she asked me to be their couples therapist… | Girl Talk

Ajouté : 2026-05-14

[00:00:08]Oh, I just had a deep yawn now. Looks like I've been crying.

[00:00:11]>> We're in the studio bright and early today. We're not usually here at this time.

[00:00:14]>> I've not been fed or watered.

[00:00:17]>> It is arriving. I've had a tea.

[00:00:19]>> Nice.

[00:00:20]>> Yeah, that's par. Oh, I had my weab bits. Totally forgot. Wow.

[00:00:23]>> Yeah, I had three weab bits with some honey.

[00:00:24]>> You know what? I want to rediscover actually brown flakes. I had a salt brand last week.

[00:00:31]>> No, no, no raisins.

[00:00:32]>> Don't gag at my brand.

[00:00:33]>> No salt.

[00:00:34]>> I actually really like it. It gives it a bit of chill. I like it a lot.

[00:00:39]>> Yeah.

[00:00:40]>> Smash a packet of raisins.

[00:00:41]>> They're all right.

[00:00:42]>> Those little red packets. Smash packet.

[00:00:45]>> But I'd rather eat many other things than a pack of raisins. Like there's a lot of other things I would rather eat.

[00:00:50]>> Well, I I went through a whole box of Sultana brand last week.

[00:00:53]>> Whoa. Get yourself some brown flakes.

[00:00:56]>> Yeah, I'm going to get myself I love brown flakes. I think they're so delicious. I know. Keep things moving.

[00:01:01]Not that things aren't moving. Things are always moving.

[00:01:04]>> Guess what I made yesterday?

[00:01:05]>> What?

[00:01:06]>> A full loaf of banana bread.

[00:01:10]>> Like actually a full loaf.

[00:01:12]>> Oh my god. Five bananas.

[00:01:14]>> Chef it up.

[00:01:14]>> Five bananas.

[00:01:16]>> Wow.

[00:01:17]>> Five black bananas.

[00:01:18]>> Did you put chocolate chips in it?

[00:01:19]>> Yeah.

[00:01:20]>> It was actually awesome.

[00:01:22]>> I really did it. Wow. That's given me like lockdown throwbacks. I don't think I've made a banana bread since lockdown with you.

[00:01:28]>> Yeah. Well, I I just so happen to have five ripe bananas. I did buy them.

[00:01:33]>> Yeah, I bought a kit. I bought a pack.

[00:01:35]>> Oh, nice.

[00:01:36]>> I just so Yeah, I never have bananas.

[00:01:39]>> Making a cake every Sunday is beautiful.

[00:01:42]>> And just having it to eat throughout the week, that's a goal of mine.

[00:01:45]>> Yeah. But do you know what the problem is? Is >> I ate half the loaf last night.

[00:01:49]>> Yeah, that would be me.

[00:01:50]>> So, it's Yeah. The idea is let me just eat it all today and then it'll be gone.

[00:01:55]Yeah. True. Yeah.

[00:01:56]>> Yeah.

[00:01:57]>> But the but the idea is nice if we had self-control. A slice a day.

[00:02:01]>> Portion control.

[00:02:02]>> Yeah. Last six days >> then to cook again on the seventh day.

[00:02:06]>> Yes.

[00:02:06]>> On Jesus's day. Yes.

[00:02:08]>> On the day of rest.

[00:02:09]>> But that's just not how we roll, is it?

[00:02:12]>> Well, >> has to have three bowls >> cuz it was there.

[00:02:15]>> This is why I live alone. I can't have nice things.

[00:02:17]>> Is best on the first day when it's hot and it's warm and the chocolate chips melted. Like I want to eat it when it's at its best.

[00:02:25]>> And also like I need to have a lovely treat when I'm watching my favorite show. Like maths last night was just amazing.

[00:02:32]>> I'm so sorry. Watched it >> Sophia. Come on.

[00:02:36]>> I'm being dead serious now.

[00:02:38]>> So I know >> because the episode last night was when they brought in those extra those extra people, their potential matches. It's all going to kick off tonight. I'm so disappointed in myself because I I I was so locked in the whole way and then I just don't know what's happened, but I've just really fallen off.

[00:02:56]>> It's okay. Don't apologize. Just sort it out. Don't apologize. Just watch Home Stays now and you're fine. And then you're sorted.

[00:03:05]>> I know, but like stop doing that. Yes, you do though. You do like I know I'm missing out but I'm like I'm so sick of all of these faces that like can't be asked anymore but you need to follow it through.

[00:03:16]>> I've seen all these teasers and I know like people have got this this and this but you need to see why Alyssa and David you know you need to seen Alyssa with a new man on the beach.

[00:03:26]>> I know with a bum out.

[00:03:28]>> That shocked me to my core cuz I thought they were happy.

[00:03:31]>> Yeah, >> I know.

[00:03:32]>> I know. It's crazy.

[00:03:34]>> Gia is with a man called Alan now >> with a new tattoo.

[00:03:38]He's got a tattoo.

[00:03:39]>> They've got couple tattoos.

[00:03:40]>> Oh, I know.

[00:03:42]>> Scott is my winner.

[00:03:44]>> Oh, really?

[00:03:45]>> Bless him. You should see him now. He's in turmoil. Like, he really loves Gia.

[00:03:50]He's actually going through it a lot.

[00:03:51]>> Cuz I saw a quote from Scott saying Gia was the nastiest, worst woman he'd ever met.

[00:03:56]>> Well, she does really break his heart in this moment.

[00:04:00]>> Does she just leave?

[00:04:01]>> Uh, well, betrayal, you know, >> betrayal. Well, not in that sense, >> but he she's moving a bit crazy and he's really trying in this moment.

[00:04:12]>> Wow.

[00:04:13]>> Yeah. See, he's locking babes with a dog.

[00:04:16]>> Yeah. Happy Wednesday, everyone. Welcome back to the podcast.

[00:04:22]>> Absolutely.

[00:04:23]>> Glowberry.

[00:04:25]>> Don't stop. Hurry.

[00:04:26]>> Come on. Too early for that.

[00:04:28]>> It's okay. Come on. Come on. Come back.

[00:04:31]>> Right. Our question of the week this week.

[00:04:33]>> Question of the week is, >> have you put some fake tan on?

[00:04:39]>> No.

[00:04:40]>> Oh, I did. You looked hand tanned.

[00:04:43]>> This is just from the sun.

[00:04:44]>> Wow.

[00:04:45]>> And heavy on the bronzer, you know.

[00:04:47]>> But yeah, hands have caught the sun.

[00:04:49]>> I was going to say that was from my weekend in the lakes.

[00:04:52]>> Oh, cuz you can see mine is a bit, you know, >> but I am meaning to purchase the gradual tan. what that Lydia's been chatting about.

[00:05:03]>> Oh no, >> she's the effing gradual tan. The effing gradual tan.

[00:05:07]>> Oh no, sorry. I'm not seeing that. The gradual tan that we were using tan looks.

[00:05:12]>> Yeah, the classic.

[00:05:12]>> I did mean to go and buy that yesterday.

[00:05:14]Completely forgot. But I do I'm looking to get my hands on that.

[00:05:16]>> Yeah, I need to do a space and K trip.

[00:05:18]Yeah, >> cuz I do need to start tanning now cuz I'm like you're looking a bit bleak.

[00:05:23]>> Yeah. Okay. But you don't you look you look tanned. It was a compliment.

[00:05:26]>> Thank you.

[00:05:26]>> So the question of the week is what f have you got? Uh, Loving Town Medium.

[00:05:30]Yeah, just the the the moose. Let's just go straight in. Did the full body, did legs, bum, back cuz I thought, let's just Yeah, you never know.

[00:05:39]>> Because I thought, well, exactly. You never know who you're going to meet at the studio.

[00:05:42]>> Yeah, absolutely. You don't know. Um, I thought the legs were looking better. I thought just do the full body. I could have been lazy. It's like, look, it's Capri season at the end of the day.

[00:05:50]>> Yeah, I think I did get out of the habit like I got a bit scared. Not scared, scarred. I got a bit scarred from the fake and after Coachella because we had about six layers of [ __ ] on my skin and that was like I look like a crackled mess and I just want to feel clean. I'm showering. I'm scrubbing. I'm red raw and I'm just like I'm looking at myself and I just I just don't feel looked. So I had to take it back. But now I'm ready to >> day three of Coachella I looked an absolute mess that if you saw that tan up close, oh my god, >> my belly was like a tiger bread. No, it's cuz we made a mistake. We got a spray tan like a week like when we too early. So, we did the spray tan was way too heavy. So, it just didn't sit right.

[00:06:34]>> No. And then we went on top with more gradual tan and then I went in with a bit of mousse.

[00:06:40]>> We were just trying to repair repair it to the bones.

[00:06:44]>> Like remember on like day three of the spray she was like just scrub that just scrub that little bit there and then just put more gradual. It was like a painting. Like I just scrub that little bit. Stop. Scrub a little. Put a bit of gradual on. And it was Remember when you just stood out with your towel and the tan just like >> No, I literally was just drying myself.

