Aula com Vassoler: 3 caminhos das frustrações: resignação/ressignificação, ressentimento e paranoia

Añadido: 2026-05-28

[00:00:00]I [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] I am human and therefore nothing human is alien to me. Thus spoke the Roman poet and playwright Terence. And so I, Flávio Ricardo Vassoler, writer, professor, YouTuber, nomad, faithful as migratory birds, founder of the Vassoler Virtual University and presenter of the Philosophy of Everyday Life program on TV 247, speak.

[00:01:11]Good evening, everyone. Good evening everyone. Good evening everyone.

[00:01:17]Wednesday, May 20, 2026, here in Budapest, Hungary, this beautiful city, the beautiful capital of Hungary. It's 11:51 PM and we're here for another live class with Vassol. Here's the production jingle.

[00:01:57][music] [music] [music] Okay, let's go, everyone. In today's class, I want to talk to you about one of the most prevalent themes in our lives, the lives of all of us here: frustrations.

[00:02:36]And I was thinking about three ways to, let 's say, release or not release, in this case, frustrations, right? Well, reinterpretation prevents resignation. You'll see that I raised an important point, because there can be a kind of sad, downcast resignation, that's also part of it, okay?

[00:03:08]There are things that are unavoidable, there are very meaningful forms of resignation that can allow us to overcome what presents the possibility of being overcome. But then we also get into the realm of deep resentment and bordering on paranoia, persecutory paranoia, and all that, crazy stuff, right? So let's talk about that in this next video about Vassoler's travels, and let's say this, shall we? A follower of my YouTube channel, Flávio Ricardo Vassol Vassoler, Soraia Viváqua, sent me an email saying: "Hey, Vassoler, João Pereira Coutinho, who's a columnist for Folha de São Paulo, recently wrote a text quoting Dastevski, talking about frustrations, and so on. I think you'll like to read it. I remembered your classes. I'm sharing the text with you." So I went there, read the text, found it interesting, and even got ideas for this class. And I want to thank Soraia Viváqua for sending that email. I dedicate this class to her, because the idea I had came from the reading she provided of João Pereira Coutinho's text. Thank you very much, Soraia. A hug to you, okay?

[00:04:35]So let's go, everyone. First of all, I want to ask all of you to like the video, to share it on social media. So that we can engage with more and more people. Below the video, there's a "Become a Member" button. You can become a humanist member of the channel. There's also a "Thanks" button so you can make a financial contribution. The Pix key is shown at the bottom of the video, on the rotating blue banner, so you can send a Pix payment to my channel.

[00:05:20]Flávio Ricardo Vassolera. The Pix key is [email protected].

[00:05:28]I repeat, [email protected].

[00:05:35]Anyone in the YouTube chat can send a super sticker, which is a paid greeting, or a super chat, which is a paid question. And I will be very grateful to you. Also, visit the website www.universidad.com.br. Okay, everyone? Let's go then, folks. Listen, whoever hasn't been frustrated yet is either very, very, very young—and you have to be quite young to not have been frustrated yet, and even then, maybe not— or hasn't lived, or hasn't even been born yet, or at the very least, and that's it. The saddest part, the saddest facet of our lesson today, ended up in a mental hospital, folks, okay? There was a personality split to the point that this paranoia generated a psychosis, let's say, an idyllic, dreamlike projection, to the point, right, of the person, let's say, projecting this idealized self beyond themselves, outside of themselves, into the imaginary world, and compensating for all the pain, losses, all the frustrations inherent in human life.

[00:07:05]So, I'm even anticipating one of the outlets there, an outlet, by the way, a very sad one, of frustrations, which is psychosis, folks, it's madness, it's a personality split. But that's for last in our lesson today. Let's talk first about the dimension of frustration as an important benchmark for our experience in society.

[00:07:35]Folks, this is a very Freudian idea and it's an idea with which I agree.

[00:07:43]Living in society implies unease.

