|NEWS| Two Reasons Why Men Tell Other Men "Never Become A Step Father"

Added: 2026-06-01

[00:00:05]Meanwhile, at the Legion of Doom.

[00:00:08]Hello.

[00:00:10]>> Hey. What's up?

[00:00:12]>> Hey, what's going on?

[00:00:14]>> Hey, I got a question for you. Um, I just left our daughter's house, your daughter's house, and you know, she's graduating.

[00:00:27]And she was telling me that she wanted I guess her biological father just came back into her life or whatever the case after 17 years. And um she wanted him to come to the graduation. But in order for that to happen, I have to give up my ticket. And she told me that you knew something about this.

[00:00:51]>> Yeah. I didn't know something about it.

[00:00:53]>> And so you don't think IT'S A PROBLEM? LIKE AFTER 17 YEARS.

[00:00:59]>> Like you don't you don't think that's a problem?

[00:01:02]>> No, I don't think it's a problem at all because if she want her daddy back in the life, put her daddy back in the life.

[00:01:07]>> So you want me So So AFTER 17 YEARS, THIS DUDE COME AROUND. LOOK, he can be there, but you y'all WANT ME TO GIVE HER MY TICKET FOR TO LET HIM COME. DON'T I PAID FOR THAT ENTIRE GRADUATION.

[00:01:21]>> I got her first.

[00:01:22]>> You should expect.

[00:01:24]>> Okay. and we appreciate all everything that you did, but at the end of the day, that's still gonna be her daddy. And she want just her daddy to come back in her life. I don't see anything wrong with that.

[00:01:33]>> Trifling as hell, man. You mean to tell me? SO, WHAT IS YOU WHAT WHAT'S UP with you and him? Y'ALL Y'ALL BACK TOGETHER OR SOMETHING? CUZ IT HAS TO BE SOMETHING TO IT CUZ ain't no man AFTER AFTER 17 YEARS. AIN'T NO MAN JUST GOING TO POP back up and Oh, I want to be at your graduation now. AIN'T NO MAN DO. WHAT TYPE OF MAN is he?

[00:01:52]>> What you mean? What type of man is he?

[00:01:53]Listen, >> he's trying to come up back in his darn.

[00:01:56]>> Any type of man? I don't see nothing wrong WITH THAT.

[00:01:58]>> BUT BUT Y'ALL IN CAHOOTS WERE trying to get me to give her my ticket that I paid for.

[00:02:02]>> Ain't nobody Come on now. Ain't nobody in cahoots and just say she want her daddy to see her daddy graduate. What's wrong with that?

[00:02:07]>> YEAH, BUT YOU BROUGHT IT TO HER. She told me you brought IT TO HER. YOU BROUGHT IT. YOU CONFESSED HER TO DO THAT BECAUSE we trying to build a family. We trying to build a family >> after 17 years.

[00:02:16]>> You trying to build a family?

[00:02:17]>> After 17 years.

[00:02:17]>> After 17 years.

[00:02:19]>> Yeah. After 17 years. I don't see anything wrong with that, >> man. Y'all trifling as hell, man.

[00:02:24]Straight up. You know, this is what I'm going to do. Just like I told her, >> that apartment that I just got for her, I just went and pulled I pulled the lease off. I pulled the lease off of it.

[00:02:34]>> That graduation that I paid for, I'm going to go take all my money back.

[00:02:38]Matter of fact, I'm on my way there right now. IT AIN'T WRONG. SO, AFTER SO, AFTER 17 YEARS, Y'ALL KICK ME TO THE CURB. THAT AIN'T THAT AIN'T TRAVELING.

[00:02:49]>> But I'm just I'm just supposed to give up my money. I'M SUPPOSED TO GIVE HER my money. I TOOK CARE OF THIS GIRL FOR 17 YEARS. SAW HER THROUGH ALL HER SCHOOLS.

[00:02:56]WAS AT ALL HER LITTLE UM MILESTONES. I WAS THE MAN THERE.

[00:03:00]>> You don't think she You don't think she appreciate that?

[00:03:02]>> I mean, sure.

[00:03:03]>> She appreciate everything you do. But so now you going to do that to her?

[00:03:05]>> I'm taking all you going to take everything from her.

[00:03:07]>> I am.

[00:03:08]>> You know that. And that's what you call her.

[00:03:10]>> I am. Hey, I >> But you so want to be a daddy. But you want to be >> That's over with, man. Come on.

[00:03:15]>> That's over with.

[00:03:15]>> That's up with >> Yeah, that's over.

[00:03:17]>> So you want So So you going to be out of her life just like that?

