not right." Iconic, but do you think it's immediate or would it tell you that over time? Let me see. Hello, beautiful ladies and gentlemen. Happy Monday.

[00:23:56]Linda said, let me see. Bro said, I think it depends on the age of people.

[00:24:01]Okay, she says she thinking it depends on the age. If people are young, they might not know. If they're older, the older Look at those snappy fingers. Who sent that? Dang. I got to get down there to see who sent it. Y'all make sure y'all click on that purple box and give it a like for me. I'mma love it. Okay.

[00:24:18]Thank you for that snapping finger girl.

[00:24:20]Who sent that? Look at Corey coming in here with those snapping fingers. That's Corey who said that. Thank you, Corey.

[00:24:25]Corey, give your opinion in the chat.

[00:24:27]Was calling you earlier. Let me see. Um, and said, "I think it depends on the age." Okay. She said, "If people are young, they might not know. The older you get, the more likely that you know."

[00:24:37]The more she said, "More likely." She think you know what you doing. You know when you texting somebody, you ain't got no business. If you sneaking, texting somebody, you know what you're doing.

[00:24:45]That's what she said. That's what she's saying. I'm probably going to be on that, too. You know exactly what you doing. Let me see. Um, Blue said, um, what was Kiss's question again? I forgot. GMA. She was saying, "What if you were friends with the person before your relationship? Like, what if you were already friends?"

[00:25:03]I hate this thing. I hate when it jump like this. Okay. Uh, look, I kind of say I know my mind would. She said her mind would know it. Her mind would know it. I think my mind would know it too. For real, Blue, she said. Let me see. I'm hanging in here. Okay, good. Umbrella, good to see you. Thank you for the flow state, Tanya.

[00:25:21]Thank you. Let me see. Blue said, uh, Chris, absolutely. We've been best friends, sister and brother for 20 years, long before her. Oh, Blue said.

[00:25:30]So, that's just a thing. Thanks again, Corey, for that. Um, what do they call that? The finger. What do they call it?

[00:25:36]The finger.

[00:25:38]Dang. Finger. Dang, I forgot the fingers. Happy fingers or something they call it. Thank you, Corey. Let me see.

[00:25:45]Corey, bruh, and beautifully healed.

[00:25:47]Blue said Chris said, "Hey, Corey."

[00:25:50]Y'all, this thing jumping so bad. Let me see. Uh, thanks for supporting, Corey.

[00:25:54]Said, "Hey, Blue."

[00:25:57]Tanya said, Corey said, "Hey to Chris."

[00:26:00]Said, "Hey, Lucinda and Tanya, I caught your replay." Uh, bae. Oh, talking to Beautifully Hill. Thanks for catching her replay. I kind of said, "As soon as you cross the line." She said, "As soon as you cross that line, you know exactly what you're doing." I need the men to chime in. Let me see. Me and my husband just had this conversation. Uh, I have him listen. You You at home listening with Oh, you hear him listening? I mean, he's listening in on the conversation.

[00:26:26]You mean Hey, Satan. Corey said, Chris said, "Dang." Okay. Chris said, "Hit the button, the like button, y'all. Thank you so much for your support to get my channel." Yes. Thank y'all for coming in. T said because I told him married people and uh that married people got no business being friends with with single people.

[00:26:47]Okay. Is that of the same sex and opposite sex? Ta. Wait a minute. Ta. You said are you saying of the opposite sex and clear that up? Hey classy lady.

[00:26:59]Classy lady said hey everybody.

[00:27:01]Everybody. She said thanks for coming in classy lady. Oh shoot. Okay. Okay.

[00:27:07]Associate minister said, "Chris, uh, you have a great point of view." Abro Abrosia said, "I've always had close guy friends, and anyone that I've got into a relationship with knows. I appreciate my male friends for their perspective." I do, too. I just think men always have I don't know. I ain't going to say they have better perspectives, but I I love hearing their perspectives, and that's just always been a part of me. So, I don't know. I've never had a husband where they had an issue with um me having my not no new male friends. I never developed no new male friends while I was married. But like for my best friend Michael, like they never had a problem. Like they would just he would come over and then we just all are hanging out and that's it. Let me see.

[00:27:46]But at the end of the day, happy wife, happy life. Don't uh it's too late. It's too late. You should have put that in the beginning. Let me see. Hey Blue Corey said, Bernie says, "So of course I'd ask for advice at some point." Okay. Thanks so much. Much social minister. You do too. She said you got a good point of view too. Let me see. Yeah, finger heart. Finger heart.

[00:28:08]That's what it's called. Finger heart.

[00:28:09]Thank you. I iconic. Let me see. Um, yes. What, Tanya? Tell. Oh, she said opposite sex. Okay. Opposite sex. Okay, I got that. I got that. I could get with that because I do, it is crazy. I do contradict myself. I feel like Michael been in my life all my life. And I guess I never had no husband where um they had longtime female friends. their female friends was probably something that they had like within within the you know some you know some years not no childhood stuff like mine. So I Michael right Michael has just been Michael that's like a brother to me. I think we probably moved on the same block when we were like five or something like that.

[00:28:48]So like literally he been in my life all my life. But I had never been able to have a husband have a female friend.

