When to take a trip with the man you’re dating.

Added: 2026-05-28

[00:00:00]Okay. The first three, I'll say first two to three. Okay. Yeah. That's too quickly to be taking a trip with someone you don't know. Unless you're on that type of timing, unless you're about that life, or unless you ladies think you have the magic hole. I'm being very forward. And he won't leave. He won't get detached. Those are the only three ways that you can take a trip that soon.

[00:00:22]Okay. Um, hi.

[00:00:27]>> Hi. Welcome in.

[00:00:30]>> How are you?

[00:00:31]>> I'm great. Do you consent to be on a live and potentially all platforms?

[00:00:35]>> I do.

[00:00:36]>> All right. What brings you up?

[00:00:39]>> Um, I was just wanting some level up advice. I feel like I attract emotionally unavailable men that aren't serious.

[00:00:51]>> Okay. Or like avoidant men.

[00:00:54]>> That's what I'm hearing. Okay. So that means that we're more um insecure. I think it says insecure attachment. Yeah.

[00:01:03]When you get in, you cling is what I'm saying. Once you get in, you cling hard.

[00:01:09]>> Yeah. Yeah. So if we're clinging hard, that means we have to work on us.

[00:01:15]Anxious attachment. Thank you. Anxious attachment. So when you when you're anxious attachment, you cling hard and we constantly validation from others.

[00:01:26]>> Yes. I feel like I attract the type of men that I'm interested in. Um, but something happens and it just like it's not like longterm. Like they'll come, we'll have a couple dates, it's fun shopping, maybe a trip or we'll do something cool, but they're never like serious.

[00:01:45]>> Okay. You shop and do a trip and do we sleep with them?

[00:01:49]>> No. Not >> No, no, no. You thought about it. You didn't say no immediately. We shop, we take a trip, and do we sleep with them?

[00:01:56]I'mma ask again.

[00:01:58]>> It depends on how much I like them, how much time has passed.

[00:02:03]>> Let me ask again. We shop, we take a trip, do we sleep with them?

[00:02:08]>> If I go on a trip, then yes, because I'm not going on a trip if I don't expect that to happen. But if I don't go on a trip, then no, cuz I'm not going if I don't feel comfortable doing that.

[00:02:19]>> Okay. And how how quickly are we getting on a trip? I'm assuming the first two months, three.

[00:02:25]>> Um, yeah, it's usually me suggesting it.

[00:02:29]Like if I like the guy enough, I'll be like, "Oh, I want to do this or I want to go there or and yeah, like I would say within the first 3 to 6 months."

[00:02:39]>> Okay. The first three. I'll say first two to three. Okay. Yeah. That's too quickly to be taking a trip with someone you don't know.

[00:02:45]>> Unless you're on that type of timing.

[00:02:47]Unless you're about that life or unless you ladies think you have the magic hole. I'm being very forward and he won't leave. He won't get detached.

[00:02:55]Those are the only three ways that you can take a trip that soon. I'm just being forward. But being that you're anxious attached, I would I wouldn't take a trip that soon. I would really get to know the guy and just give it some time.

[00:03:11]And what you need to work on is selflove, right? That means outside of a relationship, you need to validate yourself >> and that's therapy because usually that stems from childhood from a parent or something that happened.

[00:03:30]>> Okay. Any um like physical things that I could work on.

[00:03:36]>> And I said you had to talk.

[00:03:39]>> Uh hold on a sec.

[00:03:42]Sorry, I just moved. So, I'm like I have furniture coming and all kind of stuff.

[00:03:47]Just Okay. Let me see if I can fit up.

[00:03:57]Okay. So, you're moving today. This is why you have on the sweats and the the shorts.

[00:04:02]>> Okay. And are we more topheavy than we are bottom heavy? What's your body um type? Are you >> under I don't know. I feel like I'm proportionate, but I could be wrong. I don't know.

[00:04:17]>> Okay. Yeah, I think you're more topheavy. Yeah, more top. Is she inverted? You guys, is she inverted? I don't give pear. I don't think it's pear or hourglass. The reason I'm asking is because so once you identify your body type, then you know how to style your body.

[00:04:35]>> Yes. Mhm.

[00:04:40]Yeah. I would say inverted triangle. I think that's what it's called. Yeah.

