Are You Dating Your Equal… or Just Avoiding Loneliness

Added: 2026-05-10

[00:00:00]All right, as a person who's been long-term single, isolated, and has zero friends in the world, my phone doesn't ring for anything.

[00:00:10]Unless it's a bill collector or someone trying to get a hold of me to sell me something, my phone doesn't ring at all.

[00:00:19]And this [clears throat] is why when I see people who are very mismatched walking around together in the grocery store, and you look at them and you're like, "Wow, you really settled for that." Or the other day I was sitting inside of the gym looking out into the parking lot while I was doing leg extensions, and I saw two different people coming at me from uh different angles, right? One was coming from the left and one was coming straight at me. And when I looked at them, if you interchange their heads, their bodies were identical. About 300 lb, very short, heavily tattooed, and you think to yourself, "Look, look in the mirror. It's you, except you have different plumbing."

[00:01:10]And I think that's the way a lot of people see it is that sometimes we look at someone and you wonder, like, you could be out in public, like, you could be at a mall and see two people that look so similar to one another they could be twins or brother and sister, but they're holding hands and you think to yourself, "Well, that was awkward. Like, did you just meet see yourself and be like, we should get together and bump uglies?"

[00:01:37]Well, so getting back to my initial question, why does she stay?

[00:01:45]So, in the comments this morning I found this. People stay because someone's always there, at least that's what my former cousin-in-law told me. So, that may prove that some people don't like being alone and don't have a lot of options.

[00:02:01]So, other comments, um talking point number one, which is they stay because of low self-esteem.

[00:02:09]But wouldn't looking at a person that you're not physically attracted to or you know they're not physically attracted to you because you know you're ugly, and you look at them and they're slightly less ugly, but they're the person that decided to lower their expectations because they know that they can't do any better.

[00:02:31]And if they choose to go it and keep looking for someone better, they might spend their whole life looking for that better person.

[00:02:42]The same way that we spend our whole life looking for that forever job, right?

[00:02:47]We're looking for a job that's fun, we enjoy, pays extremely well, and by extremely well I'm talking at least 50 to $100 an hour, which you and I both know that's never going to happen.

[00:03:02]The same thing can be said about your relationship.

[00:03:07]Entry-level, minimum wage relationships are what trolls can get. It's within reach. She may not be your dream girl, but she's going to say yes. In fact, I was thinking about that uh last night cuz I couldn't sleep again.

[00:03:24]And so I'm sitting there awake and your brain's like going through like these I don't know if you guys do this, but your brain just like plays constant movies inside of your head. One minute you're watching uh a beautiful panoramic scene of a forest, the next you're remembering this girl in which I might have been slightly still inebriated from the night before, but I walked up to her and she wasn't the best-looking girl in the world, and I said to her it's like, "Hey, do you just want to um go back there and get it on?" And she's like, "Well, as long as you don't um fill me up, uh okay, but if you can't guarantee that you're not going to pop, well then I don't want to uh get pregnant." So, inevitably, we >> [laughter] >> I'll just leave that up to you and use your imagination as to what happened next.

[00:04:21]So, and that's just low self-esteem. If you can walk up to a person and be like, "Well, you know, >> [clears throat] >> I can't do any better right now or you're the only person here. You have this, I have this, we can put them together, and 30 seconds later we'll both be done, and then we'll walk away and never talk to each other again."

[00:04:45]And this is what I've heard from women throughout my entire life is usually they meet someone, they talk to them, they get it on once, maybe a second time, and then they never talk to you again.

[00:05:00]Over and over again throughout their entire lives.

[00:05:04]And so they learn to associate that if you're going to give it to people, um >> [laughter] >> if you're not going to buy the cow and you want to get the milk through the fence, well, you're always going to be providing fence milk to the general public.

[00:05:23]And for many people who stay in long-term relationships, I've met people who stayed together for 20 years. In fact, my friend Jackie, she was with the same guy for a really long time, and then suddenly um she got pregnant out of the blue.

[00:05:41]She didn't want to have an abortion.

[00:05:44]They had the child, and now they've been together for maybe 25, 30 years. I don't know when the last time I saw her was.

[00:05:52]Uh but she's um she has a pretty decent job. I'm sure she makes close to that to 40 to $50 an hour as a um mail server, exchange server admin for the university. So, I'm sure she does make great money uh at this point, but when I met her she was minimum wage. We both started out as um as entry-level workers at the university.