[00:28:54]Like that's where it stops. It's just like I don't know. And I think maybe because I never had a husband who had a longterm friend. Y'all like, "Yo, that ain't long enough." I don't know the history behind it. I don't know what y'all did that y'all trying to uh hide from me. So, it's a no. Let me see. Blue said, "Exactly. Walk into the relationship being honest and not hiding your male friends. I've always done the same." Yes. Don't hide them. Kayla said, "Hey, Corey." Let me see. Uh Ambro just said we hold on when it's uh the line crossed from venting to asking advice from a friend of the opposite sex to emotional cheating.

[00:29:31]Okay, Abrosia said yes. Let me see.

[00:29:33]Great question, Ambrosia.

[00:29:36]Great question. Okay, she said hold on.

[00:29:39]When is the line crossed? From venting or just asking advice?

[00:29:45]She said when you when you with the opposite sex, y'all. She said when how do you cross that line? Is the topic that you're discussing something that might cross the line? How often you're venting or asking advice? Y'all help Ambrosia out cuz I think it could be a lot of factors. I could I think it could be a lot of factors in that guys I may not know. Okay. Right. That's true.

[00:30:10]Everyone and I guess you I think you need to know the boundaries of your spouse too. I think a lot of this uh determines the boundaries you set in your relationship. I think cuz just because I think like that don't mean the next person going to think like that and vice versa in y'all relationships. Let me see. Blue said everyone needs uh an outlet from uh not only wait from not only same sex but also the opposite sex.

[00:30:33]My husband knows that I go out for coffee with my colleagues and that's it.

[00:30:37]It's work business. It's work or business. She said okay. Ta said, "Because sir, we can hang out with uh your single friends together." Yes, but you ain't hanging out uh with her alone because what y'all talking about?

[00:30:52]Exactly. Like that's not Tanya. And I believe that and I'm not even being hypocritical when I say that. I say that's the reason why I can't really be h I have not like Michael wanted us to get together before he moved to uh Houston because we've been here all our life in Wisconsin. He just moved to Houston last year. He was like, "We got to get together before we leave." And I didn't mean to do it. I forgot what happened that I missed the date. But I was hoping I'm almost sure his wife would have been there, but if she would not have been, I still would have been uncomfortable with her not being there.

[00:31:21]Even though this is like my brother because I don't know her stance. We never talked about that. And so I don't want to be with nobody's husband uh without the wife. Like if that's really a friend, why's your wife at? Because I ain't got time for that. I don't even want to be with you like that. Associate minister said uh we must hold on.

[00:31:39]Uh we must remember relationship dynamics with longtime friends change when a person gets married. Uh let me see. The time frame must respect the other person's time and energy they uh they're put into their marriage. Okay.

[00:31:53]The frame must uh remember not to look like a person that wants to disrupt the marriage. Exactly. Like I don't be want no disruptions. So therefore I care more about his relationship than what I might need him for. That he don't have no disruptions. Let me see. Chris said, "I mean, uh, he can have friends, but you're not about to be on the phone for hours and hours and hours, right?" So, Chris said, "Maybe if you just had somebody that you were already friends with and then you just checking in." I I think it's going to be the dynamic dynamic because people become friends after they had a relationship, right?

[00:32:25]And if that's the case, I don't know if I I know me personally, I wouldn't be able to accept that as a friend because it is true that you can have a relationship with somebody and become friends. I do think that could happen, but I'm not going to be able to respect that as like a true friend. If it was ever um a intimate relationship going on, I won't be able to do it. Some people don't have no problem with they understand it, they trust the person, that's good for them, but I just wouldn't be able to do it. Let me see.

[00:32:51]Um Beth Hill said, "And don't be complaining about being too." Exactly.

[00:32:56]Because that makes you vulnerable when you do that. Exactly. when you start saying anything, that's how men who are thinking other things, that's how they move in. That's how women who are thinking other things move in. You don't, your spouse or your um significant other does not have to be the one who's going to be the person to try to snake this thing. It could be the other person. And like Tanya said, if you're vulnerable, anything could really happen. You want to depend on your strength, but like anybody could do anything, you know? Like you want to trust yourself and they want to trust you but like those how that's what them mistakes be that's how the mistakes be happening. Why put yourself in that that position? Let me see. Start your business. Okay. I got that. Okay.

[00:33:38]Period. Tanya right. Chris said let me see. Dang. It jumped again. Okay. Ta said uh not blue. My husband ain't got no business venting to his female friends about me. I don't think she talking about about Blue. You talking about other stuff. You're talking about her though, right? Let me see. I was trying to uh figure out who that was too. Blue.

[00:33:59]Who? What? Let me see. I think I missed something. Let me see. Salt and pepper.

[00:34:06]And bro just said, "I think uh couples need to commun." Yes. I think they need to communicate from the beginning. I think that means a lot because if you just start popping up with friends from uh wherever, you going to be like side eyeing that. Was that a friend from last night? Was that a friend from last week?

[00:34:22]Was that a friend from birth? Like what is the thing? And that's why I'm saying like um with Michael, he always been there. They people that if I'm in a before I'm in a relationship with somebody, they gonna know about Michael.

[00:34:34]They already going to know about him and they're going to know. And so we already going to have that conversation. I just never been with nobody who had a problem with them. But I know sometimes men do have problem um with male friends. And so like Ambro just said, you need to communicate that from the beginning.

[00:34:51]Okay, let me see. I think um couples need to communicate from the beginning what constitutes as cheating to them.

