Ghetto Prom Culture Sparks Outrage after White Women Says the Unthinkable

Ajouté : 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]All right, guys. It is prom season, and with prom season comes a host of hood rat shenanigans that has sparked some controversy on the internet because a white woman had the nerve to say the quiet part out loud, and black Twitter and the the the the pro wokity woke blackity black delusional cognitive dissonant crowd is upset, okay? Cuz she had, as they would say, the caucasity.

[00:00:32]I like that word. But as usual, the the the matriarchal representatives of the black community that don't want to be held accountable for anything and that will deny observable reality despite the outcomes, they don't want to hear it.

[00:00:46]They don't want to hear truth. They don't want to hear any sort of advice that causes them to self-reflect and to look within and to perhaps make different decisions. So, the first thing we need to do is I need to first educate guys, my audience, on what the heck is ghetto prom season anyway? Well, take a look at this clip. Client rented a Corvette for her daughter prom date in Miami, Florida.

[00:01:16]All right, good to go.

[00:01:19]All right, so here is when you press that that P button everything is in park. When you lift up the reverse, then you got to put it >> [music] [music] >> Here EBT finished. Help those young fellas enjoy.

[00:02:09]I don't know who's to blame here, society, social media, idolizing celebrities, and thinking cos playing as rich people for a night is anything meaningful. It's so stupid. The cars, yeah, they're rentals. The suits, the dresses, they're all rentals. You spend all this money for one night just to look and appear rich, but then are waking up in the same bed without all of this the next day. Probably having less money because you spent it all to pretend and dress up [music] as rich people. It's really really sad.

[00:02:45]>> [music] >> So, when did we start having to use cars as accessories to our dresses for prom, like?

[00:02:59]And now we're making music videos about prom.

[00:03:05]And what are you going to do with this dress?

[00:03:07]How are you even going to dance? Nobody can even dance by you.

[00:03:10]And what is this, like a peacock and [ __ ] What has this world come to with these proms?

[00:03:16]It don't even rain inside. Why did you need an umbrella to match your dress?

[00:03:20]Isn't it bad luck to have a umbrella inside?

[00:03:23]Now, girl, how are you going to dance with your man?

[00:03:26]Are you going to bring your mommy and pops all your dress all night? Like that is D for real. How they going to be stepping on it or using it as a blanket?

[00:03:33]Now, first when a 5-year-old go to prom in goats, what the hell do you need a damn goat for? To go with your 5-year-old. Okay, so that's an example of what ghetto prom season looks like, and I'll do my best for the uninitiated to try to define it.

[00:03:51]But ghetto prom season is the time in the school year right before graduation or the end of the school year where it is prom time. However, the prom is treated like an achievement. So, you'll have the hood rat um um element of the community tie will spend an exorbitant amount of money on dresses and props and you know, high-end luxury car rentals and all types of um aggrandizement in order to do the prom to outdo and rival all other proms. It's almost kind of like it is a competition. If, you know, Tayquayshaun is going to the prom, it doesn't matter that Tayquayshaun's GPA is a 1.1, and it doesn't even matter if the the the the the local school district has been promoting Tayquayshaun every year even though Tayquayshaun can't read.

[00:04:52]Tayquayshaun going to have on them red bottoms. He going to have on, you know, his glitter suit with a red carpet, and his date is going to have a dress that is a showstopper to remember. And parents will go all out of their way spending thousands of dollars during prom season because it's all about the optics. It is about the externals. It is about outdoing one another on the shallow and the silly, and it's because a lot of people don't want to admit this, the reason why the prom is treated an achievement because outside of everything else that would be of value and that would matter, their children are not really excelling in those things because that is not what the culture prioritizes. The culture prioritizes the hip hop culture, um the red carpet, the yes queen energy, the the long weave, the lashes, the nails, the pedicure, the dress, the cars, the clothes, the shoes, all of the things that do not promote flourishing and doesn't contribute anything to their future. Typically, those with um the low uh the the culture of low expectations, those people who subscribe to that are typically the ones that will spend either money that they don't have or money that they have but could be used and invested in something of value, they will choose to spend their money this way. Now, what did the white woman say?

