How To Heal Childhood Wounds | The Skills Nobody Taught You | Practical Wisdom -Message of the day

Added: 2026-05-31

[00:00:01]Today's message of the day, guys, is not a message. Today's lesson of the day, um, I decided that I'm going to give lessons, howto videos, how to heal childhood wounds. A lot of people talk about childhood wounds and how you need to heal childhood wounds, but nobody tells you how to.

[00:00:31]This is going to be the first episode of many episodes on how to do healing for such thing. How to do I'm going to give you healing skills.

[00:00:44]So, this might be uh pretty much might be a a long video, but bear with me.

[00:00:51]You're going to learn a lot.

[00:00:57]I hope you're having an amazing day.

[00:01:07]Hope your day is amazing. I hope hear me well. I hope you can see me well. Let's get comfortable. Um, it's 6:39 p.m. The sun is going down, so I need to make this quick, but not so quickly because I need you guys to understand the message.

[00:01:23]Anthony, how are you? Anthony. Anthony, can you hear me and see me well? Guys, make sure you like the video. You can't see the light um the lights, but I can see them. I really appreciate it. Uh, let me know if you can hear me well.

[00:01:36]Anthony, can you see me well? I'm on the house Wi-Fi and I tried to use my other phone and for some reason I couldn't.

[00:01:44]This is why I'm doing the video so late.

[00:01:47]So, we're gonna talk about how to heal childhood wounds, the skills nobody taught you. It's a series of things that I'm going to start doing in this channel.

[00:02:05]Instead of messages, I'm gonna teach you because nobody's telling you how to, I'm gonna tell you how to.

[00:02:12]So many adults are trying to solve present- day problems without realizing the root of those problems may have started years ago.

[00:02:23]Not because they're weak, not because they're broken, but because childhood experiences shape how we see ourselves.

[00:02:33]other people love, trust, safety, and even God.

[00:02:41]But many people were never taught how to heal the wounds they carried from childhood.

[00:02:48]So, they become adults carrying invisible pain. Anthony, can you hear me? Okay, you see me?

[00:02:56]Today's lesson is about understanding those wounds and learning pra practical steps to begin healing your childhood wounds.

[00:03:10]So what are childhood wounds?

[00:03:14]Childhood wounds are emotional injuries that occur when important emotional needs were not consistently met. Hi, Glitch. I I guess this is a wonderful video for you, Glitch. How to heal childhood wounds, guys. And if I get kicked out and you see that the screen goes blank, just bear with me. I'll be back.

[00:03:40]Hopefully, I can get through the whole message um without having to start over.

[00:03:47]I don't want to separate the video. I want the video to be together.

[00:03:55]So, childhood wounds are emotional injuries that occur when important emotional needs were not consistent met.

[00:04:03]This does not necessarily mean a person had bad parents.

[00:04:09]Many parents were doing the best they could with the tools they had.

[00:04:16]A wound can happen because of rejection, criticism, neglect, abandonment, bullying, emotional unavailability, constant conflict in the home, feeling unseen or unheard, growing up too fast, and becoming the caretaker.

[00:04:44]which is something that resonates with me. Some wounds come from what happened. Others come from what never happened.

[00:04:56]For example, a child may have had food, clothes, and shelter, but never felt emotional emotionally safe.

[00:05:10]How childhood wounds show up in adulthood.

[00:05:14]Many adults do not realize they are reacting to old pain.

[00:05:19]For example, the fear of rejection.

[00:05:23]A person becomes devastated when someone does not text them back.

[00:05:28]Not because of the text, but because it touched an old wound of not feeling chosen.

[00:05:36]People pleasing. A person constantly tries to make everyone happy. But why?

[00:05:47]Because as a child they learn if people are happy with me, I am safe.

[00:05:54]And that's how people pleasers are created because a lot of people talk about people pleasing.

[00:06:03]Difficulty trusting a person expect everyone to leave not because everyone leaves but because someone important left before maybe when they were younger since we're talking about healing childhood wounds.

