What is meant FOR you will COME: The deepest message of TAOISM

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[00:00:03]Have you ever felt that the harder you fight for something, the further it slips away?

[00:00:07]That you run, you push, you give everything you have, and still, something just doesn't fall into place.

[00:00:14][music] As if life were playing a game with you. As if there were an invisible force moving the pieces right when you thought you finally had them where you wanted them. And then comes that question you're afraid to say out loud.

[00:00:25]What if the problem isn't what you're missing, but the way you're searching for it? Today, we're going to talk about something that has been true for thousands of years, even though the modern world has done everything possible to make us forget it.

[00:00:38]We're going to talk about the Tao, >> [music] >> about the art of flowing, of letting go without giving up, and about understanding that there is an intelligence in life far greater than any plan your mind could ever design.

[00:00:50]And I'm not telling you this so you sit back and do nothing.

[00:00:53]>> [music] >> I'm telling you this because there is an enormous difference between acting from clarity and acting from [music] fear, between walking toward something and running away from something else. And that difference, as small as it may seem, changes absolutely everything. But before we go any further, I want to ask something simple of you.

[00:01:11]If at any point in this video, you feel something shift inside you, something click, write it in the comments. Not for the algorithm, but because sometimes putting into words what you feel is the very first step towards something beginning to change. And if you know someone going through a hard time, someone who feels like they're swimming against the current, share this with that person. You never know exactly when what they need to hear will arrive. Now [music] then, I want to tell you a story. It's a very old story, the kind that never ages, because it doesn't speak of a specific time, it speaks of human nature. And human nature, at its core, hasn't changed all that much.

[00:01:50]In a small village surrounded by mountains, there lived a man named Chen.

[00:01:55]If you looked at him from the outside, there wasn't much to envy.

[00:01:59]A modest house, a small garden, an old horse, nothing extraordinary. The neighbors watched him with that uncomfortable mixture of pity and condescension that people carry when they compare their lives to yours and come out ahead. But there was something about Chen that didn't fit the image of a man forgotten by luck. Something in the way he simply was. He didn't complain. He didn't speak about the past as though it were an open wound. He didn't look at the future with anxiety.

[00:02:26]He was simply there.

[00:02:28]With a calm that, if you're honest, can sometimes feel more unsettling than anguish. One day the horse escaped. It headed toward the mountains and disappeared into the mist as if it had never existed. The neighbors came running as they always do when there's someone else's misfortune to comment on.

[00:02:44]"What bad luck," they said. "That was the only thing you had." And Chen listened, nodded calmly, and said something that left them speechless.

[00:02:53]"Who can know whether this is good or bad?" People walked away thinking something was off with that man, that he had given up, that he had lost touch with reality. But a few days later the horse came back. And it didn't come back alone. It returned with several wild horses, strong, young, full of energy.

[00:03:10]Suddenly, the man who had nothing had more animals than anyone else in the village.

[00:03:15]The neighbors returned, this time with a different energy, with that slightly forced joy people have when your good fortune makes them happy on the surface, but they're quietly calculating how far ahead of them you now are. "How lucky you are," they said. "Now life is finally smiling on you." And Chen, with exactly the same calm as always, replied, "Who can know whether this is good or bad?" And this is where the story starts to genuinely unsettle.

[00:03:42]Because if you think about it honestly, we do exactly the opposite. All the time. We label everything that happens to us.

[00:03:49]>> [music] >> This is good. This is bad. This works in my favor. This ruins me.

[00:03:55]And we do it with breathtaking speed and certainty without having even half the information we would need to be so sure.

[00:04:02]The story continues. Shortly after the wild horses arrived, Chen's son decided to tame one of them. He was young, confident, [music] with that blend of courage and recklessness that belongs to youth. The horse was startled, reared up, and threw him violently to the ground. The fall was so hard that the young man broke both his legs. The neighbors returned.

[00:04:22][music] This time there were no smiles. There was pity, concern, and that guilty relief of someone thinking, "Thank goodness that isn't me." "What a tragedy." [music] They repeated.

[00:04:33]You see, luck always ends up turning.

[00:04:36]Chen looked at them and said the same thing he had said before, "Who can know whether this is good or bad?" And then, >> [music] >> weeks later, came the twist no one had seen coming. The Imperial Army arrived in the village. They had come to recruit every able-bodied young man for a war.

[00:04:51]Not a minor skirmish, one of those wars from which men don't return, or return so broken inside they're no longer the same. They took every son. Every one of them, except Chen's. Nobody wanted a young man with two fractured legs. And while the village filled with heavy silences and farewells trying not to look final, Chen stayed home caring for his son.

[00:05:14]What had seemed like tragedy had been protection. What had seemed like luck had brought [music] pain. And what had seemed like pain had turned out to be salvation. Sit with that for a moment.

[00:05:24]Not as an old story, but as a mirror.