[00:34:57]Yes. For some venting is not Yes. And uh there are some things that if shared with a friend can make your partner feel betrayed. Exactly. And if you just say you have those conversations then you ain't got to worry about that. You ain't even got to worry about it because if he said, "Oh no, I know you got a friend. I have no problem with that." And then you say, "Okay, cool." Then okay, you've communicated that. And if they say, "Well, you know what? that might have been your friend. I'm kind of uneasy with that. I don't want you really having no conversations, you know, with them if I'm not around. And if they feel if they feel that way and if they communicate that with you and if you have an issue with that, you have a you had a um chance to say that right then and there and y'all can work that out before it even gets started. Let me see.

[00:35:38]Uh Kiss said, "Right, GMA." Exactly. Let me see. Chris says, "Show the appearance of evil." Exactly. Oh, shoot.

[00:35:48]Okay. Let me see. I kind of said, "I have one friend from my childhood. She's uh the best friend ever. I stopped being friends with all my guy friends when they got girlfriends." Um, so you didn't step on any toes. Exactly.

[00:36:06]I'm We What?

[00:36:08]Oh, we ain't blind. We ain't blind. Yes.

[00:36:11]Exactly. We are not blind. Let me see. I kind of said I don't want to make uh the girls uncomfortable. That's my thing.

[00:36:18]That's my thing.

[00:36:20]Hey, Bernie said, "Oh, hell no." Let me see. I kind of got see your perspective, but I uh never do my homies like that.

[00:36:27]She said she would never do a homie cuz that's another Hey, honey. How you doing? That's another thing like because I've never been in a situation where nobody um gave me an automatum about Michael. I don't know what the relationship would have been like because I'm so like because he's so much like my brother. If somebody would have said that, I don't know how far the relationship would have went because it ain't even that serious. And if you if you tripping about him, you trip about anybody cuz he definitely is nobody to trip over then we going to probably have a problem about some other things if he issue. So it probably would have went no further cuz it's such a small thing that was I would be looking at it as, oh, okay, no, this going to be a bigger problem later. Let me see. I let me say but never do homies like that. Okay. S uh no, he better not be. [laughter] I can't laugh. Let me see. We weren't uh we weren't that close. Blue. Okay. Wait.

[00:37:18]Dang. Okay. Um let me see. Social medicine said a person uh is not a buffet. A person is a full course bill.

[00:37:27]If you can't pick the pick and choose what parts of the person you accept and what parts of the person you reject, it is all is it I mean it is all or nothing. Okay. Uh it's a all or nothing decision. He said, "Okay, let me see.

[00:37:42]That's um let me see. That's their insecurities to tell you that you can't have a male friend. Yeah, I'm thinking a little bit. I got one dude um best friend. I tell my hubby he was there before you and if there and if there is a after he'll still be gone, right? Look at my like Michael been like even though I don't talk to him a lot because in his marriage regardless of that I've been through three marriages. If on marriage number one somebody would have told me uh-uh he going to be the pro. No, he wouldn't. He wasn't the problem. We end up getting a divorce and Michael had nothing to do with that. So therefore that it's obvious that the friends ain't got nothing to do with that. So I don't know. Like I said, I contra I'm I'm very contradicted when it comes to that because you are not going to have one because I don't have a clear picture of that. But I have my mother, my father, my a lot of people around here vouching.

[00:38:29]This is basically this girl's brother.

[00:38:31]So I don't know. I don't know. It just probably be an issue and that's just what it's going to be. Let me see. Um okay, let me see. Blue said, "Uh, beauty here. I understand your stance." Yes.

[00:38:46]Let's see. Everybody speaking. I love that, honey. And bro just said, "Hey, beautiful." Chris and Caitlyn iconic. Same. Chris said, "Same." Gabby.

[00:38:55]Bro said, "Yes." Everybody speaking, honey said, "But my hubby ain't got female friends. He got homies." Yeah.

[00:39:01]Yeah. That's why I never had to if like if they if they had the female friends, they must have knew where I stood on and they never told me about it. I ain't never known about the female friends.

[00:39:08]So, I don't know. Chris said, "All right, my man's uh friends are other men or family." Yes. Like, "Where your cousins at? Where your aunties and where's your get them people and talk to them?" I go to say, "Hey, get a female friend. We good." Exactly. Uh-uh. And my uh my boyfriend got a girlfriend uh and she's cool with us being uh best friends. Okay, good. That's good, honey.

[00:39:31]And my hubby knows I'm crazy. Okay. Yes, honey. Don't be playing. Let me say brother said uh to be fair I've never had a man who had a close female friend.

[00:39:40]Yeah, I never had that before. I think my second husband had a friend that he was um was supposed to be a friend and she did seem to be a friend but that was just u still going to be only so much I was going to let with that. So I didn't see her a whole lot. So if they did any hanging out which I doubt because he we ain't we were already we were always together. I don't know. But I never really been in a situation like that.

[00:40:03]So, I really don't know how it go. You meant uh Oh, okay. A best friend. Honey said, "Me either." Yeah, I ain't never been up under that. Like, if anybody's been in that situation, y'all put it in the chat. Has anybody been in that situation? We all saying, "Uh-uh. It's a no." But Blue said she has her colleagues or whatever. But is there anybody in the chat who um is with someone and they have a best friend of the opposite sex? Are y'all in here?

