Casually Explained Dating: Is This Actually True? 😂

Added: 2026-05-05

[00:00:01][screaming] [music] [music] >> Do you remember our first date? I mean, we kind of like didn't really technically have a first date. Oh, we did.

[00:00:22]I mean, it depends on what you're counting as a date.

[00:00:25]>> I was dressed to the nines.

[00:00:26]>> [music] >> I know exactly what encounter you're referring to. Uh I was in my Ninja Turtle pajama bottoms and I said, "Yeah, come on come on down. Come on down to my >> it's 4:00 p.m. I'm still [laughter] in my Ninja Turtle jammies. Yes, you did.

[00:00:44]>> When I said when I met Nikki, You were a man.

[00:00:47]>> I did not I currently don't give a [ __ ] Just so everybody's clear on that. Back then, I had I put in some [ __ ] work with you.

[00:00:57]>> You did.

[00:00:58]>> God bless, son.

[00:00:59]>> Yeah, I gave absolutely zero [ __ ] Nikki would come over and try to check on me and I'd be passed out from eating lunch at the Mexican restaurant and drinking several margaritas at the [laughter] same time.

[00:01:12]>> margaritas.

[00:01:13]>> Margaritas.

[00:01:14]No, that was a date that we were supposed to go on [laughter] and I showed up and you were like, "I don't really feel so great. I had a margarita [laughter] for lunch and I don't really feel like doing anything besides sleeping." And I was like, "I [laughter] don't know if this is going to work out."

[00:01:31]>> the way, we're married.

[00:01:33]Um We haven't really told anybody that.

[00:01:35]>> Things have gotten We've told some people that. We're legally married. I have the one ring to rule them all.

[00:01:41]>> I'm not even wearing one.

[00:01:42]>> Yeah, I know. She's ashamed. Um but I'm still proud of it.

[00:01:47]But anyway, with all that being said, um you know, sometimes there can be beautiful disasters.

[00:01:55]Uh and I feel like Casually Explained is about to explain to us first date mistakes, many of which I've probably made many times. So, let's uh let's take a look. Nikki, do you think you're a good first date?

[00:02:11]I can't um like we've been together for like a decade.

[00:02:15]Yeah. And knowing >> [laughter] >> what I do about myself now, like I just don't think so. No.

[00:02:23]>> Hey, now we we made out on the first date. That's not true.

[00:02:27]That's not true.

[00:02:29]We didn't?

[00:02:29]>> No. Second date? It was like second or third. Yeah. All right, so boring first date, but the rest was good. Got it. All right, are you ready? Let's do it.

[00:02:39]>> Yeah. Now, I'm no expert on dating, which is why you can trust I know what I'm talking about. So, whenever it comes to first dates, the obvious question is, "How do I get one?" I'm not a pickup artist, [laughter] I say, hoping you would have thought otherwise. But there's no magic words you can use to convince someone to go on a date with you. And if there was, the closest we have is writing, "You have beautiful eyes." That wins. In the Pornhub comment section.

[00:03:00]>> [laughter] >> In reality, getting a date in this day and age is pretty straightforward.

[00:03:03]Convey that you're an attractive enough person in both looks and personality and the way of your step-parents to go on a cruise.

[00:03:08]>> Oh, no.

[00:03:09]>> Now, obviously most people nowadays are getting first dates as dating apps like Tinder and Bumble. And in my experience, a lot of people feel like they aren't getting what they want. Guys say things like, "I never get any matches. It's a waste of time unless you're like a male model." And then their profile is a blurry photo of them in cargo shorts holding a foot-long Chinook salmon. Now, I hate to break it to you, but if you expect to match with a big story secret model, [clears throat] you're going to have to get up to at least a 3-ft halibut.

[00:03:33]>> [laughter] >> And similarly, a lot of attractive women say things like, "Ah, there's just no good guys on here. It's like, why do I even try?"

[00:03:39]And then their bio is like, "Sophie, 25, love to meet new friends and have fun."

[00:03:44]Winky face.