[00:06:20]And so that's how long I've known her since I was a teenager.

[00:06:24]But um getting back to the um the subject. So, my next talking point is surplus men have to take what they can get.

[00:06:34]What about the surplus women?

[00:06:37]Not just surplus men are out there.

[00:06:39]There are surplus women who exist within the confines of our society.

[00:06:45]Um incels exist, but so do femcels. And these are women that are holding on hope that they're going to meet that perfect job, and they age.

[00:06:57]They may get into their late 20s and fear hitting 30 and being alone. I've seen this many times where the closer they get to 30 and they're not married and they get that itch.

[00:07:11]And so he may not be Mr. Right, but she doesn't want to turn 30 and be unmarried because once you hit 30 and you become a surplus woman.

[00:07:26]It's not an exact number, but around that age where men prefer women who are younger, always younger. We all know this because of certain things that have been going on in the news now for more than a year that constantly come up is that um when it comes to age, it's older men, younger women.

[00:07:50]And occasionally you'll have a cougar or sugar mama who will provide resources to a younger man in exchange for other resources.

[00:08:02]But this relationship can be very tedious. Like, I've been there where I had to put out an order to have somewhere to sleep before, and it wasn't a good situation cuz I had no money. She was very wealthy, and you stay in that um in that uh I don't know. It's not a relationship, it's a situationship in which you're waiting to find a job so you can go be free, but at the same time while you're waiting, you've got to do things that you never imagined you'd be doing.

[00:08:37]And it's just part of life. Women get to experience this, too, is that sometimes they'll want things, and in order to get them, one of two people are going to provide them to you. Your sugar daddy or your daddy.

[00:08:53]And they can be the same age. I remember meeting a guy when I was a teenager who's uh who's teenage daughter got into a relationship uh with the manager of the fast food place that she was working at during high school.

[00:09:13]Of course, they couldn't go public with the relationship until after she got out of school and became of age, but he was going out with someone the same going out is a terrible expression there, but he was with someone that was the same age as his own daughters.

[00:09:30]That happens, but it's not normal, it's not expected.

[00:09:34]Society, especially American society, frowns on it. Other societies it's perfectly normal. Um but in our society when there's a large age gap either way, it's considered odd. Like, every time I look at the uh press secretary for current administration, the age gap between her and her husband is 30 years.

[00:09:56]That's no small amount and you guys have seen how pregnant she is. So meaning he's still got plenty of lead in his pencil. So every time I look at her I I see her pushing herself up against a a senior citizen.

[00:10:12]And you're just like how?

[00:10:15]How would you not be like grossed out by that? But hey, everyone has their thing. Everyone has weird quirks about them. Everyone does.

[00:10:27]No matter who you meet in the world, they're going to like something that's rather odd.

[00:10:34]And these are things you don't tell people because you don't want to face the judgment of society.

[00:10:40]But every single person is um has something.

[00:10:47]Like and the reason I say this is because almost every single woman I know has to go to a nail salon.

[00:10:57]The women that don't go to the nail salon, they will tell you that they've given it up in order to save money. Not because they wanted to.

[00:11:06]But because it is expensive and they have given it up in order to save money during hard times. But they still think about it. Because women know that men look at their feet.

[00:11:20]I know feet come comes up on this channel more often than it should, but it's just an extreme example. While I was taking abnormal psychology both at community college and at university, the things that men will fixate on was just absolutely crazy. Like there and not just men but women. There is one story that will always stand out in my head about a nun.

[00:11:48]And she decided to join the church because she had some really negative experiences throughout her life. And what she would do is that she would leave the church and purposely go out and look for dog droppings. And she would rub her foot in the dog droppings and call herself a dirty girl.

[00:12:10]And when I was reading that case study, I thought, you know what?

[00:12:14]That is really odd.

[00:12:16]To purposely go out and look to get dirty because it's it does it for you.

[00:12:25]And wondering how this psychological trauma develop and how are you going to fix it?

[00:12:34]Sometimes you can't fix what you like.

[00:12:37]Sometimes >> [laughter] >> it's it's really odd. Like the men that you meet that continually date clones of a particular woman. Some men like Asian women, some like Native American women. I myself am a plain Jane kind of guy.

