Body Shaming MIL Crossed the Line Before the Wedding

Added: 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]They had driven all the way to the courthouse, but neither of them could get out of the car. While trying on dresses, my ex-mother-in-law kept comparing my body to hers. Hi guys, welcome to my new office. We're still figuring some things out here, but I think it's I think it's coming along. We got a new rug. This is my desk where I can hopefully do YouTube videos and the podcast. We're going to see how sound works.

[00:00:25]Um starting to gather all my accessories over there. I still have to hang up some stuff on the wall. Some things are still getting shipped, but I'm very excited because I have a lot more space here and I can make it just my office space and I can create some content in here for you guys. So, lots more to come, but especially I just wanted to share that I'm going to be very real in this episode. Um hair's not been washed in 2 or 3 days, so you're going to get some flyaways here. Look at that fun.

[00:00:52]And I don't even know. I don't even know I put this shirt on this morning, but who knows what's going on with it. Um so yeah, just a little a little behind the scenes realness.

[00:01:03]Enjoy and little by little we'll be making a little more progress to this room. Okay. Hi guys, welcome back to another week of me reacting to your wedding stories. The good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between. As you can see, I'm in my new office here, so we're trying some things out. There's a lot I still need to add and a lot I need to change, but I'm excited to be here.

[00:01:24]Way more space to create content. If you guys didn't know before, my bedroom, my office, everything was like all in one room. We had a two-bedroom with a toddler, so there was a lot of in and out, plus I was keeping my husband out of our room at all times. So, this is just a much better scenario. I plan on sharing a lot more of the process of setting up my office and just little details here and there, if you guys care. But I think this will also ultimately help me create better content and skits because I can clear my head and like actually leave, you know, the areas where they belong, if that makes sense. That all being said, I am so excited to dive into some wedding drama submissions that you guys have sent me.

[00:02:04]It has been about a week, no, probably longer than a week since that. So, let's dive in. Because it's been so long, we are going to do two stories today. So, let's get into them. Like I said, give me some grace here. I feel like a week, over a week, I like forget how to do things. I was like setting up my camera and I was like, how do I do this? How does sound work? So, um praying that this all works and the sound works okay.

[00:02:29]Here we go. Story number one. The topic is I set up a surprise wedding for her.

[00:02:34]My step-sister had a surprise baby with a co-worker when they were both pretty young. At first, they were on terrible terms, but when the baby was around 2 to 3 years old, they decided to give it a shot and started dating. Eventually, they moved in together and had a second baby about a year later. Wow, okay.

[00:02:52]Co-worker, interesting. Their relationship, though, was always rocky.

[00:02:56]They would break up every few months, then get back together like nothing happened. Around the time their second baby was born, he secretly proposed. She didn't tell her family right away because, honestly, they were so on and off that it didn't feel real. Over the years, she gave the ring back multiple times and had to earn it back just as many. Okay, that's a little weird to me.

[00:03:21]And I don't know, like again, I'm not a relationship expert, we know this and I will never ever claim to be, but when you're on and off that many times and then you have to earn your ring back, like that's I don't know, maybe therapists can chime in, but I would say that's probably not a foundation for a good and healthy marriage. Finally, after years of this cycle, they decide to go to the courthouse and make it official. She told everyone they were going and later said they signed the papers and were officially married. The whole family was excited because it felt like something that would never actually happen. A traditional wedding wasn't in their budget, so they figured just getting legally married was enough for now and maybe they'd celebrate later. My sister was a little bummed she wouldn't have a wedding, but she understood. Then enters her sister-in-law. Here we go. She's in her mid-30s in a long-term relationship with a guy who doesn't want kids or marriage, even though she very much wants both. See, this I would also argue, before you take the next step, you need to make sure you are on the same page. Marriage and kids is a huge decision to make in your life. And if you're both not on the same page, waiting till after marriage, well, if there's no marriage then, I guess that won't happen, but waiting until after marriage, especially, like to decide on kids is not the right time. You have to know ahead of time like what do we both want for our future? Do we want kids? Do we not want kids? We want Do we have a goal of a certain amount? What happens if we find out we can't have children?

