Dating Has Become Like Applying For A Job And Men Are Done

Added: 2026-06-04

[00:00:00]36% of dating app users are just playing games on their phone, basically. Another crazy thing about these dating apps, the higher match like numbers, the more matches that you get, it increases partner choice overload. It's that spikes anxiety and indecision. So, basically the better that you do on these dating apps, the less likely you're actually going to find someone.

[00:00:25]>> Yo, what is going on, guys? Got a great video for you here today on when dating becomes applying. So, men know these days, guys, dating absolutely sucks. It feels like you're essentially applying for a job, completely unenjoyable to men. Let's jump in. Let's talk about it.

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[00:00:45]>> So, dating and applying for a job are two totally different things, right? So, why is it that they kind of feel the same now? Like, is it normal the way that we date today where it feels like I'm selling myself? Where it feels like if I make one false step, then it's back to the lobby for me, bro? Like, >> It is absolutely not normal, by the way.

[00:01:05]Like, dating has always been a transaction. Let's be honest about it, guys. It has always been, as a man in particular, you really have to provide something or else people will not care about you. But, in recent years, it has gotten very damn harsh and the standards from women are completely ridiculous.

[00:01:22]>> Like, even if I don't make a false step, I could still go back to the lobby?

[00:01:27]The world is obviously changing, and with that change comes a different way of dating and meeting new people. So, I want to talk about the consequences of that. Before I get into that, I just want to remind you guys something that I feel like I'm constantly reminding myself as this is happening, as the entire world seems to become more and more online, what hasn't changed is that the best opportunities still come from real life, real networks, not social networks. Like, you already know that that job you're applying for on LinkedIn is going to little Stevie because his mom works at the company. And it's kind of like the same [ __ ] with dating. You talk to older people, the way you used to meet was in real life through mutual friends.

[00:02:10]Because that instantly would say it's like, all right, we're similar in some way. You're not going to murder me, I'm not going to murder you. We know the same people, right? Like look at this chart. That was the method for years and years and years. All of a sudden >> And just by the way, the fact that people used to meet this way back in the day, or at least more so, um this used to function as like a check and balance against terrible female behavior. So, for example, back in the day, if you meet a woman through family and friends and everybody is socially connected and you have a community, for example, what's going to happen is if that woman engages in terrible behavior, like I don't know, hooking up with 35 dudes in your local area, for example, she's going to get socially punished for that by the friends, by the family, by the people she knows in school or church or college or whatever the case may be, neighbors, all of that sort of thing.

[00:03:02]But these days, because everything is kind of, you know, behind the curtains of social media, like women can just slide into some dudes' DMs that they find attractive, which, you know, they frequently will do.

[00:03:13]Um like none of this is actually holding people accountable, specifically women, anymore.

[00:03:18]So, this is a this is actually a huge problem. And the thing is, as a man, if you're out there dating, often times, man, is like you won't know just how bad the behavior is.

[00:03:28]Uh women will always leave clues, but typically they're going to lie to you about it.

[00:03:32]>> people, right? Like look at this chart.

[00:03:34]That was the method for years and years and years. All of a sudden, it's not happening. The reason I'm bringing this up now, it's like it's just important to remember that is still the move. Uh it's like a muscle that we need to all develop more, you know? I I feel like I'm I'm trying to What's it called when you don't use a muscle for a long time?

[00:03:52]You get like muscle atrophy. I feel like that's what the internet does to you if you let it. And you know, I'm not going to sit here and act like meeting someone outside is like this walk in the park either cuz it's just not. I don't know if it's cuz I just got so used to using the internet for this stuff like where you weirdly already know about each other before you even meet up or if it's just because I'm a [ __ ] but approaching in real life feels terrifying these days. Uh but >> Yeah, so the reason why it feels terrifying or perhaps maybe a better way of phrasing it is like you shouldn't do it um is because men are actively punished for approaching women these days. Okay, so men have actually kind of developed this self-protection where we say, "Well, I don't want to approach a woman."

[00:04:39]And the reason for that is because maybe you don't want to lose your job for example. Maybe you don't want to be accused of something you didn't do.

[00:04:47]Maybe you don't want to be accused of a creep or face social repercussions, that sort of thing.