[00:07:46]Freud develops this idea in the essay Civilization and Its Discontents, because we cannot and should not We can't really do whatever we want, because if that were the case, there would be no life in society.

[00:08:02]Nobody would be able to leave home to buy 100g of ham at the bakery, right?

[00:08:09]People would be stepping over each other all the time.

[00:08:15]That's clear, isn't it? That aspect is quite noticeable.

[00:08:20]Now, the unease comes precisely from the need for castration.

[00:08:26]So, for Freud, frustration, which is a facet of unease, is the impossibility of fulfilling, I won't say all, but many of the desires we nurture.

[00:08:41]How are we going to deal with that? Look, it determines a lot of what will happen in our lives from now on, right?

[00:08:54]See, very spoiled, pampered children, who don't hear " no" from their parents, who don't hear " no" from their parents, are a serious risk within their own home, to their brothers and sisters, at school, to society.

[00:09:21]They are people who are candidates or have the potential for narcissism, for the instrumentalization of others, candidates. [The text is a jumbled collection of words and phrases, seemingly unrelated and nonsensical. A direct translation is impossible without context. It appears to be gibberish or garbled, possibly from a different source.] We certainly have a figure of that magnitude in the presidency of the United States today, right? The Nazi Donald Trump, a playboy who was certainly educated according to, or rather, miseducated according to, parameters very close to those I've been bringing to you here, okay? [snoring] Now, folks, uh, that being said, the "no's" aren't important, but who likes to be told "no"? Do you like it? I do. Nobody likes it, right?

[00:10:11]It's sad, it's hard. Oh, I want to eat chocolate, I can't. Oh, I want [snoring] to win the video game. There's no money, it's not possible.

[00:10:21]Nobody likes it. Do you like it? Nobody likes it, folks. Now, the dimension that frustration teaches boundaries, limits, possibilities and impossibilities, the notion that frustration can educate us profoundly in professional terms, educational terms, in friendships, in romantic relationships. That's fundamental, right?

[00:10:58]When we have, let's say, an idealized search for a partner, and The reality is profoundly different from that in terms of what a person wants or doesn't want to share with us.

[00:11:15]We insist, it's exhausting, it 's frustrating, just imagine, frustrating.

[00:11:22]And for a while, this is typical of stubborn, spoiled young people who want reality to kneel before them, we cling to this mold and say: "No, a relationship has to provide this, it has to bring this, this kind of sharing, this kind of emotion, this kind of love, and so on."

[00:11:46]It's possible that related things might happen to a lesser extent than imagined, but it's very possible that many of these things simply won't happen.

[00:12:02]And there comes a point, folks, if the person doesn't have the inclination to escape to Alice's Wonderland, to Peter Pan's Neverland, to, I don't know, Atlantis, to Utopia, to the wonderful chocolate factory, whatever escape route you want. The person will have to deal with the fact that perhaps that idealized mold... It doesn't exist.

[00:12:33]Okay?

[00:12:35]And this grief, the grief of a dream, people, it's terrible, is n't it?

[00:12:42]Many times we live for years, projecting what we would do when we got a certain job, passed a certain college entrance exam, married a certain person, and then when things are very different, even when it's achieved, the fall we take isn't easy, is it?

[00:13:06]But here's a point, right, to separate the wheat from the chaff. On one hand, we can talk about resignation/ reinterpretation, on the other, resentment.

[00:13:20]And resentment, people, is a prison, a dungeon for those who cannot adapt to the contrast with reality.

[00:13:36]People, I want to say the following: reality must always be thought of historically, socially, politically. Now, the thing is, I wouldn't want society to be like this.

[00:13:53]I have several feelings of, I would even say disgust, for the directions or misdirections of where the world is going. I I vehemently repudiate ignorance, lack of reading, consumerism, and lives worn down by more power and accumulation. I find all of that a complete abomination.

