14 Yr Old Daughter Sues Mom For Weight Loss Surgery!

Added: 2026-05-23

[00:00:00]You're 14 years old?

[00:00:01]>> Yes, ma'am. And you're bringing your mom to court? Yes, ma'am. Tell me why.

[00:00:06]I want to have surgery to be skinnier and healthier, but she won't let me.

[00:00:13]All right. What kind of surgery? Uh the gastric bypass surgery.

[00:00:17]Really? Yes. Okay. And your mom won't pay for it? No, ma'am.

[00:00:24]All right. It's my understanding that you had that surgery, too, right?

[00:00:28]>> I did have that surgery over >> How long ago? Uh it's been about 12 years ago. All right. How much weight did you lose?

[00:00:35]I lost uh well over 100 lbs. About 120, 125 lbs.

[00:00:40]>> Did you really? And you kept it off all of these years?

[00:00:43]>> Even through two pregnancies. My goodness. So, it's worked out for you.

[00:00:47]It has worked, yeah. So, that's why Reagan is sort of asking because she saw you do it.

[00:00:52]>> She's seen the benefits, but she's not seen the the bad side of it. My dear, tell me what's happening with you and your weight?

[00:01:02]Um my weight stops me from a lot of things, you know, making friends that are skinny. And um it >> Wait, say what?

[00:01:09]It it stops me from a lot of things, like like friends like people will look at me and they'll say I maybe I can't be friends with her. I shouldn't be friends with her because she's overweight.

[00:01:19]Really? People say that? I feel like they say that.

[00:01:22]>> So, how does a mother who's a nurse end up with Are you going to tell me how much you weigh? You know, ma'am. You know, ma'am?

[00:01:30]Does your mama know how much you weigh?

[00:01:32]I don't think so. Okay, why won't you say? I'm just I'm really ashamed of it.

[00:01:36]You are.

[00:01:38]Do you know what you weigh on your own?

[00:01:42]Okay.

[00:01:43]And you know that you're over the weight that you're supposed to be?

[00:01:47]>> Yes, Your Honor.

[00:01:48]What's going on, honey? Why are you crying, Reagan? Um I just I want to look, you know, normal and I think that I just I think that I would feel better, have more confidence about myself, you know, if I could, you know, wear cuter clothes, you know, that teenagers my age wear, and I can't do that if I'm overweight.

[00:02:12]>> What grade are you going to, sweetie?

[00:02:13]9th. All right. So, I can see where you're concerned, and you think that the surgery is the answer for you?

[00:02:20]Yes, ma'am, because, you know, I want high school to be the best years of my life.

[00:02:26]You know, I want to >> [snorts] >> make a lot of friends, and, you know, have a boyfriend, and, you know, I just And I think I can do all that if I'm, you know, at the right weight. Oh, this poor girl. Ugh, I just want to give her a big hug, cuz it absolutely breaks my heart that she is in here crying at the fact that she's overweight, and saying that in order for her to be popular, and to have a happy life, that she needs to be skinny. This right here is the result of the '90s and early 2000s fad of anorexia chic, where every single celebrity was being put on blast for having even the slightest bit of curve to them. And to be honest, I'm a little bit concerned we are heading right back down that path again with how the celebrities have been looking on the red carpet lately. But, this is something, as a woman, so many of us find our value in our bodies, whether it be from being desirable, from being able to fit into cute clothes, from being a certain size, to the number on the scale. As a woman, I have experienced every bit of shame that this young girl has, even though I had never been overweight when I was her age. For goodness' sake, when I was 18 years old going to casting calls for modeling, and being told I was not skinny enough. So, it really just breaks my heart to see her so deeply upset about this, and how she's saying high school is supposed to be the best years of my life. She is just so so young and having no idea that life does not end at high school, okay? Life goes on and it gets so so much better, okay? She is way too young to be making any changes to her body. You know it's not all about the weight, right? Yes, I am. I mean, I have a I have a great personality and yeah, I get >> have a great personality. And I get told that, but >> [snorts] >> you know, I I want to I want to look pretty, too.

[00:04:25]But what I'm saying is the eating, unless it's Is it a thyroid or anything that may cause issues with weight?

[00:04:32]>> her. We've had that checked out.

[00:04:33]>> not anything health related why you're gaining weight. So why don't we go a little bit deeper? Are we wanting to do that?

[00:04:41]Yes, sir. The eating is kind of covering up something emotionally.