[00:04:51]You know, just different things like that that you should just discuss ahead of time. Again, I'm not a relationship expert, but I've seen therapists talk about it, so Again, therapists, chime in. When she heard my sister was sad about not having a wedding, she reached out to my mom and said she was planning a surprise wedding for her. Oh, is that good or bad? I'm going to lean towards bad cuz we had that skit about the surprise wedding and not the best. Different scenario, but still I would argue a bride should never be surprised by her own wedding. She had already started planning everything, decorations, set up, cake, even a dress she planned to put her in. My mom was completely shocked. While it sounded like a nice gesture on the surface, none of the details matched anything my sister would have wanted. My mom tried to gently talk her out of it or at least delay it and managed to convince her to postpone the idea for a few months. But then, a few months later, my sister came to visit my parents and was acting really off. My mom kept asking if she was okay and eventually she broke down.

[00:05:59]Turns out, they never signed the papers.

[00:06:04]I had a feeling this was going to happen. When it said like the family was so excited and they like just like accepted it that this is this was going to happen, I had this weird feeling that they never actually signed the papers.

[00:06:15]It says, they had driven all the way to the courthouse, but neither of them could get out of the car. Meaning, I think they both knew it was wrong. Like it wasn't the right move for them. They both knew it wasn't right and it wasn't what they truly wanted. But since she had already told everyone they were getting married, she didn't want to face the embarrassment of calling it off again. So, she just went along with the lie.

[00:06:42]Oh, no.

[00:06:44]Now she's trying to build up the courage to tell everyone the truth. Meanwhile, my mom is preparing to gently let the sister-in-law know that she might need to find a way to use or sell all the wedding decorations she's been collecting because it's definitely been longer than the 30-day return window.

[00:07:05]This is wild. Sorry, I know I say that word all the time, but so now the one sister never got married because she realized like we want a bigger wedding of our own. It's just not right for us to do it this way. We want something different. Meanwhile, this sister over here is like, I'm going to plan a surprise wedding for them, which don't ever plan a surprise wedding. This is not good. And the fact that she's buying all these wedding decorations and planning all these events and even getting her a dress is just super odd to me. I know it sounds like she's really excited about having her own wedding, but at the end of the day, you can't surprise someone with their own wedding.

[00:07:42]Oh my gosh, that's where it ends? So, I think this is ongoing right now. So, we need to figure out what I mean, a sister hasn't even told everyone yet that this happened or that they didn't get married yet. So, she tells the sister-in-law she's revealing the secret of the sister and breaking her trust. But at the same time, the sister-in-law was already told not to do it. She told to postpone it, told to push it back. So, at the end of the day, it's kind of on her for not listening.

[00:08:16]That's just me. But can you imagine she plans this whole wedding, which I don't even know how one person's planning it.

[00:08:22]Maybe she has help with someone. She puts together this whole event. Hey, she'll put this place, blah blah blah blah blah, and then they're like, what is this? We're not doing this. Like we're actually not married.

[00:08:33]Wild. Oh my gosh. Okay, story number two.

[00:08:37]So, my ex-husband and I eloped first and then had a wedding that my ex-mother-in-law put on for us. Here's where everything starts. After almost 11 months of planning, the drama really began when I started standing up for myself, especially since my ex didn't help at all. My ex-mother-in-law, her aunt, my sister, and I went wedding dress shopping since we were getting married on the beach. While trying on dresses, my ex-mother-in-law kept comparing my body to hers. No. That makes me so angry for her. Just don't compare bodies. Everybody comes in different shapes and sizes and they are all beautiful. Like stop. That's not okay. She was saying my body wasn't like hers and that we needed something that would make her look smaller. For context, I'm a plus-size bride. So, the mother-in-law is saying we need something to make you look smaller. Your body's not like mine. Like gross. No, get out of here with that. At one point, she suggested I just go to Ross, buy a white dress, and DIY my wedding dress. I tried on this beautiful off-the-shoulder lace dress that was in my price range and it even had a slit. I loved it. But then my ex-mother-in-law said it made me look broader and bigger than I was and that if I lost a little weight, it would help.

[00:09:53]No. No, I I I I don't care what year this was or when this happened. This is never okay. Never comment on someone else's body. Don't tell people they need to be smaller. Don't tell people compare your body to theirs. At that moment, I would stop asking her for help. I would stop involving this person. And I don't obviously know if this was the reason, but the fact that she's saying ex-mother-in-law, there was a lot of issues with other stuff. This could have been one of the reasons. Because someone like that's going to constantly compare you and constantly try to control you or make themselves feel better. My aunt, my sister, and even the bridal consultant just looked at her. The consultant, by the way, was completely on my side and said I looked amazing. But then, my ex-mother-in-law added, "Well, she was a size six when she met my son. So Oh my Again, not your issue. Bodies change.