[00:40:32]Let me see. Okay. So, okay. So, this is another thing we got. So, when we talking about emotional cheating like right without realizing that they're doing it, remember we talked about them realizing that they're not doing it. If that could happen, that's meaning if you talking every day, you making sure that you telling that person good morning or good night, right? If you sharing your relationship problems with them, if you sit up there at any point feeling like you got to delete any messages, not that not that you got to show no messages to nobody, but the fact that you feeling like you got it's a message you got to delete. H and then looking forward to hearing from uh from that person again.

[00:41:14]Where where does that friendship start?

[00:41:16]Where does it stop then if this is the things that start going on? It's like I think that's where the emotional cheating will actually begin. That's where it begins to me. Let me see.

[00:41:27]Uh Kevin said, "You get down here.

[00:41:29][laughter] Let me see." Bernie said, "Any girlfriend of my um guy friend who had an issue with our relationship eventually got over it because he told her what the deal was." Yes. Yes. I think Michael's uh Michael may have did that too because we never sat around and talked about it cuz I don't know. We just went in the same space like that.

[00:41:48]But um like I said, I go through f when I want to check on him, I go through Facebook and check on both of them through her page. That's just what I do.

[00:41:55]I just feel like I'm being respectful doing that. Okay. Then if he call then that may trigger him to call me like in a couple days or even the same day or something and then we could talk. But other than that, I'm contacting her about her husband. I don't care. I kind of said I'd be fine with my guy having a female uh friend as long as they are just friends. Though I'd be more comfortable if I'm with them anytime they're hanging out. Okay. iconic. Yes, with my first husband hubby, he had uh many female friends and yes, I cussed their ass. I knew what was up. I uh it was no uh best friend crap. So, did you ever find out anything about it, honey?

[00:42:32]Or that's just what you said? Did anything ever happen? And Burn said, "I will always try to be gentle with their feelings. I'm always respectful." Okay.

[00:42:41]Yes, absolutely.

[00:42:44]Let me see. Blue said, "Yes, I have."

[00:42:46]And it's possible. It's only fair for each to have um each to have maintained those friendships. I just have a different stance when I uh start my channel. I'll cover it more. Okay. Blue, come over and cover it more. We want to hear about that. Girl, Abroa um Far from Gent. Your honey don't be playing. She'll be playing.

[00:43:08]Chris said um clear my throat.

[00:43:11][laughter] Waiting for Wait, waiting for your live, Blue Boo. Yes, blue teasing us. She ain't contact me yet so I can see what I can do to help her get going. Let me see. Honey said yes, they had uh did the deed. I wasn't.

[00:43:25]Oh, no. See, that's kind of stuff I'm talking about. I set it up for like I if people do it, they allow it. That's them and that works for them cuz different stuff do work for people. It just don't work for me. It just don't work for me.

[00:43:38]But there's many people that it does work for and it's that's a good thing for them. So, let me ask if the men are still in here. I think we scared the men away. I think a social minister might be hang. I don't know. Look like we could have scared them away with this one. Let me see. Honey said, "Yes, I did." Okay, I got that. Bro said, "Yes, Blue, I'm going to need you to get Oh, that right.

[00:43:56]Exactly." Yes, I did. Gabby Blue. Uh, you didn't answer. I didn't. You called the phone. Oh, dang. That You know what?

[00:44:02]That phone might be Leave me a message, Blue, cuz that phone the ringer might be off because you only use it for um callins. So, can you text it? Text it for me. Oh, I feel bad. You called. I'm thinking like Blue still ain't call.

[00:44:16]When you um text it and then when you text it, leave me a comment on the um on any of my um you know, pieces of content. I'll get it. The comments I check throughout the day. And so, put it on there so I can check my phone. So, I can check that phone cuz that's one of the phones I barely pick up. So, do that for me. [sighs] Okay. Let me see.

[00:44:36]Okay. Honey said, "But he tried." Wait, he tried to bring them around. I said, "You got me [ __ ] up." She said, "Exactly." They'll try. I mean, some people, the people who are like that, they will try anything. And thanks, Abu.

[00:44:49]I will. Yes. She said, "I sure." Okay.

[00:44:52]Text. Yeah. Text it cuz I think that ringer um I know the ringer is probably off. I know it's probably off. I don't even really be having ringers on my regular phone. Like, I literally look at my phone for um my text and everything.

[00:45:04]So, yes, my family can't stand me with that. Let me see. The session minister said um you set a great example of seeing the person as a whole person. You had the emotional intelligence to put aside your personal wants and not cause friction. Yes. In a relationship. Yes.

[00:45:20]That's the last thing I was going to do.

[00:45:21]I was so happy for him. Blue said teacher is ready to get right. Yes. Let me see. What was the question? No. Oh, the question. Oh, wait.

[00:45:33]Well, the question we're on now, this was for the man. This is for the men.

[00:45:38]We'll see if they'll answer. I know associate minister, he's in here. He will. Okay. Question number one.

[00:45:45]Hold on. Let me get it. Question number one. If your wife, now we say wife. If your wife slept with someone one time or fell deeply in love with another man but never touched him, which would hurt you most?

[00:46:05]If your wife slept with someone one time, should have slept with him one time, or if she fell deeply in love with another man but never touched him in no kind of way. Which one would hurt worse?