[00:04:47]You know what I mean? Yes, sir. So what's going on in the house do you think that I need to know about that makes you eat? It's I don't It's maybe her working, you know, she's I think it's more that she's so skinny and you know, she's she's living like the life that I'd like to live, you know, she has she gets to wear the cute clothes and she gets noticed by guys, my mom and and I want to you know, I want to be like that, you know, I want to wear the cute clothes and I want boys to look at me and she gets that and I don't. Now I know that your daughter shared that you date rather young men.

[00:05:26]And like 22 or so.

[00:05:29]Sometimes. Yeah. Do you think that that's affecting her because you've chosen to date younger men?

[00:05:36]I think at first I didn't I didn't think that it would affect her, but um I think after a period of time I could see where it was making her feel as I was a peer instead of a parent. And um because of the divorce and all, I I felt really obligated to let all of my children have what they wanted and tried, you know, to try to to ease them through the divorce. And >> Now, how long have you been divorced? Um 2 years. All right. So, did you start putting more weight on when your dad and your mother divorced? Uh yes, Your Honor.

[00:06:09]>> Okay, well, let's go back to that.

[00:06:11]Because that's always an issue. Now, when you said you I noticed she has highlights in her hair. And I understand you have some piercings, too, right?

[00:06:19]Yes, Your Honor. Yeah, you thought it was appropriate for 14-year-old to have all of that?

[00:06:26]Like the nose and the lips appears, right? Yes, ma'am.

[00:06:30]I don't know if I would say it was completely appropriate, but I felt like it was um harmless.

[00:06:37]You think so?

[00:06:38]>> Yeah.

[00:06:39]So, after you've been divorced 2 years, she's taking this hard. Do you have any relationship with your father? Um not any longer. What is with these men who divorce their wives and divorce their children?

[00:06:52]>> If men have anything at all, it's the audacity. But in all seriousness, she clearly has a deeply troubled home life.

[00:07:00]Her dad's no longer around. The mom is just giving her anything that she wants.

[00:07:04]I mean, piercings on the face as a middle schooler is pretty extreme, I must say. Call me old-fashioned, but I didn't get this thing until I was able to pay for it myself, okay? The older I get, the more the frontal lobe has developed, and I realized just how young I was in middle school and in high school and even in my early 20s. We are all just figuring it out as we go. This young girl thinks she has it all figured out. She thinks that if she loses the weight, then she's going to get everything that she wants, that she's going to get the attention from boys, she's going to get popular, she's going to wear the cute clothes. But the thing is, being skinny does not help your mental health. I can attest to that, okay? Some of my most depressed moments in life where I wanted to myself, I was a size double zero and had boyfriends and all the friends and and was considered popular, at least to my choir peers. But nevertheless, it didn't help me whatsoever that I could fit into cute clothes. And it doesn't seem like this mom is telling her daughter any of this.

[00:08:06]It doesn't seem like she's trying to like reassure her daughter that she's beautiful just the way she is, that she doesn't need to change anything. She's too busy out here dating 22-year-olds because her ex-husband's a loser instead of focusing on her own children.

[00:08:19]>> How much of this did [music] you take on, honey? That weight represents something. And apparently, it represents your divorce.

[00:08:27]Right? Yes, I am. So, you got to witness all of this? Yes, ma'am. And how did it make you feel, honey?

[00:08:34]It really upset me.

[00:08:35]What what What did it upset you? Tell me Tell the judge how you it made you feel.

[00:08:40]It just my parents were always fighting and uh it just I didn't want me to see it.

[00:08:47]>> Reagan, come here. Come over here.

[00:08:49]Come here.

[00:08:55]You are so beautiful, little girl.

[00:08:58]But all this stuff here, I can't even have Look at the lip pierced. My my my.

[00:09:03]>> [laughter] >> What happened now?

[00:09:05]I just I didn't want I didn't want to see it and I didn't want my brother and my sister to see it and it just it really upset me and I felt like if I ate, it would take away the pain.

[00:09:18]And so, that's what's been going on. You miss your dad?

[00:09:22]Yeah.

[00:09:24]I know.

[00:09:26]I know.

[00:09:27]I know, sweetheart.

[00:09:29]So, you just started eating and eating.

[00:09:32]And then you started getting pierced and pierced.

[00:09:35]And you got your highlights. You have any tattoos? No, ma'am. [laughter] Well, at least you don't have any tattoos. Yes, ma'am. You do, put them somewhere nobody sees it. At least go down the aisle with your wedding dress and not the tattoo showing. How about that? You're still too young for that, honey. Yeah, ma'am. What is this uh business though you put in your the lawsuit that your mother dates younger men. How does that make you feel?