[00:06:36]I promise you before actually, we're going to play the clip, but before I heard her say it, I had already assumed in my mind why it is that there is certain there is a certain element within the black community that goes all out for prom. Now, I'm going to let her explain to you the reason why, and it's going to piss off a lot of folks, uh but I don't care, but um I didn't hear her tell not one lie, and I actually am inclined to agree. So, let's go ahead and listen to the white woman say the quiet part out loud. Take a listen to this.

[00:07:19]It's prom season, which means one thing and one thing only, hood prom. And I think what a lot of people fail to realize is hood prom and baby mama culture are like this. You can't have one without the other. You can't have hood prom or the baby shower stuff or the gender reveals or anything like that without baby mama culture. Cuz the reason why the dresses are so extravagant and the cars and the show and the presentation is because this is the closest these girls will ever get to being a bride. In the black community, I'm sorry to say it. Actually, no, I'm not because it's the truth, especially in lower income households, there's not as as much of an emphasis on family anymore. These kids aren't getting married. They're going to be baby mamas and baby daddies, so they're never going to have a wedding. These girls are never going to walk down the aisle. Some of them probably will, but the majority of them will never be a wife. They will never be a bride, so they'll never have a wedding. That's why the dresses remind you of big beautiful wedding dresses.

[00:08:22]These kids are substituting their wedding with prom.

[00:08:29]Now, I know that was a lot for y'all to hear. Um and it didn't bother me at all.

[00:08:33]And we're actually going to listen to some black people respond to her because they were offended. They took personal offense to what she said, and the reason why I believe people took personal offense to what she said, um because they're going to say, you know, it is racist, and how dare you, you know, stand from your perch of privilege and say that. But this woman did was she just acknowledged pattern recognition.

[00:08:57]She looked at observable realities, and she looked at the outcomes within the black community, and she made a connection between what we see in prom culture and what we see in terms of the lived experience. So, for example, I call it pattern recognition because think about it. Prom this the ghetto prom um um season and how they kind of do the prom up, it does coincide with baby mama culture because if you think about it, within a certain element of the black community, these young girls today have no problems dropping a baby for a boy or a man. I mean, it ain't girls. This is women. They would have a man's baby, but the thought of being his wife first, they can't even fathom or wrap their mind around such a concept. Now, hear me clearly. We weren't always this way. It was actually shameful at one point in our community to be pregnant out of wedlock. It was already understood within the dominant black culture back in the day that if you got knocked up and you got pregnant, that was your husband. You is that the shotgun wedding. You were getting married.

[00:10:16]And this was also a time when fathers set a standard who in the father's mind, you're not going to bring shame upon this family. So, if you have found yourself with trial with child, you're now betrothed to this young man. Y'all got to figure it out cuz y'all are family now. And it was also understood within the dominant black culture at one point. If you was a young man and you got a woman pregnant, then you were going to do right by her and make her what's called an honest woman.

[00:10:44]That cultural mindset has now shifted because of ghetto baby mama culture where a woman will sleep with a dude, and she will drop his baby. And the moment you ask, are y'all getting married? It's like, getting married? I don't know. I don't know about all that, you know. I mean, I'm just this that's just my baby daddy.

[00:11:08]Like, I mean, we had a whole song dedicated to that's just my baby daddy.

[00:11:13]Right?

[00:11:15]Baby ghetto mama culture. So, this white woman here, God bless her.

[00:11:20]Don't apologize for saying what was observable um what was Do not apologize for making a truth claim about objective reality. It's called pattern recognition. It's called analyzing the outcomes statistically.

[00:11:37]Over almost 80% of the women and our the children born in our community, the ones that are actually being born, are born out of wedlock. Our out of wedlock rate is out of control. When's the last wedding that you went to?

[00:11:57]We're not getting married. Why? And we know we're not getting married. It's not like, oh, we're just foregoing the large extravagant wedding for the courthouse.

[00:12:07]Marriages are down overall.

[00:12:10]But in the black community, we are absolutely not getting married. Our women are absolutely are delaying motherhood or if they're choosing to have children, they are bringing children into the world on purpose outside of the confines of a marriage.

