This Makes My Husband Uncomfortable

Added: 2026-06-03

[00:00:00]I was diagnosed with postpartum depression when I was about a month postpartum. It was all just really hard, but when I would go to talk to my husband about it, all I would get was, "I don't know what you want me to say, you know, try some medication, so on and so forth." And I've been struggling with trying to get him to understand the last 5 months, and our marriage is really kind of at a point where either he, you know, offers some support and tries to understand, or I'm not sure where we go from here. Here's what I want you to at least give him a chance with. Give me a few examples, a few things that he could do starting today that would make you feel loved and seen and known, and begin to reestablish safety underneath your feet. We can be frustrated that things aren't the way they should be, or we can choose reality and march on from here.

[00:00:46]The clearer you can get on how you would like to be loved in the next 2 weeks, the clearer you can be for yourself, which is hard when you're struggling with postpartum, right? Everything feels like everything, right?

[00:00:58]>> Yeah, that's fair. And sitting down with him and saying, "You have been very selfish lately." He will feel that in his guts, right or wrong, as a declaration of war, as yet another way he's failing. Or you can say, "Hey, we've got a brand new marriage now. I've got a road map for how you can best love me over the next 2 weeks, and because of the pace of change, we're both students, we're both working a bunch of jobs, our kid is going to be a different human in the next 6 months. Here's how you can reconnect with me."