[00:09:59]It really it it makes me feel like, you know, she she's living the life she never could when she was that age. You know, she was overweight when she was young and at that age she couldn't get the cute guys.

[00:10:15]And I I feel like now she's going after the cute younger guys. Oh, you think they're cute?

[00:10:21]Yes, ma'am. All right.

[00:10:23]>> [laughter] >> So, you've been sneaking a look here and there.

[00:10:27]All right. We've got a lot of issues here.

[00:10:30]Um don't you think? I agree. Did you ever get the children any counseling because when your husband and you divorced, you were glad to see him go.

[00:10:40]And although the judge, I'm sure in his or her wisdom, did the right thing because the judge had facts that I don't certainly have before me. What I see now is the ramifications of the pain of a result of daddy's gone now.

[00:10:56]And for a girl, it's a recurring theme I have here cuz I know where you're coming from. But um you needed to get the children some counseling. Okay. That that should have been a part of it. And then now you're finding yourself because if you're dating men 10, 15 years younger than yourself, that means you're uh finding yourself. You're beautiful woman, the surgery worked, but your daughter is saying you're living the life. Could that be so?

[00:11:22]I guess it would appear that way in her eyes. Well, how is it for you that a middle-aged woman almost is dating children younger than my children.

[00:11:34]Mhm, it's not always great. Yeah.

[00:11:38]But there's a reason for that, too. Do you know what I'm saying?

[00:11:40]>> Yeah, there's a reason and um I've take taken a great big step back from that and have stopped that now.

[00:11:47]>> a lot of times we underestimate the wisdom and power, but from the mouths of babes, sometimes there is so much wisdom.

[00:11:55]Now, if I'm the mirror and you're looking into the mirror, and you know what a mirror does, right?

[00:12:01]It reflects back. Tell me what you see.

[00:12:04]Do you think you're pretty?

[00:12:06]No.

[00:12:07]You don't think you're pretty, sweetheart?

[00:12:12]Why don't you think you're pretty?

[00:12:14]Because I'm overweight.

[00:12:16]Oh, baby, being beautiful is means inside of you, not just on the outside.

[00:12:24]You [snorts] think so? Yes, your honor.

[00:12:27]Yes, we are.

[00:12:28]There's a hole that's so deep that even if you weighed 110 lb, you'd wake up and you'd still feel the same way. Your dad still wouldn't be here.

[00:12:39]You still wouldn't think you were pretty.

[00:12:42]And then you'd fall into the trap of looking for guys to give you some self-esteem and you can't get that outside of you. We got to work on you first.

[00:12:53]You know what I mean? Yes, ma'am. Can I get a hug?

[00:12:57]Come here, baby.

[00:12:59]Sweetheart.

[00:13:01]Someone cutting onions in here? Okay, but truly, this young girl is beautiful and I get it. As a woman, I feel like there's very [music] rare moments where we feel 100% okay with the way our body looks. So, instead of this mom putting her kid in counseling, [music] recognizing that there is a very much deeper issue here than her just wanting to to skinny, it's very evident that the mom is kind of clueless herself. And you know what? I know it's probably difficult to go through a divorce and the dad not being around, but I feel like they definitely need some family [music] counseling. Tell me the life you've had to live with this gastric bypass.

[00:13:43]Um well, I And what she could expect from it. You can expect uh to throw up every meal, every time you eat. You end up eating food that that you can't digest, that won't fit into that the pouch that they make. Um >> And how big is the pouch?

[00:13:59]Um Is it It's very little, right? Like the cup >> maybe maybe a quarter of a cup, I think is what they >> Is all you could eat at a time?

[00:14:08]>> Mhm.

[00:14:10]And so if you go over that or you don't eat You're going to get sick.

[00:14:14]So for all these years, that's how you've been living? That's how I've lived, yeah.

[00:14:19]And you don't want that for her, right?

[00:14:21]No, I don't.

[00:14:22]>> Reagan, you think you can put up with that?

[00:14:24]>> I want to be skinny and if that's what it takes, I mean Then you This is something you have to endure for the rest of your life?

[00:14:31]Pretty much, yeah. And how overweight were you? Were you obese? Oh yes, yes, your honor. I was I'm about 5 ft tall and I weighed 246 lb the day that I had my surgery. All right.

[00:14:44]Is it Was it worth it, you think? To you?

[00:14:49]To me Yes, it was worth it. And I And in spite of the the problems that I've had from it, I would do it all over again.

[00:14:55]You would? Because I was at I was at the point which I was 23 years old and had struggled with this I was at the point that was the only resolution I saw.