[00:07:02]I went like that. All the tan came off my chest. I was like, "Oh my god."

[00:07:07]>> But do you know what is the best? What chins discovered last year? Kylie skin tint on the neck and on the chest.

[00:07:13]>> I swear to God if you're going out at the weekend, >> you're going on a date on the arms.

[00:07:18]>> We put any Kylie skin tint that you use on your face. Drip it down your neck.

[00:07:21]Drip it on your chest. It is like a blurring.

[00:07:24]>> But you got to spray you got to set it with powder. Yes.

[00:07:27]>> And you got to spray it with Patrick T.

[00:07:30]>> One size.

[00:07:30]>> One size. Sorry. That stuff. The hairspray stuff. And then seriously, >> it ain't going nowhere.

[00:07:37]>> It ain't going nowhere. The question of the week is, what's the pettiest thing you've What's the pettiest thing you've ever done that you still feel justified about? Okay.

[00:07:50]I found out this girl I knew was sleeping with my ex, so I went and slept with hers.

[00:07:55]>> Fair.

[00:07:56]>> Fair enough. Fair enough.

[00:07:59]>> That's an equal trade-off.

[00:08:00]>> Absolutely.

[00:08:03]Well, I feel like what we were talking about earlier kind of fits in with this question of the week. Not that we did anything better, but karma coming back around.

[00:08:10]>> Yeah, karma.

[00:08:11]>> Just letting people know. Look, I need to let you know about this person. Full felon.

[00:08:15]>> Full felon. Uh, called the police on someone having a lockdown party. Yes.

[00:08:20]Crackdown.

[00:08:22]Crackdown. [ __ ] Have you heard about Corona 2.0 on the cruise ship?

[00:08:27]>> No. Corona.

[00:08:28]>> Well, it's not Corona, but have you not heard about the people on the cruise ship?

[00:08:32]>> No.

[00:08:33]>> This This will This has put me on the cruise ship. Well, this will put you off. I >> feel like one person's getting a cold.

[00:08:38]Everyone on this boat is getting a cold.

[00:08:40]>> Three people have died on this cruise ship.

[00:08:43]>> Oh my god.

[00:08:43]>> And they're all stranded.

[00:08:44]>> Where? on the boat.

[00:08:46]>> On the coast. On the boat.

[00:08:48]>> It's off the coast, but they're all stuck on the boat. And there's a there's a disease going around that was from rats.

[00:08:54]>> Oh my god.

[00:08:55]>> I know. And three people people have actually died.

[00:08:58]>> Oh, that's terrible.

[00:08:58]>> I know. So, that will put you off going on a cruise. Hey.

[00:09:01]>> Oh, that's awful. I know.

[00:09:02]>> Didn't you tell me about that cruise where all the sewage was all over the boat?

[00:09:05]>> Yeah, that was on Netflix. The poop cruise.

[00:09:07]>> The poop cruise.

[00:09:08]>> Yeah, the poop cruise.

[00:09:09]>> And there was no one there was nowhere to poo. So, everyone was pooing and piercing.

[00:09:15]off the side of the boat, >> but they're on the Atlantic Ocean. They can't like it's a massive cruise ship.

[00:09:22]They can't just pop their bum over the ledge. Of course, it's a risk.

[00:09:25]>> Oh my god.

[00:09:26]>> And there was poo everywhere. Sewage in the halls.

[00:09:28]>> I do. I I am quite scared of the sea.

[00:09:31]>> Yeah, we are. Waking up on a little boat.

[00:09:35]>> Yeah, that's being able to see sea and no land is probably a really Well, that's why you probably prefer it just following the coastline. I'd like to see land at all times.

[00:09:45]>> Yeah.

[00:09:46]>> Yeah. Uh, paid an Etsy witch to curse my colleague. Nice.

[00:09:50]>> Nice.

[00:09:51]>> Oh, the Etsy witch is still >> Maybe I'll take a leave out of >> out and about.

[00:09:56]>> Yes.

[00:09:57]>> Yeah.

[00:09:57]>> Apparently on Etsy it is actually not allowed to sell something that's not physical.

[00:10:03]>> Got.

[00:10:03]>> So, they have to find a way around it.

[00:10:05]>> Got. Um, but they're still they're still doing Speaking of Witches, just really quickly. Um, I'm thinking about going to see a medium.

[00:10:15]>> Scared me then for a second. Go for it.

[00:10:17]I think about it all the time when I pass them, you know.

[00:10:19]>> Yeah. What do you fancy?

[00:10:20]>> When I Well, not really. I don't know. I just I'm just I just >> It's scary. It's messing It's messing with the future.

[00:10:29]>> Well, no, no, no, no. It's not the future. It's the dead.

[00:10:33]>> It's a medium. It's not a psychic.

[00:10:35]>> Oh, wait. Oh, I'm getting confused. You want to speak to the dad?

[00:10:39]>> Yeah. Okay. Yeah, I support that.

[00:10:41]>> So, I was having a conversation with one of my friends and she has this medium >> who she it was on Zoom. She did it on her birthday. On Zoom, medium, >> never met this woman before, never had any like and she was like the thing she was telling me was crazy. Like stuff that is so niche >> that is not on the internet. It's not online. Like you're not going to find this stuff. and like little like she was just telling me all this stuff and I was like, "Oh my god, that is crazy."

[00:11:15]>> And I was like, "Wow, I feel like I want to speak to this woman."

[00:11:18]>> Okay. Okay. Why don't you sit on it?

[00:11:21]>> I'm going to sit on it for a month.

[00:11:23]>> Whoa.

[00:11:24]>> Why don't you watch Long Island Power?

[00:11:28]>> Yeah. Have you seen the Long Island Medium?

[00:11:30]>> Because then what she cuz I was cuz we're always a little bit like, "Oh, I don't want to mess with that. I don't want to do that." But then she said, she was like, "Yeah, but someone could be trying to speak to you and this is how they speak to you through this person, >> right?"

[00:11:42]>> Like what if when we die and we're like, "I really want to speak to them, but they're not letting me in," >> you know? And it kind of changed my perspective like, "Oh." And also, you can go to these like group medium sessions.

[00:11:54]So, you can go in a room with like 300 people. So we could just sit at the back or just blend in the middle >> and there's one person on stage and they're just like, "Okay, I'm getting something from blah blah blah." Does any does this mean anything to anyone? And like you don't have to put your hand up like nothing might come through for you, but if it does like it does and you can be like, "Oh my god, that's for me."

[00:12:13]Like that's for me.

[00:12:14]>> But then you do you not think if they're in a room with 300 people, there's more chance that they're just pulling names out their ass. Be like I'm sensing a Liam.

[00:12:24]>> Yeah, a Liam.

[00:12:27]people in the room. I know what Liam want once. I know.

[00:12:29]>> But I think it's it's more specific.

[00:12:32]Like the really good ones. It's very very niche.

[00:12:35]>> Okay. Sit on it.

[00:12:36]>> Yeah. Well, I'll just feed back.

[00:12:38]>> Yeah. Why don't you watch some like the like the Long Island Medium. There's all those medium shows and see how it makes you feel when you're watching the families talk to people.

[00:12:47]>> Yeah. Okay.

[00:12:47]>> Yeah. Keep >> You don't want to get scared.

[00:12:51]>> Yeah.

[00:12:52]>> Yeah.

[00:12:52]>> Yeah. Or >> It's not scary though, is it?

[00:12:54]>> Yeah. It's like I know these lot.

[00:12:56]>> Yeah. True, true, true. Ghost.

[00:12:59]>> True.

[00:13:01]>> Psychic the future that would steal.

[00:13:03]>> Yeah, that's what I thought in the in the moment when you said medium. That's not about the psychics.

[00:13:10]>> When I drive past, I'm like, >> where are you driving past?

[00:13:13]>> There's a few >> cuz there's that one. There's that one near me on that main road.

[00:13:21]>> And where's that other one? There's one in Selfridges. The psychic sisters. Have we not seen her downstairs by the book?

[00:13:27]>> No.

[00:13:28]>> Yeah, by the >> got a room downstairs on the book on the book level.

[00:13:32]>> Wow. No, not seen her.

[00:13:33]>> Yeah, the psychic sisters.

[00:13:35]And there's someone else who >> I wonder if we've got any psychics listening.

[00:13:41]>> Don't like it. Scares. I think it scares me.

[00:13:44]>> Let's move on.

[00:13:45]>> I put a load of salt in the food my flat mate kept stealing from me. That's a solid.

[00:13:49]>> That's fair enough.

[00:13:50]>> I I support that.

[00:13:51]>> Yes. I sold his sofa on Facebook Marketplace after finding out he cheated.

[00:13:55]>> Yeah, >> nice.

[00:13:57]>> Walk home one day sofa's gone. That's great.

[00:14:00]>> Reported him to the council for doing unconented work on his house. Okay.

[00:14:04]Yeah, the council >> setting his boundary when he shouldn't be.

[00:14:07]>> The council will get you.

[00:14:08]>> Taking a few extra bit of the boundary.

[00:14:10]>> The council is like crazy.

