Stop Trying to FIND YOURSELF

追加: 2026-06-01

[00:00:00]I don't know who I am anymore.

[00:00:02]That's great. You get to choose.

[00:00:07]This notion that you and I need to go and find ourselves assumes that there's some fixed authentic self underneath all of the context of your life. That once upon a time you had your perfect self and you've somehow lost that along the way.

[00:00:25]But that's nonsense. We don't find ourselves. we create ourselves. I like to think of it like this. Our identity is like a river and in that river we have the river bed and we have the water flowing through it. And at no given time is the water that's flowing through any point on that river exactly the same.

[00:00:48]There are aspects of you, your values, your virtues, objective truths about yourself, but everything else is the water flowing through it. Too often people overidentify with the context of their lives, with their preferences.

[00:01:06]I'm a skier or I'm a counselor. But when those things are removed from our lives, we feel like everything has just devolved into nothingness. But you haven't lost you. It's just that the river has kept flowing, that some of the scaffold has come down, that the context has changed. Tell me in the comments what do you think defines people or yourself.