[00:46:18]Okay, let me see. And Burger said, "So, did we figure out what emotional uh cheating was? I thought it was when you are more honest with someone who was not your partner." No, actually, we didn't say Look at Look at Kiss. Oh, look at Okay, listen. We came up with people in different relationships set different boundaries for what is actually uh emotional cheating for them um when it comes to different things. Like some people may say, well, if all you did was hold a hand, if all you did was go to lunch, if all you did was call them, you know, things like that. So I in my opinion I think anything a lot most things in a relationship is going to be like a matter of what y'all get together and say uh is good for y'all. That's what I think in all relationships because I just seen some crazy stuff crazy stuff go down in relationships and it was fine for the both of them. So even though it was crazy for me, it was bliss for them. So I don't know if we can uh narrow it down like that child.

[00:47:20]Both of them uh is bad business. Both of them is bad business. Yeah, that's going to be I don't know. Let me see. My guy said uh none. Okay, I get that. I'm with him on that one. Okay, let me see.

[00:47:33]Question number two.

[00:47:36]What would you feel like the bigger betrayal? Her body or her heart?

[00:47:41]What would feel like the bigger betrayal? Her body or her heart? Or do y'all think like that's the same question?

[00:47:50]To a certain degree, do y'all think that's the same question?

[00:47:54]Let me see.

[00:48:00]>> Uh, let me see. That bro just said, "Gotcha." And hold the heads is physical. So, is that cheating, too?

[00:48:08]Right. Exactly. I'm going to think she I wish you would hold somebody head. It might seem like nothing to somebody, but I wish you would. I wish you would. Same question. I feel like men can't handle either. Okay. Same question. Y'all think that's the same question. word a different way. So, do y'all think a marriage could survive emotional cheating easier than physical? Like, would in y'all y'all's marriage, if y'all were married, could your relationship survive that physical over the emotional?

[00:48:39]What would it be like?

[00:48:42]Let me see.

[00:48:46]A Yeah. Where's the man? They We ran them off with that. Look, y'all. They looking like Uhhuh. We don't want to be a part of this one. I don't know where they at.

[00:48:54]They better catch the replay. They better catch that replay and get in those comments. Let me see. We holding uh hand. Yes, holding hands is cheat. I think so, too. Yes. Uh why why get quiet? A social minister holding uh holding down. Let me see. Mine couldn't survive either. If he uh cheats, I'm done. That's my whole thing. That's my whole thing. So, okay. I think I don't know if any guy I don't know if anybody other than social minister is in here.

[00:49:21]If your wife confided in another man before she came to you, would that bother you? Would that bother you if you your wife went to another man to confide in him before you? Not saying that um instead of you, before you would that bother you? Let me go see if the men want to come in and chime in. If not, I'm going straight to the questions that I got for the women cuz I got questions for us. We had to hold it down this week for the men. Uh, that's what we gonna do. That's what we going to do. Let me see. Hold on one second. Let me get to those questions just in case.

[00:50:05]Okay. Okay. Let me see what said that depends on the person. Mine would not because if I trust you uh is that com commit to you and become intimate and you cheat it's a rap. Okay. Either I'm done. Either I'm done. Lord. Okay. So, let's ask the the men other than associate minister have left the men's room. So, what do what do y'all think?

[00:50:33]Let's vote. What do you think hurts more? Hurts the men more if you lost your body or if you lost your heart.

[00:50:40]Let's see what we think the men think.

[00:50:43]They ain't telling us what we think. So, we going we going to talk about it.

[00:50:47]Which one do y'all think will hurt more? The body or the heart?

[00:50:52]Which one y'all think they willing to lose?

[00:50:58]Let me see. Associate minister said, "Falling in love with another man. I use John chapter 15 uh as a uh touchstone to govern how I deal with relationships and uh friendships in my life. Okay. Kayla said uh you went through the comments fast. I see right. You see I'm doing good. I got that's because I got the phone I'm live on. I got my computer all the way in my face zoomed in because I'm laying down. So I got the computer zoomed uh mega in my face. These words are so big. So that's why the men would uh more than likely say the body. You think they'll say the body? Okay.

[00:51:38]Well, no. We we talking to the women now. The men, they've left the room.

[00:51:42]They left the room. I kind of said I think for them the heart would hurt more. Okay.

[00:51:50]Blue says she thinks the body. I kind of say she thinks the heart. Ty said it depends on the med. Yes, that's probably what it depends on, you know, cuz we they came in here with different uh opinions on that. Um, the boxing scholar had an opinion on it and the social minister had a different opinion on it.

[00:52:04]Let me see. Uh, my husband just said the heart, but he said he said body first. Oh, okay. He said the heart, but he said body first, but uh didn't get it all out. Okay. Okay.

[00:52:17]Okay. He was about to say body. He had to think about that like wait a minute.

[00:52:20]Wait a minute. Don't don't get in their mind. A brother said body first. Their pride and embarrassment will always have them wondering and comparing themselves.

[00:52:28]I think that too at Roia they be they bad about that wonder and they compare theyelfel. Let me see. Okay, that was a question again. So, okay, no problem.

[00:52:38]Okay, so which one do y'all think comes first?

[00:52:42]Which one do y'all think comes first? Do you think it's the emotional cheating or the physical cheating that actually comes first?