[00:14:13]>> Council's going to crack down on you, >> isn't it? Like the bins are like the the council's got to do all of it. the roads, getting permission to do stuff.

[00:14:22]>> Yeah. So, I pay council tax.

[00:14:24]>> Oh my gosh. Yeah. So, can be emptied.

[00:14:27]>> I signed my mom and sister sister-in-law up to be visited by Jehovah's Witnesses at 7 a.m. regularly. Nice.

[00:14:34]>> Took the Wi-Fi wire out of the routter when I left my ex. He works from home.

[00:14:39]Nice. Nice.

[00:14:40]>> I like that. That's funny.

[00:14:41]>> Wore a piece of clothing all day just because my sister wanted to borrow it.

[00:14:44]Yeah. I mean, that's classic 101.

[00:14:46]>> You can't steal it if it's on me.

[00:14:48]>> Yeah. It's like, can I wear that? Said, "No, I'm gonna wear that."

[00:14:51]>> Lounging around the house on a Sunday in a corset.

[00:14:53]>> Yeah. Tag my ex in all of our IG pictures when we broke up. Oh, so she was marking her territory to say I've been here >> on his tag.

[00:15:01]>> And I'm still here.

[00:15:01]>> Yeah.

[00:15:02]>> Told my grandparents about my sister scamming them for money.

[00:15:08]>> Oh. Oh my. Fair enough. Oh my.

[00:15:10]>> You know, the the elderly are vulnerable. You know, right? There's something smelly down there that she's sniffing. She's sniffing my socks.

[00:15:19]She got swirly toes. My socks are clean.

[00:15:22]Blueberry signed my ex up for all the free junk spam mail this month.

[00:15:28]>> Oh, that that'll do it.

[00:15:30]>> Junk mail is actually awful.

[00:15:33]>> Reported my boss to fire safety when he sacked me for getting a job as a firefighter. Your boss sacked.

[00:15:39]>> He sacked you because you got another job. But I got another job.

[00:15:43]>> Stuck my ex's toothbrush in the toilet and put it back. Nice. Uh, shared the screenshots of him cheating on my close friends. His sisters and friends were on it.

[00:15:53]>> Good, good, nice out them. Let them know.

[00:15:55]>> Yeah, let them know.

[00:15:57]>> Matched with my ex best friend's crush on Tinder and slept with him.

[00:16:04]>> I mean, okay. Yeah, do what you got to do.

[00:16:06]>> Really done you wrong there. Cancelled my situationship's passport when I found out he had a girlfriend.

[00:16:11]>> Wow. Wow. How do you even go about >> I know someone who's destroyed a passport in an argument.

[00:16:16]>> Wow.

[00:16:16]>> And they were supposed to be going on holiday the next day.

[00:16:18]>> Wow. That's brutal.

[00:16:22]>> Deleted my ex's Love Island submission video.

[00:16:28]>> I used to turn the oven off when my sister was cooking her food.

[00:16:32]I cannot stand my sister-in-law, so when I stay over, I use all of her expensive products.

[00:16:38]repeatedly paused my housemates's washing cycle whenever they use the washing machine.

[00:16:42]>> Why?

[00:16:43]>> And reported my ex housemate to HMRC for tax fraud.

[00:16:49]>> Not the HMRC. God, keep them out of it, please.

[00:16:52]>> My worst nightmare in life is like a HMRC [ __ ] phone call. I'll be sick.

[00:16:55]>> Like, I can't deal with that.

[00:16:57]>> No, I don't like HMRC.

[00:16:59]>> HMRC, go away.

[00:17:00]>> No. Like, no.

[00:17:01]>> I'm paying my bills on time. Leave me alone.

[00:17:04]>> No, that's that's good for you. Yeah.

[00:17:07]You know what? We're all paying our taxes.

[00:17:09]>> So, you saw the Michael Jackson film coming. She said it was the best film she's ever seen.

[00:17:15]>> I loved every single moment. I'm on a whole deep dive of Jafar and like you.

[00:17:21]So, you know, apparently he had to audition for like 2 years before he even officially was like, "You've got the role."

[00:17:28]>> And apparently started training at the start of 2023 or 2022.

[00:17:31]>> Jesus.

[00:17:32]>> But it was it was just like mental. You were like, "Oh my god, that's Michael Jackson." Like, "How is that not Michael Jackson?" It was great. Like, there wasn't one moment where I was like, "Not not not quite." I was like, "Wow, it was insane."

[00:17:47]>> Wow. Okay. I >> The story line wasn't what I expected.

[00:17:51]>> It wasn't the full thing, right?

[00:17:53]>> No, no, no. The story line was more about him breaking away from his dad and actually becoming a solo artist away from the Jackson 5. cuz I thought the Jackson 5 was just like the childhood band, but it wasn't. He was still touring with the Jackson 5 after he'd released his own album.

[00:18:10]>> Oh.

[00:18:11]>> And his dad was like bringing him back like you must do a tour with >> your brothers.

[00:18:16]>> So, and it was about him like not being able to get out of his dad's like control.

[00:18:22]>> Interesting. I didn't know any of that.

[00:18:23]>> So, when the film ended, everyone was like, "What?" Like, cuz everyone was like, "Oh my god." Like, it feels like the story's just beginning. But then the film ended. So, I hope they do another one.

[00:18:32]>> I think they are.

[00:18:34]>> It was amazing.

[00:18:36]>> I'm going to watch.

[00:18:37]>> Yeah, I can't wait. I have to watch it again.

[00:18:40]>> Our first dilemma of the day, just to let you know, our drinks are nearby.

[00:18:46]>> Um, my sister-in-law law to be stole from me.

[00:18:50]>> We're having a lot of thieves recently.

[00:18:53]Now, what's going on in the world?

[00:18:55]>> We seem to have thieves here a lot on the podcast. People stealing money.

[00:18:58]>> It's the in Well, yeah. No, actually we had that sister, didn't we? Stole the 20.

[00:19:02]>> Yeah, we had that sister, right?

[00:19:04]>> Yeah, we know someone who's been stealing money from someone else.

[00:19:07]>> How can the hell?

[00:19:10]>> Do we know some things?

[00:19:12]>> Do we know some?

[00:19:14]>> But I wish I knew more. You know when it's just like I just wish we had that insider just to >> I wish we had one more scoop. We've got a pretty big scoop, but I need a >> I need a big slice of that cake.

[00:19:22]>> But how close we were to is mental. So, we've got a thief in our mitts.

[00:19:28]Sister-in-law stole from me. Massive fan of the pod. I tune in weekly to unwind and get into my flow state. We're about to enter our flow state. Drink incoming.

[00:19:37]>> Reading a dilemma. Wow.

[00:19:39]>> Heaven.

[00:19:40]>> Never did I think this would happen, but I've had the whole I've had the week from literal hell where it's felt like living in the Twilight Zone.

[00:19:49]>> Wow.

[00:19:50]I met my partner almost four years ago now and we quickly grew from strength to strength. Love that. I've never had a relationship like this before. Wait, >> I'm Becky. Pardon? Bear with me, caller.

[00:20:05]>> 3 2 1 Back in the room.

[00:20:07]>> Back in the room.

[00:20:08]>> Cheers. Ready to dive in. Just need my concentration juice.

[00:20:13]>> It actually is concentration juice cuz now I'm alive. I just needed my mind to wake up.

[00:20:19]Wow, that's good. It's been a while.

[00:20:23]>> It actually has.

[00:20:27]>> Wow. M&S sold out a carrot cake yesterday. Empty shelves.

[00:20:31]>> I went to the weekend. Couldn't even see one.

[00:20:34]>> Wow.

[00:20:34]>> I've never even tried it.

[00:20:36]>> It's half the price. I've got one left.

[00:20:38]I'm running on rashes.

[00:20:39]>> No, I've not even tried our viral product.

[00:20:42]>> Like Mhm.

[00:20:47]Yeah. Uh-huh.

[00:20:48]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:20:50]>> That's the good stuff.

[00:20:51]>> This is close as we get to like doing drugs.

[00:20:55]>> It's like >> the sweet release.

[00:20:57]>> That'll do it. I'm high now.

[00:20:58]>> That's a high. I've never felt one before.

[00:21:00]>> Mhm.

[00:21:02]>> Isn't that crazy? We've we've like what is it like to drop?

[00:21:07]>> I knew you going to say that.

[00:21:09]>> But like what what is it? Cuz like we've only experienced like drunk drunk.

[00:21:13]>> Yeah. But I think >> which is like this is drunk.

[00:21:18]>> I think it's the other way. Like I think I don't mean I don't know.

[00:21:23]>> I just think it's terrifying.

[00:21:25]>> Like what way? I don't know >> cuz I'm watching Euphoria. Drugs are flying about all over the place. Heroin, crack, all of them. Coke.

[00:21:34]>> And I'm just like >> like all the blue watching like >> Yeah. Like heroin is like and that's like Pat's like >> No, that's not a party drug.

[00:21:46]>> Don't do drugs, guys.

[00:21:47]>> No.

[00:21:48]>> Seriously.

[00:21:49]>> Seriously.

