Royal Family "Erasing" Harry & Meghan? The "It's About Me" Filter: Narcissism & Hostile Intent

Added: 2026-06-01

[00:00:00]The royal family hit delete on Harry and Meghan. This is a new article that just came out and what hit me about this article is how people can take and you know who I think is behind this article, some event that might be neutral and catastrophize it and make it seem like there's hostile intent when there isn't.

[00:00:23]When you've moved out of the home 3 years ago and the landlord comes in and starts cleaning up, that's not personal.

[00:00:30]That's something that gets done in ordinary life. So what I want to talk about in this video is just the headline of this article. I'm going to tell you the words that stand out to me that are like emotionally loaded. I'm going to give you examples from my own life about this hostile intent and then or hostile intent implied based on innocent things.

[00:00:48]And then we will break this down, relate it back to narcissism and I'll give you examples how you may have experienced something similar in your own life. So let's get into it, but before we begin, here's the intro. Welcome to Revealing the Narc. Join me as I highlight narcissistic traits in celebrities and public figures. Everything here is in my opinion and not professional advice. If you enjoy the analysis, please like and subscribe. Okay everyone, so the article was just published yesterday, I believe.

[00:01:17]No, today, May 29th and it's titled "Exclusive: Royal Family Hit Delete on Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. How the firm is literally wiping away all traces of exiled couple." Notice the word delete is in quotation marks. That implies that that word delete came from the source or wherever this information came from. So whoever it is that was the source behind this article wanted to make clear that that or the author of this article wanted to make clear that the source used the word delete. Now, just looking at this language, here are the ones that jump out at me. Hit delete is one, literally wiping away all traces, and then exiled couple. Those three, those are really, really emotional language. They're emotionally loaded phrases, and they encourage us as readers to interpret this as rejection, punishment, erasure, or retaliation, or some some combination of of all of those things. So, it encourages the reader to make those assumptions rather than act asking ourselves is is there a more ordinary or explanation for what's happening? So, for example, let's say there's a someone cleans out a room, or someone changes plans, someone doesn't invite someone to a gathering, and someone updates a policy. If someone immediately is jumping to this hostile intent conclusion, they may interpret this as, "Oh, that person is sending me a message. They're trying to hurt me.

[00:02:51]Whatever it is that they're doing, this is about me." Now, speaking of this specifically about Harry and Meghan potentially having their home or their previous home being cleaned out or whatever, there are other explanations.

[00:03:08]Administrative or practical reasons, which I think is likely. There could be financial reasons, which I think are likely. There could be space utilization. And the very final one, the one that there could be hostile intent, is that there's symbolic rejection.

[00:03:23]There may be some examples of reasons why this could be happening, but I can't think of them off the top of my head.

[00:03:29]So, what I want to say is that this article, the way this headline is worded, it's to push readers towards that fourth option, that this is a symbolic rejection. Now, we hear language like this all the time. We hear it in media all the time. We hear it from toxic people all the time. And it's important to realize when our when the purpose of language and the purpose of words are to push us to make or to interpret something in a way without using logic and without trying to question what is being told to us.

[00:04:06]So, let's define this hostile intent attribution. So, this is when everything feels like an attack. This is the tendency to assume that another person's actions were meant to hurt, reject, disrespect, insult, or target you even when there is little or no evidence of this happening. So, the event itself might be real, but it's the interpretation that is assumed, the motive that is assumed. So, for example, let's say someone doesn't call you and the interpretation of someone that wants to take this as a hostile intent is they're ignoring me. So, the phone call part was real, but the assumption that this person didn't call me because there was hostile intent there, that's that's the assumption that's being made. Let's talk about why this happens. Most people don't wake up looking for threats, but certain experiences can make people more likely to see hostility where none exists. And these things include chronic insecurity, past betrayals, hyper-vigilance, fear of rejection, unresolved trauma, and distrust of others. When someone has been hurt repeatedly, the brain can become focused on detecting danger. Now, I'm going to give you an example from my own experience and I want to say that my I didn't assume hostile intent, I just had a lot of anxiety about it. So, I've mentioned before that I was married and my ex-husband and I we were married about 10 years, we were together about 11 years. And within the first like four years of our relationship, he left me 10 times. And then after that, I was obviously walking I mean I was walking on eggshells during those 10 times he left me, but then even more so after that very last Um, time that he ended the relationship. So, he would say to me, you live with doom around the corner. Well, of course I do. You ended the relationship with me 10 times. I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

[00:05:59]Now, it's not that I had I believed hostile intent on his side, but what my behavior likely was was that I was hypervigilant. I was really monitoring whether the relationship felt safe. If something didn't feel like the argument went the way that I wanted, I really wanted to talk it out. It was just a lot of anxiety associated with it. I didn't necessarily have this assumption that there's hostile intent happening here because he wore a mask really well. I couldn't really assume hostile intent, but I definitely did have this fear and anxiety that the other shoe was going to drop at some point. So, now where does narcissism come in? This is where that gets really interesting. So, people with strong narcissistic traits often struggle to view events as neutral or as having to be independent of themselves.

[00:06:46]So, instead what happens is that many of these situations get personalized. So, the thinking pattern often looks like this. Something happens, then they think, it must be me. So, this is almost like when we talk about main character syndrome, that's kind of what we're seeing here, except it is a thinking pattern that happens all the time. So, after they think, oh, it must be about me, then they think, if it's about me, then it was probably done intentionally.

