Ryan's Roses May 21, 2026 Michelle and David "My Husband Calls Me Kyle"

Added: 2026-05-22

[00:00:09]Dear Ryan and sister Tanya, I just found out that my husband has me in his phone as Kyle.

[00:00:15]So, I think he's hiding me from someone else. Mhm.

[00:00:19]You put a different name in a contact?

[00:00:23]No.

[00:00:24]>> Yes. Oh.

[00:00:26]Yeah, people have done that.

[00:00:29]Why have you done it, Tanya?

[00:00:30]Um why have I done that?

[00:00:34]>> Case the phone rings. No, I've never done it like in a weird shady way, but like sometimes I got somebody's number that I didn't know who it was. Like I didn't know their name, but I should have known their name.

[00:00:44]>> Yeah, you should guy from the bar.

[00:00:45]>> Yeah, yeah, yeah. Uh-huh.

[00:00:47]>> [snorts] >> Did you ever learn the name? Uh depends on the person. It was happened many times. And Michelle, uh tell me what you think is going on. Who do you think your husband is seeing? Why is he hiding you from this person? Do you know they are?

[00:01:01]I genuinely don't know. I've looked, but I I haven't found anything.

[00:01:05]>> So, you think your husband has a like a another relationship?

[00:01:10]I think so, yeah. I'm pretty sure.

[00:01:13]It's the only logical explanation.

[00:01:16]Is it?

[00:01:17]I mean, if he puts your name your the wife here as a code, I mean, he's really seeing must be seeing the other person a lot. But I don't know, is that the most likely reason for it?

[00:01:28]Have you asked him about it?

[00:01:30]Yes, I have.

[00:01:31]>> And what did your husband say?

[00:01:34]So, basically, he's like, "You don't remember? You You and I had our first date and the waiter kept calling you Kyle.

[00:01:43]And and that's why uh I called you Kyle on my phone, basically.

[00:01:50]>> Did you call your husband the wrong name at first?

[00:01:54]No, it's the waiter that called me Kyle, supposedly. He heard my name wrong and he called me Kyle, which never happened, but he insisted it happened, so that's why since that day, according to him, that's how he put me on his >> I I have put people into my phone when I first met them as nicknames and their names are still in there. Right. So I I don't I don't know. Let's call your husband and find out if he's got somebody else on his mind when we offer him some roses. How long have you [music] been married?

[00:02:22]About 4 years, but together we've been like 7 years. All right, you think he's in another relationship. Hang on [music] 1 second. Ryan's Roses, we'll make the call to her husband next. So here's why we're in Ryan's Roses and Michelle thinks that he's got another relationship with another woman cuz in his phone in his contacts his wife Michelle is under the name Kyle. And when she asked her husband about it, he said, "Oh, that's because that's what a waiter called you when we first went out. They called you Kyle by mistake and he put that name in at the beginning as a nickname."

[00:02:53]And you doubt that. You don't think it's a nickname. You really think he's hiding you from someone else.

[00:02:58]100%.

[00:03:00]You sound very sure. Let's call your husband now and find out. Be very quiet until we get him on the line. I need you to say, "Ryan, you have my permission to call and then your husband's name." Go ahead.

[00:03:12]You have permission to call my husband.

[00:03:15]We're going to do that right now. Be very quiet. Let's see what we can find out, okay?

[00:03:20]Okay.

[00:03:33]Hello?

[00:03:34]Hi, is this David?

[00:03:36]This is David. Uh hey, is this Gabby?

[00:03:40]No, no. My name is Becky.

[00:03:44]Oh. Hi, I'm calling from Flowers Today.

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[00:03:58]Oh, a a dozen free roses? Okay.

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[00:04:18]Okay, I see. So, that's that's all you What do you need from me? Uh we can send them to whoever you want. So, just the name of the person and we can write a note.

[00:04:28]Maybe Gabby?

[00:04:31]Uh no, that that that wouldn't be appropriate. Uh but you can send them to my wife, Michelle.

[00:04:37]Michelle, okay.

[00:04:41]And what would you like to put on the card?

[00:04:44]Well, uh just put this, uh to my first, my last, my everything.

[00:04:50]Love, David.

[00:04:52]David, your voice is being broadcast on the radio and we have your wife, Michelle, on the line.

[00:04:58]Uh is a very sweet card or guilty card?

[00:05:02]I can't decide.

[00:05:04]Is there something >> Okay, this this I thought this sounded kind of shady, but okay. Yeah, so Michelle has reached out to us to ask you about something going on in your life.

[00:05:18]She thinks that you're hiding her from someone else because your contacts have her name as Kyle in your phone.

[00:05:28]Uh you also mentioned a name Gabby here.

[00:05:32]I think Michelle and I would like to know who is Gabby.

[00:05:36]You said it wouldn't be appropriate to send her flowers. So, tell us about Gabby, David.