[00:21:51]>> Mariana's into I paid Pat at the weekend. Did you see?

[00:21:53]>> I had the most fun of my life.

[00:21:55]>> Yes. Did you enjoy it?

[00:21:56]>> I went twice. It was so fun. I was sweating.

[00:21:59]>> I was running but it was fun. I was laughing. Like it was fun.

[00:22:03]>> Did you two of you?

[00:22:04]>> Uh yeah. Then we went with four Marin's boyfriend as well.

[00:22:07]>> Love it.

[00:22:08]>> It was really nice. I want to get really good at that. Every summer >> it's e it's easy. Like every summer I'm like I want to have a tennis lesson. I want to start tennis.

[00:22:18]>> It's not happened yet. I've been saying it for 3 years. Yeah. But I'm optimistic that this summer it's going to happen.

[00:22:22]>> Paddle I think football tennis like no >> paddle is easier.

[00:22:27]>> Yeah. Start with paddle.

[00:22:30]>> I'm I'm playing at the weekend.

[00:22:31]>> There you go then. That's good. It's just like badminton. Just got to get behind the ball.

[00:22:36]>> Yeah. Get behind the ball. There she goes. You just got to get behind the ball, guys.

[00:22:40]>> Yeah. Easy peas.

[00:22:41]>> Yeah. But tennis, I think, is cool.

[00:22:42]>> Use the walls. Like you use your walls.

[00:22:44]>> I think tennis is cool.

[00:22:46]>> Oh, really?

[00:22:47]>> Yeah. You know, I thought paddle was the new cool thing.

[00:22:49]>> I think paddle is like the fad and tennis is like >> I'm playing tennis.

[00:22:53]>> Right. Okay.

[00:22:54]>> I want to go like 6:30 in the morning.

[00:22:57]Nice quiet court, get a coffee afterwards, play some tennis.

[00:23:02]>> Just think it'd be a lovely activity. I think I'm gonna get my kids to play tennis.

[00:23:06]Okay, nice. I just remember all the tennis um instructors at David Lloyd.

[00:23:13]>> Oh, what now?

[00:23:14]>> All just like sleeping with the wives.

[00:23:16]>> Oh, brilliant.

[00:23:17]>> Sleeping with the mothers of the children, >> right?

[00:23:20]>> And do you remember when Mariana would play squash?

[00:23:23]>> Yeah.

[00:23:25]>> Squash is essentially paddle. Really?

[00:23:27]>> Yeah. I don't think I really know what squash is. Squash is um you're in a box >> and it's four walls and you're playing against each other but you're next to each other. You hit it against the wall and you're bouncing off the wall.

[00:23:40]>> This tiny rubber ball and it's >> it's like it will hurt you.

[00:23:44]>> There's a line on the wall, isn't it?

[00:23:45]>> Yeah. And it's like >> all over the wall. I remember those squash courts like glass boxes.

[00:23:50]>> Yeah, it was scary. Squash is a dying art.

[00:23:54]>> Um >> I mean the tea is we should be getting our kids to play golf because have you been watching Full Swing? Oh, the amount of money in this. I mean, golf is like, yes, >> they're playing this round and it's like, woohoo, you won. It's not even the big thing at the end and then it's like 9 mil.

[00:24:08]>> Wow.

[00:24:09]>> It's like what? Just flash.

[00:24:10]>> How is that even possible?

[00:24:11]>> I don't know.

[00:24:12]>> But the real you got to get them into F1 severe.

[00:24:14]>> Oh, really? But you see, F1 comes with a lot of danger.

[00:24:17]>> Yeah, it's scary. Yeah, you can get golf balls of the eye, I guess.

[00:24:22]>> Yeah, true. You got to have a shield.

[00:24:24]You know, it's pretty >> Oh, no. The smoothie's gone wrong.

[00:24:28]>> Oh, just got a weird chunk of something.

[00:24:32]>> That's going to put you off now for 6 weeks. Oh, not a chunk.

[00:24:36]>> Oh, >> mine's pretty smooth so far.

[00:24:38]>> No, it was like a sugar coconut. Watch out.

[00:24:40]>> Yeah, >> that would send me west.

[00:24:42]>> Right. So, just to reiterate, my sister-in-law So, we got a thief.

[00:24:48]>> Of course you know about this.

[00:24:49]>> My sister-in-law to be stole from me.

[00:24:51]So, we got a thief.

[00:24:52]>> Uhhuh. So that's like, well, I guess you haven't, but if you had a sister-in-law, that's what would be happening.

[00:24:59]>> Obviously, >> that's like you stealing from husband.

[00:25:04]>> That's Isn't that ins Some people have got big big balls.

[00:25:07]>> Big balls.

[00:25:09]>> Yeah.

[00:25:10]>> I tune in weekly to unwind and get into my flow state. Never did I think this would happen, but I've had the week from literal hell where it's felt like living in a Twilight Zone.

[00:25:20]>> Is that a Twilight reference? No, that's just a earthly reference. I think the Twilight Zone, >> right? I met my partner almost four years ago now and we quickly grew from strength to strength. I've never had a relationship like this before. When you feel love for just being your true self, that's beautiful. I genuinely didn't think I'd be ever be getting married in my lifetime, but when he popped the question two years ago, I was over the moon. We're now four months out from our wedding. Lovely.

[00:25:50]>> Wow. Congratulations, Dar.

[00:25:52]>> He has a sister.

[00:25:52]>> Send us a pick when you get married.

[00:25:53]>> Yeah, that'd be lovely. He has a sister who's a twin.

[00:25:59]>> We've not had any. We don't really know any twins.

[00:26:04]>> Went to school with those twin. My brother had those twins growing up.

[00:26:06]>> But as adults, I don't know any twins, you know.

[00:26:09]>> Me neither.

[00:26:10]>> And prior to meeting her, I was apprehensive as he literally said that she'd never liked any previous partners.

[00:26:18]>> I'll buy it. I'm confident in my skin and we've seemed to always have a healthy relationship.

[00:26:24]Not super close, but always friendly.

[00:26:26]She has, since I've known her, seemed to always have issues from small to large, but everyone seems to laugh them off like that's Sarah. She's always got something going on.

[00:26:38]>> Including driving off without paying for petrol by accident.

[00:26:42]>> Wow.

[00:26:43]>> That's that's in the news. You know, a lot of people are doing that. No way.

[00:26:47]Well, just robbing the petrol station.

[00:26:48]But there's cameras offwhere.

[00:26:50]>> Yeah, but there's cameras everywhere.

[00:26:51]You're going to You're not You can sneak off.

[00:26:54]>> But if everyone's doing it, you can't catch us, can you?

[00:26:57]>> Did I tell you? I saw a police chase.

[00:26:59]>> Wow.

[00:27:00]>> Driving back to Nottingham.

[00:27:01]>> Wow.

[00:27:01]>> Yeah. A full like cuz this car was by me. I was, "Oh, there's a police car there. He's definitely going to get caught." And then they were dodging all the lanes like this. The car and the police car. And it was mental. Probably chase. Never seen one before. In the flash.

[00:27:13]>> They got pulled over by the police. I know she did cuz our mothers met up for a hot chocolate and I got all this gossip. I was like, whoa.

[00:27:23]>> Our mothers like to go to hotel chocolate and [ __ ] basically and all just chat chat chat chat chat and then we get all this gossip.

[00:27:29]>> They go to a hotel chocolate at a um >> retail park >> at a retail park >> and they get a milk but apparently I want to go and get one. Apparently they're my mom I know. My mom bought some. I forgot to She bought the shards for the machine. I forgot to have one at the weekend when I went back.

[00:27:47]>> But a milkshake.

[00:27:48]>> Yeah. So, I know she got bulled over. I was like, "Wo, she's not told me."

[00:27:52]>> Yeah.

[00:28:04]This episode is sponsored by Kiss, serving up the biggest tunes and trash talk on the daily. Chloe and Tyler from Kiss Breakfast has sent us a special game of would you rather. Okay, so would you rather your group chat see your search history >> or your mom get a full transcript of every conversation you've ever had with a boy? Uh, I would rather the group chat have my search history.

[00:28:33]>> Yeah, I think I'm with you on that one.

[00:28:34]>> That's kind of funny and there's probably some weird stuff in there.

[00:28:37]>> Yeah, I think that's quite humorous.

[00:28:39]Would you rather accidentally like your crush's photo from a year ago? So, like you've been deep diving. We know you like a stalk >> always.

[00:28:49]>> Or would you accidentally rather post an embarrassing picture of yourself? I think I would rather like the pick >> and just stay with my chest and and be confident.

[00:29:00]>> That's fair. Yeah.

[00:29:01]>> In that starting on business, if you will.

[00:29:04]>> I respect that.

[00:29:04]>> Wow. Well, thank you to Chloe and Tyler for those lovely would you rather questions.

[00:29:08]>> Thank you. That was a vibe though. Just like Kiss breakfast.

[00:29:11]>> Unapologetic and unpredictable. And with great music alongside great chat, there's never a dull day on Kiss. And the carnage from Tyler and Chloe is no exception. We are here for it. Tune in to Kiss Breakfast with Tyler West and Chloe Burroughs weekdays from 6 a.m.

