"Your Only Real Friends" - The Stirring Mashal of the Chofetz Chaim

Ajouté : 2026-05-28

[00:00:02]Okay friends, good morning. I've been saving this piece because it was a little bit longer. So I think it worked out well for today's lemur the interpretation of the on the uh this is one of the most uh well-known ideas of says okay let's try to read it inside each individual from your work you will not take anything with you can't take cash to the next world you can't take bitcoins you can't take stocks you can't take bonds you can't take mutual funds. You can't take checks. You can't take American Express. You can't take real estate. You can't take anything of value. You can't take your home. You can't take your shirt. You can't take your clothing. You can't take your watch. You can't take your wallet.

[00:01:19]Only the matters of holiness that you fulfilled with your body in your lifetime.

[00:01:27]They will be with you eternally in your association.

[00:01:33]Not like your phony friends.

[00:01:36]Some people have phony friends. Phony friends are fair weather fans. Not like thear in his camp.

[00:01:49]They they pretend to be your lovers, your friends.

[00:01:54]But in a time of distress, they skip town.

[00:02:03]The gives the following.

[00:02:07]There's a guy. He has three kinds of friends. Three friends.

[00:02:11]One very dear.

[00:02:14]One sort of he has one friend he would invite. He's to to the one friend, I'm sorry, one friend he would invite to the whole wedding. one friend he would invite to the and a third guy he wouldn't even solicit him for a charity fund he wouldn't even ask him for anything so anyway one time the king summoned the guy or one time the guy's summoned by the federal government you know when you say the king summoned him nobody nobody flinches when you say the federal government all of a sudden And you know, people shake and all of a sudden the FBI comes and they seize him and the guy is very scared.

[00:03:08]Maybe somebody tattled on me.

[00:03:12]I'm going to go to my dear friend that I've confided and I trusted in I'll ask him to plead my case so that he could defend me.

[00:03:26]He went to call his dearest friend.

[00:03:30]The friend didn't want to go with him.

[00:03:32]The friend said, "I'm not going with you to the king. I'm not going with you in the car. I'm not even discussing this with you. I'm not really interested in your problem. Go take a hike. I like going bowling with you, but I don't want to hear about your problems. So, he left. He left despondent.

[00:03:54]So, he he decided, I'll go to my second friend, the mediocre friend.

[00:04:00]Maybe he'll come with me.

[00:04:03]The guy said, "Yeah, I'll come in the car.

[00:04:07]I'll have to drop you off when we get to the palace. When we get to the court, I'll drop you off. So, he says, "I have no choice. I'm going to go to the guy I don't even like. He doesn't like me. I don't even I don't even um interact with him.

[00:04:22]I'll go with the third guy. I don't even talk to him." Yeah. Obviously, I speak to him by daving. You know, there are people you you won't invite to your wedding. you won't invite to the but all of a sudden during ding they become you become it's amazing the friendship that's cultivated sometimes during the anyway but he's not really your friend and I'm going to ask him to go to the king after I tell him what how the first two guys ditched me and he goes to the friend he says don't be afraid I'm going to go with you I'm going to go in with you to the judge and I'm going to defend you.

[00:05:09]I'm going to rescue you.

[00:05:12]Nothing bad will happen.

[00:05:17]This third what he thought was a just a regular acquaintance went all the way in with him, defended him and rescued him and saved him.

[00:05:28]Says The first friend who you thought was your best friend was your bank account.

[00:05:39]People love it very much.

[00:05:44]It leaves you on the day of the when you're in the in the grave and you stick the ATM card that you brought with you into the grave into the ATM machine down under, you're not going to be able to withdraw anything. You know that your ATM card doesn't work in the grave. It doesn't work upstairs. It the the screen's going to say, "Sorry, the account there's nothing in the account."

[00:06:08]So, what do you mean? My cat was full.

[00:06:10]No, sorry. It's not. The car doesn't work anymore. Card doesn't work upstairs. You're going to go to the You're going to go to the teller. So, the teller, they said, "No, no, there's no banking up here." No banking, but I have uh I have bonds. I have um I have securities. I have. No, no, no. There's no transactions. It's over. But I brought my wallet. They take your wallet. No, no. It's not gonna do you any good. You could eat it if you want.

[00:06:36]You could eat your wallet.

[00:06:40]We'll give you ketchup to put on the wallet to eat.

[00:06:45]Next. So, the guy the the money doesn't work. Um, the second friend, he said, "Okay, let me I'm going to call my wife. I'm going to call my kids.

[00:07:00]They can't do you any good. They don't go upstairs. They only they walk you until the they put dirt on you and then they go home.

[00:07:14]No, they'll come. They'll come to visit once a year. They'll come, you're under the ground with dirt on top of you, and the family comes, they open up this little book, they whisper a few things, and then they leave you again for another year.

[00:07:28]So now what? What happened to my good friends?

[00:07:36]The third friend that rescued you.

[00:07:48]your chuva, your good deeds, who you didn't pay any attention to, they follow you after your demise to defend you.

[00:08:07]The king that summoned you is the Almighty.

[00:08:12]upon him. You can't bribe him.

[00:08:16]He's not taking he's not showing you favoritism.

[00:08:21]Your friends aren't coming with you.

[00:08:34]The best friends a person has are his holy acts.

[00:08:42]They will be with you always.

[00:08:45]They are your friends.

[00:08:48]They love you.

[00:08:51]They defend you.

[00:09:00]A person should try to increase as many of these friends as possible and be very friendly with them since they will be your friends forever.

[00:09:17]Princess says you know I'm going to make a I don't have any friends. Nobody's going to come. It's okay. It's fine. How many friends do you think the had? You think after ding when made kdesh he was surrounded by like 30 guys the boys came to enjoy the herring with the I don't think that had any boys you know I don't think he had too many but he had says kicks in from the says concludes What you thought you were giving away, that's yours.

[00:10:10]All the money that a person amassed in his life, he'll have nothing.

[00:10:19]He won't have any of it. The money in the bank account, no, we'll have no use.

[00:10:25]The most you'll do, they'll let you eat your ATM card if you want to eat it.

[00:10:33]What you gave away, that's yours.

[00:10:37]Now, here's where comes in. You ready?

[00:10:43]A man, his holy acts, they will be to him.

[00:10:51]The man who gives the chum, the will be his. The account, the card will work. The account will be full of the money that was given away.

[00:11:12]Shal that is the money that belongs to a person.

[00:11:19]Have a good day everyone.