What Caused The Female Loneliness Epidemic?

Added: 2026-05-24

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[00:00:07]GYBB Get Your Balls Back WWDD What Would Dante Do The Sexual Revolutions Being Podcasted and I am excited. What's What have we got today here? Uh Dante, today we are talking about a topic that kind of has gone a little bit viral in the relationship world, the female loneliness epidemic. Now, this is the concept that women are are not able to find men in a larger number than they used to be Yeah.

[00:00:34]>> and how they're by themselves. They're lonely, Dante. They're lonely, but yeah.

[00:00:38]And people are talking about it, but nobody asked men Yeah. about it.

[00:00:42]>> why that is. And I And I think that to a certain extent, um, this isn't such a vast kind of topic in the first place, but I I But so, we're going to cover as much of it as we can, but whatever we don't cover, we're going to be on the Patreon.

[00:00:57]So, check out the Patreon. We're going to dig in deep later on. It's uh Yeah.

[00:01:01]>> Yeah.

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[00:01:07]Um Um but let's let's let's use our time wisely. I think what what what Nobody's talking about Like you said, nobody's asking men. And And I think when we talk about men and women relationships, male and female relationships, um the the inception of when you find yourself you you find yourself attracted to women um is the the the at that moment you sign up for some level of rejection. And because of the fact that we pursue women, um and as we pursue women, we know that we're just not good at it. I mean, when we're younger, we're just not good at it. And so, you you're just destined to fail, um which you know, it's it's just part of the process to get to the point where you you know how to present yourself in a way that women would find you attractive. Now, don't say this.

[00:02:01]Just out of curiosity, I know that we've talked about the male loneliness epidemic. That's that's been going on for years, that discussion.

[00:02:08]>> Where guys are they're lonely cuz they they don't have women, but some of that is volun- voluntary.

[00:02:15]Is this voluntary? Is it the same reason for women? Is it voluntary?

[00:02:19]No, I think what has happened moreover is that guys are being told the man. First of all, nobody, you know, I mean, in general, nobody you know, as a man, you're not supposed to have these emotions. You're not supposed to have these feelings.

[00:02:35]You're supposed to be stoic and you're supposed to be strong because those are the things that that women find most attracted to attractive.

[00:02:43]The problem is that you get beat down and to the point where um because of the fact that men are not and men haven't really stood up for themselves and they've put up with whatever whatever's been offered to them. Um they just get you get this sense of hopelessness where your stability, your your you know, the fact that you can be leaned on and you can be you can be supportive is not really appreciated. I think it just automatically um it it comes with the package and I think even when it come and and this is not a situation you're not going to hear this in any of these manosphere kind of red pill uh At least not without rage.

[00:03:33]Yeah, without the rage, but >> or celebration or a little victory parade. Like see, women are lonely, too.

[00:03:40]>> Well, the and the and the reality of it is that um you know, a a lot of times what you'll find is that women and I know this This a controversial thing to say, but women don't know what they want, their body does.

[00:03:55]Um, and what I mean by that is attraction is a visceral thing that happens. And if a man is unable to to trigger uh that kind of visceral attraction, um they're just not going to you know, women respond in a visceral way and if you don't know how to if if you you don't have the what it takes to to make that emo that emotional that kind of visceral attraction, um you don't get that reaction from women.

[00:04:26]You're going to uh you you're just not going to have any any opportunities and no possibilities with women. So, it's a weird thing. I think we from the stuff that we've discussed, I would say that we think it's two things. One is that men are never taught how to date and how to pursue and they don't they never get that experience. But, I think the other thing I think the the reason for the female loneliness epidemic is uh women are lonely because the men they wanted were not available. Women were very choosy and very picky and they dismissed a lot of those men by choice and now this is kind of the cause and effect because I think also guys, that's the one end that women, you know, then as they get older, the pool is smaller for them. But, on top of that, I think men have stopped dating. They're just like, I'm out. It's it cost me an arm and a leg, it cost me time, it cost me energy, it cost me emotions, like I'm out. I'm done. I'm done dating and I'm out.

[00:05:23]>> and then I'm not appreciated for the Yeah. time and the effort that I put in and this is all it's also a situation where I think um you know, I I I don't want it to sound like we're necessary cuz I'm not blaming women but there's just the the the idea of hypergamy um where a woman wants, you know, 90% of the women want 5% of the men.

[00:05:47]And I And this is actually, you know, like we you know, we we've talked about this in terms of this being a genetic kind of an evolutionary project prospect where women look at um women are looking at they want the be the cream of the crop of men.

[00:06:05]And whatever that cream of the crop is has become like this social kind of social financial level that's just I I just think it's it's unrealistic.

[00:06:18]It's mostly it's statistically unattainable. Yeah, sure. Sure.