[00:10:50]Bodies change. We had a scale of all the up and down I've had since meeting my husband. It it just it keeps going.

[00:10:57]Bodies just change at different stages of our lives, and people should not be making comments like that. Obviously, he's marrying her because he loves her and it doesn't bother him, so it should not bother the mother-in-law. After trying on several dresses, I finally found the one. It was on sale for $399, originally $1,600, and I had that bridal moment every bride dreams of. But of course, she said it was too expensive.

[00:11:23]$400? Was the mother-in-law paying for it? Like Either way, like that's a very affordable, cheap wedding dress. Even though I was ready to do the payment plan, she told me I needed to consider alterations and said I might gain more weight. What is up with this mother-in-law? She's got her own issues with her body if she's going to keep saying comments like that. I ended up leaving without the dress, but I also left realizing she just wanted to control me and I was done. We went out to lunch afterward and I was just trying to enjoy it, but she made another comment saying if I ate less pasta and more healthy foods, I would lose weight.

[00:11:59]I'd be done. Like sorry, I don't want you to hang out with me. I don't want you to eat with me. I don't want you to come to the wedding until you can about my weight. Thank you. I told her, "I'm on vacation and I'm going to eat what I want." Whether you're on vacation or not, you should be able to eat what you want. For context, I started gaining weight after I was already married to her son, who is very much a mama's boy.

[00:12:19]She got mad that we told him what was going on, and that was the only time he ever stood up for me. After that, she stopped speaking to me completely.

[00:12:28]Whenever we visited, she would portion out my food.

[00:12:34]Stop. This is disgusting behavior. And she even told my sister-in-law, who I'm close with, that I needed to lose weight if I wanted to have kids. I could not.

[00:12:44]Like for the most part, I'm an easygoing people pleaser, but when someone mentions stuff like that, like comments on weight, body, you need to lose weight, you need to do this, I will bite back. This I would never This is not okay in any shape or sense of the way.

[00:13:00]When it came time for the wedding, I ordered my dress off Amazon. I found a beautiful sky blue off-the-shoulder ball gown and I fell in love with it. I sent in my measurements and it was delivered to my ex-mother-in-law's house. I don't know if that was on accident, but I would not want to do that. I showed my aunt instead because I didn't trust my ex-mother-in-law at all. My aunt loved it and told me even if it were black, you'd look beautiful in anything. The day before my wedding, I went to set up the venue with all the decorations. I made everything myself. The only things I didn't DIY were the cake and my hair and makeup. The day of the wedding, I got ready completely by myself at the venue because my ex-mother-in-law didn't want me getting ready at her house. I was up at 6:00 a.m., got to the venue by 7:30, and the wedding wasn't until 2:00 p.m. I was alone the entire time until my adopted family showed up early. None of them have ever met before, but my mother-in-law had already built quite a reputation for herself, and not a good one. Yeah. Yeah, I'm not surprised by that. She's a narcissist and really only wanted the wedding because my family was there when we eloped. The wedding itself actually went pretty well. My aunt and cousins brought me drinks from the bar downstairs in the restaurant since my mother-in-law didn't want alcohol upstairs. Mother-in-law is so controlling, she's got to go. It was a great time until the end of the night when I was just ready to go to sleep.

[00:14:17]We've now been divorced for 2 years. I later found out my ex-husband had been having affairs through our 4-year marriage. This poor woman. Like she goes through this marriage with a terrible mother-in-law who comments disgusting things about her body, her weight, all these things to stay with a guy that has multiple affairs.

[00:14:41]I am so sorry to this woman that sent this in. I'm honestly just happy I got out. Now I found the man of my dreams, we're engaged, and I'm a stepmom to his boys. I love your stories and would love to see this one come to life. You can totally add anything to I know you'd make an amazing skit out of it. Ooh.

[00:14:59]This would be actually a really good skit. I got some ideas. All right, guys, let me know what you think about these wild stories. I'm shocked. I'm shocked, but I think the second one would be make a really good skit. So we might have to do that. All right, guys, thanks for hanging out with me. Hopefully next week I'll have some more decorations behind me. Who knows what this office will be, but I'm very excited. Again, just give me some grace as I figure out new spots for filming, new timing, and all that good stuff. But that's all I got. I'll see you next time. Bye now.