[00:12:29]And it has a lot to do with sadly, the men are seeing the crop. I'm calling it the crop or the caliber of women that are basically what's prevalent and what they have to choose from. And they're like, I'm not putting a ring on that. That is not a wife. I don't want her to be my wife because she's just not wife material.

[00:12:58]Now, to be fair, these men are laying down and sleeping with these women, and they are having children with these women, but they are not committing to these women in the confines of holy matrimony, and they're not forming families. So, if you have a whole generation of young people who watched their mamas be baby mamas and not pair bond with their fathers and raise a family, when it now comes time for the prom, the single mother cuz it's rare that two-parent households go out and spend and have all of this discretionary income or will break the bank. It is rare that a a a married couple will break the bank to give their child the prom of their dreams. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but it is rare.

[00:13:51]But typically, you will see the single mother trying to live vicariously through her daughter. She's a baby mama, so now she's trying to live vicariously through her child, and she is spending and going all out to give her baby girl the prom of her dreams because subconsciously or or consciously, she hasn't raised that girl to be a wife.

[00:14:19]How are you going to raise your daughter to be a wife and you have no experience with a man being a wife?

[00:14:24]You can't even wrap your mind around the concept of such a thing. So, you're not raising your daughter to be a wife.

[00:14:33]You're raising your daughter to go out here, you know, don't settle, don't you too young to settle down, focus on your career, you know, focus on all the other things.

[00:14:45]But she's not training her daughter to be a wife and to prioritize marriage or motherhood in the confines of a marriage.

[00:14:55]So, therefore, when it comes to the prom, the the the the baby mama didn't have a wedding. So, in her mind, she knows the closest thing my daughter probably is going to get to a wedding is a prom. So, they reenact what they would probably normally do in a healthy culture by go all out for a wedding, it's the prom for them. So, that's why the dress is extravagant. It's red carpet. They're doing photo shoots. They're they're the the car instead of the Some of them do limos. Now, the thing is luxury cars.

[00:15:30]And they're doing it to outdo the other young person because they want to It's about the bragging rights, of course.

[00:15:39]It's you want the bragging rights, you want the Instagram aesthetic, you want to brag on Facebook that my baby's prom was more lit than your baby's prom because they have a low a low value culture.

[00:15:52]And when I say low value culture, meaning the things that they value inherent to them are of low value.

[00:16:00]They're not prioritizing family, education, investments, you know, owning a home, you know, doing things in the proper order so that you can set yourself up for a good life.

[00:16:17]These are not values that are taught widespread or instilled on a widespread basis within the black community. So, when this woman makes this assessment and just says these child these kids are substituting their wedding with the prom, it's because most of them probably have never been to a wedding, and their mamas have no have never been married.

[00:16:41]Their mamas ain't been married. Nobody is trying to marry their mother. And so, it is a substitute. It is It could be subconscious. I don't know. But I believe what this woman said was right, and it is sad because the American Negro we used to have high marriage rates. We had intact families. Having a child out of wedlock was a pariah.

[00:17:11]And there was just a different cultural mindset back then, but now that's been reversed. A prom is no shouldn't be considered the highlight of your high school career.

[00:17:26]I mean, just graduating high school, to me, it's not a novel achievement. It is what It is something that you do in the course of your adolescent development, and it marks the end of you being an adolescent and going into young adulthood.

[00:17:47]Like, the bare minimum of achievements for you should be a high school diploma.

[00:17:53]And so, the prom is just, you know, all the icing on a cake. You're celebrating with your friends and your peers, but you should not be going into debt for the prom. You should not be bankrupting yourself just to give your kids a good prom. Go, buy a nice dress, go to the party, bring your tail home, and that's it. Now, I'm not trying to tell people what to do. Look, if you want to spend, you know, a whole paycheck or two on prom, that's fine. Do whatever it is you want. But don't be mad when people are looking at you and they're judging your decision because they're like, but ma'am, just last month you had a GoFundMe because your cousin died and didn't have no life insurance. Like, it's about the priorities, right? We're not pocket watching other people, but we are noticing cultural patterns, and we're saying having such a mindset about the prom is reflective of a cultural mindset and pattern recognition based on the outcomes in the black community, and those outcomes are not favorable.

