Dr Cheyenne Bryant on JBP

追加: 2026-05-17

[00:00:00]Girl, Cheyenne was on the internet running it. Okay, Cheyenne Bryant said she no longer practices under a license says I have more freedom and leverage with my clients. I saw that. Hold on.

[00:00:09]What's the other one? Y'all agree Dr. Cheyenne Bryant seemingly suggest that side chicks have more power than the wife. Claims men marry the crumb and want the loaf. All right, let's listen to what she I mean this is not new information.

[00:00:24]I would say that depending on a man, I think in the system It's on Jamie Shannon.

[00:00:33]The system that we live in does place more value on where the man decides the value goes.

[00:00:41]So, for instance, Martell Holt absolutely valued his side chick more than his wife.

[00:00:50]She had more power than his wife.

[00:00:54]That's what we saw. Okay?

[00:00:56]However, is that the case in every situation? Absolutely not.

[00:01:02]There are some people that have never really left their wives. We don't know them cuz they're not on reality TV.

[00:01:08]>> [laughter] >> But, there are a lot of people out there who the husbands have uh, you know, cheated [snorts] and they was not leaving their wife.

[00:01:18]Because their wife knew where the bodies were buried, he would lose too much money, didn't want to break up the image, doesn't really want to be in a relationship with the side chick because the side chick is the person that he gets with to make himself feel better. So, she's not somebody he can actually place his life on like he can do with his wife.

[00:01:40]We're going to listen to what she got to say, but I don't I don't necessarily disagree, girl, but let's just see how you put it. Everything I said was on on Shannon Sharpe's interview as well, that what I have found in my field of 18 years is that when a womanizer, cuz that's what he is who has a side chick.

[00:01:57]When a womanizer has a side piece, side chick, whatever you want to call it, often times, if not almost all the time, the wife can tell when they break up.

[00:02:09]The wife can tell when they having problems.

[00:02:12]Yeah, she do. Why? Well, back in the day >> Because >> Because they show it.

[00:02:15]>> because he comes home in a disposition that is uneasy. Mhm.

[00:02:21]He's not as loving and nurturing and joyful when he walks in that door.

[00:02:26]Now, that's unfortunate, but that is facts. When him and the side chick just got off their trip or conversation or she's able to keep him company, entertain him all day long, he comes home in a better mood.

[00:02:37]And let me go further. I've had some clients >> I think that's across the board.

[00:02:43]That if you somebody that really doesn't want to be monogamous, not being monogamous makes you happier.

[00:02:49]>> [laughter] >> Like, okay?

[00:02:51]But, I also feel like what she's about to say next. And many, too many, actually, who have actually wives who have said, "I'm actually okay with him having her.

[00:03:03]Even if he knows that I'm not okay with it, I don't I let it ride." Kendra.

[00:03:08]Kendra. Because she makes this household easier.

[00:03:12]>> Peaceful. Mhm. Because hold on, that >> And I've heard men say that cheating on their wives is maintenance.

[00:03:19]And I I kind of understand this to a certain degree because I don't feel like monogamy is natural. I feel like it's something we force ourselves to do.

[00:03:28]Uh and something we decide to do. You know what I'm saying? Uh so, I do understand that it's not natural and it takes uh people really wanting to do that.

[00:03:39]But, also what she was going to say, and I'mma let her finish, she'll say it eventually, is that men also enjoy cheating on you. They enjoy lying to you. They enjoy the game of it. That part.

[00:03:49]The wife also is tuned out, tapped out, and off from him as well. See, men think they're moving in a way you think sometimes a wife is just so in love and want you.

[00:03:58]Sometimes she's there cuz you're paying bills and you're providing. And she knows that leaving you means she has to fend for herself.

[00:04:04]Or she can't fend at all. So, sometimes she's okay with you having that side chick when you think you're sneaking because really some of y'all cheating not because you even want to [ __ ] the side [ __ ] It's really because you like to sneak.

[00:04:16]That's a fact. Hold on. And you Yeah, you wouldn't even have a side chick if you weren't married. You only have the side chick because being deviant and cheating is what turns you on. That's a fact. So, Getting over on the woman.

[00:04:30]Getting one up on the woman. What do I always tell y'all? That's all it's all about all the time.

[00:04:37]Half of y'all Absolutely. Everybody Everybody does need to be aware. And that's where all of the unethical [ __ ] comes into play because [ __ ] want to be able to put women in these things where they get to do what they want to do but the women can't do what they want to do.

[00:04:52]And so, the women are then also conditioned to feel like they want monogamy more than the man does. That's how I feel. I feel like monogamy is is a lot of times conditioning.