[00:03:19]>> I'm done because of the graduation.

[00:03:22]No, she told me that you told you you convinced her to do it and she owned enough but she ordered enough to make she owned enough to make her own decision. SO SHE CAME to me and told me she WANT TO GIVE UP MY TICKET that I paid for to a man that hasn't been there for 17 years, right? AND I YOU DON'T WANT ME TO BE AT A GRADUATION THAT I PAID for the money that I worked for and I spent and PAID FOR AND I GOT HER HER FIRST APARTMENT AND I'M GETTING KICKED TO THE CURB. I'M THE BAD GUY NOW. Ain't nobody said you was getting kicked. It just said she want her daddy to come.

[00:03:54]Ain't nothing wrong with that. I don't see anything wrong with that.

[00:03:56]>> You know what? Look, all y'all can go now cuz I'm just going to take everything back and I'll let y'all doing that like >> that. That's how it is. That's You know for that I I'LL BE WRONG. I'LL be wrong.

[00:04:08]I'll be wrong. Don't worry about it.

[00:04:09]Hey, look. I tell you what. I'm about to get off this phone. I want y'all to go have a happy family together because I'm out. You wrong.

[00:04:15]>> Yeah. Yeah, that's right. You sure right. Like I'm supposed to just stick around and let something like this go down, man. I've been there for 17 years, man. I ain't trying to hear that crap, man. Straight up.

[00:04:26]>> Hey everyone, I guess I should finally speak on this because I'm the stepdaughter. The one whose stepfather refused to pay for my wedding because I wanted my actual father to walk me down the aisle. Let me start with this. I know people in the comments think I'm ungrateful or spoiled or whatever, but this is my father. Flawed, yes.

[00:04:46]inconsistent, yes, but he's still my father and no one can ever replace that.

[00:04:51]Life is short and I didn't want to look back on my wedding day and regret not us both being there. And no one can ever replace that. Life is short. Life is short and I didn't want to look back at my wedding day and regret not giving both of us that moment. My husband actually said it first, "Babe, your real dad should walk you down the aisle." And that hit me like, yeah, he should. For everything he didn't do, that's still my dad. That's still the man whose DNA I carry. And one moment doesn't erase the damage, but it does mean something to me. And yes, I did tell my stepfather he could walk me down the aisle. I'm not going to lie, I did say that. And at the time, it felt right. He's been there for me for years. School, rides, money, everything. He was stable when my dad wasn't. So yeah, I said it. But after talking with my fiance, I realized I wanted something different. And I should have told my stepdad. Yes, I should have pulled him aside. But I didn't know how to say it without hurting him. So it slipped out at the dinner table. And yeah, that was wrong. I'm going to take the blame for that. But I'm not apologizing for wanting my real father to be there at my wedding. And everyone keeps talking about it. Like everybody keeps talking about the money like I was trying to use him, but I wasn't. I swear I wasn't. I'm just used to him being there. He's never told me no. He paid for school, my car, everything I needed.

[00:06:17]So, was I wrong for thinking that he'd help with the wedding, too? He's always helped me. I thought that he >> I'm just going to be real and uh that was just like like I said, I'm going to just take it directly for face value because again, um art imitates life and life imitates art. I've shown videos before, even if they weren't very much specifically to this point. I've showcased other videos where stepfathers have been looked over or stepped directly on or or guys who wanted to try to fit directly within a role were pretty much abandoned when the other person comes directly back around.

[00:06:56]Um, I can sit up there and tell you that this was not even me and I had a a type of hurt that I felt uh directly from this video. And I'm like, wow. So, I'm like, so you mean to tell me that this man was there for 17 years? 17 important years? 17 years of what it took to get her to be a full-fledged woman. He was there from childhood all the way up to her being a grown adult pretty much, right? Cuz she's at a graduation.

[00:07:32]Usually in in the in the black community, it's like once you 18, you're grown. You know, you out of the house.

[00:07:37]Uh you know, all of that. And as stated before, you know, she got uh she got an apartment and and everything um you know, of the sort of which the stepfather paid for. He he afforded the celebration when it was graduation. He afforded her very first apartment and probably many more things. And he did that out of love and dedication because he wanted to let her know that, hey, even though he abandoned you, I won't.

[00:08:02]I'll always be there for you. I love you. You're not even my DNA. You're not even my blood. I didn't even help conceive you, but you are my child and this is how much I think of you. Right?

