"Dating Has Never Been Easier... So Why Is Everyone Miserable?"

Added: 2026-05-31

[00:00:00]You know what's funny, Florence? People say finding love is easier now than ever >> because apparently all you need is Wi-Fi and a dating app. Right.

[00:00:06]>> Exactly. And somehow half of the people I know are already exhausted with the different apps.

[00:00:13]>> Hi everyone. Welcome back to Between Us podcast where we talk about relationships, dating, marriage, heartbreak, commitment, and all the conversations people are having in private but avoiding in public. I'm Florence.

[00:00:23]>> And I'm David. Before we start today's topic, don't forget to like the video and subscribe to the channel. Also, turn on your post notifications because we drop new conversations every single week.

[00:00:33]>> And trust me, some of these topics are going to start arguments.

[00:00:36]>> Hopefully healthy arguments, though.

[00:00:39]>> No promises about that yet. But let's start.

[00:00:41]>> All right, here is today's question. If people have more options than ever before, why does finding love feel harder now?

[00:00:47]>> See, I already disagree with the question.

[00:00:48]>> Few seconds in and we're about to disagree.

[00:00:50]>> I see. Because I don't think love is harder. I think people are harder in >> Well, I genuinely believe too many options have damaged modern dating.

[00:00:56]>> Why? Because nobody commits anymore. You meet somebody great today and instead of getting to know them, you're wondering who else is available.

[00:01:02]>> I think that's oversimplifying it.

[00:01:03]>> How?

[00:01:04]>> Because attractive people had options before social media. And successful people had options before dating apps.

[00:01:09]So choices aren't new.

[00:01:11]>> Not like this where you can scroll through hundreds of people while sitting in traffic.

[00:01:14]>> Fair enough. But I don't think options are the problem.

[00:01:17]>> What is?

[00:01:18]>> People don't know what they actually want.

[00:01:20]>> Sure.

[00:01:20]>> I'm serious. Someone says they want loyalty, then chooses excitement.

[00:01:23]Someone says they want peace, then keeps dating chaos. That's not an options problem, but a self-awareness problem.

[00:01:28]>> True. And social media is definitely making relationships worse as well.

[00:01:30]>> Oh dear. This is where you will lose me.

[00:01:32]>> Really? Why?

[00:01:33]>> Because people blame social media for everything instead of taking accountability for their actions.

[00:01:37]>> Still, it causes a lot of damage.

[00:01:39]>> No, people are the ones causing the damage. Instagram didn't tell someone to cheat or forces anyone to lie.

[00:01:43]>> But it gave them access to temptation 24 hours a day.

[00:01:45]>> Temptation existed before social media.

[00:01:48]>> Not while you're paying attention to your partner instead of being on that social media.

[00:01:51]>> Okay, that's actually a good point. H can I ask a dangerous question?

[00:01:55]>> The fact that you called it dangerous already worries me.

[00:01:59]>> Fear not. The question is, have standards become unrealistic >> for men or women?

[00:02:03]>> Both.

[00:02:03]>> Honestly, sometimes.

[00:02:05]>> Thank you. Because social media has people wanting perfection.

[00:02:09]>> But let's be fair, some standards are healthy.

[00:02:12]>> Agreed. But wanting someone who's rich, attractive, emotionally perfect, available 24 hours a day, funny, ambitious, romantic, and never annoying.

[00:02:19]Oh, that's a movie character. And if that person exists, they're probably looking for somebody equally perfect.

[00:02:25]>> Exactly.

[00:02:26]>> The truth nobody likes hearing. Every relationship is a compromise.

[00:02:29]>> Say it louder, please.

[00:02:31]>> You don't choose perfection. You choose which imperfections you're willing to live with.

[00:02:35]>> That might upset some people, though.

[00:02:37]>> Good. Maybe they need to get upset to know the harsh truth of good relationships.

[00:02:40]>> Another point is I've noticed people spend so much time asking, "Is this the right person?" But almost never ask, "Am I the right person?"

[00:02:47]>> Oops. That's uncomfortable.

[00:02:48]>> Exactly. Because self-reflection isn't fun. It's easier to criticize everybody else.

[00:02:54]>> And that's probably one of the biggest relationship problems nobody talks about in recent times.

[00:02:58]>> Well, relationships expose things we'd rather avoid, like patience, communication, growth, ego, commitment, and accountability.

[00:03:04]>> Definitely. And love is one of the few mirrors you can't run away from if you're truly committed.

[00:03:08]>> And I think another bigger problem in relationships is fear.

[00:03:12]>> Fear. Absolutely. People are seriously terrified >> of what? of choosing wrong, getting hurt, being cheated on, getting divorced, wasting years, losing money, and finally trusting the wrong person.

[00:03:25]>> That's understandable though.

[00:03:26]>> It is.

[00:03:27]>> But that fear is also becoming people's entire dating strategy.

[00:03:30]>> Explain >> because some people now want unrealistic guarantees before they invest emotionally, and relationships don't work that way.

[00:03:36]>> I slightly disagree. People aren't looking for just guarantees. They're looking for evidence. There's a difference.

[00:03:42]>> H interesting.

[00:03:43]>> Sure. And if someone has a history of dishonesty, that's evidence. If they keeps disrespecting and showing you continuous red flags, that's definitely an evidence.

[00:03:50]>> Okay, I can agree with that. But some people call everything a red flag nowadays.

[00:03:53]>> That's true. Because breathing wrong is a red flag these days as well.

[00:03:57]>> I'm telling you.

[00:03:58]>> You know what's funny, Florence? People say finding love is easier now than ever.

[00:04:02]>> Because apparently all you need is Wi-Fi in a dating app. Right.

[00:04:04]>> Exactly. And somehow half of the people I know are already exhausted with the different apps.

[00:04:11]So, why is falling in love becoming harder in this modern age?

[00:04:15]>> H maybe because we're carrying more expectations than ever and also being surrounded by lots of distractions and negativity.

[00:04:21]>> Or because people are scared and nobody wants to settle for less anymore.

[00:04:25]>> Whatever the reason, one thing hasn't changed. People still want connection, companionship, and somebody they can fully trust.

[00:04:30]>> And the ultimate one is true love.

[00:04:32]>> Now, we want to hear from you guys. Do you think love is actually harder to find today, or have people simply become harder to satisfy? And whose side are you on? Team Florence or team David or both?

[00:04:43]>> Leave your thoughts in the comments >> and don't forget to like the video if you enjoyed this conversation and subscribe for more episodes.

[00:04:49]>> See you next week on Between Us. Bye.