[00:29:29]Woo!

[00:29:42]>> Right. So, apparently they're like, "That's Sarah. She's always up to something." Oh, Sarah just stole petrol.

[00:29:46]That's Sarah.

[00:29:47]>> That's just Sarah.

[00:29:48]>> Mhm. and also never being able to hold down a job. But it's always her manager's felt and they're just like that's Sarah a relationship breakdown whilst letting us know she'd met someone else and disregarding that the following week. So she's she's meeting people.

[00:30:03]She's whatever.

[00:30:05]>> She's breaking up with people. She got someone new.

[00:30:08]>> Yeah. And she says the list goes on.

[00:30:10]There are always little white lies and stories that she's choosing to tell us and they're just not adding up.

[00:30:15]>> Okay.

[00:30:17]Take a breath. Smoothie's thick today.

[00:30:20]Despite all of the above, I can appreciate their family and if my Brian accepts it, I should. This story starts in December where myself and Brian had a get together with friends for New Year's Eve. She turned up as we live in a small t town and we all have a lot of mutual friends, so of course she was invited.

[00:30:38]The next day, Brian noticed a card was gone from his wallet.

[00:30:43]A physical card?

[00:30:44]>> Yeah.

[00:30:46]didn't think much of it and proceeded to just block the card. Worth notice. Oh my god, I've not told you.

[00:30:54]I found out yesterday the weirdest thing happened to me yesterday. So, my boot of my car >> was full of [ __ ] Like full of stuff.

[00:31:04]There was so much stuff in that little boot. I just shoved so much in there. It was a bit of a dumping ground. And it was always stuff that I was meaning to empty, meaning to go through. Like some stuff was going to go to the old studio.

[00:31:14]like just like stuff.

[00:31:16]>> I went to charge my car last night and I was like and cuz that's where I keep my I've got an electric car. They come with the big cables. It's like a hose pipe.

[00:31:26]And I got it and I open the boot. The boot's completely empty apart from the hose pipe. And I was like, hm. I was like, whoa, all my stuff's gone.

[00:31:37]Initially thinking, >> yeah, he must have cleared this out whilst I was away. Like, wow, thanks so much. I've been that's been a job that I've been meaning to do for a long time, but like where's he put all that stuff then? Cuz like where's it all gone? So cool Brian. I'm like, "Hey, did you where's all that stuff from my boot?"

[00:31:53]And he was like, "Uh, I thought you I thought you emptied it." And I was like, "No." I was like, "What? You haven't emptied it?" I was like, "No." He was like, "I did see it was empty though when I put your car on charged last week. I thought I thought you emptied it." And I was like, "No." So, I don't know what's gone on here, >> but someone's taken or it's it's what in the boot >> all sorts of [ __ ] like all nothing valuable. No, nothing that I like wanted cuz it was in the boot, but just like an old parcel that I meant to send back like I just like stuff like a random pair of a random handbag from ASOS. Like just random like stuff >> that just accumulated. didn't open a car.

[00:32:35]>> But I mean, I was very thankful that they left me my charging cable.

[00:32:39]>> Yeah.

[00:32:40]>> And no windows.

[00:32:41]>> Surely that they could have sold that for a lot of money. Charing.

[00:32:44]>> I know. But I'm like, how has this happened? Like, when did this happen? I don't know.

[00:32:49]>> But now all that stuff's gone that I was meaning to charity shop and throw away.

[00:32:52]So, it's kind of like a job solved, but I'm like, whoa.

[00:32:56]>> So, they open the boot, but they couldn't start the car, do they? They tried to take the car. Cuz if you're in the boot or have they got a magnet that opens the boot of your It's a complete mystery. And also, this happened weeks ago cuz Brian said before we even went to Coachella, he noticed it was empty.

[00:33:11]>> [ __ ] >> And thought I had just cleared it out.

[00:33:14]>> Oh, for God's sake. How crazy is that?

[00:33:15]>> Never leave anything in your car in London.

[00:33:18]>> I know, but there's always something in the booth.

[00:33:19]>> I know.

[00:33:20]>> But don't leave anything valuable in the car. There was nothing valuable. It was just like old time.

[00:33:24]>> You didn't smash in.

[00:33:25]>> Thank god. They did me a favor. Really?

[00:33:27]>> Oh my god.

[00:33:28]>> But how weird. I've never had anything like that before. I was >> like that. It's actually scary.

[00:33:32]>> The boot was empty.

[00:33:33]>> They're like actually scary >> cuz someone's done something with your stuff and you don't know who it is or when.

[00:33:38]>> Yeah.

[00:33:39]>> Oh my god.

[00:33:41]>> Wasn't anything to see it on the cameras, but then if it was parked far away.

[00:33:45]>> I know. Don't I'm just like, "Oh, I wonder when that happened. I mean, at least I left my cable and now my boots completely clear."

[00:33:50]>> Yes. Lovely. And gave a hoover as well.

[00:33:52]>> Yeah.

[00:33:54]>> Right. So, it's New Year's Eve. Sorry, we're getting really New Year's Eve.

[00:34:00]Card's gone.

[00:34:02]No one thought anything of it. Oh, I'll just block that card. Must just drop that card. Whatever. Didn't think of anything of it.

[00:34:07]>> Froz card. Not >> froze the card. Worth noting that that particular card had all of our wedding savings on.

[00:34:17]>> Was it like a month?

[00:34:18]>> Each month, >> she said, "Each month month, I'll send my half of the money." So, it was a pot that they were saving together for the wedding. My god. Okay. His sister stayed with us that evening. I set her up in the spare room, gave her PJs, skin care, made her feel really comfortable. She went home about 11:00 a.m. on the 1st of January.

[00:34:39]That very same day, in the early afternoon, the card was used for deliver.

[00:34:44]It she is stressing me out. Like, why are you doing this, babes? Wow. Why is she doing this? The card was used for deliver. Thankfully, Brian had blocked it. But over the period of the next 2 months, there were multiple attempts, which was so strange.

[00:35:00]Amazon, Uber, etc. All small transactions, but constant attempts.

[00:35:07]>> Yeah, >> it did cross my mind that someone from New Year's Eve could be doing this. His sister knew this is where we kept the wedding funds as we discuss discuss savings. So, surely not her, right?

[00:35:19]A week ago, Brian went to his parents house where she lives to borrow a suitcase. And while searching for that suitcase, he found his bank card.

[00:35:29]Where was she starting it? He called me and his heart sank. He took the card with him home while he figured out how best to approach this so that she can so that she can't lie to him.

[00:35:40]>> Wow.

[00:35:41]>> It got to the weekend. I'd had a wine in the garden and if I'm honest, spent the last couple of days so angry. I opened up to my two friends and asked them how I should approach this. And the girls were quick to offer advice. I felt I couldn't tell my immediate girls, like my best friends or my family, because of course they're all going to straight away be fuming, too.

[00:36:02]>> We're all away together for my hen in a few weeks and didn't want to cause any issues, of course, cuz the sister-in-law's going to be coming. The following Monday, Brian went over there.

[00:36:09]We both agreed that if she was truthful and honest and owned that she'd messed up and didn't lie, we could hug it out and try to rebuild the relationship in the long term. She walked in, told him that one of our mutual friends told her and instead completely deflected the situation onto me talking about her.

[00:36:28]>> He was blindsided. She'd had all weekend aware of the situation. So, of course, took her opportunity to delete the apps from her phone and clearly spin a lie.

[00:36:40]She says she accidentally took the card.

[00:36:42]So the sister's saying like so they've gone to talk to the sister, but the sister's got her whole story like I've heard through mutual friends that you've been speaking about me and gossiping about you to me first. This is a family thing. You didn't come to me. You've been speaking to everyone here about me.

[00:36:57]So she's now you're like, "Oh, now I'm apologizing, but hang on. You I'm here to get an apology." So, it's just like it caught Brian off guard and like it put you guys on the back foot cuz you thought you were going in, you knew your argument, you knew what you were going to say, and then she came in with that and it just kind of like wait it just Yeah. It's like it's like when you snooping your boyfriend's phone and there and you find something, but their response is, "How dare you?" Blah, blah, blah. My privacy. That's my person. And and you're like, "Oh, I'm sorry." Yeah.

[00:37:25]Right.

[00:37:26]>> She said she accidentally cut the took the card. She came home. He came home almost believing her story. Oh gosh. Oh god. I guess you just want to see the best in your family. This angered me more though and to me felt more calculated and man manipulated.

[00:37:41]>> Well yeah because you can't use the card by accident.

[00:37:45]>> Especially a new card. That's exactly what she got to go on your wallet, put all your numbers in. Save card payment.

[00:37:52]Oh well there's my usual card. There's that one. I'm going to take that one.

[00:37:55]Like if she was smarter, she'd have done just one big big purchase and tried to get that run through him instead of like all these little Amazon ones.

