WOMEN Having MENTAL MELTDOWNS as MEN STOP Seeking LOVE, DATING & MARRIAGE. Part 6

Added: 2026-05-25

[00:00:00]How am I going to go the rest of my life like this?

[00:00:07]>> I've been dating since the 1980s something and I'm still single. I'm tired. Erica, you found your man. Don't hate. Let me live it. Let me vent. You You're off the strip. I am still on it.

[00:00:20]I'm in the trenches.

[00:00:22]>> Can somebody please Can somebody's son please come free me? On behalf of all the independent girls worldwide, I'm here to say that we are tired. In fact, let me speak for myself. I am tired.

[00:00:35]>> I don't want to take the trash out. I don't want to put gas in my car. I don't want to go get my car and the oil changed and the tires rotated. I want a man to do it, puppy.

[00:00:46]>> And I stayed independent, but no one told me about how lonely I was going to be.

[00:00:51]>> I have not seen so many miserable women in my life. beautiful women who appear to have everything going perfectly on the surface, but they get online and they tell you how wrecked their life is, how miserable they are.

[00:01:08]>> Sanji, I am sorry because you but you know, you know, you know I tried everything. You know, >> being an adult is realizing that your type ain't going to marry you.

[00:01:21]The first thing was I needed something to replace that darkness in me.

[00:01:31]>> Very pro-women, amazing, like strong, independent woman.

[00:01:37]But might I add another angle?

[00:01:39]>> I would feel like why the hell ain't no one trying to scoop me up to save my life. Am I ugly? Are they better looking than me? like why are they getting saved and I'm over here working, taking on extra shifts now because she got richer gear that came and scooped her up and now she got an easy life and now I got extra coins on my toes and my back hurts cuz no one's saving me. So you have a very positive attitude. I would have been a little bitter like why the [ __ ] why not me? Why not? I don't want to be irresponsible. I'm sick of it. I'm tired. I'm tired of the goddamn cape.

[00:02:10]Somebody save me. I want to be Julia Roberts on Hollywood Boulevard in cheap shoes when some guy comes and save me. I have worked hard since I was 14 and I had to pay. I'm sick of it. Erica, I I do understand classy and independent. It's thankless.

[00:02:25]I've been dating since the 1980some and I'm still single. I'm tired. Erica, you found your man. Don't hate. Let me live. Let me vent. You You're off the strip. I am still on it. I'm in the trenches and it sucks. I'm sick of being independent. Iing hate paying for my [ __ ] Range Rover, my other car, my mortgage, my mortgage insurance, my freaking cell phone, computer, Wi-Fi. I am sick of it. I need some guy with bad health to jump on in and interrupt and say, "Let me take you off your shift.

[00:02:59]You've been working hard enough." So, that's cute. What she's doing. I'm not doing that. We are different. I don't I'm tired. I have proven myself. And it only impresses other women. She's like, "Oh, that's amazing. My friends are independent. These men don't care. Come and save me, some chic. Minus a dookie.

[00:03:16]Just please come and save me. I'm tired.

[00:03:18]I'm tired, Erica. I don't want to do it no more. It's No one cares. Nobody cares about independence anymore. But it's I respect it, but they don't.

[00:03:27]>> Did you hear what she just said?

[00:03:28]>> When a man learn to hold his tongue long enough and do more listening and talking, modern women going to show you exactly who they are. You catch what she said about wanting a rich man with bad health? She's setting that up so when the man dies, she can cash in. That's why I keep saying marrying a modern woman is a fool's game. They ain't marrying for love, they marrying for money, yet they bringing nothing of equal value back to the man. And did you notice she used the word saved? If being strong and independent so great, why she want to be saved from it? Why even use the word saved?

[00:04:03]>> That is a very good question. I I feel like I'm dying from like touch starvation. I feel like if I were to get the kind of hug that I really want, I would crumble into pieces. I don't I don't get hugs. It is.

[00:04:21]It could be like maybe a hello, you know, whatever. Maybe um but it's not enough.

[00:04:29]I don't know how you how am I gonna go the rest of my life like this like I spent like last night just going like this 20 minutes We ain't worried about your touch starvation. Most women, this one included, can get a man to touch her, hold her, sleep with her, or even put a kid in her if that's what she wants. But you got millions of men who never even caught a touch or any affection from a woman their whole life. And you don't see them out here crying on social media. Also, you need to hit the gym and get your body right because you sound like them dudes crying they deserve a baddie while they out of shape. still living with their parents and ain't got no job.