[00:05:03]And because people live in extremes. So, if one person for your whole life is how y'all think the [ __ ] supposed to go, then you would imagine somebody [ __ ] every somebody every other day on the other end of that when that's not necessarily the case. It more so looks like what your life looks like anyway.

[00:05:21]You'll be with a few people throughout your life. You'll have a few, you know, relationships throughout your life that either will be serious or you might have several just casual ones. It just depends on the person.

[00:05:33]And then we can get into, you know, like the safety and all of that. That's another conversation. But essentially, most people are not with the same person from the time they get into a relationship as a young person until the day that they died. That that's not normally how that happens. Most of the time you have a few lovers, a few relationships, a few connections.

[00:05:55]That that is what is actually happening.

[00:05:57]That's what's actually normal. We decide that we should be marrying somebody and being, you know, monogamous and just with that person. And also out of a need to protect ourselves from STDs, but then also about emotional enmeshment, ownership, control.

[00:06:13]Having to feel like uh you know, you don't want to share. I don't want to share. I don't want to share. That type of [ __ ] A person is not something that you get to dictate whether you share them or not. In real life, a person is connected to other people. Maybe not sexually, but people are connected to other people.

[00:06:31]And I have found that in relationships, when people are controlling and they, you know, force this monogamy thing, this control thing, they also do that with other people in your life. Which is why women so often will drop all of their friendships when they get into a relationship with a man.

[00:06:48]Because everything becomes about that one person. It's this monopolizing of a person's energy. And I don't feel like that's actually healthy. I feel like it's kind of gray.

[00:07:00]Like lacking of color.

[00:07:03]Because I think that having I had I think having relationships I don't think you can say monogamy is natural.

[00:07:13]>> [snorts] >> I don't think you can say monogamy is natural. I don't. For the exact reason that I just named. Because most people don't only be with one person for their entire life.

[00:07:24]Saying that it's natural for some but not for everybody, no. It's easy for some.

[00:07:29]And it's not easy for others.

[00:07:32]That's what you mean. But it being natural would indicate that it's something that you don't have to be taught. And to me, you have to be taught that. You have to be taught that there's something wrong with you liking more than just one person. You have to be taught that there is shame in you spreading yourself around. You have to be taught that you're going to be hurt if you allow too many people to have access to you. You have to be taught those things. So that that to me is why I don't consider it natural. I'm going to let her finish. off of I'm unhappy in my life. No, bro. You wouldn't have a side chick if you didn't have a wife.

[00:08:03]You don't want her. And half y'all don't want your wife because you married the crumb and really go screw the loaf.

[00:08:09]Half of y'all settle for what's safe and you want the bad chick. But you don't want the bad chick cuz you're the bad chick going to do you wrong and bad like you doing her. And you can't handle it cuz you're too damn weak.

[00:08:20]So you marry the crumb and you go screw the loaf. And the loaf is your side chick. So that's why men fall in love with their loaf.

[00:08:27]They fall in love with their side chick.

[00:08:30]I believe you're saying I said this on on Uh Let's see.

[00:08:36]Uh it's natural for some of us. Maybe we are the weirdos. No, it is not even that I'm saying it uh it's not y'all it's not it's not natural.

[00:08:47]Like natural natural to innate innate and natural to me mean the same thing when we say it because essentially it's something that does happen in nature. Absolutely, right? Like there are animals that are monogamous, I'm guessing.

[00:09:02]Very few, but there are some, right? I guess.

[00:09:05]To me humans are not. I think if it was not pushed on us, we would not be monogamous in my opinion. And I'm saying that because even if you are to be with just one person while in the relationship with that person, you would not most people would not be in one relationship for their entire lives.

[00:09:25]People die. People grow. You know what I'm saying? [ __ ] used to go to war.

[00:09:29]Like it just it never has happened that way. And to me I think you have to start thinking in terms of what is happening and not what you think should be happening.

[00:09:41]Yeah, religion I don't think religion is natural either. I think the need to connect things and connect to each other is how we think that we are naturally creating religion. When really no, you're you naturally feel the need to connect and to find meaning in your life. That's the natural thing. That's what our brains are doing. Yeah, it's not monogamy is not compatible with the evolution in nature. It's not. Because it actually is like women having sex to decide which one is the best. Like which sperm hits the best, right? Cuz if you just get with one person, if he has weak sperm, then nobody we don't have more people. So if you just have, you know, a woman will have sex with multiple men, then out of one of those men, somebody will get her pregnant and then you have more people.

[00:10:28]Every man is not getting every woman pregnant. Y'all know that, right? So that's another reason why monogamy is not natural to us as humans because we would not grow as much as we did if we acted like that. If we just lived with one person one person for your whole life.