[00:04:52]I've said this on videos many times over guys, but women have made it very clear in recent years that they don't want men approaching them. When they complain about men not approaching them, they're typically referring to the men that they find highly attractive. In fact, they are. That is who they are referring to.

[00:05:09]So, the reason why a lot of dudes these days are really averse to approaching is because it can be very punishing. And it doesn't mean that, you know, all women are going to treat you that way or all women are going to just completely brutalize your life. The problem is if it does happen, it is very severe. Like no dude wants to risk his livelihood talking to a woman. Even if there's even if you want to come and say, "Oh, well, there's a low chance she accuses you of anything." The problem is that women can and it's actually very effective and they don't even need to prove anything.

[00:05:40]You can be totally in the clear, doesn't matter, you can still lose your job.

[00:05:45]And that's that's a huge problem for men, man. That is a People joke about this. They try and shame men into still doing it and calling us cowards and all of that stuff, but like this stuff represents a really large risk to men and I don't think it can be overlooked.

[00:05:59]>> is going to be beneficial for me in not just dating but in anything. But again, it's not this like walk in the park, especially with dating apps. Like you already know something about this person. You already basically are familiar with each other where in real life you go up to talk to someone like you're going in blind. Like the other night I was talking to this girl and you know, I'm like, all right, this isn't going too bad uh until you know, she just randomly goes, oh yeah, I'm actually like a witch. I almost spit my drink out because I thought she was joking and she wasn't. She's like, yeah, like I like to do seances and stuff.

[00:06:37]Like I really enjoy them and um I'm into crystals and in >> Do I even need to say anything about this, man? Like this is a Dating, how fun. Talk talking to women, guys. Talking to, you know, the opposite gender in a dating context. So exciting. I think a lot of guys would hear that and just See, this is the problem, right? This this This is why these women are like losing to video games. Is men like they go out, they have these conversations. Maybe the woman replies back and forth and then she just tells you some stuff and it's like, man, maybe I should have been playing World of Warcraft instead. You know, maybe if I was just playing the newest expansion and leveling the new demon hunter spec, we wouldn't have this issue of me finding out that you're a witch, for example. Now, obviously I'm making a joke here, guys, but like this this is this kind of crap will just instantly repulse a lot of guys.

[00:07:39]You know what I mean?

[00:07:40]>> In my head I'm like, okay, so this is a witch that I'm talking to right now.

[00:07:46]This is over. Like, goodbye." Keep in mind, like, this is a New York City dive bar, so the likelihood of her being a witch from, like, Bushwick at a New York City dive bar is you're starting off at, like, 15% at least.

[00:07:59]>> This poor guy lives in New York City.

[00:08:03]Man, I tell you what, every time I've done videos where, you know, I'm like breaking down female behavior or something or a video that's been posted and the woman is from New York, I'm like bracing myself because usually it's going to be a lot worse, right?

[00:08:19]Like, the the I think the quality of women in the liberal cities, you know, they're simply not as appealing to guys. Like, they have um a lot of problems over there. We'll just put it nicely and we'll just leave it at that. A lot of problems in New York City from what I've seen.

[00:08:36]>> Right. Uh but even with an interaction like this with a literal witch, I just feel like, I don't know, I feel like there's more XP from even stupid [ __ ] like that than there is, you know, from swiping on Hinge and just sending a bunch of messages.

[00:08:51]Obviously, that's a bad example, but even in a situation like that, I still think it's good to develop these, uh you know, muscles of trying to meet people in real life instead of just being one of a thousand messages in her Hinge app.

[00:09:07]>> I do agree with this guy, by the way.

[00:09:08]Like, you know, as a as a dude, you're going to have a higher likelihood of success um in real life as opposed to online.

[00:09:17]Obviously, the competition online is completely ridiculous. Women are going to judge you far more quickly. Um maybe you're not a guy who's fantastic at presenting yourself. Like, you can be a dude who is highly attractive and you're tall and you've got a great job and all that sort of stuff. But, let's be real. A lot of men don't really care about presenting themselves well on social media, which is totally fine, by the way. Like, I'm not saying that men have to give a damn about that. But, the thing is you know, you're probably going to have an easier time in real life. The problem comes back to approaching, though. And the fact is, there's a lot of risk for men when they do that.