[00:38:04]>> It's been two further days. I'd had no further apology until his parents called and asked about the situation. He said he needed a break from her and upon reflection knows it was all just lies, that he was disappointed she hadn't apologized to me. An hour later, I've just received not an apology message from her, but asking if we can meet up.

[00:38:23]I really don't know how best to move forward from here, but I'm so angry to have been put in this situation four months from my wedding. It's grown to the point where I don't know how deep rooted this is with her and if I'll ever be able to trust her again. Brian Brian has taken some breathing space, but I also do feel he could have defended me more in that moment. He's not confrontational, so I understand, but have had to follow up on this with him in discussion because I would always have his back. So, what should I do?

[00:38:50]girls. It's four months into my wedding and this needs to be resolved.

[00:38:54]>> Whoa. So, she's not apologized. Brian's kind of in the middle. He's kind of like he's trying to see the best of his family. He wants to believe her story.

[00:39:02]He obviously like you know lies.

[00:39:05]>> Yeah. Like he knows his sister more than anyone.

[00:39:08]>> And I think he knows what she's capable of. And he knows she did that.

[00:39:11]>> Yeah.

[00:39:12]>> But he's thinking >> it wasn't even like she tried to do it once. It was deliver Uber.

[00:39:18]that >> you're just hoping this card like it's the it's also just what what I just really don't like about >> it was the wedding card. That's the point as well. It's like it's not like it was just Brian's credit card >> still awful but like whatever this was.

[00:39:33]So you're stealing my money as well.

[00:39:35]This is the joint you took that specific card which you know like say it was the mom's card. I just really hate the sneakiness of everything cuz my mind is thinking, okay, did you plan when you came to my house on New Year's Eve that you were going to get this card?

[00:39:51]>> She must have.

[00:39:52]>> Like was how premeditated was this? But I did come to you. You then had to find his wallet, look through it like without people watching, get the card, put it in your pocket. like you had all these big plans and like if we never would have noticed that went missing or you never would have froze the card like you'd probably still have it and you'd probably still be using it and that I just think >> I just don't like that feeling of like >> she's just stealing from you and it's really sneaky and I just don't like it.

[00:40:25]Well, yeah, because Brian would have appre if she needed some money, Brian would have so appreciated her just saying, "Brian, could I have a couple hundred pounds this month?" Yeah. La >> and then it's up to him whether he says yes or no. But rather than like like Yeah. In terms of how you Brian's stuck because he wants to keep his relationship with his sister. He wants to believe what she's saying. He doesn't want a big bust up before the wedding kind of thing. And you know, when it's your family, you kind of want to see the best in them and be like, "Oh, you know, it's fine. Let's just sweep it. Let's just sweep it and get on with it." And that's obviously how he handles things. He doesn't like confrontation.

[00:41:02]>> But you're very much thinking like, >> I need to acknowledge you. You're going to be Yeah. Like you're going to be the auntie to my children.

[00:41:10]>> Like that's not okay.

[00:41:12]>> Well, she has reached out to you to meet up. I would definitely go and hopefully like it's all cooled off now. time. A little bit of time has passed. I would really hope she's asked to meet with you.

[00:41:25]>> I'm very hopeful that she is going to say, "Look, let me apologize. I'm so sorry. That was very out of character for me. I've really let myself down. I don't know what I was thinking. That was so sneaky of me. Like, I would never do that again. I've never done that before.

[00:41:40]Like, I don't know what was going through my head and I'm really disappointed in myself." And like, how can I make this up to you? We're going to have an amazing wedding.

[00:41:47]>> Listen to the podcast.

[00:41:50]and she's going to hear this and she's going to know what to say. Fingers crossed. Like because then that is like okay. Like cuz I feel like all you want she didn't actually spend any money because it was all blocked. Like you just want that apology of like look I recognize like this was wild behavior from me. Like I'm not on the defense.

[00:42:05]Like I'm just so sorry about this. It's happened now. I want you going to have an amazing wedding. I'm going to be there for you. Blah blah blah. And then hopefully that is that resolved. And then I would also like if this happened to me, I would be saying to my husband like, "Your sister-in-law ain't come around to our house for a while. Sort your sister out."

[00:42:20]>> Cuz the last thing you want is anyone who you don't 100% trust in your home.

[00:42:27]Otherwise, you're going to feel like where's she gone? Is she upstairs? Is she You're going to feel like you don't want people in your home who you feel like you're worried about them rumaging.

[00:42:35]>> And also, she's so easy that card >> so easily. If she sees one of your bracelets out, your lips like your perfume, just like little stuff. So lip balm, that's going to be easy grab for her. Do you know summer Fridays, easy grab?

[00:42:50]>> Ola Hendrickson, easy grab. That's 20 quid down the drain for you.

[00:42:53]>> Your living proof dry shampoo. Easy grab.

[00:42:56]>> So I would just be saying like, look, we're not inviting her around for quite a while. Like this needs to >> set a boundary.

[00:43:02]>> Set a boundary. and maybe say to Brian, you tell her that she's not welcome in our home because the last time she entered the home, she stole your [ __ ] card >> and like set some boundaries.

[00:43:11]>> What do the parents have to say about this?

[00:43:12]>> They're probably just like you guys sort it out themselves.

[00:43:15]>> Well, they say that they're like, "Oh, that's Sarah. That's what Sarah's like."

[00:43:18]They're kind of used to this. Like, >> yes, >> Sarah. Sarah Sarah. Oh. Oh. Oh. Well, she didn't actually be able to buy anything, did she?

[00:43:26]>> Yeah. Oh, it was an accident. She didn't mean it. That's just Sarah.

[00:43:29]>> But I think hopefully she apologizes. If not, try and hold her accountable at that meetup and let her know how disappointed you are in her and that you do want to start the relationship because you know you want you want >> and you're just looking for an apology.

[00:43:42]>> Good luck Sarah.

[00:43:42]>> That's just like what >> what are you doing? But also what was the point?

[00:43:48]>> Did she think she was going to spend the whole wedding pot and then you couldn't have this wedding? She was like bingo deliveries were going to do.

[00:43:54]>> There's loads of money in there. They're not going to notice if a 20 quid and a£13 and a £18 and a£32 goes here and there I think.

[00:44:02]>> So that's what you think, right?

[00:44:04]>> But who knows?

[00:44:04]>> Not trying to sabotage the wedding.

[00:44:06]>> I guess you can't with a delivery order.

[00:44:08]Okay. And an Uber £649 Uber. Yeah. Cheating last week, wedding this week.

[00:44:16]>> Who is cheating? We've heard real life stories of this, have we? And so we knew someone who would like knows that the groom has cheated, like seen it firsthand. Weddings next week.

[00:44:28]Everyone's going, "Woohoo! Not telling the bride. Let's go."

[00:44:33]>> Wedding in Greece.

[00:44:34]>> Let's do this.

[00:44:35]>> It's like I can't get involved. Oh, let's just watch the poor girl get married to the cheater. Awful.

[00:44:41]>> Like, what?

[00:44:41]>> How people's brain can do that?

[00:44:43]>> If my fiance is ever cheating on me, >> let me know.

[00:44:46]>> Let me know. Seriously, if I don't even know, let me know. Just let me know.

[00:44:49]>> Send me a text. Don't let me get married, please. Please.

[00:44:52]>> We cannot be letting people get married like this.

[00:44:55]>> Please. Like, we're waking up. It's 2026.6 marrying cheating men. Come on. Please let me know.

[00:45:02]>> Okay. Hey girls, longtime listener here, first time writing in. So, to start off, here's some background. Me and Sarah, he knows the law, have been best friends for over 15 years. We always say we are like siblings. Having met at secondary school and gaining a close bond, we have very much been your typical ride or die duo.

[00:45:22]>> Love it.

[00:45:22]>> She was a Sophia to my Chinsia and vice versa.

[00:45:26]>> Love that.

[00:45:27]>> I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. She has been with her partner for two and a half years.

[00:45:31]>> Okay.

[00:45:32]>> Since the start of her relationship with Brian, I felt a big shift in our friendship.

[00:45:38]>> I of course gave her a wide birth because it's a new relationship and we all have to live in that fresh relationship bubble. But this bubble took a long time to pop.

[00:45:49]Oh god. But I remained there for when she was going through things and needed me. I was always at the drop of a hat on at her side helping her move house even though I didn't get the same in return.

[00:46:02]>> I have very much taken a lot of it on the chin because I'm happy she's happy and you know I have my own relationship and life too so I can just get on with it. We still went on our girly holiday last year and there was a certain amount of effort back from her since then and I felt like we were getting back to our old selves. I even helped her boyfriend choose her engagement ring and organized the proposal only 6 months ago and now they're engaged.

[00:46:26]>> Lovely. But recently, I have been starting to feel more and more strain on the friendship, where I have been feeling the heavy lifting of the effort a lot more, which especially became apparent only a mere week ago when she called me at 9:00 a.m. on a Sunday morning saying that she had found out he was texting another girl right after they got engaged. That's heartbreak.

[00:46:49]>> I'm glad she came to you though.

[00:46:52]>> Same.

[00:46:53]>> Straight away.

[00:46:53]>> Same. That shows you got a really close bond like she feels like she can speak to you about anything.

