Kevin Samuels CORRECTS 25-Year-Old Woman Romanticizing Single-Mother Households

Added: 2026-05-15

[00:00:00]Welcome back to No Filter Doze. This caller is 25 from Texas, says modern women are happy and pushes back on Kevin's views about relationships and family. Kevin starts digging into her background, her single mother household, and her six-year relationship with no marriage in sight, then starts connecting the dots on why modern dating keeps going in circles. Watch it all the way through. Hit like, subscribe, and make sure you show support to Kevin's original channel because we've got to keep his legacy alive.

[00:00:33]>> Um, what's the disagreement?

[00:00:35]>> Um, I think that modern women are actually happy.

[00:00:41]>> Okay.

[00:00:42]>> Um, >> how old did you say you were again?

[00:00:46]>> 25.

[00:00:47]>> Okay. What state do you live in?

[00:00:50]>> Texas.

[00:00:52]>> Women are happy based on what?

[00:00:56]Um, at least my friends, like for the most part, they talk about being happy with their jobs. Um, as far as men go.

[00:01:10]>> Well, let let's be clear. Your friends are 25 as well.

[00:01:16]>> Yeah, like around that age.

[00:01:18]>> Did you watch the entire broadcast?

[00:01:22]>> Nope.

[00:01:24]Well, apparently not because you would have heard me say that women report being happier in their 20s. You need to get off your phone and texting. You focus on this.

[00:01:33]>> Oh, I'm not texting.

[00:01:34]>> So, good. This what I'm saying is just that women report being happier in their 20s than men >> because men are at the bottom of their earning potential and starting their careers. But it switches at 40.

[00:01:47]>> That makes sense, >> right? So, what are you doing to prepare? So, is your mother married?

[00:01:54]>> No.

[00:01:55]>> Well, how old is she?

[00:01:57]>> She's 48, 49.

[00:02:00]>> How many children? How many siblings do you have?

[00:02:03]>> Four. It's five of us.

[00:02:06]>> Four.

[00:02:06]>> Four. What? What' you say?

[00:02:08]>> It's five of us. I have four siblings.

[00:02:10]It's five of us in total.

[00:02:11]>> How many? Uh how many uh fathers?

[00:02:15]>> Two.

[00:02:16]>> Okay. How happy is your mother?

[00:02:21]I think she's pretty happy. Like she has got um my oldest my youngest sister.

[00:02:27]>> Your mother is happy.

[00:02:28]>> Your mother's happy having five kids and no husband.

[00:02:35]>> I think it >> your mama's Your mama's happy having five kids and no husband at 50 and nobody to share life with. And once y'all are gone, she has nothing but empty nest.

[00:02:45]>> That's not the optimal situation. I agree. What do you mean it's not the optimal situation? It's five children.

[00:02:55]>> I agree. I agree.

[00:03:01]>> Okay. So, your mom's not happy.

[00:03:07]>> I can't say that she's not happy.

[00:03:09]>> Do you think your Do you want to be your mama?

[00:03:13]>> Okay. Well, that's a better question.

[00:03:15]No, I would not want to have >> Okay, so let's not play let's not Okay, so your mama was if you genetics are strong. Your mama had to you got to kind of favor your mother and your mother in her 20s made a choice. Why didn't she you you see where I'm going?

[00:03:35]>> I'm very Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I see where you're going. I'm very grateful that, you know, she was a good mom to us and all that. So, I don't want to um >> I want to get to the truth of it, matter, because no disrespect, as good of a mom as she can be, she still was trying to do the job of two people and there was a Even if your father was making $15 an hour, that still means there was more resources.

[00:03:56]We got to stop mythologizing and pedestalizing single mothers as if they didn't do anything wrong because we survived.

[00:04:08]There were things >> they didn't do. I'm sorry.

[00:04:12]>> Saying that we need to stop mythologizing single mothers as if they didn't do anything wrong just because you survived. Ma'am, a man is worth is a father is more than just a paycheck.

[00:04:23]It's his influence, his impact, someone else to be there. Balance. Do you have sisters?

[00:04:32]>> Yeah, four or three sisters, sorry.

[00:04:34]>> Three of them. Are they your age? Any older or younger?

[00:04:38]>> Um, one older. She's 29 and then I have two younger.

[00:04:43]>> How young is the youngest?

[00:04:45]>> 22.

[00:04:47]>> So what are their husband's names?

[00:04:49]>> No husbands.

[00:04:51]>> Four women. No, no husbands, raised by a mother with five children and no husband.

[00:05:01]And we want to not make it make it sound bad because you actually just survived.