[00:14:26]And I try—those who follow my work know this, those who see Vassoler's travels also know this, those who have read my books know this, those who have taken the courses at Vassoler's Virtual University know this—to base my life on other values. Now, trying to do this, fighting to do this, doesn't imply that these abominations that I consider abominations don't exist. They exist, [snoring] unfortunately they are dominant. I need to deal with that.

[00:15:01]And if I want a different life, the bill, by the way, I'll put it, since we're here in this foolish and hideous capitalism, the bill to pay isn't cheap, it 's heavy. It's not cheap and it's heavy, right?

[00:15:16]Swimming against the tide isn't easy at all.

[00:15:19]And that's the point.

[00:15:21]I could, let's say, I'm using this example I'm giving, I could say like this: "No, what a load of rubbish!"

[00:15:28]The world is a mess, and it really is; society is garbage. People tend to act with a lot of selfishness, indifference, and little reciprocity.

[00:15:40]Everything I'm saying is quite feasible. But that's the point.

[00:15:49]If I keep going around in circles, resenting these issues, where will I get to? What am I going to do with this?

[00:16:00]What direction should I take with my life, which I really enjoy living? Not the life that this type of society proposes to me, but the life that I fought hard to build. And here 's an answer.

[00:16:15]It was not through resentment, but through a resigned reinterpretation, that I was able to try to find some other paths.

[00:16:29]For some people, this is going to be much more difficult than for others. Why?

[00:16:35]Lack of opportunity for study, right?

[00:16:38]A very humble background, oh, many difficulties, having to work much harder to survive than to pursue a vocation. Take my parents, for example, who were very, very poor and spent most of their lives working just to survive, you know?

[00:17:00]Now there are people who have eventually managed to get more stable jobs.

[00:17:06]Well, nowadays that's very rare, increasingly difficult, but I don't know, public employees, people who have been in a certain company or institution for a long time, who have managed to stabilize their lives more or less, and they cling to what they didn't do, to how life should be, whether professionally, emotionally, and so on.

[00:17:36]And when a person gets stuck in this quicksand of resentment, the more you move, the more you get swallowed up, the person doesn't realize that what they actually want is for the geocentric Ptolemaic system to remain. But the Earth is represented by the person's navel, so everyone else must orbit around it. This is the fall from the subsoil and memory of the subsoil.

[00:18:11]He's a resentful person par excellence, is n't he? It's the others who don't recognize me, it's the people who don't come to me, look, they don't perceive my intelligence.

[00:18:22]Thus speaks the man from the underground, Dastreves, they do not realize how brilliant I am, how intelligent I am. Then, when you look closer, you start reading between the lines, you start reading against the grain, and you realize, wow, this guy is really very intelligent, isn't he? He has eloquence, intellectual articulation, but why is he worried about going to a meeting of, quote, " very good friends," right? My friends, this term is self-explanatory, right? In other words, not friends. Why is he worried about going to a reunion with old school friends who used to mock him, people who don't respect his intellect, who despise him because he's not rich, because of this, because of that? Why does he want their approval?

[00:19:18]Why doesn't he break ties with these people? He will seek out meaningful friends, people who may share his values, who understand his complexities, and who know how to respect him.

[00:19:32]That's right, folks, you've certainly heard the expression "if you don't like it, leave." I have no doubt that you have already heard this expression.

[00:19:43]So, the underground man wants people who don't share his intellectual standards, people who don't respect his lower income level, he wants those people to respect him on his terms.

[00:20:02]So he wants to be the emperor of Rome while living in the gutter, living underground.

[00:20:08]Folks, he's a resentful person par excellence who, taken to the extreme, will create a world for himself.

[00:20:17]In my world, in Vassoler's world, there is the fantastic world of Bigman. Do you remember the world of Bigman? I loved that show on TV Cultura, at Vassoleir's wonderful chocolate factory, oh.

[00:20:31]Everyone loves to read.

[00:20:35]Nobody cares about cars, nobody cares about mansions. People care about poetry, literature, and the expression of subjectivity. This is the fantastic world of the vassoler. Does it actually exist? No, it doesn't exist.