[00:06:21]>> you want somebody who's making six figures in America, a majority of the people are not making six figures. Yeah, that's like 2% That's actually like 2% of the men. Yeah.

[00:06:31]>> Um and they want them over 6 ft.

[00:06:33]I've heard girls say, "I want a guy that's 6'6". I'd be, you know, I I don't even know what the percentage of Well, you better join volleyball. Yeah, exactly. Volleyball or basketball only, you know. Um and so there's these these these unrealistic expectations. Yeah.

[00:06:52]There's these unrealistic expectations and we've talked about this on the Patreon several times. It's like because we'll get these we'll get these questions on the Patreon where where we really need to dig into the the dynamic of what's really going on and not that it's um anybody's fault because something that you said when we first opened up the the you know, the show was that there's nobody teaching men how to date or how to be.

[00:07:20]Their parents their fathers not teaching them, their grandfathers not teaching them.

[00:07:25]Also >> appropriate way. Because even the people who are teaching it's like happy wife, happy life. It's a lot of wrong information.

[00:07:32]>> happy life or happy wife or good day lonely too. The red you know, the red pill guys are like good for them. We going to you know, that want to we want them to shut up and not vote and it's just >> there's people don't go down on women cuz they have they the vagina is na- dirty. It's icky.

[00:07:49]>> that's My- Myron said, "Can we we got to insert clip here where" >> Yeah, I'll put in Myron. If I can find it.

[00:07:55]>> and says the vagina is disgusting.

[00:07:57]Excuse me, the female vagina is the word he used which is weird.

[00:08:01]>> a weird adjective to talk about.

[00:08:03]>> isn't weird because it it it denotes that there's a male vagina?

[00:08:07]Um are we talking about [ __ ] Um so there's a whole 'nother thing. So you got guys that you know that are that are uh you know, clearly not interested in women, um don't like women who are who are giving advice or you got men who just, you know, stay down, keep cover, you know, we don't don't put your head up, you get your head shot off. Or you have guys who are just going I I just I I want to protect my peace um instead of engage in these relationships.

[00:08:39]And um one of the things I think is really interesting is just I've been counseling with with uh uh a guy who you know, good friend of ours who who was um his relationship is super toxic. I mean, they're throwing dishes at each other and cursing each other out and all kind of stuff.

[00:08:59]Huh? Do I know this person? Yes, yeah, well I don't want to blow him up. But >> we'll talk about it off the air.

[00:09:04]>> We'll talk about it off, but um what's interesting is the I've and I've said this a hundred times, I'm not a guy who a woman throws her drink in his face. It's just there's a certain level of of respect that a way in which you carry yourself where you people understand that that is not an option.

[00:09:24]Like this is this is just not going to fly and because it's not going to fly um you you just don't have to deal with that kind of stuff. But who's going to who's there who's out there that's really teaching anybody who's teaching these these rules and these regulations where I won't say rules and regulations but where you're you're literally going okay this this >> Yeah, this this is guidelines to to to where you have to be respected and not respected and we we go into that heavy in terms of how how to set the boundaries and the subtext. When I mean subtext is the communication of which in which how you communicate things non-verbally in while you're dating and there's nobody teaching this stuff. You know, so I want to pull up some some facts here that we've uh that we have because I think also part of it that we've discussed in private is that women kind of dated themselves out of the market you know because you're taught women are teaching women.

[00:10:24]>> we have never said that female vagina is disgusting. You and I have never said that. Never.

[00:10:33]>> I have never said or any vaginas are disgusting.

[00:10:37]>> I'm saying we both been anyway >> favorite. That's some of our favorite. I don't you know it's part of the meal.

[00:10:44]You know appetizer is part of the meal.

[00:10:46]Some would say it is the meal. Let's be honest.

[00:10:49]>> be if you just want to sometimes I go to a restaurant I just order appetizers and I order like three appetizers that's my entree.

[00:10:55]>> little uh tapas tapas tapas You know, I get some I get sometimes I order double nachos. That's my that's my meal. That's fine.

[00:11:03]>> That's what you want. But I think I think part of it is that women kind of dated themselves out of the market cuz they're they're also taught by other women you're the queen you're the prize and you run men through the ringer and then they wore it they wore them out.

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[00:11:39]Yeah. Uh here's some stats here. Um from the [clears throat] Institute of uh Families um Family Studies uh 2026, only 26% of women are actively dating in 2026.

[00:11:51]That's so that's that's a very shockingly known low number.

[00:11:56]>> Yeah. Um which indicates like the system is not Yeah. broken. It's empty. Like it's don't The system is completely like destroyed. Uh but Yeah. I would say that was at the the cause of kind of the dating standards a lot of women set wanting to be treated as a queen and the and the prize and then not understanding that relationships should be a partnership, which is what you hope for.