[00:52:49]Because a lot of people can just get down with the cheating on the first five minutes of physical, but then some people will take that emotional route and just start having them conversations first and it may or may never get to the physical. But which one do y'all think a lot of times comes? Okay, a brother said she thinks emotional.

[00:53:09]Candace said, do y'all think that for Okay, are y'all thinking from a woman's point of view? Do you think the emotional comes first or y'all said across the board, men and women, emotional comes first? Emotional cheating comes first.

[00:53:27]Okay. Abro says she thinks for a female, for a woman, that the emotional cheating might come first. I I agree with y'all with that. I agree with y'all with that one.

[00:53:39]I definitely think for females, for the most females, probably not all, but for most females, that might be first. Okay.

[00:53:45]Kayla said for women. Okay.

[00:53:51]Okay. So, let's go through. Okay. So, let's go through some uh scenarios right fast. Okay. Your spouse texts one person every single day. Cheating or no cheating?

[00:54:04]Cheating or no cheating?

[00:54:06]Your spouse texts one person every day.

[00:54:11]Is that cheating or no cheating?

[00:54:15]Let me see what y'all saying. Both genders for iconic. Okay.

[00:54:21]No cheating. Kayla said just cuz he text somebody every or text that female every day that that's not cheating. Everybody agree with Caitlyn.

[00:54:33]What y'all think? texting that person every day. But no, no, they said the per they talking about the person. She said a sibling of the person. The person ain't no family members. It depends on what's in the text. Okay. I kind of said it depends on what's in the text. What are they talking about? Abro just said I agree with Kayla. Rachel said okay cuz Kayla said no cheating.

[00:55:00]Okay.

[00:55:03]Let me see. Right. Depends on the nature of the text. Okay. What's Okay. But y depends on what's in the text. But if you are texting that person every day, it's a it's okay. Long as if you go in the text, if it's a joke or something they sent from Facebook and they laughing about the joke or something like that, then they're good. Okay. They said, "Hey, Rachel, I see you." Yeah, she was in here earlier. She been listening in.

[00:55:27]Okay. Scenario two. Your spouse says, "Don't worry about him. He's just a friend or boy the bid have left so we'll switch it around. The uh spouse says don't worry about her. She's just a friend but they hide the conversation.

[00:55:43]Is that cheating?

[00:55:46]Sounds uh sounds emotional cuz what's going to uh happen if you don't text or respond? Okay.

[00:55:54]So your minister said John uh chapter 15 helps me to uh have emotional courage to know when to let something or some go.

[00:56:03]Jesus used the analogy of the gardener.

[00:56:06]Prune out of your life what is no longer healthy so your energy can uh so your energy can improve the healthy parts of your life. Okay.

[00:56:20]Rachel say hey Caitlyn. Okay, said cheating could be cheating now. K said now they could be cheating now. Let me see. Iconic said investigate time and investigate. What are you hiding said?

[00:56:32]What is it that you hiding? What are you hiding? Exactly. Why would you ever have to hide anything? Why would you have to delete anything? Right. Okay. So, your spouse never touched anybody, but they've told another person, "I think I'm falling for you."

[00:56:50]They never touched nobody, but they told that person. Your spouse told that person, "I think I'm falling for you."

[00:56:57]But they never touched them, though.

[00:56:59]Like, are you addicted to this person that you need to text every day? Bro, that's where I am. Like, I wish you would get your finger on the phone and text somebody. Let me see your finger and see if I don't Okay, next one. Your spouse has never touched anyone, but they've told um the person, "I think I'm falling for you." What is that?

[00:57:22]Is that cheating?

[00:57:24]Or do y'all think that's just expressing how they feel?

[00:57:30]No. No. I said your spouse. I got it.

[00:57:34]That's why you're there. This is your spouse.

[00:57:38]Your spouse has never touched anyone, but they told the person, "I think I'm falling for you."

[00:57:45]So, it's your spouse saying this to somebody else.

[00:57:51]Let me see.

[00:57:55]What he say? Hell yeah. [laughter] Let me see. The intent to cheat is just as bad. I think so, too, Roger. Cuz why are you still My spouse said some extra.

[00:58:06]Exactly. Like I can help you out with that. Y'all know I can help folks out real easy. Go tell somebody you think you falling for. But let me find out. I You think you f falling for you going to fail in their face on a footstep um on that porch cuz you going to be be up out of here. Don't fall. Don't you're not falling. Just say you fail cuz you're out of here. Let me see. I kind of said duh. Cheating. They want to Kayla said they want to cheat. They want to cheat.

[00:58:32]Okay. Scenario number four. Your spouse complains about you to another man or woman instead of talking to you. Is that crossing the line?

[00:58:43]Is that crossing the line? You going Let me see. You going to fall cuz I'mma push you. Exactly. I brought you. Exactly.

[00:58:50]Let me see. Your spouse complains about you to another man or woman instead of talking to you. Is that crossing the line?

[00:58:58]Is that crossing the line? And that is something because some people could have friends or maybe a coworker and they um may be going through something and they might not just be complain. It might be sounding like a complaint but they what if they really genuinely want to do something about it and need they really really need a perspective of a female because they're trying to make this situation better.

[00:59:22]Let me see what y'all saying.

[00:59:24]Iconic said the line is crossed.