[00:06:22]Overwork.

[00:06:24]A person believes their value comes from achieving or achievements.

[00:06:29]Deep down they may deep down they may have learned. I only receive love when I perform. And this is how people who are always overworking themselves. This is how they are built.

[00:06:47]Staying in toxic relationships.

[00:06:51]Some people stay because unhealthy behaviors feel familiar.

[00:06:58]Familiar does not always mean healthy.

[00:07:08]The truth that most people never hear.

[00:07:11]What happened to you may not have been your fault.

[00:07:16]But healing is not your responsibility.

[00:07:20]This is not about blaming parents. This is about freeing yourself.

[00:07:26]Because if we spend our entire life blaming others, we remain connected to the wound.

[00:07:34]Healing begins when we say, "I cannot change the past, but I can change what happens next."

[00:07:52]So let's talk about the healing skills for healing a childhood wound.

[00:08:01]Identify the original story.

[00:08:06]Many wounds create a story.

[00:08:11]For example, I am not enough.

[00:08:15]Nobody cares about me.

[00:08:17]I will always be abandoned. My feelings do not matter.

[00:08:23]Love must be earned.

[00:08:27]So ask yourself, what story did my younger self learn?

[00:08:34]And write it down.

[00:08:37]Awareness is the first step towards healing.

[00:08:42]No ego.

[00:08:44]How are you? No ego. How are you feeling today?

[00:08:48]It's a bunch of bugs and mosquitoes guys here.

[00:08:52]Soon as I start a message.

[00:08:59]So awareness is the first step towards healing.

[00:09:03]Separate facts from conclusion.

[00:09:07]Example.

[00:09:09]Fact. My father was emotionally unavailable.

[00:09:14]conclusion.

[00:09:16]I am not lovable.

[00:09:21]These are not the same thing.

[00:09:24]A child a child's mind often creates conclusions that are not true.

[00:09:32]The behavior of others does not deter the behaviors of others does not determine your worth. This is booted out number.

[00:09:42]I lost count, guys. If you see that the screen goes dark, just bear with me. I will be back. I get booted out. I I still don't understand why.

[00:09:53]But hopefully we'll figure it out, right?

[00:09:58]Hi, Julian. How are you?

[00:10:03]Speak to your younger self.

[00:10:07]Imagine yourself at 8 years old.

[00:10:12]What will that child need to hear?

[00:10:16]Maybe that child needed to hear, "You are loved.

[00:10:22]You matter.

[00:10:24]This is not your fault.

[00:10:27]You are enough.

[00:10:33]You deserve kindness."

[00:10:37]Many adults criticize themselves the way they were criticized.

[00:10:42]Healing begins when we learn to speak to oursel differently.

[00:10:51]Learn to reparent yourself.

[00:10:56]Reparenting means giving yourself today what you did not consistently receive then.

[00:11:04]For example, if you lack encouragement, encourage yourself.

[00:11:15]If you lack boundaries, create them. Create boundaries.

[00:11:23]If you lack safety, build safe relationships.

[00:11:31]If you lack validation, learn to validate your own emotions.

[00:11:38]Healing is not waiting for someone else to rescue you.

[00:11:44]Let's say that again.

[00:11:47]Healing is not waiting for someone else to rescue you.

[00:11:53]Healing is becoming the safe place you needed.

[00:12:02]So, what does the Bible have to say? God repeatedly shows compassion towards the wounded. Psalm 147:3.

[00:12:14]He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

[00:12:18]God acknowledged emotional wounds.

[00:12:22]He does not ignore them.

[00:12:27]Psalm 27:10.

[00:12:31]Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.

[00:12:39]Your earthly experience do not determine your heavenly value.

[00:12:46]Isaiah 41:10 says, Healing is possible.

[00:12:58]Growth is possible.

[00:13:01]Peace is possible.

[00:13:04]And no matter what happened in your past, God is still writing your story.

