I Asked A Catholic Man and A Catholic Usher If Women Should OBEY Their Husbands!

Added: 2026-06-01

[00:00:00]Obviously, there's a disconnect between what you understand of Christians.

[00:00:05]>> Christian women are in a marriage with a Christian Christian husband.

[00:00:09]>> Mhm.

[00:00:10]>> And it's a partnership.

[00:00:11]>> Um what's the problem with the sign?

[00:00:14]Like is what what's wrong with the word obey?

[00:00:17]>> We're just here to ask you to leave.

[00:00:19]>> It's just kind of weird because it's like isn't this what you guys teach in the church? You know, I'm Catholic. So, it's like I'm just it's just a little strange that there's such a hostile, you know, response to this.

[00:00:32]>> I just can't believe it's this big of a spectacle for like God, this is black filling me. I thought the Catholics would actually I just thought the Catholics would have some balls like it's just crazy out of all the all the people. Obviously there's a disconnect between what you understand are Christians >> Christian women are in a marriage with a Christian Christian husband >> and it's a partnership >> so all decisions are made in a partnership manner >> and that's really what you need to know about Christian women >> so it's like if there's a decision it's 50/50 >> usually you sit down and you kind of come to a conclusion >> but like if both parties >> disagree this question in life how many of those situations do you Are you married?

[00:01:20]>> Mm-m.

[00:01:21]>> Okay. So, there aren't many times in life where you have a decision that is so difficult >> that nobody can make a decision.

[00:01:28]>> Well, but I'm saying what would be wrong with that? Like what what's wrong with that?

[00:01:32]>> What's wrong with what?

[00:01:33]>> Like if he did make the decisions.

[00:01:35]What's wrong with that?

[00:01:36]>> Well, and it sometimes when there's no decision to be made, either he or she will make it, whoever felt more stronger about it.

[00:01:43]>> Okay. Um, so question. Do you think it's okay for women to tell their husbands what to do?

[00:01:48]>> No. No. So, you don't think it's okay?

[00:01:50]>> Men don't tell women what to do either.

[00:01:53]>> So, Oh, so you don't think it's okay for either party to tell them what to do?

[00:01:56]>> No, they can run their own lives.

[00:01:58]>> Okay. But I guess cuz my question is, >> you want someone to tell you what to do?

[00:02:02]>> Yeah.

[00:02:03]>> What'd you know?

[00:02:04]>> People tell me what to do all the time.

[00:02:05]>> That's a boss. That's That's a little That's a little bit >> I mean, like, you know, the church just told me what to do. They told me to get off.

[00:02:11]>> Well, >> so yeah, you can't you know, you can't really >> Yeah, but they just did it.

[00:02:15]>> I'm just telling you I'm just telling you it obviously it could be a I I don't think that I don't think that in most cases there is one person that makes all decisions. I don't think that's the kind of marriage that's going to last a long time.

[00:02:27]>> Well, because my question is the president tells the vice president what to do.

[00:02:31]>> He should.

[00:02:31]>> So, why is there more obedience for bosses than husbands?

[00:02:35]>> I have a question for you inside real quick.

[00:02:37]>> Okay.

[00:02:37]>> Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Hey guys, >> I won't bother you. I guess but I want to ask you a Are you a Christian?

[00:02:42]>> Well, yeah. I'm Catholic.

[00:02:44]>> I'm sorry.

[00:02:44]>> I'm Catholic.

[00:02:45]>> You are?

[00:02:45]>> Uhhuh.

[00:02:46]>> Do you read the Bible?

[00:02:47]>> Yeah.

[00:02:48]Are you taking this question out of context or are you ask Why are you asking? I'm just curious. I'm a convert also.

[00:02:56]>> Oh, I just want to know what people believe.

[00:02:58]>> Oh, so yeah. I mean, I just >> I believe scripture.

[00:03:01]>> I Okay, >> I believe scripture. And if you read the entirety, >> okay, >> you get the context in which Jesus was talking and Paul was actually referring when he wrote his letter to the Ephesians.

[00:03:14]>> Okay.

[00:03:14]>> Okay.

[00:03:15]>> So, should I I read it and you can hear?

[00:03:17]You can you can you can take the exam and read it. I'm a I'm the head usher here and I'm going to be here >> until after mass.

[00:03:24]>> Okay. I cuz I was just more curious like how far the obedience goes. So like >> read the context, >> okay, >> in which Paul's letter to the Ephesian, >> okay, >> was sent.

[00:03:36]>> Okay. So I'll read >> and then you might have a more of an understanding because I've been married to the same woman for 56 years >> and she had six children. Mhm.

[00:03:46]>> Okay. So, she submitted once or twice and uh at least six times that I'm aware of and yet I've loved her through thick and thin. And she's loved me through thick and thin. And if you read the entirety, you'll see that what it says is have respect and love for one another.

[00:04:08]>> It's not one-sided.

[00:04:11]>> Take it out of context like that. There are so many things that can be misinterpreted.

[00:04:17]>> Okay. So, do you think it's okay for women to tell their husbands what to do?

[00:04:23]>> I don't tell my wife. So, no. I I don't think it's okay for one to tell the other. Submit. If you'll read the letter, >> okay, >> the scripture, what we preach.