[00:10:46]Um and that is what monogamy is is trying to accomplish. Y'all being with the same person forever for your whole life. And I just kind of feel like that is not what actually ends up happening even if you are married to somebody.

[00:10:59]Most people don't die at the same time.

[00:11:02]Most people women outlive men usually by what? Between 15 to 30 years a woman will outlive her husband. So you know what I'm saying? Or uh how men boys boys are treated very early on.

[00:11:18]Boys are treated very taught very early on to be with as many women as possible. And the girls are taught to just find one. How do you That's not going to happen. So as everybody's aging, the boys are going to have sex.

[00:11:31]They're not going to be with just one girl but whole life normally.

[00:11:36]Um But yes, you know, all of this [ __ ] is made up, y'all. I know y'all people don't be wanting to like deal with the fact that everything is made up, but everything is made up, even monogamy.

[00:11:46]It's all made up.

[00:11:48]It's all made up, girl.

[00:11:50]And that's okay to admit. And it's a it's a case, you know, to choose it it's something to choose for yourself. I'm not saying don't choose it if that's what you want, and I'm not saying there's something wrong with you if you are monogamous, but what I am saying is the way people act like monogamy is the base. They feel like if you're not monogamous, something is wrong with you.

[00:12:09]When the truth of the matter is what we're actually seeing in front of us is most people are not monogamous because they do not stay with the same person their entire lives. That that is what I say. And I I would actually go for I would go far in order to agree with the monogamy is unnatural. I think a lot of women don't want like not going to say don't want, but I think a lot of women don't actually recognize how far our brainwashing goes because as women we connect uh keeping our coochie to ourselves, to our womanhood, to our personhood, to our value. We can act like we don't, but we do.

[00:12:43]I still do, so I know you do, [ __ ] okay? Having a small number of [ __ ] that have had access to me is absolutely a flex still because [ __ ] in Paris you. So it's it's still a flex, okay?

[00:12:54]But essentially the attitude of that is that when women have had access to a lot of men that she's not as valuable.

[00:13:03]We have to we have to let that go.

[00:13:07]And also with that, you know what I'm saying, is the mentality that monogamy is natural for people.

[00:13:14]Um child, I believe that asexuality is probably more natural than monogamy.

[00:13:20]Like not wanting to have sex is to me more natural than people wanting to be with one person their entire lives. But, let's continue on with more from Joe Budden and Cheyenne. You, but let me tell you something. If I'm your wife and you come in this house and you tell me, "Baby, listen. Yes, I cheated on you, but let me explain to you, sweetheart. Let me explain to you, beautiful, that I assessed for risk before I cheated on you. I thought about everything and calculated all of this.

[00:13:46]And when I did the math, it added up that there's a bigger probability that I won't get caught. You think I'mma look at you and say Nobody But what I'm But what I'm saying is that I Y'all, Ish started wearing glasses.

[00:13:56]>> And when I did the math, Ish started wearing glasses after Mark got there.

[00:14:00]That [ __ ] trying to be smarter, you could tell. He also He be like, not screaming as much no more. I be like, "Look at Ish trying to try to grow up." Cuz Mark be up there embarrassing your ass.

[00:14:10]Uh this this right here, Amethyst Simone, this is it right here. It's easier on the nervous system to comply after so much socialization. I agree.

[00:14:19]I agree.

[00:14:21]Like, in in me personally, I'm somebody that I could recognize that I'm complying with certain things.

[00:14:28]Uh and then I I will be weigh- weighing it. But to me, I I do recognize that this is something that is being put on me, and I'm falling for whatever it is.

[00:14:38]I know people are not always cognizant of how they think. That's something I'm just now finding out that people are not always assessing how they think. Like, they don't think about why they think the way they think.

[00:14:49]They just think.

[00:14:52]I actually assess my thought process.

[00:14:56]before I cheated on you. I thought about everything and calculated all of this.

[00:15:00]And when I did the math, it added up that there's a bigger probability that I won't get caught. You think I'mma look at you and say Nobody But But what I'm saying is that means that when you take the act of cheating, you are already saying loud and clear, "I don't give a [ __ ] about getting caught, and I don't care about losing you." We We could We could agree to disagree. I Cuz I I think the people in this room will disagree with you. I'm just saying.

[00:15:25]I don't care about the people. What I'm saying is how can you tell me that you stepped out on me?

[00:15:30]But you cared about getting caught. And that means you cared about my heartbreak. You cared about my dismantle. That is [ __ ] You can't do you Those two can't coexist. Ish, how can I tell you I'm in I actually disagree with her.

[00:15:44]>> [laughter] >> love with you. I'm committed to you. But I just had sex with your homeboy. How can that coexist? Not your homeboy.