[00:13:14]So Isaiah says, "Fear not, for I am with you."

[00:13:19]One of the deepest childhood wounds is feeling alone.

[00:13:24]God continually reminds us we are not abandoned.

[00:13:31]So what will be a daily practice that you can do tonight?

[00:13:38]Write down I'm going to give you homework. This is going to be teaching school homework guys tonight. Write down one painful childhood experience.

[00:13:55]One painful childhood experience.

[00:13:59]What story you learned from it?

[00:14:04]Whether that story is actually true, a healthier truth you choose to believe moving forward.

[00:14:16]For example, an old story. I am not important.

[00:14:23]The new truth. I have value because I exist.

[00:14:29]My worth is not determined by how others treat treated me.

[00:14:38]Many of us are carrying wounds that were created by children trying to make sense of a difficult experience.

[00:14:48]The child did not The child did the best they could.

[00:14:54]Now the adult has the opportunity to heal.

[00:14:59]Your childhood may explain some of your struggles.

[00:15:05]But it does not have to define your future.

[00:15:10]Your beginning does not determine your destiny, which is something we spoke about yesterday.

[00:15:17]Healing is possible.

[00:15:20]Growth is possible.

[00:15:23]Peace is possible.

[00:15:26]And no matter what happened in your past, God is still writing your story.

[00:15:33]And I repeated that twice. I don't know if that was um meant to be or not.

[00:15:44]Guys, every day I'm going to do a how to video and give you practical healing skills for life.

[00:16:00]Not religion based, not any of that.

[00:16:04]Just how to heal. For example, your childhood wounds, things that you can reflect on and work on so that you can better yourself, elevate yourself and deal with things that we were never thought as humans, right? They never taught us these things in school. I know I made a video telling you guys the things that we were never thought And I asked myself, well, I'm telling them what they were what they were and thought, but who's going to teach them these things?

[00:16:48]It's really interesting to teach yourself things that you were never taught.

[00:16:54]So from today on we're going to do our lives and it's going to be on a how to skill how to do these things that we were never taught.

[00:17:06]And as part of this message guys um when I woke up this morning and I wore this and I put this on A message literally came to me saying stop judging people and being deceived by people because of how you see them. For example, how I'm dressed, right? I have this big thing on.

[00:17:47]I must be spiritual because of what I'm wearing.

[00:17:52]A lot of people maybe come on here with something on their head, just the way they look.

[00:18:00]Being spiritual has a way of how people perceive. Like if you're spiritual, you should be wearing this.

[00:18:08]You should be wearing white. You should be covering your head. There's a certain thing that you need to be wearing.

[00:18:16]And I want to tell you, stop being deceived by your eyes.

[00:18:24]Look at what people do, how they live, not what they wear.

[00:18:33]There's a lot of people. I came across a me a video last night and usually when I see a video I like the video just hi someone just just if I come across the video again I know that I saw it that's why I like the video not because I liked it or just so I know that if I come across this video again I know that I saw it and I literally removed the like from this person's Leo, this person was giving a message and I really, really, really dislike that.

[00:19:09]Guys, you have to be careful what you're listening to on YouTube. You have to be careful. Not everyone, there's a lot of people here who claim to be giving you a message and that they heal and that they this and that they that. Guys, pay attention.

[00:19:26]Literally what came out of this man's mouth was he was giving a message or something and he said in order for this to be true in your life what he he was giving a message like oh you're going to have a lot of abundance you're going to have a lot of things.

[00:19:42]Those are the messages that people love to hear where they're praising them and telling them how they're going to be all these things. And people that see it even they even though they don't do the healing they have an illusion that they're going to get all these things without doing the healing work. that doesn't work like that.

[00:19:57]But he was just saying how you're, you know, the person listening to the message was going to have all these things, which was really nice.

[00:20:07]But then at the end, he said, "If you don't like and subscribe and share and put in the comments whatever, whatever, you're not going to get this blessing.

[00:20:18]You're gonna be stuck and have burdens.

