I am an open relationship magnet

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[00:00:00]What y'all coochie taste like? It tastes like old bay seasoning?

[00:00:03]How you get this job?

[00:00:04]>> Uh-huh. What it taste like? Um if I had to put a flavor on my coochie, it would be like strawberry.

[00:00:11]How you know what it tastes like?

[00:00:14]I have I have results.

[00:00:16]Period. You be getting the peer reviews?

[00:00:18]>> I've been getting the peer reviews.

[00:00:19]Period. Period. Well, welcome to Hova's Romantic Society. I just got your name, but I'm going to ask you again for the camera. So, can I have your name and pronouns?

[00:00:26]>> My name is Sean Bay. Uh he, him, whatever. Why are you single? Right now I am a my friend call me an open relationship magnet. Okay, what that mean? Um I've have found myself in the midst of a lot of open relationships. So, you you sound ashamed cuz you whispering.

[00:00:44]Um because they're not my open relationships. So, it >> It's someone else's open relationship.

[00:00:47]>> Someone else's open relationships. Okay.

[00:00:50]So, you getting it? I'm getting it.

[00:00:52]>> And I just happen to be the people that they seek out. How many times has this happened to you?

[00:00:58]At the moment, three.

[00:01:00]And like what's the time frame?

[00:01:02]Um kind of all within the last year or so. Okay. So, you you be jumping to open relationship to open relationship.

[00:01:09]>> do find me.

[00:01:11]Um I've been told I was therapeutic.

[00:01:15]Girl. Okay. Robbie had a girlfriend. Oh.

[00:01:19]Wait, was he DL though or was he was Oh, she was She was aware that you know he was you know they were open. He was aware she was aware that he liked guys. Y'all was doing it together? We were. Okay. Oh.

[00:01:31]You know, and I'll be watching those kind of videos and I always be thinking like >> no. Not with the girl. Oh.

[00:01:36]>> No. No. Not with the girl. Okay. Not that one.

[00:01:40]You afraid?

[00:01:41]Um Not Oh wait, not that one.

[00:01:46]>> [laughter] >> I had to catch that.

[00:01:50]Well, what happened in that relationship before it ended? Um so, I had met him uh you know, we had hooked up before I found out he was in an open relationship. Okay. And she was nice.

[00:02:04]Uh, it was supposed to be just a random hookup. And then the second time he came over Don't whisper, girl.

[00:02:10]Uh, the second time he come came over he told me he had a girlfriend. And I said, "Oh."

[00:02:15]Okay. Um But, you know, I was It was still a hookup, so I was like, "That's cool.

[00:02:22]Like if she's cool with it, I don't want nobody knocking on my door." Right. So >> Well, you wasn't cool with it or didn't Why were you cool with it?

[00:02:28]>> No, I was saying I was cool with it, but Why were you cool with it? Uh, because I really wasn't looking for that at that moment.

[00:02:35]Um, you know But you don't But if a [ __ ] is in your house the second time you see him and he like, "Yeah, I got a girlfriend." And y'all already done hooked up and it's about to be the second time y'all hook up. Because like You don't get mad immediately?

[00:02:45]Maybe I'm just a violent person.

[00:02:48]Uh, I like to think of myself as not violent, so >> Okay, Martin Luther King. Now, wait a minute, Miss Mama.

[00:02:54]>> [laughter] >> Um, but no, I was like I said, it was a hookup. If nobody's knocking on my door, then nobody's knocking on my door. Okay.

[00:03:00]Ain't my issue, ain't my relationship.

[00:03:02]Okay.

[00:03:03]Um, the issue kind of came because I became a little delusional. Okay. You thought he was going to leave the I didn't think so, but I wanted him to.

[00:03:12]You didn't just like want to be in the middle? No.

[00:03:15]No.

[00:03:17]So you wanted him completely. You wanted to take him.

[00:03:19]>> I did, but >> And like what happened What's the Sorry, there's hair on here. Girl, let me give me the My dog just Like what steps did you take to try to take her man? Well, I didn't take any steps. It was really a just a a delusional dream.