[00:05:31]>> I did everything they said that was going to make me happy. I built a career. I got my own place. I went on solo trips like a pro. The best hotels, flying business, you name it, right? The works. And I stayed independent. But no one told me about how lonely I was going to be.

[00:05:51]>> I'm here to tell you right now, we don't care.

[00:05:54]>> Let me tell Right. Let me tell you.

[00:05:55]>> We don't care. On behalf of all the independent girls worldwide, I'm here to say that we are tired. In fact, let me speak for myself. I am tired. I'm tired of worrying about my own hair, worrying about paying for my own meals, worrying about what I'm going to eat, paying for what I'm going to eat, paying my bills, fixing my own car, paying my own rent, doing everything by myself. Like, I need someone to share my worries with me. I need to be taken care of. Like, guys, I'm so exhausted. Like the other day my car broke down and I had to call a mechanic by myself. I had to stay with a mechanic to fix the car by myself. I had to stay under the sun with a mechanic by myself. And I was just like, nah, this independent girl lifestyle is not for me because why am I under the sun with my mechanic at 2:00 p.m. in the afternoon?

[00:06:40]Nah, where's my husband?

[00:06:43]>> Thank you.

[00:06:43]>> Go ask your grandfather.

[00:06:50]In other words, you tired of being an adult and you looking for some simp with no self-worth to take over your bills and upkeep while you do absolutely nothing of equal value back for him in return. Right.

[00:07:02]>> Yes, I'm still in bed. Yes, I am. I'm not about to sit here and jump on the bandwagon talking about I don't need a man. I don't need a man. You don't NEED A MAN, GIRL. YOU CAN BE A STRONG BLACK INDEPENDENT.

[00:07:14]I don't want it. I don't want to be here anymore. I don't want to take the trash out. I don't want to put gas in my car.

[00:07:21]I don't want to go get my car and the oil changed and the tires rotated. I want a man to do it, puppy. I don't want to take the bags from the car up the stairs in the house. I don't want to do it. I don't want to cut off the arm circulation cuz I'm only a one trip type of [ __ ] I don't want to go through it no more. I'm ready. I think I'm ready to settle down. I'm ready to split these bills. I'm ready to do the 20 and he do the 80.

[00:07:50]>> A [ __ ] A [ __ ] A [ __ ] >> I'm ready for it. Lord, send me him.

[00:07:58]>> You really just said you doing 20 and the man doing 80. Get ready to be single for a long stretch then cuz simps are straight up going extinct. And another thing, when she said, "Lord, send me him." I just laughed. These women been living separate from God this whole time, then suddenly calling on his name like they've been walking righteous.

[00:08:20]>> I am so tired of being a strong, independent black woman. Can somebody please can somebody's son please come free me?

[00:08:30]>> Uh, it's a no for me.

[00:08:42]That baby be representing every last one of us. Just laughing while watching y'all crash out.

[00:08:48]>> Being an adult is realizing that your type ain't going to marry you.

[00:08:55]Yep. You heard me. You heard me. Your type ain't going to marry you.

[00:09:02]It stressed me out when I heard it though.

[00:09:06]God put that on my spirit and said, "Girl, share it with your friends. Share it with the cousins cuz they needed it."

[00:09:10]Girl, you want to get married to a good man. A good man. And a good man ain't your type.

[00:09:19]How you feel about that, M? I don't I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

[00:09:24]I don't know.

[00:09:30]I think I'm the only chick on the internet that stresses herself out every single day. As soon as I open my mouth, it get dangerous.

[00:09:39]Being a realist sometimes is too much.

[00:09:41]It's the pressure is too heavy. It's too heavy. They say you can manifest great things when you just speak it out loud, child. You know, >> you love the bad boys.

[00:09:54]>> Yeah. Do you?

[00:09:55]>> We love the bad boys.

[00:09:56]>> Isn't she funny?

[00:09:58]>> They be loving that bad boy vibe. Toxic relationships and all. jumping from one bad boy to the next, giving their bodies to him, till they realize them bad boys ain't about that marriage life. So now they got to settle with a good man they find boring and unattractive, no matter how fine he is. That's why I keep saying most women married to men they wouldn't even glance at if the bad boy hadn't rejected marriage.

[00:10:22]>> I am absolutely sorry if there's anything on my part that I've done.

[00:10:26]Maybe I've not made you feel like a man.