[00:04:44]Inverted.

[00:04:45]>> So, more top heavy or bottom heavy?

[00:04:47]>> You're more topheavy. Yes. Mhm. So, that means when you lose weight, maybe your tummy goes first and the legs goes first or the legs goes first. Like your legs get thinner before your upper body.

[00:04:59]>> Yeah. I would say like I gain weight, I guess. Yeah. Yeah. I would agree with that.

[00:05:06]>> Okay. So, think Baywatch, those girls or Wendy Williams. Baywatch, Sher Shepard, or Wendy Williams.

[00:05:14]>> Okay.

[00:05:15]>> Okay. Like bombshell bodies. They're more, you know, more chess.

[00:05:19]>> Mhm.

[00:05:20]>> And long legs. So, you want to um look up outfits to um dress your body, style your body appropriately.

[00:05:27]>> Okay.

[00:05:29]>> All right.

[00:05:31]And therapy jazz. Oh, Sydney Sweeney.

[00:05:34]Yes, that's another good one. Sydney Sweeney.

[00:05:38]Mhm.

[00:05:40]How are you feeling? You're a little quiet. You're like, "Ugh, I'm overwhelmed. WHAT IS GOING WHAT DID I SIGN UP FOR?" YEAH, >> I really wasn't expecting to get called up. So, like it's probably echoing in here. Like I said, I'm moving so I have stuff everywhere. But no, I appreciate the advice cuz I feel like my shape is like I've heard both. So, I really don't know what flatters me and I'm also trying to lose a little bit of weight. I have like people like you don't need to lose weight but I would like to lose like 10 lbs I think.

[00:06:08]>> Okay, go for it. I don't think 10 lbs would hurt. You know, it'll give more bombshell, more Baywatch.

[00:06:15]>> Okay. That that I feel like a lot of the men that I'm attracted to generally go for that type of look. So, yeah.

[00:06:23]>> Okay. Yeah. So, play it up. Do it to the highest extent, but you have to work on self. You need to work on that because you can look better and then get with the guy and then be in the same situation, >> right? Okay. Thank you.

[00:06:40]>> You're welcome, doll. Have a good one.

[00:06:42]Bye-bye.

[00:06:45]>> Yes. So, work on that, my lovely. Little things. Little things.

[00:06:52]I don't think there's anything wrong with saying Wendy Williams like, you know, the greatest TV show host of all time. That's just the way her body shape is. And you can play that up, you know.

[00:07:03]Take that to Cali. Take that to Cali.

[00:07:07]All right. Take that to the West Coast.

[00:07:10]You know, bigger chest, small stomach, all legs.

[00:07:16]Okay. Wealthy men like that. Look, child. More chest than butt.

[00:07:22]Okay. The African diaspora likes more bum than chest.

[00:07:28]If we're just keeping it real.

[00:07:32]Mhm. Nothing wrong with that.

[00:07:35]Unless you're getting like a Tiger Woods, then sure. That type of black guy. Sure. You'll like more chest than bum. Thank you, babes.

[00:07:46]Mhm. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. Hourglass, inverted, no butt, they're still going to sleep with men.

[00:07:54]Let's break it down. Okay, let me just go say it. You could have all you can be I'm hourglass. Good for you. He still would sleep with a man. That's not going to change anything. Okay, doesn't matter, babe.

[00:08:11]Thank you. I'm That's no shade. Okay, that's no shade.

[00:08:16]Um, yeah. Whatever your shape is, just make sure you look great. That's all.

[00:08:20]Thank you, Dina. Make sure you look great. I think that's what it really boils down to. That's it.

[00:08:29]Make sure that's what Think about it like this, too. Kanye West um girlfriend, she has the Wendy Williams body. What's her name? Kanye West girlfriend. I mean, not girlfriend, wife. Who's Kanye West wife? What's her name? Even Kim is trying to get that body. Even he got Kim Kardashian trying to look like her. Bianca.

[00:08:49]Bianca is all chess and nothing else on the bottom. He got Kim K want to remove everything to look like Bianca.

[00:08:59]Yeah.

[00:09:01]So, girl, play that look up.

[00:09:04]It doesn't matter if they still together or not together. It's not going to change anything. Thank you, Auntie.

[00:09:11]Thank you,