[00:15:08]Then if you're saying in front of Reagan that you would do it all again, why don't you want Reagan to do it?

[00:15:17]I want her to have the results, but I just don't want her to go through the steps that I've had to go through. I mean, there's just so many problems and I don't want to be If I signed it, I would be responsible if something happened to her.

[00:15:32]Well, what have you as a nurse Mhm. What have you done to help her? We've We have done the low-carb diet. She lost This was about 2 years ago, year and a half ago, 2 years ago. She lost about 50 lbs.

[00:15:44]>> years ago. My parents are still together.

[00:15:46]Oh, so you lost 50 lbs. How'd you feel then? I felt really good. 50 lbs is a lot of weight to lose when you're what, 12 years old? Yes, ma'am. So, I know you have the willpower to do it.

[00:16:00]It's just she dealt with had to deal with a crisis. But, I want to stop hanging our hat on if she loses the weight, everything in her life is going to change. So, we have to get her to a place where she feels good about herself.

[00:16:14]Because although you may make it sound like it's wonderful, the fact that you began ex- clusively dating younger men, there may be some issues there with you and your self-esteem. She's saying, "Dad's gone. Mom lost weight. She gets all the cute guys. If I lose weight, I'll get the cute guys." That's her logic.

[00:16:33]>> Mhm.

[00:16:34]But, it's not about the cute guys.

[00:16:36]It's a whole lot more to this. If you've got these younger men, I wouldn't parade them in and out of my house.

[00:16:43]You have and you deserve to have a life.

[00:16:46]Seems like you've been through a lot. I can feel it.

[00:16:49]And you do deserve that. But, you got a young teenage daughter that's watching everything and you got two other kids, too.

[00:16:55]So, sometimes there's a price to pay when you got your kids. You got to create a safe environment where she feels like she can tell you anything.

[00:17:04]Is that what you want? Yes, ma'am. Are you able now to tell her anything? Yes, ma'am. I do tell my mom, you know, >> Okay, why didn't you tell her then, "Mom, I'm eating because of Dad"?

[00:17:15]Because it was when I when you when I started it was really I saw her more of, you know, the fun mom and she wouldn't take it serious. You have got to be the mother.

[00:17:26]You can be friendly with your child, but you've got to be the mother. But to be brave enough to come to court and air this out, I am most proud of you.

[00:17:35]I am.

[00:17:36]>> [applause] >> So at this time, Mom, what I'm going to do >> [music] >> is find in favor of the defendant because you came in here asking for surgery, which you're not going to get.

[00:17:46]But I am going to send you to a nutritionist and at least give you an evaluation with a counselor. That is far better than you going and living a life being trapped by some surgery at this age, okay? Okay.

[00:17:59]All right. Good luck to you.

[00:18:01]>> Thank you. And you are beautiful. You hear me?

[00:18:05]And I don't lie.

[00:18:07]Okay?

[00:18:08]All right. I find in favor of the defendant. Thank Well, I'm definitely not surprised with the verdict and I definitely agree with Judge Penny about the entire thing. It's really sad to me that the daughter viewed the surgery as the only [music] option for her. The mom clearly viewed it as her only option. She didn't think that she could exercise. She didn't think that she could eat right to get to what she wanted. So she went through something so drastic as this surgery to fix this problem. Her mom clearly attributes a lot of her own value to the size of her body and I imagine a lot of that is getting put on her daughter as well. Young girls learn pretty much everything about our own bodies from our moms. The way your mom talks about her own body, the way she talks about other people's bodies, the way she talks about your body, that's all going to be internalized. And I have seen it firsthand in how differently my friends experience [music] their body versus myself. I was very, very fortunate that my mom never made me feel bad about my body. And she always wanted to make sure that I knew I was beautiful, no matter what. But I have other friends whose mom was always obsessed with losing weight, with >> [music] >> barely eating anything, classic almond mom trope. It has deeply affected well into their 30s. They still view their very skinny body as not being skinny enough. So, if you're a mother out there and you have daughters, please please be aware of this. Please be aware of how you speak about your own body and how you're speaking about other people's bodies to your children because it does affect them. And here's hoping that this new skinny Ozempic trend that these celebrities are on is very brief. But I'm curious to know your thoughts on this case. Do you think the daughter was completely out of line to [music] sue her mom for the surgery? Do you think the problems truly lie deep within the home life? What's your opinion on the body positivity movement and how it has affected you in your life? I want to know your thoughts in the comments down below. Leave a like and a follow, and I'll see you guys next time.