[00:20:22]It's going to be the opposite.

[00:20:27]I stopped. I stopped and I was like, "This man is literally cursing people."

[00:20:35]He's giving a message and at the same time cursing the person watching because if I sit here telling you if you don't like the video, comment and subscribe and if you don't leave something, your whole life is going to go to What are you saying? You're projecting and you're cursing me if I don't do what you're telling me to do, which is give you a like and leave you a comment or whatever that is. Was mindblowing. It was mindblowing. I literally took the like from this person and I was just like, did this man and he had a whole bunch he had a whole bunch of views to a whole bunch of a lot of views and a lot of likes and a lot of comments.

[00:21:21]A lot of people saying I claim and I claim it. What are you claiming?

[00:21:26]Hi peace and joy.

[00:21:29]Peace and joy, are you are you listening to this?

[00:21:34]A video that I saw literally gave a message and it's telling people if cuz I replayed it. I just replayed it. So, I watched this video, right, where guys is giving a message and I'm getting I'm getting um literally getting kicked out every two seconds. So, bear with me, guys. Hopefully, I can, you know, give the whole message. So, I was watching this video and in the video the guy is like, "You're going to have a lot of abundance. You're going to have a good life." It was a short video. And then he said, "If you don't if cuz I rewind the video cuz I was like, did did I just hear what I heard?" He said, "If you don't like, comment, and subscribe, and leave a message, blah, blah, blah."

[00:22:21]Instead of getting a blessing, you're going to get the opposite of it. You're going to get a lot of burdens, a lot of likes, a lot of views, a lot of subscribers. He's literally cursing people in a video.

[00:22:37]If you're telling someone, you're going to receive a lot of blessings, but if you don't like my video, the opposite is going to happen.

[00:22:47]You're literally projecting and you're literally cursing people while giving a message at the same time.

[00:22:56]If they don't do what you tell them to do for your benefit, they're going to get cursed.

[00:23:03]You got to be careful, guys. You got to be careful who you're listening to. You have to be careful.

[00:23:11]It literally hurt my heart cuz I'm like, "This man has all these subscribers and all these people following him and he's literally cursing them and they're over here like liking and listening to the stupidity that's coming out of his mouth." Like, I literally wanted to go through the freaking phone and just Who's that guy is this video? I'm going to cuss him out on a comment.

[00:23:36]No, I I I didn't even look at his name.

[00:23:39]It was like a short video that came across.

[00:23:44]I came across a short video and I was like, you know how many people are watching stuff on YouTube and they're literally being cursed?

[00:23:55]You have to be careful, guys. You have to be careful. Don't be deceived by your eyes and what you're listening to, pay attention to what you're listening to.

[00:24:04]And just because a person is not dressed a certain way does not make them less spiritual.

[00:24:11]Cuz again, when I put this on this morning, something literally said, you know, like some people are going to look at me and be like, "Oh, she's spiritual because of the way she's dressed."

[00:24:24]The way a person dress and looks does not make them more or less spiritual.

[00:24:31]Stop letting people play with you.

[00:24:32]There's a lot of people playing pretend, dressing up a certain way, saying certain things just to deceive you.

[00:24:50]Anyways guys, I'm going to get off of here. I really don't want the video to um get caught off again. Hopefully you guys are able to hear me and see me well. Um from now on, like I said, I'm going to do how-to videos. I'm going to um do videos teaching you healing skills on different topics. Today's topic was how to heal childhood wounds.

[00:25:19]And that's what we spoke about. Every day I'm gonna come with a different message because there's a lot of people already motivating. There's a lot of people giving messages.

[00:25:29]There's a lot of people hyping you up pretty much, but no one's showing you how to do things, how to deal with emotional things, how to do the healing journey. No one's telling you how to. Well, I'm gonna put my dress on and show you guys and teach you how to how to do this healing thing. I'm going to teach you a healing skill every day. Today was how to heal your childhood wounds.