[00:05:41]Okay, wow, this is this is my Okay, well, first of all, Gabby, uh she works at the Honda place. I'll get my car serviced and I thought she was calling me to tell me my car was ready.

[00:05:52]Mhm. And you were going to send a Gabby at the car service place flowers, red roses?

[00:05:56]>> She wasn't.

[00:05:57]>> thought Gabby was calling me.

[00:06:00]Okay.

[00:06:01]Why is Why is your wife's name under Kyle in your contacts and not Michelle?

[00:06:10]All right. Look, my wife and I have already been through this already. Uh I can't believe this is coming back up.

[00:06:16]This is so wild.

[00:06:19]Because what's the reason?

[00:06:20]>> like Okay, okay. So, when we first started dating in like, I don't know, 2018, we were out for brunch like some outdoor place and the waiter misunderstood me or something and he kept calling her Kyle.

[00:06:33]And it was like hilarious, we were joking about it and I just changed her name to Kyle in my phone and it's been that way ever since.

[00:06:40]That's a lie, though.

[00:06:42]>> Yeah, she would know that after all these years.

[00:06:45]>> Seven years?

[00:06:47]I've seen my name on your phone before, it's fine. This time I'm Kyle.

[00:06:52]Babe, no, it's it's been Kyle since that day. Like, I look I changed your actual name that night when you noticed it, but it's it's not funny if you don't remember it, so why is it such a big deal? I I don't know what's happening right now. Because she thinks you're cheating.

[00:07:07]Exactly. I I think you're hiding me from some woman that you're having an affair with.

[00:07:12]Oh my god, look, I'm not cheating on you. I swear. And you have to admit you you never remember anything, babe.

[00:07:18]That's not true, though.

[00:07:21]Okay, did you get the reference that I mentioned on the card?

[00:07:25]What card?

[00:07:27]Uh the card on the roses.

[00:07:29]>> my everything.

[00:07:30]Exactly.

[00:07:32]I I have no idea what that means.

[00:07:35]See, it's a Barry White song and we danced to it at Sabrina's wedding up at Tahoe. It was the first time we even danced together.

[00:07:44]Michelle, he's got a good memory. Michelle, I kind of like your husband in this. Why are you so convinced he's having an affair?

[00:07:51]I think he's gaslighting me.

[00:07:53]David, are you can't be gaslighting? Are you?

[00:07:57]No, I'm not gaslighting her. Why would I do that? I love you. Are you guys intimate on regularly?

[00:08:06]Like I mean three times a week.

[00:08:09]>> [clears throat] >> I know we get down. Here's the deal, David. We're calling What does he mean?

[00:08:15]We're calling you because your wife thinks she very strongly thinks you're having an affair. So something that you're doing has opened the door to this thought and this narrative.

[00:08:25]Uh you need to fix that. Michelle, I don't know that there's anything else to find here, but good luck, okay? Thank you for reaching out.

[00:08:32]I think David's telling the truth. I like the guy. I kind of do, too.

[00:08:36]>> to my first my last and everything from a song they first danced to at a wedding in Tahoe. And he remembers everything.

[00:08:40]Like he's like this like memorable man.

[00:08:43]I am an unmemorable man. I don't know. I don't remember things like that.

[00:08:48]>> Well, you should [music] start.

[00:08:50]It's Kiss FM. September.

[00:08:53]Ryan's Roses. Let's talk about the male memory in a few minutes here. Yes.

[00:08:58]>> That guy remembered everything. I'm not a guy and if I don't make notes, I can't remember all that stuff.

[00:09:04]>> Well, who knows he maybe makes notes, too. Maybe he does, but he was very Well, we'll explain why he had the memory of an elephant.

[00:09:12]Sure. Every relationship has one.

[00:09:15]Yeah, I'm very bad at it. Do you like Do you remember the first Oh gosh, no, don't ask. All right, coming up Thursday, the day before the day before the three-day weekend.

[00:09:26]Exactly.

[00:09:26]>> And I I'd say to me the best part of the three-day weekend will be tomorrow at 5:30.

[00:09:32]Cuz the whole evening is ahead of you in front of a three-day weekend. Nice.

[00:09:37]And tomorrow at 11:00 a.m. when it got to here.

[00:09:41]>> no, I I can't get into the weekend until it's later in the day.

[00:09:45]It's hard.

[00:09:46]>> Really?

[00:09:46]>> It's it's a mental thing. Yeah.

[00:09:48]I can't do certain things in the daylight. So, well, let's go get some lunch or something. That'll start feeling like a little vacation weekend.

[00:09:55]I don't hate that. See?

[00:09:58]And you missed the lunch last time we went. Well, then let's do it.

[00:10:01]>> Let's do it again. All right.

[00:10:02]>> That was so long ago.

[00:10:05]Okay. Why did you say it like that?

[00:10:07]>> Why are you so angry about it?

[00:10:10]Why did you say it like a 3-year-old?

[00:10:13]>> [laughter] >> That was so long ago.

[00:10:16]>> your fist. Long ago.

