Emotional regulation is key to mental health

Added: 2026-04-30

[00:00:00]The way that we learn to affect regulate is in very much pendulation. It's either I shut the emotions down and away and I go into shame and fear and anxiety.

[00:00:08]>> was me. Or I'm acting them out and I'm externalizing them and we tend to So, I'm either going to be a crazy person or I'm shutting myself down. We're trying to figure out the middle ground. I feel the feeling and I'm not a crazy person.

[00:00:20]>> Yes, where I can feel my feeling and I can express it and I can be seen, soothed, safe, and secure. It's what we all need in our close, secure attachment relationships. Like the people that make us feel safe and make us feel good, the really healing relationships. They have that quality where we feel fully seen, we feel soothed, reassured in that, we feel safe, and then secure, we can always come back to that place and we can venture out in the world and we can be adventurous and do everything that we got to do. And that's what helps us get to that place where we're not pendulating in our affect regulation, but where we have containment, where I can feel big feelings, but it's going to be okay.