[00:26:00]The skills nobody taught you.

[00:26:03]Well, I'm going to teach you cuz it's all one of me and too many of you.

[00:26:09]And if I can make a video help yourself kind of thing, I think that would be great. Um, I think that me doing a oneonone, I'm not having as much impact as I would like to have. But if I create these videos where you can come and watch them and work on the things that you need to work on, then I can make a greater impact.

[00:26:34]So, I'm battling with the real struggle right now. I want to go buy a whole pizza and eat it to myself, but I'm still working on removing some weight.

[00:26:45]Quarantine in the house.

[00:26:48]I tell you what, peace enjoy.

[00:26:51]You buy that whole pizza and send me half.

[00:26:58]That's what you should do. Buy the pizza and send me half. I want some pizza right now.

[00:27:06]I think that's how you fix that issue.

[00:27:10]Buy it and send me half. I'll share the fatness with you guys. I hope you have you guys are having an amazing day. Um, I'm going to figure out this YouTube thing and how to create the videos because I would love to keep creating the videos live instead of doing videos.

[00:27:31]I like going live better.

[00:27:34]But I need to figure out the getting booted out of YouTube and things like that. I don't know what's wrong. I need to figure out what's causing it because I don't want the the teachings that I'm going to do from now on to be interrupted because I feel like they're very important. Um, and it will help a lot of people.

[00:27:59]Um, it's 700 p.m. guys.

[00:28:02]It's really hot here in Arizona. Thank you for joining me. Comment, like, and subscribe. Go follow me on Instagram, guys. Primary Healer on Instagram.

[00:28:13]And I hope you guys have an amazing day.

[00:28:15]If this video helped you, let me know.

[00:28:19]Leave me an emoji or something um under the video. But also, if there's something that you're struggling with or something happening in your life, you can always email me or you can always leave the comments under any of my videos and say, you know, I'm struggling with this. Can you make a video about it and I will gladly um make a teaching video for you on how to deal with it.

[00:28:45]7:07 here and cloudy and windy. It's been windy, but it's been nice because it's very hot. Very hot here. A little sprinkle so far. It might rain a little and it's supposed to be clear all week.

[00:29:01]Um I heard there's a big fire in in California.

[00:29:10]It's very hot here, guys. Um I'm going to get off of here. I'm going to get me something to eat. I'm starving. I'm hungry.

[00:29:19]I'm hungry. You see, when you guys think of me, you should you should literally say, "You know what?

[00:29:25]Let me cash up Carolina $100 and write a message.

[00:29:30]My favorite healer, get some food.

[00:29:36]My favorite healer. Get some food."

[00:29:41]That's how you get to my heart. That's how you get to my heart. Anyways guys, there was a chemical explosion fire in Southern California, but that's on that side.

[00:29:53]Yeah, I heard. I heard.

[00:29:56]You know what? Let me cash up Carolina.

[00:29:59]$100. My favorite healer. Get some food.

[00:30:06]You can say, "Get some food." You can say, "Get some ice cream." You can say, "Go get it. Cheesecake dip in chocolate."

[00:30:16]I'm not asking for much, guys. I'm not asking for much. Comment, like, subscribe.

[00:30:22]Let me know what you need help with and cash at me so I can get some food.

[00:30:30]I'm just saying.

[00:30:34]Yeah. Peace. Enjoy. I don't ask for much.

[00:30:38]Karolina, go get some pizza.

[00:30:41]I need to stop. No, I'm I'm trying very hard, guys, to eat healthy and not eat as much throughout the day, not be so heavy.

[00:30:52]Um, I've been seeing a lot more mental clarity because I've been, you know, staying hydrated, drinking a lot of water. I've been drinking my tea. Um, I was supposed to drink a tea this morning. I didn't. I made a tea last night and I didn't drink it, but I've been drinking, you know, tea. Um, I haven't been having coffee. I do have coffee from time to time. So, I'm not saying that I I cut out coffee completely. You know, if I go out to a restaurant, whatever. I I love going to a restaurant and having coffee. I don't know. It feels different. The same way where I like to come to the backyard and have coffee looking at my birds. But, you know, maybe in the next week or two, I'm supposed to meet up with friends and they're camping. Maybe that's when I'll buy the goodie treats ice cream cake and bring it to the camp spot.