[00:20:49]Unfortunately, it doesn't exist. And I won't see it in this lifetime.

[00:20:53]My life doesn't have to be a shopping mall anymore, and thank God, it never was, it isn't, and it won't be. But to do that, I had to understand where I'm not welcome.

[00:21:10]I had to distance myself from environments and people whose judgments are only detrimental to me, who have no way of understanding what is important to me. They don't want to understand, they despise, and so on, and vice versa, right? Just as I myself give it the contempt it deserves.

[00:21:30]What does that mean? Resignation prevents reinterpretation. It 's not resentment.

[00:21:39]Ah, Voler, but isn't there a connection between a certain degree of resentment and an aspect of resignation? Anyone who thinks like that, anyone who says that, has my respect. The person thought subtly, thought deeply.

[00:21:59]Guys, do you think I'm not bothered by the fact that society is such a mess? It's logical that I'm comfortable with that. Oh, I'm here in Budapest. Anyone who's been following Voler's travel videos has been seeing my latest wanderings.

[00:22:15]The city is wonderful, but only because of that fascist Viktor Orbán, a friend of Jair Bolsonaro, right? Hey, tell me who you hang out with, and I'll tell you who you are, right? So you'll see, right? He lost the last election. Today I went to a city that's almost like Budapest called Chentendré, which is Saint Andrew, right? You see, we're always coming back home. I'm always going back to my ABC Paulista region, even when I'm not in Brazil, right? A small town of 25,000 inhabitants, a 40-50 minute train ride from Budapest.

[00:22:48]I talked to people there, and they were really tearing Urban apart, saying he 's corrupt, that he disparaged Hungria and all that. Guys, Budapest is wonderful, but I've been making this observation in the videos. It's pretty much falling apart in several places, man. A city with palaces, a city with beautiful buildings, a city with the most beautiful skyline, the most beautiful riverside in Europe, which is the Danube, with that Parliament building.

[00:23:17]Unbelievable.

[00:23:20]Today I got off the train, returning from Shantendrê, and when I got off the train I was next to Buda, and I came face to face with the parliament on the other side of the river. What is that? The Hungarian Parliament building is the most beautiful one here.

[00:23:33]Well, I don't want to idealize a time when literature, the humanities, and essay writing had much more influence, but in fact, you know, I imagine that if I had lived in this city for a century, I would certainly have had a lot of participation with my books, with my writings in newspapers, magazines, and so on.

[00:23:56]Throughout my life, I've published various texts in various places, but it was during the time of audiovisual primacy, and within our own bubble here, that I truly explored more deeply, right? Because leaving the bubble, God forbid, for God's sake, right? So, what am I saying?

[00:24:15]I needed to understand how things worked in order to figure out what to do.

[00:24:24]And of course I'm talking about a personal case. Each and every one of you here can think about your own life. I dedicated myself wholeheartedly to my studies, since I chose to study the humanities, the social sciences, and then literature.

[00:24:43]I knew it would be difficult, especially considering my working-class background, and I said: "I'm going to try to be the best I can be in this field to increase my research opportunities, employment, survival, and everything else." I studied many languages. In other words, I tried, in sociological terms, to increase my cultural capital in order to convert it into a more worthy possibility of economic capital. Let's use these sociological terms here.

[00:25:18]This doesn't mean accepting the world as it is, but dialectically it also means that. That is, I need to, I 'll quote Marx and Engels in *The German Ideology*.

[00:25:33]People make history, but they don't make it as they please; they make it under given conditions.

[00:25:42]This reminds me, for example, of a wonderful book I read, let me see, more than 11 years ago, 11 and a half years ago. January of In 2015, I read a book called *The Principle of Hope*, by the great German philosopher and thinker, Ernest Bloch.

[00:26:03]The blog discussed something I'm translating here for you. It talked about the daydreamer.