[00:10:30]Maybe I haven't loved you enough. Maybe I've neglected some things that I that I can't think of. Sunji, I am sorry because you but you know you know you know I tried everything. You know you know I I love you so much and I'm sorry.

[00:10:57]I never wanted to divorce. I never wanted to come to this and I'm just really sorry and I want him to get better and I'm not saying this for the camera but I'll always pray for him.

[00:11:15]>> This is the moment Tiwas Savage broke down in tears while performing her song somebody's song will love me one day.

[00:11:20]This happened at one of our shows hours ago. Tasavage was said to have realized that she hasn't been so lucky with men and therefore she broke down into tears.

[00:11:27]You may recall that said recently that at this point in her life, she wouldn't mind being a second wife. While this appeared to be so touching, many people are not happy with that she's crying over a man in an era where a lot of women don't even need men at all. They believe that she's causing a great setback to women empowerment and independence. But apparently, Tiwasave just happens to be someone who believes in love. And this is not a bad thing in itself. Therefore, she's allowed to express her emotions. This just goes to shows that everyone is battling one issue or another. We look at all these celebrities and we don't remember that they are even human beings. We think that they are super humans. Meanwhile, they are facing secret battles. Savage needs love and she's not ashamed to express that. We can only pray that true love finds her. Dear Savage, in case you are listening to this, may God give you unending joys and answer all your prayer request. We pray that indeed somebody's song will truly find you one day and you both live happily ever after.

[00:12:16]>> Let this be a reminder to all women.

[00:12:18]Don't matter if you a celebrity, a musical legend, or still looking good in your mature years. For most men, it still ain't going to matter. They ain't going to consider you for nothing serious. There comes a time when even your beauty can't even save you because it won't matter to men. I used to be ridiculous with Hi, I'm Promise. I have borderline personality disorder and anxiety disorder. Okay, so part of BPD is self-sabotage. Okay, so this specific self-sabotage is on the relationship side of things. So it doesn't have to be romantic. It could be platonic. It could be business relationship. It could be an acquaintance. But when it comes to people management, yeah, we we self-sabotage or we someway somehow try to set that entire thing al light and then we just right now we are talking about so I had my hoe phase right and in my HOE phase I did a lot of reckless things that one should not do.

[00:13:22]at all. I'm not going to get into details. There are kids watching this thing. But I will say that the feel to that recklessness differed. Okay, the first thing was I needed something to replace that darkness in me. You know, I felt a lot of void. I felt lost. I felt like I wasn't good enough. So the only thing that helped was and obviously being around people certain people right whether it's male female you know it it it really it it basically kind of tried to give me a temporary fix but it did not help in the long term. So obviously because of that I had to go look for more.

[00:14:13]I guess when I started healing what was inside me and my issues, that's when I stopped going outside for I'll get into the healing part another time. But hey, look, you ain't fooling nobody trying to dodge accountability for being a 304.

[00:14:36]She blaming her promiscuous behavior on borderline personality disorder and anxiety. Accountability really be their kryptonite. Ain't nobody buying that silly excuse. Got millions of folks out here dealing with the same or worse conditions who ain't out here sleeping with every Tom, Dick, and Harry. I guess she hoping a simp see this and take her serious now that she done with the streets. She got a reputation in the streets. So basically this video just her trying to do some damage control. I have not seen so many miserable women in my life. Beautiful women who appear to have everything going perfectly on the surface, but they get online and they tell you how wrecked their life is, how miserable they are. I think they're miserable because they have been lied to. They've been told that if they pursue a college degree, if they pursue a career, if they pursue personal fulfillment, if they pursue travel, if they pursue being the very best on their job, that they will be fulfilled and happy. And that's not true. That's not true. I believe they need to fulfill the one purpose that I think God put in the hearts of women and that is to find that man who is to be your covering.

[00:15:56]Now, feminism has told us that marriage is slavery for women, that motherhood is slavery for women, that men just want to dominate us and put us under their thumb and keep us underfoot and keep us in the kitchen pregnant. Women who are single tell themselves that because they're single. And women who have walked away from their marriage tell themselves that because that makes them feel better. I'm here to tell you the truth. You miserable because you supposed to be under the covering of a man. That is part of life. That is part of being fulfilled. That is part of your purpose on this planet to be under covering under the covering of a man.

[00:16:44]Of course, you can just disregard everything I'm saying and call me a pick me and go on with your life.

[00:16:51]How's that working for you so far?

[00:16:55]>> It is what it is. It is what it is.