[00:31:46]Yes. Oh my god. Having cake in a camp spot.

[00:31:51]That sounds very interesting, very healing. I would like a triple chocolate meltdown while sitting in the middle of the forest.

[00:32:02]Why not?

[00:32:04]Go for it. Please enjoy. I will definitely enjoy it.

[00:32:11]You will definitely enjoy it. Anyways guys, bye. Peace enjoy. Thank you for joining me. I'm going to get off of here.

[00:32:21]I hope this video helped you. Um, I know after all my videos, I want to talk, you know, I stay and talk to you guys for a little bit cuz I don't want this video to feel very robotic like I gave a lesson and then I cut off the video type of thing. I want you to see that I'm a human. I'm a person giving you a teaching but I'm not just here in a robotic way of you know cuz this teaching might feel like you know there are lessons but very robotic you know I'm Kolina and I'm a person and I want you to enjoy yourself in this healing journey because I know it's not easy it's not easy to undo something that was done for years. It's not easy to heal emotionally, physically overnight. It doesn't happen. It takes time. And while you're in this healing journey, I want you to enjoy yourself. Have some ice cream. Not every day, but you know, everything is balanced, guys. Move your body, journal, go ground yourself. Go out in nature. Go watch my other videos. You'll get the point. Once you once you once you watch a couple of my videos, you you will start getting the point. You know, whenever I do my road trip in my travel van and I had to as I'll bring you some cake. You need to bring me some bring me some cake, man. I accept anything. Cake, chocolate, ice cream, pizza for sure. Very true. Healing takes time and the effort and the dailiness and perspective changes and tools change or get at it. Yes, you change every day.

[00:34:15]And just because you're thinking a certain way now does not mean that you know it's it's not going to change.

[00:34:23]Healing is a long process. Pul, how are you? Pul, we're going to the Dominican Republic.

[00:34:29]Pul, I want to go to the Dominican Republic.

[00:34:35]Not sure when, but maybe I can come this summer.

[00:34:41]I uh I want to put like these teachings and these healing skills out there so you can get an idea on how to deal with certain things.

[00:34:59]But my the things that I say are not the only way. You may have a better way, a better idea on how to do things, on how to heal, but at least I plant a little seed in your head when you can do your own healing, your own way. My way is not the only way. My way is just one way of doing things.

[00:35:24]But I hope that I can encourage you to keep going.

[00:35:29]It's not a healing journey is not easy.

[00:35:32]It's funny and interesting to say everybody. Oh, I'm healing. I'm healing.

[00:35:35]It's, you know, sometimes you feel like, am I doing the right thing? Sometime things are not going the way you want them to.

[00:35:45]Sometimes you're not seeing the results and you're like, but why? I have a month, I have a year doing the right thing, doing all these things, and I don't see things changing in my life.

[00:35:58]And it's a little challenging when you don't see physical results.

[00:36:01]for you to keep going even though you don't see it. You don't see the results.

[00:36:06]You don't even see the light at the end of the tunnel. All you see is pitch dark. You can't see anything.

[00:36:11]It's a little challenging, guys. And if you guys ever need to talk to someone or need help, go to my Instagram, Primary Healer, write to me. I don't charge you. Let's talk about it.

[00:36:27]It's not easy, but you can do it. I believe in you. You're going to be all right, baby booze.

[00:36:35]Anyways, please enjoy. Bye bye. Guys, thank you for joining me. If you leave me here, I'll just keep talking and talking and talking. I think I talked enough and I don't want the video to get cut off again. It's It was been cut off like five, six minutes.

[00:36:50]Bye guys. Thank you for joining me.