Millennials Are Keeping Their Kids TOO SAFE...Or Is There A Reason?

[00:00:00]Kids, today I can't go outside. It's 83 degrees. But us kids riding bikes in 97 degree heat. No water bottle, no sunscreen, and no helmet. I've been seeing a number of videos about kids that are not getting the same type of childhood that we had maybe when we were younger. So, I'm curious on what you think about this here. Are kids kind of being too sheltered these days? Are some of them just being put out into the wild a little bit too aggressively? Are some of them just not even having a chance to become and stay kids? Who knows? But I'm curious on what you think. Leave a comment below and let me know.

[00:00:35]>> And it's crazy to me that y'all gonna be overprotective over y'all kids. And I know my kids hate me. They probably hate my guts cuz every time they ask me, can they go to somebody house, I tell them, hell no. See, I try to tell them sometimes it don't be the kids.

[00:00:50]Sometimes it don't be the mamas. It be the people that they be having in their house living with them. See, I remember my family used to come at me because I used to always tell them like, "My kids is not allowed to go to anybody house.

[00:01:01]They not allowed to go outside and play by yourself until they hit a certain age." And y'all going to laugh at me, but my kids is not allowed to go outside by their self until they about 13 years old. Like my daughter be coming and she be asking me, "Can she go to somebody house or sleepover?" And I be like, "Why? Why you asking ME THAT? YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER." The answer still going to be hell no. Every time you ask, "Baby, until you turn 18, you cannot spend a night at nobody's house."

[00:01:24]Cuz I don't trust the soul. I don't trust nobody. Stop asking me do I want to meet these people's parents. Hell no.

[00:01:31]I don't want to meet their parents.

[00:01:32]Because even if I meet their parents, the answer still is going to be hell no.

[00:01:35]Kids be just thinking that you be mean for no reason. And in reality, I'm protecting you because I know what's out there. You are naive and don't know what's out there. But I do. And as a mother, I go to war for my kids. I s toes behind my kids all day and all night. And seeing how some of y'all parents is not overly protective over y'all kids and y'all let them do whatever the hell they want to. kids is outside running around, roaming around that night time and I'm like, "Y'all don't be checking them apps. Is anyone else absolutely dreading your kids growing up?" I've literally just been in the queue for a little Costa in Tesco and in front of me there was these two little girls um in primary school uniform. They must have been about seven, eight. Immaculate hair, immaculate makeup, little handbags on the shoulders, getting a cappuccino.

[00:02:24]They make me wired, let alone at that age. And then as they were walking out, the one little girl got picked up a chocolate bar and the other one was like, "Is that within your calorie deficit today, Hattie?" And the other girl looked like, "Yeah, you're right.

[00:02:39]Put it back." And they both strutted out of the shop. honestly absolutely breaks your heart. I know it's all the rage these days, but it's such a shame seeing that kids aren't just kids now. I've got a three-year-old little girl, and the thought of her being like that in 4 years, it breaks my heart. Why can't they just go and play Kirby and stuff like we did?

[00:03:04]I want to know who can relate to this.

[00:03:06]But you ever notice how kids today get emotionally overwhelmed, but when we were growing up in 80s and 90s, we were just, you know, like outside. Kids today need a meeting, a therapist, and a snack break because someone looked at him funny. Kids in my day, you got roasted in front of the whole neighborhood, and your mama told you to walk it off. And guess what? We actually did.

[00:03:32]Kids, today I can't go outside. It's 83 degrees. But us kids riding bikes in 97 degree heat. No water bottle, no sunscreen, and no helmet. The only protection we had was Vibes and a Capri Sun pouch. Kids today have GPS trackers and Apple watches and group chats with 37 adults monitoring their every move.

[00:03:56]But our parents be home before the street lights come on. That was it. There was the parenting plan. No life 360, no check-ins. If you disappeared, they assumed you were building character somewhere.

[00:04:11]And discipline, let's talk about that.