[00:03:46]And as a guy, when you see someone put like no effort into their bio, you just think, "Yeah, still pretty hot." So, now that we've flashed forward in time and we've got a date, we can start getting to the real issues. Now, there are a lot of questions I found on Reddit from people who've never gone on a date before, and so I wanted to get those out of the way really quickly before we move on. "Where should I go for a first date?" Uh somewhere you'd enjoy going by yourself anyway.

[00:04:11]So, yeah, drinks. Uh "Where should I go if I'm not 21?"

[00:04:15]I don't know, church.

[00:04:16]"Who should pay on a date?" Uh this depends on if you made a YouTube video that month or not.

[00:04:21]Ah. So, yeah, usually her. Uh "Is it bad to have sex on the first date?"

[00:04:26]>> No.

[00:04:26]>> Well, I'm afraid it's 2021, so the question isn't whether you get sex, it's whether you hold hands.

[00:04:31]Uh "Should he tell her your sexual fetishes on the first date?"

[00:04:34]>> Yes. Maybe. Absolutely.

[00:04:37]>> Maybe. Okay, so let's get down to the biggest first date mistakes. Making the fact that you're on a date ambiguous. Uh one of the most common feels bad man scenarios is going on a date with someone to somewhere fairly platonic like a cafe and halfway through your coffee, they start talking about their boyfriend and you're like, "Oh, no. Hey, I don't know what you thought this was and I probably didn't communicate this properly, but like I'm down to experiment, dude." Uh leading with [laughter] money. A lot of guys think that girls like men with a lot of money. This is false. Uh girls like cool men with a lot of money.

[00:05:09]>> Ah, interesting.

[00:05:10]>> she's not going to be impressed that you bought GameStop and AMC at the top, even though your shirt's going to squeeze anytime now.

[00:05:16]Slow texting. Uh a lot of new daters feel they have to artificially stagger their texting to seem busier or unavailable. This is stupid because you are available. Instead, you should artificially stagger your texting because you're overthinking every word of your response. Yeah. Bragging.

[00:05:30]Bragging is probably one of the worst things you can do on a date because you convey to the other person that you're insecure about your social value unless you leverage your one unrelated source of measurable significance. [laughter] >> There you go.

[00:05:40]>> Uh worrying about what to say. Most people get really nervous on dates, filter themselves too much, and awkwardly run out of things to say. The common advice [laughter] that you'll find is that it's not what you say that matters, it's how you say it, which is mostly true. But that's like saying, "Don't be nervous and just be cool, you idiot." If you actually want a solution to being so nervous, in my experience, it's A, it's fine not to say anything, and B, have a storyline. Uh if you know the topics and stories you really want to share, then you can just completely improvise. If this first section is your trip to Coco Bongo in Cancun, it might be a 5-minute story, but the conversation will inevitably splinter into her trip to Mexico, clubbing, regrettable experiences, and getting kidnapped by the cartel. Then when those topics run out of things to say, >> anyway, and go back to the main storyline.

[00:06:21]>> business. If you then run out of storyline entirely and the date gets really awkward, just grab your emergency kit, roofie yourself, and wake up the next day embarrassment [laughter] free.

[00:06:30]Well, >> Doing something that doesn't match your personality. If you're chatty and personable, go for drinks. If you're more subdued and aren't good at talking, do an activity like hiking or pool or board games and allow her to absorb your personality by destroying her bullet chess. Play to your strengths and your lifestyle. If you're an attractive guy, use Tinder. If you're really charismatic, get yourself into more social circles.

[00:06:48]If you're neither, like honestly, cheers.

[00:06:52]Oh, god.

[00:06:53]Do you feel like you gained any insight from that? Nope, except for the roofie thing. That actually >> I just >> might work.

[00:07:01]>> I feel like that was the most pro move that I've ever heard anybody say. Like it would be not if I was [ __ ] up the date, but if it was just a terrible date, that was actually one of my moves. One of my moves was just to get belligerently drunk. Yeah, Chad. And then it would be the end of the date because the person could not stand to be around me. And next thing you know, I'm in a metropolitan area with my shirt off running full speed down the street.

[00:07:27]>> That's terrible.

[00:07:28]>> I only did it like five times.

[00:07:30]>> Jesus.

[00:07:31]>> [laughter] >> How did I get so lucky? I don't know.