[00:05:09]Iana Vanzant Shahar Ali has often said that black women has said there's a difference between raising a child and maintaining a child. More often than not, single parents maintain children.

[00:05:25]But were you able to do everything you wanted? Were you able to do the activities and things and go to places and do things as the same way you would have been able to do things if you had two parents in the household with two incomes?

[00:05:40]>> No, of course not. I I >> then we have to stop then we have to stop. But we have to stop this then because the way you're talking is man women in my age range they're happy.

[00:05:52]>> All right.

[00:05:54]>> We're living our best lives. But I do I do I do get the value that family has 100%. I do agree that um optimally you would want two parents to raise a child.

[00:06:09]>> Optimally, what do you mean optimally?

[00:06:14]>> I think that that is what the the goal should be like 100%. Like that's the best situation. That's what I mean the best situation.

[00:06:21]>> Okay. So, um, why don't why aren't you or either your sisters married?

[00:06:32]>> Because God hasn't proposed to us.

[00:06:35]>> Wrong.

[00:06:36]>> Okay.

[00:06:39]>> I mean, technically that's right, but practically I'm going to say it's wrong. And I'm going to tell you why. Were you raised to be a wife?

[00:06:50]I've I've seen you ask that question before. That's a really good question.

[00:06:54]Um, was I raised to be a wife? And what you mean by that is um can you just explain what you mean by that?

[00:07:00]>> Well, before I explain, what does your gut tell you?

[00:07:05]>> No, because I was not raised in this um two parent household.

[00:07:09]>> Were you raised to value the presence of a man in the house before having children?

[00:07:17]>> No. I mean, that's >> Stop right there. Stop right there. Stop right there. Stop right there.

[00:07:22]>> Were you raised to value a man's presence in the house before having children?

[00:07:28]>> Oh, no. But yeah, that wasn't the situation.

[00:07:32]>> But that wasn't the situation. It wasn't It wasn't what she made happen.

[00:07:36]>> Mhm.

[00:07:37]>> So, you were not raised. You didn't see it coming up.

[00:07:42]>> Oh, I just want to clarify. I'm sorry. I just want to clarify that she was married uh before she had um like four of us like to my dad she was married.

[00:07:52]>> What age was she married?

[00:07:54]>> I can't say the exact age. Um but I know that the divorce >> she married Hold on. Hold on. She married she married the father of her children.

[00:08:02]>> Mhm.

[00:08:03]>> Who?

[00:08:05]>> My my dad.

[00:08:07]>> Okay. She >> Okay. I want to be clear. She was married to your father.

[00:08:12]>> Yes.

[00:08:13]How many children does she have with your your father?

[00:08:17]>> Four.

[00:08:18]>> Four.

[00:08:21]>> Okay. You came in and said, "Okay, so how long were they married?"

[00:08:26]>> Um, I want to say like seven, eight years.

[00:08:32]>> Did I Okay, I asked you. Were you raised with your father? Okay, let's back up.

[00:08:35]>> I wasn't She got I'm sorry. She got a divorce um when I was in kindergarten.

[00:08:40]So, no, I wasn't um raised with him in a household.

[00:08:45]>> Are you the oldest?

[00:08:47]>> No, I'm the second oldest.

[00:08:50]>> Were they married before the oldest?

[00:08:53]>> No, the oldest has a different dad.

[00:08:56]>> It's still okay.

[00:08:59]So, different dad with the first child.

[00:09:01]>> She was married to your father and she had four more children with your father, right?

[00:09:09]>> Mhm. But that but she was divorced before you were five years old >> basically like yeah around >> still works. You were not raised to value a man's presence.

[00:09:21]>> Yeah.

[00:09:22]>> Okay. Then how would you like to be a wife one day?

[00:09:27]>> Sure. Yes.

[00:09:28]>> I'm not that's not a mandatory. I'm asking do you want to be married?

[00:09:34]>> Yeah. I see it in my future.

[00:09:37]>> You want children?

[00:09:40]I'm still debating that right now.

[00:09:44]>> Okay. I have to ask you a very serious question.

[00:09:50]How do you see marriage in your future?

[00:09:54]>> How do I see marriage in my future?

[00:09:56]>> Yes.

[00:10:00]As it stands today, one in four black women will marry. What makes you a wife?

[00:10:07]>> What makes me a wife?

[00:10:09]a woman that doesn't even know if she wants to have kids.

[00:10:13]>> I think that I would have to be on the same page with who I'm dating um whether they want to have kids or not.

[00:10:28]Young lady, you're living you're living in opposition. You're living in in opposition to your your female nature.