[00:08:13]He dedicated himself and he have to. He was there probably when when both people uh matter of fact, I'm not even sure if both of those women are even um I'm sorry, not both of the women. I'm not even sure if the the guy in the car and the woman that he's talking to, I'm not even sure if they're even, you know, together or not. Um no matter the ups and downs in that relationship, he was still present and he was still there and he had a ticket. And the daughter was like, "No, I want my real dad to be there." I can sit up there and tell you e even even just listening to that the blow that that would do to any man is tremendous. That's the type of thing where a lot of men out here it would just send it send like shock waves. Let let a lot of a lot of men watch this and even if they're not in this instance, it's going to send shock waves cuz it's going to let you know. It's like, hey, if you step into the role, this is potentially what you will have to deal with. this will possibly be your future where you can do any and everything that needs to be done because you decided to fit into that role because you saw a problem and you viewed yourself as the solution and as a solution you made sure that that problem was no longer a problem and everybody like all right well the the problem and the solution are done we're going to throw that directly out and bring the problem right back in?

[00:09:35]That's crazy. That That's So you mean to tell me that you're going to bring in somebody to patch up the house when it was already broken because of the first person that was there, wasn't it in in good? It was in disrepair all over the place. It was mowed and it was everything going on, right? So now the patchwork is done. You're going to bring back the person who didn't want to fix anything. You want to bring back the person who didn't pay, who didn't help, who who didn't have anything positive to do with the house. You want to bring them back there now to live in that house. That's crazy. That's why. And and and like I said before, the man has every right. He has every right to be in his feelings because he sacrificed 17 years of his life that he didn't have to sit up there and do again. He did that out of love.

[00:10:23]He He did it out of love and he did it out of necessity because these kids out here, they need a father. They need a positive black role model directly in their lives. and he stepped into that road to facilitate what was needed and all to get discarded like a piece of trash because people are like, "Ah, yeah, we threw away some trash, but we made a mistake and throwing away that trash. So, we're going to bring that trash directly back in the house." Wow.

[00:10:46]Wow. So, yep. I'm 100% willing to take back take back any and all things that you did because if that man is going to be there for that graduation, then he should be there for the rest of her life. So, take back that apartment. If you got her a car, take that back. Take back that graduation uh money as well, too. If she even got college education, take that back, too. Like I said before, ain't nobody about to pull up to the scene and decide that they want to use another person like this and then discard them. No, you get you you that means that you lose and you lose access to everything that came with that person. He has every single right to sit up there and take everything back. Like I said, the daughter and the mother are trifling.

[00:11:29]You You're going to sit up there and retake or accept a man back that was not acceptable from the beginning. Somebody that was never there, somebody that abandoned, somebody that left. Then then you got a man here that is valuable that that that that that wants to uh uh uh respect and and instill all of these positive things all to throw him away because you want to you want to bring in the one that was negative from the G.

[00:11:54]Come on.

[00:11:56]This is this is crazy. This is this is a thousand% crazy. And like I said, this is what a lot of men talk about. This is what a lot of men talk about. This is why you have fields of men out here saying that it doesn't make sense to be a stepfather because this is always a possibility of what can happen because for whatever reason women are like, "Yeah, the the original guy, he can always come back."

[00:12:20]How do you hold the door, leave the door open for the original person to sit up there and take 20 or 30 years to basically get themselves right so that now they can come through as the perfect what? That's crazy. That's a that's a th and then and then you just like let me let me let y'all know something, right?

[00:12:38]If a man ever did anything like that, do you do you understand how that man would get crucified all over social media about women all over the planet? Do you understand how that do you understand how that works? Like I said, for men, we know how that works cuz we've seen it.

[00:12:54]No matter what we do, we'll get sit up there and get crucified.

[00:12:57]But if a man were to sit up there and do that, be like, "Yeah, this, you know, this woman, she really wasn't nothing in the beginning. She she abandoned, you know, for 20 or 30 years, but you know, it's still the mom and, you know, uh she still has a place here and you know, she can still do this and do that. Do you understand how like, oh my goodness, this is this is just insane. This this is 100% insane. And then I paired up another video which I found online where you have this woman telling her story on how it is that her um her stepfather was originally going to walk her down the aisle because that was the dude that was there. And she specifically told him verbatim like, "Hey, you're going to walk me down the aisle." All to turn back around and be like, "Nah, you're not really going to do that cuz I'm letting my real father come back in my life." Cuz I thought about it. And I'm like, yo, life is short and that's my that's my real dad.

[00:13:53]That's my DNA and da da da. So, you know, he's actually more important. Um, even though he wasn't there and he abandoned me and whatnot or whatever, you know, I still he still got a place in my heart and you know, uh, uh, uh, life is too short. So, he's going to be the real one cuz he's the real father.