[00:46:59]>> So 4 minutes later I was in my car on the way to her aid.

[00:47:03]>> Since then, sorry. She then asked me to help her speak to her fiance in a 3hour conversation between them while I was a mediator.

[00:47:12]>> Oh my gosh.

[00:47:13]>> Wow.

[00:47:13]>> Helping them communicate properly.

[00:47:15]>> Oh my gosh.

[00:47:16]>> He put FYI, I am not a therapist.

[00:47:19]>> I'm just a mere gay. I have checked up on her every day since.

[00:47:24]>> I would love I mean I would have loved to have seen that mediation like discussion like to be able to witness that is like amazing.

[00:47:32]>> Now last night we met up for dinner and I thought we would talk more about her situation.

[00:47:36]>> Yeah. Like what's been said like what what are we doing? Are we like breaking off this engagement? Like surely >> she then sprung it on me that they are back to normal and now planning their wedding. God, >> which is to take place abroad next year, which I was to be there until now.

[00:47:55]>> It has now become apparent, >> but it's family only.

[00:47:59]>> What? I can't help but feel like this is because I know everything go >> about their relationship and me being there is some sort of reminder or if I genuinely have been overlooked because perhaps I am not as important to her as I once thought I was.

[00:48:17]Wow, that's a kick in the teeth. So, she she said weddings on family only abroad family only.

[00:48:25]I genuinely feel like I'm being picked up and put down and it's exhausting me.

[00:48:29]Am I right in seeing it this way or are they right for doing what they're doing?

[00:48:34]Please share your thoughts. Loads of love from one heartbroken boy losing his best friend/sister, pictures attached. This is my friend and her Brian. And I'm on the left in the other picture with my Brian who probably also deserves a star of the week.

[00:48:49]>> Oh my god.

[00:48:51]>> Okay, so this is the fiance. Yeah.

[00:48:54]>> This is the cheating man.

[00:48:57]>> Oh, okay.

[00:48:59]>> Your best friend looks gorgeous.

[00:49:01]>> Beautiful Sarah. I mean, and he is just there.

[00:49:04]>> This is our Brian. What handsome man.

[00:49:07]>> Wow.

[00:49:07]>> This is Brian.

[00:49:08]>> Beautiful.

[00:49:08]>> This is Brian's soulmate.

[00:49:10]>> Oh my god. Gorge. Two gorgeous strapping men.

[00:49:15]>> This is >> Yeah. And you know, you have literally helped her and guided her through this moment of like awfulness.

[00:49:26]>> Yeah.

[00:49:27]>> And trying to help her navigate this situation, both of them.

[00:49:32]>> You would think we wouldn't be here without you.

[00:49:36]>> You were the mediator and us figuring this out.

[00:49:38]>> I do. What Brian said, saying that you're going to be a reminder and you know everything. That makes sense to me.

[00:49:46]I >> like Brian can't be there because he might tell LA.

[00:49:50]>> I wonder if the fiance your best friend's husband to be is the one that said >> is starting this.

[00:49:59]>> I don't think we should have I think we should have family. I don't think he should be there because blah blah I'm not maybe maybe her husband has said I'm not comfortable with him being there because of X Y and Z.

[00:50:08]>> Well, I'm not comfortable with you guys getting married. Like this isn't right.

[00:50:12]If you're capable of texting another girl, like imagine going through >> I know >> getting a ring, proposing all of that and then just doing that. It just doesn't make any sense to me at all.

[00:50:24]>> And this is the only time she's seen it.

[00:50:26]>> I know exactly. So, what other stuff has he been getting up to?

[00:50:32]>> Um, >> in terms of navigating this, what do you think? Do you think he should say something like, "Oh, >> that's really disappointing. I feel like I would love to be there as your best friend or we just got to let her get on with it. And it's just like look >> at the end of the day >> he's cheated on you.

[00:50:51]>> I do sometimes think like this situation you can take so much from it. Like you were already feeling like you were doing a lot of the heavy lifting in the friendship. You were making a lot more of the effort than she was. and you're always there at her beck and call. Like you're always there to help her. You're always there to pick her up. And you don't sort of feel like if you called her at 9:00 a.m. on a Sunday saying that, I've just had a big fall. Can you come over? She'd probably be like, "Oh, I can't at moment, but like blah blah."

[00:51:22]Like, you don't feel like she would do the same for you that you do for her?

[00:51:25]And then to not be invited to the wedding on top of that.

[00:51:29]>> I think if this were me, I I wouldn't be fighting for my invite, but I would just be like, I'm seeing all of this. like I'm digesting it all. Um, now I know how you feel about me and I'm not going to be as there for you as I always have been. Like I can still be your friend, but I'm not going to be like ditching my partner to come and help you and like making my life difficult to come and help you because I don't feel as though it's a it's 50/50. And I think for a long time the friendship hasn't been >> I just feel sad for her now because I'm like can we not just wake up and and and realize what we're doing in this moment?

[00:52:06]>> Like obviously he's in her head quite a bit because he's kind of away from your friends a bit.

[00:52:11]>> Why don't you like have her around for dinner >> or like go out for some drinks? Whatever you guys would usually would usually do cuz also like do you think this like is this wedding actually going to happen?

[00:52:23]Surely he's going to have another offense possibly. Yeah, >> he he's done it and got away with it.

[00:52:29]>> So in his mind, he's thinking kaching.

[00:52:31]Like got a whole year.

[00:52:33]>> Easy.

[00:52:33]>> Easy. Who else can I message? She's going to forgive me for whatever.

[00:52:36]>> Yeah.

[00:52:37]>> And I do think this wedding probably will not happen if I'm honest. That's true.

[00:52:41]>> So yeah, let's ask to meet up. Yeah, maybe have another meet up and then maybe go more into the wedding like so like how's this all come about? Like how are you feeling? Like let's just go back to old times. How are you feeling about the wedding? Like, are we over that whole situation? Let's just say like, are you sure?

[00:52:56]>> Are you sure? Like, you know, there's no rush here. You know, I I'm a little bit worried. Like, obviously, I'm going to support you, whatever you choose to do, but I am a little bit worried about X, Y, and Zed. And just see how she responds because you might get a very defensive approach >> or she might cry and be like, I'm not sure. And it's like, bingo, bingo.

[00:53:15]>> Don't go marry this [ __ ] >> Yeah.

[00:53:16]>> Cuz he's an idiot. Yeah.

[00:53:18]>> Cuz like, who the [ __ ] are you?

[00:53:19]>> I don't know. Like I do think he will reaffirm but yeah I think we just need to be there for her >> in this moment because she's a mess.

[00:53:26]>> Like I would be a mess too. I've just got engaged.

[00:53:29]>> It's erratic.

[00:53:30]>> It's it it's like yeah >> I've got engaged. I've got cheated on anyone. I've not told I've not told my mom. I've not told anyone. I've only told you.

[00:53:37]>> It's like if people knew >> everyone would be telling me not to marry this guy. True. But so she's she's kind of living a lie kind of with her other friends and family presenting this like we're perfect. Everything's great.

[00:53:49]>> Just got engaged. Woohoo. But to you, you're the one who knows the real truth.

[00:53:53]>> She she's her mind is all over the place. And she will be having her step in and have more of an intervention.

[00:53:58]>> I think she'll be going to sleep thinking, "Oh my god, am I really going to do this? Like I don't trust this guy.

[00:54:03]He's just cheated on me."

[00:54:05]>> Like >> maybe you do have more of an intervention cuz Yeah, I do feel like >> she'll be going to sleep crying. I think >> I do feel like she's trying to push you away a little bit. Probably because she knows that you're going to give her the truth and you're going to tell her like what's really going on.

[00:54:18]>> So yeah, maybe actually you shouldn't let her push you away and you should like actually get in there a little bit more and be like I'm not like let's have a look at what's going on here.

[00:54:28]>> Like you're I've always wanted the best for you. I'm always going to be here for you. Like let's think about this.

[00:54:34]>> Yeah. Cuz like this is not his first offense.

[00:54:38]>> Good luck.

[00:54:39]>> Okay.

[00:54:40]We've got here. How do I cut off his mom? Sometimes the hardest one. Hello dolls. I'm in a pickle and appre would appreciate your help.

[00:54:52]In July last year, I started dating a guy Brian. We started a beautiful relationship. Lots of flowers, lots of dates, all sorts. He seemed super intentional. During this relationship, I met loads of his family members. They all love me, but most especially his mom. I should consider myself lucky.

[00:55:12]Most women have to deal with their boyfriend's awful mothers, but in my case was very different. She's incredibly kind, a real girl's girl, always reminding me him that I'm a prize. Every time she'd go shopping, she'd pick us bits up that she thought I'd like. Her son was her only child.

[00:55:28]>> She had trouble getting pregnant, and even he was a miracle.

[00:55:32]>> But you can see she was meant to be a girl mom. So when I started dating her song, she basically treated me like the daughter she never had. In February, literally a week before my birthday in Valentine's, I found out this guy had been unfaithful with multiple women whilst I was on a trip back in December.