[00:19:00]We don't have family success.

[00:19:03]Intact two-parent households and a whole lot of weddings is not something that you think of when you think of modern black American culture.

[00:19:14]It's just not.

[00:19:15]And so, instead of us being offended by this, I think this is was an opportunity for the black community to do some self-reflection and say, we have to change this because this is not good.

[00:19:28]But in order to do that, it requires you to have some emotional intelligence. It requires you to actually want to self-reflect and self-diagnose what the problem is, and then you'd have to have a desire to want to do better. And most black folks don't want to do better.

[00:19:42]They're just mad that you said something about it. They're they're perpetually offended and accountable for nothing.

[00:19:51]But now, what I want to do, let's listen to some of the clapbacks from some of the, you know, the black delegation who wanted to let you know how they felt about the the white woman and all of the blowback that people are putting online about the ghetto prom season.

[00:20:12]This particular video rubbed me in the wrong way in so many ways. Like the cockiness of it all to say that prom is related to baby mama culture, to say that prom is hood prom, and it's low income.

[00:20:25]It's a rite of passage. That's what prom has always been. I don't want [clears throat] to How is prom a rite of passage? I never viewed prom as a right A rite of passage is something that marks um the exit from one thing and the entrance into something of higher order or of um natural human development. Like I can see cotillion being a rite of passage or a quinceañera or a bat mitzvah or bar mitzvah being a rite of passage. I don't see categorically how a prom is considered a rite of passage. What What are What are you passing into?

[00:21:07]I mean, it's not you're you're you're going from an adolescent into an adult. It's a party. It's like homecoming. It's like the sock hop. I mean, it's How is the prom a rite of passage? Explain She would need to explain culturally how we could tie a prom into a rite of passage. So, I just fundamentally disagree with that, but we'll let her continue. A rite of passage after 14 years in the screwed-up educational system of the US, right? Okay, that's stupid.

[00:21:38]You say the educational system is screwed up in the US. She probably votes Democrat.

[00:21:44]When conservatives have been advocating for school choice because we recognize that the school system, the public education system in the US is screwed up. But Democrats are anti-school choice and they want to keep you and your children in a failed government school.

[00:22:02]So, it's almost like you can acknowledge that the schools are screwed up, but you want to celebrate passage surviving a a screwed-up school system.

[00:22:14]And then Donald Trump is the orange man bad cuz he wants to dismantle the Department of Education that all they do is take your tax revenue and take your money and just throw it into a system that is showing you that the outcomes are trash. This doesn't make sense.

[00:22:31]Why would I celebrate surviving a school system that I'm forced to pay for, yet the outcomes are it's it's an underperforming failure.

[00:22:45]Do y'all under see Do y'all understand now why I say slavery is a choice? Cuz these people acknowledge that the school system is trash. And yet they want to celebrate the prom as a rite of passage for surviving the trash.

[00:23:00]You choose your own oppression. You willingly subject yourself to your own slavery.

[00:23:08]THIS IS A PRIME example of it. You see, y'all thought I was crazy when I said slavery was a choice. Exhibit B. This is it right here.

[00:23:15]The same rite of passage that the quinceañera has where they dress how they want, they celebrate how they want, and no one says anything about that.

[00:23:23]>> That is a cultural distinctive that in Latin culture, it is celebrating entrance from being a little girl into becoming a woman. You are presenting your teenage daughter to the world, to polite society. She's an adult now.

[00:23:40]She's now blooming and she's a flower.

[00:23:44]That is different than a prom. A PROM is not a cultural distinction. A bat mitzvah ba a a bar mitzvah or bat mitzvah or a cotillion, a debutante, those are things that are rites of passage. You cannot put prom into that same category. Just Just stop it. But you chose to pick this moment to say that it relates to baby mama culture and that these girls will never be married and that's why they are dressed the way that they are dressed because they'll Do you think Do you think men are signing up to wed girls who are more reflective of thot culture with thot behavior and they they already in high school with tats all up they lay all on they back all on they bread? Like Those are not the girls that men are running to pick. Yet typically in hood prom culture, the dresses are very revealing, the girls are scantily clad.