[00:14:08]Like I said, it's not worth it.

[00:14:11]It's not worth it. It's not worth it because at the end of the day, any one of those people, the kids or the mother or both, can come together in unison and sit up there and say, "Well, you're not the real father." We're going to let the real father be there. So again, for the men out there, no matter how much you attempt to be or that you think that you are the real father, you are not. And the main thing that I would always tell people is that the the child is the one who determines who the father is and who isn't. You you can sit up there and state that you are. That's a title that you gave yourself. You can sit up there and say that you are. If that child ain't saying it, you are not the father, right? I if that if that mother and you're sitting up there saying it again, you are not the father. But again, it's it's flippy floppy when a when a mother sits up there and speaks it because she's going off of some emotional type of thing. Just like in the video previously where the woman was like, "Yeah, I sat up there and and and told her that the father can come back around to go to the graduation and that your stepfather got to give up his stick and rah rah." Like I said, that's that's what I'll be saying.

[00:15:19]Like it doesn't matter how much you do for for people um you know directly out here. They can just toss you directly to the wayside.

[00:15:30]They can just toss you directly to the wayside. So this is why again per this example and many other examples that I've showcased, this is why many men are opting and they're highly against dating women and being with women who are single mothers because no man wants to deal with this. A lot of dudes just want a clean slate. So it's like, hey, my kid is my kid. It ain't no ifs and bust directly about it. Can't nobody decide to try to really cut me out of anything and all this other type. Like I said, this this dude, he's probably a good solid dude and he probably did the the right things that, you know, he wanted to do that that a quote unquote father was supposed to do. All to be told that you are not the father. Didn't even have to go to my for that one.

[00:16:13]Got told by his the the the stepdaughter, you're not the father. Got told by the mother, you're not the father.

[00:16:21]That's crazy.

[00:16:23]That that's crazy. And um I can promise you he will more than likely never do this again. I can promise you that after going through something such as this, I can promise you that both of the men who had to and again I'm taking these videos as face value for both of the men or any of the men who have ever went through this, I can promise you. I can promise you beyond a shadow of a doubt they're never going to be that stupid again.

[00:16:55]It's not going to happen. You'll catch him once. You won't sit up there and catch them again. And this is how a lot of women mess up situations for other women out there who are actually deserving for for for families out there who would never do anything like this.

[00:17:11]But like I said, we'll never know because those women will never get a chance because women like this exist who decide to treat good men this type of way and throw them to the curve, throw them to the wayside and allow the worst of the worst directly back in, who abandoned, who mistreated, who were never there, who were never supportive, who were never providers, who were never father. They will allow them all the way back in.

[00:17:37]It's not like they come bearing gifts.

[00:17:40]They're not bringing anything to repair the situation. All they're just doing is like, "Hey, I'm bringing a I'm sorry and I understand myself now and I love you."

[00:17:48]That's it. They They not bringing nothing else. They're not bringing no type of investments. They're not bringing in a building. They're not bringing in a house. They're not bringing in a brand new car. They're not bringing in a college educ. They're not They're bringing in nothing but words.

[00:18:00]The same thing that they left with words. That's the same thing. They bringing back words. And magically, that's 100% acceptable.

[00:18:08]that that's an IOU that people are willing to sit up there and take and stand directly on as if it's a hund00 million as if it erases every single thing as if it's more valuable than what that man that father right has invested directly into the the life of that child. That's crazy.

[00:18:30]Like I said, uh I feel I feel like I said for face value and and and dealing with other videos that I've covered over time, uh my condolences to a lot of these men out here. My condolences.

[00:18:43]But the greatest thing I can sit up there and tell you is um you know, everybody makes a mistake.

[00:18:49]Everybody makes a mistake. Don't make it a second time.

[00:18:53]Like they said on Family Guy, everybody deserves one. You got that one. You You got that one mistake. You got it out your system. Now you know what to look for. You know how you got there. Don't make the same mistake again.

[00:19:05]Like I said before, the thing that a lot of women don't realize is that situations or possibilities that they could have had have been jacked and messed up because of other women that came before them.

[00:19:21]It be like that.

[00:19:24]So again, like I said before, you may have some women out here. You may have some families out here who are very deserving of a guy like this, but they'll never get or receive that guy because he's gone through this most hurtful situation where in all things he's been used. He was used for 17 years. All to prepare that seat for the father that abandoned that whole family to come back in and automatically be king. That's crazy. But anyways, let me know what you guys think about this video and everything that I stated in the comment description below.