[00:12:19]>> We we I think on a base level we have to understand that we we need each other.

[00:12:24]Like men and women need each other. And we and most of the time we want each other in unless their female vagina is disgusting.

[00:12:34]>> Yeah. Ew.

[00:12:35]Ew. I don't want to live on a I don't want to live on an island of planet of just men. I know Myron Gaines does cuz he doesn't have to accidentally it come in contact with a filthy vagina.

[00:12:45]>> Ew. Disgusting. I found a jellyfish on the beach.

[00:12:50]Yeah, it's gross. Um Gross.

[00:12:53]So uh here we go. Institute of Family Studies as well. The US is officially in a dating recession is uh what they're calling it. Few peop- Fewer people are dating in general, not just women, uh than at any point in modern history.

[00:13:06]Yeah. And uh the drop is steeper for women because they didn't experience that. The male loneliness epidemic was always I think there was always male loneliness Yes. in different things. I think women are just now experiencing that. And it also doesn't help that uh graphics cards and video games are so much more amazing than they used to be.

[00:13:23][laughter] AI porn is uh Uh I don't even think it's the porn part.

[00:13:29]>> I'm your little sex toy and I'll do whatever you want, you know. Um I was talking about regular video games. I don't know if you've tried an Oculus, it's amazing. If you've ever put on an Oculus headset, I've spent hours with that thing. A friend of mine had it. And I would rather do that than than go uh pay for somebody's three-course meal and they're giving you one word answers.

[00:13:48]>> know somebody that bought a house on the a virtual house like on the Oculus.

[00:13:54]>> Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, there're people are living on that right now and and and um you know, and you'd be dating some guy 400 lb sweating in a basement somewhere. Um But, I mean, that's just it just provides the options of uh >> Yeah. Yeah. Um the good news >> rejection rejection is hard. I mean, as men we we sign up for the rejection the minute you minute you find women attractive, you're signing up for a level of rejection. Because you don't And it's And I I don't you know, you don't blame women for that. What we're talking about is really a situation where you're in a a a in a dynamic that you just don't know how to navigate.

[00:14:34]Which is uh one of the things that you know, on the Patreon, check out the patreon patreon.com /manschool202.

[00:14:41]Go on the Patreon, sign up for the Patreon and we in-depth go into these things and teach the the the the fundamentals of how to navigate this this this situation that is is is tragic because a lot of guys are tapping out.

[00:14:58]Women are lonely and this this this kind of understanding that we are at opposing uh positions, which is >> Right. really not true. Like men want men I'm sorry, well, men do want men.

[00:15:11]There's definitely that. But men men want women and women want men and uh this is and and and having to na- having to navigate that um is uh is is not an easy thing to do.

[00:15:25]>> It's It's a It's a buyer's market right now. The market has shifted for men. You got to go in there. Yeah, yeah. It's a buyer's market. It's female only in this economy.

[00:15:33]>> I've heard women come complain like I I I got won't even come up to you and ask you for a date. Yeah, I mean >> Yeah.

[00:15:39]Uh um >> [clears throat] >> you know, when you go with the >> years we tried that and it you would you'd be rude or mean or dismissive or you know.

[00:15:47]And you don't know how how >> but enough how devastating that is that you know, high school uh gym party where you got to walk across the gym to go ask the girl to dance and SHE'S LIKE, "NO!"

[00:16:01]AND DON'T GET ME WRONG. I I I think there's a situation where um then you know, women are not taught that this like they have guys have feelings. And and where do we learn that? Like we I mean, we push those feelings down all the time. We we suppress them and suppress them and shut your mouth and drink a scotch.

[00:16:22]Right.

[00:16:23]A scotch neat and shut your mouth. And so there's no real communication and I just think that there's such a such an opportunity, especially early on in the relationship, where you get to say, "Well, these the I don't like this."

[00:16:37]And and you know, what we talk about on the on the show all the time is that that not um [clears throat] you know, relationships can be really easy. Just know what your non-negotiables are. And then never negotiate them. But But I also when I say that, I say that in a in a in a cavalier way as if it's even um easy to understand what you like. I mean, this is a process where you have to date and you have to to uh examine the relationship as you go, "I like this. I don't like this. I" You know, and a lot of times guys You learn from each relationship like, "Ooh, I don't care for that. I I care for this."

[00:17:16]You know, like you go, "Okay, I want somebody I know I've learned from past relationships that I want somebody who is independent." Not everybody wants that.

[00:17:24]They want Some Some guys want a girl who's always there, always home, and all that.

[00:17:30]>> They want to feel needed. Yeah. You like to Yeah. I like being needed. I mean, I want to be needed to some extent, but I don't want to be needed 24/7. That's something I learned from previous relationships where I go where the person needs a lot of attention. It's Yeah.