[00:09:50]>> You know what I mean? But, that's not even what I'm talking about today. I'll stop pretending like it's 1975 and I'll be real for a second because even if you don't use these apps, if you're around my age, like the chances that you have either LinkedIn, Hinge, Instagram on your phone are obviously high. But, even if you don't have them, they're so ingrained into society at this point that they'll still have an impact on your life. I'm realizing all these apps are the same [ __ ] >> Yeah, I can't wait to go out there and start dating a woman because I, you know, I meet her in real life, things go really well, and then, you know, she some Chad just messages her on Instagram and she pieces out. And people like say that's ridiculous, but this is the case these days, man. It's like women get so many options online that it actually just really harms the ability for people to date. And women actually think that they have a lot more options than they actually do. They typically can't differentiate between a man who just wants to have fun and a relationship with them. Like, it seems like this, you know, it's like this uh giant black box enigma to them, apparently. But, like they just can't seem to differentiate those things. But, you know, social media interrupts relationships like you wouldn't actually believe.

[00:11:04]>> Apps created to help us as humans find what we need, what we yearn for, whether that's a job, connection, love. But, the terrifying thing is that these apps were created to do one thing, and that's make money. If LinkedIn got you a job right off the rip or Hinge set you up with your wife instantly, there would be no Hinge. There would be no LinkedIn cuz these are businesses. It bugs me out how we have all these huge companies now ingrained into society and their success their survival relies on their users failing. Like think about that. And it's for that reason I think that the worst thing that you can do is let these apps impact yourself image, which I did for years. That's just a natural reaction and I'm going to get to that, but for now I just want to say like we need to be looking at these apps for what they actually are >> Yeah, there are so many guys out there who are genuinely people like they're good men, you know, that they're stable guys emotionally. They've they've got things that women might be interested in for example.

[00:12:08]But like these these apps would have you believe that you're just like a piece of human garbage. You know what I mean?

[00:12:14]That you're like essentially worthless as a dude. Um and it doesn't you know, you can be a guy who's in a fantastic position and you are still going to be typically hit with that feedback.

[00:12:25]The vast majority of men on these applications are going to get absolutely crushed. So I totally agree with this guy when he says not to tie your self-image to these things because that is obviously a terrible terrible idea.

[00:12:37]Like don't be getting it in your head that you're some piece of human filth because you know, women won't reply to you on social media or something like that.

[00:12:45]It's not an accurate depiction of reality whatsoever usually. Um granted women are still pretty damn harsh when it comes to dating, but you know, letting it affect your self-image is completely ridiculous.

[00:12:56]>> as opposed to reflections of us. Um cuz remember half these job openings on LinkedIn don't even exist and half the people on dating apps just want validation. Meaning they're basically just like playing them as a game. So 86% of applications are ignored and 36% of dating app users are just playing games on their phone basically. Another crazy thing about these dating apps, the higher match like numbers that the more matches that you get, it increases partner choice overload. It that spikes anxiety and indecision. So, basically the better that you do on these dating apps, the less likely you're actually going to find someone long-term. And if you guys have ever seen what your average woman dating app experience looks like, it's pretty crazy. Like there's definitely partner choice overload going on there.

[00:13:52]But again, these apps are the norm now, completely ingrained into society. So, can we really be surprised that so many people are alone right now? And that so many people are unable to get a job that they actually want, that they're actually qualified for? Going back to this graph for a second, it's like why aren't friends introducing friends to each other anymore? You know, I think about this and I'm like, because none of these girls have friends. Seriously, it's like it's not just them. Like even my own social circle, I feel like it's less group oriented these days. Like I have friends, I swear, but when we chill, like rarely are we doing group activities and [ __ ] running into other female groups, like doing some wholesome group dynamic [ __ ] Like I don't know if I'm tripping, but I just feel like that doesn't really exist anymore, you know?