[00:12:56]I prefer vanilla.

[00:12:59]Truly. Brown hair, blue eyes and pale.

[00:13:03]That's my type.

[00:13:05]And it's been my type throughout my entire life.

[00:13:08]And I know specifically when I developed that taste because I remember her name. I was in What what what grade was I? I was in second grade when I developed this taste and her name was Carrie Straw. Curly brown hair, really skinny, really pale and blue eyes.

[00:13:29]So even at that young of age you develop a type. You see something and you keep repeating it and repeating it and repeating it throughout your entire life. It could be a combination of traits. It's not like you're not physically attracted to other traits.

[00:13:47]It's just that this happens to be one of those things that keeps getting repeated throughout your life.

[00:13:53]And you don't understand why.

[00:13:55]It's just Like when I look last night, I was thinking to myself I was watching one of um uh Hannah Barron's videos last night before I went to bed.

[00:14:05]And [snorts] I thought I didn't know how small I asked uh chat GPT last night because again, I couldn't sleep. It's like, how tall is Hannah Barron? But she's like 4'8.

[00:14:16]She's tiny. When you see her on camera, she doesn't look that small and then you compare her to one of my other favorite women in the world, which was considered one of the most beautiful women in the world, Candice Swanepoel, who is like 5'9 and probably over 6 ft in heels.

[00:14:33]You compare these two women and they exist in two different spheres.

[00:14:37]But traditionally, I would find someone more like Hannah Barron more attractive and more approachable because they're closer to normal. I'm not saying that she's not absolutely drop dead gorgeous, but if I had to pick one, she's more of my type.

[00:14:56]All right, talking point number three.

[00:14:59]>> [snorts] >> Some people can't stand to be alone.

[00:15:02]Anything will do in that case.

[00:15:05]We've all known these people. Long-term single. Don't date much. Don't go out much. Don't have the personality.

[00:15:14]They're your basic um basement dweller. Both men and women.

[00:15:20]Remember, we don't discriminate on this channel.

[00:15:23]But they'll meet someone and any interest is interest.

[00:15:29]And regardless of whether or not you like it anything is better than being alone for these people.

[00:15:38]Whether they're in a verbally abusive relationship or just in general toxic.

[00:15:45]Because we all have toxic relationships, right? You have one right now with your current job.

[00:15:51]No one wants to go in and work.

[00:15:55]In fact, I've got to wrap up this video because I got to start getting ready to go to work. I got up this morning at 6:00. Again, going to repeat this.

[00:16:05]Couldn't sleep. Got up.

[00:16:07]Um I cooked some chicken on the stove with broccoli. I ate it.

[00:16:14]And now I'm here.

[00:16:16]Now I have to prepare myself physically mentally and my rear end because I have an appointment with Mr. Fleece in 1 hour and he's going to be waiting for me at the door.

[00:16:30]I'm going to walk in. Fleece is going to look at me. He's going to wink and say, "Oh, I've been waiting for this all weekend."

[00:16:36]My tighty whities are going to drop.

[00:16:39]You're going to spread.

[00:16:40]And the first 15 minutes of the day well, you're not going to enjoy yourself.

[00:16:47]And it takes that little bit. Have you noticed that once you come back to work on a Monday, it takes you a little bit to get used to it, right? It's like captivity isn't normal for human beings. Sitting and just pushing keys on a keyboard or like myself working the fryer later while working the register while flipping burgers while cleaning the floors, it takes you a while to get used to to reintroduce yourself to the chains.

[00:17:19]And every week that we come back it feels unnatural and unbearable.

[00:17:26]By the time 5:00 rolls around you are in a state of uneasiness.

[00:17:35]You are in a state of not understanding why you have to keep subjecting yourself to whatever kind of labor that you have to.

[00:17:46]No one likes working. And yet we are almost gaslit into believing that things have to be this way.

[00:17:56]When the exact opposite is true.

[00:17:59]It doesn't have to be this bad.

[00:18:03]But we endure it because we have to pay our bills. We all like having the power on.

[00:18:08]We all like having a cool place to sit during the day even though we hardly ever get to see our home during the light of day.

[00:18:19]We leave at sunrise. We come home at sunset every day Monday through Friday.

[00:18:29]And it's a horrible existence.

[00:18:31]But it's the only one that we have.