[00:24:55]They tend to have the signature [ __ ] stamps all over their body, the you know, the the the exaggerated hairstyles, the cars that in in the course of their normal high school development, they would never have the opportunity to drive.

[00:25:16]I mean, this is what stuff that people in the hood do.

[00:25:20]They used to nothing. So, the one time they do get the opportunity to show out, they going to go all out. And this is There's no perch of privilege here. I'm from the hood. I know how hood people do. They used to nothing. So, they will spend their last So, because it makes them feel good about themselves.

[00:25:39]Instead of the delayed gratification of saying, "No, we're going to take this money and we're going to put it aside cuz you you got a We got a future house to save for. We want to gift our daughter with the equivalent of a dowry so that when she does meet a great guy and gets a husband that we can start them off with a down payment for a house." Those are not things that people in the hood tend to do. They pass down generationally like some Section 8.

[00:26:07]And you know I'm not tell You know I'm telling the truth. There, if your grandmama had an apartment, typically you end up living in that same apartment under that same Section 8 status and they just passing it down generationally. This is reflective of hood culture. You just don't like that somebody said it out loud. So, you want to romanticize it and and and sanitize it and say, "No, it's a rite of passage." Girls, cut it out. We can't improve what we're not even willing to acknowledge as a problem.

[00:26:40]We cannot change what we refuse to just take accountability for and be like, "We We are doing We doing team too much. We doing team too much."

[00:26:51]Never experienced wearing a wedding dress. But let's also point out you sitting on that couch looking real lonely rubbing a cat.

[00:26:59]She might be.

[00:27:01]But observable reality don't change the fact that black women are not getting married.

[00:27:08]Our marriage rates are in the pits.

[00:27:13]And our out-of-wedlock rate is through the roof. You can be mad at the white girl with the cat all day long, but the statistics are on her side and not yours. You're just in your feelings right now. You're just mad that she said it out loud.

[00:27:31]And that that is The defensiveness is what typically happens when someone makes a truth claim that makes you uncomfortable cuz you know it's true. But you get that icky eerie feeling inside, which is a conscience. It's the inner testimony of something that is true that's bearing witness. But instead of you leaning in and dealing with those feelings and reconciling them, you you what you do is you retaliate back. And now you want to shame her and put an insult and and direct an insult toward her because you just It hurts you too bad. The cognitive dissonance is too strong for you to admit that our marriage rates are in the pits, our abortion rates are incredibly too high. And then when we do decide to give birth to a baby, it is out of wedlock.

[00:28:28]And so, we substitute the big extravagant wedding cuz ain't nobody getting married. Ain't nobody asking y'all to be their wife. You substitute that with these gender reveals and these outlandish baby showers and these proms cuz this is close to getting down somebody's alley as you're ever going to get.

[00:28:50]Now, w- Is there statistically a possibility that some of these girls will get married? Maybe.

[00:28:58]Maybe. But if you were raised with no experience or exposure to what a healthy family and marriage looks like, the odds that you won't desire that are very, very high.

[00:29:17]Something has to happen to you where you actually get exposed to something different and you see you see the poor outcomes of the women in your life and the women in your community and something snaps on the inside of you that's like, "You know what?

[00:29:34]I don't want to repeat this. I don't want to be a baby mama. I don't I want to be married. I want a husband and a family and I want something that's going to give me purpose outside of a a job and and a career.

[00:29:52]That's the only way that it happened.

[00:29:54]But if our young girls don't see wives and they don't see women celebrating marriage and motherhood, they're going to want this instead. All they have to look forward to the biggest highlight of their life is going on a prom date and spending loads amount of money because we've never shown them the value of anything else.

[00:30:16]But anyway, so what makes you think that besides having the right to say this, that baby mama culture and prom go together?

[00:30:27]When did prom not become a celebration?

[00:30:29]And then you talking about the way that they're dressed. Style has evolved over the years.