[00:14:40]>> I'll say this, by the way. So, on you know, interacting with groups, especially the opposite gender, here's the thing, okay? Particularly if you're a dude who like goes clubbing or partying or whatever the case may be. I mean, you're you're a brave soul, personally. You know, I hate that garbage. Um but like you know, if you're out at nighttime and that all that sort of stuff or just in general, the thing is women have already selected who they typically want to be with. This is part of the reason why I think that, you know, if you're a dude and you're trying to go out there and hook up with a woman for example or do anything like of the sort and you go clubbing, the women who go out already know where they're going to end up at the end of the night. Okay? They already know the dudes they're interested in. They have them on Instagram, they have them on Snapchat, whatever other application comes out in the future.

[00:15:29]You know, like think about this for a second, guys. There's no need to do any of this mingling anymore because, you know, women just have these social media applications.

[00:15:37]They simply They simply don't need to do it. They don't go out there and typically do that. They just They know what dude they're going to end up with.

[00:15:46]They pretend like it magically happens, okay? And oh, you know, she some woman will just randomly bump into this guy and just magically hit it off. But, all of this is like pre-orchestrated, is what I'm trying to say.

[00:15:59]Um which I think is just absolutely damn hilarious.

[00:16:04]>> Maybe it doesn't mean my friends are just a bunch of chuds. I don't know, man. Things are different now. Like that show Friends, you couldn't pay me to watch that show. I'm not going to lie.

[00:16:14]But, I've seen clips of it before.

[00:16:17]And it's like, damn, is this how it used to be? Like a big group of girl and guy friends just all dating each other and [ __ ] having fun.

[00:16:25]I just feel like now everything dating and and meeting new people, it's all so individualistic. But, I guess that makes sense because everything else in life has become more individualistic. In 1990, over half of men, so 55%, had at least six close friends. And by 2021, that number went down to 27. And for the women, same [ __ ] happened from 41% to 24%. So, it makes sense why this isn't a method of of meeting someone to date now. But, what makes even more sense when I think about why we're in this position now, where everyone's so lonely, is the grass is greener mindset.

[00:17:05]And this one dude, like this mindset, if you don't identify it, will get your ass. And even if you do identify it, it can still get your ass.

[00:17:15]With the novelty pandemic that we are in right now, where everything's more more more next next next, the chances of there being a little demon on your shoulder telling you the grass is greener somewhere else are so high. And I got to be clear, when we're talking jobs, I think it's really important to have this mindset. Like having loyalty to an employer, in my opinion, can kiss my ass with that loyalty, right? If you think you can get a better job than your current one, that's good. But this mindset, which the internet has really nailed down into everyone's brain of new new new new new more more more, it's having an impact on dating that I never see talked about. Like the >> So, here's the thing with that whole you know, the grass is greener.

[00:18:00]Um I actually think that people are able to keep this in check depending on how many people they've actually been with. So, for example, if you're going to go out there and you're going to date a woman who has been with 10 different dudes, the odds of her committing infidelity or ditching you for another guy is incredibly damn high. Like you're not going to be lucky boyfriend number 10 or 11 or whatever it is. Um and this is the problem. This is this is pair bonding, okay? Like if you go out here and you're trying to date seriously, you're trying to look for a a wife or something like that because you're silly enough to engage in marriage these days, um the fact of the matter is the more people that the woman has been with, the more likely it is that she's going to have that grass is greener on the side mentality. She's always going to be thinking back to those other dudes and the other people that she's been with. I actually think this is quite different for men. Um and the reason for that there's two reasons for that. The first one is obviously men have significantly less options, um particularly the the vast majority of men. So, you know, a lot of guys don't actually have the dating experience, shall we say, that modern day women do.

[00:19:10]You know, like for for lack of a way of putting it, men don't typically have a a a pair bonding issue like that simply because they haven't been with a whole bunch of women. There's obviously a small percentage of men who have, but you get my point there. And then the second reason is that dating is a lot more difficult for men. So, women have this grass is greener mentality because they can just download Instagram or Bumble or whatever and get 5,000 messages, sure. But guys will tend to stick a lot easier to one one woman because they understand how stupid dating is and how how ridiculously difficult it is for a man.

[00:19:45]Like you might be a guy, you might leave a long-term relationship and it might be years until you can find another woman who's potentially interested in you because you're only a six, for example, as ridiculous as that sounds. But you see my point.

