Anxious-Avoidant vs. Anxious-Preoccupied: The Push-Pull #shorts

Added: 2026-05-19

[00:00:00]Absolutely. So, you know, when a when an anxious avoidant person feels overwhelmed and they need to withdraw, the anxious [snorts] preoccupied person is like, "What the actual heck?" Right.

[00:00:09]Reactive. And it like really spikes their fear, and so then they pursue, they're hypervigilant, they're like, "Please soothe me. I am like so scared, especially the one who can't self-soothe, right?"

[00:00:22]>> They're like really, really like going after it. And the anxious avoidant is like, "Holy moly, I can't do this. This is >> Right. way too much, and it's the exact opposite of what I what I generally prefer." And also like my fear about needing to comfort you and be responsible for you and meet all your needs right now is so high. I can't do this. I got to I got to go. And like a lot of this is largely unconscious.