[00:03:34]>> Okay.

[00:03:34]>> Like a Well, we have really nice connection. We have a really enjoyed time outside of just hooking up. Um I was I was talking to my best friend and I was like And he was like, "Well, ideally what do you want to happen?" And I said, "For him to leave her." And he said, "Well, you know how stupid that is, right?" Ah.

[00:03:52]Did you know how stupid that was?

[00:03:53]>> know how stupid that was. So, um you know >> It's okay. Yeah, it it happens.

[00:03:59]>> We all been dumb before.

[00:04:00]>> Yeah, absolutely.

[00:04:01]Can y'all hear me?

[00:04:02]>> Absolutely. Um so >> But did So, did you like tell him that you wanted him to leave her or no? You just like kept it to yourself?

[00:04:08]>> Yeah, no. I knew that she came first.

[00:04:09]I'm smart. Okay. So, yeah, that stopped. That's real. So, he just like naturally stopped that one.

[00:04:16]Well, so he ended it. A lot. They closed back up.

[00:04:22]Okay.

[00:04:24]Okay, I hate when they be doing that.

[00:04:25]>> Something happened.

[00:04:26]>> I hate that bipolar [ __ ] Yeah, so I was like >> Oh, something happened. I well, I don't know what happened, but I know something happened with them. Mhm. Um so yeah, that's >> I don't think that's bad.

[00:04:39]Yeah, so I moved on, you know. And then you found another open relationship with another girl that you was doing it with?

[00:04:46]>> This is like it was a guy. They were, you know, boyfriends. They were open.

[00:04:50]You know, I hooked up with them. Okay, how was that? It was fun. Good old time.

[00:04:55]Shout out to them. Oh, it was only one time? No. Okay.

[00:04:59]>> [laughter] >> It was like multiple times.

[00:05:02]>> Multiple times. Okay, so why did that end?

[00:05:05]Oh.

[00:05:07]Did I say end?

[00:05:08]Oh, it's still going on?

[00:05:09]>> You know, I keep We were friends. Okay, well, how does that work out? Cuz I'm I'll tell you.

[00:05:14]I kind of had a similar situation with two friends of mine, right? Mhm. Um and they were in a relationship.

[00:05:20]>> Mhm. And felt like one finished went and took a shower.

[00:05:26]Me and the other one finished and we were like doing it like finishing together, whatever.

[00:05:32]And then when I finished, he like wanted to clean me up. But he didn't clean up his man.

[00:05:37]And I felt like that was like a violation. Cuz I'm like go do like aftercare with your [ __ ] What you say? And I told him and I was like, go get in the shower with X Y Z. Like so I feel like I don't know if the [ __ ] wanted it as much as he did, but he had his [ __ ] press me to do it. But it was tea.

[00:06:00]You know, but no, were they you know, they come over, we link. Okay. It's been a good time. We played games. Okay.

[00:06:08]Any opportunity of y'all becoming a triple or like getting a full-time position like not not the the part-time.

[00:06:14]>> They asked me very ha ha he he if I would ever have two husbands and I said maybe. Oh, so they really like you. You know, I'm likable.

[00:06:22]>> [laughter] >> How long has this been going on? Um for a couple months.

[00:06:28]Oh. We've only We've only hooked up the three of us twice. Okay. And it was tea.

[00:06:35]It was tea. It was tea tea like Okay. And what about the last one?

[00:06:42]Okay, period. This one is like it's the lightest one. Uh-huh. You know, just somebody who lived by me. They were like, oh, we're opening up and we see you on the apps and I was like, okay.

[00:06:51]Oh, it was like another couple. Yeah.

[00:06:53]And you did it with them together, too?

[00:06:55]You only one or No, I didn't nothing happened from them. We just you know, met up once, kind of chit chat talked.

[00:07:02]I think they're still new to the whole open relationship.

[00:07:04]>> Yeah.

[00:07:05]I hate a fake open [ __ ] The way you I'm not trying to live y'all know. No, no, no.

[00:07:10]So Well, what's the craziest thing you ever did for love? Um you know, the typical have a man cheat, you know.