[00:19:59]>> The grass now, if you're trying to hold a long-term relationship, has never looked greener. But in reality, it's like not even grass. It's like turf. I think we're past this point of saying, "Okay, dating apps don't work." Like clearly they're working for a lot of people, but one of the main problems with these apps is that you can meet someone, have a great time, you know, the chemistry's there, you guys have similar interests, you start hanging out more. I mean, this is like the best case scenario of these apps, right? You're like in your head you're like, "Yo, this could work." But bro, the question then becomes did you delete the app? Did she?

[00:20:36]Or the next time you get bored or you get a notification, are you going to fire that up and start swiping again?

[00:20:42]Like if they're >> is, by the way, on women deleting the apps, here's the problem.

[00:20:46]Even if these women delete the apps, they're typically receiving validation from other ones that they're going to call you insecure for requesting they remove anyway. So, for example, you might be like, "Oh, fantastic, she removed Bumble or whatever, okay?" But the fact is, you know, if you've got a woman who's posting like and let's be honest, a lot of women are doing this these days, like questionable photos of themselves on Instagram.

[00:21:11]I mean, for women, the Instagram is essentially functioning as another dating app anyway.

[00:21:15]So, now you have to say you have to bring that up and now you're going to she's going to accuse you of being insecure or something or at least her friends are or women in general are going to, you know, try and get in her ear saying that you're insecure, that sort of thing.

[00:21:30]Like there there's simply too many {quote} options and I say {quote} because they're not really, but there's too much attention and validation that's being directed towards women.

[00:21:40]And if they don't have a strong pair bonding ability, if they've already been with a bunch of guys, eventually they're probably going to act on it.

[00:21:47]So, that is that is a very, very large problem.

[00:21:51]You know, like imagine trying to date and seriously have a family or something like this and like your fiance has Instagram where she's still receiving DMs from dudes.

[00:22:02]Like really, like this is what we're supposed to date, this is this is really where we're supposed to be going.

[00:22:07]You know, and and people shame dudes these days for not being comfortable with their girlfriends or whatever posting like bikini pictures and stuff like that, but that's really where we're at is like women often times will bait these responses from men and then they'll call you insecure if you say anything about it.

[00:22:24]It is completely insane.

[00:22:26]>> The novelty faucet is still on. If we're still on Instagram fielding DMs from people, how is this supposed to work?

[00:22:35]Think about it. One fight happens, one trait gets revealed that you don't like and this is naturally what happens in relationships, right? Like not on some Disney Channel [ __ ] it's just how relationships work. The more you get to know someone, the higher the chance is something about them gets revealed that you don't love. And the natural thing that people do is work through that [ __ ] I mean, that's what humans have been doing since like Adam and Eve, working through [ __ ] But what >> know about you guys, but if you find out that your woman has been with like 15 dudes, I'm not working through anything.

[00:23:12]Okay, that's you know, there's nothing women will try and do this gaslighting where they'll where you know, they'll pretend like you're a you're a bad person if you don't work through these things, but sometimes there are things that just shouldn't be worked through. Okay, I don't want to be boyfriend or hookup number 15.

[00:23:31]Uh maybe that's something that she can work out with dude number 16.

[00:23:36]I I don't really know. Uh but again, bringing it back to, you know, the grass is greener and going through fights and that sort of thing. I actually again, I think that men are far less likely to leave even if they have maybe some attention from women on social media, simply because they know how difficult dating actually is when they're out there dating. Uh women on the other hand, you know, they're going number one, they're going to receive a lot more attention, so they're going to believe they have a lot more options.

[00:24:00]But number two, they might actually have a chance before the dude inevitably finds out, you know, if she has any big issues. So she might be able to think that she can go out there and have a relationship and maybe she can for a couple of months and she thinks she can upgrade from you, but you know, once that guy finds out that he's boyfriend or situationship number 16, I mean, the woman's just going to be put into the same position again, probably.

[00:24:23]Um but yeah, man, like this whole thing of like working through issues, you know, we just have to work through this. Man, sometimes women will try and pull that crap and the thing is none of it should be really worked through. Like these aren't issues that you had back in the 1990s, for example.

[00:24:42]Okay, you don't find out that you have an issue of your woman posting bikini photos to, you know, Instagram stories or something and replying to dudes DMs in there and you know, you're just supposed to work through that. Okay.