[00:17:45]Yeah.

[00:17:46]Uh here's another uh stat before we uh close out and go to the Patreon here.

[00:17:50]Nearly 50% of women will be single the This is the projected numbers. Nearly 50% of women will be single by the year 2035.

[00:17:59]Like 50%. That's That's insane. I think part of that, Dante, and you tell me if you think that I think part of that, not just we're talking about, you know, the leisure of whatever, you know, we're talking about playing video games, whatever it is, your happiness, your peace. I think the internet also has created a lot of access to these displays of how difficult relationships are. I I know in my feed I'm watching tons of videos of family court. Yeah.

[00:18:23]Oh, yeah. Oh, that's where you jam.

[00:18:25]Yeah, I mean, it's it's in there. I didn't sign up for it. Somehow, because they pop up. I saw one video where this woman blocked her ex-husband on Venmo so that he would have to go to the bank to deposit the uh child whatever you call it, the the money for the children.

[00:18:42]Uh and the judge the lawyer >> just to make him make just to make him run.

[00:18:47]>> The lawyer asked, "Why would you block the child Why would you block your ex-husband on Venmo?" She said, "Because that's too easy for him." Mhm. And it takes one less It takes one less step away from him. And the lawyer goes, "Why would you want to make it more difficult for him to send you child support?"

[00:19:03]Yeah. And her whole explanation was I he he avoids going to the bank. It's too easy for him. And so you see those type of videos, you're like, "Yeah, why would I want to sign up for that?"

[00:19:13]Yeah.

[00:19:13]>> And yeah.

[00:19:15]And then you you also get, you know, you get women who are who are kind um are you you know, I like Here's another thing I I I think we don't talk about is that I don't envy women at all because one of the things that I I used I used to do a joke about this about how there is a uh a huge um STD epidemic um in >> folks homes >> in senior communities because men tend to die first and then all your little dirty grandmothers are in the uh they're in the old folks home trying to give them some sloppy toppy, some gummy bummy and uh and there's not enough men there because >> And all their teeth are gone by then.

[00:19:58]So, now it becomes a great uh you know Yeah, yeah, it's a it's a great thing.

[00:20:03]But they but they they have be because of the the level the scarcity of men um in these in these uh senior centers, these your little grandmothers are sharing men. Um We Do we I remember we used to do the casino. We'd do the casino and inevitably some some silver fox dude who would walk in uh would walk in with three little old biddies showing up here with red red lipstick and uh lot of hat pins and stuff and uh you know, it just it just would be a situation where it's crazy because this this is what the situation is and they're still and they would be so lonely like, "Look, if I can have a piece of a man." Um and and what happens is as a woman evolves, she becomes more worldly, more smarter her financially, she can't find men who are of her equal because they're diminished. Every year men die more and and and so on and so forth. And then what's crazy about it is they um don't want to they don't that's I mean they the young guys are great for the smashing uglies, but when they want something more and and you you tend to have women that just want relationships that are much more involved and and and some kind of intellectual aspect to it and intimate aspect to it and they don't even have that they can't get that with the younger guys because they're not mature or emotionally or or intellectually developed in the same way. So, I don't envy women at all. Um but one of the things is to navigate that. Once you understand this, um the easiest way to navigate this from both ends from both ends of it from a woman's perspective because you got to stop making good men jump over hurdles simply because, you know, going to the bank is too easy, right? Or they don't fit every exact qualification that you'd love to have in somebody.

[00:22:03]>> Which and and and even if they do, a lot of times they're still, you know, women talk about that that that the the the idea of the ick. So, it's a all this guy had soup in the summertime.

[00:22:15][clears throat] Therefore, I he's he is he's not even a this is not even something that I can consider. Um just crazy.

[00:22:24]Um Um but we we definitely uh you know, like we need to go into this a little bit longer and if y'all really if you're the type of guy that really wants to understand how to navigate this this uh I guess uh this, you know, inflation because it's a or shortage. [ __ ] inflation? Is it [ __ ] inflation is what we're dealing with?

[00:22:46]>> through the roof. I mean, it's uh you know, it's almost 550 a gallon now.

[00:22:50]>> buy. You got to buy the dip. Now's the dip. You got to buy.

[00:22:53]>> still got to know how to navigate this because it's still an emotional connection. The humanity of it is just and this is one of the things that I used to always say about about Kevin Samuels is that he always used to talk about the numbers but love relationships it's it's messy because it's emotional and um if you want to learn how to navigate that stuff check us out on the patreon at patreon.com {slash} manschool202.

[00:23:19]Um we're going to go over there and discuss it in in depth with with with our guys who want to know what time it is and and want to know how to navigate this.

[00:23:29]I'm not a alpha male. I'M NOT A BETA MALE EITHER.

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