[00:59:27]Kayla said, "Nope, I'm complaining."

[00:59:31]Okay, Kayla said, "Nope, that's not crossing the line." So, your minister said that is cheating because it is mental uh preparation for getting ready to leave a relationship. Uh I am the full course meal. I would never uh be a lady. Side piece marriage is when uh two become one. I can't become one with a person I cannot physically or emotionally trust. Okay.

[00:59:56]Right. Kayla said, "AB brother say emotional cheating, telling other people issues that are only your partner, right, that only your partner can fix means you don't want to give your partner the opportunity to fix the issue." Okay. You think, you say that that's that's across all situations.

[01:00:13]She said, "You better get it together with me cuz she ain't got the answer."

[01:00:18]Let me see. Okay. So, y'all know how the social media thing is about relationships now. I wouldn't have married in no social media uh situation that y'all know I was married 51 years ago. So, but I think this is probably a thing in today's relationships. So, the scenario is that your spouse or your significant other, they liking somebody's every photo. They comment on every post they make. They send their heart emojis. They sending fire emojis.

[01:00:48]Is it still innocent?

[01:00:50]Do y'all think it's still innocent after they liking every photo, commenting on everything, sending heart emojis and fire emojis? Can that be innocent? Are they just using the tools that the social media platforms gave them to express their opinion and could be innocent? Let me see.

[01:01:09]Hubby, talk to me. I'mma open book. I know that's right. I know that's right.

[01:01:13]I kind of She said I'm right here.

[01:01:16]Let me see. Just go be with her at this point. Right. Kayla said, "If you got to be commenting on everything, liking every photo, look, you can go over there where she is and we can just end all this. I ain't got to worry about the hearts." Let me see. Um, she said, "Oh, no." No, she said a kiss said, "Hell no, not innocent." She said it ain't innocent. Lord, man. So, y'all said no heart emojis, huh? Oh, I kind of said boy bye. You doing all that? Bye. If you going to hunt down somebody, post every day. So you get hearted every day. No. Wow. So are y'all saying occasional heart and occasional um like would that be okay?

[01:02:02]Is that okay?

[01:02:07]Let me see.

[01:02:09]Uh it's like they're throwing out fish.

[01:02:12]Oh, to see who will bite Abroa said.

[01:02:16]Okay.

[01:02:19]Blue boo.

[01:02:21]So, do y'all consider flirting cheating?

[01:02:24]What if they really ain't never really had no conversation with the person?

[01:02:28]What if they have never had like no like this is just a person that they see, they at the mall and they flirt with somebody. Is that cheating?

[01:02:39]>> Do y'all consider that cheating?

[01:02:45]Y'all let me know. I wanted to hear what y'all say. Now remember, this is not nobody they work with, nobody they got a telephone number to, nothing. Just they might be a heavy flirtter and they may be with you, but when they're out in public, they flirt with strangers. Do you consider that cheating? Is that considered cheating?

[01:03:11]Let me see. When a person doesn't talk directly to another person, they don't have an emotional, they don't have the emotional courage to see what the other person might say. It's okay to have a confidence that in your life. Okay.

[01:03:25]Depends on how far it goes. Okay.

[01:03:28]Yeah. I b I just Well, I'm not going to be able to do a heavy flirt. She said like if you a heavy flirtter, I got to be worried about that. Then that probably ain't going to be good for her.

[01:03:38]Let me see. It's definitely crossing the line. Kiss said it's crossing the line.

[01:03:42]It's crossing the line. Okay. Uh to use your confident as your Oh, it's okay. As your uh emotional cocoon. Let me see.

[01:03:50]I'm a flirtter, but I'm realizing it may be cheating now. Oh my gosh. Okay. So, like say your significant other goes to hang out with their friends and they are at the club and they are dancing with another person. If the will the dancing be considered cheating if they just the song came on they like you want to dance and they just out on the dance floor.

[01:04:14]They ain't got no number from this person. None of that. They never had no conversation with this person. They ain't trying to get the person number afterwards. They just dancing. Is that okay or is that cheating? I had been accused of flirting and I'm not uh and I and I didn't mean to. Okay. So, I don't know. Okay. Hey, Tips World. How you doing?

[01:04:35]Thanks for coming in, Justice. Hey, Justice.

[01:04:40]No, have fun is not uh cheating. Okay, just having fun. Okay. And Roger said if she's there, then it's okay. Okay.

[01:04:48][snorts] Okay. So, your spouse is wherever.

[01:04:56]Uh let's say you're not there, but your spouse sees this person. Maybe they haven't seen the person in a long time, but they reach in and hug the person.

[01:05:07]Now, I I ain't saying they took no number. I ain't saying they did none of all that stuff. None of all that stuff.

[01:05:12]They just seen a person that they may have had say they may or may have not had a relationship with the person, but they hugged them. Would you consider that cheating? Or would you be okay like it's just a simple hug? Which would you think?

[01:05:28]But don't get mad when I'm dancing [laughter] with another man. Right. Let me see. Why aren't they dancing with me?

[01:05:35]I kind of said, "Thank you for the two jewels, uh, Tips World. Thank you for that star.

[01:05:41]Thank you. Thank y'all for letting me be my goal today." Y'all know whatever y'all said is my goal.

[01:05:48]Let me see. Thank you for the 100. Thank you. A simple hug is cool. Kayla says she okay with a hug. She says she not going to be tripping off of a hug, y'all.