[00:26:12]The nightdreamer is the underground man, the resentful one. The world isn't how I want it. What a mess.

[00:26:20]And I'll just keep lamenting and complaining, and I won't do anything. And doing nothing is simply blaming the world for everything I do n't do, right? For the actions I don't take, for the lack of strategy to guide my life, to find my way. I'll just keep complaining, grumbling, which may have its legitimacy, but there comes a time, folks, and then are we going to do something?

[00:26:47]Are we going to move towards where we're going?

[00:26:50]The nightdreamer might [snoring] have, let's say, a discharge of errors, of life drive, of pleasure, through a dream. So, for example, the guy is in love.

[00:27:05]In a dream, he platonically desires a girl; eventually, he sleeps with her, he finds fulfillment with her, but what about in reality? Or in reality, he needs to court her, he needs to conquer her, he needs to want her affection, isn't that right? To treat her with respect, with dignity, but the dream doesn't need to contrast with reality. That's the dungeon of the underground man. That's his prison.

[00:27:28]Now, the dreamer of the Uno, he needs to know where the jukebox is, where the music machine is. He needs to know how to buy a token to [clearing throat] put in the token and choose his music eventually.

[00:27:44]He needs to contrast with reality as it is given to try to do something. Of course, folks, the social, political, and economic injustices are brutal, and the levels from which people operate in society are very different, right? In a country like Brazil. So, we're talking about veritable Himalayas of difference, aren't we?

[00:28:07]Now, the dreamer of the Uno is the one who intertwines with reality, the one who goes all the way to... The world. And so, folks, each one of us will discover not only how far we can go, how far we're able to go, but what we want to do, right? There are adaptations and adaptations.

[00:28:24][snoring] I'll tell you half the story. I 'll tell the mass, but I won't tell you the priest, as I always do. I published many, many texts in the state of São Paulo, in Veja magazine, Folha de São Paulo, Carta Capital, Piauí magazine, I published in several publications and even abroad.

[00:28:45]Two of my texts, which makes me very happy, were translated from Portuguese to Russian and published in Russian newspapers, texts that I wrote in Russia about Russia, about Dastevski.

[00:28:59]Well, I'm not going to say which publication asked me for a text, an important publication in Brazil, and I was happy, wow, that's great, I'm going to write a text for this publication. I will never say which publication it is. Never. Don't even bother asking here because you wo n't know, okay? It would be totally unethical of me to do that.

[00:29:27]Hey, thanks to Maurício Simplic and Simpliciano who sent a super sticker and supports my work.

[00:29:36]Flávio Ricardo Vassoler. Thank you very much, Maurício. A hug to you, my friend. So, the thing was, the amount I was going to receive for the text was important to me, it was a good amount and I was excited. I had the theme, I mean, the person invited me to write the text and I suggested a theme.

[00:29:56]We were dialoguing, the theme was very interesting to me, I had a lot of knowledge about the theme and I was used to a lot of editorial freedom. I want to send a hug to Antônio Gonçalves Filho and André Cárceres, who were my editors in the state of São Paulo, in the Caderno section, by the way. Look, a sensational partnership with them. I want to send a big hug to them. I miss our literary partnership at Estadão.

[00:30:25]But in that place, whose name I will never mention, I realized the following, damn, man, I would send the text, and then the guy who was working as an editor would... It would stay, it would chop up, it would change. In the end, I understood that the guy was a huge resentful person who wanted to write on top of the text written by the writer. I mean, the guy would call, invite, but then he's the one who's going to write and go over your idea and change it this way, send it that way. Damn it.

[00:30:59]Then I thought to myself, " Never again."

[00:31:04]Come on, let's go. I'm a professional, I'm going to finish the text, the guy is cutting it up, slicing it.

[00:31:10]Look, I'll get paid for the text, it's my job, but, hey, I don't want to either.

[00:31:14]So, that's my limit.