[00:07:18]The typical. The typical. You go back.

[00:07:22]Absolutely not.

[00:07:24]He still don't love you.

[00:07:28]That ended. But that was I was young.

[00:07:30]But why you say typical though?

[00:07:32]I feel like that's the story. Is that not the story? [laughter] That's not my story. Okay.

[00:07:38]Well He lying to me, I'm lying to him. I guess we both ain't [ __ ] You know what I'm saying?

[00:07:46]But Wait, so what break it down for me, please. Help me understand what happened. I was young. I was in a relationship.

[00:07:53]>> Okay. Um and the guy cheated on me. He told me he can't he told me that he cheated like in a very like I guess heartfelt moment for him. Okay.

[00:08:02]Um and we broke up.

[00:08:04]Cuz I was like, well, I felt like I was, you know, a good boyfriend. Uh-huh.

[00:08:09]Months later you know, he reached back out and I was like, okay, we might be able to do this again. And we were talking, not really like dating.

[00:08:18]And then he goes to me Okay.

[00:08:20]>> Mhm.

[00:08:21]So And then that's when he cheated. No, he cheated the first time. Okay, wait, wait, wait. Oh.

[00:08:28]Okay, wait, wait. I'm I said he cheated, we broke up. Okay, wait, no, no, no, you maybe I was in I was in another lane and I don't know where the I was at in my head, but I'm back now. You back now?

[00:08:37]I'm back. I'm back.

[00:08:39]>> Okay. I promise. So >> We were together. Y'all were together.

[00:08:42]Were y'all living together? No, we didn't. I was I was like 19, so Okay, so he cheated and then he came back and you took him back.

[00:08:48]>> I took him back. Why did you take him back?

[00:08:51]I don't know.

[00:08:53]Like I said, I was young. I think I was like we were 19 when we first started. I think I was like 20, 21 when we You thought this was real love.

[00:09:00]>> it was real love.

[00:09:02]Um it wasn't. It was puppy love. And so how much longer until after that did he ghost you? It was a couple months. So he stuck around for a couple months and then he ghosted you. Well, did you ever figure out what happened to him? Um I've had my closure. Okay, what was it? It was years after that.

[00:09:19]>> Okay.

[00:09:21]Um but it was uh it was a closure I had to take with myself. It was like >> Mhm.

[00:09:28]Um I was young. I was naive.

[00:09:30]It was like my first real relationship in Atlanta. Mhm. Oh. Have mercy.

[00:09:35][ __ ] is just [music] going [ __ ] I've experienced people who didn't love themselves. I've experienced moments where I didn't love myself. So, yeah.

[00:09:44]So, I think that Dating a [ __ ] that doesn't love himself is actually truly for the weak. I mean, it's not for the weak. It's not for the weak.

[00:09:51]>> Yeah. No, it's a it it it takes a lot.

[00:09:54]And you better love yourself to get out of that situation.

[00:09:57]>> Right. It actually was really hard for me to do that.

[00:09:59]It was so hard.

[00:10:02]And then he was trying to clinch on, and I was like, "Damn." Cuz cuz they feed off of they feed your energy. Yeah, I actually had a few nights where I was wake I was like awake at night, and I would just be like, "I feel like he's draining me of all my soul and my essence." Yeah. And I didn't know how to get away. They do that. Yeah. And I remember when I saw him afterwards, he just had these bags under his eyes, and he just like looked so drained. I was like, "His life force is cut off. It's he doesn't he doesn't know where to get his energy from anymore." It was a whole thing.

[00:10:30]It was it was weird. Well, damn.

[00:10:33]God bless him, though.

[00:10:35]You know, lessons.

[00:10:36]Right. We love a lesson. Right. Well, no, we don't love a lesson. No, I don't love I like a lesson from a distance.

[00:10:42]Like >> Yeah. I like a lesson where I like didn't do it, and I was like, "Oh, that's why I shouldn't have did that."

[00:10:48]Right. You know, those chill kind of lessons.

[00:10:50]>> Oh, yeah.

[00:10:52]Hate a lesson. Hate a lesson.