[00:07:35]I'm I'm more tame now.

[00:07:38]Um but no, that that was a horrible advice on almost every single level that I can think of, but it was very entertaining.

[00:07:46]>> I feel like you know a decent amount about this [ __ ] and I don't. Like I I just the whole like feeling so awkward that you roofie yourself. Like honestly, >> That's kind of, you know, the plan.

[00:07:59]Yeah.

[00:07:59]>> [music] >> Yeah. But uh very interesting. I always like Casually Explained. I think that that For some reason, I relate to those videos because the animation style seems like something maybe I'm capable of as an artist because I can't draw a circle.

[00:08:15]A circle is a struggle for me when it comes to art. Like I can't >> Like you are very gifted [music] um with writing. We're >> [laughter] >> with writing lyrics and poems and you know, One, two, buckle my shoe. [music] >> There you go. But um yeah, you can't draw for [ __ ] >> No, I can't draw for [ __ ] but I do think that that this guy's very, very funny. Nikki, out of context, the roofie thing might work.

[00:08:44]He didn't mention taking anybody to the movies. Yeah.

[00:08:47]>> Which I did kind of I feel like technology and the progression of things >> [music] >> have skewed things so much. So, like the Netflix and chill thing is even like kind of out of fashion and kind of outdated. But it like things things move so quickly now. It's like going to the movies was a dating staple from like >> Yeah. the '50s until 10 years ago. Maybe longer. Maybe a little bit longer, like 2019.

[00:09:18]>> [music] >> So, it's >> I'll guess something shorter.

[00:09:20]Oh, I don't know. But now it's like, what do you do? What are the third places to go on dates? There's so >> Well, there are so few third places in general. So, if you don't drink or you're too young to drink >> young and you can't take the girl to the bowling alley cuz she [ __ ] hates bowling.

[00:09:37]>> dude. [ __ ] like Fred Flintstone would be not cool with you. I hate bowling. Um yeah, I don't know. I think that there are multiple challenges for young people dating and I think navigating like dating apps I just couldn't [ __ ] I don't >> I I think that there's a way to hold people to be honest at all. And so that makes the dating app thing difficult because it's like are you just trying to hook up? Yeah.

[00:10:05]>> Are you just trying to find a relationship? And sometimes people don't even know I'm so sorry.

[00:10:11]>> trying to hook up or whether they're trying to have a relationship.

[00:10:14]>> I think people are pretty honest about that. It's like they're probably not I think that you just think that. Nobody with a high can balls Okay. Yeah, I'm following.

[00:10:25]is honest about that on a dating app. I can promise you. I will bet you that there are serial manipulators out there that go on those dating sites that cost money where you have to put that you're searching for your soulmate and you're actually trying like match.com >> trying to >> And they're still treating it like Tinder. They pay the money, they get matched, and they go out there and they clap cheeks, and they leave. I would almost guarantee it.

[00:10:54]>> it would be like a bit of a challenge.

[00:10:56]>> It or they feel like I would imagine it would seem like an easier deal to them. Oh, okay. Okay.

[00:11:04]>> Because these women are actually seeking that. So they're more more vulnerable. Well, we've watched that one documentary of the guy who would go around extorting these women from that dating app thing and had all of these lifelong relationships with these ladies and it was all fake and he was really just getting money from them and [ __ ] The doctor guy? I can't remember exactly who it was.

[00:11:26]>> one where it was [clears throat] like that and he pretended to be a very very rich doctor and he was not either of those things.

[00:11:35]>> Was The only thing special about him is he was out there getting it.

[00:11:39]That's it. Yeah.

[00:11:40]>> [laughter] >> So yeah, first date uh probably uh would be a shitty situation to be trying to get into right now.

[00:11:49]Thank God for you. I'm very glad that we met and that you even my Ninja Turtle pajamas you still took me.

[00:11:56]You love your Ninja >> You picked me.

[00:12:01]Diamond in the rough. There you go.

[00:12:03][music] All right. Thanks, guys. Hopefully this was enjoyable for you to watch.

[00:12:09]If not, I completely understand.

[00:12:11]Hopefully we'll see you next time.

[00:12:13]>> Bye. Bye.