[00:31:17]This attempt to compose myself, to give new meaning to society, is so important to my life that there are certain things that, without many limits, I won't do. There is no possible adaptation, because if you tolerate my way of expressing myself, that's why I value so much my YouTube channel Flávio Ricardo Vassoler and the Vassoler Virtual University, especially through which I teach the most in-depth classes I am capable of. We have already had 55 literary courses. Episode 56 will begin this Saturday with Dastevski Harari, because I have a lot of freedom, folks. I can say what I think, I express myself. I've never [clearing throat] had this kind of freedom anywhere I've worked, even when I had some freedom or reasonable freedom.

[00:32:08]So, folks, this is resignation given a new meaning, or resigned reinterpretation. You understand how far you can go, your own limits, and you try to maneuver around them.

[00:32:21]Guys, are the maneuvers I do all the ones I'd like to do, or not?

[00:32:29]But the time came for me to deal with it and say, "Look, I don't accept it, but at the same time I have to accept it."

[00:32:33]Did you notice the game, the contradictory, dialectical, even paradoxical game?

[00:32:39]The conditions, the rules weren't created by me, but I can try to use my effort, perseverance, my abilities, my study, my care to maneuver in the good sense of the maneuver to do, look, I'm going to talk about topics like this, this is a live broadcast on a topic called " cold agenda," and these are the topics I like the most. Why?

[00:33:10]Because they are significant. Those who attend classes like this become intellectually emancipated. It's not just about analyzing the latest bombshell news on the hottest topics.

[00:33:24]A person never becomes emancipated if they need an intellectual to do the analysis for them. The teacher always wants the students, both male and female, to gradually learn to see things with their own eyes over time.

[00:33:39]Well, folks, the resentful person is the one who ends up imprisoned. Now, being paranoid is crazy, right?

[00:33:50]Oh, you see? I couldn't achieve that because they persecuted me, because they plotted against me.

[00:33:59]Is Voler saying that this is impossible? No, but there's always an explanation along those lines.

[00:34:07]I once met a young woman—I'm not going to say her name, obviously—and she came to tell me a story about how she ended up not defending her master's thesis because her advisor was harassing her. it happens. Unfortunately, there are reports of this, okay?

[00:34:33]But then, folks, [snoring] I was a columnist many years ago for a portal, whose name I won't mention.

[00:34:46]And then I had an idea to say, let's write a text together. Do you study the subject and know it well? Oh, let's go, let's write this text together. Will you enjoy publishing this text? It can open doors for you, you can introduce yourself.

[00:35:04][snoring] Then she started to equivocate, to procrastinate.

[00:35:10]No, let's have a drink tonight, we'll write in a bit. No, not in a little while. Okay, so here's the thing, folks.

[00:35:16][laughs] With me, it's like this: let's do it.

[00:35:22]In fact, if I say I'm going to do one, folks, this isn't, there's no false modesty here. If I say I'm going to do something, that thing will be done. If it does n't happen, it's because of a force majeure event.

[00:35:33]With me, the business here is seriousness. I remember Muricy Ramalho, the coach of São Paulo, back when he was the coach of São Paulo, people would ask him and say: "So you just want work, son? Well, with me it 's like this: credibility for me is commitment, punctuality, and delivering the results that are expected of you." That's it for me.

[00:35:58]Sedative, right? I said, "No, so-and-so, let's go."

[00:36:04]We sat there, side by side, at home, and we decided to write.

[00:36:10]First we had a discussion, a brainstorming session, and I took note of some of the points she was making. I said, "Let's go."

[00:36:17]And when it came time to write, folks, the girl just froze, froze, froze. He said that she even used a funny expression, a sad sound at the end, but funny, saying that her brain looked like pâté.

[00:36:33]The moment I saw that she wasn't able to—or rather, wasn't she even thinking—she had good ideas, but she couldn't organize them to write the text. And it was a text, I don't know, an article, an essay, it wasn't long.