[00:55:48]>> What is going on with these [ __ ] today?

[00:55:50]>> She was so disappointed in him. I know it.

[00:55:52]>> Yeah, me too. And I hope and she let him know as well. And like I love her for that.

[00:55:58]>> Yeah, I love her for that. And I don't think he'll cheat on anyone else again.

[00:56:00]>> I do. I think he's let down. I think his mom's taught him that. So, I found out at 11:30 a.m. We met up and broke up with him by 1:00 p.m.

[00:56:09]>> Wow.

[00:56:10]Well done. Proud of you, Sarah. Well done.

[00:56:12]>> After the breakup, I made sure to communicate with his mother immediately.

[00:56:15]So, she knew exactly what had happened.

[00:56:18]>> What did she say?

[00:56:19]>> And he doesn't spin the story. She was devastated. She literally said the words, "I can't believe I raised a monster."

[00:56:27]>> This is our kind of mom. Wow.

[00:56:30]>> Oh, poor woman, though. Like, >> poor woman. like she loved you, he's gone and done that.

[00:56:36]>> She is so disappointed in that.

[00:56:38]>> She's not defending him. She's like, "What a monster. I've raised a monster."

[00:56:44]>> Uh she shared that she has parented to always respect and admire women. And that the fact that he did this has proved to her that actually that men actually can't be saved. Oh god, this is just >> Oh, she's lost all faith in this species.

[00:56:59]>> Yeah. If she Well, she hasn't even got faith in her son.

[00:57:03]Wow.

[00:57:03]>> And the and the cheating is literally in their blood. Oh god.

[00:57:07]>> Oh my god.

[00:57:08]>> Is that what we've learned today?

[00:57:09]>> I feel like we should get this more on the podcast.

[00:57:11]>> Oh my god. I think she's amazing. You know who she reminds me of? Lucinda. Do you remember her from um Married at First Light Australia a couple seasons ago?

[00:57:19]>> Lucinda.

[00:57:19]>> She was like she was really full of life.

[00:57:24]>> No, I don't think I remember her. She was that old lady.

[00:57:28]>> That older lady. She was full of life and she was too much for these men.

[00:57:31]>> No. Maybe if I saw >> like her true state is like just I'm single like these men are just like time >> wasters.

[00:57:36]>> So it's in their blood. Oh that's blood.

[00:57:38]>> Imagine having this as your mother-in-law.

[00:57:40]>> I love that.

[00:57:40]>> Like it's such a shame this didn't work out because like this is your woman.

[00:57:44]>> I know. I know.

[00:57:46]>> So when I met up with a couple of days later to like your little girl just >> so I met up with her a couple of days later to return his things. She hugged me for ages and kept saying sorry.

[00:57:59]>> Wow.

[00:58:00]>> She's an angel. She's an angel. Fast forward now and she still texts me. She was the first person to wish me a happy birthday. Bless her, she said.

[00:58:08]>> And every three three weeks she'll write to me and ask how I'm doing and say, "Don't be a stranger."

[00:58:13]>> A this lady is really nice.

[00:58:15]>> Oh my gosh.

[00:58:17]>> She asked me she she asked that when I'm free, we should meet for a coffee and catch up.

[00:58:22]>> Oh, go on. You've got to >> know. She've got to. She said, "Girls, I love her to She's the nicest lady."

[00:58:30]>> And she's also quite young and hip.

[00:58:32]Like, she's only 43.

[00:58:33]>> Oh my gosh.

[00:58:33]>> And I'm 27. She's young. You're basically peers.

[00:58:37]>> She's like Kim Kardashian is 43.

[00:58:39]>> Wow.

[00:58:40]>> Um, I would love to stay friends with her, but she's also my ex's mom. I fear it will send a wrong message. Like, I'm trying to hold on to him somehow. I am completely over the guy. I was too good for him anyway, and I fear his mother knows that. Do you think she's trying to stay buddy buddy in hopes that I'll forgive her son if she can go back to cosplaying mother and daughter? Do you think it's appropriate to stay in contact at all? How can I cut her off without being rude? Or should I keep doing what I'm doing and keep the texts?

[00:59:06]I sound polite, brief, and vague in hopes that she'll get the hint. Any advice would be appreciated. P.S.

[00:59:12]Apologies for no photos as I'm as I'm the type of person to delete all traces of previous relationships while I do them.

[00:59:20]>> What are you doing?

[00:59:23]I think look, she's a lovely lady.

[00:59:25]>> Lovely.

[00:59:26]>> But it's just a reminder of that relationship. I think keep it vague, >> keep it brief. Reply, don't ignore, but like let's not meet up >> cuz I know cuz we're going to cross for a goodbye coffee, but we've just we had a goodbye coffee. We hugged.

[00:59:42]>> Remember when we hugged and she kept saying sorry for that?

[00:59:46]Look, and that's just a part of being a mother of a son is these girlfriends are going to come and go and I've got to learn to let go of them. She's also needs to learn to let go of you.

[00:59:56]>> Yeah, she does. Because Angela Ba Solo needs to take a leave out of that box.

[01:00:00]>> It's going to be tough, isn't it?

[01:00:02]>> I think keep it vague. Keep the replies.

[01:00:04]Happy birthday. Hope you do. You know, reply when she messages, but we don't need to meet up.

[01:00:10]>> And we are strangers now.

[01:00:12]>> I know.

[01:00:13]>> Like unfortunately.

[01:00:14]Or >> yeah, >> you meet up one more time, >> one last blowout at the coffee shop, >> final blowout, and over coffee, you could say that you love her so much. And you could say the things you said to us like I just don't really know like moving forward like obviously I would love to keep in touch but I'm just not sure if it's best for me because you know like if we actually become friends >> you might just be like oh let me know what Brian's up to and I don't need the >> and it is a bit of a reminder and I was really heartbroken as you know >> and maybe just say like >> a monster as you know >> look I know that you're always there if I need you and I hope you know vice versa.

[01:01:00]But I do think it's best if we stop the regular communic because like you don't want to be speaking to your ex's mom every 3 weeks no matter how nice she was. It is that reminder constantly of the relationship, him, what he's doing, what he's up to. Like you want to move on, forget about him. Like we like forgive and forget and just keep it pushing and meet and blah blah. Like I would be tempted to go for a goodbye coffee.

[01:01:26]>> Really?

[01:01:28]>> Yeah. Yeah, I think if you like if you admire her so much, you have that fondness for her. Otherwise, we're going to be a year down the line still texting every 3 weeks, but you're going to have to ignore her some point. So, really, I think you deserve to have a really nice inerson conversation. Just be like, it's not personal. I would love to speak to you every single day if I could. Like, I feel like we've got such a great >> She just feels so bad and she's she wants to check on you and make sure that you're doing okay. She wants the best for you because she birthed her.

[01:01:57]>> And she also like she will understand.

[01:01:59]She will understand that I'm the mother of the boy that cheated on her. Like it's not like I am a reminder. Like she will get it. You're speaking to another girl at the end of the day. Like she's going to understand why it's best that you don't keep in touch so regularly anymore.

[01:02:12]>> Yeah. She just feels responsible, I think. Like she's carrying the weight of the she said she raised a monster.

[01:02:18]>> I know. But that's so good. I know >> because she's taking accountability for her son. like not like not being >> she's gonna make a girl very happy one day.

[01:02:26]>> Oh, isn't she?

[01:02:28]>> Isn't she?

[01:02:28]>> Well, let's hope.

[01:02:30]>> Oh, no. Marry him. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[01:02:34]>> Maybe she's got some other sons.

[01:02:35]>> Oh, maybe she's got some siblings.

[01:02:37]>> Oh, no. He's the only child.

[01:02:40]>> Darn it.

[01:02:41]>> Should we have our star of the week?

[01:02:42]>> Yes.

[01:02:44]>> But we should embody that lady. Like, we should be that mother-in-law. Like, I want I feel like we will be. We've got it in our in our bones. I >> like That's just so lovely. I want to go shopping for her.

[01:02:53]>> Yeah. Okay. Star of the week. Hey girlies. Love you both so much. I wanted to nominate my Brian aka Dan for Brian of the week. He is without a doubt the most amazing Brian I could ask for.

[01:03:06]>> For context, he had planned to go traveling Australia before we met. But instead, he actually took me with him and funded my whole travels for the whole 6 weeks.

[01:03:16]>> He even bought me a crazy amount of Yochi. He loves to listen to you girls on a Wednesday with me. It's a weekly evening routine of ours. Hi Danny.

[01:03:26]Just thought he deserves a brand of the week as he is always going above and beyond for me. Wow.

[01:03:32]Lovely energy to finish us off this week. 6K trip to Australia. 6 weeks.

[01:03:39]Dan's got it covered.

[01:03:40]>> Daniel has got it covered.

[01:03:42]>> He knows how to show our Sarah good.

[01:03:46]>> I could smash her Yoi right now. All right, guys. Thank you so much for listening to another episode. If you have a star of the week entry or a dilemma, you can email it to [email protected].

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[01:04:02]Byebye.

[01:04:03]>> Bye.