[00:07:12]Then, if it was done intentionally, it was meant to hurt me. This creates a cycle when ordinary events become evidence of rejection, disrespect, jealousy, sabotage, or persecution. So, over time, this creates a worldview where people are constantly being viewed as enemies, critics, or attackers. So, let's make this a teachable moment. When you feel hurt, pause and ask yourself these four questions. What actually happens? List only the facts and not the interpretation. Second, ask yourself, what story am I telling myself? Separate the event from the meaning that you've attached to it. Third, ask yourself, what evidence supports that story? Not feelings, not assumptions, but actual fact-based evidence. And finally, ask yourself, what are three other possible explanations? This is often the most important step because hostile intent thinking usually collapses all the possibilities into one specific conclusion, and considering alternatives helps you restore perspective. Now, let's talk about some real-life examples. In romance, your partner falls asleep without texting you good night.

[00:08:20]The hostile intent might be, they're punishing me, they're losing interest.

[00:08:24]An alternative explanation is they were exhausted and they fell asleep on the couch. In friendship, you could have a friend who posts a photo from dinner that you weren't invited to. Hostile intent interpretation would be, they excluded me on purpose and they're trying to send me a message. The alternative explanation is it was a spontaneous gathering, there was limited seating, or it was just a different friend group. In family, your parents clean out a room that you haven't used in years. The hostile intent would be, they're erasing me, they're trying to show me that I don't matter. The alternative explanation here is they're repurposing space in their home. And at the workplace, a meeting occurs without you. The hostile intent would be, they're pushing me out, they're trying to undermine me. The alternative explanation here is that the meeting involved a specific topic that didn't require your participation. The key takeaway here is that people who engage in hostile intent attribution often aren't reacting to what happened.

[00:09:20]They're reacting to what they believe the event means, and that's why this pattern can become so destructive in relationships. When every neutral event is interpreted as a personal attack, ordinary life begins to feel like a battlefield, and the more someone believes that they're being targeted, the more evidence they begin to see that confirms it, even when the evidence isn't really there. Okay, everyone, so as promised, I'm going to give you an example from my own life. I I talk about my malignant narcissist stepmom all the time, and this is the like the perfect easiest example that comes straight to my mind. My stepmom is actually a distant relative of my mom's.

[00:10:00]Like, she's one of my mom's cousins. And my parents, when they were still married, we started having a relationship with my stepmom and her family, and then essentially both families got divorced, and then my dad and my stepmom got together. So, I knew my stepmom, and she was related to my mom.

[00:10:21]In my culture, when you meet someone that is of an older generation, you call them aunt, but you can either call them aunt from your mom's side or aunt from your dad's side. And when I was being reintroduced to my stepmom, but now my stepmom is my dad's girlfriend, I had to address her somehow. I wasn't going to call her by her first name, and I was about 10 years old mulling over this decision. Do I call her aunt from my mom's side or aunt from my dad's side? And I was like, she hates my mom.

[00:10:57]She hates my mom's side of the family.

[00:11:00]I'm going to call her aunt from my dad's side.

[00:11:04]Because I had to call her aunt. I couldn't call her by her first name, right? So, the the mo- like the moment I said it, she exploded on me, and she was like, "What, you think I'm your dad's sister?"

[00:11:15]And I said to her, "Well, I didn't think I could call you aunt from my mom's side because you hate her. Like, what what was I supposed to do?" So, she assumed hostile intent when there really wasn't one. Like, I had no choice. I had to call her aunt of some sort. And now, here's the the If I called her aunt from my mom's side, it was a going to be a no-win situation. If I called her by her first name, then I have zero respect for her. So, there was nothing I could have done that she wouldn't have interpreted that with a hostile intent. And unfortunately, sometimes these are the types of characters that we are dealing with. The it's a no-win situation. Your intent is always bad even when you're a 10-year-old child trying really to navigate your parents' divorce, trying to understand that your dad is in this new relationship with a a distant cousin of your mom's and then also feeling like maybe you're betraying your mom somehow, right? So, it's just I'm telling you all, like I've been around these toxic personalities for so long that it's like a knee-jerk reaction. So, when I saw this headline, I was like, we don't even need to read the article. Just the way the wording is phrased, that's a teachable moment in itself. So, I'm curious to know what you all thought about that. Leave your thoughts in the comments. I do want to tell you that Michelle from Royal Daily Tea and I have a channel. We created a podcast. We talk about all sorts of things. We recently talked about the Chandra Levy case and how there may be some connection or some implied connection to the missing scientists that have been happening over the last couple of years. We've also talked about and it's going to come out soon. We did a movie review of the new version of Wuthering Heights.

[00:12:59]And Michelle and I, we get along great, but the majority of the time we are in disagreement. So, for example, I did not enjoy the 2026 Wuthering Heights and Michelle loved it. So, we had a pretty interesting dialogue. That video should be coming out in the next couple of days. So, I will link that channel in the description of this video. It's called Just Between Us. And we are very excited to share it with you cuz sometimes you get tired of talking about Harry and Meghan and you want to talk about what else is happening in the world. You want to talk about conspiracies and books and movies and other things that affect us like if we have hurt feelings in a friendship and all these sorts of things. So, I'm excited to see you all over on that channel as well. I want to thank you all so much for being here. If you did enjoy this video, please like and subscribe.

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