[00:36:49]I said, "My God, imagine this in a dissertation, what was she doing? It's my advisor's fault. It can happen, I repeat, it can. There are scandalous cases we hear about. Wait a minute, I see this person can't organize themselves to write a text. What is this?

[00:37:08]Try writing it like a dissertation. And she's a very well-educated person, by the way. Okay, folks?

[00:37:15]Then, folks, there's that person—I'm not saying who this woman is, there are countless cases— there's the person who is like this, the person is a genius, a genius greater than Dastevs who hasn't written a single line. Why? No, because it's all in my head. If you don't know, I already know everything, I'm already hearing everything.

[00:37:35]The [snoring] person is better than Pelé, but has never been called up even for a local team, or to play boating, and so on.

[00:37:45]It can happen, folks, to have an inherent enjoyment of the impossibility of experiencing frustration.

[00:37:53]And this inherent enjoyment can...to crack the personality.

[00:37:58]This is the case, for example, in Dastevski's novel *The Double*, where Galiadkin, the main character, ends up having a double of himself. [clearing throat] Is it real? Is it real? But the fact is that all the characteristics, all the characteristics he would like to have, the double has.

[00:38:26]Ah, Vassoler, look at that, right? Uh, uh, everyone, if you ask anyone, including you, Vassoler, everyone would like to be A, B, O, C, T, D, E, F. It's true.

[00:38:44]But between "would like," the future perfect, and the present indicative, there is a distance that is sometimes insurmountable.

[00:38:52]Some things are surmountable, overcome, circumventable, others are not.

[00:39:01]A person who, in a constantly dynamic balance, will be able to move forward in life without becoming resentful in this whirlwind of resentment, is the person who will be able to carry the stones not only of what they did, but of what they did, without To achieve what one would have liked to have done, and also what one couldn't do, whether due to injustices suffered, or even one's own inability to get organized, and for countless other reasons.

[00:39:37]These cases [snoring] are more pathological, more psychopathological, very serious, right? They certainly generate our pity, our dismay.

[00:39:52]Often, right? Parents project everything they would have liked to have done onto their children, and because they heard from their own parents that they couldn't, they pass this on, and it becomes a gruesome situation, almost where the person doesn't have the possibility of believing in themselves and detaching themselves from their own reality to create this phantom, this idealized self, to say, " Yes, I can do anything."

[00:40:26]So, in this class, I thought about three outlets, three paths to deal with frustrations, right? The most, the one that seems most satisfactory to me, is resignation, and the other is re-signification, which is difficult, sad, implies sincerity with oneself, implies crying. Even so, it implies regret.

[00:40:52]He says: "Okay, but where am I going?" "To do that thing of getting up, dusting yourself off, and turning things around." Okay, but where do I turn things around and go?

[00:41:03]It can take a very long time.

[00:41:05]It's complicated.

[00:41:06]There's resentment, it's a terrible dungeon. My God, what a sad thing, my God.

[00:41:15]And persecutory paranoia. Oh, oh, folks, that's resentment, the 30th power of man, as described by Galiadskin, to stay within Dastevski's own work, right?

[00:41:31]So, folks, uh [snoring] reflect on this.

[00:41:37]These things aren't watertight, okay? A person can have made an important reinterpretation and still, from time to time, lament something that didn't happen in their life the way they wanted.

[00:41:53]If this comes occasionally, makes the person cry, and then the person laments with a friend, but says: "Come on, hang in there, let's go, everything's alright, I don't see any problem in that sense." Now, if the person becomes paralyzed, if If a person can't work, if they start resorting to subterfuge, drugs, sugar, uh, I don't know, whatever the hell they're talking about, I wo n't even mention Bets, right? God forbid. All those horrible things, it's a very serious matter, isn't it, folks? Do you understand? And resentment, folks, that paralyzed person, right?

[00:42:38]That person in the eye of the storm, in quicksand, and can't get out. And another one who's in paranoia, that one won't get out. It's not that they can't get out, they don't even want to. They're in their own world. The marvelous chocolate factory.