[01:05:58]She said that would be uh fine.

[01:06:02]That would be fine.

[01:06:05]So, okay. So, let me know this y'all.

[01:06:07]So, if you ask your significant other where they are, if you say, you know, like where you at, and if you find out that they lied about where they are, do you consider that cheating or just a lie? Would you just say, "Okay, you're just a big liar or a little liar, whatever." Or would you just automatically go to cheating?

[01:06:29]Would you automatically go to cheating?

[01:06:32]Let me see.

[01:06:35]A simple hug is cool. Let me see. A quick hug is fine. Okay, it got to be quick. I kind of said if it's under 5 seconds is good. Now, if it start lingering off to 30 seconds, it's a problem. A bro just said, "I'm a hugger.

[01:06:45]Greeting people with a hug is okay for me." I guess it depends on the type of hug, right? And how long it lasts. So, we got to put a timer. They got to have a timer. So, when you when you get yourself in a relationship and if y'all when y'all put those boundaries down that we talked about, y'all got to talk about how long the hugs can last. If you lie about little things, you're probably uh uh you're probably a a psychopath. I have no use for you. Look, I kind of said 3 seconds. 3 seconds.

[01:07:14]Okay. Okay, y'all ain't playing with them. Y'all ain't not playing with them. So, yes.

[01:07:20]So, those are all the things that I had down today, y'all. For if uh that which one is worth uh finding some well not you have to find them, but so your significant other actually going to bed with somebody or if they develop an emotional connection with somebody, which one was the worst?

[01:07:40]So, I think we just all have a lot. No lies. I kind of said tips for said bro, I agree. Uh, let me see. We grow. No need for lies. A lie about where you at is a no, right? Cuz why? What would be a reason why you feel it's a deeper thing if you feel like you got to lie about where you at? Like it's even deeper than cheating at that point, right? Cuz if it ain't cheating, what would be another reason why you have to lie about that?

[01:08:04]We got a lot of problems going on then.

[01:08:06]So, yes. So, thank y'all for the men who came in here in the beginning. They got scared up out of this room today. I'mma pick a topic where y'all don't have to be scared next [laughter] week. I'm I'mma pick a topic where y'all don't have to be scared next week and y'all can stay in the room. But I did have some questions for the women too this week. So uh social media strong. He he stand toes down for the men every time whether they uh stay in or not. So hopefully they'll catch the replay and get in the comments if y'all the men if y'all weren't able to stay for some reason or if y'all catch this replay, make sure y'all get in the comments.

[01:08:43]Okay, let me see. Um, associate minister said, "It depends on the type of hug. A quick friendly hug. I have no problem with uh a hope and a what is that? Hope and a grow. [laughter] I have a problem with a hug is a way of getting uh a standup physical sample of another." Oh, okay.

[01:09:04]>> Okay. Iconic said, "I'm cool. Tell me the truth." Uh, of another person's uh body or the download. Okay. Associ let y'all know what the intention is. I kind of say I don't bite. Let me see.

[01:09:17]Emergency. Uh, you should not do or say anything that threatens the security of your partner. That's what it uh boils down to. Abroa. I don't uh want to worry. I don't want to worry I'm being lied to for any little thing, right? You know, if we don't want to be lied to about big things, the little things almost worse sometimes because it's like, okay, I know for sure I can't trust you with nothing real, right? Kind of like a side hug. Exactly. That's okay. That's I can go with the side hug.

[01:09:45]I can go with the side hug. I can get that one. That what I can get with.

[01:09:50]All right, y'all. I got to order some food from somewhere. I know I could go in there and get something, but I think I'm going to order some JJ Fish, y'all.

[01:09:56]I hope they don't give me the old grease. I'mma call up there and let them know I made the uh Door Dash order. Can you please give me uh good grease? I'm going call them and ask them before I make the order. Okay, y'all. Thanks so much for coming in. Thanks so much for helping me meet the goal of the goals that were I mean of the gifts that were sent. I appreciate y'all for that. Thank you so much. Make sure y'all hit the like button. Thanks for liking.

[01:10:18]Tell them. Yeah, I'mma tell them. Oh, you making pancakes? I just I ordered some pancake mix. I just ordered some pancake mix. My uh daughter wanted to fix some for the kids and I didn't have none. So, I am Let me see. Bro just said, "Great love, everyone." Thanks for coming in, bro. I haven't seen you in forever.

[01:10:35]Okay, y'all. So, y'all have a great night. Tomorrow, we'll be talking about the conversation that I want to talk about um uh for seeing on the feed about is losing your job worth it? That social media mess, was it worth losing your job? We got to talk about that tomorrow.

[01:10:51]So, hopefully y'all be able to chime in on that. Okay, if y'all missed it, just go ahead and uh get in the comments. Do the replay and get in the comments and let me know what y'all think about it finally cuz I this leg wasn't doing what it was supposed to do for a couple of weeks, so I wasn't able to uh talk about it. But I think I'm good now, y'all. We did. We did two days in a row of the lives. I think I'm back on. I got I'm laying down flat with my leg elevated right now. So, I'm like, "Okay, long as I got a picture on the screen, we should be okay." Okay. All right. Thank y'all for coming in. I'll see y'all later.

[01:11:19]Y'all have a great night.

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