[00:10:18]>> It was so long ago we had that lunch.

[00:10:20]Let's do it again. With a little glass of sauv blanc, little jalapeño in there.

[00:10:24]That's like the drink of summer, apparently. You can't have sauv blanc with a jalapeño in it?

[00:10:28]>> That's the That's the I A wine with this pepper in it? Yeah. That's what they're saying. That's what they're saying. With like ice.

[00:10:34]>> It's offensive to the wine. I don't know. I might just have an Aperol spritz and just be safe. All right. Well, let's just make the plan.

[00:10:40]Well, let's make it.

[00:10:41]>> make it. All right. The reason I bring all this up is I'm excited about tomorrow. So, we had a Ryan's Roses call a second ago.

[00:10:46]And Michelle reached out about her husband, David.

[00:10:49]And she thinks that David has her name in his contacts as a different name because he's hiding her from this other woman in this other relationship.

[00:10:59]Now, we got David on the line.

[00:11:01]And David might have been one of the most thoughtful men we've ever had on a Ryan's Roses.

[00:11:08]He remembered everything about when they first met. He actually sent the card to her.

[00:11:13]It said, "To my first, my last, my everything." Love, David. And then we got him on the phone. I don't think he's cheating.

[00:11:19]He said to her, "You don't remember anything?" Like the name Kyle was in his phone cuz when they went out on the first date, the waiter, the server kept calling her Kyle. And he thought that was funny. Then he He "Do you remember to my first, to my last, to my everything?"

[00:11:33]He said that was a song, the lyrics to a song that we danced to at their friend's wedding in Tahoe. And I thought, "Wow, I have a romantically inadequate memory."

[00:11:44]Like, do your men, do your guys have great detailed memory like that of firsts and and whens in your relationships, as in No, but he's romantic in other ways.

[00:11:56]I have to put notes in my phone and to go back and look at the notes.

[00:12:01]In order to In order to be really specific. I just can't I can't be like that guy. He was really good.

[00:12:06]>> Yeah, I have our first 30 dates documented in my notes page. That doesn't surprise.

[00:12:13]And what do you do with like number 26?

[00:12:16]Like, what's the point? No, the point was so that I don't I didn't want to forget all the things that we did.

[00:12:22]>> Yeah, I just didn't want to forget all those things that are, you know, like you forget over time and I just didn't want to forget them.

[00:12:26]>> You do forget for like remember the first date, what they ordered, what's your favorite dessert, what they want for their birthday. Like, those things I don't think it's shameful to make notes of that and have to go back and look at your notes. You don't admit to notes to the person. Like, I like put I like his favorite apple in there. Like >> What kind of apple? Is it green or red?

[00:12:44]I mean, how do you decide? Honeycrisp.

[00:12:46]Oh my gosh, that's our apple. Yeah.

[00:12:48]Oh my gosh, I don't have a favorite apple. Well, you should get one cuz then the girl that you manifest can have it at her place whenever you are coming over.

[00:12:58]Celeste is on the phone. I'm going to take her call. I just think sometimes the romantic male memory isn't good.

[00:13:08]It's just not good. I'm surprised at how much other people can remember in a relationship.

[00:13:13]It's amazing to me.

[00:13:15]And Celeste, you're in Anaheim.

[00:13:17]This guy who had the most incredible elephant memory about the stuff that they did in their relationship. I don't think His name was David. I don't think he's cheating. Did you hear it?

[00:13:27]I did. I did and honestly like he's uh truly he's either the most honest person on the planet or he's the best gaslighter of all time and but I will say like I'm in a marriage and I truly remember nothing and my husband remembers absolutely everything and so in some ways I my gut's telling me I actually really do believe him. I think he's telling the truth. I agree and he can't he can't be that masterful of a a gaslighter. It's just I don't know why the wife thinks that. The wife literally said he's gaslighting me. He's gaslighting me.

[00:14:00]But why is she convinced that he's having this affair? There's something off. He seemed great. But there's there's another I don't know the whole story. We must not have the whole story.

[00:14:09]>> But narcissists tend to come off very charming and great. So maybe there's something that we're not seeing.

[00:14:14]>> another level. That was another level of the romantic marriage. I'm not buying it.

[00:14:19]So unless I don't believe he's cheating.

[00:14:20]Thank you for listening.

[00:14:22]You're welcome. Thank you.

[00:14:25]And we do the Ryan's Roses calls every Monday and Thursday. We could do them every day.

[00:14:30]We have enough emails every day but let's just do them on Monday. Is it Thursday? So why the sourpuss look? It's too much if we did that every day.

[00:14:37]It's too much. Too much pain. Too much sorrow. It's too much of negativity and toxicity.

[00:14:45]Thanks for calling. We appreciate it.

[00:14:46]Thank you for listening to us every single Monday when?

[00:14:50]7:40. Thursday when? 7:40.

[00:14:54]What? Ryan's Roses. That's it.