[00:04:15]Today, you can't take my phone. That's emotional abuse. But kids, in my day, you lost Nintendo for a week, and it felt like solitary confinement. And if you talked back, the belt had Wi-Fi. It connected instantly. Kids today record everything. We got in trouble and prayed. No one told our parents. There was no evidence. Just vibes and neighborhood silence. And don't even get me started on participation trophies. In the '9s, if you lost, you lost.

[00:04:52]You cried in the car and your daddy was like, "Maybe practice." today.

[00:04:58]Everyone's a winner. No, Kevin struck out 12 times. Kevin knows what he did.

[00:05:04]But here's the crazy part. We weren't tougher because we were better. We were tougher because nobody was coming to save us from boredom. We built ramps out of broken plywood. You know, you know what the result of that was? We drank from garden hoses. We learned social skills by physically knocking on someone's door.

[00:05:27]kids today FaceTime from the same house.

[00:05:31]And look, I'm not saying everything back then was perfect, but if you survived dialup internet, chain emails that threatened your life, and accidentally calling someone's house phone when their daddy answered, you're built just a little bit differently.

[00:05:49]Growing up in the '90s, water bottles weren't a thing. Do you ever remember leaving the house for a day out with your mom and dad and they I got the water bottles? Such a vessel didn't exist yet. Come home from school, play out play out the whole night, rollerblading in the street. All in all, I would say dehydrated most of the ' 90s. Tell the water from the bathroom tap and put your head under the tap.

[00:06:16]>> Parents who raise their kids in a sheltered way don't realize they're doing their kids a disservice. Like I grew up sheltered. Oh, I don't want my kid doing this and I don't want my kid out. You have to kind of let people out.

[00:06:26]You got to let your kids out. And because my mom raised me like tight by the time I got out, I was cooped out and it wasn't attractive. When I look back, like I was goofy because I live sheltered. It wasn't anything I could have done about it. Like I had to kind of live through it. But I feel like kids that get to go out and live turn out better because they have this like you ever meet somebody and they're just free from any sort of like judgment from others or they just like talk to anybody like like whatever. And it's more than just extrovertedness. It's just like they've done this or they're conditioned to it. That's what it is. I always wish I was like that. More free.

[00:07:07]More like but I lived cooped. Um because my mom live cooped. So I think also a lot of parents that are sheltered kids themselves kind of pass that down and it's up to the kids to be like, "Well, no, I don't want to be like that." If they realize like it took me a while to realize, but yeah, I was kind of goofy.

[00:07:26]I'm not going to lie. It takes self-awareness to know I was I was goofy. I want to say I watched this Tik Tok a while ago and this seasoned mom, very seasoned mom, I think her kids were already grown up, was saying her advice was do not let your kid be the weird kid. And I didn't take it like she was trying to be offensive. I really felt like what she was trying to say was have your kid involved not just with their siblings because obviously when you have a bunch of kids in the house it's so easy to not plan much else with other kids because they have each other to keep them company and entertained but to have their own friend groups be involved with the parents. Make sure your kid is out there playing sports like not being idle and not being not avoiding social situations even if they want to. And I didn't take it like she was saying, don't let your kid be unique or unapologetically themselves. I really think she was trying to say was have your kid be themselves, be unique in whatever way they choose, but also make sure that they are social and that they have their friendships, hopefully lifelong friendships. Make sure your child has the necessary exposure to help them grow into a well-rounded person that obviously isn't a bully and that can go into social situations with confidence. Some people seem to think that millennials might be overengineering their kids. Maybe they're keeping them inside too much where they're giving them a lot of knowledge and not letting them explore the world enough. And that's on one side of it. But on the other side, some people are saying that the kids aren't even getting a chance to learn anything at all within the household or outside because the parents are not involved enough. So curious on what you think the issue is, if there is an issue here because yes, I know that when I was a kid, I was out until any time of the then now these days. Do we want to leave our kids out late into the night? Who knows what that answer is either? Let me know what you think in the comments below and I'll see you in the next video.