[00:05:27]How many times in your own life have you judged something with absolute certainty, convinced it was the worst thing that could happen to you without knowing what was about to unfold just moments later? How many doors that slammed shut with pain and anger that you later understood had to close so you could end up in the right place?

[00:05:45]Taoism points directly at that.

[00:05:48]At that very human tendency to want to understand everything before everything has happened. To want the full meaning of an experience when we are only living the first chapter. And this is where something enters that the classic Tao texts describe with a word that has no perfect translation, but that when you truly understand it, something shifts in the way you relate to life. That word is Wu Wei, and it doesn't mean what most people imagine when they hear it for the first time. It doesn't mean doing nothing.

[00:06:16]It doesn't mean crossing your arms and waiting for the universe to sort everything out. It means something far more subtle and far more powerful.

[00:06:24]Acting without forcing, moving without fighting the current, doing what needs to be done, but from a place of calm rather than desperation. Think about water. The Tao speaks of water constantly, and that's no coincidence.

[00:06:38]Water doesn't argue with the rock in its path. It doesn't get frustrated.

[00:06:42]>> [music] >> It doesn't decide to give up and evaporate. It flows around it. It embraces it with patience. It wears it down over time until the rock, which once seemed immovable, finally gives way.

[00:06:54]And water always, [music] always finds its path downward, toward the sea, toward where it needs to go.

[00:07:01]That is not weakness. That is an intelligence we have forgotten because we were taught something else. We were taught [music] that everything worth having is won through force, through persistence, through never surrendering.

[00:07:12]>> [music] >> And there's truth in that. I won't deny it. But there is a distinction that almost no one taught us to make. The difference between persevering in something that flows even when it's hard, and clinging to something that already ended even when it hurts to admit it. When something is meant for you, there is movement. [music] Even in difficult moments, there's a sense that you are advancing.

[00:07:35]Doors don't always fly open, but they don't all slam shut at the same time, either.

[00:07:40]When something is not meant for you, everything feels like swimming upstream.

[00:07:44]Everything costs twice as much. Every step forward comes with two steps back.

[00:07:49]And no matter how hard you push, no matter how much force you apply, there is something inside you, something very honest and very quiet, that knows this isn't the way. But the problem is that inner whisper gets drowned out by noise, by busyness, by constant activity, by the idea that stopping for even a second means falling behind.

[00:08:10]And so we keep pushing doors that already closed, holding on to relationships that already ended on the inside, carrying versions of ourselves that no longer belong to us, >> [music] >> but that feel impossible to release because the familiar, even when it hurts, is at least [music] predictable.

[00:08:26]And here comes something uncomfortable that deserves to be said plainly. Much of the suffering we carry doesn't come from what happened to us. It comes from our resistance to what happened. It comes from that internal battle, from that this shouldn't be happening.

[00:08:40]>> [music] >> From that refusal to accept that reality is what it is, not what we had planned.

[00:08:45]I'm not saying this to minimize pain.

[00:08:47]Pain is real. Loss is [music] real.

[00:08:50]Betrayal, disappointment, failure, all of it hurts and has every right to hurt.

[00:08:55]But there is a difference between feeling pain and taking up [music] residence inside it as though it were a home, between moving through it and building walls around it. The Tao proposes something that sounds simple, but in practice requires enormous courage. Accepting reality as it is, not as you wish it were.

[00:09:14]Not submitting to it passively, but receiving it without fighting it. And from that place, from that clarity, deciding what to do next. Because when you act from acceptance, your decisions come from a completely different place than when you act from fear or resistance.

[00:09:30]When you act from fear, you choose what protects you from pain. When you act from calm, you choose what moves you toward what you truly want. And that difference, invisible from the outside, determines everything. There is an image the Taoist texts use that strikes me as one of the most honest I've ever found for describing human nature. They speak of a sculptor standing before a block of stone.

[00:09:54]And the question that sculptor asks is not what am I going to build, but rather what is already inside this stone, because the figure is already there.

[00:10:04]It already exists within the marble. The sculptor's work isn't to impose a vision onto the stone. It's to remove everything that's in the way, so that what was always inside can finally appear. And that is what the Tao says about each one of us.

[00:10:18]You don't need to become someone you're not. You don't need to add more layers, more achievements, more credentials, more [music] possessions to become who you came here to be. You need to gradually release what you are not. The fears that aren't yours, but were learned.

[00:10:33]The beliefs you adopted without ever questioning them. The identities you built to be accepted, but that weigh you down. And yes, that's frightening, because when you start releasing layers, you don't always know what's going to remain underneath. [music] There is a moment of emptiness between who you were and who you are becoming. And that emptiness, that blank space, is one of the most uncomfortable places a modern human being can inhabit, because we live in a culture that is terrified of emptiness. One that fills every second with stimulation, with noise, with movement. One that turns stillness into a synonym for wasting time.

[00:11:10]But the Tao teaches something that runs completely against that current.