[00:24:58]That doesn't happen in the '90s. Um but yeah, let's keep going.

[00:25:03]>> What happens when in your head you're convinced that perfect is just around the corner?

[00:25:08]Instead of working through something with someone, going through hardships, it's like, "Nah, let me just keep swiping, bro."

[00:25:15]Like, this is the toxic mindset that the internet not only makes possible, but encourages. And it's not like I'm above any of this. I've been guilty of this.

[00:25:25]Like, this is how novelty messes with our brains cuz that new girl that you just got a notification of, that you matched with, even if she's less attractive, not as funny to be around, she could be toxic as [ __ ] She has one thing that the girl you're already with doesn't.

[00:25:44]>> You know, shoutout to this guy for admitting that and saying that's his perspective on things.

[00:25:50]But I don't know about you guys. Maybe it's just because I'm getting old, okay?

[00:25:54]But if someone's toxic, if someone annoys me, I don't want to talk to them, man.

[00:26:01]You know, like why if let's just say you have, you know, you've gone out there and you've gone to Southeast Asia and you've found a woman who's not a complete headache, for example, and she does, you know, things she cooks for you, she's polite, all that sort of stuff. If you start getting other DMs from women who are like toxic and all this stuff, even if they might have other qualities which are great, you know, she might cook better, for example. I don't know about you guys, but why why would you ever ditch the original woman to go with one that's toxic?

[00:26:29]I think a lot of guys are probably similar to me in that way where they're just not looking for headaches, particularly the men who are older.

[00:26:36]You know, you start talking to guys in their 30s and 40s, and it doesn't matter how attractive the woman is, it doesn't matter how good her cooking is, you know, it doesn't matter what kind of qualities she has in this way or that way. If the woman is toxic, if she adds a headache to your life, man, I don't want anything to do with that. I don't want anything to do with that if it's a dude, okay? If I have friends, for example, and they start pulling some nonsense, like that's cool, man. You're you're welcome to do that, but I don't want to be talking to people who are toxic and annoying and who make my life more stressful. I think a lot of guys can relate to that, but still shout out to Paulie Walnuts for for, you know, giving his perspective on that. Me, personally, I can't tolerate like toxic women, man.

[00:27:18]I'm uh one foot in the grave already, okay? I'm going gray. Can't be dealing with that.

[00:27:24]>> She's new. You know, like I never really see this talked about, which is crazy because in order for these dating apps to work, like you guys need to mutually agree to cut that [ __ ] out. And even if you do, there's always Instagram, there's all these other novelty loops, right? And it's why I'm so obsessed with cutting out as many of them as I can, you know, whether that's with corn or like short-term uh short-form content. It's like this whole thing of keeps going and keeps swiping. There's more There's more and more and more. It's just around the corner, bro.

[00:27:53]It's an illusion, and it messes with relationships. It actually prevents relationships. It's like an addiction to novelty. [ __ ] that. Like we don't need more novelty. It's like our brains have been hijacked, taken advantage of for profit. Like if you're always thinking more and more and more, I could do better. I could do better. It's like we're going to die alone unless we get this figured out. And um I think about it from a woman's point of view.

[00:28:21]They must be getting cooked by this mindset way worse than I am as a dude, because I don't have thousands of people trying to get my attention on these apps, you know? And I'm still struggling with this novelty loop [ __ ] I don't know, man. I feel like it's common knowledge that men are really struggling with the consequences of this, of what I'm talking about. I mean, there's like a [ __ ] space race going on right now of dudes trying to build AI robot girlfriends, but I walk around New York. Like I see women walking around with strollers now, but there's no baby in the stroller.

[00:28:58]It'll just be like a puppy or a cat, and that's new. Like I don't remember seeing [ __ ] like that even 10 years ago.

[00:29:04]>> This is exactly what I was saying, man.

[00:29:06]Like the women going into their 30s, and they don't actually end up with children a lot of the time these days. They just have like some some messed up looking cat or something.

[00:29:18]Now, may- maybe I'm mean, okay, but I do find that kind of funny. I do find that hilarious. Now, obviously I empathize with the cats, for example, um but that's that's where a lot of people are headed, man. That is I'm surprised this guy even sees strollers, if I'm honest. Like I'm surprised that the people in those cities even have that equipment, if I'm going to be honest with you.