[00:10:54]Okay, I got a couple questions um with Planned Parenthood.

[00:10:59]What percentage of Americans support abortion access?

[00:11:03]Oh, I would hope like 60. You're actually on the nose. You're right on It's like 60 to 64%.

[00:11:11]>> Have you ever had to get an abortion?

[00:11:12]Me? No.

[00:11:14]Almost? Never had a scare?

[00:11:15]>> No, never had a scare. I'm I'm a gold star gay, so Okay. No, I'm talking about you. No. Oh, me, no.

[00:11:22]>> you don't got a uterus.

[00:11:23]>> have a uterus. I'm like, but they be shooting the club up, though. That's why. Oh, they don't?

[00:11:29]You never got the club shot? Sorry, this I'm all up in your business.

[00:11:33]Now, once or twice and you 29?

[00:11:36]I play safe now.

[00:11:38]But back in the day you didn't.

[00:11:42]Maybe I should start playing it more safe, too.

[00:11:44]Well, I don't really play. Well, I'm a I'm a side. You a side?

[00:11:49]>> side these days until I get into a relationship. Okay. Mhm. So you've been burned before.

[00:11:54]Yeah. Well, that's crazy to say like that though.

[00:11:57]But you know, you got to hook up with a random guy and it'll be boring and it'll not be good.

[00:12:01]>> Yes. And you go through all that work.

[00:12:04]So I'm like, I need a man. Okay, well, if you're comfortable, tell me about a time where you sought STI testing after a hookup. Even if you didn't have anything or not. Um You know, just I I try to get tested regularly. Okay. So, you know, I've had some I've had some friends who's gotten burned. Okay. So.

[00:12:24]I never got burned. Not yet.

[00:12:26]Yet. Who knows?

[00:12:28]Why I say yet like so damn like ominous like for me. Don't do me, but yeah. It was me. Mhm.

[00:12:35]Maybe I mean, I don't know that Never mind, we going It's just shooting the club up is just something that I like to do. It's uh it's fine.

[00:12:44]It's really fine.

[00:12:46]And like how can I be alive if I'm a mass state of the gravy? I don't want to be a side. Like what's the point? Oh, I I I enjoy it. You do? What you enjoy about being a side? I don't know. It's It's like intense foreplay. It's >> Okay.

[00:13:02]They've been doing the Ringling Circus on your ass, don't they?

[00:13:05]Girl. The Ringling Circus? You don't know what that is? Like the juggling and the you know, you know, >> Yeah. Yeah. Like I get tossed around sometimes. Okay. On on the side? On the side.

[00:13:19]>> Period. I like I mean, you was getting tossed around on the side when you was doing Nah, I mean, I ain't have to do that.

[00:13:25]It's okay. Why I do that though? You can You If you want to shave me back, you can. It's okay.

[00:13:31]Okay, well, what's the most toxic thing you've ever done for love? The most toxic thing I've ever done for love? I don't think I'm toxic. Um Yeah, I don't think I'm toxic. Okay.

[00:13:42]Other than wanting that man to leave that his girl. I wanted that man to leave his girl.

[00:13:46]Yeah, that was enough. Yeah. Yeah, that was enough. Well, anything else you would like to say to society? Um love yourself and, you know, I guess stay romantic. Not necessarily stay romantic. Well, I don't think Aw.

[00:14:01]That was really sweet.

[00:14:03]>> I like romance, too. Yeah.

[00:14:05]Damn. Well, anything else I could say to this Oh, you already I already asked that. [ __ ] I'm tired. I'm not going to lie. What's your Instagram and TikTok?

[00:14:12]Um my Instagram is smilefor_me.

[00:14:15]That's the word four, so f o r, and me with like three e's, one of those.

[00:14:20]Um my TikTok is, I guess, kingshambae.

[00:14:23]Okay. c a m b a I don't remember. I don't use TikTok like that.

[00:14:26]>> Period. It's fine. Thank you, boo. Thank you. Hopeless romantic society, [singing] it's the hopeless romantic society.

[00:14:36]The hopeless romantic society, it's the hopeless romantic society.