[00:10:40]going against what I should be doing.

[00:10:43]>> Biological your biological imperative.

[00:10:50]Yes. Where on the world can a single female of any species survive by herself?

[00:11:00]You cannot.

[00:11:02]The spe the female is the complement to the male.

[00:11:06]your purpose. See, that's the talk. We have we have given women have gotten educations and jobs to where you almost think you're a different species.

[00:11:15]It's like, well, I can see marriage in my future. I don't see marriage anywhere in your future cuz I don't see anywhere close to being a wife, >> much less a mother.

[00:11:29]I see it. I see what I'm seeing for most typical things.

[00:11:33]>> Yeah. You know what? I am a strong independent woman.

[00:11:37]>> I'm seeing a strong independent woman.

[00:11:40]>> Yeah, but I Okay, >> at 25 who says we're living our best lives and if you watch my show >> Well, >> by the time Okay, okay, but you're living your best life. Okay, but by what time do you think you will decide if you thought you'd get married? By what age do you think you'd marry?

[00:12:03]M by 30.

[00:12:06]>> Okay, that's five years from now. How's What's your longest relationship?

[00:12:12]>> On and off for about Well, I'm actually with him right now.

[00:12:16]Um, on and off for about six years.

[00:12:21]>> Yeah.

[00:12:22]Yeah. All right. I'mma I'm I'mma back up off this one. Six years, 19.

[00:12:29]And unfortunately, I mean, thank you for for being open, but I think it's fair to say that relationship doesn't get modeled to women who don't have a man.

[00:12:42]>> Oh, >> and you say you've been with somebody for six years. To what end?

[00:12:50]Meaning, ladies, you should be dating with intent. What are your intentions with this man?

[00:12:57]Well, yeah, one day. Okay.

[00:13:00]>> I'm just saying like right now it's no it's no pressure on him to do it.

[00:13:04]>> Okay.

[00:13:04]>> And how old is he?

[00:13:06]>> He's going to be 30.

[00:13:08]>> All right.

[00:13:09]Okay.

[00:13:11]Um, modern relationships, everybody.

[00:13:16]Modern relationships. Just do it. And unfortunately, young lady, you know, hello.

[00:13:26]That's the end of the video. Now, let's break down what happened. A 25-year-old woman from Texas calls in disagreeing with Kevin's point that modern women become less happy later in life. She says women her age are happy with their jobs and lives. Kevin immediately asks about her mother, finding out she's nearly 50, has five kids by two different men, and isn't married. The caller insists her mother is happy, but Kevin keeps pressing whether that's really the ideal situation. The conversation turns toward family structure, and Kevin asks if she or her sisters are married. None of them are.

[00:14:06]He then asks whether she was raised to value a man's presence in the home before children, and she admits she wasn't. Kevin connects that to her uncertainty around marriage and motherhood. She reveals she's been in an on andoff relationship for 6 years with a man turning 30, but there are still no marriage plans. Kevin points out that modern relationships lack direction and intent, especially when women say they want marriage, but apply no pressure toward it. The call ends with Kevin saying he doesn't see marriage anywhere in her future because she hasn't been shaped into a wife or a mother mindset.

[00:14:46]What this call exposes is how deeply a father's presence shapes the way daughters see relationships, marriage, and men in general. When a woman grows up without seeing a stable man in the house, she often learns independence before she learns cooperation. So later in life, she can talk about wanting marriage, but her actions move with the pace and mindset of somebody who was never taught to prioritize it. Just because a single mother struggled and kept things together doesn't mean the outcome was ideal. Survival is not the same as success. A daughter raised without a consistent masculine presence often grows up understanding how to function without men, but not necessarily how to build with one.

[00:15:35]Fellas, pay attention to how a woman was raised and what kind of relationships were modeled around her growing up. A lot of men focus only on looks, chemistry, or how she treats them in the moment. But family structure matters. If she never saw marriage, cooperation, or stable leadership in the home, don't assume she automatically knows how to build that kind of life. Watch her mindset, her sense of urgency, and whether she actually values structure or just likes the idea of it. Ladies, being independent and surviving on your own is not the same thing as being prepared for marriage. A lot of women were taught how to function without men, but not how to build with one. If marriage and family are things you truly want, there has to be intention behind it. Time matters.

[00:16:29]Relationship direction matters. And the choices made in your 20s shape the options available later. Wanting marriage one day is not enough by itself. Preparation has to match the goal. If you stayed locked in, drop a comment, hit like, and subscribe. And make sure you go support Kevin Samuels original channel so we can keep his message and legacy