[00:29:39]But yeah, this is the this is the way it's going.

[00:29:42]I thought he was going to say something far more negative about the women walking around in New York City, um but yeah, that's very funny. Walking around with strollers and just having animals in them.

[00:29:53]Like oh, because obviously, right?

[00:29:55]Obviously, that's the substitute for having a child, because many of these women they get to that age, and they actually failed to have a kid in time.

[00:30:03]I've I've covered so many videos on this channel of women like breaking down crying because, you know, they tried to go the medical route because they realized it was too late, and then they ended up just wasting thousands of dollars, and that sort of thing.

[00:30:16]But it's actually a huge issue. But here's the thing, I've seen so many women talk about this, too. If women don't want to have kids, that's cool. I don't think a lot of guys actually care.

[00:30:25]Like if women are out here saying, "We refuse to have kids because of X Y Z reason, and because men ain't crap, and this and that." That's totally fine. I don't really care if modern-day women have children or not, but what I have noticed is a lot of them come to really regret it, man.

[00:30:41]You know, like you go to their social media feeds, you go to like their TikTok accounts, which is crazy women in their 30s having TikTok accounts, but anyway, you go to their TikTok accounts and there'll be like videos of them talking about how happy they are and how great their life is, and then you'll just typically find one video in there of the woman just breaking down crying because life didn't go the way she thought it would. She's not married, um you know, isn't likely to have a family, that sort of thing.

[00:31:07]>> I don't think that this stuff is uh having a positive impact on women, either. So, as bad as all of this sounds, which is really bad, I'm not giving up, man. So, I want to >> by the way, this is this has a very, very negative effect on women, by the way, guys. Like you know, flooding women with all of these options, man, then let's be real, they don't make fantastic choices.

[00:31:31]I I like the health metrics for women must be down the damn drain these days.

[00:31:36]I'm telling you, like I think we've seen it with all of these things, like mental health disorders and all that sort of stuff, um particularly from women growing up in today's day and age. It is not looking positive, man. It is looking really quite bad for women, but you know, at least they are strong and empowered and can make their own decisions, am I right?

[00:31:54]>> I'm going to talk about kind of the mindset changes that I'm trying to actively make to stay sane in these times because in order to participate in any of this [ __ ] in the modern day, I feel like you need to be cool with rejection. And I struggled this for with this for a long time, and I still do, because rejection sucks. Let's be honest, nobody wants to be rejected. But if you avoid it, how are you going to get what you deserve in life? Like how are you even going to know what it is that you deserve in life? So, for me, when I take [ __ ] personally, no matter what it is, it always ends bad. The goal for me now is to just take nothing personally. A lot easier said than done, especially with jobs. Like there's something so soul-crushing about putting together a resume, writing a cover letter, interviewing, [ __ ] even multiple times.

[00:32:44]And, you know, you put yourself up for display just to get ghosted. Just to not even get a rejection email. And it's the same exact thing with dating. And the apps specifically, it's like one second you'll be having a conversation, then you might have said one thing, not even wrong, just not right. And that's it.

[00:33:02]Someone else gets the job. It's back to the lobby. But you need to >> I mean, this dude's absolutely correct here. And let's be real about it. Women will reject you for very minor things.

[00:33:11]Like you can say some offhanded comment, and then, you know, she'll just go out there and start talking to some other guy because you made her feel a terrible way because of a comment.

[00:33:21]You know, maybe you're not as tall as she thought that you were. Uh maybe you didn't have a good enough job. Maybe you have an accent that she doesn't like and didn't realize you had. I mean, there's like 5,000 different things these days where women will disqualify you particularly as a man if you don't have.

[00:33:39]And so I agree with this guy, man.

[00:33:40]There's There's no point in getting stressed out about this stuff. As he says, it's completely way easier said than done.

[00:33:47]I think the the phrase that's used is outcome independence. You know, like don't tie your happiness to the outcome of a particular situation, particularly as a man. It's more important that you just keep moving through life because that's going to make things a lot easier for you. But guys, I think this video has gone on long enough. Don't forget to leave your thoughts and your comments.

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