[00:30:33]>> But that doesn't Listen. Just because style has evolved, doesn't mean that you need to lean into every fashion choice.

[00:30:43]People might It might be fashionable for people to walk around with their butt cheeks out, but I'm not going to wear an outfit where my butt cheeks are hanging out because style has evolved.

[00:30:55]Right? Like What this woman is failing to understand and what's the reason why she's taking this so personal is because this white woman highlighted a cultural phenomenon and a negative um it is a flaw, a fatal flaw in black culture and she highlighted it and she connected this baby mama culture to prom culture and made the connection between that and the lack of marriages and families in our community.

[00:31:26]And and all she did was pattern recognition and we feel some sort of way about it because we're not willing to have the conversation and hold our own selves accountable.

[00:31:38]Don't be mad at the white girl. Be mad at our trash outcomes and endeavor to do better.

[00:31:45]Endeavor to do better not just by talking about it cuz like it's easy for me to talk about it. It's another thing for me to live it myself.

[00:31:54]Hear me clearly.

[00:31:56]I have a husband and four children and I don't make any qualms about the fact that there was no way I was going to be okay with being a baby mama and having a child out of wedlock. I had sense enough to know that when I got pregnant, I said, you know what?

[00:32:16]I'm 26 years old.

[00:32:19]I can't be a baby mama. I cannot raise this boy or this baby or at the time I didn't know what I was having. I can't raise him by myself.

[00:32:27]And praise be to God that the person that I chose to lay down with had some morals and some values and he had enough sense to feel the same way and say, I could build a life with this woman.

[00:32:42]This I can work with.

[00:32:44]And we're going to be a family.

[00:32:46]And we're going to get married before the baby comes. And we're just going to do a regular baby shower. I was even hesitant to have a baby shower because I was embarrassed about the fact that I was pregnant and I was not somebody's wife.

[00:33:04]And we went through the challenges of that relationship and realized that what we had was worth protecting and worth solidifying and worth building upon.

[00:33:19]So we got married in December 2007. My son was born in February 2008.

[00:33:25]Four children later, 19 years of marriage later, we still going strong.

[00:33:30]We have built a life together.

[00:33:33]Acknowledging that we weren't perfect, acknowledging that marrying before you carry, you do it BECAUSE IT'S RIGHT.

[00:33:42]NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS. It's called I made an adult decision and now I have to deal with adult consequences because I want to give my children the best life possible. Don't be mad at this woman's observation.

[00:34:01]Be mad at our trash outcomes.

[00:34:06]And I didn't have a wedding. It would have been nice, but I didn't have a wedding. We went to the courthouse. We was like, ain't nobody got time or some money cuz we got a baby on the way for all of that.

[00:34:17]But we built something strong that wasn't built on a faulty foundation because we spent all of this money and time and energy focused on a wedding and didn't put any or the same kind of energy into building a marriage. That is the takeaway from this. Our community, we're not building families and we're not having weddings because we're not even thinking in those kinds of categories cuz the it's the shallow and the silly things that we the the trivial things that we put emphasis on versus on the things that matter that are going to outlive you generationally. This is a one-time party event at the end of the high school career that has no value or bearing on anything in these young people's futures, but it's the things that we value versus what other communities value and then we wonder why we at the bottom. Listen, I know this is not commentary that is popular. I'm sharp with it. I don't apologize for saying what I said and it rubs a lot of people the wrong way because they know it's they know it's right. It's tight and right, but because they're unwilling to confront and deal with it as reality, they'd rather clap back and get upset and take it personal as opposed to recognizing that this is a pattern and we we we probably should do better.

[00:35:41]But whatever. Listen.

[00:35:44]What are your thoughts on this? Do you think there's a connection between ghetto prom culture and baby mama culture? And is there connection between all of that to our lack of marriages? Or you just think look, black folks just categorically just do everything team too much and we just extra for no reason and one has nothing to do with the other. Whatever it is that you think, leave me your comments down in the description box below. And until next time, you guys stand firm, stay bold and above all else stay unshakable. [music] Grace and peace.