[00:04:36]>> Uhhuh.

[00:04:37]>> You may get a better understanding. Do I think No, I don't think it's right for me to tell you you can't be out here. I fought and bled for your right to do this.

[00:04:45]>> Okay.

[00:04:46]>> Okay.

[00:04:47]>> So, I don't have any issue with that. I think you're being very friendly and very >> and I understand. That's why I asked the question. Okay. I'm not being ugly. I'm really not.

[00:04:57]>> No, I don't I don't think you are. I was just more um trying to get a better understanding. So, um, if a woman wouldn't tell her boss what to do, why is it okay not okay for like why is it okay for her to tell her husband what to do?

[00:05:12]>> I guess it depends on whether it's respectful discussion.

[00:05:15]>> Mhm.

[00:05:17]>> Same for a man, >> right?

[00:05:19]>> Should not be telling his wife what to do. He should be guiding her.

[00:05:24]>> So, he can't tell her to shut up even if she's being really annoying.

[00:05:26]>> Well, I didn't say you can't. I said you shouldn't. And there's a big difference.

[00:05:31]>> Really? I think it'd be heaven on earth if husbands told their wives to shut up more.

[00:05:35]>> No, I don't know that that's the case.

[00:05:38]My wife, it took me a long time to understand that I should have been listening to her.

[00:05:44]>> Really?

[00:05:46]>> Like in what way?

[00:05:47]>> Oh, in any number of ways. I tra I was on the road 120 to 200 days a year.

[00:05:53]>> Mhm.

[00:05:53]>> And she raised my children and I missed that time. and she would say, "Can you be here for this? Can you be here for that?"

[00:06:04]>> And I didn't pay attention. If I'd have been listening, if I had been >> doing what he said >> to the Ephesusians, >> then it it could very well have made a difference in my family life.

[00:06:19]>> Really? because you worked too. Like what's wrong with that? If you were, you know, building I'm assuming like you were paying for everything and or like um >> Well, the money the money came in from me. Yes, that's correct. And she took care of I couldn't have hired a woman to do what she did. So, >> Right.

[00:06:34]>> Right.

[00:06:35]>> So, how do you compensate?

[00:06:38]>> No, I just meant like you kind of um if I'm understanding you right, you're almost framing it as if it was like a bad thing that you worked a lot, but I'm saying like like what's wrong? I don't think there's anything wrong with that, you know, >> with avoiding well with placing >> Mhm.

[00:06:53]>> my thoughts of needs in front of my family's physical and spiritual needs.

[00:07:04]>> Okay.

[00:07:04]>> You don't think there was anything wrong with that?

[00:07:06]>> Well, I think most men are selfless, so they do things for their family. And so, like, >> well, they do things for themselves because it makes them feel good. You know, I didn't have to do what I did.

[00:07:15]>> Yeah. Well, I think a lot of times like women guilt men for things that they shouldn't feel guilty about. I'm not saying you in particular, but like >> I I never felt guilty about it.

[00:07:25]>> Yeah.

[00:07:26]>> I'm convert. Converts don't have guilt.

[00:07:28]Only Only Cradle Catholics have guilt.

[00:07:30]>> Okay.

[00:07:32]>> Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Crad Catholics have beat into them from day one.

[00:07:36]>> Well, because I guess my question is just it seems like bosses have more authority over their employees than husbands do over their wives.

[00:07:43]>> Yeah. like >> my employee, >> right? But >> again, >> okay, >> it it all goes back to the entirety of the scripture.

[00:07:54]>> Okay.

[00:07:55]>> And I've been working hard to try and get back in line with that. Your timing was perfect for me.

[00:08:02]>> Okay.

[00:08:03]>> Okay.

[00:08:03]>> What do you think people don't >> I go to a Bible study in in really over in uh Keller.

[00:08:09]>> Okay. and I and another buddy I was in the military with the only two Catholics in that study and you know that's never once come up >> the obey about that. No.

[00:08:22]>> So do you think um churches are afraid to teach this at times?

[00:08:26]>> No, I don't think so. I I I think that if they teach what Paul wrote to the Ephesians, >> okay, >> the world would be a better place. Okay, >> I do believe that I think and marriages divorce would probably be a whole lot less.

[00:08:48]>> One more question. So if the husband tells his wife one thing and the priest or the pastor tells him tells her another, who should she listen to?

[00:08:59]I guess again you have to that you you you can pull things so that I have to answer a question that I don't have all of the details or all of the facts and so I create the context in which I would make my own decision.

[00:09:13]>> Okay.

[00:09:13]>> I don't think that that's a a fair or practical question. I guess it depends.

[00:09:20]It's like me asking you know you're gonna quit beating your husband?

[00:09:23]>> No, I wouldn't really say that's the same thing. Well, no, it goes back to >> you listen to your husband. You got to listen to your priest. That's what you ask.

[00:09:32]>> Yeah. Because it's asking who has authority, right? And that's that's what the whole question's about. It's who who has the authority. Does the husband have >> Jesus sent the authority? And he said, "If you can read the entirety of scripture, Ephesians 5:21 through33, >> it's really I'm not even a college grad and I understand."

[00:09:56]Okay. But thank you and I and I can understand >> I guess you're having a question. Mhm.

[00:10:03]>> Uh I just