[00:15:54]Not the homeboy. NOT NOT THE HOMEBOY.

[00:15:57]>> [laughter] >> YOU TOOK it to another level. You took it to another level. You can say to your dude, "Yo, I was in New York City and if you get caught, I was in New York City and I slipped whatever whatever whatever." I slipped.

[00:16:14]You know what?

[00:16:20]No, I was saying Oh, no, go ahead. Go ahead, yeah. In relationships, you said you don't cheat. I don't. What is your big relationship flaw?

[00:16:28]Ish, I hear you, but let me tell you something. If I'm your wife and you come in this house and you tell me, "Baby, listen, yes, I cheated on you, but let me explain to you, sweetheart. Let me explain to you, beautiful, that I assessed for risk before I cheated on you. I thought about everything >> No, you don't say any of that [ __ ] You don't say any of that [ __ ] But that's stupid, okay? You don't say that, okay?

[00:16:48]But to be honest, to act as if just because somebody cheat on you, they don't care about getting caught, I don't believe that that's true. I'm sorry. Cuz I do believe uh monogamy is exclusive with one person at a time, I believe you're essentially saying it's okay to explore. Yeah, of course I am.

[00:17:13]Of course I am. I I want you to do whatever you want to do. I want y'all to be monogamous if that's what makes y'all feel safe in your body, [ __ ] I'm not going to I would never tell you to be out here with all of these [ __ ] out here, girl. Ugh.

[00:17:24]But, I don't want us to keep assigning purity to it. Assigning purity to it, assigning value to it means judging women when they're not living in that space. And we do do that, very much so.

[00:17:39]In this situation, I don't agree with her, though. I actually agree with the men on this. I I do believe that just because you cheat on somebody doesn't mean that you don't care if you get caught. Because I have seen people that don't want to get caught. Guess what they don't do? They don't get caught.

[00:17:55]A lot of times, they don't get caught.

[00:17:57]And I see women that just know that the [ __ ] be happening cuz they feeling the spidey senses and [ __ ] But, they never actually get any evidence. [ __ ] happened to me one time.

[00:18:07]I was with a [ __ ] I know that [ __ ] was cheating on me.

[00:18:10]I know that [ __ ] was cheating, but the the evidence was so circumstantial.

[00:18:15]And he would never admit it, right?

[00:18:17]I still felt like I got cheated on, though.

[00:18:19]If you tell me.

[00:18:22]But, yeah. I just I I definitely feel like when people care about getting caught, it's because they want to keep you from doing what you want to do. They want to control your response. It doesn't mean that oh, I just don't care. That's why I'm saying that. Because when people do do that, it's cuz they're just trying to control your response. They want to keep you. They don't want you to leave them.

[00:18:43]So, they do care about getting caught, but they're still going to, you know, get the nut off. They're going to get the attention from the other person.

[00:18:51]They're going to do it. And they're going to assess the risk.

[00:18:54]And some of them are not going to care about the risk. They're going to [ __ ] the girl without a condom and everything. She'll be a random. She might be a prostitute. Like uh old boy.

[00:19:03]What what's that [ __ ] name, y'all? Neo?

[00:19:05]Yeah, Neo like to get prostitutes pregnant. Sex workers and [ __ ] And hey, hey, I don't judge the sex workers.

[00:19:12]Y'all know I'm pro sex work, okay? But I also feel like I don't know every sex worker if she up on her stats like she should be, [ __ ] I don't know. It feels like she would put herself in more homes way being a sex worker, okay? All right.

[00:19:26]So, as a woman, I would I would probably feel like, "Nigga, I'mma need for you to wear a condom." Cuz what type Yeah, you a sex worker, you not wearing a condom with Ne-Yo, then that means you're not wearing a condom with some of them other ones, neither. [ __ ] that's nasty. You could have gave me something. Are y'all out of y'all [ __ ] minds? Like everybody Monogamy seems out of sync with the levels of basic discipline and common sense portrayed by men. I agree.

[00:19:45]Most.

[00:19:47]Most of them. Uh these days though, a lot of them too tired to cheat.

[00:19:53]A lot of these [ __ ] is stressed out these days, child.

[00:19:58]But either way, girl, I think that's all the clips I had on Dr. Cheyenne Bryant.

[00:20:02]And then I heard her explain about her license. Girl, she not licensed. Girl, she ain't got no license.

[00:20:07]>> [laughter] >> That's it. She Girl, she ain't got no license. And you don't necessarily need a license to do what she does. So, there's that.

[00:20:14]>> [ __ ] your girl Bonnie Blue. So, let's go ahead and let's go ahead