[00:42:58]It's the Pasárgada of our beloved Manuel Bandeira's poem. Let's go there, I am the king's son. [snoring] That 's a desire, something that won't happen, right?

[00:43:11]But the guy can, man, once I met a person, a person who wanted to open a business, so the person, you know, was slowly, very slowly, studying for the business of this person whose name I won't mention, whose name I also won't mention. I'll mention it.

[00:43:35][snoring] Then I approached this person and started giving them a reality check. I said, "Look, so-and-so, you ca n't just sit there with textbooks and theory, you have to make contacts, you're going to open a business, who are you going to sell to?" Have you already calculated the costs, have you already looked at the location where you're going to open the business? You have to make contacts. " That's what you call networking."

[00:44:02]Then the person would tell me: "It's not going to happen." I'm already overjoyed when I think about what's going to work out. I said, "My God, the person is anticipating something that hasn't even been compared to reality yet."

[00:44:14]Look, [snoring] folks, I've met people like that, and there have been quite a few in this literary and artistic world, man, damn, sometimes someone calls you, wow, but also, well, nowadays that doesn't happen anymore, like, look here, this one isn't the brother of this one, he's not a brother, he's this one's identical twin brother, look. That brother of his, I start listening, and I get it really quickly, I get it. But [snoring] there was a time when, for example, I had a friend many years ago, I hope he's doing very well in his life, may God bless him, but I was achieving the things that I fought for to happen and the person was involved in several projects, which at first seemed interesting. Then we would see if they could be implemented or not.

[00:45:08]Then the person would dust it off.

[00:45:11]That's when I started to understand that the person there liked the sandcastle, not reality. Do you understand, guys? You would talk, you would encourage the person, saying, " Go ahead, be consistent with your work," back in the blog days, "Publish every week," now on the YouTube channel, " Go ahead, make videos, do this, do that." The person lacks discipline and perseverance. Why? Wait, it's not the world that revolves around me, it's me who revolves around the world. People often can't admit it, can they?

[00:45:46]Look at how difficult it is to deal with frustration, when in the imagination it 's Caligula, it's the emperor, right? Okay, everyone. This reflection, I repeat, right? She's coming, I'm looking here at the email that Soraia Viváqua sent me with the text by João Pereira Coutinho, which was published in Folha de São Paulo, a text that, oh, I received this email the day before yesterday, it's a text that was published on the 18th, on Sunday, right? And that? Sunday, Sunday or Saturday, I don't know, folks. I think it was on Sunday or Saturday. So, thank you very much to Sora Vivaca for sending me this text suggestion. I read it, but I didn't focus on the entire text here, but there are a few topics from the text that we can discuss, right? Because, folks, look, we can be victims of injustice, and a large part of humanity is.

[00:46:49]And so, in social, political, and economic terms, there are now situations and people who haven't gone through this, who bear some responsibility for what happened or didn't happen in their own lives, who can't get involved and therefore resort to subterfuge.

[00:47:09]What was it like? We had a friend who had the opportunity to study at good schools, but when he took the USP entrance exam, it was because there was an ice cream vendor honking his horn in front of the school where he was taking the test. That's right, is n't it?

[00:47:24]I remember taking, I think, two bottles of water to the college entrance exam. It was hot.

[00:47:31]In my day, the FUVEST exam was in November or December. I didn't even remember those bottles existed. It was here, practically one with the exam, as if it had merged with the exam.

[00:47:45]What's going on, guys? It's a plate of food, right?

[00:47:50]But there you have it, folks. This was the topic I wanted to discuss with you in this live class with Vassoleira. I ask that you like this video, share it on social media so that we can engage with more and more people. Below the video, you'll find a " Become a Member" button. You can become humanist members of the channel. There's also a "thanks" button so you can make a financial contribution, okay? Just below the video, on the rotating blue banner, is the Pix key so you can make a Pix payment to my channel.

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