[00:11:14]Emptiness is not an absence of value. It is the necessary condition for something new to enter. A full cup cannot receive more tea. A full room cannot hold anything new. A heart full of what no longer is has no space for what could [music] be. And so the act of letting go is not a defeat. It is a clearing. It is making room. It is trusting that what comes next, is even if you can't see it yet, deserves the space you are creating. Now, I want you to think about something specific, not in the abstract, but in your real life, right now. Is there something you've been holding on to for too long? Something that deep down you already sense is over, but that you keep gripping out of habit, out of fear, out of not knowing who you are without it. You don't have to answer me.

[00:11:57]Just observe it. Because observation, genuine awareness of what is actually happening, is the first movement of change. You don't have to do anything extraordinary today. Just see it honestly.

[00:12:09]Taoism doesn't ask you to be perfect. It doesn't ask you to fix everything at once. It asks you to begin paying attention, to notice when you are flowing and when you are forcing, when you are acting from clarity and when you are acting from panic. And that attention, that capacity to observe yourself without judging yourself, is one of the most revolutionary things you can develop. There is something else I want to address because I believe it is one of the most common and most [music] damaging illusions we carry. The idea that happiness is located somewhere in the future. Once I get that [music] job, once I find that person, once I have more money, once I finally resolve this thing that's worrying me, then I'll be okay. And life passes while we wait for that then. The Tao is very clear on this, even if it doesn't use these exact words. The present is not the road to real life. The present is real life. Everything that happens happens here, in this moment [music] that is always now. And I'm not saying this so you abandon your goals or stop working towards something. Dreams matter. Direction matters. But there is a difference between walking towards something while being present on the path and living disconnected from your own life while waiting to reach some destination you promised yourself would change everything.

[00:13:24]Because when you finally arrive, the mind is already searching for the next destination. That is its nature. And if you haven't learned to be present before you get there, you won't learn it after.

[00:13:35]Peace is not something you find on the other side of the problem. It's something you cultivate inside the problem. And this is not resignation.

[00:13:43]>> [music] >> This is one of the most courageous things a human being can do. Choosing to be okay in the middle of uncertainty, without having all the answers, without everything being resolved, without guarantees of any kind. Trusting the process is not naivety.

[00:13:58]It is a profoundly mature decision to recognize that you don't control everything, and that this is not a threat. It is simply the reality of what it means to be alive. There is a phrase that doesn't come from the Tao Te Ching, but that captures something very close to its spirit. What is yours cannot be lost. What is not yours cannot be kept.

[00:14:17]>> [music] >> And if you sit with that phrase, really sit with it, let it land instead of processing it quickly and moving on, something shifts. How much time have you spent chasing things that were never meant for you? How much energy have you put into holding on to what was already leaving? And how many times, [music] looking back, do you see that what left needed to leave so that something more real, more truly yours, could appear?

[00:14:42]Life has an intelligence that surpasses our capacity to plan, and that shouldn't frighten us. It should bring us relief.

[00:14:49]Because it means you don't need to have it all figured out. You don't need to know exactly where you're going.

[00:14:54]You don't need to solve today everything that still has no solution. You can take the next step with what you have, from where you are, and trust that the path will keep revealing itself as you walk.

[00:15:05]Not the entire path at once, just the next step. And when you stop demanding to see the whole road before you move, something loosens. Anxiety loses some of its fuel. The mind stops needing certainties that no one can give you, and begins to relate to life differently. Lighter, more curious, less at war with what is.

[00:15:25]I want to close with something I think it's important to say clearly. This is not a message telling you to give up. It is not a message telling you to stop fighting for what you want.

[00:15:36]It is not an invitation to passivity dressed up as spirituality. It is exactly the opposite. It is an invitation to stop spending your most precious energy, your time, your mental health, your [music] years battling what you cannot control. So that energy can go where it actually makes a difference.

[00:15:53]Toward what does depend on you, >> [music] >> toward how you respond, toward what you build, toward how you treat yourself, toward what kind of presence you are in the lives of the people you [music] love. That is in your hands. And when you live from that place, something begins to change. Not all at once, not dramatically, but the way water changes stone, slowly, steadily, quietly, until one day you look up and no longer recognize the landscape you once knew. So today, I'm not going to ask you to do something great. I'm going to ask something much simpler and at the same time much harder. Stop. Observe. Notice where you are forcing and where you are flowing.

[00:16:33]Identify what you are holding out of fear rather than love, and begin, little by little, to release what you already feel isn't [music] yours. Not all at once, not perfectly, just a little lighter than yesterday. Because sometimes the deepest change doesn't arrive when you add something new to your life.

[00:16:52]It arrives when you stop carrying what no longer belongs to you. And if something you heard today resonated, if something shifted even slightly, I invite you to stay in this space, not to rush, not to produce more, not to optimize yourself, but to understand yourself, to learn to let go, to remember who you are when you stop fighting everything. If you made it to the end, comment "I made it" and I will personally reply to you. And if this spoke to you, subscribe to be part of this community and leave a like if you enjoyed it.